0:06

Liliana, I'm so tired.

0:09

I think my eyes are like crossed.

0:12

I've been in the library all afternoon.

0:15

Come on, what is that you have? Now? A crush

0:17

on some librarian. That's

0:19

the only way I can see you there.

0:21

Honestly, it's a pretty solid guest. But actually

0:23

I've been studying, thank you very

0:25

much.

0:25

I'm a scholar, oh lordy,

0:28

a scholar of what the stars, attachment

0:31

theory, flirtation.

0:34

These are all great guesses, but actually I'm

0:37

a scholar of love.

0:38

Of course, well too, Veico.

0:40

That's our job. That's why we make such

0:43

a good pick. That is true.

0:45

Welcome listeners. This is date

0:47

my ho wi ead that first. I am your host,

0:50

Vico or this joined by my

0:52

beautiful partner in crime, Ail

0:54

lil mon Soon

0:58

i'll introduce our main dater, and

1:00

once we have met them, Lilana will sort

1:02

through three promising contestants

1:04

before choosing who will go on a one

1:06

on one date with our main dater and who

1:08

will be heading back to the apps.

1:11

Listen, this is a tough job, but that's

1:13

why the two of us are here so we can get this

1:15

done.

1:15

Let's do it, and I am so glad

1:17

to be here. With Yolia doing this tough

1:20

job. All right, So

1:23

our main dater this week is Giovanni.

1:26

Giovanni is a current PhD

1:28

candidate for educational policy

1:31

and has a passion for youth

1:33

education, claiming that

1:35

nothing will make you a better person than

1:38

working with young people.

1:39

So true.

1:40

He was raised by a lot of strong women

1:43

who installed a love of family and

1:45

him from a very young age. He

1:47

believes in healthy masculinity

1:49

hells yeah, and wants to foster more

1:52

communities than inspire that. He defines

1:54

himself as a hopeful romantic,

1:56

not a hope less romantic, and wants

1:59

to flirt with a wife his whole

2:01

life honestly same. He

2:04

boths being a great but shut

2:06

dance I love that and

2:08

and even better, reye, don't

2:11

dance. I'm excited about that.

2:13

Do you like to dance with a lover?

2:15

Oh?

2:15

Any which way possible? Vertically,

2:18

horizontally, perpendicular, across

2:20

all uh yeah, just let's just get

2:22

it done.

2:23

A lot of angles right there, it's.

2:25

Dancing, dancing dancing.

2:28

I'm a dance machine, all right? Define

2:31

gravity?

2:31

Yeah?

2:31

Shall we bring in Giovanni please, let's

2:34

meet him. Welcome Giovanni.

2:36

Hello, Hello, Hey

2:38

everyone, how's everyone doing. Thank you so much for

2:40

having me.

2:41

So so good Giovanni, it is such a pleasure to

2:43

have you join us on date my Alida.

2:45

First, let's start off with some basics.

2:48

What is it that we need to know about

2:50

Giovanni.

2:52

Yes, I'm thirty two years old. I'm a

2:54

PhD in education policy. Really passionate

2:56

about your development and helping people

2:58

reach their full potential.

3:00

Passionate. I'm very studious and

3:02

dedicated.

3:03

That noted.

3:04

Okay, you have always been these studios

3:06

and concerned about others.

3:08

I was a big nerd when I was growing up.

3:10

I love to read, and there was something

3:12

that really sparked a passion in me just seeing

3:14

people be able to be their best

3:16

selves and there's anything.

3:17

Better than the community.

3:19

What is your background?

3:21

I am Latino, Mexican.

3:22

America, Mexican American, and you

3:24

speak Spanish.

3:28

You have grandmothers

3:34

with.

3:37

More power to both of those beautiful

3:39

women in your life, absolutely being

3:42

raised, but such powerful women. What

3:44

have you learned in order to you

3:46

know, proceed in your life and find love

3:48

and a good steady relationship.

3:51

How have they influenced your decisions

3:53

and your life.

3:54

It's a very interesting question.

3:56

I think more than anything, it's about breaking

3:58

down general rules and stare types

4:00

and anything that could potentially box us

4:02

in.

4:03

My mom had to be both mother and father, and

4:05

so seeing.

4:06

Her, you know, work hard and make sure

4:08

that we had every opportunity available even

4:10

with the limited resources we.

4:11

Had, was a big influence on me.

4:13

You got to be scrappy, you got to play the hand in your

4:15

a DoPT but as long as you work hard, anything

4:18

as possible.

4:19

So are you an only child? I have

4:21

a brother, okay, older

4:24

or younger than you.

4:25

She is the younger brother.

4:26

Yeah, oh so does he

4:28

look up to you?

4:30

You know? It's interesting because we

4:33

never knew our dad.

4:33

So I feel like I had to be the

4:36

example, kind of like the man of the house quote

4:38

unquote.

4:38

But we definitely work together to get

4:40

through some hard times.

4:42

Do you feel like you normally gravitate

4:44

towards being a caretaker and relationships?

4:46

Man, you're really asking the hard questions right now,

4:48

you know.

4:48

I think the song we're out here, we have

4:51

to know it's.

4:52

A partnership, you know, and we support

4:54

each other.

4:55

So it's not so much about being a caretaker

4:57

and being fixed in that role.

4:59

I think it's more about being dynamic and being supportive.

5:02

What do you want to.

5:03

Be honest, I want to fall in love.

