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That intro kills me . I think I need

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to change it . Welcome back everyone

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. It is the Danny Dot Podcast . I am your

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host , danny , coming to you from

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the well beautifully

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warm Cromwell , central

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Otago region of the South Island of New

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Zealand , for all those new worldwide

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people that are joining me . Hey

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, guess what ? I

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bumped into a very

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cool person who Kiwis

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may know and love , but

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the wonderful Dominic Harvey

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from the Edge radio station

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, circa like 20 plus years ago

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Basically . I'll

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give you a bit of a rundown on this whole situation

0:59

. It was very cool . I

1:01

was in Queenstown doing a bit of Melbourne

1:03

Cup dress shopping with Mum and we were in

1:05

Dottie of all stores . Oh my gosh

1:07

, dottie is crazy . It's like one

1:09

day the clothing is full price

1:12

, the next day it's 70% off . I can't keep up . Anyway

1:15

, I was running back and forth

1:17

to the changing room chucking Susan clothing

1:19

. Dottie is all having this panic attack

1:21

because she wants to wear a dress

1:23

, but she doesn't want to wear a fastenet or a hat

1:25

, but no hat suit the dresses . Oh

1:27

my God , it's the whole thing . And as I'm running

1:29

out of the changing room , dominic walked into

1:32

Dottie on the phone and I just stood there and I was like

1:34

oh my God . And

1:38

this little excited school girl

1:40

in me just thought , oh my God , I literally

1:43

had listened to him since intermediate

1:46

high school days and

1:48

I just I wanted to drop the outfits on the

1:50

floor and just chase after him . So , funnily

1:53

enough , I think he was lost because he turned around and he

1:55

walked back out again and I was like shit . But

1:59

I knew in my heart that I was like I'm

2:01

going to try and find him and have a word , because he's

2:03

such an inspiration For

2:05

those of you that don't know , dominic Harvey

2:07

was on a very cool

2:09

radio station , the Edge , back

2:11

, as they say , 20 plus years

2:14

ago and he was the morning show host

2:16

. And this is back

2:18

when they did this segment called Two

2:21

Strangers in a Wedding . I think it was like way

2:23

before married at first sight , where they hitched up

2:25

two randoms over the phone . Oh

2:27

yeah , well it was . That was over radio , they

2:29

hadn't seen each other and they got them married

2:31

. But this is back when JJ , mike and

2:33

Dom was the morning madhouse and

2:37

I think it kind of , like you know , set

2:39

the tone for radio in New Zealand . It was fun

2:41

, it was like harder , but like I mean I've

2:44

always been a massive supporter of radio

2:46

. I've never been on radio because

2:48

, quite frankly , I need to be censored . But

2:52

I don't know . I don't know if you

2:54

guys know this , but I'm completely

2:57

off topic because it's 91 ZM . It's

2:59

another radio station , but when I was

3:01

16 years old I won my height in CDs

3:03

because it was part of the Guinness Book of Records

3:05

for Christchurch . But

3:08

I've always been pretty , you know , on the

3:10

dial and it comes to winning competitions

3:12

through radio stations and this , that and the other . But

3:14

I'd never come across Dominic Harvey . And so

3:17

when we left Lottie , we were just walking

3:19

around and I said to mum , dom Harvey is

3:21

in Queenstown , he's just randomly walking

3:24

around . And so we were popping

3:26

around a few other shops and we were walking

3:28

up Shot Evers Street and I was like damn it , he wouldn't

3:30

have come this far , like we weren't looking

3:32

for him . We were just aware

3:35

that he was around , I suppose , and

3:37

I said to mum God , that's annoying , because he would

3:39

have been so fun to talk to . Oh my gosh

3:41

, randomly he overtook us on Shot

3:43

Evers Street , walking up . I mean , that street's

3:46

on a hell of its own , is it ? I

3:48

feel like it's on an incline and

3:50

he just walked past and I mean , oh my

3:52

God , like in

3:54

a cool , calm and collected kind of a way , and

3:57

I was like mum , that's Dominic Harvey Like

4:00

knowing full well that if he didn't hear

4:02

that he wasn't going to stop and turn around . And he just

4:04

stopped and it was everything

4:07

and anything I'd ever imagined

4:09

, because I feel like the interaction

4:11

happened in slow motion . It

4:13

was wild . Not

4:15

only was he super , like I

4:18

don't know , his conversations are

4:20

so put together you know that he's been

4:22

on radio or he does a podcast because

4:24

he's very structured but he asked

4:26

me my name , he asked me mum's name . Then he was

4:28

like oh , my mum's name . So as well . With

4:31

this really great , like I don't know very casual

4:33

yarn , I feel like when

4:35

I come across somewhat famous people

4:37

and Dominic Harvey is very famous

4:39

in my eyes as a Kiwi I

4:42

always never really falter

4:44

. When it comes to speaking to someone that's famous

4:46

, it just comes out like verbal diarrhea and

4:48

it's always just not

4:50

overly like weirdly

4:53

excited , but more just cool

4:55

, calm and collected . So

4:57

I said to him hey , I just wanted

4:59

to have a quick word with you and just let you know that

5:01

you leaving radio , we know

5:03

, as New Zealand was a very emotional

5:06

thing . I actually was driving to work in Christchurch

5:08

that day . I was going to the offices

5:11

that I worked for and I was crying

5:13

like it was so emotional and I was

5:15

like why is this consuming me so much

5:18

? But I said to him I know that when you

5:20

left , you know there was this gap here

5:22

that he was just kind of like doing

5:24

his own thing , getting his affairs

5:26

in order to have fun . And you know what was the next

5:28

career steps ? And he fell into doing

5:30

podcasting . And I just

5:32

randomly said to him it

5:35

was , you know , one of those things that because

5:37

he did it , watching

5:39

how he does podcasting and having

5:42

my own way about it , I

5:44

don't know resonated with me . So I said

5:46

to him , you know , he gave me the confidence

5:48

to do it myself . And he

5:50

was like , oh , so you have your

5:52

own pod . And I actually accidentally

5:54

said I had 26 episodes being , quite frankly

5:56

, this is my 24th , but I got excited . But

6:00

I just said to him , you know I

6:02

had this whole mindset of like , if not

6:04

now , when , and he sort of

6:06

lit up . He was just like oh

6:09

, but it's one of those things

6:11

where he's super famous in New Zealand

6:13

eyes and I obviously

6:15

follow him . His podcasts are super

6:17

intriguing , like he interviews really

6:19

great celebrities , he deep dives

6:21

into topics that Kiwis don't necessarily want

6:24

to talk about , but how he gets it across

6:26

is like I mean , I would aspire

6:28

to be on his level

6:30

once . I , you know , really

6:32

get into this podcasting thing . But

6:34

I said to him well , you know , how are you doing post the

6:37

Sydney marathon ? Because he's just run that . And

6:39

he looked at me and mum was like it's

6:42

weird how you just sort of like know what the shit

6:44

about me ? And I was like I am

6:47

very aware of what's going around me because

6:49

I want to . You know , I do

6:51

have that opportunity to meet someone . I want to not

6:53

just be like was she , was she ? And

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he looked at me and he was like , oh , you know , I'm a bit sore

