0:05

Have you had a few dates but

0:07

don't know why they fizzle out, not

0:10

getting a text back and don't feel

0:12

like going ghostbusters? Is your family

0:14

asking when you're going to bring

0:16

back somebody home. If you've turned

0:18

to your Ahalita for help in the past, maybe

0:21

she can help again.

0:22

Now.

0:22

This is Date My aw Walita First,

0:24

where our fabulous Awalita

0:27

Liliana plays matchmaker for our

0:29

star dater and three lucky

0:31

contestants looking for Awalita's stamp

0:34

for approval.

0:35

Let Aurita soul of your dating

0:38

worlds and turn them into.

0:42

I am your host, Vico Ortiz, joined by

0:44

our lovely Aulita Li.

0:48

Lalita Vicoso

0:51

Totos meets me at this I am so

0:54

so beyond excited to help you love Brits, find

0:56

all the love you're looking for.

0:58

And.

1:00

I love it. I will eat that. Today's main dat

1:02

is Sam.

1:03

Sam has been single for three years

1:06

and is just flat out tired

1:09

of the ups and downs of using apps,

1:11

either talking so much on them that there's

1:13

this like preconceived notion, or talking

1:15

so little that it's like do you even

1:18

want to meet me?

1:18

Please? Let me tell you. I have never

1:21

had to deal with apps. I'm too old for

1:23

that. There were no apps back in the time, but

1:26

maybe things were going

1:28

to be a little simpler before, you know,

1:30

there was like you don't have to worry about anything

1:32

online, or maybe they're just a little

1:35

too easy right now. I can't imagine

1:37

how I handle having a billion

1:39

singles on my fingertips.

1:41

I know, I feel like you, you would totally

1:44

be into that. I mean you you're looking for a husband

1:46

number six, so I

1:48

feel like you might want to get on the apps

1:50

ilually eat that.

1:52

Let's bring in Sam.

1:55

Sam is a self proclaimed

1:58

star personality, a little bit

2:00

more extroverted and once someone

2:02

who is okay letting them shine

2:04

just a little bit more. Sam's

2:07

own grandparents seem to be confidants

2:10

in their love life, so Sam's

2:12

got a lot of trust in the power of a Walitas

2:15

already Welcome Sam.

2:17

What's up.

2:20

Hi?

2:20

How's it going so great?

2:23

So great?

2:24

Sam?

2:24

Tell us a little bit about who you are.

2:26

Obviously we know your name, but your age, What sparks

2:29

joy in your life? What foods

2:31

you hate, you love, et cetera.

2:33

Three fun facts.

2:35

Okay, so I'm twenty eight years old.

2:37

What sparks joy like painting art?

2:40

I lived in Chicago for a really long time, so

2:43

I really miss like that walkable city.

2:45

But I just can't do snow anymore.

2:47

A food that I really hate I hate mashed

2:49

potatoes, which is like a very like everyone

2:52

kind of gives me shit for that. I work

2:55

in photo management. I really

2:57

love anything creative and yeah.

3:00

Love love love, Oh my gosh, thank

3:02

you for that intro. How I

3:04

need that?

3:04

I am so ready for Sam? Are

3:07

you ready for I need that? Are you ready?

3:10

I'm ready?

3:10

Well, my love, I want to ask you a very

3:13

importante question. Please,

3:16

why are we all here today? Because

3:18

we want to find love

3:21

just a dating relationship, a

3:23

casual encounter. What

3:26

does Sam want?

3:28

Just like out the gate, I'm like a monogamous

3:30

person, like down, you know what I mean. Like

3:33

I've definitely been single for like yeah, the three

3:35

years. I'm newly sober,

3:38

so that's another thing that's like just

3:40

like had me way more clarity in life.

3:43

I'm like open to a relationship with the right person.

3:45

I'm also open to like friends

3:48

of benefits. Like I

3:50

guess I'm just pretty open definitely like on the hierarchy

3:53

of needs. If I meet someone and like

3:55

we connect, I'm one like

3:57

ready to be with someone, but I'm

4:00

also down to like just meet someone and we

4:02

like have fun.

4:04

What are those qualities you're looking for.