5:04

I think it's the right time in my life and

5:07

I'm ready to explore now.

5:10

When we're reading the bio, you mentioned something around

5:12

healthy masculinity, and one of

5:14

our producers mentioned that you have an idea around

5:16

a retreat for all the toxic gum men out there.

5:19

I want to hear.

5:19

More about that because also I love

5:22

what you say about your family. You witnessed

5:24

a challenge around gender roles and

5:27

I'm just really curious about how that has been

5:29

for you, and also being an example

5:31

to your little brother as well.

5:33

Yeah.

5:33

Absolutely so. I been youth organizing

5:35

since I was fourteen fifteen. Started off with my church.

5:38

It was in the inner city of San Diego. I

5:40

love being around people. I'm super extroverted.

5:42

I love being in community, and

5:45

so that's where it really started. When I started seeing

5:47

how by being an example to others, by

5:49

just vibing with people, you can really experience

5:52

a collective joy. Then I started getting

5:54

involved with other programs. Helped

5:56

start a program that helps kids get to college

5:58

at our firsttrand like me and

6:00

so for me, it was just

6:03

realizing.

6:04

These are the examples that we've all had.

6:06

You know, a lot of my cousins were in gangs when I was growing

6:08

up, and so that was a big influence on me. And

6:11

I started seeing the impact of

6:13

this kind of culture within the friends

6:16

in my friend group, and then soon enough, I started

6:18

to realize there's a really big

6:20

gap that needs to be filled, specifically

6:23

for men of color, and so I

6:25

really want to understand how we can develop

6:27

a healthy masculinity, and not just those around

6:29

us, but in the next generation. And since

6:31

I've worked with Yeah, I've been working with youth

6:33

for ten years, and I've always seen my young

6:36

men even be too tough

6:38

to smile in a photo, or not

6:40

being able to express their feelings. And

6:43

when we don't express what we're feeling, the

6:45

body experiences. I don't know if you've all read

6:47

Body Keeps a Score, a.

6:49

Really popular book.

6:50

Not read it, but I know about the concept.

6:52

And Yeah, you mentioned

6:56

that the warmth of the

6:58

family belongs to the gram others.

7:01

What is that about.

7:02

Yeah, I think it's

7:04

about inheritance and

7:07

respecting our elders, realizing where

7:09

we come from. It's almost like the flower realizing

7:12

the soil that they come from and honoring that connection

7:15

and relationship. And so for

7:17

me, it's really about honoring

7:19

those who come before you.

7:21

You said the one where the rules my

7:23

life respect any

7:26

which way, any any person,

7:29

any place, anytime. Without

7:31

that, it just doesn't flow. But

7:34

speaking of flow, you want to dance, But.

7:37

I love I love dancing.

7:40

It's a very sexy dance.

7:42

It's a pure expression and

7:44

being able to express itself it is important.

7:46

So you dance.

7:49

This.

7:49

To be honest, I can't help it. The beat is on.

7:53

I just do what comes naturally.

7:54

You know you can't hold that moertoricans

7:57

I was like, what's up?

7:59

Come through, Giovanni.

8:02

It was amazing getting to chat with

8:04

you and getting to know you. I think at

8:07

this point will now bring

8:09

in the three contestants who will ring

8:11

for your love by vying

8:14

for Awalita's love first will

8:17

be your right back. Welcome

8:22

back today, Mayawani the first.

8:27

Hello, Welcome

8:29

to our amazing contestants.

8:32

Let's start up with Christine

8:34

and Christine is a twenty eight year old

8:36

who says gabin and yappin

8:38

are some of her favorite pastimes.

8:41

I hear you, Christine, I'm so bad.

8:43

And Christine enjoys the pursuit

8:45

of learning so much

8:47

so that over the pandemic, Christine

8:50

taught herself about.

8:52

One quantum physics. I'm

8:54

into it.

8:55

She has many different gigs including hand modeling,

8:58

video production manager, brand

9:00

ambassador, bartender, and

9:02

atmosphere modeling. Maybe

9:04

we will have a chance to ask about what that means, because

9:07

I'm interested.

9:08

Welcome Christine.

9:10

Hello, and you love to gab, and I

9:12

love to yap and I am happy to be here,

9:14

Gavin and yappen with you guys, Hels.

9:16

Yes, Next we have Jess.

9:19

Jess is a thirty four year old real estate

9:21

owner, kendlmaker, and project

9:24

manager at.

9:24

A private school.

9:26

Her friends would describe her as a sensitive

9:28

firecracker that doesn't take shit

9:31

and works hard because she likes expensive

9:33

things.

9:33

Ay men, fuck yes.

9:35

She's deeply family oriented and interested

9:38

in building towards long term goals that create

9:40

a.

9:40

Strong, happy life.

9:42

She's the youngest of five and

9:45

claims that having four siblings means she

9:47

got to learn from all of their mistakes.

9:49

Welcome Jess,

9:52

happy to be here, every life.

9:54

Yes, and finally

9:57

Anusha.

9:57

Anusha is a twenty six year old actor

10:00

and personal trainer who brings light and life

10:02

wherever she goes. She is from India

10:04

and grew up in Singapore. Ooh,

10:06

she wants a partner who feels like a

10:09

buddy, who can match her and be an

10:11

addition to her very full life.

10:13

Oh lisitos to each and

10:15

every one of you. Welcome.

