After 21 days of daily conversation on the topic of race, Kianga and Rachel share the three truths that have emerged for each of them as a result.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/diaryofapandemic/message

21 Days on Race: Day 20. The truth you may not want to hear.

Jul 29th, 2020 37m 33s

As the 21 days of conversations come towards the end, Rachel and Kianga begin to draw some conclusions about what their experiment has shown them. Today is about the difficult truths. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.

21 Days on Race: Day 19. The Cost of Inclusivity, Part 2

Jul 29th, 2020 35m 3s

Finishing up yesterday's conversation about the cost of inclusivity, what emerges is the sense that systemic change and individuals (cells, as in the parts of the system) must change in tandem with each other. One or the other won't work; it mu

21 Days on Race: Day 18. The Cost of Inclusivity

Jul 27th, 2020 21m 11s

Rachel and Kianga answer a reader question today about how best to move forward with inclusivity, and what are the negative consequences to be on the lookout for. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/diaryofa

21 Days on Race: Day 17. What's on the other side of all of this?

Jul 26th, 2020 31m 11s

Going deep into the muck and minutiae isn't the point of all this...so where do we really want to go? What's available to us when we're willing to get down and dirty with the tiny pieces to create something new?--- Send in a voice message:

21 Days on Race: Day 16. Handling the force of anger

Jul 25th, 2020 35m 1s

Today we look at being in conversations where anger is present and how to identify your location so you can respond accordingly. Allies and PoCs have different roles here, and they require a lens of awareness around the trigger, and whether it

21 Days on Race: Day 15. Answering your questions

Jul 24th, 2020 38m 32s

Today Kianga and Rachel take on reader questions. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/diaryofapandemic/message

21 Days on Race: Day 14. The cost of sitting and listening.

Jul 23rd, 2020 39m 9s

Have White people fully taken on their part of the responsibility of creating racial equity, or are they just sitting back and listening? Rachel and Kianga dive into what they are seeing and feeling, and why the lack of urgency is significant.

21 Days on Race: Day 13. A look into the future.

Jul 23rd, 2020 27m 49s

Kianga shares about a thing she's seeing bubble to the surface rather quietly, but that when it actually does surface, feels like there will be significant impact. You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomi

21 Days of Race: Day 12. Slowing down

Jul 21st, 2020 28m 36s

Deepening intimacy around race requires going slow. Today Kianga and Rachel revisit a part of a conversation they had yesterday where there was potential for their connection to contract. And what was learned as they slowed down was really an i

21 Days of Race: Day 11. Spiritual leaders and race.

Jul 19th, 2020 39m 45s

There's a way that many spiritual leaders are ignoring or "bypassing" the conversation of race right now. Kianga and Rachel revisit an experience they had together about 5 weeks ago in a spiritual community - to discuss how the personal blind s

21 Days of Race: Day 10. Being willing to move from where you are.

Jul 18th, 2020 17m 18s

Kianga and Rachel explore what it's like to be unattached enough to your story to be willing to see it a different way. And that it doesn't necessarily make the different way true - but it does take you off the spot of your habits long enough t

21 Days on Race: Day 8. OUR work to do.

Jul 18th, 2020 21m 30s

Kianga and Rachel have mentioned before how there is no right way to be in this moment, as each of us has our own personal work to do, rather than a prescribed set of actions to take. In this conversation, we out ourselves with what we see as o

21 Days on Race: Day 9. Performative Innocence

Jul 17th, 2020 29m 43s

Rachel experiences an important revelation in the way that she comes to the conversation, and what the consequences of doing that are. Kianga and Rachel also share about how the container of the conversation is what paves the way for what's pos

21 Days on Race: Day 7. Race in the media...coming from 2 different perspectives

Jul 17th, 2020 25m 42s

We're not gonna lie...things are getting a little uncomfortable up in here. Today Rachel reveals how she is starting to question what the media taught and showed her about PoC when she was growing up, and that she wants to go back and see what

21 Days on Race: Day 6. Race and desire.

Jul 15th, 2020 48m 16s

Today Kianga and Rachel talk about learned attraction and preferences as it pertains to intimate relationships, and each do some sharing about their experiences with interracial relationships.You can learn more about the course here: www.becom

21 Days on Race: Day 5. When racial diversity isn't a part of your everyday life.

Jul 14th, 2020 29m 21s

Rachel shares about a realization she had about furthering the conversation on race, when her lived racial experience isn't always particularly diverse. You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies.---

21 Days on Race: Day 4. A framework for a way forward between the oppressor and the oppressed.

Jul 13th, 2020 21m 14s

Kianga shares a structure of how to find the way forward between the oppressor and the oppressed. They try it on a bit, and practice with real-life interactions Rachel and Kianga have had. You can learn more about the course here: www.becoming

21 Days on Race: Day 3. Who gets to be the face of the conversation on race?

Jul 12th, 2020 28m 54s

If shifting the reality of race in America requires all parties to be invested, what is lost when we don't allow ALL people to contribute to the conversation. And what dynamic is really created when we look at white people ceding positions of p

21 Days on Race: Day 2. Breaking Out of the Orthodoxy of The Racial Justice Model

Jul 11th, 2020 26m 6s

Kianga and Rachel recount bits of a conversation with a social justice advocate regarding her concerns about what we're up to...and why they come from an outdated way of thinking.You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans

21 Days on Race: Day 1. Race and Personal Choice

Jul 9th, 2020 27m 16s

How does race make white people act against their own interests? Rachel shares about her own experiences of needing a safety net and the perceptions that kept her from accessing it. You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehum

Weekly Hotlist 11

Jul 7th, 2020 32m 16s

So much going on in the world! This week's hotlist touches on nervous systems, the illusion of "the times changing" in the race conversation, and Kanye is apparently running for President. We literally can't make this stuff up, but we do give i

Taking the Elevator to the Bottom

Jul 3rd, 2020 33m 27s

In this week's deep dive, Kianga and Rachel talk about what it means to take the elevator to the bottom - both as an individual and collectively - as well as why you'd want to do it, and practical tools to supporting yourself and others on this

Weekly Hotlist 10

Jul 1st, 2020 36m 52s

Mask-shaming, BLM is not an all-encompassing movement, and racist white people congratulating themselves on not being racist. This and so much more as Rachel and Kianga break down the weekly hotlist.--- Send in a voice message: https://podc

Weekly Hotlist 9

Jun 23rd, 2020 49m 55s

The weekly re-hash of all things pandemic, racism in America, and who knows what else is coming... This week, Kianga and Rachel discuss pain portals, loneliness, how trying to win the argument is definitely not the way, and so much more.Our u