Divorce wars too easily hurt the children caught up in them -- and eat away at shared assets that just need to be divided fairly. A needless and divisive court fight could easily cost you and your ex-partner £50,000 EACH in legal fees if you don't put emotions aside and come to sensible mutual agreements. Nigel Cassidy taps the expertise of author and former solicitor Diana Jordan , who has distilled her detailed knowledge of our adverserial divorce procedures into a new easy-to-read book A Better Way of Dealing With Divorce. www.dealingwithdivorce.co.uk *Also taking part is solicitor *Susan Keppe , a family law consultant and financial provision specialist at Sinclairs Law.She has long experience of representing divorce clients including government ministers and celebrities.. Together, Diana and Susan dispel some divorce procedure myths and explain clearly why its important to understand how solicitors charge, what they can achieve for you, and what you need to resolvebefore you issue a decree -- an essential step, says Susan Keppe, but Diana Jordan also warns its often the starting gun for divorce negotiations to turn toxic.