10:18

Why don't we find out some

10:20

more about these contestants?

10:23

Yeah, yes, let's do it.

10:25

Our main dater this week is getting

10:27

a PhD in education policy.

10:31

I see y'all are like, wow, hot

10:33

into it.

10:34

So in this game of lawful

10:37

loving, we

10:39

are asking you to tell us you're dating

10:42

policies. So we'll

10:44

give you a topic and you'll

10:46

state what policies.

10:48

You might have under that

10:51

law.

10:51

For example, if I said we'd

10:54

be talking about types of

10:56

men you might date, you might

10:58

say date Maya

11:00

Wilita.

11:01

First Proclamation two the

11:04

reauthorization of do not marry

11:06

a man just because

11:08

he serenades you on the guitar see

11:11

year two thousand and five.

11:14

For the first round, let's hear what

11:18

laws you might enact

11:20

around moving a relationship from

11:22

casual too serious? The

11:24

proclamation of d t R

11:27

so dating to relationship.

11:29

Christina's ray Christine, go for it.

11:32

The first of the policies.

11:35

I hereby proclaim

11:38

that you need to be friends with my friends.

11:41

My female friendships are incredibly

11:44

important to me. They are the most fulfilling,

11:46

loving relationships in my life and they

11:49

mean the world to me. And if you're going to be a part

11:51

of my life, you have to actively

11:53

want to be involved in our

11:55

lives collectively. Like you have to get

11:57

along with my friends. We had a paint

12:00

and sip. Why not. My best friend just like became

12:02

official with a boy like two days ago,

12:04

and he got us all flowers

12:06

for Valentine's Day because he was

12:09

like, these girls are important to you,

12:11

so they're important to me, And that's

12:13

the standard.

12:14

Does this guy have a father or grandfather,

12:18

an uncle or anyone available?

12:21

Single breathing and uh And you

12:23

know, as a few years.

12:25

Left, Wilita, I will check and I will

12:27

get back to you.

12:27

Thank you so much.

12:29

Continue you love this policy?

12:31

A new show?

12:32

What is your policy.

12:35

In order to enact the DTR

12:37

conversation? I feel

12:39

like open and honest communication is

12:42

a requisite in any

12:44

relationship.

12:46

Boom prop them my words. I need.

12:47

I feel like I need to have like one of those.

12:49

Like gl a gavel, just like cut

12:52

a requisite Coco.

12:55

Hour.

12:56

Yes, what's your answer? What's your policy?

12:59

So Section one four

13:01

to three point two Dash

13:03

eight stipulates that if a

13:05

future is looking to pursue

13:08

a long term, committed relationship,

13:11

then the brother has to show me that

13:13

he is consistent both

13:15

in words, effort and action.

13:18

Oh day, elected.

13:21

Nice the gavel king,

13:24

King? That was that was excellent.

13:27

Well let's go ahead and move on to the next

13:29

round. The next one is

13:32

the BDE Act

13:34

of Sex and Intimacy. Let's

13:37

hear what laws you

13:39

might enact around sex

13:42

and intimacy?

13:44

The bd E Act? What

13:46

does that stand for?

13:47

Big take energy?

13:48

I was mouthing it, but I was on me. I know, I didn't

13:50

know it's it is big dake energy.

13:52

Well, lovely, thank you for informing me

13:54

what BD means. Clearly, I

13:57

don't have any big,

14:00

durable and enforced Okay,

14:03

okay, So what is the BD Act

14:05

of Sex and Intimacy?

14:07

Christine?

14:08

See you?

14:09

What's my proclamation? My agreement? I

14:11

don't know, like keeping the excitement alive,

14:14

especially like in a long term relationship. I

14:16

don't want it to ever devolve into

14:18

just like well it's Wednesday, and you

14:20

know what that means, Like that's not the relationship

14:22

that I want.

14:23

Keeping things fresh, keeping things

14:25

new. I'm into that, Jess,

14:28

what's your proclamation? What's your policy?

14:32

Well, the requirement is that he

14:34

prioritizes my orgasm because

14:36

he's gonna get his no matter what. But

14:39

I need to make sure that he's making

14:41

moves, licking things, doing

14:44

all the things I love to make sure I'm

14:46

pleased.

14:47

Yes, yes, yeah,

14:50

girls, very here for this policy.

14:53

Yeah, a new show. What is yours?

14:56

Be clean? Like,

15:00

I'm sorry, nothing's gonna happen if you're gross.

15:04

No, it was prior to

15:07

commencement.

15:07

Right, there's no commencement that's gonna happen.

15:10

If I know that you're in a room because

15:12

I smelled you, I.

15:15

Movie, yes, it's true, and I honor

15:17

this policy. Okay, for our

15:21

final law, what

15:23

laws would you enact around

15:27

DM law number sixty

15:29

nine? How would you legislate

15:31

surrounding dms from an

15:34

interested partner?

15:36

Wow?

15:36

So it's like you're getting dms from people who are interested

15:39

in being your partner and.

15:41

You're with someone at this time whilst

15:43

this is happening.

15:43

Yeah, I'm into it.

15:44

Oh no, because I'm like, if I'm

15:47

seeing someone and i'm getting dms, we

15:49

share giggle. What Like,

15:51

if I'm getting a DM and I'm seeing someone, I show

15:54

them the DM from this random other person and

15:56

we look at it together and giggle.