6:58

, it's been a week . And I just did

7:00

five Ks around Queensland Gardens and

7:02

I just stood there and I was like yep , that's Dominic

7:04

. But

7:06

I sort of further said

7:08

to him I had my own pod and it was sort

7:10

of one of these things that we're just getting it off

7:12

the ground . It's not , you know , wildly

7:15

popular in New Zealand at the moment . But

7:18

he took my details with the Denny dot pod and he

7:20

was like , oh , give you a five star rating . And

7:23

I just cracked up because I haven't even

7:25

told you guys that you could rate the pod . It

7:27

was just so funny . I was like , how do you

7:29

do that ? Like I didn't even know . And

7:31

so I went into my Spotify and I had a wee look

7:33

and I was like , oh my God , people have been rating

7:36

me five stars , like this is so crazy

7:38

. But yeah , it's one

7:40

of those things where I walked away from

7:42

it and I just I was so

7:44

proud of myself for not only having

7:47

this conversation with him and being super

7:49

relatable we had this really genuine

7:51

conversation but to be proud of myself

7:54

and be like you know what , this

7:56

year , on its own merits , has been super difficult

7:58

for so many reasons that there's been more

8:00

cons and bloody pros and

8:02

I have kept going with this thing . And

8:05

it's one of those like I don't know

8:07

where it's going to go , but I don't care . At the end

8:09

of the day , I am so

8:11

proud 24 episodes in a year and

8:14

it's just growing , this community and

8:16

there's been such great advice and discussion

8:19

that it even blows my mind and

8:21

I can only imagine what he goes through . Because he

8:23

hit a million listeners like I don't know , six

8:26

weeks a month ago and I said to him you know

8:28

, that's super achievable

8:30

Congratulations . And

8:32

he was just like , oh , you know , it's a bit of a slog

8:34

. I'm like , yeah , I know

8:36

, because you don't have that

8:38

engagement where you can , just , you know , message

8:41

someone who listened . You have to wait for the

8:43

listeners to message you to respond

8:45

because we can't see who's listening

8:47

to it . It's just going to be one of those things that you

8:49

could be silent and I don't care . You could not

8:51

engage , I don't mind . However

8:54

, if you do listen and you want to reach out

8:56

and just you know , give me a bit of feedback or tell

8:58

me what you do and don't like . It was kind

9:00

of a bit of a sliding doors

9:02

moment , because as we were leaving , dotty

9:04

on the hunt for Dom which

9:06

I wasn't actively searching

9:08

for him that sounds weird my

9:11

cousin's husband , who is like

9:14

the quietest , most beautiful

9:16

soul , he messaged me and he said , hey

9:19

, we've started listening to your pod . I

9:21

just want to say that I listened to your most recent one

9:23

to do with Australia , but I'm going back to the start and

9:26

I was like , oh my God . I was basically

9:29

in tears telling mom . I said this is crazy

9:31

. Not only has her husband just you know

9:33

sent this beautiful message . I'm about

9:35

to embark on a bit of a hunt around Queenstown

9:38

to find Dominic Harvey , and

9:40

when I did it was everything and more . So

9:42

just goes to show like

9:44

, even though you know

9:47

so many things are so undecided

9:49

these days , we don't know what we're doing . I

9:52

just think if you keep putting one foot in front of the other

9:54

and you just keep on doing what's passionate

9:56

to you and you feel really , I

9:58

don't know , like

10:00

it's something that you have to keep

10:02

on with , bloody well , do it

10:04

. Because at the end of the day I could have piked

10:06

out on this on Pod 5th Day and been like , no , that's

10:09

not for me , but for

10:11

me , this podcasting

10:13

thing 100% is my

10:16

jam , it's my favourite thing . I get so

10:18

excited . And even Mum said

10:20

the other day you've started talking differently

10:22

, where you're removing the ums and your

10:24

sentences are very structured , but not

10:27

just a short one line sentence

10:29

. You're elaborating more and I know that

10:31

I'm doing that because I know that people are quite

10:33

international and they might not understand what I'm talking about

10:35

. But it was super

10:37

embarrassing and this is why I'm sort of

10:39

moving into this . I think I might need

10:41

to rebrand my pod , because explaining

10:45

to Dom what my name , danny Dot

10:47

, was and where it came from Mum

10:49

was like I can't believe . You just mentioned your arse

10:52

to Dominic Harvey , like why

10:54

is it called Danny Dot ? Oh , you know , because I

10:56

get drunk and I , like I don't know , refer to my

10:58

arse as a dot . Yeah , cool , don't say that

11:00

again . So we

11:02

are definitely re re-evaluating

11:05

this . I actually had had thought

11:07

about this at Pod 20 , if I should

11:09

rebrand because I don't feel like Danny Dot

11:11

is , you know , something to do with me

11:13

anymore . The name's gone , it's

11:15

been in gone , but

11:17

also the pod hasn't got a theme . So I'm finding

11:19

it really difficult because when someone asks

11:22

, I'm like oh , I don't even know what to say about

11:24

it , and even back in the day

11:26

, when I thought this pod would be about crumb

11:28

or life , it's been everything

11:31

but crumb or life , if

11:34

anything . I haven't really even explored that

11:36

because , quite frankly , there are

11:38

other topics to talk about that you guys put

11:40

in my head and I

11:43

don't know . Let me know what you think . Should

11:45

I keep it as Danny Dot or should I rebrand and

11:47

just like go with something else that's a little

11:49

bit more able to

11:51

be explained ? I don't know

11:53

, it's weird . Anyway , this

11:55

is my low maintenance baddie

11:58

. Date yourself summer pod . I

12:01

feel I need to like get this off

12:03

my chest . It's definitely

12:05

one of those . I love doing pods that

12:07

have half of it on a topic and half of it

12:09

on my life , admin , because you still like to

12:11

hear about my life at the moment . So

12:15

you know , when we think about maintenance

12:17

, I just sort of wanted to elaborate on that word

12:19

and in

12:21

saying that it's so broad

12:24

. So I dissected the word maintenance

12:26

into what's that one

12:28

, two , three , four , five , six , six

12:30

different components that we could maintain

12:33

in our lives , and I dumped

12:35

it down and made it super simple , because

12:37

in every sort of

12:40

like life aspect we

12:42

can't just look at it as a whole and sometimes

12:44

it's super easy just to focus on

12:46

something that you know you could make singular

12:49

and then you could deep dive on that and get

12:51

it under control and then you move on to the next one . So

12:55

, being a low maintenance person

12:57

, I would probably say that I

12:59

have been that my whole twenties

13:02

. There's definitely

13:04

been people I've come across that are very high

13:06

maintenance in their life , whether it be

13:08

their physical appearance , their relationships

13:11

, their jobs , all

13:13

those types of things . I probably am at

13:15

the other end of the spectrum . I do

13:17

everything well enough

13:20

for you to believe that

13:22

it was done with a lot of like , care

13:25

, attention , money , and it hasn't

13:27

been so . It's one of those really

13:29

wild topics where , yeah

13:32

, I am definitely giving myself away and saying , hey

13:34

look , I don't actually spend a lot of time on myself , but

13:36

I'm pretty sure you could probably tell . So

13:40

if we start with the top one , I

13:43

