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Tin Man ministries.org,
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connecting you to lots of great
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resources. When we're looking at
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being healthy emotionally.
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And Phil Herndon is with us to talk
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it through this morning. (800) 555-7898
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Phil, got a question for you. A friend
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has been married 37 years.
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And finally, in
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this 37 years, completely abusive,
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uh, marriage, he leaves
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for another person. And
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our friend has now been remarried
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for 16 months. Wonderful, godly
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man loves unconditionally.
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But there are triggers.
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And now our friend is finding herself
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saying, I know he doesn't
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mean anything by it, but there's something
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he says or does that takes me back,
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and I want to learn something new
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so that I recognize it and I
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can control it. Instead of the anxiety coming up
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and just threatening to basically
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choke me. What can I do?
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And what a loving question. And
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I'm so glad they emailed or called
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in that that question. So. Several
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things in play with a situation like this.
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First of all, that's a lot of the battle
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is just to be able the way this this person
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framed that up is really clear
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and painful. And and so
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down to the point. So give
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a metaphor if I could for this,
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we all have inside of us. It's
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just a way of looking at who we are.
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We all have inside of us roles that we've
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played. And this
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this email person
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has said, hey, I was married.
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And so there is inside
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of her this wife role
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that she played for 37 years. It
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was very painful. And
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in her brain. In your brain, ma'am,
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who emailed that in in your brain you
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have stored, chronologically speaking,
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37 years of defending
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yourself in a very dangerous situation.
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And so your brain is equipped to protect
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you first before you can
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connect. The brain does two things. It does
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connection and protection, but it does protection
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first. And so the good news
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is your brain is working beautifully
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because it's protecting you from something happening.
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Again. Your left brain,
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as you pointed out the other side of your brain says,
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well, wait a minute, this isn't the same person. So
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again, this is a metaphor. If
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you would spend some time before the Lord in your quiet
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time and in your car wherever you go,
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and you would pay attention to
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there is a there is 37 years
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of history living inside your heart or your
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limbic brain. And what happens
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is that part of your brain is going to protect
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you no matter who's in front of you.
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And so if you could pay attention to that
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part of you that lived in that for 37
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years, ask the Lord to pay attention to
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that heart inside that wife that
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did that for 37 years and spend time
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away from when you're not being
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triggered, just paying attention to, hey, there's
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a history that lives inside my heart
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and my limbic brain that
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is really interested in protecting me, because
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for 37 years I needed it. And
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so when you're not standing in front of your
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husband now, who loves you so well,
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um, you're able to kind of come
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to some terms with that and settle down that part
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of your brain that's so reactive when you
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hear or see that trigger,
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when.
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You say, pay attention to that
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37 year old or that
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wife or who for 37 years
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lived with that abusive, alcoholic
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husband, what
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does that mean to pay attention
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to that?
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Yeah, that that gets into a little kind
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of acrostic that we use a lot. It's um,
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identify just identify what's happening.
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And, and you know, pro tip, it's
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probably going to be fear because
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living that way for 37 years is really
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scary, frustrating and all the other things
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too. But man, so scary to live
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that way for 37 years. And
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so pay, name or identify what's
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happening and then explore
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again. This is not when you're necessarily standing
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in front of your husband now, but uh, or
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sitting with him. Explore what
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is that story, what is going on, and
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then express that out loud
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that may mean plug here. That
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may mean a ten man coach. That may mean
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a mentor. That may mean a pastor.
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That may mean just a dear friend over a cup
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of coffee somewhere. But just to to
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be able to identify what's happening, probably
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fear explore what that's
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all about, even though it may have been
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35 years ago or whatever, just to explore what
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that's about and then express that
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to someone who will help you deal with that
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safely, and then journaling
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things like that, meditating on God's Word. It's
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almost like it's kind of like what Paul
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said in Romans seven, like there there are two natures
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in me. Well, inside of this
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lady who who called that in there
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are two wives, so to speak. And
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so she's battling that same type
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of thing by saying there are two things going
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to war here. And, uh, and
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the brain says, that's right. And when it
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comes down to protecting you or
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connecting with him, we're going I'm going to protect you
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first.