15:57

Okay, Cue, that's a policy. There we go,

16:00

Christine, go for it.

16:01

I do want to giggle. I want to be in kahoots.

16:04

That's like, that's the whole thing. I

16:06

want to be in kahoots. So like, ideally

16:09

the pickup lines and the DM will

16:11

be really bad and then we can laugh at it together

16:13

and then riff and make better ones and turn that

16:15

into a bit.

16:16

I love a bit.

16:17

I love a bed here here Okay, So we

16:19

have right, we have a collaboration

16:22

policy between Anusha and Christine

16:24

Jess. Do you have an added policy to this or

16:26

do you want to like come in and be like, this is a collaboration

16:29

policy and all these three lawyers

16:32

signed and petitioned.

16:34

No.

16:34

I love the collaboration. However, I

16:37

like to work in tears. So if

16:39

it's someone you don't know and they're just shooting their

16:41

shot, I would prefer to ignore it.

16:43

If it's somebody that you maybe have some

16:45

sort of rapport with the there has been some flirting

16:48

previously, but now you're do

16:50

you don't want to engage in it? Double tapping

16:52

the message great, But if

16:55

it's to the point where somebody is

16:58

intent I'm trying to get my and

17:00

I'm with someone at this time, then I

17:03

like to set up boundary and say, hey, I'm

17:05

not interested, no, thank you, something.

17:08

To that effect.

17:09

All right, thank you all so much for playing this

17:11

first round. So it's time to play another

17:13

game. Before Alita sends one

17:16

of our lovely contestants home, our

17:18

main dater says, nothing will

17:20

make you a better person than working

17:23

with young people. In this game.

17:25

I know, I know everyone

17:27

is assuming. Listen, in

17:30

this game of Baby Decoder, we'll

17:32

give you a real life quote

17:35

from a real life young person,

17:39

and you'll need to tell us how

17:41

would you respond. Let's start off with something

17:44

simple. Let's say little

17:46

little Liana came up to you

17:49

and.

17:49

Said, Mitra, I

17:51

have a little bit rat.

17:53

Rusco is his name, and he's

17:56

really nice and I'm in

17:58

love with him. But

18:01

I also love you. I

18:04

want to love you, but I already

18:06

love my little rat. I

18:09

don't know what to do.

18:10

Oh no, Leana is

18:13

crying.

18:16

Christina, you want to respond to littlely Leana

18:18

out here having a canandrum over a little rat

18:20

who she loves and also loves you, but she loves

18:22

the rat before.

18:23

I don't know what to do.

18:25

Oh, Liliana, it's okay.

18:27

The best thing about love is

18:30

that there is enough love for everyone.

18:32

You can love me and the rat, and you can

18:34

love us in different ways.

18:37

Beautiful Jess,

18:39

how do you respond to little Ileana over

18:41

here?

18:42

The thing about love, Leanna is I'm gonna echo

18:44

what Christine says. There's no living on it, so

18:47

you can love Roscoe all you want

18:49

and you can still love me too.

18:52

I love that.

18:53

Thank you, Anusha.

18:54

What do you think?

18:55

How do you respond to little Leana loving

18:58

Roscoe and another.

19:00

I would say, okay, munch chin, there

19:02

is big, big love in the world, and when we're feeling

19:04

big, big emotions, we.

19:06

Have space for a lot of people.

19:08

And then I would tell her that I

19:10

have a friend who has two pet rats

19:13

and they apparently really like whole

19:15

wheat spaghetti and tomato sauce. And then

19:17

we would go make it.

19:18

I am going to sprouts tonight.

19:20

Oh it's a fancy rat. That

19:22

was amazing, Wow, incredible.

19:24

Okay, Now, kid wisdom

19:26

number two? How would you respond

19:29

it, little vehicle came up

19:31

to you, and same.

19:35

Love is a thing that comes

19:38

from your insights. And when

19:40

you have love, you you

19:42

can do that thing to them.

19:45

And I want to be in love, so

19:47

I can do that thing to

19:50

them too.

19:51

Me telling me too, Anush.

19:54

Well, I feel like there's always a time and

19:56

a place to do that thing when you're a little

19:58

older. I don't think right now is a great time. But

20:01

also when you do get a little

20:03

older and you really love someone or really

20:06

like someone, you can

20:09

obviously do that thing as long as both of

20:11

you or all of you want to.

20:13

And you need to make sure that everyone who's participating

20:17

also wants the same thing that you do, and you

20:19

need to make for you ask right, Okay,

20:22

wow.

20:22

I didn't know you could do it with more than one person.

20:25

That's a question for your mommy and daddy.

20:27

Actually, I get paid twenty dollars

20:29

an hour to babysit.

20:30

You, so, sister, good

20:33

Jessica, what do you think

20:35

of a little Vico and that that thing

20:38

little Vico?

20:39

Oh, so that that

20:41

thing that you want to do? You know, we

20:44

can express it in different ways. I

20:47

think as a kid right now,

20:50

we should limit the expression of love.

20:52

To listen, we could do hugs. How does

20:54

a hug feel? Hug feels good?

20:56

But I really want to do the thing, you

20:59

know.

21:00

So the thing about growing up is that you get

21:02

to experiment as you get older. So

21:05

let's wait to your teenage years that we can revisit

21:07

this conversation.

21:08

I don't want to be I'm grown up now, Christine,

21:13

how do your respond to little Vigo.

