0:05

Lilianae.

0:06

So, yes, me, Vic, what you got.

0:08

Going on on that purse because it's looking mighty

0:10

foul today.

0:12

Well, it's a new perse so I have new

0:14

things. Oh I have lots

0:16

of money.

0:17

Okay, god, I'm not.

0:19

Mint Kleenex, lipstick cards

0:22

and a few condoms.

0:25

You got condoms in there?

0:26

Oh my god, I

0:29

need to be prepared to I believe

0:31

in the power of manifesting.

0:33

I know you do. I know you do.

0:35

Maybe our main dater has a daddy and uncle

0:38

or someone.

0:39

We'll check, We'll check, We'll check. Welcome

0:42

listeners. This is Date My Awalita

0:44

first, where our incredible Ahlita

0:47

Billiana plays matchmaker for one

0:50

very fortunate main Data.

0:53

She'll meet three promising contestants

0:55

before sending one of them off on a one

0:57

on one date with our may

1:01

I am your host Vico or

1:03

this alongside the very

1:05

powerful a.

1:10

Vio. I am manifesting something else

1:12

too?

1:12

Oh yeah, what is it? Oh?

1:14

We have a sweetheart of a main data.

1:18

Yes, you made that have been

1:20

our main data. This week is Beneath.

1:23

Beneath is a self proclaimed Wikipedia

1:26

scholar who is always

1:28

hungry for a pop culture facts.

1:31

This is very interesting.

1:32

Do you think she has looked up the Secret to Love

1:35

on Wikipedia.

1:36

Oh, well.

1:38

On Wikipedia,

1:40

We'll have to ask her. Benit

1:42

is an engineer and she is

1:45

interested in dating a nerd that can

1:47

hang or a himbo.

1:50

Beneath grew up in your cal and

1:52

then a big Rwandan and Congoonese family,

1:55

and her parents originally came to the US for

1:57

asylum. Benit needs to date

1:59

someone who will be patient about being introduced

2:02

to her family. Noted. She wants

2:04

someone who has their heart on their sleep

2:06

and will try new things with her.

2:08

Oh, new things are marvelous

2:10

to enjoy with someone you care about.

2:12

LETZ bring in Benny many

2:15

dumn In.

2:16

Hello, thanks

2:19

for having me.

2:20

Oh my gosh, we are so glad

2:22

to have you here on Dad my hour lead that

2:24

first? Tell us about yourself?

2:27

What should hour lead that? And I know about

2:29

you?

2:30

Yeah, So I've just been recently back in

2:32

the LA area. I was living with my ex in San

2:34

Diego. Grew up in like rewanting

2:37

Conglise family, as Vica mentioned, and

2:39

very Catholic, very sheltered

2:42

Catholic school from ky to eight all girls high school,

2:45

and so the change from like one thousand

2:47

girls to like forty thousand

2:49

people at UCLA. It was a very

2:52

big culture shock, I think, and I wasn't

2:54

allowed.

2:54

Date till I was eighteen, so I had.

2:55

A lot of passing up to do cool my goodness,

2:58

and.

2:58

So I think I just had not

3:00

the best experiences. So I'm hoping

3:02

that I will eat that and we COO can help

3:05

me out today.

3:06

Absolutely. So you said your last

3:08

relationship was last December.

3:10

Okay, we need to know what happened.

3:12

It was my first relationship, it was his second.

3:14

When we first started dating, like COVID, obviously,

3:16

like I think, we all were not in a great place,

3:18

and I was not in a great place either, back up in Norcow

3:20

with my parents, and like we definitely put heads a

3:22

lot of the times, and so he was really like

3:25

a good support.

3:25

In that time.

3:26

But then once I like got better and like less

3:28

depressed and things like that, my personality

3:30

started coming.

3:31

Out more and that didn't gell as well.

3:34

I would say that he enjoyed having

3:36

someone to take care of and then once I didn't necessarily

3:39

need that, then things started

3:41

falling to the wayside. And then long story short,

3:43

there was a week where we had like four or five

3:46

arguments and it ended with hatshit being

3:48

left on the floor for at least seven hours,

3:50

and that's when I was like, okay, we're.

3:52

I'm so glad you're laughing about it.

3:55

It's enough time has passed since then that I'm

3:57

like, okay, Like it's funny that that's the thing.

3:59

That made me realize maybe I'm in the

4:01

wrong.

4:02

Situation instead of everything

4:04

else before them. Like my friends have definitely

4:06

given me a lot of flack about that, but you know, we're.

4:08

Working on it.

4:09

Well, it was also your first relationship, like long

4:11

term as well. Have you been able to see

4:13

anybody since then or will this be your

4:15

first time maybe meeting somebody outside

4:18

of that little bit, you know.

4:19

Like, so I got back on hinge once I was back

4:21

here in LA and like I've gone online like some dates and stuff

4:23

like that. But again, I'm just sort of trying to suss out like what

4:26

I want because like it's like I didn't really date

4:28

in like college. It was mainly just you know, cookup

4:30

culture. Nobody wants to put labels on anything,

4:33

like, so I.

4:34

Was like, let me just go with the flow, you know, And like,

4:36

so I didn't.

4:36

I never really got the chance to be like taken

4:39

out on like a date and things like that until I started

4:41

dating him, and even then it was

4:43

mainly me sort of begging to be taken

4:45

out.

4:45

Towards the end.

4:46

Was see your age, I was he older my

4:48

age?

4:49

Basically, yeah, got it.

4:50

That's very good. Tell us a little thing about

4:52

your family. It seems like, for better or for worse,

4:55

you're still very close with them.