4:06

I definitely want someone that's affectionate,

4:09

someone that's like really open minded, and

4:13

someone dependable reliable

4:16

I guess like slash, someone who

4:18

could like speak their minds.

4:21

That sounds wonderful. But there's one

4:23

thing I want to add. Congratulations

4:25

and being sober. Oh thank you,

4:27

what an amazing thing to do. Yes, absolutely,

4:31

I love that.

4:32

Okay, just said you've been zinicle for three years.

4:34

How was that last relationship?

4:36

What are some things that you've learned from that, things

4:38

that you definitely want to for sure like

4:41

continue to work on, or the things that you're like, actually,

4:43

I've learned that I don't want that anymore. What were

4:45

some of those like educational moments.

4:47

I think like an educational moment for me was that like,

4:50

even like the past few relationships, I would

4:52

rushed into relationships just to be

4:54

with somebody just because like they like really

4:57

liked me. And I was like, oh my god, like someone's

4:59

best quality to me is liking.

5:01

Me, you know what I mean?

5:02

So I was like, oh, the fact that like they're down,

5:04

I was like, really attracted to that, and of

5:06

course I was attracted to them at the point, but like

5:09

there were just things where like because

5:11

like I wasn't mature enough and like

5:13

self aware enough to know that like more

5:16

for more or less words, I couldn't like just change somebody

5:18

to be who I want them to be. I just have to accept

5:20

somebody one percent for who they are

5:22

or don't. Those are things that like I've

5:25

learned in the three years of being single, and

5:27

something that like if I can go back

5:29

and like talk to ex'es, that would be something

5:31

that I would like own up to and like you

5:34

know, kind of make amends with absolutely.

5:37

With that in mind, how

5:39

do you see yourself now approaching

5:42

conflict? How do you want to handle

5:44

repair?

5:46

I definitely just want to like have that open

5:48

stream of communication about like if

5:50

someone if I hurt someone's feelings, like

5:53

not taking that personal and just like being like, oh

5:55

I'm more now like instead of like taking

5:57

a personal white hurts someone's feelings, I'm like great

6:00

for the opportunity to like hear someone

6:02

out and like learn from that, because like

6:04

hurting someone's feelings isn't the end of the world.

6:06

It's just going to happen.

6:07

I feel that so hard.

6:09

Having friendship conflict along the way

6:12

has really helped me, you know, like

6:15

kind of have that groundwork for relationship

6:18

confrontation.

6:19

How do you go about communicating your needs?

6:22

I'm a pretty direct person. Yeah,

6:25

I'm pretty like I want this.

6:27

Are you okay with that kind of person? No?

6:29

No?

6:30

No?

6:30

Did?

6:30

I just like I lose my patience with like indirectness,

6:33

Like I needed to.

6:34

Kind of be blunt.

6:37

You know, there's a blunt with you. I love

6:39

it.

6:39

I'm like very attracted to that.

6:42

Tell me one thing, you are ready for a

6:44

relationship?

6:45

I am.

6:45

Yeah.

6:46

So what is the most serious relationship

6:48

you've ever had.

6:50

I've had like three various serious relationships

6:52

that have all lasted around two years.

6:54

Oh wow.

6:55

The first one, I was like eighteen

6:58

and he was like twenty six, So that was just kind

7:00

of like going to end.

7:02

Yeah you know, yeah, fair, but it was

7:04

serious.

7:05

And then the second one was

7:07

just kind of like that first queer relationship, It.

7:09

Was kind of just like.

7:12

And then the third one of my most recent kind

7:14

of like during lockdown, spending

7:16

all that time together just have me realizing that,

7:19

like we are not a.

7:20

Match where you go have a dating with this person.

7:22

Yeah, gotcha? Oof. Yeah,

7:25

I feel that.

7:26

A lot of relationships went down the drain.

7:28

So I moved to La, like after we broke up

7:31

from where Chicago?

7:33

Right on?

7:34

I know you've been single for three years, but have you been

7:36

actively dating? Have you been going out? Has

7:38

been the dating scene for you in La?

7:40

Yeah?

7:41

I like dat around. I

7:43

like him on the apps?

7:45

You know, I don't love

7:47

the apps.

7:48

Are you had the approacher or the approach he I

7:50

approach definitely.

