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today show really sorry about the topic then i

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encounter often it's

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something that i think effects creative

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prose just in their everyday

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interactions collaboration end

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their new career navigation

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often but it's especially

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something that affects any of us who

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have to lead in any capacity

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and leadership by the way doesn't mean you have a position

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of leadership in your organization it can

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mean that you have to leave clients or

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that you have to lead your peers maybe you're leading

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a project maybe it'll have

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position of leadership or them in the

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organization

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but you still have to be able to influence them and

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leave them on the path

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to complete the project and it's

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a dynamic that i think often

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we don't when i even aware of were not aware of

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how it's affecting us until

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it becomes known to us until

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it becomes obvious and then we see it playing on everywhere

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and it's the tension

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prose

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is while people on teams was we all bleed

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right we all have to lead in some capacity weather's

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leading a conversation with a client leading appear

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and a collaborative engagement whatever it is we have

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to lead in some capacity so

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this applies to anyone regardless of your organizational

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position or you craving

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perception over progress with you they're

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how people perceive you as a kind of person they want to

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work with the actually

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be the kind of person that is making progress

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in pushing the team

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forward

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so in his former professional life

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for my gym friedman was an emmy award

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winning tv producer in a writer by

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a disease he's in the claim professor in the

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instituted entrepreneurship at my alma mater

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miami university and oxford ohio

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and he believes that was the biggest mistakes

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that leaders make is trying to be

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like

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however he told me it's not my job

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to be like this my job to help them do

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their best work is socket by the students

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in this case in reality friedman

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is a massively popular professor ah

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but one of the reasons that he sometimes

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over here student speaking about him unfavorably

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or is the target of frustration during office

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hours is his willingness to speak the plain

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truth is directness sometimes

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feels abrasive the students even when it's

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exact thing that they need in order to grow

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and strategies work well for him because he was recently

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voted miami university professor of the year

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a so you to not only is he

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affected him what he's doing and and not only

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that direct truth helping students be

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better than they thought they could be

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and in preparing them for the marketplace but

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in the end they they realize they recognize

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that this direct truth is actually very helpful

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to them even though they don't like it in the moment because

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it make them feel good now some professors

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might take a different tack they might want to be liked

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by their students in alter the figure out a way to present

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truth of the way this is easier to receive

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a maybe isn't as precise or

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helpful in the

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end and so how

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do you how do you balance

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the desire to be late with

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the desire to be effective

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especially if you're collaborating with other people

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have your leading clients okay so when they give you a couple

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of ways to unplug from your

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approval addiction and all of this by the way from my

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new book hurting tigers beetle you the crew

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people need the first thing

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i want to advise you to do is to speak the truth

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with empathy and both those are rate

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you have to speak the truth bf to speak the truth

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with empathy you can be a

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truth teller and do it in a way that others

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are likely to receive it as well

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whenever you have to deliver difficult truth the

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someone consider the context consider

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the timing and consider how the other person is

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likely to positively receive your

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words to don't hack it on at the

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end of a meeting or when you're about the rush out the door

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to another commitments were

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in your work in life are you shying

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away from speaking truth because you prefer

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to be late races

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speaking the truth with empathy means i

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understand going and doing

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this not shooting from the hip and sing going and

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i'm gonna have to deliver some difficult truths

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to someone to consider the context

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is this the right context to speak this truth

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to this person number two is this the right

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timing to speak this true

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so again at the end of a meetings you're walking

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out the door is not the right time to drop a bomb

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on someone not a good idea you

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have to prepare the enzyme as you can

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speak direct truth but you can do

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it in a way the others are more likely to receive as you

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think about what's the context what's the timing

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is this yet another in

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a series of things that had to deliver

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to this person is that they're uncomfortable to them

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is yours yet another ah

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uncomfortable truth i'm speaking to them

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this week or is this a good

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time to do it because you're seems

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like there's a surplus of relational

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trust right now so

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think about the context thing about the timing and

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think about how the other person is most likely