feel top of the pyramid would be life in

13:45

general , your life maintenance and being

13:47

low maintenance in this life sector

13:49

. It's basically breaking down the

13:51

basic things that one needs to do to keep

13:53

life flowing . So when

13:56

you think about what are all the components

13:58

that go into how to make your life flow

14:00

really chill and no

14:02

maintenance , it's probably just I

14:05

mean , is it one of those things that we're supposed to

14:07

step back in January and get ourselves

14:10

organized for the 12 months of the year

14:12

and keep life

14:14

flowing in that sort of aspect

14:16

? Or is it something we look at monthly

14:18

and we just make sure that we're on top

14:20

of everything , whether it be bills

14:22

, maintenance for your house

14:25

, chasing the glass ceiling

14:27

in your job , all those types

14:29

of things . So it's

14:31

so broad , it's ridiculous . The

14:34

next one , which is probably like a really big

14:36

one for myself , is the physical maintenance

14:38

. And let me tell you , when

14:41

I left Queenstown in 2016

14:44

, I think it was and I moved to Sydney , I

14:46

did not fathom

14:49

how much my physical maintenance

14:52

was not up to par , and

14:54

not in a disgusting unhygienic kind

14:56

of way , but just how much people

14:58

in cities look after themselves and

15:00

I say this to all my friends that are all spread

15:02

out around the world in different places that have major

15:05

city centers get amongst

15:07

it and gulf yourself in

15:09

all the weird shit that comes with like

15:11

physical appearance , like not on a weird

15:14

over the top kind of way , because I don't want to see you coming

15:16

back to New Zealand with like weird scary eyebrows

15:18

or whatever but

15:21

the stuff that comes with your physical

15:23

appearance whether it's hygiene , nutrition

15:26

, physical activity , your sleep

15:28

or your doctor's checkups these

15:31

are all things that you can keep on a maintenance

15:33

level that means that you're on top

15:36

of it , but it's so low

15:38

maintenance that it's just naturally beautiful

15:40

. And when I say that , like I am

15:42

really big on nutrition . I take all my

15:44

vitamins and supplements every single day

15:46

and I probably try

15:49

most days to have color on my dinner

15:51

plate . When I say that Naughty really looks

15:53

like fried beige color , there

15:55

is sometimes a salad in there . My

15:57

physical activity I do smash

16:00

that out in the morning so that it's a low maintenance

16:02

, I don't have to stress about it during the day . My

16:05

sleep I always try and make sure I

16:07

get upwards of eight hours

16:09

, although

16:12

daylight savings yesterday ruined me . But

16:15

sleep is a really big one and we've been over that many

16:17

a times and how you can assist in that and

16:21

I am hopeless . I will honestly

16:23

say this is my biggest downfall is

16:25

the doctor checkups . I will

16:27

dig my feet into the ground . I'm not doing

16:29

it . I want to go to the doctor . To

16:32

me in New Zealand it's a $50 charge

16:34

down here in Cromwell for something that I just

16:37

think is a waste of time , because

16:39

, unless you actually are suffering and you might

16:41

need a medical certificate or for whatever

16:43

reason , having a checkup is just

16:46

something we don't do . However

16:48

, I mean , have you let the dentist checkups

16:50

go ? Are the dentists more aligned with

16:52

the doctor that you just don't have these

16:54

checkups ? If you had

16:56

it and you were on top of it and they saw

16:58

something that needed to be addressed quite quickly

17:01

. Good on you . That's being like

17:03

super low maintenance and making

17:05

sure that your health is a primary thing

17:07

. High

17:09

maintenance people go in and have those four

17:11

body checkups bloody six monthly

17:13

, do all the things you

17:16

know , but that's just not me . My

17:18

next sort of part of the triangle is

17:20

the work maintenance . Obviously

17:23

, that is where it comes into being something

17:27

you discuss with your manager for , like a pay

17:29

rise or pursuing the glass ceiling

17:31

and actually you know deep diving and

17:33

getting to where you want to be through your career

17:35

, but not being one

17:38

of those people in the workplace that you can tell

17:40

is striving to get there but also

17:42

extremely in

17:45

your face about it . I mean , I've definitely come

17:47

across them and I know in my own insurance

17:50

side of work there has definitely

17:52

been office politics on who should

17:54

be that next level of communication

17:58

if you need help with the problem . And

18:00

there's all these people that vie for you the

18:02

manager's role and you just think , oh

18:04

my gosh , that person never got the manager's job

18:07

. It would kick me ass because I don't want to work with that

18:09

person in that sort of space . But

18:12

pursuing the glass ceiling is something I definitely

18:14

encourage and I definitely just want everyone

18:17

to not settle . I

18:20

probably have . I don't really think I've

18:22

told the pod actually , but in my job at the

18:24

moment with the company that I'm with , I

18:26

think I've changed roles five times , maybe

18:29

even six , and I've definitely come

18:31

back to a couple of roles twice and

18:35

that's just not be like . It's

18:37

definitely not me going about it in a terrible

18:39

way and being like , oh you know , I deserve this

18:41

role , I just want to be more . You

18:45

know , I want to earn more money or anything For

18:47

me . I get bored quite easily and

18:50

, quite frankly , this is my seventh year in insurance

18:52

and I've definitely been around the block with it , so

18:54

I know what

18:56

the glass ceiling is for myself and I've actually

18:59

even told my boss's boss that I'm coming for a job

19:01

. But no , she's lovely . I

19:04

just have that forecasted in my brain that

19:06

that sort of a role is

19:08

something I would want to do , but not my

19:10

boss's job , because , no , no , not

19:12

that . But also

19:14

, you know , staying in your boss's good books is always

19:17

a big thing when it comes to maintenance . You

19:19

want to have that rapport and that relationship

19:21

but on a you know , with

19:23

me and my boss , no news is good

19:25

news . If I don't hear from her , I know everything's

19:28

all sweet . I'm so low maintenance as a

19:30

consultant , it's ridiculous . However , when

19:32

I do hear from her , it could be a 40 minute conversation

19:34

. We could be talking about anything like

19:36

what are kids are up to . It's not

19:38

even work related , but staying

19:41

in your , in your boss's good books for those

19:43

like shoulder tap moments when you're in your job

19:45

and you could be considered for other jobs in the

19:47

glass ceiling and going , you know , upwards through

19:49

pay rises and everything else . You

19:53

want to be a low maintenance person

19:55

in whatever role , and I mean

19:57

I Settled in

19:59

the Vodafone job in Queenstown

20:02

for many , many years . I

20:04

was like I don't care , I don't want to be , till I

20:06

say I don't want to be a store manager , I just want

20:08

to settle because at the time

20:10

we were getting so many perks networking

20:13

the community for like phones and stuff . It was

20:15

a challenge . It was a bloody good challenge

20:17

and we had so much fun doing it . But

20:19

it wasn't until I got to Sydney and I was

20:21

doing telecommunications for Optus

20:24

that I realized I

20:26

Was in Sydney working in the

20:28

Lake City Center flagship

20:31

store , which used to be

20:33

