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What is this is Date my Aurilia.

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First, I am your host, Vico

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Ortiz, joined by our fabulous.

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Emphasis on the fabulous.

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Absolutely, we

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know that the world is changing fast and every day

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there's new technologies and inventions

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In two issues

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because let me tell you, if anyone has

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gotten catfished or scanted has

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been me. Yeah,

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those stories there, But have we done

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that trademark yet? We have? Haven't We

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We we have to. We have to and going

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with us and

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motives out there, we are ready

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to find Perla the

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best person possible.

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A little Bertie told us that

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our main data this week grew

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up watching Thelenvelah.

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No, did you watch them growing up?

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I'm assuming yes.

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Well we had to. They were on all

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the time. But theelenovelas come

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on, they're so dramatic, all

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the passions the drama the Latinos have.

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Are So wait, do you think that

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then novelas gave us like a warped

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idea of things like love

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and romance?

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Excolutely Yeah, I agree, it's just totally

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twisted.

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Yes, time to meet today's

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main dater, Bela. She is

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a content creator and freelance

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model who recently quit her job

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to pursue her passion, which

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is writing.

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Or her films.

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Ak Berla

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told us it's been quite a long time

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since she's filled a crush, so

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maybe we can help her treat a few

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well scares for.

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Some some moo shit sweet

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moments.

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Yeah, bel come on

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in.

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Hello everyone, thanks

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for having.

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Me blessed

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and that's a light Berlac. Take

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a second and tell us about yourself.

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Okay, So I'm fer La. I'm

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originally from Dominican Republic. Yes,

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I moved to the US when I was nine to

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the Bronx, New York. So I grew up in the Bronx,

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New York. And then I went off to

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college in Maine and I majored

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in film and theater. Yes, and then

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after I moved to LA And now I've

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been modeling and I've been writing.

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What do I love. I love Dominican

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food, Dominican music.

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I love Caribbean culture. I

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love traveling. I love horror

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movies. I loved Lenove Last, I

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love drama. I

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hate a plant. Like

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we are little tattoos. And

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I've recently become a home

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not a homebody, but like now I have an appreciation

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for being home that I didn't in the past.

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Oh, I feel that hard.

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I'm a very big extrovert. I'm a Leo an

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Aquarius sun and an Aquarius rising,

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so balanced and yeah,

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I'm just like excited to have

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a little smooch.

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Yeah, yeah, are

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amazing.

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Okay, well what's that

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that? What questions do you have?

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ROBERTA?

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For goodness, tell

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a wilitam? What are you looking for?

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Oh? I just want to date someone

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who like I am so one hundred f comfortable

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because I'm I'm a little weird though. I like to

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make like funny sounds and I'm

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very specific and like I like wear

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snacks.

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When did these little weird noises

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come in all the time? Can

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you give us an example?

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My thing is that like mid conversation,

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I'll just be like raw and

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like when I have to explain myself to

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people, why make little noises. I'm like,

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are they judging me? So I want someone who's just

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gonna be like, oh my gosh, you just raw. That's so weird,

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but like I like it.

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So someone who's curious and compassionate and someone

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who's not going to be like judging, Yes,

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not it I love.

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So tell me, why is it that you think that you haven't

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had a serious crush in a while.

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A lot of the dating I've done in LA just

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felt like, honestly a waste of time,

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where like nothing gets talked about,

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you know, they don't want to actually get to know me, they

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just want to you know, and like it

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just turned me off on dating, Like I just rather

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hang out with my friends and get that type of

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love.

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Then what are some things that make you

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feel like you can trust somebody?

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Definitely the way they interact with my family

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MM for example, like my brother is my roommate,

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and like, if you're interacting

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weird with my family and my friends, immediately

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can't trust you. If they're able to respect the people

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around me with a lot of respect

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them, I can trust them to like respect me

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and like care for me.

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So how can I wlita help you find what it

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is? That your heart desires.

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I want you to encourage me to like try

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someone new who I'm not used to, but at the same

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time, like hunker down on me, Like is

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this really who you're feeling now?

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Would you rather start in Adela

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Norrela or be the star

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of your own horror film or is

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it a mix of both?