4:56

Yeah. I'm like super close with my siblings. I talked to my

4:59

sister.

4:59

I text or at least every other day, if not every day,

5:01

and then we make sure to FaceTime at least a couple of times a month.

5:03

Me and my brother mostly send means back and forth.

5:05

He's very much not interested and about

5:08

my relationship things versus

5:10

my sister.

5:10

He's just like you deal with it. I don't

5:13

care.

5:13

I'm like, okay, or sounds good, But me

5:15

and my cousin's very very close. Like I have

5:18

one cousin that I FaceTime. I would say literally every

5:20

day and then we read talking back and forth. So she's

5:22

like essentially my little sister.

5:23

Oh I love that. And you've been on a journey

5:26

with them about your queerness, right, if

5:28

you don't mind, would you like to share how that's been

5:30

Like.

5:31

I'll tell you this story.

5:32

I was like three or four and it's

5:34

like a family friend that I had, and we were watching this

5:36

like TV show or like a movie. I can't remember

5:38

exactly how it happened. We saw something and

5:41

then I was like, maybe we should kiss,

5:43

just to see what it's like. And

5:46

then we did and she was like that was weird, and

5:48

I was like, oh, yeah, that was very weird.

5:50

I did not like that either at

5:52

all.

5:54

Liar pants on fine.

5:57

Exactly, And so that happened, and

5:59

so, like I I've always had that in the back of my mind. But again,

6:01

like you know, being race Catholic in an immigrant family,

6:04

like that's being queer is not really an

6:06

option.

6:07

You know, we go they definitely don't.

6:08

Well yeah right.

6:09

I was like, I've raised Catholic

6:11

as well. Puerto Rican. Definitely not an

6:13

option.

6:14

Then then I was like wait, what Yeah,

6:16

but I'm curious, even though you're

6:18

in a Catholic school, there's gotta be other

6:20

people who feel the same way as you do. So

6:22

do you come to know them? Do you

6:25

do you see them amongst the crowd?

6:27

Yeah, So that's the thing.

6:28

It's like, there were definitely some people that were out

6:30

at my high school, but they were not

6:32

very accepted for it, I would say. And I

6:34

think even like at that point, I still hadn't

6:36

really accepted that I was queer too, you know, and

6:39

so it's just sort of like it was an open secret,

6:41

I would say, you know what I mean, like we're.

6:43

Just not gonna talk about it.

6:44

But like there were like a lot of like petitions and stuff like that so

6:46

that girls could take girls to dances and things like that,

6:48

and like we got like hundreds of signatures, but it

6:50

just never really worked.

6:51

Once I graduated from high school.

6:53

Came down to LA, I was like meeting more queer

6:55

people that were open about it. And I remember I met

6:57

this girl at like an eighteen plus

7:00

and like we ended up dancing and we ended up making out

7:02

at the end of the night, and I was like, oh my god, I'm bisexual,

7:05

And like I went on like Facebook and I was like messaging my

7:07

siblings. I was like, oh my god, this is like

7:09

making so much sense, and they're.

7:11

Like, girl, we new.

7:13

But then specifically, did your

7:16

ex know about it? Yes?

7:18

He did.

7:18

Yeah.

7:19

So once I came out at like nineteen twenty,

7:21

I've been pretty open about it, but

7:23

I definitely haven't had. I feel like a lot of

7:25

my experiences like talking to guys

7:27

about that haven't been that great. He was fine with it, he

7:29

was okay. Before him, it would be like immediately

7:32

like, oh, you're by, let's.

7:33

Have a threesome.

7:34

Like that's not what I'm looking for

7:36

right now, Like that could be fun.

7:38

What kind of person do you want to date?

7:40

The important thing for me is that it's somebody who

7:42

axects me for who I am, someone

7:44

that's willing to grow with me and like help me learn

7:47

more.

7:47

I can help them learn.

7:48

More, and like, I don't know, I love having

7:50

like random deep conversations with people

7:52

sometimes, and like someone that can do that and

7:55

hang with that is awesome.

7:56

Are you down for non monogamy as well?

7:59

So explore again. It's like the

8:01

race cast.

8:01

I think I knew intellectually

8:04

that that was an option. Emotionally

8:06

I didn't realize that was an option for me. Now

8:08

way more open to it, and I think like I would

8:10

be willing to explore that with the right person.

8:12

Of course, of course, of course, emphasis

8:14

on dating intentionally, with the intention of

8:16

dating and trying new things and being explorative

8:19

and being with people that are down to champing

8:21

you and that exploration, but no serious

8:23

relationship.

8:24

If it happens, I'm not mad at it, but

8:26

it's not what I'm searching for right now.

8:28

You're so cute. If it helpens, I'm not mad.

8:30

I like that, No, for sure. Well,

8:34

thank you so much, Benite. We're so very excited

8:36

to meet these contestants.

8:38

Oh yeah, let's.

8:39

Find you a sweetie, Let's find you a himbo.

8:42

Yes, fantastic.

8:44

Well, let's go ahead and bring in the condescence. We'll

8:47

be your right back. Welcome

8:51

back today, Malani the first when

8:56

as whens. Let's

8:58

start with Indra. Indra

9:01

grew up in Central Jersey and during her master

9:04

thesis, she spent a lot of time talking

9:06

to people about conspiracy

9:08

theories.

9:09

Syndra, well, we're gonna

9:11

come back to this and there's something I need to share.

9:14

Oh Willie conspiracies?

9:16

Oh well, maybe a spinoff episode.