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Um, managing the things.
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That have happened to us is kind of what we
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are spending the rest of our adult lives doing,
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isn't it? We're trying to manage what
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is keeping us turned upside
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down, and it could be something that's
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happening to us right now. But a lot of time
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it has something to do with our backstory.
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And I think it's hard
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to recognize how much our backstory
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because we don't want to blame parents. Maybe
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we do, but if we're trying not to blame
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somebody in our past, uh,
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we get stuck. But Phil,
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how much can that backstory,
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that back experience, that 37 years,
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how much can it truly play in
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our current seeking
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of emotional well-being?
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It it has everything
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to do with that. There's a great book out there.
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Don't buy it. It's 585 pages
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of science. So it's
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called The Master and His Emissaries,
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written by Doctor Ian Mcgilchrist, and he
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talks about how the
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the right brain is the master.
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That doesn't mean the left brain is unimportant.
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It doesn't mean we don't think. It doesn't mean we don't
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need to think. It means that
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the. Limbic brain. Our life
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experiences are going to
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inform our thinking. And
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so if we just pay attention to the fact that, hey,
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I have a story, it doesn't
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mean it has to dictate. But
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when when God's Word says guard your
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heart, we tend to think it means cordon it
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off and put a fence around it. It actually means
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to watch it, watch
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what's happening in there. That's the wellspring
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of life. That's where things come from. What comes
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out of us is what's in us. And so when
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when Scripture says, guard your heart,
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it's talking about lay. Pay
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attention to that thing because it is
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the wellspring of life, your
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will and affections. It says that's where all that comes
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from. And so as we're paying attention to our story,
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that's where our story lives.
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Hmm. All right. So there's so much more that
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we need to get into with Phil in just a
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little bit. But maybe you've got a question or comment.
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Feel free to jump in. You can
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text this morning at (800) 555-7898.
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That's (800) 555-7898.
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We're going to come back to that in just
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a moment. And we have Phil Herndon in
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studio with us. Phil's with Tin Man Ministries.
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You can check them out. Tin Man Ministries org
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A lot of great resources there. But Phil I want
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to pick back up on the conversation we're having
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a moment ago with, uh, this
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anonymous, uh, listener who texted
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in that dealing with
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37 years of being in an abusive
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marriage got out.
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Her husband left her, remarried 16
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months to a new husband. And you said,
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okay, so there's work to be done, and
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there's a lot of work that can be happening, you know,
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not in front of her current husband right
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now. That can help. But when
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you recognize the fact that you're being triggered,
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is there something you can do in the moment
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when limbic brain fires
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and says, I need to protect
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you, and that there's that other side
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of the brain that probably recognizes like,
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okay, yeah, but
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it's not him and I.
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And is there a way to kind of make
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limbic brain limbic brain
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go a little bit quieter so we don't
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have to, uh, have all
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the potential shrapnel firing and
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hitting? And in that moment,
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there.
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Actually is and it's, believe it or not, scientifically
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based guy named Matthew Friedman
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at UCLA, not too awful long ago.
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I'll do the shortcut version. He did
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research on that question,
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like how does a person regulate
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themselves emotionally when
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faced with trauma? And so
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they had, uh, people in a lab, of course,
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and they looked at, uh, very
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expressive faces with unpleasant
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feelings, like people raging or super
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sad. And they had them,
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they said, okay, when you look at this photograph,
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I want you to name give
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that person who's on that screen
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a name. Just name the person's
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face. And they measured brain activity and
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brain stress levels were pretty high, like,
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oh man, that so.
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But they're only giving the name the second round.
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They said, we're going to show you these faces, very expressive
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faces. With another group. I
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want you to assign a feeling to that
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face and a feeling to yourself.
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And the differences in the brain activity
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were were profound. The
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stress level on the second groups
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were so dramatically lowered.