a bank , which had a safe vault

20:35

full of phones at any one

20:37

time which needed

20:39

like a combination code to bloody well get into the

20:41

thing . Look at me giving way secrets

20:44

. But when I got to that role

20:46

and I was actually the assistant manager for that

20:48

store I knew that I was like

20:50

that's where I should be and I didn't have

20:52

to fight for it . It was just something I

20:54

was considered for and I thought you know what my character

20:57

comes with being a low maintenance person

20:59

who's super friendly

21:01

people can approach me . There

21:04

was a couple of times when I was like I don't want

21:06

to deal with that customer , I'm going out the back door . But that's

21:08

not the point when

21:10

you are an assistant manager and you have to be front-facing

21:13

in retail or I pray

21:15

for those that are in that role right now . When

21:19

it comes to your home , being low maintenance

21:21

, I think , seasonally rotating

21:24

things and making sure that your seasons

21:26

from like the winter clothes to

21:28

summer clothes , you know something we

21:30

keep on top of . Yesterday , me

21:32

and mum got rid of two black

21:34

bags full of clothing and this made

21:37

me so happy because I I

21:39

obviously Clothing

21:42

is one of those things that's disposable . Like

21:44

you know , fashion is disposable . I

21:47

have hung onto things from my , like

21:49

, high school years or even

21:51

Brisbane life where that climate you

21:54

can't wear here but also

21:56

it's . It's one of those things where

21:58

the fashion in Australia to wear that

22:00

is that's what it is , but in

22:02

Cromwell you don't wear that . We

22:06

threw out this bag of tiny , tiny little

22:08

singlet tops and you know crop

22:10

tops because , honey , I ain't winning the poo and I

22:12

can't wear a crop top too . So they went in

22:14

the recycling rubbish bag

22:17

thing . But also , a Clean

22:20

home is a happy home and if you start with

22:22

doing things that make things really

22:24

easy to keep on top of , you become very

22:26

low maintenance and keeping I

22:28

don't know a happy home . And that's

22:30

just something that me and mum we work

22:33

together on . She works really hard

22:35

Monday to Friday I work , but I work

22:37

from home , so on my breaks and things I

22:39

can potter around and do different things that

22:41

help maintain the home . But it

22:43

gets to the weekend and I always have

22:45

said once that weekend rolls around , now

22:47

I'm not getting up to do like

22:49

any sort of chores or anything that's for relaxing

22:52

and doing like extracurricular activities

22:54

that are far more exciting than you

22:56

know . I don't know , what are you like

22:59

? I

23:02

was just thinking about something . I'm blocking the shower

23:04

plughole . That's

23:07

not a thing , is it ? But

23:09

yeah , those are the Monday to Friday jobs to

23:11

help keep a low maintenance , healthy

23:13

, happy home . I'm sure

23:15

that if you deep dive on tiktok about , you know

23:17

, keeping a maintenance Free

23:20

house you'd see a lot of cleaning

23:22

hacks or whatever . So I'm not going to go into that because

23:24

it should come part and part . If

23:26

you do it right at the start , you you can maintain

23:29

it . Friendship

23:31

maintenance , however , that's , that's

23:33

a different sort of Kettle of fish . I

23:36

feel like the phase of friendship it's

23:38

engaging and low interactions

23:41

that also sustain

23:43

the friendship is Extremely

23:45

important . I have , I'm

23:47

very lucky . I've been to multiple

23:49

schools , I've got friends all

23:52

around the globe , I've got work mates all

23:54

around the globe and

23:57

I'm super fortunate in saying that when I

23:59

, you know , get around to messaging someone

24:01

or we reciprocate , we have a bit of a yarn

24:03

and stuff . Low maintenance friendships mean

24:06

that you could go , you know , upwards

24:08

of a week plus without Interacting

24:11

, but it doesn't mean you forgotten about that person

24:13

. You're just that low maintenance friend that you

24:15

know . I will tag people and memes

24:18

. I will send things that remind me of

24:20

that person to that person . I

24:22

don't need to be in your pocket every single

24:24

day . As a high maintenance needy person

24:26

, it I

24:28

sort of have felt that in my

24:30

own space in Cromwell lately I've

24:34

sort of like filed miserably . But

24:37

in saying that I think what it is

24:40

is that I Put my friendships

24:42

in Cromwell up on this great pedestal

24:44

that you know . We found each other

24:46

as friends in the pandemic and we only

24:48

had each other and it was super special

24:51

and I stopped everything for my friends

24:53

in Cromwell . I would even not go to

24:55

Christchurch to see my work mates or

24:57

not go to Dunedin to see

24:59

my work mates from

25:01

Vodafone days and everything else , but I

25:04

would spend time on the weekends in

25:06

Cromwell and be available to hang out with my

25:08

friends here when in actual fact I

25:10

was just like clinging on to

25:12

these friendships that I was so

25:15

obsessed with . But I

25:17

have to take a step back and remind myself that

25:21

you know , I actually felt like I

25:23

was the needy friend . That's

25:25

how , that's how chronic it was . But

25:28

in saying this , being a low maintenance

25:30

friend means you can take a step back and it's not

25:32

weird . So

25:35

I mean , it's just one of those things . I

25:37

know that I have my friends that I

25:39

can communicate every single day , ten

25:41

times a day with and that's not weird . It's

25:43

weird if we go quiet . Honestly

25:46

, someone would say to someone oh , is she on a flight

25:49

? Because she hasn't talked to me in like an hour . But

25:51

I treasure those and I know who those people

25:53

are . When it comes to being low maintenance

25:56

in your friendship circles , you

25:59

know it's quite important , and especially

26:01

as you get older , to realize that

26:03

people have other lives , they , they do

26:05

things and they don't need to be constantly

26:07

catching up and everything else

26:10

. So be that person

26:12

that has those interactions

26:14

and takes a step back and does their

26:16

own thing and then comes back for a Regrouping

26:18

and you'll see yourself like I don't

26:20

know , pride yourself and in

26:22

your own sort of life . And

26:24

I am quite excited

26:27

because I feel like I'm turning a bit of a corner

26:29

where I Am gonna start

26:31

having hobbies and I am making plans to leave

26:33

Cromwell over different periods of time

26:36

to go and visit people around New Zealand . That

26:38

I haven't done because you got to remember

26:41

like I moved to Cromwell in the pandemic

26:43

. I don't know Cromwell without

26:45

a pandemic . The whole , like

26:47

you can't explore and leave , blows

26:50

my mind . It's quite exciting , but

26:52

also that's been a bit of a hindrance

26:55

because I Don't know . It's

26:57

just how I've functioned . I sent

26:59

him myself and Cromwell on the weekends

27:01

and I'm totally available to catch up with people , and

27:05

then you have this guilt and let down when you

27:07

don't have those catch ups . You're like shit , I just wasted

27:09

a day because I didn't see anyone . Well , I Am

27:12

starting to fulfill my life with

27:14

things that I want to do and if anyone

27:16

else wants to be a part of that and

27:18

, you know , do something . The

27:21

thing is people have like gym

27:23

friends . I don't even have that because

27:25

I choose to go to the gym when there's

27:27

no one in there , oh

27:30