9:19

Indra has been trying out a lot

9:21

of intricate recipes for the co

9:23

op she lives in, including brioche

9:26

French toast with lemon curd, oh

9:28

dang, and Karen this.

9:30

Okay, I'm agree, this sounds

9:32

delicious. Her type is someone who

9:34

is academic and loves storytellers.

9:38

Indra bikes a lot, and

9:40

all that biking has a payoff. She

9:42

is constantly being complimented on her

9:44

legs by potential crushes. Hi

9:47

Indra, Hello, that's so much

9:49

information about me.

9:51

I know where you've got it, and it's still it feels so

9:53

it's still so scandalous.

9:55

We love, we.

9:56

Love, we love. Next up,

9:58

we have Alan. Allen moved

10:00

to La to pursue acting,

10:03

and his besties and his parents are

10:05

super proud of him. If he really wants to

10:07

do something, he will take a risk.

10:09

Well, I wonder if this carries over into your

10:11

dating.

10:11

Life, Allan, I sure hope. So when

10:14

Alan is in a relationship, he likes

10:16

to balance trying new things with a

10:18

little Netflix night. He

10:20

is attracted to open minded people that are

10:23

kind, fun to talk to, and easy

10:25

to be around. Alan enjoys some

10:27

jams from the likes of Usher,

10:30

James Blake, Diana Ross, and may

10:32

admit to enjoying Drake

10:35

as well. Hi Ellen, You're

10:38

this and

10:40

last, but certainly not least. Emma.

10:43

Emma loves to talk about anything Midwest

10:46

specific, being a Maxinista,

10:49

the roads, needing to be repaved roundabouts.

10:52

The list goes on, Emma recently got

10:54

out of a situationship that is a new

10:56

word that and

10:58

says their type is anyone who looks

11:01

overwhelmingly gay. Same

11:04

they know that timing is everything and

11:06

are attracted to banter first and then

11:08

the attraction that follows. Their green

11:11

flags are someone who has a strong connection

11:13

with their family or chosen family, and

11:16

good communicators. Hello, Emma,

11:19

Hi, nice.

11:20

To meet you all. I'm ready to get Mouffler

11:22

on.

11:23

Oh is happening?

11:26

Is happening?

11:27

Well? Contestants, welcome, Welcome to

11:29

all of you, you beautiful souls. It is

11:31

so lovely to meet you. And let's open up

11:33

our hearts and minds and let's see what happens here.

11:35

Yes, we'll do that with our first

11:38

game, Planet Love.

11:42

So here's the thing. Our

11:44

main dater loves to think about

11:46

life on other planets,

11:49

but she's got a hint

11:51

for all the rest of us. Maybe

11:54

life on other planets isn't

11:56

going to look particularly

11:59

like a human or even a

12:01

green elongated head

12:04

type alien. We are used to seeing

12:06

movies, and we should all redirect

12:09

our energy to something a little smaller,

12:12

a little more bacteria

12:14

like in this game Planet

12:17

Love, we are going to ask

12:19

you to imagine a scenario where

12:22

you are in outer space with

12:24

your boo and you are racing

12:27

to complete a certain mission.

12:29

Maybe you need to be looking for some of those little

12:32

live bacteria. So we're going

12:34

to give you specific situations

12:36

and you will tell us how

12:39

you would respond. So, for example,

12:41

Leanna, you and your boo

12:44

are in the spaceship on your mission

12:47

and things are going well. You are

12:49

eating your zero gravity ice

12:52

cream, But as soon as you make

12:54

it to Planet Love, your

12:56

sweetie is hyper focused on

12:58

finding other life. Wait, you

13:01

want some attention too, So

13:03

how do you ask you're sweetie for a little loving

13:06

while they're so busy looking for some alien

13:09

life forms?

13:10

Isn't it obvious? I start licking

13:12

his ice cream. I'm gonna use my

13:14

best linking technique. Oh

13:16

goodness, well for ice cream.

13:18

Oh of course, absolutely for ice cream. Well, now

13:20

you know, Emma, how do you

13:23

bid for your booze distracted affection?

13:26

Well, I'm gonna be looking dear

13:28

as hell in my space suit. So

13:32

yes, that like futuristic

13:35

cyberpunk look is gonna be.

13:37

I'm already gonna be looking fly as helme.

13:40

Oh my god, Indra, how

13:42

are you going to bid for your booze affection?

13:46

By showing interest in what the person is doing,

13:48

you can sometimes sort of redirect their attention,

13:50

which is like, it sounds so duplicitous,

13:52

like I'm gonna pretend like I want to hear what you're doing,

13:55

and so I can gradually bring myself into your line

13:57

of sight. But I think it's a really gentle

14:00

and successful way to do that. As

14:02

a long time sort of distracted person.

14:05

Love it fantastic.

14:06

So, Ellen, is your sweety going

14:08

to notice you in outer space? What's gonna

14:10

happen? Oh?

14:11

Yeah, I mean I'm thinking I just

14:13

turn on you know, alien FM,

14:16

some music user,

14:19

you know what I'm saying, Put something on that's

14:21

that's her kind of vibe. Be like, let's go together,

14:23

baby.

14:27

This is amazing. Oh my god.

14:30

Okay, So here's the next scenario. You

14:32

are helping your boo sample some interesting

14:35

specimens you found on a bright

14:38

purple planet. But

14:40

oh no, she starts

14:42

giving you feedback on your pipe

14:44

heading skills and it really RUMs

14:47

you the wrong way. You are in full

14:49

blown conflict. By the time

14:51

you're back to the spaceship. How

14:54

do you reconnect

14:56

zero gravity dance party, some

14:58

floating rose pet in the ship. Alan,

15:02

start us off. How do you and your sweetie

15:04

reconnect after that pipe heading

15:07

accident? I'm going to say something

15:09

out of pocket for

15:11

it.