7:52

Yeah, I'm definitely attracted

7:54

someone that would approach me.

7:56

I love that.

7:58

An ideal date would it look like would

8:01

you be the one preparing it or would you allow

8:03

somebody to prepare it for you?

8:04

What's the vibe?

8:05

I would love someone to prepare it for me because

8:07

I am someone who usually prepares everything.

8:10

It's like I'm not very much like the prepare

8:13

the planner. I'm just like I'm a boss.

8:16

Like if you're the approacher, then you are

8:18

doing it all exactly.

8:19

So like when someone is just like a bigger boss

8:21

than me and like takes control of that, I'm

8:24

just like, Wow, that's like very like

8:26

horny to me.

8:27

Yes, yes, I love that

8:29

word. I'm amazing.

8:32

I love that.

8:34

What does it mean? No, I'm kidding.

8:36

I'll tell you when you're older.

8:38

Oh yes, I.

8:41

Do.

8:42

Check this out. You have three

8:44

matching tattoos with your exes. I

8:47

do, Yeah, I do. Did you do it because

8:49

things felt so sure or

8:51

just because you're always down for a

8:53

new tad or anything like I

8:55

have.

8:55

Zero comitment issues, I would say, yeah.

8:58

Like I'm just like because to me, every

9:00

relationship that I'm in, I don't plan

9:02

on breaking up until it happened, you know what I mean.

9:05

Like it's not like I'm like this is going to end. I'm just kind

9:07

of like it may end, it may not, but

9:09

who cares?

9:10

Like you know what I mean? For now?

9:12

Like who cares?

9:13

I have one here that's like very faded because

9:16

it's just pink. But it was just like an ear.

9:18

Oh like just like an ear, but like we both.

9:20

Got it like pay attention or

9:23

what what was the ear for?

9:25

Like posted flash? And we were both just like hanging

9:28

out and we just were like, oh, we should both

9:30

get this. And then I

9:32

have like these dog cherries that

9:34

I have with my most recent ex we

9:37

just like like dogs and

9:39

we got that. Oh my god, do you mind

9:41

if I take my pants off.

9:42

And show you, please do it to

9:46

our listeners. We are having a great

9:48

time here.

9:49

So I have I love here.

9:53

Oh my god, yes,

9:55

yes, oh

9:58

my goodness to meet him, Oh

10:01

my god.

10:03

And it's like so it's a very fun when we got

10:05

bad together, just because it was like a

10:08

Friday the thirteenth special.

10:10

So none of them really mean anything,

10:13

but they all were just fun.

10:17

I really want to know if Sam and I are

10:19

getting a tat together.

10:21

I meant tattoo.

10:23

She's finishing for a tongue at that through, so maybe you'll

10:26

get.

10:26

To oh gorgeous,

10:28

I'm ready.

10:31

I love it.

10:32

Well, thank you so much for being

10:34

here with us, Sam, We appreciate

10:36

you sharing a bit of yourself. I

10:39

will need that is going to do her best to keep

10:41

you off those damn apps,

10:44

So just go ahead and book your tattoo apointment. Well,

10:46

I want to eat that works her magic. I'm

10:49

ready know, Mosiae, I will eat

10:51

that.

10:51

What do you think we're looking for in Sam's

10:53

partner?

10:54

A person who's affectionate, a person

10:56

who's monogamous, A person who

10:59

is would be very nice so

11:02

they can compliment each other in that way.

11:05

They want to take their time and have fun

11:08

and find love. So we're here

11:10

for them. Absolutely.

11:11

I think definitely someone who's very intentional,

11:14

someone who's a go getter as well just

11:16

as a hard worker, someone that can stand their own

11:19

and don't like mashed potatoes. Absolutely

11:21

yeah, no need for mas potatoes, no need for meshatas.

11:24

All right, when we get back, we'll start

11:27

our round of guffeschitos.

11:29

Gonna wili that welcome

11:33

back today, my hourly the first.

11:37

All right, I think it's time

11:39

to let our three contestants into

11:42

our Liita's.

11:42

House for a little speed date action.

11:46

Let's get our little guffercito going.

11:48

Oh, Anita following, fill

11:50

up these thatsses already

11:53

this stuff?