21:15

Really want to do little Vico?

21:17

Well, I totally understand

21:20

that you want to express that you

21:22

are in love, and I get it, and that

21:24

is a wonderful thing. What you're

21:26

talking about. Specifically, that's

21:29

an adult way to express law, and we're

21:31

you're not an adult yet, and I know that can be

21:33

really, really frustrating. But the

21:36

good news is that there are so

21:38

many other ways that you can still

21:40

show other people that you love them. You can

21:43

get them a gift with ice cream,

21:45

like an ice cream that's exactly right.

21:48

Or you can find a really pretty rock

21:50

outside that reminds you of them.

21:52

And throw it at them.

21:53

You well, that's different.

21:57

Literally, Leanna's a little different from little Vegan.

22:00

That's a little different.

22:02

I want to catch their attention.

22:06

I would maybe advise against

22:09

throwing rocks at our friends.

22:11

You can also, like Jess said,

22:14

you can absolutely show your friends

22:16

that you love them by giving them hugs as

22:18

long as you're okay with giving a hug and they're

22:20

okay with receiving a hug. Remember, we have to ask,

22:23

and I understand that you want to have that experience,

22:25

and you'll get there. You'll get there later, but

22:28

right now, there are other ways that you can show

22:30

people that you love them.

22:32

Okay, very good, nice,

22:34

I think, I think, yeah,

22:36

okay, this.

22:38

These are great.

22:39

My god, I can't believe they're actual quotes from like

22:41

kids, but it makes sense. Thank

22:45

you, Thank you three so much for participating

22:48

on these amazing games.

22:50

This is always a really hard

22:53

thing to do, it is, and because

22:55

it is so hard to do, we

22:58

have chosen to not do the hard

23:00

thing and keep all of you for the

23:02

next round.

23:04

So what's gonna.

23:04

Happen now is that each of you

23:06

is going to have a one on one

23:10

where it's just gonna be a one on one

23:12

with you and Liliana.

23:14

So let's start

23:16

with the Anusha.

23:18

I'm gonna go ahead and hand you over to Lila

23:21

was to enjoy.

23:22

How are you Anusha, I'm doing well,

23:25

thank you?

23:25

How are you?

23:26

I am doing amazing. I want

23:28

to know more about you. I want

23:30

to know when it comes to your

23:33

past love relationships, what

23:35

have you learned from them and

23:37

what is it you're looking for for the new one.

23:40

I think the biggest thing I've learned

23:42

is you can still be your own independent

23:45

person when you were with someone. I

23:47

think growing up, I thought you had to do something

23:49

with them all the time, you would always be around

23:51

this person. But it's so much

23:54

more enriching to be able to have your own lives

23:56

and come together to celebrate your own lives.

23:58

And I think that's something that I'm really looking forward

24:00

to now because I want someone to

24:03

be their whole, full self and I can be my full self.

24:05

Well, we can be our full selves together.

24:07

What else are you looking for in that person besides

24:10

that togetherness.

24:11

I'm very outgoing and I really like to

24:13

do things. But I feel like if I'm with someone

24:16

who doesn't like to do things, I

24:18

can get into that pattern as well. So

24:20

I really want someone who's like active

24:22

and wants to go out and I want to say

24:24

out. I mean, like, oh, it's a Sunday morning, let's go to the

24:26

farmer's market, or hey, like, there's

24:29

this brewery down the street. We should go for a

24:31

jog to the brewery and then get a beer in the afternoon.

24:34

Just like stuff that gets us out of the house

24:36

and gets us meeting people and

24:39

being with community. That's

24:41

the biggest thing.

24:42

You like to have fun adventures? Well

24:44

you're young, of course, everybody, even

24:46

me at this age, I still like to have adventures.

24:49

So what are your biggest red flags and

24:51

what is something you do not want

24:54

on that next relationship.

24:55

I was thinking about this yesterday, and my biggest red

24:57

flag, I think is if I'm

25:00

seeing someone and they describe every single

25:02

person that they have seen in the past as crazy or

25:04

psychotic, I don't want to be around

25:06

them because if every single person you've ever dated

25:08

is crazy and or psychotic, the only common

25:10

denominator and here is you. And

25:13

so that's the biggest red flag

25:15

for me.

25:16

Are you looking for love, marriage

25:19

and children eventually?

25:20

Yes, But my career is really important to me and

25:23

I really like to work. I love to work.

25:26

I will say, like long hours and long days do

25:28

come with a territory, but also so

25:31

not long days and not long.

25:32

Hours as well.

25:33

Having someone that also understands that, like if I'm

25:35

going to be somewhere for twelve to fourteen hours and I can't

25:37

really speak to you, like, respecting

25:39

that is really important to me because I would respect

25:42

that.

25:42

For you with the caveat of.

25:44

Like I'm good at communicating, like,

25:46

hey, I won't be able to talk to you for X y Z

25:48

time mm hmmm, because I

25:50

don't feel like it's not polite to like not tell

25:53

someone you're not going to speak to.

25:54

Them absolutely, you know what I mean.

25:55

So I like I will be like, hey, I'm not going to be here

25:57

from the stay to this day because I'm working on something, but

26:00

at this time I buy be free or in the night

26:02

I might be free.

26:03

Yeah.

26:04

I don't think I answer your question, but that's you

26:06

did.

26:06

You did. Thank you so much, my love.