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Friedman created this theory, or,
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well, actually a theory based on the research that says,
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oh, when we become aware
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of what's going on in here and name
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it. And if in her marriage,
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this sounds like a blessing that that her husband
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now would be willing to receive that
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if she were just to say, this is where I
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get really scared with you. I know
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it isn't you necessarily, but right now I
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am triggered like crazy just
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to name that her brain will literally
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change in real time. It
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takes reps, it takes practice. It's
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so much easier to sit in a studio
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in Nashville than it is to do it
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where she lives. I totally understand that.
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But when we get reps around that,
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and when her husband is able to contain
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that from her and she doesn't become
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a project to be fixed to
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her or to him, and she said,
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I'm going to need some reps to
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to talk, talk out loud
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about the emotional level
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I'm in right this minute about what's
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happening in real time. And that's
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Friedman's research at UCLA.
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When you are looking at something
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unpleasant, whether he means to be or not,
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or your brain is telling you, get away from him,
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get away from this, if you will just
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be able to name what's happening
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inside of her in this
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case and let him know
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what she sees on his face,
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her brain will change.
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Yeah, that's.
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Just fascinating how God has created
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the brain once again and what we're learning about
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it, you said contained. So if he
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can contain what she is sharing,
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meaning, receive it, listen,
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hear it, not necessarily fix
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it and don't I'm guessing don't
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dismiss it.
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Yeah, really good idea. Yeah.
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Don't dismiss that. And that gets down
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to the the other side of the equation.
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This lady's husband. That
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containment thing is a huge deal.
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Containment doesn't mean you can
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do or say whatever you want and destroy the house
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and destroy me. It doesn't mean that containment means
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you can struggle and you
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can say things, and you can name
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things, and I can sit here with
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you and we will absorb it together.
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So we often think, I'll just take it, take it, take
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it. You can abuse me. Do whatever you want to. To me.
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That's not what containment means. Containment means
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you can have big feelings and you can
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name things. And I will sit with you
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as you do it. I will absorb
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that. So? So it's taking part of this off
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of you. And so that couple, if
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she gets a lot of reps in just
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naming what's happening in real time,
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and that rep includes a
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containment of that, to say I
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hear that loud and clear things will change
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in both brains, and the resonance between them
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will change. And back to Donald Hebb's
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in the 1950s, he said, neurotransmitters
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that that fire together wire
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together, they will find themselves wiring
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together in their neurotransmitters,
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and it will change the the way they interact.
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Is it helpful for the husband when
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he sees that this is beginning,
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like his wife is beginning to go there
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like limbic brain has fired? Yes.
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Is it helpful for him to say, okay,
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hang on, what are you feeling right now? What are you experiencing?
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Can he help in the process?
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He can. And there's even another step.
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Great point Steve. There's even a
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step to where she can say when they're
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not in that kind of conflict, where
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she where they can say, let's talk about how
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to do this. And she can say, here's what
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I need you to say and how I need you
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to say it. Like screaming,
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you're raging. Probably not a good idea,
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right? I'm thinking no, no, right.
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But but there are ways that she can
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hear that that's safer for her than others.
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And she knows that to tell him.
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That's so.
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Good, so helpful. The practical steps.
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Brian, thank you for your question. We're going to come back
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and look at that from a husband's point
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of view, a question about how
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to enter into those conversations as
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well. And just kind of following up, Steve, on what
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you're saying, Micah Tyler, right now, though, and
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I see, Grace, this conversation
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has God's hands all over it,
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grace in our lives so that
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we love one another well, which
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is what he's called us to do. All right.
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Thanks for your text, Brian. Let's
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ask this question, Phil, as we
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talk about healthy relationships
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and what we can do to help one another,
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the Lord ask us to love him
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first and love one another
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second. And so if we're having a hard
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time because of all of our experiences,
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then we need to look at those experiences
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and how they're influencing our relationships.
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We've talked about if you're a wife
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for 37 years, you're in an abusive
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relationship. He leaves
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you eventually remarry 16
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months in. And how what to
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do with that? What if you are the husband
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of the wife, the new husband, and
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you're trying not to step on the pain?