11:54

All right, Oliita, it's meat Skyler. What's

11:57

good? Skyler? Tell

12:00

else about yourself.

12:01

Hi, I'm Skyler, I use him,

12:03

and they then pronouns I'm

12:06

a graphic designer and illustrator

12:09

and I like to foster

12:11

and rescue CAATs. Oh also, I'm twenty e twy

12:13

seven cute.

12:14

I love that, well a pleasure,

12:17

Skyler.

12:18

I'm gonna go ahead and pass you

12:20

off to I will lead that for a guffe

12:22

seat those speed date go ahead, I will

12:24

lead them take it away.

12:26

How are you, my love?

12:27

I'm good.

12:28

How are you? I am well? Thank you? You

12:30

are adorable. Oh

12:33

just say that and get it out of the way. Okay,

12:36

let's ask you a few personal questions,

12:38

like what kind of person have you been

12:41

dating so far? And what is it that you're looking

12:43

for? Something different?

12:46

I guess mainly what I be core is

12:48

that people are kind and interesting.

12:51

I find myself dating people that have like

12:53

sort of different interest than me a lot of

12:55

the time as well, just because I like to hear

12:57

people talk about what they're passionate about. So

13:00

as long as somebody is, you know, kind of like enthusiastic

13:03

about the world and they like to learn

13:05

think about things, that's the kind of person

13:08

I'm into.

13:09

Have you been dating a lot lately

13:11

or not so.

13:14

A couple of years ago, I got out of a pretty

13:16

serious relationship and I've been dating

13:18

casually since then, so,

13:20

you know, like seeing I guess a good

13:22

amount of people, but not very seriously,

13:25

especially since I just moved from LA.

13:28

So what was serious about it?

13:30

And how long did it last?

13:31

We were together a couple of years and we

13:34

were actually engaged.

13:35

Oh my goodness, you know,

13:38

things happen for a reason in life. It's all good,

13:41

you know. We learn from every experience.

13:44

Now, what are you looking for right now?

13:46

I'm looking for somebody that I guess

13:49

just to share my life with. I don't necessarily

13:51

need to be hyper committed, but I

13:54

like to have a partner, you know. I like to have somebody

13:56

who could like participate and kind of be

13:58

along for the ride of what I'm doing.

14:01

Okay, now, you mentioned

14:03

that you are not close with your family.

14:05

Correct, not super close

14:07

to know. We're kind of working on it.

14:10

But when I first came out, we had sort

14:13

of a rough few years and we're

14:16

kind of in the process of preparing

14:19

that relationship that I'm not particularly

14:22

close to them yet. I

14:24

guess there's just kind of some like tess that

14:26

has to be rebuildable where they're kind

14:29

of allowed back into my personal

14:31

life.

14:32

And I'm sorry about that, but I'm very happy

14:34

that you guys are working on it, because

14:36

the most important thing that we are trying

14:39

to do here is to help people

14:41

understand what is going on that at the

14:43

end of the day, we are all human and we

14:45

all just want love company

14:48

to be accepted for who we truly

14:50

are, so I commend you for moving

14:53

on and trying to repair that relationship

14:55

with them. You did say that

14:58

you have found a lot of life love

15:00

and mentors from the LGBQT

15:03

community. What has that been about.

15:07

Let's see.

15:07

I mean, I came out as

15:09

transgender when I was fifteen, which

15:12

is super common for people in my age

15:14

range. So I experienced

15:16

a couple of years of instability,

15:19

we'll call it.

15:21

And I don't know that I.

15:22

Would have made it through without my community. When

15:25

you're coming from kind of a vulnerable,

15:27

marginalized group, like really what you

15:29

have as each other and so I

15:32

was really supported and looked out for by

15:34

people from my community, and so

15:36

I really aspire to do that for

15:38

other people. You know, my home is always

15:41

open. I'll do whatever I

15:43

can to help other people.

