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So we are on episode

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five . I think Lies , lies , lies from lies

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, lies , lies .

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Okay , but also I didn't tell you about my week

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.

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I'm so sorry . I completely neglected to ask

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you about your week and that was not very empathetic or good-friending

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of me , tell me about your week .

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You had other stuff that happened today , so you're definitely

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forgiven . I should have said something . Okay

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, so let me overthink . Might take a bunch of them . On

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Saturday we're trying to track her LH

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surge to see if she's gonna be ovulating

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, but it's really hard to measure and so , like , a lot of the things you have

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to do involve like actually looking at your cervix

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. I don't know how much you know about it , but you have to like

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look at the cervix to see what color it is , how

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open the hole is in the center of it , and

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then you have to like squish it to see how squishy

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it is , and the squishier it is , the closer

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you are to ovulation . And you have to take a look at

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all the like fluids and analyze

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what color they are and , as

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you can imagine , it's a pretty hard thing to see for

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yourself unless you have very flexible wrists and a good

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mirror . So we bought a like

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plastic clear speculum and I

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basically was playing doctor and took a look and

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, yeah , you can see the whole thing . It's crazy . It

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looks like a little mini donut from the fair . You

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know what I mean , like the small ones that are in the little machine

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. Yeah , just looks like that and it's wild

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. So , yeah , now I've seen somebody's insides

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in an interesting way , so

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we couldn't determine whether or not she was having

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an LH surge or ovulating . But then her numbers

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started to decrease on Sunday

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afternoon and we're like , shit , like it's happening , and

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if we miss it then we've gone through a whole round

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of hormones for nothing and we've lost an

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entire month of time . So

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we're like , okay , we're gonna do this . So we got

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up at 3.45 in the morning , which

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was really felt like 2.45 in the morning

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because of daylight savings time and we

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drove all the way to Seattle to

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go to this burn bank and pick up like the

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big cryogenic chamber with

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the hassle sample inside . It's huge , it's

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like bigger than a cooler you take to the beach and it's just got this 80

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, 80 sample inside and they keep it like minus

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280 degrees . And

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I suspect we may have been that place's

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first real customers , cause they gave us a gift card

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to PF Changs for like a hundred dollars American

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. It was like a thank you for choosing them . So that was pretty

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cool . The blizzards on the way there

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were horrendous , so like I couldn't

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see the road , I couldn't see the side of the road . I

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couldn't see anything . It was a blizzard , but

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I knew like it kept hitting the rumble strip . So I'm like , okay

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, so I must be like I'm not on the side of the road

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but like I'm on the safe side . But there's no other

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cars right . It's four in the morning and then I see

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headlights coming up towards me , but they're not

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like to my left , they're straight ahead of me . I was

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on the fucking wrong side of the road . I was on the wrong side of the

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road . I was driving carefully and cautiously on

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the wrong side of the road and I only realized it when I

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saw the headlights . And then I was able to cross three lanes

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and get back into my own lane . That's how poor the visibility

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was .

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Oh , my fucking God .

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Yeah , I had lots of time because it was pitch black . I saw

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the lights very far in the distance . The semi wouldn't

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have even been able to tell . But yeah

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, that was crazy . And then over the Coca-Cola

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, I was going faster than I wanted to

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. It was at 70 . That's how low they lowered

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the speed limit and I started like hyperventilating

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and panicking a little bit . Close trap between

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the semi and the wall , that tunnel , you know the tunnel that's scary

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on the Coca-Cola . And Lauren was asleep

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in the backseat and I'm like I have to make sure we don't die

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. So I had a terrible time driving there . But

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it was a pick up , the cryogenic thing . And we

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go down and Lauren thought it was an hour

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north so we would be backtracking and then we would

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have cut an hour off our time . No , it was actually an hour further

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south , so it added two hours to our driving

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time . Fuck , he's an hour at least . 12 hours

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to 14 hours minimum driving Cause we're doing

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this in one day . So we drive down there . It's like Pialla

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and we go to see this midwife in

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some place . That looks weird . But

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then we came to find out . So like we've been following

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this book kind of religiously . It's like the number

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one book that all queer couples try and conceive

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recommend . It's got the best data . It's got

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information that's tailored to people in our situation

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. It's written by this midwife . So

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we started talking about the book that we were reading and

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she was like , oh , was it written by this person ? And

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I'm like , yeah , she's like . Oh , that's who trained me . Like

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we're really good friends of my mentor . She's

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the one who trained me and taught me everything I know . So

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we have the like perfect

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person to help us , who's like pretty much like the

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expert's protege . So

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that's really cool . So we may have missed

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the window because it's only viable for 12 to

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16 hours after your egg . So we don't

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know if we got it , but either way , we're happy that we

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have this midwife and that we got

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the policy figured out . Then we drove all the way back

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. We went to PF Chang's it wasn't very good Sorry