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Give us a little bit of a plot line.

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I think I would rather start in a horror movie hmmm,

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or because horror

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movie is a type of drama that

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is so similar to the novella as they use so

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many of the same like tactics involved. But

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I think horror is my like love,

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so I'll start there, but then I'll make my way.

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To You can definitely have

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a campy horror moment,

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you know, camp be horror what?

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And I think that because of camp you're

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able to have the love and horror

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together exactly.

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Oh my god, Like I'm.

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Battling a demon with my partner, like you know what

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I mean.

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I love that. I love that.

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Now.

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I know that you mentioned that you're really close to your family, and

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that's also you know, a way

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for you to gauge whether that person is

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someone who's trustworthy, has your family

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voiced what type of partner

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they envision for you, and does that

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vision align with your vision? Yes

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and no, Okay, tell me about it.

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My mom is always like, first

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of all, she's always like, don't date the Menican bed.

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So that's yeah,

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say that again.

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Like noos,

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I'm gonna know whatevergether

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idea.

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I goes, there's

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those everywhere, and that's

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what I tell her.

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I'm like anywhere. But I think for

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me, it's like I grew up in

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a lot of Latino like Latinos grew up in a

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very like men are

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the breadwinners, the like providers

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blah blah blah, and like the

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things my parents bring up or like what I should look

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for in a partner. I also hope that I

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bring that to my partner, you know what I mean, like

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the same level of like trust, love,

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respect.

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And so if that hasn't happened yet, what

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kind of guys do you usually find yourself with?

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Oh?

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I see those guys rolling.

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Roll honestly, like

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after I left college, Like I haven't really

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been looking for a serious thing, to be

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honest like, so it literally

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is the way you put out like if you don't want to find

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like a serious relationship you're not gonna find one. Sometimes

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you do. I wasn't out here looking for

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like, oh, the next person that I'm

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going to settle down with for a bit, like or forever.

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So I feel like I've attracted a

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mess.

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Now are your parents still together?

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What are some aspects of that dynamic

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that you've witnessed as their kid

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that you want to

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carry on and some things that you've

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learned from their relationship You're like, I don't want

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to do that.

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For things I do want to carry My mom is a

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boss like my mom, she's a boss

8:32

lady. And I always

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love that my dad let my mom be

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her most authentic self, Like she

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is loud and where's

8:42

whatever she wants is opinionated,

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and he like you know, supports that, and like

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I want someone like that because especially for me, like I

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model a lot, and like I've

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been a situation where a guy's been like, oh, like I don't

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like you posted Katie photos and I'm

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just like, excuse me exactly?

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And what is it that you don't want for

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my parents?

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I think I think a lot of like

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parents n in America are not comfortable

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talking about the uncomfortable. Yeah,

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when they're not happy, they just let it.

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Build a lot of resentment.

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Yeah, and then it levels up, and I feel like I want a relationship

9:16

where I could be like, Yo, that pissed me off that

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you did that, Like that made me so mad,

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or hey, I really like that you did that.

9:23

You know, more communication and like more

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honesty.

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I've realized from what you said earlier

9:30

around guys that you did in the past who

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don't feel comfortable when you post

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stuff online or whatnot. Do

9:37

you feel like there's a pattern in like ending

9:39

with guys who point fingers

9:41

other than looking at themselves and like taking accountability

9:44

for their own insecurity and like working

9:46

on themselves.

9:46

Is that something that you've noticed.

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Yes, So looking for somebody who's the office

9:50

of someone who's able to like be like, hey, I'm feeling vulnerable

9:53

about x y Z communicated with you in

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a way that's not like you got to stop doing that.

9:57

You know.

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Also, like, I'm just a firm believer. If you're gonna

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dad a baddie, you have to know how to handle

10:02

a battye m hm. Yes,

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I care a lot about self love

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and like I

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practice that. But you know, as someone who like

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grew up Gorta, like I need someone

10:14

to yourself.

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I'm a person that needs sours of affirmation

10:20

and like, hey, you look grateful

10:22

today. Hey like that photo, she was

10:24

amazing, But things like that because I'm

10:26

very much like that, Like you look good.