26:10

Yes, thank you so so much. Let's

26:12

bring in Jess. Welcome

26:16

back, Jess. Hello, Hello,

26:18

I am handing you over for a little guffe

26:21

Alida, take it away.

26:24

How are you?

26:24

Jess amazing?

26:28

You know that's my little sister's

26:30

name, Jessica, and since

26:33

I was seventeen when she was born, and I've always

26:35

called her jess my muniekuita,

26:38

So you'll be my munaquita right now. Now

26:42

tell me about your life. You're a very

26:44

busy woman. You have a career,

26:47

a couple of jobs that you do.

26:49

Do you have time and place for a relationship?

26:53

I do?

26:54

You know, you make a time for the things that you want

26:56

to invest in. And although I am

26:58

a busy gal, I do a side

27:00

time for meeting new people and

27:02

investing with somebody that I do feel

27:05

since you're connection with a lot of

27:07

that is usually in the evenings and weekends due

27:09

to my work schedule, but around make

27:11

it happen.

27:12

When was your last relationship?

27:14

My last relationship was three years

27:16

ago?

27:17

And what happened there?

27:17

Can you tell us he and I

27:19

were together for eight years?

27:22

Wow, that's a long time.

27:24

It was a long term relationship.

27:26

We got together in our mid twenties,

27:29

and you know, anybody

27:31

that's grown up will tell you that so much changes

27:34

from your mid twenties to your early thirties.

27:36

I think there's a lot of self discovery

27:38

that comes into the picture. And we

27:41

realized that we just wanted different things out of life,

27:44

and so we're growing in two separate directions

27:46

and as painful as it was the right

27:48

thing to do was to end the relationship.

27:50

But you have been dating since no

27:53

for two years.

27:54

I was in hermit mode and just trying

27:56

to kind of reel from that heartbreak. It

27:58

was a little different, you know, completely in love with the

28:00

guy, so it wasn't like there was some sort of transgression.

28:03

It was just an honest conversation of

28:05

where we were and what we wanted. And

28:08

in that time, I kind of came

28:10

back home to myself, as they say, started

28:13

to learn just a few different things about who

28:15

I am now. And last

28:17

years when I started venturing off into

28:20

dating Alita, it's a mess

28:22

out there.

28:24

You're telling me I've been single for fourteen years

28:28

that I have a very very important

28:30

question for you. Oh tell me you

28:33

like to dance, Saisa.

28:39

Regaton for sure.

28:45

That's where it's at. Okay,

28:49

okay? And you love to cook or

28:52

do you want somebody to cook for you?

28:54

Somebody has to cook for me.

28:56

I am a magical cleaner,

28:58

Okay, I will pick up that kitchen. You

29:00

spick and Spanish, but somebody

29:02

needs to actually chop the ingredients and put

29:05

it all together.

29:07

And you speak Spanish, I do,

29:11

Okay, Well, what is that one big

29:14

green flag you are looking forward

29:16

to seeing in that new relationship.

29:18

If we can.

29:19

Laugh together, that's a huge

29:21

green flag. I don't really go for like the

29:23

mysterious serious kind. No,

29:26

I need them to be laid back, crack a little

29:28

joky joke. Laughter is the best

29:30

medicine.

29:31

It truly is. And on that note, thank you

29:33

so much, my.

29:34

Love, Thank you so much,

29:36

Jess.

29:37

Let's bring Christine hell

29:40

Loo, Christine. I'm

29:42

gonna hand you over for our little guffesh

29:45

Alita they get away.

29:47

Yes, Oh are you, my love?

29:49

Oh I'm good.

29:50

How are you?

29:51

I am doing amazing. I'm just ready

29:53

to ask you a lot of personal questions.

29:56

I'm excited. Let's get into it.

29:58

Let's talk about love. Yeah,

30:00

that's something you're looking for.

30:02

Oh my god, it is. I am such

30:04

an absolute, hopeless romantic

30:07

and have realized

30:09

recently that I've never been in a relationship

30:12

where it's equally fulfilling for me as

30:14

it is for the other person. I've like been

30:16

with men where it's like I'm their

30:19

girlfriend, but I'm also their therapist

30:21

and their life coach and their mom in

30:24

a way, and pouring

30:26

so much into somebody and then not

30:28

receiving the same amount back,

30:31

and that's why I've been single for like the last

30:33

few years. But I remember thinking like, is

30:36

this what the rest of my life is gonna look like?

30:38

Like?

30:38

Is this it?

30:39

There's so much more.

30:41

I know, and I know that it exists

30:43

and I've seen it. I know it's out there.

30:45

I heard someone say once I am

30:47

not a hopeless romantic. I'm a

30:50

hopeful romantic. What

30:52

do you think of that?

30:53

I love that so much more.

30:56

I love that so much more.

30:58

That's so sweet. That is a much better to

31:00

put it. I am. I am a hopeful romantic.

31:02

I'm gonna start saying that.

31:03

You are ready for love and a relationship

31:06

and to build on that and work on that

31:08

and eventually maybe mary have children

31:11

down the road.

31:12

The kid's thing is definitely a conversation

31:15

that would need to be had because there's a lot of

31:17

factors that go into it. And if

31:19

I decide that's what I want, I want to make

31:21

sure that I do that right

31:24

and that I'm in a place in my life where I

31:27

don't ever have to worry about making ends

31:29

meet to be able to give that kid what

31:31

it needs. Like, I think I'm very aware

31:34

of what it takes to raise a child

31:36

in a way where they grow up to be a person that

31:38

like I'd be proud of raising, and like they have

31:41

all the everything that they would

31:43

need to have a good life, and that's

31:45

non negotiable.