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You're trying to help. But maybe,
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maybe she doesn't even realize what's
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happening. How can the husband
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help in this situation?
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Yeah, that's a, you know, very
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common, actually. I mean, I've heard that a lot.
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Anyone in helping maybe
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friends have heard these stories, um,
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because of these situations. And I'm going
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to give a three that
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Baptist pastor memory
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memory device here, mnemonic device
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an alliteration. And so
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this really goes across any kind
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of relationship, but certainly one with
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that question like okay, how
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can I walk alongside someone in this case
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my wife or friend, whoever? How
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can I walk alongside this person really hurting
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that I know has these landmines
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in their life that I step on and don't don't
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mean to and don't want to? So the first
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word is, is passion. And
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passion is simply means pain.
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It's like for that husband or actually
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both to say, am I willing to be in pain
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to get to a different place? Pain
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may be this is scary. This is hard. This is
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frustrating. This that walking in the mud.
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But will I experience the pain
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of saying, I want to live with you?
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Well, I want to be intimate with you
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and caring for you and us to be able to,
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you know, fight well, quote unquote love.
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Well, talk well, passion. And
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the second one is purpose. What is this for?
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And so this this couple sits
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down and says, okay, I'm
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willing to deal with the pain of of seeing
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where you are and hearing where you are. And the wife
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says, I'm willing to deal with the pain of where I've
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been to say that out loud to you,
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not in a accusatory
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manner or when I'm triggered, but when we're when
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we're not triggered about anything, we're
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having conversation. I will deal with the pain
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of where I've been with you,
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and for the purpose of us
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drawing closer together, me containing
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a new containing. And then the plan
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comes from that. So passion, purpose, plan.
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And so for this couple to come up with a plan,
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for instance, like, hey, honey,
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there may be some words that are really inflammatory
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to you that really scare you, particularly
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words, phrases look on my face,
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whatever it may be, let me know so we
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can plan. And how to do this, but
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the plan is an outcome of the first two.
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We often want to start with a plan and
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try to work the plan. Then it gets off kilter.
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We just give up on the plan. But if the plan
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comes from passion that says I'll deal
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with pain, purpose that says in
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order for us to draw closer, I'll stick in this
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with you. The plan comes from that
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so that that kind of clears
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the airways for this couple to say or
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people to say, okay, how
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best can I love you by
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how I speak with you, how
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what I say, how I say it
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and like, let's let's outline it won't
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be perfect, but let's outline a way
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I can do this with you as your container
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grows and your willingness to talk about
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these things grows, and your nervous system
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settles down to where the trigger points aren't so
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active.
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I get that in full
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concept and it sounds great,
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but I would imagine in the execution
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of working out that plan, sometimes you
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get off track a little bit, you stumble a little bit.
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I want it to be like a hawk
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landing on something. It's more like a bumblebee.
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It's like the bumblebee does
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get to that flower. But man, it just
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takes the scenic route and it goes around
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here. That's that's kind of how growing intimately
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happens. It's like, I wish it were a
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straighter line. And that's what we try to do
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when we flip that script of plan, purpose,
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passion. We try to find our
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passion. For instance, if we start with passion,
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start with the weird. This is going to be painful,
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and I'm going to deal with pain of feeling
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shame or anger or fear that I've
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said it badly, or I'm going to feel
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it because I know you're not trying to harm
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me, but I am triggered dealing
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with all of that. Um, it really
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lays the groundwork for a straighter
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path, but to guarantee one another.
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Oh, this is so Bumblebee.
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This is so un hawk like.
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I wish we could just swoop in, grab that
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field mouse and just take off, and
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I'm just going to meander. It's going to be hard.
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Um.
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Perfect world, perfect world.
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Both people in a relationship
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or even a friendship. Both people are going
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to come to the table and go, okay, I understand.
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And for the sake of the health of our friendship, our
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our marriage, we're going to do this. The
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other person goes, what
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are you talking about? I'm not
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doing that. Yeah. What
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would you say to protect the heart of the one that's
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willing?