15:13

That does every time, Oh, I

15:16

mean, the.

15:16

Best way to get rid of some tension. You know, there's

15:18

some sexual tension, you know, every

15:21

time frustration happens, You're going bust

15:23

went out real quick.

15:26

Here he is doing it.

15:29

No, that's a good one. Absolutely, bust went

15:31

off here here,

15:34

Andrew, how do you reconnect?

15:36

Yeah?

15:37

You know, I'm struggling to follow

15:39

Alan's answer. You know, in labs

15:41

you're not supposed to pipette by mouth, but

15:43

there are other things you can do by mouth that would help, you.

15:46

Know, not it. Okay, I'm learning

15:48

a lot on this episode, So.

15:49

I'm going to say a long space walk, just

15:51

you know, get out there and see the stars, like,

15:53

let things cool off, talk about it if

15:55

you want to talk about it, or just let it kind.

15:57

Of pass and then get to the end of the planet

16:00

and throw them.

16:00

Off that

16:03

but just you know, I want you to It's my second choice.

16:07

Emma, how do you reconnect?

16:08

We're chatting it out first. I

16:11

think knowing myself. I'm taking notes.

16:13

I'm like, okay, you didn't like my

16:15

pipe heating, Like, what are we doing.

16:18

Different next time?

16:19

Baby, I'm gonna be

16:21

deceptive to your feedback.

16:24

Oh my gosh.

16:25

And then once once we get on the same page

16:27

again, that bust in one out, that's

16:29

gonna be even better.

16:30

Yes, absolutely, Because the pipe

16:33

itting skills are a metaphors

16:35

to many things in life. You gotta

16:37

make sure you got those pipeing skills.

16:41

Here's the next one. So you found

16:44

some outer space life,

16:47

and even though your booth thought it would

16:50

be a small planned or a bacteria

16:52

type of life, it's a full

16:55

blown little green guy with

16:57

needs and a lot to share.

17:01

And it starts calling you uncle or

17:03

auntie or hueye or short

17:06

form uncle human. It's

17:08

getting on your nerves, this little, full

17:10

blown little green guy. But you're sweetie

17:13

loves that you have a nickname.

17:15

So do you stick with the pet name

17:17

or do you tell off the little green guy?

17:20

My goodness, Indra, what are

17:22

your thoughts?

17:23

I can't imagine not wanting this little green

17:26

alien to be my son.

17:28

She's like, don't call me auntie. I'm your

17:30

mother now.

17:31

I am your mother now. That's something that

17:33

I'm giving, you know, I'm mothering or

17:36

whatever.

17:36

I love that.

17:37

Yeah, you know, I think that obviously

17:39

requires a lot of communication, but you know, it's

17:41

just the two of us out here alone. If we're gonna start

17:43

a family with a green alien, like, greater

17:46

things have happened.

17:47

Well, I know you guys are dying to know

17:49

this. But my favorite nickname, the

17:52

one that I've been called many a times, big

17:54

titty Lily. Do I need to stand so

17:56

you guys can have proof of that true?

18:00

Oh my goodness, you're

18:02

gonna have.

18:03

To come see one of my comedy shows. That's where

18:05

I am big titty Lily.

18:06

Oh my goodness. Uh yeah,

18:09

maybe the aliens will have to catch on to

18:11

that.

18:12

Oh, let's see what Alan

18:14

has to say.

18:15

So, like, I feel like it's a mutual relationship

18:18

where it's like it wants to be taken

18:20

care of, but also it can help me adapt

18:22

to being somewhere foreign, somewhere new.

18:25

So I would take it in. I'll

18:27

let it call whatever name you want, Like, I'm not really that

18:29

sensitive, so call me uncle,

18:32

call me daddy.

18:32

So why not?

18:35

Oh my gosh, amazing,

18:37

Emma, what's your feeling on the nickname.

18:40

I don't even know what would offend

18:42

me. That little alien can call me little

18:45

Rascal. You can call me Ankle.

18:48

Ankle and uncle

18:51

yes onnkey as well.

18:52

I've heard too, I do

18:54

kind of hate Ankie for whatever reason.

18:56

Noted. Okay, that one's off the plate.

18:58

Yes, but everyone's

19:00

got something to offer, even this little

19:02

freaky green guy.

19:06

Well, I would definitely want to go into

19:08

space with all of you, honestly,

19:11

not.

19:11

Me, No, because no, because

19:13

they're all ready to go to another planet. And just

19:16

say, at this age, I'm keeping

19:18

my feet on the ground.

19:19

Ride here.

19:20

I'll be watching you guys taking that trip.

19:22

Yeah, it's true, Leliana, you are definitely

19:25

a woman of this planet. Oh

19:27

indeed, indeed, so before

19:29

Alialita decides who will not be moving

19:31

on under the competition, we'd like to

19:33

know how sweet and kind you could be with

19:35

our main dater. In

19:38

this game we call Wiki

19:40

compliment. Each of

19:42

you will be dishing out compliments

19:45

based off of a Wikipedia

19:47

article chosen at

19:50

random. Let's see.

19:53

Okay, here there

19:55

we go. The Great Barrier

19:58

Reef is the world's life largest

20:00

coral reef system, located

20:03

off the coast of Queensland.