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, pf Chang's , we'll never get an endorsement from them

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and then drove all the

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way home , got home at 9 pm , went to bed , went to

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work the next day and we no surprise why I'm sick . That's

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a lot for the poor old immune system

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. When did it ? But you did it . You did it in the

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state . Yeah , because you can't bring like

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human fluids across the border . I guess if it's

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like in your uterus , you can . You

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just can't bring it back in like a container . Okay

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, you can go across the border and do medical treatments

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, right , anyone can . Yeah , okay , you're

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not illegally smuggling a pacemaker over the border

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if you get heart surgery like it's in you . True

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, very true , yes , okay , okay , that's just

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interesting . So we'll find out . Two weeks We've

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got four more vials with the same guy . It's a guy that

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Lauren really likes , the worst case scenario we have those

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four vials Tomorrow

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. I'll be staff meeting Friday's the last day and then it's spring break .

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Oh fuck , yeah , it's spring break .

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That's good or bad if you're a parent .

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If you're a parent , it sucks .

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Do you have to arrange child care ?

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Well , okay , so I am lucky my parents

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are going to do it . But , like , for people

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not in my position , like , like , especially

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like I think about , like my low-income clients , those

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who are on like income assistance or whatever , and

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like the ones who are on income assistance consistently

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, like they're not doing well mentally , there's

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a reason that they're not able to work , and

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so to have their kid in school , for those like

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, however many hours a day is the break that they

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need Mentally to be able to be a good parent

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when their kid is home . So these two weeks

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are like they just they really suck , but

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it is what it is . Um , I am officially , apparently

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this year I am no longer identified

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as a struggling single mother

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by the government by the school .

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Okay , what are you losing ?

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Well , no , I'm not really losing anything , but , like

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up until now I was , I was like barely making

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ends meet , like life was hard . So

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every Christmas break , every spring break

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and every summer break I got a food

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hamper , yeah , and then some like gift cards

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sometimes , and I was , like always

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, extremely thankful because , like

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the reality is , without those gift cards , especially

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Like the food hamper amazing

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it would have , like you know , the pasta , the pasta sauce

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, the cereal , all the all that shit

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. But those gift cards made it so that , like , I

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could buy a watermelon . It's

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his favorite thing to eat , he loves watermelon , so I would

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be able to go and buy him a watermelon with the

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gift card , but without the gift card , like you know what ? That's

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expensive , not gonna happen . And

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and now this year is like my first year of being

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of an income where I don't really

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meet the threshold for that . No , I

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don't get that anymore , which is great because , like

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, yay , I'm doing better for myself . But

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also I really liked that .

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Did you hear in the state some states they've brought

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into medical care to include so

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some social services . So I think it's just five

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states down south where you can go to the doctor

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with housing problems and they can prescribe

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you a rent subsidy Holy , yeah

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. Or you can go to the doctor with

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food scarcity and they can prescribe you

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pre groceries yeah , and it's just five

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states , but like they're doing it as a way to like if

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you can prevent people from like getting really

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sick , maybe you can save medical costs down the line

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.

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And I bet it would like investing in people so that you can

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help them stay afloat so you don't have to pay for what happens

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to them if they don't oh total , like there

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was , there's some , there's some town in

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the state and it was like this billionaire guy that

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like just did a guaranteed basic income for

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everybody there and what happened ? Everyone

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was like , oh my god , it's gonna be a bunch of drug addicts

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, and on and on and on . What actually happened

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was the School attendance

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went up . A criminal rate drastically

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decreased . Like , oh my goodness , if

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people can afford to live , they Don't

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do things that are not so great yeah that

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was Andrew Yang's whole thing .

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Right , ebi , the great idea and we could but during

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over it .

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So we know it can , yeah , but now they're clawing back some of

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the money . Some people that I know have been told that

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they need to pay it back , and it is crazy

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. Yeah , so . And then they're talking

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about a universal . So here's the thing . They're talking

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about universal basic income and

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then they're also talking about a universal income

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supplement and how . They're two very different

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things and basically like universal basic income

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, everybody makes this much a month , no matter

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what . So if you're making less , get a top up . But a universal

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income supplement or something like that

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is basically where everybody , no

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matter how much money you make , yet X amount of dollars

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per month . Yeah , so all of the people who are like in

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the higher income brackets get the money , but all the people

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who are in the lower income brackets get the money . But that's

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not gonna happen . It's going to be more like universal

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basic income is what I've been seeing on the tiki-taka .

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I don't know . If it's true , do moms get a certain amount

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of money ?