dear , I have to like start going

27:33

to like group classes or something . So

27:37

that's where I'm sort of going with the friendship , low maintenance

27:39

thing , and I hope everyone can resonate with what

27:41

that means and how important it is not

27:44

to be a needy friend . It was me

27:46

this year . I'm apologizing , I'm sorry

27:48

, it's not anymore . But

27:50

the next thing is your maintenance

27:52

relationship . Being in a

27:54

low maintenance relationship Just

27:56

kind of means engagement , behaviors

27:59

that sustain the quality of the relationship

28:01

. So this is kind of a

28:03

hard one for me because I Couldn't

28:05

even tell you when I was last in a relationship if ever

28:08

, I wouldn't even know what a happy

28:10

, loving relationship felt like . Danny

28:13

dogs been let down a bit , but

28:15

honestly I just think that you

28:18

don't like . It should be quite organic

28:20

, and I say that word quite often . When

28:23

you're in a low maintenance , maintenance relationship , all

28:25

of your things that you do with your partner

28:27

or each other , singular

28:30

in the relation or together , is organic

28:32

. It's not forced . You're not high maintenance

28:34

. You don't need that person to come home

28:37

from a night out because you are alone

28:39

. You don't blow up their phone like

28:41

20 million times a day because you

28:43

board at work or whatever . And

28:46

trust me , I did a long-distance thing with a guy

28:48

and I wonder what he did for

28:50

a job , because my phone was blowing up

28:52

to the point when it was so toxic

28:55

that I had to turn do not disturb mode on on my

28:57

phone and just lock it in this

28:59

stupid what

29:01

do you call it like a desk draw thing and just

29:03

walk away because I was like this is

29:05

ridiculous . I don't even see this

29:07

guy physically in person . It's a long-distance

29:09

thing and all he was doing was

29:12

sending you know Messages

29:14

and making me feel terrible . He was such a red

29:16

flag . It was bloody awful . I should be in therapy

29:18

because of that guy . Um

29:21

, but I know exactly

29:23

what a high maintenance relationship looks like

29:25

and it's something that I will never put

29:27

myself through . So I Don't

29:30

know what would you take away

29:32

from that as to how to be low maintenance and what

29:34

could you contribute to your life and Making

29:37

it one of those things where you are not

29:40

stressing about anything and it's

29:43

. It's funny I say that actually because Christmas

29:45

is less than a hundred days away Are

29:47

you stressing about it now ? Should we

29:50

be best stressing ? I don't know . I think

29:52

we should , but I

29:54

want you to sort of take a step back

29:56

and really sort of I

29:58

don't know Look at things in a different perspective

30:01

and make sure that you could be that low maintenance

30:03

person . It's something that you could

30:05

obviously take away a lot of stress and

30:07

anxiety because , like

30:09

, people that are high maintenance are super wound

30:12

up and there's nothing worse than having

30:14

someone that just Stresses about

30:16

the stupidest stuff and worries so much

30:18

that , oh , it's terrible

30:20

. Um , in saying

30:22

that on that whole thing , I wanted

30:24

to let you know December 12 is the

30:26

most common day for breakups . I

30:29

don't know why that is , but it's a statistic around

30:31

the world , so I thought I'd drop that in there . But also

30:33

, december 21 is the most common day for

30:35

getting married . Also , I don't know why

30:37

that is either , which

30:40

relays me into my date

30:42

yourself this summer . Oh

30:45

Look , I don't know

30:47

. I feel like this needs to be a bit

30:49

of a bit of a topic because

30:51

, at the end of the day , december

30:55

1 is coming up and that's the start of summer

30:57

and we're all super excited about it . However

30:59

, I want everyone that is not

31:01

in a relationship or has just gotten

31:03

out of a relationship to consider

31:06

that you can't love someone

31:08

else until you love yourself

31:10

, and that's the old saying

31:13

. So I definitely agree with

31:15

it . But also , to date

31:17

yourself this summer is just the most

31:19

exciting thing , and take it from someone

31:21

like me who's dated myself every bloody

31:23

summer . Firstly

31:26

, in order to be in a healthy relationship , we need

31:28

to be able to enjoy our own company . If

31:30

we don't enjoy our own company , how can somebody

31:33

else ? Not being able to comfortably

31:35

be with ourselves leaves room for codependency

31:37

. Needing to be with someone at all

31:39

times in order to avoid being with oneself

31:42

is not good . If

31:44

being with yourself isn't comfortable , though

31:47

, that's something to explore with

31:49

your peers , a therapist

31:51

, your family . It's

31:53

important to know what brings you joy . If

31:56

you took yourself out for the day , what

31:58

would you do and what would you plan

32:00

? So I

32:03

definitely fell

32:05

down the rabbit hole here , but the weird thing

32:08

is it wasn't unnatural

32:10

for me to make a date for myself , and

32:12

I think everyone should do this . It's

32:15

not about dating yourself for those

32:17

three months and just being super

32:19

alone . No , no . It's about taking

32:22

little steps to make yourself feel really

32:24

good Self love , self care , all

32:26

that kind of stuff . I had a workmate

32:28

at Voter Days Voter Days in

32:31

Queenstown also . Shout out to you I know you're listening

32:33

who was a pest . I'm

32:35

telling you this with great love and care . He

32:38

literally could not walk up Beach

32:41

Street in Queenstown . Sorry

32:43

to the McDonald's no

32:46

, I say that it's the food court in

32:49

general , it's not just the McDonald's . Back

32:51

in the day , when O'Connell's was O'Connell's , he

32:53

would annoy the crap out of me because when he

32:55

would take a lunch break he would have to go up to

32:57

Mackers , get his little meal and

32:59

come back and eat it in the back of the office

33:02

and it would stink the shop

33:04

out . And I was like everyone now that's

33:06

, you know , buying phones or whatever is

33:08

thinking about eating a bloody big

33:10

Mac because of the smell , whereas

33:13

me I would total on up to

33:15

the food court and I was completely content with having

33:17

a meal by myself . The thing is , I brought

33:19

it up with him . I said , hey , why , why

33:21

are you like this ? Why do you have to

33:23

come back and hide out the back and

33:25

eat your food and

33:28

annoy all the people that are out here ? And he

33:30

was like , oh no , that's embarrassing

33:32

if you sit by yourself . Anyway

33:34

, I would say probably a month later

33:37

he actually sat in the food

33:39

court and he ate his meal , and it wasn't

33:41

because I embarrassed him or brought it up

33:43

or anything like that , it was more

33:45

just because he had

33:47

never probably had it highlighted to him how important

33:49

it was just to be by yourself

33:52

and oneself . And he

33:54

was quite impressed with himself , he

33:56

felt good , and so I'm just like , yeah

33:58

, I'm gonna encourage this , it's fine . However

34:01

, when it comes to this summer , I want you all to like

34:03

you know , take away that you could be selfish

34:06

and that's kind of like a crass term

34:08

. I don't want you to be like rude and obnoxious

34:10

, but be selfish with your time

34:12

. Do what you want

34:14

. Don't commit to plans . Instead

34:16

, do what feels right on the day

34:18

. Say no to things instead

34:21

of yes and sometimes