10:28

I'm gonna tell you if you made a

10:30

really good cup of coffee, I'm gonna praise

10:33

you down, like you know what I mean. Like, yeah,

10:39

I have my mom's mom alive

10:42

right now, and she's the cutest thing.

10:44

Her name is Maddie, and I

10:46

love her so much. And she has a lot of opinions

10:48

of men.

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Is Grandpa still around my

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grandpa?

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Yeah,

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okay, the

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old way and that's what my grandma has a lot to

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say about them.

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Okay, but you're close to your will Eita.

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Maddy, Oh my god, I was

11:05

just on faceide wan her like yesterday. She's

11:08

just the definition of like love for me. Like

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my grandma is really my second mom.

11:13

Has she given you any dating advice?

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My grandma like wants me to be in love

11:17

and like ask me a lot about

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it, and like she's a firm believer. It's

11:21

like you have to like go through your breakups, your heartbreaks,

11:24

the unrequited love she's such a believer

11:26

in that because she's the one that was putting those letting

11:28

nobelas on, so it's her fault.

11:31

Before we start getting to know your

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contestants, I want to know what

11:36

are some of your green flags and what are

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some of your own red flags.

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I'm a really bad text her.

11:42

I have a lot to say about that.

11:43

I know notifications

11:46

stress me out, like my red

11:49

flags. I need to hear that you're interested,

11:51

you know what I mean, because then it stresses me out

11:53

absolutely.

11:55

And what if it comes in the form of a text.

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Oh listen, I

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would literally scream I need I'm a facetimer

12:02

And apparently that's a red flag, but for me,

12:05

it's a great one.

12:06

I love that.

12:08

How comfortable do you feel in

12:10

communicating that need forwards of information?

12:12

Very uncomfortable, okay?

12:14

Is it coming from a space where like people have to reladly that

12:16

it's like too needy and whatnot.

12:18

I've just never felt comfortable

12:20

saying like, hey, I maybe need

12:22

more like compliments, or not even

12:24

compliments, it's more like reassurance.

12:28

And I'm just here to reassure you that it's

12:31

never too much to ask for those needs to

12:33

be met at all. If someone at any

12:35

point tells you that you're asking for too much,

12:37

then it's because they don't have the capacity for it.

12:39

Close the door, Thank.

12:41

You so so much better about

12:43

that time where that

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will use all.

12:47

Of the tools in her belt to

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find you as mauch. Yes

12:52

that you know, on like the plot

12:54

of many horror films, will turn

12:57

into a zombie and try to eat your brains

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hopefully don't want to eat some other

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things. Yes,

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thank you so much for being here with us.

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It's gonna find you a

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diamond and the rough for you, or should

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we say the pearl.

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Inside the oyster. We'll

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be back after the break. Welcome

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back today the.

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First All

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right, well, now that we've had a chance to get to know Berla,

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we are going to send off

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on three speed dates for

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some gafe.

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With each contestant. So that's

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a bird. Bring in our first

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contestant. What's

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up?

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David's David.

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Take a second and please introduce yourself.

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My name is David. I am an

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aries. I'll start with that.

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Yes, I were in the wrong turn now,

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yeah, no.

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Judgments.

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I was number one was an airy. We can't

14:14

start nothing to do with

14:16

you. It's all about me. No,

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just kidding.

14:21

Go for a David born and raised

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in la I am a photographer.

14:27

I am the middle child.

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Yeah, gorgeous, gorgeous. Well, all right,

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I will eat that they get away.

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How are you, my love?

14:34

I'm good. How are you?

14:36

You're very handsome, you have a beautiful

14:38

smile, great eyes. Thank you, very

14:40

open. So let's get to these little

14:43

questions. Now, tell me a little bit about

14:45

the people that you usually date. What

14:47

has stopped you from keeping a relationship in the past.

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Oh, I think respect.

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I feel like respect is the foundation of

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a good person and integrity,

14:58

and so that's what I feel like. I I'm

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looking more towards now someone that

15:02

has respecting themselves and the relationship.