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Yeah. That's where this old
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standby word boundaries. It's like
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that's where you have to really work
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those things out. And if we
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we humans, if we humans would
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just say more about
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what is going on,
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it would just rather than,
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I ain't doing that, I ain't doing that ever.
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Just to say, hey, right now that's
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so scary for me to do, to
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be it. This is a terrible word to use. But there's
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an old phrase that says boundaries are negotiable.
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That sounds terrible. It sounds business and transactional.
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Negotiable just means we can talk about
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this and this thing can move. And
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so to approach one another, it sounds kind
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of protip ish, but to approach one
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another to say, let me let me tell
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you what's underneath what I'm saying.
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I'm not doing that as a comment.
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But underneath that is I have
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experiences like this before. I'm afraid it
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won't work. I'm afraid it will take too long. I'm
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afraid you'll explode like there's all these other things
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that we can say to go very
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slowly, to say, let's look at the underpinning
19:25
of where these really triggering phrases come
19:27
from, so we can just work our
19:29
way into this. And we really we,
19:32
you know, my brother makes a comment
19:34
about me. He says, my brother talking about me, my
19:36
brother stands in front of a microwave and says, hey,
19:38
I don't have all minute. Which
19:41
is kind of true, but, you know, like we're
19:43
this microwave world. We forget
19:46
that that God's pace is so
19:48
often because of humans, so
19:50
much slower than I want. But he is
19:52
teaching and guiding and proving
19:54
himself to be faithful, even as we kind
19:57
of walk through the mud together.
19:59
Bill Herndon of Tin Man Ministries with us
20:01
this morning, and you can find out more and
20:03
connect when you go to Tin Man Ministries.
20:06
Org, that's Tin Man ministries.org
20:09
back with Phil in about three. Well about
20:12
five minutes here on Moody Radio. You
20:14
can always go back and listen to what you missed. And
20:16
you may want to go back and listen to this conversation
20:18
that we've been having throughout the morning with Phil Herndon
20:20
of Tin Man Ministries, Tin Man Ministries.
20:23
Org to connect with that, because,
20:25
Phil, we've covered a lot of ground here,
20:27
talked a lot about, you know what Covid
20:30
exposed. And in thinking
20:32
about some of those things we really kind
20:34
of landed on triggers and how so often
20:36
we do end up being triggered
20:38
in some way wanting to learn how to
20:40
manage that well. And as we kind
20:42
of wrap up our conversation here, uh,
20:45
for the person or the couple,
20:47
the relationship who says we are
20:49
beginning to recognize the fact that
20:52
triggers are real, we're
20:54
doing that. We need to handle
20:57
that better. And take
20:59
us to Scripture for just a moment and help us think through,
21:01
okay, when we're in these relationships,
21:04
how can we not only think scientifically, but
21:06
even biblically about this?
21:07
Yeah, for real, where science
21:09
will in one day that's going to remain
21:12
right. Scripture is going to remain. So,
21:14
you know, there's this guy in scripture you may have heard
21:16
of named Peter. And, uh, he's quite
21:19
the character. And, uh, if you think
21:21
about if there's an overarching
21:23
experience around where we started this
21:25
morning at six with Covid, it's anxiety
21:28
and like, man, this is a scary thing,
21:30
mysterious. What are we doing? Who's doing
21:32
what. Like all that's anxiety that that got
21:35
uncovered that was there. And Peter
21:37
writes later, later in his life
21:40
close to his own death, he writes casting
21:42
like as you, as you walk, casting
21:44
your anxieties on him. The
21:47
if you read what that says in our language,
21:49
it says. Throw
21:51
out of your house that anxiety
21:53
onto him because it matters
21:56
to him concerning you. That's
21:58
very powerful message. It matters him concerning
22:00
you. And we humans will ask a question. Any time
22:03
we meet someone, we'll ask a question. Are
22:05
you safe and do you care about me?
22:07
Those are the two questions we have all the time with other
22:09
people. And Jesus was.