15:44

Okay, Scylar, you're making me cry now. No,

15:47

my heart is very open to everything that you are

15:49

saying, because it is absolutely

15:52

imperative that this world opens

15:55

up and accepts everyone for who

15:57

they truly, truly are. I'm very

15:59

proud of you, and I'm very happy that you found

16:02

that comfort in others, especially

16:05

in your LGBTQ community. So thank

16:08

you for that. Another question

16:10

is go a little bit happier times here. No, hello,

16:13

hello, hello, Oh

16:15

I like this one. You mentioned that being

16:17

a pretty clean person, down

16:20

to the point of disassembling the toilet

16:22

to clean it. Now,

16:25

do you need a person in your life that is like that? It

16:27

would you settle for something lesser

16:30

than that?

16:31

I definitely don't need a person to

16:33

be on my level. The several

16:35

of my friends have informed me that maybe

16:37

my habits are a little out of the ordinary

16:40

when it comes to clean and I'm not particularly

16:42

picky about like chores or anything,

16:45

but you know, sort of like a base level of cleanliness

16:48

and hygiene is very important to

16:50

me. I can be a little

16:53

a little bit hussy about that.

16:55

They're so funny, just that little

16:57

bit. No, let's

17:00

talk about the fact that you work

17:02

with animals. Oh yeah,

17:05

you work in a doggy daycare. Correct, So

17:08

I just left that.

17:09

Job actually, and now I'm all

17:11

time with illustration and graphic design.

17:13

Again, that is amazing, Good for you,

17:16

thank you.

17:17

But yeah, I got started working in animal

17:19

care pretty young, like when I was twelve,

17:21

I started volunteering at the main society, and

17:24

then all through art school I worked at different doggie

17:26

daycares and then I just kind of finished

17:28

up in others then with a doggy daycare.

17:32

That's all the time we've got for this

17:34

scuff I seed though, thank you for coming by

17:36

Ahwalita's house, Skyler.

17:38

We'll talk very very.

17:40

Soon, thank you, Skyler.

17:42

All right, next up, Awalita, meet

17:44

Destiny.

17:47

Tell us a bit about who you are,

17:50

your name, your age, where you're from,

17:52

what you're doing, your zodiac sign, if

17:54

you want to share that too, go for aight.

17:56

Okay, Hi, I'm Destiny. I am

17:59

twenty four. I've been in LA

18:01

for five years. My grandparents raised

18:03

me, and my grandpa was in the military, so army

18:06

bra is the term.

18:07

So I lived in Texas, Utah, Germany,

18:10

Colorado, and then I went to high school there,

18:12

came here to pursue acting. So

18:14

I love, you know, acting, I love poetry,

18:16

reading any sort of creative things,

18:19

painting, that sort of thing.

18:20

And I'm a Scorpio.

18:22

Fuck yes, I really Okay, God

18:24

tell us about Scorpio.

18:26

It's they're one of my favorites.

18:29

All right, Destiny, I'm gonna hand you over for a little

18:31

guff I see those speedy that they

18:34

get.

18:34

Away, Okay, Destiny.

18:37

I was reading a little bit about your bio,

18:40

and I have to tell you, I was pretty touched

18:42

by the fact that not only you are

18:45

three years sober, yes, but did

18:47

you actually work at a nightclub?

18:49

Yeah? Tell me how that has

18:52

been in your life.

18:53

Honestly, at first, I think it was a little

18:55

bit harder to transition into it.

18:57

But I think I have good coping skills.

18:59

I have like a good I don't

19:02

know, just my life is better, so it doesn't it's not

19:04

as tempting. You know. I go there just to work,

19:06

and I'm at work and that's kind of how I view it

19:08

and then I leave it there. But yeah, a lot of

19:10

my friends, you know, they still like to go out and do all

19:12

that, and I'm just kind of I'm like, I'm here with

19:14

my water or my Red Bull or whatever.

19:16

But I'm still very like outgoing. I like to dance

19:19

and do fun things. I just yeah, don't

19:21

need alcohol to have fun anymore.

19:22

Good for you, Very proud of you.

19:24

Thank you.

19:25

Now let's talk about your dating life.

19:27

What is it like.

19:28

I guess in high school until my early twenties, I didn't

19:30

really have anybody that I liked

19:32

that much. And then I think I started dating more

19:35

like around twenty one or whatnot. But yeah,

19:37

it hasn't been anything super long term except

19:39

for I guess maybe there's one person that

19:41

was about like three months, but even that is not that

19:43

long.