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to positively receive your words before

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you deliver the truth the but

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then deliver the truth precisely

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this as and make sure you're speaking

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directly to them look at number two when

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this is a this is a big when the special and seems refuse

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to throw a team member under the bus

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so when other people

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are gossiping about a co worker or assigning

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blame for something it's tempting to jump into the conversation

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in order to feel included and be light

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however each time you engage in one of these conversations

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you are creating a little breach in

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trust your team members never

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know when they might be the subject of your ridicule

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never throw someone under the bus even

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if it's deserved and it often is

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deserves quite frankly are the situations

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in which you know these conversations are likely to happen

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and how can you avoid them wasn't don't hang

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out in places where these kinds of conversations

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are likely to happen and refused to engage

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someone elses is gossiping about

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a coworker of somebody else is talking trash rosalind

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refused to engage in that because you're only

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creating little breaches of trust not just with the

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person that's a subject to the conversation but

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with everyone else around the table because

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they never know when you're going to turn

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on them as well refused to engage

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in conversations and cats and

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number three maintain

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your ads maintain

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your edge over time it's easy to allow

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organizational life to soften your point

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of view you may adopt a milder

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demeanor just so that you fit in better

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very said you can be better legs but in so doing

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you lose your strong competitive

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and creed advantage don't

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feel the need to alter your perspective of

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a desire to play organizational politics

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or in order to be liked the ads

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that people scoff at now is by

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the way the very thing they're going to celebrate later

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the thing that people dislike about you because

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it rubs in the wrong way that's the thing they're going

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to be pointing to and celebrating leader

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the opinions you hold a few other people do

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and the quirky but incisive insights that

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you bring to the table are likely to be you're

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calling card in years to

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com that's the stuff of

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great leadership it's the edges it's

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the rough edges that defined youth the

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rough edges the things that rub people wrong

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now are the things that people are going to celebrate

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leader

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so where are you compromising your perspective

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and softening your edge in order

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to be late are you doing that

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in any when i'm not talking about obviously

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rude and antisocial behavior

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that's not what i mean i'm talking about those quirks

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those unique perceptions does

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unique personality traits that make you

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you are are you trying to soften

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those things in order to sit in

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so when you are summarized the decision or a crossroads

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with a project ask am i doing

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this to be liked or am i doing

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this to be effective this

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is one of the most difficult traps to avoid

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and is why leadership is often described

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as being lonely remember that you

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can be both liked and

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effective but you can't chase both

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at the same time of see that against you can

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be liked an effective at the same time

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but you can't see both at

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the same time when you were genuinely

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leading your team your collaborators in your peers

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from a place of embassy of carrying deeply about

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their ambitions their growth they

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will begin to sense that even your most direct

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and painful feedback is in

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their interest when you build that well of trust

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their wrote about in hurting tigers he built a well

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of trust with your team when they

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see the you're making consistent decisions

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in accordance with some kind of set of principles

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then they'll understand that direct and painful

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feedback is in their best interests are doing

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it because you care about them and you care about the direction

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of the teams you about the work however

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when you softened your feedback in order to be like

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you are serving neither yourself nor

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your team and by the way in the end

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the work will suffer to to

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make peace with the fact that when you step into

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leadership you forfeit you're right to a

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fair trial loses one the most difficult

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things for people to accept about leadership

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and especially that the marketplace today race there

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is no such thing as a fair trial typically

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you will have access to more information than

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the people you lead and thus you have great a perspective

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on why certain decisions are being made people

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will understand and you won't be able to explain

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so if you're driven by a need to be liked

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the you'll spend every waking hour plane

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whack a mole with the unfair assumptions

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of others so i encourage you this

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week regardless of your role regardless

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of what you do regardless of your situation who you

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collaborate with who you lead whatever

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it is i encourage you to ask

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am i making this decision to be like

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or am i making this decision to be

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a stack and you can have both

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at the same time but you can't chase

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both the same time

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i hope people these insights hope for again

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