15:06

Loyalty being a big one, trust

15:09

being a huge one. I'm not particularly

15:12

big with like a jealous partner

15:14

or someone that just doesn't have that trust to

15:17

do things on your own and come back and unite

15:20

as a unit and be able to

15:22

trust each other's individuality and

15:25

not expect each person to morph

15:27

into only what you

15:29

know that partner expects of you.

15:31

Have you found yourself having relationships

15:33

like this in the past, or trust was

15:35

an issue? Communication? All of that? Yes,

15:39

So we need to move on from that correct

15:41

and what are your red flags in that? And

15:43

if you see them, do you continue

15:45

on the relationship.

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I communicate about them, and

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if nothing changes past that communication

15:53

phase, I will end things

15:55

because I know how that

15:57

ends. But I think communication is a

15:59

big way to introduce those

16:02

red flags that I see and

16:04

see how they evolve and see how this other person

16:07

reacts to them or how they communicate

16:09

back. And a lot of times, like the last person that I dated,

16:11

we sat on the couch and we had these conversations

16:14

and I said, hey, I've hit a wall because of X, Y

16:16

and Z, and they said, dang,

16:18

I'm sorry you feel that way. And so I was like, okay,

16:20

cool, I see that.

16:21

This now means I am who I am?

16:24

Take it or leave it?

16:24

And I understood in that moment. I'm like, okay, time

16:27

to leave it, move on.

16:29

Are you looking for a serious relationship now? I

16:31

am for a soulmate? I

16:33

am What is the soulmate? Do

16:35

you?

16:36

I think a soulmate is someone

16:39

who understands and who you can

16:41

have compatibility with and not just chemistry.

16:43

I think a lot of people confuse chemistry

16:45

and compatibility and we

16:48

get distracted by like the dopamine rush,

16:50

and so I want something that goes

16:52

beyond that.

16:54

So now that you already I see that you don't

16:56

want any children, I don't no,

16:58

but you will be a babysit. I love that.

17:02

I'll do that.

17:03

Why is that?

17:05

To be completely honest, I

17:07

think that a lot of it comes from

17:10

childhood trauma and mistakes

17:13

that were made with me

17:16

and my parents, and so I love

17:18

the idea of children. But making

17:22

sure that I raise them to

17:24

be good human beings.

17:26

That's a full time job that you can never digress

17:29

from.

17:30

You know.

17:30

It's like the ultimate career choice.

17:32

It's a great responsibility. Yes it is.

17:35

But you are not who you were as a child.

17:38

You are this amazing man

17:40

that wants the best for his life and that of

17:43

his partners. So we're going to work on that. All

17:49

right.

17:49

Well, this is it for the goad

17:51

that Thank you so much, David. We'll

17:55

be back with contestant number two. Welcome

18:02

back to date.

18:02

My first.

18:07

Meet.

18:11

Hello, tell us

18:13

about yourself.

18:15

My name is Jiton. I

18:17

am Cape Verdean. It's the

18:19

island in the Atlantic Ocean. Not

18:22

a lot of people know about it. I do

18:24

music, play for a flag Football League.

18:27

It's a very athletic all over creator

18:30

like film photography, love

18:32

to cook, be in a kitchen whipping it out.

18:34

I'm telling you else.

18:36

You know what I'm saying.

18:37

You're coming to Awelita's house.

18:40

Yes, I

18:42

know sign language as well. I dated

18:46

a girl who was deaf and I didn't know how

18:48

to speak any sign language, but learned

18:50

it to speak with her.

18:52

Which impresses me a lot.

18:54

That is amazing. That is amazing.

18:56

I'm going to go ahead and hand you over to Awilita

18:59

for a little seat.

19:00

Take it away. How are you, my darling.

19:03

Blessing you, oh, blessed to have you

19:05

here with us. Absolutely. Let's

19:08

talk a little bit about your dating life. What

19:10

has it been like until now?

19:12

So recently, I

19:14

don't really go out much. I really

19:17

like to keep to myself. Work

19:20

is like a huge priority for me, so

19:22

I'm trying to do that to basically set

19:24

my family up so they don't have to worry about a thing in

19:26

their life. So I'd rather do that as opposed

19:29

to going out party and clubbing and

19:31

all of that stuff. So I'm never really on that type

19:33

of scene, and I've never been one for

19:35

dating apps. I'll talk to you in person

19:37

if I meet you at a grocery shop.