19:44

Soa and what are you looking for now?

19:47

I think I'm in a better place now, So I think

19:49

just somebody that's supportive, caring,

19:52

where we can have fun together, we can laugh

19:54

together, but also, you know, be there for each other

19:56

through things.

19:57

And yeah, I think just you know, basic things, be able

19:59

to comunicate, work through things, and

20:02

yeah, have fun together.

20:03

Sounds good. Now. You mentioned

20:05

being raised by your grandparents, Yes,

20:08

yeah, yeah, and you have a very strong relationship

20:10

with them.

20:11

Yes.

20:11

Yeah, they don't live here, but I call them almost, you know, every

20:14

day. I talk to them about pretty

20:16

much everything. And yeah, they're from a different generation,

20:19

but they're they're always very supportive, you know, so sometimes

20:21

they don't understand certain things, but they're there in

20:23

the ways that they know how to do.

20:25

So I'm really grateful.

20:26

That is very nice. How you put it, in the way that

20:28

they know how Yeah, exactly.

20:31

That.

20:31

The one thing that we do know is that I will lead

20:33

us, will always be there for us, right,

20:36

and that's the love and the support counts more than anything.

20:39

But tell me what kind of

20:41

role have they played in your dating life?

20:44

Honestly, And my Grandma's always been like, Okay, date

20:46

somebody that's like at least got goals and ambition

20:48

or whatever, because you don't want to be with somebody if there, because

20:50

she knows I have a lot of plans and I want to do

20:52

things.

20:53

So she's like, that's kind of a big thing. And

20:55

my grandpa's kind of, I don't know, he's more chill.

20:58

He's just like I was long as love

21:00

each other. That's fine.

21:02

But yeah, okay,

21:05

so you've told us that you went to theater school.

21:07

Yeah, and you want to write and perform in stories

21:10

from communities that don't have their stories

21:12

told. Is there any story in

21:14

particular that you would like to tell?

21:16

On the top of my head, probably

21:19

more minority groups.

21:20

I guess it's getting a little bit better with representation,

21:22

which is super important, but I think there's still a lot

21:25

further that it can go, you know, And I would

21:27

like to see minority groups living like thriving, happy

21:29

lives and not at always being something super

21:32

sad or depicted in such like a stereotype

21:35

you know, Like I'm like, we're all just people and we have

21:37

great fun lives too.

21:38

It doesn't have to just be that certain thing.

21:41

In this new relationship. What is the

21:43

best thing you want to find?

21:45

I don't think I've ever really been in love.

21:48

I would like to think it's a beautiful, happy thing,

21:50

you know, But I don't think three months is

21:52

long enough to really fall in love with somebody.

21:54

So I think, yeah, just finding love with somebody

21:56

would be great.

21:58

I'm so sorry to interrupt, but that's our time.

22:01

Thank you for coming, by Destiny.

22:03

We'll talk soon, all right.

22:05

When we get back, we'll have our third

22:08

and final cafescito, So don't

22:11

go anywhere. Welcome

22:15

back to date, my a Wlita. First, a

22:20

Wilda, get ready to sit

22:22

another cafesito. Let's jeepy

22:25

Angela, Hello

22:28

Angelo, what's good?

22:31

Okay?

22:32

A Wilita is very ready

22:34

to spill the tea or I

22:36

mean a bit of caffescito.

22:38

But first tell us a bit about who

22:41

you are. Angela.

22:43

My name is Angela. I use them

22:45

pronouns. I live in Los Angeles.

22:48

I was actually born in the Philippines, but

22:51

I grew up essentially in

22:53

southern California, and I

22:55

got my masters in art history, which is

22:58

really cool. I submitted my thes like

23:01

aget mid August, sort of last year.

23:04

Fun fact, I'm a Libra, I'm

23:06

a Libra's son, and I

23:09

actually get a lot of compliments on my chart,

23:12

Like people say it's pretty balanced. But

23:14

those two placements you.

23:16

Said, Libra's son and Venus. Yes,

23:19

I'm obsessed. I'm a Libra as well.