34:23

it's yes just to follow the crowd

34:25

which is so big . These days , I feel

34:27

like , since we've all been through

34:29

this pandemic , people are quite

34:31

dependent on what's going on and

34:34

they feel like they miss out if they don't catch

34:36

up with the group and everything else like that , and that's

34:38

not , you know , distinguishable from

34:40

anything that's going on around me . I know

34:43

that sometimes when I go to like Australia

34:46

, if I say

34:48

I'm gonna catch up , people get the guilt

34:50

when they can't catch up with me and I'm like , hey , it's

34:52

fine , I'll be back . I promise

34:54

you I'm always back . But when

34:57

I say that I'm coming over and I'm like organizing

34:59

an event or whatever , anyone

35:01

in Australia could say no . I would

35:03

hate for anyone just to say yes and just feel

35:05

like they have to because that's , I'm

35:08

there on a small , small time frame or whatever

35:10

. That's not the case . So anything

35:12

that happens over summer , don't feel like you need to

35:14

be obliged to say yes , I'm gonna attend

35:16

when really no , because I don't feel

35:18

like it's gonna fill my cup or

35:21

it's gonna bring due stress with financial

35:23

issues or whatever . It's one of those

35:25

things where I

35:27

don't know saying no just

35:29

speaks volumes these days

35:33

. So I just kind of wanted

35:35

to bring that up . But also , it's only

35:38

three months , that's all . I'm sort of consistently

35:41

saying . It's self-care , self love and loving

35:43

what we see in the mirror . And when was the last

35:45

time you looked in the mirror and you were like I

35:47

love what I see ? It's something

35:49

we definitely hide from . So

35:52

I want everyone to take away and say

35:54

I'm not really single this summer

35:56

. I'm dating myself , I take

35:58

myself out to eat , I love me

36:00

and I'm awesome , which

36:03

is exactly the path that I'm gonna go down

36:05

. And I'm so excited because there's nothing

36:08

better than feeling good

36:10

about yourself . I do love me , I'm fucking

36:12

awesome . Do I say it enough ? Absolutely

36:14

not . My friends

36:17

say it to me more than I say it to myself . On

36:21

that note , however , something more exciting

36:23

advent calendars . I have

36:25

been very excited to let you

36:27

know my favourite

36:29

website . God , I'm so

36:32

like just sad . I'm gonna

36:34

say this because you're

36:36

gonna steal all my sales . My

36:38

favourite website is Cosmetic

36:41

Capital in Australia that ships to New Zealand

36:43

and they do 70% off makeup . So

36:45

Cosmetic Capital has just

36:48

released their advent calendars and

36:50

I'm seeing them everywhere . So

36:52

not only does Cosmetic Capital

36:54

do these great $55

36:56

like $200 value bags

36:58

, but the advent calendars are super

37:00

cool . There's also a revolutionary

37:03

beauty which is at farmers

37:05

and the who

37:07

was it pretty little thing ? And

37:09

boohoo are also doing events

37:12

and glasshouse fragrance they

37:14

do one . There is nothing

37:16

more fun than having not

37:19

just chocolate behind these little bloody

37:21

doors , but makeup and

37:23

trinkets and things that make you feel good . Actually

37:25

, sports Girl , sports Girl Australia

37:28

, just released theirs as well . So I

37:31

just wanted to give you guys a bit of a heads up and

37:33

remind you that advent calendars are not

37:35

just for children . They are definitely for adults

37:37

and there are websites out there that do them

37:39

, ranging from alcohol , makeup

37:41

all the way through the candles and homewares

37:43

basically just Google advent

37:46

calendars . However , cosmetic Capital

37:48

, I can see , is all falling down the rabbit hole with

37:50

this one because the website is lit

37:52

. That's

37:56

just something . I was super excited to share my

37:58

wine of the week . Well , guess what still

38:01

not drinking tomorrow is three weeks

38:03

. I'm not counting and mum's like would

38:05

you stop saying it ? However

38:08

, I did come across something

38:10

at Pack and Save on Saturday that I got

38:12

super excited and brought , and it

38:14

is delicious . You

38:17

all know that I love Espresso Martini's

38:19

. Jarrah have released

38:21

a six pack of these

38:24

Jarrah Espresso Martini triple

38:26

shot coffee sachets

38:28

. They are non-alcoholic . I

38:31

give them a nine out of ten . Honestly , when

38:33

I had my first one yesterday morning

38:35

, I was so shocked . There's

38:38

like this weird taste that's like

38:40

it's not alcohol . I would sort

38:42

of put it down to being like one of those Mozincino

38:45

cherries , like something

38:48

is in it . I don't know what it is , but the

38:50

box is stunning . It makes

38:52

me just want to drink Espresso Martini's

38:54

in the sun with all my friends . However

38:57

, for six bucks at Pack and

38:59

Save , jarrah , you can't go wrong

39:01

. Oh my gosh . I don't know if it was because

39:03

it was triple shot , but I felt like I got shit done

39:05

yesterday . I was zipping around the house

39:07

it was so good . I

39:10

made my mum watch Love at First Sight

39:12

on Friday . Gosh , she pissed

39:14

me off . We literally

39:16

sat down with our dinner to watch

39:18

a movie and she was like , oh , you

39:20

choose . And I was like , oh my gosh , my dinner

39:23

is going cold , would you choose ? And

39:25

then I just put it on Love at First Sight because she

39:27

hadn't seen it I had and

39:30

at the end of it she actually said , oh

39:32

my god , I want more . And I

39:35

was like , yeah , it hits all the feels . It's bloody

39:37

10 out of 10 . However , what I

39:39

didn't elaborate on last week was the

39:41

fact that my favourite podcast

39:43

influencer , Alex Cooper , who

39:45

does Call Her Daddy she

39:47

has it . Her fiance is the actual

39:49

producer of the Love

39:52

at First Sight movies . So it's

39:54

a little bit of like deja vu , because

39:57

not only do we love Alex Cooper from Call Her

39:59

Daddy , but her fiance produced

40:01

this bloody awesome movie , which was exactly

40:04

what I needed to see when I watched it , and

40:06

now I've seen it twice and I just just

40:08

love it . Something so romantic about meeting

40:10

a guy on a plane . My god , up

40:13

the was . We lost 4212

40:16

to the Broncos in Brisbane

40:18

. There was a couple of Ford passes

40:20

, and so

40:23

now the Warriors are out of the league final

40:25

. However , I feel like the whole of New Zealand was backing

40:27

. That was really exciting and fun there

40:29

for like I don't know two weeks

40:31

, because they couldn't do wrong

40:33

. They keep winning . It was bloody awesome . So

40:35

up the was , sean Johnson . It was bloody good

40:37

season . Go and rest your , rest

40:39

your little muscles . We

40:42

did have a hectic weather event

40:45

last week where , like

40:49

I don't know what happened it must have been

40:51

Wednesday I parked my car

40:53

kind of I don't know , was

40:56

it sunny last Wednesday , I feel like I don't

40:58

know what was going on here . I drove back

41:00

from the supermarket and I had all the windows down on my car

41:02

pulled up where I normally park . And

41:05

Thursday , friday we

41:08

had this weather event where Rangers came in

41:10

all directions and it was like windy

41:13

, it was hectic . Anyway

41:15

, on Saturday no , friday afternoon

41:17

I went out to my car to go somewhere and I

41:19

realized my window had been down through the whole

41:21

thing . There's

41:24

this little like inlet thing where

41:27

the water sat between the seat

41:30

and the door and it was like a flood