20:05

Australia. The Great Barrier

20:07

Reef can be seen from outer space.

20:10

A Alita, how would you compliment the

20:12

Great Barrier reef?

20:14

You're so big and strong, and I love

20:16

how even our alien neighbors avis

20:19

on you. Your beauty must be shared

20:21

across the universe because that beauty

20:23

alone can change lives.

20:26

And also I love an Aussi

20:29

accent. I don't know how to do

20:31

it.

20:32

No, No, that's

20:35

all as far as I can get.

20:36

Okay, now let me get this started.

20:39

Emily and Paris is an American

20:41

romantic comedy drama. The series

20:44

starts Lily Collins as

20:46

aspiring marketing executive

20:49

Emily Cooper, an

20:51

American who moves to Paris to provide

20:53

an American point of view to a French

20:55

marketing firm in Paris.

20:58

She tries to overcome challenges

21:00

in her work, love life, and

21:03

friendships. We ween

21:07

saying like we we we relyly,

21:11

who's gonna take this?

21:12

Take it away from my god? Okay, so

21:14

emma take it away. How do you come amend this Wikipedia

21:17

article?

21:17

Oh? Hold, Emily,

21:22

you are the bag of my eye.

21:26

That's great.

21:27

Oh my god, Ellen, how do you come amend

21:30

this random article?

21:31

How do you say, passing French. Uh,

21:33

yeah, you're

21:36

like, I

21:38

don't.

21:38

Know, pass the bagette, Indre,

21:42

How do you compliment this article?

21:44

Emily? Everybody I know was talking

21:46

about you like two years ago, and you

21:49

represent this like unattainable

21:51

ideal for a kind of life that like everybody

21:53

wants to live when they're in their twenties. And

21:56

I would love to just sit down

21:58

and binge you incredible.

22:01

Is the academic of the group. Oh

22:06

my gosh, Well, I have another article.

22:08

The Golden Fleece. This

22:12

is the fleece of the Golden Wold

22:15

wing it ram Chrysomolus

22:18

that rescue to God and bought

22:21

him to Colchis where

22:23

another God then sacrifice it

22:25

to Zeus. I know that one. The

22:27

fleece is a symbol of authority in

22:29

kingship. Indra, you

22:31

take this one first. How would you compliment the

22:33

Golden fleece?

22:35

The golden fleece, all the things

22:37

that Jason did to find you. I would

22:39

do, you know twice over, That's

22:42

how much I care. And please just

22:44

promise that when I take you home,

22:46

you're not gonna let my wife kill me. Here

22:49

here, just what happens to Jason after

22:51

he comes home in his wife

22:53

Medea is rightfully stricken

22:56

with anger and grief and destroys him.

22:58

I've actually lost I've lost the Roman plot here.

23:00

I'm just thinking about sort of being murdered

23:02

by a beautiful Greek woman, a.

23:04

Right like not wanting to be murdered, just like here,

23:06

let me love you, but like that's not get murdered.

23:09

It sounds lovely, right yeah, jealousy,

23:11

you know, lovely. I love

23:13

that you also like knew more names from this story. So

23:16

here here, Emma, how do you come with

23:18

the fleece?

23:19

Well, a beautiful Greek woman can murder

23:21

me.

23:22

Anytime, amazing,

23:24

Ellen, how do you compliment the golden

23:27

fleece?

23:28

I just want to wrap up in it. I'm from the East

23:30

Coast and it's coldest fun over here, so let

23:32

me wrapping in hell? Did they come through?

23:35

Come cuddle with me?

23:38

Amazing? Lovely? Okay,

23:41

last one, and I actually don't need

23:43

Wikipedia for this one. Compliment

23:47

will ead that Liliana montg

23:51

have at it, Alan, take it away.

23:53

First, I'm coming

23:55

to your stand up to go see your titties.

23:57

Oh, thank you, my love you.

24:00

Emma. What's your coming up?

24:03

It is so clear you have the biggest heart

24:05

and the biggest chest.

24:07

Yes, oh

24:10

my goodness, here here, Indra,

24:13

what's your coming up?

24:14

Yeah?

24:14

I have to go for the titty's hat trick here,

24:20

Lilliana. You are as right and entertaining

24:23

as you are, just shockingly

24:25

forthright and it's

24:28

hard to see over zoom, but I'm sure your tits

24:30

are great.

24:33

Well, thank you all for participating

24:36

in our get to know you games. Unfortunately,

24:39

a wii that we'll have to ask one

24:42

of the three of you to leave is

24:44

only two will be moving on to

24:47

compete for the chance to date our

24:49

main dater. So a wile that

24:52

who will not be moving

24:54

on?

24:56

Well, and it's not because you are

24:58

not an amazing human being. But

25:00

at the end of the show, we have to

25:02

think about our main data and who

25:05

are the two people that will move forward

25:08

in order to find out a little bit more

25:10

about you, to get you together with the main

25:12

data and pick one of you. So

25:14

today, though you are lovely,

25:17

amazed and intelligent and

25:19

good looking, we must say goodbye

25:23

to Alan.

25:25

Alan, thank you so so so much,

25:28

my goodness, your energy, your smile,

25:31

you are a delight.

25:33

Thank you,

25:36

thank you.

25:39

Will be your right back. Welcome

25:44

back today Maia wanly the first. Well,

25:50

congratulations to our final two

25:52

contestants. We'd like now

25:54

to give you an opportunity to

25:57

have a cafe. Sito will

25:59

lead that so she can get to know all of

26:01

your qualities and your quirks

26:03

and everything. So are you ready a Walida?

