Narcissists count on us to politely fill the blanks. And they like to be obnoxious to trigger us. But what happens when we don't do what they want, and do this instead?

103. Early Warning Signs of A Narcissist (or A Jerk)

10 days ago 29m 57s

I share two stories of meeting people and they did something that was really off, signalling with high probability they might be narcissists. Or at least jerks and really unpleasant to be around. I share both stories and observations.

101. Clumsy or Self Sabotage: Decoding Narcissist’s « I was unlucky » narrative

14 days ago 27m 46s

Everyone makes bad decisions sometimes. So it’s easy to assume that all bad decisions are « good faith bad decisions ». But narcissists game this. And we can figure out when. In this episode, I share how.

102. Why Are Narcissists Mean (and Then Nice)?

14 days ago 30m 1s

Toxic people and narcissists are often mean. And then nice. Or first nice, and then mean. And it seems to make no sense. But there is a really good reason why they act this way. And it probably explains why those relationships are doomed for fa

100. What Does A Risk / Reward Analysis of Toxic Relationships and Narcissists Show?

1 month ago 28m 50s

Narcissists are a bad deal. So let's see if tools used to analyse deals can help us identify toxic relationships and make more sense of why they are such a... bad deal.#npd #narcissism #narcissist #toxicrelationship

099. Recognising (And Debunking) Narc Logic

May 2nd, 2024 29m 59s

It is increasingly common for people to think like narcissists. And until we're aware of what that looks like, there is a risk we do too. We know narcissists have a simplistic view of the world. Here is how you can spot a "narclogic view", why

098. Mistakes About Narcissism (Introduction to upcoming book)

Apr 25th, 2024 29m 58s

I read the introduction to my upcoming book regarding common mistakes people make about narcissism, which prevent them from healing and getting their lives back on track. I share a bit of my backstory and some thoughts about why this is importa

097. Narcissists & Groups: 6 Stages They Follow to Infiltrate, Take Over and Corrupt

Apr 19th, 2024 29m 33s

Narcissists love to infiltrate and take over groups. It's less effort than creating a group. There are certain patterns they follow. I observe 6 stages of the takeover. Hopefully this will make you less vulnerable.

096. "Is It Even Knoweable?" - Debunking Narcissists Ridiculous Claims

Apr 10th, 2024 30m 48s

Narcissists will claim to know a lot. They will appear certain. And yet, many of the things they claim to know are... unknowable. Or it is not possible for them to be as certain as they are. In this episode, I share some thoughts to avoid falli

095. Debunking Terrible Suggestions On Dealing With Narcissists

Apr 1st, 2024 25m 52s

I just came across an article "what words can destroy a narcissist" on some website. I think it was generated by AI. And it was full of really toxic ideas and thought structures. I recorded my debunking of these ideas that WILL backfire on anyo

094. 6 Manipulation Tricks Cults and Narcissists Use: How To Recognise Them and Ungaslight Ourselves

Mar 31st, 2024 24m 31s

Cults and Narcissists use nearly identical manipulation tricks that are very effective - until we recognise them and debunk them. In this episode I share 6 of these tricks they play and make some suggestions to make yourself less vulnerable.

093. 11 Mistakes Around Narcissism Most People Make

Mar 17th, 2024 30m

Here is a sneak preview of some ideas I explore in the book I am writing on narcissism. I finally found an angle I think is relevant and would love to hear what you think. I list the 11 mistakes below.And if you'd like to accelerate your heali

092. 10 Signs of Narc Logic / Mindvirus - And Why They're BS

Mar 3rd, 2024 29m 57s

Narcissists use convoluted / stupid thinking to manipulate others and defend low quality ideas. Once we recognise HOW narcissists think, it becomes easier to avoid being manipulated and to avoid embracing low quality ideas. In this episode I sh

091. Therapy & Narcissism: Mistakes To Avoid & My Experience

Mar 1st, 2024 29m 59s

Is therapy helpful after being with a narcissist? Is all therapy equal? What are some things to look out for? What was my experience working with a therapist through a breakup WITHOUT being aware of narcissism? I share some thoughts on this top

090. "Out of Line"? Or... Healthy Boundaries?

Feb 20th, 2024 29m 24s

When a friend's new partner starts employing Isolation Tactics, or Loyalty Challenge, when they are trying to create conflict between the friend and their Support Group, what is really going on? And if you put down boundaries, are you being unr

089. How Narcissists Gaslight Us With Rupars (And What Is A Rupar?)

Feb 14th, 2024 20m 18s

Narcissists use Rupars to gaslight us. The technique is obnoxious, and effective, and can make us hallucinate they are right, and we are wrong.So what is a Rupar, how does it work, and how can we avoid getting rupared by #narcissists?

088. The 2 Reasons Why Narcissists Don't Admit They're Wrong

Feb 13th, 2024 21m 30s

Why don't narcissists admit when they get something wrong? There are two reasons. Until we understand them, we are likely to try to get them to see things from our point of view. That is exhausting and frustrating.But once we understand why we

087. "You Must Be Exaggerating!" When people don't believe you - and what to say

Feb 8th, 2024 30m

When you first realise that someone matches the profile of a narcissist, and you tell your friends, many people will not believe you. There are some common sentences they will use to express. What basically is cognitive dissonance. In this epis

086. How Narcissists and Cults Wear People Down

Jan 30th, 2024 28m 24s

Narcissists and cults use similar manipulation tactics to wear people down. In this livestream from YouTube, I share some thoughts.

085. Is This The First Symptom Of A Toxic Dynamic?

Jan 29th, 2024 29m 58s

What is the first sign of a toxic dynamic? We often look for behaviours and patterns, but maybe the first sign is a feeling we have, a sinking feeling, not feeling good enough. And maybe the first symptom of that is when we stop doing things th

084. Why Narcissists Wear Us Down (And What To Do About It)

Jan 16th, 2024 29m 47s

Narcissists wear us down. It's the same tactics cults use. And their programming will stay with us for years, until we undo it. So the abuse continues. Why do they do they? And what can we do?The episode is kindly sponsored by Magic Mind, a d

083. Why Relationships With Narcissists Are Designed to Fail (and a secret tell)

Jan 10th, 2024 25m 6s

Relationships with narcissists can't work out. And the reason is obvious, once we see it. A client was asking if things failed because of what she did, or didn't do, or say, or wear, or some other random detail. No, obviously not. But she was

082. Getting Free From Narcissists: Start Here: Tips for 2024

Jan 8th, 2024 29m 57s

Though we don't control 100% of our lives, we control more than 0.0% of them. Getting away (and staying away) from narcissists is easier when we make some changes that seem small, but add up. Even in the the worst situations, there are some thi

081. Married To A Narcissist, With Kids: What happened When She Left? (Dr Heidi Brocke Interview)

Jan 5th, 2024 1h 6m

Dr Heidi Brocke realised she was married to a narcissist. They had children. She took the incredibly difficult decision to leave, and leave her children with their father. Why? And what happened? (Spoiler: things turned out well).Now she help

080. Manage Your Expectations Over Christmas With Narcissists

Dec 25th, 2023 28m 52s

How can a simple 0 to 10 scale help us have a better Christmas, even with narcissists? How can it help us manage our expectations, get less wound up, and maybe even make things better? Tune in to find out. And a Very Merry Christmas to you!