41:32

, like I just opened the door and all this water fell

41:34

out and I was like oh fuck . So

41:37

I drove to the supermarket and I was like

41:40

super embarrassed . I let myself

41:42

get to the situation and

41:44

then I just came back and put a beach towel up . Mum

41:47

comes down the driveway because after work I had a

41:49

CT scan on my brain because

41:51

I've had headaches for like three

41:54

months now and they're going to check in and see everything's

41:56

all right . So she drove me to

41:58

Dunston Hospital and

42:00

she was like , why is there a beach towel on

42:02

the back seat ? And I said , don't ask , we're not talking

42:04

about it . I

42:06

had literally two days of water just

42:08

come flying in my back rear windscreen

42:11

window and now it's

42:13

Monday and I still haven't got a drive

42:15

. So , go figure , we

42:18

had daylight savings yesterday . That was kind

42:20

of fun , but not . It

42:23

was fine because I went to bed at midnight . But if you're

42:25

not familiar with it , new Zealand puts

42:27

their clocks forward an hour in

42:30

September and back in April

42:32

. So we lost an hour

42:34

and now we're three hours apart from

42:36

Brisbane , which annoys me because I feel like

42:38

it's like , too , it's too much

42:40

time between , like , people going

42:42

to sleep and waking up . I mean , it's

42:45

just annoying . So I don't know what

42:47

happened . I went to bed at like I

42:49

don't know , I ended the warriors game

42:51

finished , but it was like midnight , and then

42:53

I woke up and it was 10 to 12 midday

42:55

. Mum's like , uh , technically

42:58

it's 11 . So you could probably say you slept

43:00

till 11 and I'm like , oh Susan

43:02

, how did I let

43:04

that happen ? Um , so yeah

43:06

, it rooted me , and then last night

43:08

I didn't fall asleep till 3am this morning

43:11

and I was just like this is shit , so

43:13

I don't know what's going on . The knee

43:15

update is pretty vague , to say

43:18

the least . I had a doctor's appointment last

43:20

Tuesday . I felt

43:22

like when I was going into the GP

43:24

clinic that there might

43:26

be like notes on my file that I was , you

43:29

know , going to demand extra medication . So

43:31

I took my tremidol and my codeine and I

43:33

was going to show the doctor that I haven't consumed at

43:35

all . I'm not addicted , blah , blah , blah . I was

43:37

only going for like stronger pain relief , and

43:41

so I actually had a 10 out of 10 consult

43:43

, which is perfect , because you know it's

43:45

taken so long to find a decent doctor that

43:47

actually like didn't focus

43:49

on the keyboard while I was telling my symptoms

43:52

or whatever , but actually faced me and was really

43:54

like engaged . So I was super

43:56

impressed . The receptionist was there . We won't

43:58

go into it , but she

44:00

knows . So

44:03

basically , I have to wait two more weeks to

44:05

have a MRI on my left

44:07

knee and then we'll find out the extent of the tear

44:10

. Like I just can't deal with the fact

44:12

that it's taken six weeks from

44:14

when I first tell the doctor that I've done this

44:16

to getting an actual scan to see

44:18

the extent of this . It seems really

44:21

unethical because not only am I

44:23

sitting here on stupid pain relief but it's driving

44:25

me around the bend . But it should be something

44:27

that they know and they can refer sort of straight

44:29

up the bat , as opposed to me waiting

44:31

and wasting time . So it won't

44:34

be until mid October that

44:36

we actually know any sort of you

44:39

know outcome , to be quite fair , so

44:42

I did have the CT

44:44

scan on my headaches and I

44:46

hope to get my results back this week . It's

44:48

something we kind of can be a little bit

44:50

worried about , because I have blood

44:53

clots that run in my family and my mum's

44:55

mum passed away of a brain aneurysm . I'm

44:58

a little bit nervous but at the end of the day

45:00

, like I have been on at

45:02

the whole doctor checkup thing , so

45:04

this isn't I didn't drop the ball here

45:06

. I have been telling them

45:08

that I'm having headaches and I've been on antibiotics for

45:10

sinus infection , that they thought it was , but it's

45:12

not . I mean , it's terrible . I can feel

45:15

it right now . Curse

45:17

the bloody flight up to Auckland , because that's when it

45:19

started and that's why I thought maybe

45:21

it's a cabin pressure thing . So all

45:24

I want to know is that I don't have a brain tumour

45:27

and I can have a glass of wine when I choose to . It's

45:30

fine . I'm sure I'll

45:32

sort of loop back tears on that anyway

45:35

, but

45:37

I have a . The worst thing about a podcast

45:39

is the dashboard . You have to go into different platforms

45:42

like Google , apple and Spotify to see

45:44

interactions that happen with you guys . I

45:46

just wanted to let loop back on the fact that , my

45:49

God , I was slammed for mentioning my

45:51

lack of treating myself after a

45:53

bender like a drinking bender , the

45:56

way that I see it and I just sort of wanted to

45:58

vouch for some clarification on this . Kim

46:01

Cartrashian , yes , I

46:04

used to watch the Cartrashians

46:06

way

46:08

back in the day . They'd comment

46:10

, or a quote , that you never put

46:12

a bumper sticker on a Bentley

46:14

. I'm not saying that I'm a Bentley

46:17

, I'm more like a Fiat 500 , one of them catfishing

46:19

cars in the car park . But

46:21

also , oh my God

46:23

, that cracks me up . I

46:26

just feel like sometimes when you

46:28

go on a bender , it's not

46:30

planned or anything and you have a really big night out

46:33

. I don't feel like you should

46:35

put expensive face cream or

46:37

coffee pods that are expensive on

46:41

someone that's recovering after

46:43

being on a bender . I've always

46:46

been like it as well . I will literally

46:48

not spend money on a hangover

46:50

. I've

46:52

never done it . I

46:54

was kind of slammed for not

46:57

treating myself . I don't think it's

46:59

the case of treating yourself , because

47:01

if you go out on a bender that's

47:03

not a treat . But

47:07

also , you know , I'm 36

47:09

. I've been on a few benders in my time and

47:12

I would say that the

47:14

benders in my 20s far outweighs my

47:16

30s . And there has been some pretty kick

47:18

nights in Cromwell . But

47:21

no , no , the stuff that happened in my 20s

47:23

was chaotic at best and

47:27

it's just something I believe in

47:29

. I don't know , I will have

47:31

an instant coffee the day after a hangover

47:34

, real milky , sugary instant coffee . And

47:38

I've got like oil of au lait kind of face

47:40

cream , not the ordinary , it's

47:43

like naughty daddy , you shouldn't have gone

47:45

out . No , that's terrible . I

47:47

don't mean it like that , but I

47:49

do . So , yeah

47:51

, just looping back onto that comment . Yes

47:54

, sorry , I

47:57

am who I am , for goodness sakes . No

47:59

, I did get some other questions on Spotify

48:02

, just basically asking what's been the worst

48:04

part of this injury . Honestly

48:10

, the worst part was going to Australia

48:12

not knowing what I'd done , basically

48:15

, and I would never want to put that on anyone

48:17

else ever in my life , because when

48:20

you spend time away from family and friends and

48:22

then you turn up looking like a bag of shit with

48:24

an injury , it was just not

48:26

a vibe . And

48:30

don't get me wrong , these people have seen me my absolute

48:32

worst . But it's not fair on anyone

48:34

if you turn up and you've just you know injured

48:36

yourself . I think when

48:38

I was at the chemist and my