26:06

Oh sorry, Vico, I was on my phone.

26:09

I've fallen down the wiki rabbit hole.

26:11

Oh yeah, it's a big thing, I know, but it's

26:13

time for some good old cafeos.

26:15

Okay, let's start

26:18

with Emma. All right, Emma,

26:20

I'm gonna hand you over to a Walida for a little cafe.

26:23

Take it away.

26:25

How are you, my love?

26:26

Oh I'm so good, Yes

26:29

you are.

26:29

You're so beautiful. So

26:31

tell me what it is that you are looking for in

26:34

a relationship.

26:35

I'm looking for romance.

26:38

I love love and

26:42

I love.

26:43

When that connection happens

26:46

and there's just the chemistry there.

26:48

It's like, truly such a beautiful

26:51

thing.

26:51

Are you into monogamy or non

26:54

monogamy?

26:54

Yeah, monogamy it's more my thing.

26:57

Okay, what if the person is into

26:59

non monoga me? Are you willing to

27:01

work on that and keep it to see if

27:03

you can down the road have a steady

27:05

relationship.

27:06

I would be open to it for sure.

27:09

Okay, So tell me what it is

27:11

that are your red flags and a relationship.

27:13

Ooh, the games.

27:16

I don't do games.

27:18

Any weird distancing things

27:21

or like not saying what you

27:23

mean is a huge, huge

27:25

red flag for me and one of my big

27:29

past relationships, they

27:31

blocked me out of nowhere and

27:34

it like scarred me in.

27:36

A big way.

27:38

And I didn't even know there was an issue.

27:40

How long ago was that?

27:41

That was a few years ago?

27:43

Now, oh okay, did you ever hear

27:45

from that person again?

27:46

Yes? They called me like a year later,

27:49

like a drunk call, and I was like, okay,

27:53

okay, cool. So you're clearly not

27:55

growing and learning and working on yourself.

27:58

Oh that makes me mad. Next

28:01

time, have them call me, I believe, go fight

28:03

them. Okay, send me their address.

28:07

So when was their last relationship?

28:10

My situationship was a

28:12

couple of months ago.

28:14

Okay. So if the person

28:16

that you are going to date, let's

28:18

say, at the end of this show, was actually

28:21

listening to you, how would you present

28:23

yourself to them?

28:24

I asked them a million questions.

28:27

I think that like getting to know you process

28:30

is so beautiful in relationships,

28:32

and I've often found that, like in

28:35

the hinge bumble sphere,

28:38

that I go on these dates and there's

28:40

not like questions asked.

28:42

It's so basic, but so many people don't

28:45

know how to ask personal questions

28:48

about their lives. Mm

28:50

hmmm.

28:50

So what are the red flags that you don't want to see

28:52

from your exes working on your new relationship?

28:55

Emotional vulnerability and emotional

28:58

availability are huge for me,

29:00

saying what you mean, telling me how you feel,

29:03

open communication.

29:04

Because that is how you are.

29:06

Yeah, I love that.

29:07

Thank you for your beautiful answers. You're such an amazing

29:10

young person. You really are beautiful.

29:14

Thank you.

29:15

Emma. All right, Indra,

29:17

I'm gonna go ahead and hand you over for a

29:19

little guffish either, gonna waita you know

29:21

way li Limma, how.

29:23

Are you, my love?

29:24

I'm doing very well. Thank you.

29:26

Now we've heard from you that you love

29:28

connection and communication, that

29:30

you're a big flirred. Are you a

29:33

jealous person?

29:34

I'm not.

29:35

I will need to tell you the truth. For the past

29:38

like six months, I've had multiple

29:40

sweethearts for the first time in my life, and I

29:42

have been so shocked with how little

29:45

jealousy I've felt. Everybody that I

29:47

see is such good communicators, and it makes

29:50

it so easy to avoid those

29:52

feelings or to deal with them when they show up

29:54

that I actually I used to be and

29:56

I am not any more, and that is so shocking.

29:59

What do you I think is the difference what happened there?

30:02

I think it just comes with practice. Like a lot of these

30:04

people have been doing that kind of arrangement for years

30:06

and years, and you just develop a sort of proficiency

30:09

with like managing those emotions.

30:11

Whether whereas if you're like monogamous, maybe

30:13

you don't have to deal with it as much because there's that expectation

30:16

that you'll right, you'll actually be jealous,

30:18

and that's like part of the arrangement.

30:19

You know, you have an amazing heart.

30:22

Now, are you willing to change down the road and

30:24

say that you go into a relationship that is

30:27

non monogamous, but down the road

30:29

it changes, you are open to that?

30:31

Yeah?

30:31

I mean, I think openness to change has been a big

30:34

part of my life for a little while

30:36

now, And every time I embrace

30:38

some new change that shows up, it winds up being so

30:40

much more exciting than I could have imagined. And so

30:42

I think I don't want to say I'm down for absolutely

30:45

anything. I don't want to open that door,

30:47

but I think most things I'm

30:49

willing to entertain.

30:51

Okay, what are you looking for specifically

30:53

in the person that you want to start

30:55

seeing.

30:56

I like people who are

30:59

sort of attentive and multifaceted,

31:03

multi talented. You

31:05

know, you want a person with an interesting life. But I

31:07

think that the difference between a person with an interesting

31:09

life and somebody with a boring life is

31:11

just that somebody knows how to talk about it, how to

31:13

tell stories about it, and somebody does not. Like

31:16

any person you meet on the street has interesting stories,

31:18

they just might not know it, you know. And

31:21

so that kind of person.