31:46

Well, you're an amazing young lady, and I can see

31:48

that happening. However, as the years progress,

31:51

like when I was young until now, and you all

31:54

of you who are young in this world, unfortunately

31:56

we have to put up with the world changing and

31:58

not becoming the best that it could be.

32:00

But on the contrary, so it

32:03

all starts at home, and it all

32:05

starts with date Maya, Wilita, let's see what we can

32:07

do for you.

32:07

Yes, yes, it does.

32:12

Amazing. Thank you so so

32:14

much.

32:15

Y'all have been so amazing

32:17

and candid and honest and

32:20

earnest.

32:20

And beautiful all around

32:23

wonderful.

32:24

And we haven't

32:28

we're adorable.

32:29

We are not.

32:31

We have been keeping a little secret because

32:33

that's just what we do here. So our

32:36

secret is that our

32:38

main data has been undercovered

32:40

this whole time, listening since

32:43

the beginning, I

32:45

know, gasp, mouth.

32:47

Agape, they're all dropping to the floor

32:50

right now.

32:50

Yeah, we deserve the Chuang clap for

32:52

this one, because they have been so

32:55

honest with us, and we've been we've.

32:57

Been pushing them, and it's like, here's

33:00

the thing.

33:00

Though, Awalita might have an idea of

33:03

who she likes for him, but we're gonna have you

33:05

step out for a second to see we.

33:06

Have a unanimous decision.

33:08

In the meantime, Muchisima's

33:10

gracias to the both of you, besos

33:12

aurasos. Truly, it's been so

33:15

much fun. Thank you so much for playing. We'll

33:17

deliberate and then we'll bring it back in and the

33:19

damn thing will

33:21

be your right back. Welcome

33:26

back today, may Alili the first.

33:30

Okay, Awalita, what do you think

33:32

after all these caffesitos, all these.

33:34

Games, all three of them

33:36

are pretty smart and beautiful

33:38

and I think they would have an amazing

33:41

time with Giovanni, there

33:44

is one that has stood out the whole

33:46

time.

33:47

Yeah, I think we both are

33:49

in tuned in a line that Christine has been a

33:51

standout. I will say that having

33:53

a caffeito with Jess definitely, and.

33:55

She opened up a lot during that

33:57

cafecito. I like them both New

34:00

champ she's beautiful, she's

34:03

young, she's got all this energy,

34:05

but I think there's a little

34:07

more structure to the other two ladies,

34:10

and I think a stronger base.

34:12

Yeah, and I think Giovanni would get along

34:14

with that, but I feel like Christine is definitely

34:16

the one.

34:18

Giovanni, what are your thoughts.

34:21

I still think that there's still so much more to learn about

34:23

a person, but at least so far, it would be

34:25

really interesting to geek out about quantum physics

34:28

and the intellectual approach to everything

34:30

we've been talking about.

34:32

Yes, yes, yes, yes, okay,

34:34

cor on the same books. It's happening,

34:36

So I guess it's time.

34:38

Let's go for it. Beauties

34:47

in the House.

34:48

Hello, Hello, What a

34:50

joy it has been to get to know

34:52

you all in this episode.

34:53

Truly, it's just been so great to see

34:55

you from the very start all the way to hear I

34:58

know it's quick, but at the same time, we've

35:00

gotten to.

35:00

Know so much about y'all.

35:01

And so with that said, Awlita,

35:04

do you want to take it away?

35:06

Listen, beautiful women, you are

35:08

each talented, powerful,

35:11

powerful in your way of thinking on

35:14

how you approach your life and

35:16

the things that you are committed to, and

35:19

I know that each of you will have an amazing

35:22

and successful life. When it comes

35:24

to this show, though, we have to keep

35:26

in consideration what our main data

35:29

would like and how one

35:31

of you matches a little

35:33

bit more with him. So, without

35:36

going any further, the one person

35:39

that will be dating

35:42

our special main data

35:46

is.

35:48

Christine,

35:54

Jess and Anusha.

35:56

Thank you so much for being here

35:58

today.

35:59

Please stay in touch because

36:01

we've absolutely adored you.

36:03

Thank you, good luck on your date. Thank

36:06

you.

36:14

Amazing.

36:15

Wow, here's the moment. How are

36:17

you feeling, Christine?

36:18

I'm so excited.

36:19

I don't know.

36:19

I wasn't expecting that. I'm like, I like,

36:22

he's been like listening to the whole conversation.

36:24

I'm like, oh, I don't know.

36:26

Well, without further Ado, Giovanni,

36:29

do you want to turn on your camera and on

36:31

mute yourself?

36:33

Wellah, hi,

36:36

how are you?

36:37

I'm good?

36:37

How are you doing good?

36:40

It's been an interesting experience to say the least.

36:42

Right.

36:43

Yeah, well, you've been like lurking

36:45

in the background underknown, which

36:48

is crazy.

36:49

Doomanni, what are your first impressions on Christine?

36:52

I really appreciate it. How smart you were. You were an

36:54

intellectual, very powerful speaker

36:57

as well. I forget the two words

36:59

you use, Gibb, and

37:03

those are yeah right, you

37:05

know, And I think conversation is more than anything

37:07

because it's really a relationship is just an ongoing conversation

37:10

about love.

