This week Sam tries to save her basil plant and Savannah hired a doula. Also Will Smith slapped Chris Rock at the Oscars and it was definitely NOT a joke. We talk about what we mean when we talk about violence, the long history of black women being ridiculed for their hair, and why we (as a society) can’t move on from the infidelity in Will and Jada’s marriage. We also talk about how white people, especially white women, understand interpersonal violence through the lens of privilege and why our gut reaction to things like “the slap” might be counterproductive to antiracism work/allyship. As always when we talk about systemic racism we do our very best not to continue harmful narratives and approach these conversations with our own privilege, identity, and position in mind. We don’t always get it right but we always want to be accountable, always reach out if you think we can have these conversations in a better way.