48:41

dress snapped and my like boob was going

48:43

to fall out when I was using the crutches for

48:45

the first time , just crying

48:47

in this aisle with this fucking

48:49

pole through the center of it , I couldn't get around it

48:51

. I was like this is shit , like

48:53

I second guessed my own

48:55

self care and that has been the shitest

48:58

part is that I probably should

49:00

have been more proactive and getting myself sorted

49:02

. However , it is

49:04

what it is and I wanted to be there

49:06

for my family and the wedding which was just

49:09

so important to me , but it

49:11

came at a sacrifice of my own well being

49:13

. Other

49:15

than that , just getting on top of the pain relief

49:17

has been the shit part . But

49:21

in saying that , I've spoken to quite

49:23

a few people about this injury and everyone seems

49:25

to have their own story about knee tears

49:28

and it's been really interesting and

49:31

a lot of people have had lots to say about medication

49:33

and bits and pieces . So I don't

49:35

know , it's one of those like areas

49:38

that I don't have a lot of knowledge in , but I'm finding

49:40

out a lot and it's making me super

49:42

hyper aware . What's really funny

49:44

is actually on the Monday that

49:47

I did this , I actually had a doctor's appointment

49:49

because I was potentially

49:51

going to get antidepressants , because I

49:53

was going through this real lull and I just felt

49:56

like the world was swallowing me up and I had to

49:58

get myself sorted and

50:01

I was just like I don't really want to have this conversation

50:03

with a doctor . I just don't feel like like

50:06

am I second guessing the fact that I don't need

50:08

antidepressants ? Like I'm such a happy

50:10

, go lucky person that

50:12

is just consumed by some

50:14

negative energy . But I

50:16

need to push past this and I don't want to self

50:18

mediate with antidepressants . So I

50:20

actually like did this injury

50:22

in the morning and then I canned the appointment

50:25

because I was like oh nah

50:27

, I don't think I need this kind of stuff

50:29

in my life , like I'm better than this , and it's one

50:31

of those things where I

50:34

thought about it for such a long time that I talked

50:36

myself out of it . And

50:39

then , in saying that , I thought , oh shit

50:41

, at the time I probably should have taken that appointment and

50:44

curved it from getting anti-depressants

50:46

, from being super sad and down about life

50:49

, to actually getting

50:51

my knee dealt with . But I cancelled

50:53

it and then the appointment passed and then I was

50:55

like shit , my knee hurts , whoopsie

50:58

, I don't know . You guys know

51:00

exactly that , like , everything happens for a reason

51:02

, so it's just one

51:04

of those curveballs in life , I suppose . But

51:07

I am getting

51:09

better , we are doing well

51:11

, and let's see what

51:13

happens . If I could make it to a month

51:15

sober , that

51:18

is something that , like , I haven't done since 2019

51:20

, when I was diagnosed with a blood clot that I

51:23

had to do six weeks and I don't

51:25

even think I made it to six weeks . I

51:27

remember taking my mum to El Camino and

51:29

telling the waitress who actually brought

51:32

a margarita over , that I couldn't

51:34

have it because I was on blood thinners

51:36

and it was early days and we didn't know what you

51:38

know situation I was in and

51:41

she gave the margarita to my mum and she brought over

51:43

this mocktail and she was like shit

51:46

, I can't even deal that . We can't serve you alcohol

51:48

. And I was like I know

51:50

, but I probably went to El Camino in

51:52

Brisbane like four or five times throughout

51:55

that injury and had to sit there and

51:57

be miserable . So this

52:00

is like a different time where it's

52:02

not about being sad about it , it's

52:04

about my well-being and getting on top of my pain

52:06

relief . But also I went

52:08

to the liquor store last week because I've seen on

52:10

social media there's a few different things coming

52:13

out and I was so excited and I popped in and

52:15

the girl behind the counter a kid you know she

52:17

says hey , I was seeing

52:19

you in like three weeks You've been not be going to super

52:21

liquor . And I cracked up and I was like no , I have an

52:23

injury and I can't drink right now . And she's like what are you doing

52:26

in here ? And I said

52:28

I got excited because I saw something on

52:30

social media and I want to see if you have it . So

52:33

, even though I choosing not to drink right now

52:35

, I'm still stockpiling

52:38

for Dan's trip because obviously , like

52:40

, I want to just

52:42

have the best time when he's here , but also

52:44

I don't know , you

52:46

can't keep me away . And

52:49

there has been a couple of times where I've thought about it

52:51

. Like yesterday we did a bit of gardening outside

52:53

and I was like , oh , I probably could deal with

52:55

a gin spritzer about now . And then I was like , oh , I'm

52:58

all good . So it is what

53:00

it is . It's crazy . I'm feeling

53:02

really good and I feel healthy and happy , and

53:05

I just wanted to share this low maintenance podcast

53:08

, give you guys a couple of ideas as

53:10

to how you could , you know , do things to

53:13

be that low maintenance person . Start

53:15

now so that in the future it becomes really

53:18

easy Not

53:20

saying it's not easy now obviously people have their

53:22

own things in place but

53:24

also for those that are newly single

53:26

or also wanting a bit of guidance

53:31

or , you know , happy affirmations

53:33

. As such , to date yourself this summer

53:36

, it's a huge thing . It's

53:38

not if you break it down , you take it day by day

53:40

, but also what you take away from it from

53:42

your own self worth . I

53:45

date myself all the time and , quite frankly

53:47

, I definitely know , if I was going to

53:49

have a date for myself , what it would be

53:51

. I don't know , did I go into

53:53

that ? I thought about it Basically

53:56

. For me I would have a brunch somewhere , you know , some

53:58

cheeky brunch with a

54:00

. What do you call those things . Mamosa

54:03

is that bubbles in orange juice

54:05

, and then I would take myself to

54:07

a massage or a float

54:10

in that room with the water , and

54:12

then I would take myself to the movies , and

54:15

then I'd have a really great dinner somewhere , and

54:17

then I'd take myself home and have probably I

54:19

don't know , I don't know

54:21

some great dessert , but

54:24

yeah , just something really super easy like

54:26

that . If I was the date for one

54:28

day and you know what I probably will

54:31

You'll probably hear about it . It's

54:33

not out of my scope of doing things

54:35

, that's for sure . Anyway , guys

54:37

, I will wrap this up here . It has been a

54:39

dream to speak to you all

54:41

today as , say , I was so

54:44

happy to have that small interaction with

54:46

Dominic Harvey . You are a absolute

54:48

legend . Keep doing what you're doing

54:50

, because it's inspiring people like myself to

54:52

continue on with our life goals . Get

54:56

into those advent calendars as a cosmetic

54:58

capital . I will put the website up at

55:00

the end , don't forget . You can rate

55:02

the podcast on Spotify

55:05

. That was something I learned . That was

55:07

crazy . Get into that . Jera Espresso , martini

55:09

triple shot coffee sachets they are fucking

55:12

mint . Watch their

55:14

love at first sight . I can guarantee you

55:16

it will bring you all the feels , and

55:19

I will see you back here in a week's time

55:21

. Have a drink for Danny Dot , love ya

55:23

. Bye .