22:11
I think it's in Mark, um, where
22:14
he slips in a little phrase, and Jesus,
22:16
upon his resurrection, says, go tell
22:18
the disciples and Peter
22:20
that I'm alive. And that's such a beautiful
22:22
little piece there. Like I haven't forgotten him.
22:24
I haven't abandoned him. He's going
22:26
to be okay. He's still he's still mine.
22:29
And then later on John 21, the last
22:31
chapter of the book, he restores him to
22:33
ministry. And we we know that story. And
22:35
it's so beautiful how he says, look,
22:38
Peter, it matters to me
22:40
concerning you. So we read that verse
22:42
in First Peter and go, oh, that's cool.
22:45
Peter's writing this years
22:47
removed from that kind of restoration, John
22:50
21. It's such a beautiful, almost like
22:52
a little wink to us, like, hey guys,
22:55
if you want to know from a renowned
22:57
authority on what it means
22:59
for your life to matter to Jesus, I can
23:01
tell you. I can tell you he
23:04
sought me out by name to
23:06
restore me because of his love for me. And so
23:08
we're asking that question of other people.
23:10
Do you care about me? Are you safe?
23:13
Right? Can I be with you? And I know
23:15
there's online. He's not safe. But he's good. But
23:17
he's good and safe. He doesn't do
23:19
safe things that I think are safe. But he's
23:21
safe, right? He is our eternal Savior.
23:23
And so to be able to live out
23:25
that passage, to be casting anxiety
23:28
on him because it matters to him concerning
23:30
you, if we can project that
23:32
to one another in our relationships.
23:34
And hey, Don, Steve, it matters
23:37
to me concerning you. Your life
23:39
matters to me too. That's a such
23:41
a beautiful picture of what Jesus has
23:43
so personally done with Peter, and that Peter
23:45
writes about near the end of his life.
23:47
We see cast.
23:48
Your anxiety on him, for he cares for you
23:50
on just about every plaque, every sign,
23:52
every T-shirt. And yet, Phil, when
23:54
we are casting it out of our house, it gets
23:57
stuck to the hand and you can not
23:59
get rid of it. Uh, when
24:01
when we recognize that and we're still trying to
24:03
trust the Lord with it, what
24:05
do we do? Like I'm saying, Lord,
24:07
you've got this. I know you've got this. Why
24:10
won't I let it go?
24:11
I can still hear my one of my
24:13
professors in school say.
24:16
Read the verses before
24:18
any passage you say.
24:20
Okay, okay. Good idea. So
24:22
that that thought starts
24:25
with. Humble yourselves before
24:27
God and he will exalt you in due
24:29
time. Well, humble means simply
24:32
accepting my limitation in
24:34
humility. I can't do everything. I don't
24:36
know everything. And so in humility
24:39
I say, hey, I'm limited. You're
24:41
not. So I'm humbling myself before
24:43
you and remember the word the tent,
24:45
it's casting your anxiety,
24:48
which means it is not
24:50
even meant in this world. It's not
24:52
meant to be a one time thing.
24:54
Peter's language is very intentional
24:56
as we humble ourselves
24:59
before the mighty hand of God,
25:01
recognizing neediness and limitation
25:03
from each other and from him, then
25:06
we are able to be positioned. We'll
25:08
say it this way lyrically, emotionally, relationally
25:11
positioned to in an ongoing
25:13
manner, continue casting anxieties.
25:16
Because rumor is the world
25:18
doesn't stop being crazy just
25:20
because I've cast my anxiety.
25:22
And so we just do that in a continual manner
25:24
under the under the, the, the umbrella
25:27
of. I am bringing my limitation, neediness
25:29
to him so I can continue to cast this on
25:31
him.
25:32
We know that the.
25:33
Lord has us. That's why our relationship
25:35
with.
25:35
Him is.
25:36
The starting point. More information
25:38
on our website. Moody radio, my
25:41
moody radio org. That upper right hand corner.
25:43
But Phil Herndon with us Tin Man
25:45
Ministries. Org and if you missed any
25:47
of the conversation it'll be posted later
25:50
today. Don and steve.org.
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