19:39

You know what I'm saying.

19:40

Old fashioned? So when was

19:42

your last relationship?

19:43

Oh?

19:44

About a year ago.

19:46

It was with the girl that I was just talking to you about.

19:48

And what happened there, I guess

19:51

lack of time.

19:54

I don't think we were like right for each other

19:56

at that time. We both

19:58

had different things going on at the same time,

20:01

and like I got too involved in my

20:03

work, I would say, to share with

20:06

her, Yeah, to give her the attention that she needed

20:08

because she was dealing with her own personal

20:10

problems.

20:11

So has that changed now? Are you ready?

20:14

Now?

20:14

Do you have more time? Are you going to be able to

20:16

provide that to a new partner?

20:19

Yeah?

20:20

So I say that in a sense of like what

20:23

she needed from me was a bit

20:26

more than I think the regular person would,

20:28

Okay, Yeah, because she dealt with some

20:31

serious stuff on her end that

20:33

I couldn't help with, Like nobody could help you with

20:35

unless you find that in yourself to help you, If

20:38

that makes any sense.

20:39

Are you now looking for a soulmate?

20:41

Oh?

20:41

Yeah, of course, of course.

20:43

Yeah.

20:43

What is the soulmate to you?

20:45

A soulmate? I feel like someone who

20:47

understands, someone that can teach

20:50

me something that I don't know as well

20:52

as me teaching them something that they don't know. And we

20:54

just continue to grow. And that's through thick

20:56

and thin, you know, like the marriage, vows

20:58

and stuff, life and death.

21:00

You believe in all of that.

21:02

They're out there, you know what I'm saying out of nowhere.

21:05

Out there?

21:06

What is your biggest red flag?

21:08

Ooh, someone that is not passionate?

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Ooh, so you're into

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love love.

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And with that, I'm gonna wrap

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upa thank

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you so much, z on So in

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a fun twist and turn

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of events, a date

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my Aalita. First, first,

21:33

we have chosen to eliminate

21:36

one of the contestants even before they

21:39

got the chance.

21:40

To have.

21:41

Why I Drank It Myself based

21:44

on a.

21:45

Bear Lass desires.

21:47

We noticed very quickly that

21:49

that last contestant failed to show

21:52

the commitment in showing

21:54

up. They were not intentional about respecting

21:57

time. They were not intentional about creating

22:00

and facilitating quality space with you.

22:03

And if this wonderful person is listening

22:05

to this particular podcast that you messed

22:08

out on, it

22:10

has nothing to do with anything about

22:12

you other than a little

22:14

bit of the lack of respect towards

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our main data and to us who are

22:19

hoping to meet you and spend time with you.

22:21

Correct. So, aur Alida, what do

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you think of our contenders for

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Beerla?

22:27

I like them both a

22:29

lot, like a lot. They

22:32

both are seeking exactly

22:34

what Perla needs and Perila wants.

22:37

They are very.

22:38

Respectful, they have shared

22:40

their inner emotions. They are gun

22:43

ho young men who want to get it

22:45

all, and not only that, they are ready

22:48

ready for a relationships be

22:50

essential.

22:51

Berla, do you have something you want

22:53

to say since you've gotten

22:55

to eavesdrop a little bit?

22:57

Oh my god, personal, this is so fun because

22:59

I've never done something like this. They

23:01

both have way more green flags than red.

23:05

Love that, yes,

23:07

and the red flags they're like orange pale

23:12

red, their baby

23:14

pink.

23:16

I love it.

23:16

I'm excited to hear more from them. Oh,

23:19

and we will.

23:21

Thank you so much, Bela. Well, that is

23:24

all the heat we could handle.

23:26

So we'll see you next

23:29

week when Ailita and I

23:31

will play some fun and flirty

23:35

games with these two contestants. Hoping

23:37

to be Oilita approved for

23:41

La. Emphasis

23:43

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