37:11

And so maybe we can start off as friends

37:13

and then see where the conversation takes us.

37:17

Love.

37:17

That

37:20

that's interesting.

37:21

I think the best relationships come out

37:23

of deep friendships, and that's the foundation

37:25

anyway, Right, we have to

37:27

be best friends first.

37:29

I love I was gonna ask Christine

37:32

like her first impressions, but I guess like that's

37:34

uh, I still yeah,

37:37

what do you think?

37:38

Your voice is what surprised me the most,

37:41

that like you have this it's like I,

37:43

I don't know what I was expecting

37:45

you to, but like with

37:47

your look, it's like I wasn't expecting

37:49

this very like methodical

37:52

kind of way of speaking, but like musical

37:54

and like a low tambur it's beautiful voice.

37:59

Amazing.

38:00

So now we're going to send our contestants away for a little

38:02

virtual day.

38:04

I love you guys. Oh my goodness,

38:06

you're a beautiful match. And don't forget

38:08

that. Okay.

38:11

I think the one thing that I know about you is that you're

38:13

getting your PhD.

38:15

Yes in what I'm

38:17

doing it at policy and human development, So looking at

38:20

the ways that students learn math, looking at

38:22

conceptualization and wellness. How do people

38:24

care for themselves in the contexts of schools?

38:26

How do schools influence our conceptualization of

38:28

wellness?

38:29

WHOA, that is such

38:31

a cool thing to be studying and moving

38:34

into the world with.

38:35

Yeah, and you're a writer. I really respect

38:37

that. Do you ever write poetry

38:40

anything?

38:40

Like? Creative?

38:41

Mainly poetry?

38:42

Actually mainly poetry. Okay, let me

38:44

hear poetry.

38:46

The job that I have, it's like I started off

38:48

as like creative director

38:51

and producer and then they were like,

38:53

actually, just kidding, we're pivoting and we want you

38:55

to host the show. And I was like, okay,

38:57

yeah, it's I mean, it's

39:00

kind of just everything

39:03

like I can't do like the monotony

39:05

of like the same exact job

39:07

every single day. Like having

39:09

the ebb and flow of like being

39:11

able to be creative in different ways

39:13

is exciting to me. Are you like

39:15

a spiritual person? Like you seem

39:18

very grounded and collected.

39:20

It's taken a long time to get there, to be honest,

39:23

but I'm very spiritual yet, and I

39:25

don't know if you believe in the horsecopes thing.

39:27

But I'm an aries. I'm a fire sign.

39:29

I love aries, and I do I'm very

39:31

into it.

39:32

Have you read an me Joe Despencer?

39:33

Oh my gosh, no, I

39:36

have one of his books. I haven't gotten around

39:38

to it yet. But which one.

39:41

Bringing the Habit of being yourself?

39:42

Breaking the habit of being I don't think it's that one,

39:44

but I'm going to write it down.

39:46

He probably has a bunch.

39:47

But when he talks about quantum physics, about us

39:49

being energy, frequency.

39:51

Vibration, that is my love language.

39:53

I love language for sure.

39:55

I love those quantum particles.

39:57

I love that love.

39:59

I love the they're valuable. I love

40:01

that they change when we observe them.

40:04

Oh my god, no.

40:06

I love that. That's something that like,

40:08

you're into and you're excited about.

40:10

So what makes you curious about

40:12

that?

40:13

I have just always

40:15

been really

40:18

enamored with the universe and deeply

40:20

intimated. I don't I don't

40:22

know. I don't even know where. Actually

40:24

I think it was the Stargate documents.

40:27

Do you know what I'm talking about?

40:29

I'm so excited that I can learn from you.

40:32

Because you're asking me so many questions, which is

40:34

lovely and I love that, but.

40:35

Also yeah,

40:38

that's right. I mean I feel like.

40:40

I will just like Gab and gab and Gab like

40:42

I will just keep.

40:43

Talking to you know.

40:44

And it's funny because you mentioned, well,

40:47

I asked about the curiosity about the universe, so

40:49

for you to be curious about it, to move

40:51

into that space consciousness,

40:53

et cetera. I respect that and it

40:55

tells me a lot more about you than anything else

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could.

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I'm so excited that we're

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like so aligned.

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Well wow, wow, wow.

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I hope those sweeties hit

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it off.

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Find us back here next week as Leanna

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and I make some more matches.

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Good work today, Ali, Oh, we did good.

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I like what I'm looking at.

41:26

Date Maaori.

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The First is a production from w V Sound

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and I Heart Media as my Utura podcast

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network, hosted by me Vico Ortiz,

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joined by the Fabulous Lenna Montenegro

41:37

Bait ma Auri. The First is produced by Leo

41:39

Clem, Nico Raguel, and Sophie Spencer

41:42

Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer

41:44

Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel

41:46

w V Sound. This episode

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was edited by Sean Tracy and additional

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help from producer Danielle Koneg and

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features original music.

41:54

By Alva Morello and Gabe Lopez.

41:56

Special things also to our hopeful romantics.

41:59

This week, Giovanni, Anusia, Christine

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and Jess.

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Additional thanks to Salt and Line Media.

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For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the

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iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

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or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.

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See you next week and in the meantime, don't

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do anything Awalita wouldn't do.

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Just do it better. Besitos