31:22

So if the person that is our main

31:24

dat was sitting next to me and you were just

31:26

selling yourself, what would you tell them?

31:29

I would say, it seems like you have maybe more

31:31

than a passing interest in science, and

31:34

that you think a lot about what life would look like on other

31:36

worlds. I would love

31:38

to sit down and trade ideas

31:40

because I have also been thinking about that, and

31:43

I want to.

31:43

Know, you

31:46

know what. I'm not easily

31:48

impressed, but you impress me.

31:51

You impress me with your mind, your

31:53

heart, and I'm

31:55

very grateful for your beautiful answers. Thank you

31:57

for taking the time really quickly.

31:59

I need to take myself down a peg here, because

32:02

one thing people hate is when you're wrong on the internet.

32:04

I think that Medea didn't kill Jason.

32:07

I think she killed her children. I think

32:09

it's a different Greek wife and a different Greek

32:11

hero that killed him. I

32:14

read this book eight years ago, but I just know

32:16

that, like, if you're a woman and wrong

32:18

on the internet, they're never going to let you live it down.

32:21

So to our listeners,

32:23

please make sure you make a note of

32:26

their correction. Thank

32:28

you very much.

32:30

Thank you, Indra, My goodness, that

32:33

was amazing. Thank you both. You're

32:36

both incredible, incredible people.

32:38

What do you think should we just be really

32:40

open and tell them what's going on?

32:42

I think we should. Yes, yes, yes, So look.

32:45

At those beautiful faces wondering what

32:47

are we talking about.

32:48

I'm nervous. You

32:51

thought that you were just here with me and I what

32:53

eat that? But no, no, no, no,

32:55

our main dater actually has been here listening

32:58

since the absolute beginning.

33:02

Alita, you know, might have an idea of

33:04

who she likes for our main dater, but

33:06

we'll see if we all have a unanimous

33:09

decision. So to both of you muchisi,

33:12

ma graciasos.

33:14

We're gonna ask you for a quick exit and

33:16

we'll bring back our main contestant.

33:24

So Awlita, I have

33:26

a feeling they already know what you're gonna choose.

33:28

Not only because she is

33:31

smart intelligence you

33:34

know about life, about books

33:37

or whatever it is, but the way

33:39

that they come across, with their

33:41

kindness and their beautiful heart and that

33:43

big smile that didn't drop for one second

33:45

throughout the entire show. And I

33:48

know our listeners don't get to see these beautiful

33:50

people, but we get to see

33:53

them. And I'm gonna tell you right now, I'm crying.

33:55

I'm crying because these people really got

33:57

to meet today. I love people who are

34:00

smart and cool. Look forward

34:02

to meeting new people and

34:04

making this world a better place

34:07

to be, which is something that we all

34:09

need to do.

34:10

Absolutely absolutely, I think

34:12

we're pretty unanimous in here, but we'll have a quick

34:15

check with the needs. Do you want to come in and see

34:17

what are your thoughts?

34:18

Yeah?

34:19

So I really liked

34:21

them both a lot, But I will say

34:23

the correction on the

34:26

Wikipedia thing. I was like, exactly.

34:28

I do the exact same thing, and my

34:31

family hates it because I'll

34:33

say something that I'm like, wait, I'm

34:35

not sure, let me double check, and they're like, put

34:37

the phone down. I'm like, no, I need to know what the

34:40

double check. So that

34:43

really, like that would have got to me a lot. But I think I

34:45

could definitely learn from both Emma and

34:47

Indra a lot, you know, because I think

34:50

like Emma, like there as we've been saying,

34:52

Oh, like I know I'd have a lot

34:54

of fun, you know, but Andre also I feel like I would

34:56

have those deeper conversations with which I feel like would

34:58

be really really cool. Emma fits the more

35:00

manic pixie they them thing that

35:02

I was going for. Then Indur goes

35:05

for the nerd that can hang. So like, I

35:07

don't know how we're just going to make her decision because I can't.

35:10

I don't know y'all what you will

35:12

be accepting of whichever. Yeah,

35:15

the decision is, of course, Yes,

35:17

they are both beautiful and smart,

35:20

and I think either one of them would

35:23

be a compliment to you.

35:24

Well, then let's go ahead and bring in our

35:26

contestants and announced

35:33

hello, hello, hello,

35:36

hello. Well this

35:39

was this was a juicy one, a juicy

35:41

one. So we're very excited

35:44

to share the verdict. So Ailita,

35:46

do you want to take it away?

35:48

When you meet human beings who are as amazing

35:51

and joyful and talented and kind

35:53

as you are, it's very difficult

35:55

to make such a decision. Now,

35:57

of course, we have to think about our main

35:59

day. And there's one thing

36:01

that Awilita learned today that

36:04

is very important to bring out, and

36:06

that is dating with

36:08

intention. And because

36:10

of that, I think that our main

36:13

data would be very happy with

36:15

our decision. And our decision

36:18

is that

36:21

you both go out with our main

36:23

data.

36:29

Us that at some point I

36:31

get to date too.

36:33

Well.

36:34

Listen, listen to this, listen to this. Okay,

36:36

we are giving you the forum exactly.

36:39

We have seen who you are and

36:41

if our main data is open to it,

36:43

and you all are, you as

36:45

adults will make your own decisions

36:48

from now forward.

36:49

And with that said, benit come in.

36:55

Nice meeting everybody.

36:56

I like, I even was telling Belita because I

36:58

was like, I don't know how y'all are going to decide, because

37:00

I can't decide.