23:21

But my venus as in Virgo, which is a fun little

23:23

loop that's a fun company. Yeah, it's

23:25

a fun combo. Fabulous. I'm

23:27

gonna hand you over now for

23:30

a little golda go

23:33

for it.

23:34

How are you, Angela? Hi,

23:36

I'm good.

23:36

How are you?

23:37

I am doing wonderful trying to find

23:40

love for all of you.

23:41

Here.

23:42

We're gonna talk a little bit about your dating

23:45

life, so tell me a little bit about it.

23:47

To be honest, I was not really

23:50

dating from like high school

23:52

to the beginning of grad school.

23:55

I was very much a career person.

23:58

I was like, I need to succeed, I need

24:00

to, you know, hit these kind

24:02

of milestones in my career. I have

24:05

a lot of wonderful friends whom I love. I

24:07

consider them my fine family. So It's

24:09

not like I haven't like formed any relationships.

24:12

It's just that i'd never foregrounded

24:16

love relationships sex so

24:18

much in my life. And it

24:21

became more apparent when I was in grad

24:23

school and I was kind of in a place where I didn't

24:25

really know anyone, and there weren't a

24:27

lot of people like me in the Midwest.

24:29

Oh I can't imagine that. Yeah, they're

24:32

very conservative.

24:34

Not that many people of color, not many

24:36

queer, trans, don binary people. So

24:39

it was just kind of not really the

24:42

community that I wanted for myself. And

24:44

it kind of became like a parent when

24:47

I was like looking at the dating pool and I was like.

24:49

This is not that great. So

24:52

now that you are ready, what are you looking

24:54

for.

24:56

I don't go into interactions

24:58

being like I need to have like

25:01

a relationship. I think that every

25:04

say, person that I meet on a dating app, we

25:06

can talk, we can go on a date, we can

25:08

even look up. But like, if

25:11

it develops into something, if I really like

25:13

you, that's cool, But if it doesn't, it

25:15

doesn't I'm really like in

25:18

a place where I'm not trying to sounds

25:20

very real es myself, Yeah, exactly.

25:23

Yeah, it's still kind of just fun

25:26

to seize out there. It's like a

25:28

very diverse population of people coming and going.

25:30

And that is why you're here with us.

25:32

Now.

25:33

We have heard that you're currently not close

25:36

to your family, no, but you do

25:38

have a good network of loving people

25:40

around you. What role have

25:42

they played in your dating life? What's the advice

25:45

that you get.

25:46

I can get kind of like

25:49

daydreaming. I can just get carried

25:51

away with things really quickly.

25:53

What do you mean, Let's

25:55

say that I'll get to

25:58

in my head about a person that I just met.

26:00

Okay, you know, I'll

26:02

just like think of too many scenarios and

26:05

kind of overthink things.

26:06

That's the studious part of you.

26:10

Research research, Yeah, exactly,

26:12

yes, And my friends will be there

26:14

to either be like, okay, like

26:17

this is a realistic thing for you to be thinking

26:19

about versus Hey, let's kind

26:21

of bring you back to earth and ease

26:25

a little bit into it and like clear your head

26:27

a little bit, think a little bit more rationally

26:29

and think about what's good for you.

26:32

So you're working on it. You're willing

26:34

to change all of this in the future for

26:36

sure. The person that you meet, absolutely, I

26:39

am so.

26:40

Sorryla, that is the time for

26:42

our speed.

26:43

Gofa seat though I know, thank

26:46

you, I know you always

26:48

do.

26:49

Thank you, Angela. It was so great

26:51

to hear a little bit about yourself.

26:53

So A, Wilita, it looks

26:55

like we've got some really great candidates

26:58

for Sam.

26:59

What are your thoughts?

27:00

I think each of our

27:03

dats is very different, so it's

27:05

gonna come down I think, to

27:07

how they play our games, the

27:09

things that they say, and where

27:11

we can find the match for

27:14

our main dat.

27:15

Oh well, okay, Ra, for now,

27:17

that's all the heat we can handle. Tune

27:19

in next Thursday when.

27:21

We'll be back to play a few speed

27:23

dating games and.

27:25

Awalita will select le mecor.

27:28

Stick around until next week to find out Whuliliana

27:31

will choose for Sam, and

27:34

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28:08

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28:10

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28:18

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28:21

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