37:01

So now I don't have to decide. That's

37:04

so exciting. Thank

37:06

you, guys so much for being open to this process.

37:08

I can tell that I can learn so much from

37:10

both of you, and I cannot wait.

37:12

I'm mystatic.

37:14

Yes, yes, yes, yes, so cute.

37:17

What do you all think? Come on, say something, Emma,

37:19

Oh my.

37:19

Gosh, well I already love your energy,

37:23

so I just get great vibes from you both,

37:25

honestly, so.

37:27

Honestly, Indra first impressions.

37:29

Yes, well sure, I

37:31

mean you're sort of presented with what sounds

37:33

like a sort of challenging choice and instead you just kind

37:35

of said yes, sure, like, which

37:37

is I think just the perfect kind of attitude

37:39

to have for things like this. And I love

37:42

your jacket as well.

37:46

Yes, yes, yes, amazing.

37:49

Now we're going to send our contestants

37:51

away for a little virtual

37:53

date.

37:54

I just want to say, keep your mind and

37:56

your heart's open, be true

37:58

to each other, it be friends,

38:00

and see where it all goes.

38:03

Well, Hi, guys, Hello the

38:05

producer that was in the corner. If you guys saw that on zoom,

38:07

that was me this entire time.

38:10

I love that this is way better than Hinge.

38:15

So yeah, I mean, regardless

38:18

of whatever happens from here on out, we should start

38:20

a bar trivia team.

38:21

I love it. I've been wanting to do that

38:23

so bad. I actually okay, first of all,

38:26

let's go where are you guys, just

38:29

so we can like, because I'm in La.

38:30

Are you guys in La too?

38:31

I'm in La?

38:32

Yeah you know, I mean I'm in Hormona. But

38:34

like whatever, we don't.

38:36

That's fine, that's fine. I have a chap

38:38

card will make it work. Yeah me

38:40

too.

38:40

Yeah,

38:43

yes, okay, good?

38:44

Yeah, because I love bar trivia, I love all that type

38:46

of stuff. Like I just I really injured

38:48

too. Let me alsto mention.

38:49

You remind me a lot of one of my friends that I

38:51

met off of lex because we exchanged like cat

38:54

supplies, probably

38:56

like around like July of last year as I

38:59

was going through the breakup, and you were talking about like your

39:01

academia and stuff like that, and like, she reminds

39:03

me so much of my friends Dula from

39:05

Liberal Arts.

39:06

Lesbians are all pretty much the same.

39:08

Yeah.

39:10

So were those Wikipedia articles

39:12

truly random or were you? Like I love marine

39:14

biology and Emily in Paris?

39:16

No, they were truly random.

39:17

Yeah, I mean, I just they weren't truly random

39:19

because you read hit and it's like it's like some

39:22

like Chinese politician with

39:24

like two sentences.

39:25

Or like yeah yeah yeah, so like they like they did.

39:27

I didn't come up with the ideas, but I did talk

39:30

at length about how we're looking

39:32

for life and in other places

39:34

that are at the wrong time.

39:35

Yeah, so I wanted to talk.

39:37

I want to talk to you about brain planet, which is a planet

39:39

whose atmosphere shoots electrical signals like a brain.

39:42

Like that's like, yes, I can't

39:45

stop imagining it. What

39:47

do you do?

39:48

What?

39:48

What is your story?

39:50

I'm I'm in film and I write sketch

39:52

comedy.

39:53

Nice good, Okay, because I was

39:55

gonna say I was laughing at essentially

39:58

once you started to do.

40:01

What the fuck is going on? But I love it.

40:04

This has been awesome, Like I think I

40:06

was, like I was nervous about it this morning.

40:08

I was like running around trying to like set things up.

40:09

But like, this has been amazing,

40:11

and you two are such a big part of that. I'm so happy

40:14

they get that, at least your new friends, maybe

40:16

more we'll see.

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Yes, thank you for taking a chance and having

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such exciting standards.

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You know, they took a while, They took a while to get here,

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but you know, we're working on it.

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I understand.

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Also, Emma, you're talking about the red flags, about

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the like people not being honest about

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what they mean.

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Yeah, did that all the

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time.

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And I'm like, never tell

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me what you think I want to hear.

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Don't do that, yeah, because then it's

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like I'm gonna take that and then you're gonna be like, well

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that's not what I meant.

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And I'm like, well that's what you told me, so

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what do.

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That?

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What you're telling me is true?

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Such like it's like a fear of rejection

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thing. It's like, oh, You're gonna not want me anymore

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if I'm like at all myself, you know,

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if I have.

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And I'm like, you know, like the point

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of the relationship is to be.

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I love your niece. Yeah, I want to fulfill them.

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Well wow, wow wow. I hope

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those sweeties hit it off. Find

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us back here next week as Lena

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and I make some more matches.

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Good work today, Ali, Oh, we did good,

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But I like what I'm looking

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at.

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Date Miaori. The First is a production from

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WV Sound and I Heart Media as my

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Kudura podcast network, hosted by

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me Vico Ortiz, joined by

41:39

the fabulous Leanna Montenegro date

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Mauri. The first is produced by Leo Clem,

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Nico Raguel and Sophie Spencer Zavos.

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Our executive producers are Wilmer Valder, Alma,

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Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel w V

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by Sean Tracy and Sophie Spencer

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Zavos and features original music by

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Alva Morello and Gay Blow Best Special

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Things also to our hopeful romantics this

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week beneath Alan Indra and

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Emma. Additional thanks to Salt

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anything Awalita wouldn't do.

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Just do it better. Okay, besitos