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Do moms , moms , well . So

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if you have worked for the 12 months

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prior to having a child

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and contributed to like EI and shit , then

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you are given or

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you get like maternity leave

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for a year , but it's not that much so and

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you have to like . When I went on that leave

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, the first six weeks were

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paid for like I got the . It

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is EI in a sense . So I got the EI

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plus the top up . So when I went on that leave

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I had contributed the maximum , which meant that while

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I was on Matleaf I got the top up for the first six

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weeks and then after that it was basic EI

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of I think it was $918

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by weekly was what I got . But that was 2015

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and so I'm sure that the amount has gone . But you get

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that for a year and then you have to go back to work

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. You have the option to

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be off work for 18 months in

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Canada . The only trick is , whatever amount

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of money that you would have gotten in the 12 months , they just

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space that entire amount over the 18 months

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.

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Is my understanding the same amount of money .

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Just with just smaller payments over a longer period of

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time .

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I mean , can you just do that yourself ? I guess , if you could , if

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you could , yeah .

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And so then you go back to work , blah , blah , blah , blah

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. And then you get , as

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long as you are up to date on your taxes , you

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get child tax credit every month

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and that is universal . And

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I think , oh no , it's not . Nope , nope , that's

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income tested . So it's income tested . So for

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my six year old boy , with

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me making 90,000

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a year now , my monthly child

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tax is , I think , $400 a month

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.

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How much you get .

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That's how much I get , but you have to do

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your taxes or else you don't get

9:45

the payment . So it encourages people to do their

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taxes . Um , if you have a lower income , you

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get more money , which is interesting , because when I had a lower income

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I actually got less money . But I mean it was during

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covid . It was a crazy time .

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It is a crazy time .

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Yeah , um , and so that's something that you get once

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you become a parent . Um , and it's

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. It's the parent who is entitled to custody

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. So if you have primary care and custody

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of your child , you're the one that gets that . Or if even

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a grandparent has primary care and custody

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of a child , they can apply for it and get it .

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But like say , for instance , if I had Matt leave

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from my work , then Lauren would be able to apply

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. Or like , if I have benefits or something through my work

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, or if my income is too high , then she would be able to

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apply for it .

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Well , you don't apply for income or a child tax . Everyone is going

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to say that , yeah , it's automatic . If you have a child

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who is a dependent , you just get it . Oh , but

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I don't know how it works if you have a two parent household .

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Yeah .

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So I'm saying oh , oh , that's interesting

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. Yeah , I don't know how two parent households works . I've

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never had one .

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Do I count automatically as a parent ? I don't believe

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so . I think I have to file for um secondary

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parent ship or whatever and like sign a document , but I'll

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automatically become the parent when the child's born . I

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don't know if we'll . We'll get there and pass that between we get

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to it .

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You're also going to have like nine months to figure it out

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, ten months , figure it out .

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It just depends on whether I like do um self-study

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teaching next year or whether I try and get a contract

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position . Yeah , but they like you . Oh , yeah , I know , but like

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it's up to the HR person for the whole district , it's not

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up to my principal , and I've heard rumors

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that not only is he not going to be not coming

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back next year , but they think he like one

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person suspects he's not coming back after spring break

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. Oh , is this allowed to go on the internet

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? It is . It's just a rumor . It's not a bad route

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. It doesn't have health problems . No , I've heard

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that he is moving on to like he wants to join

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the school board , so he wants to move up and on

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to bigger things . And it's true he's way

11:19

too big a fish for our school . He's like really good

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and he could be working an admin and making

11:23

like changes for like the whole district . That would be positive

11:25

, have a bigger impact , but I've really enjoyed working with

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him for the last two years , so like that'll be a bummer

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, but the other admin teams seem to like me and I have

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a good report and yeah , I don't think it'll be

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a problem . I think they exaggerate how hard it is to get

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a job , to make teachers feel really grateful when

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they get one , so they're less likely to complain about

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their workload when actually it's been pretty easy . Well

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, that's , that's encouraging , ish .

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Yeah , on that note , l word

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, the L word , the L word . Fuck

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. Episode four , episode five episode five right . Episode

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five Lies , lies , lies . And , like last

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time , I was talking about how the episode that

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we watched was the first time they did like this historical flashback

11:57

to gay shit in the past and

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I was all excited because I really enjoyed that . And then

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this time the quote unquote flashback wasn't

12:03

actually a flashback , it was present day , but

12:06

it was just a different storyline and it wasn't actually a storyline

12:08

. It was just something that happened in the gay community and , surprise

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, surprise , it was just lesbians and there was cheating

12:12

happening and that was it . It wasn't really anything big .

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So this was the first episode so far of the

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series . I think one of the only episodes that was directed

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by a man .

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Oh , interesting .

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Every other episode has been directed and produced by female

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directors . This is the male episode . Okay

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, okay , okay . So just to summarize , dana

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grapples with her pressure

12:31

to keep the relationship with Laura a secret . She

12:33

doesn't wanna come out publicly . She's worried

12:36

about losing her Subaru gig . That was

12:38

the last one . That wasn't the series you said . Season

12:40

one , episode four lies , lies , lies , yeah , okay

12:42

, then Dana continues to struggle with keeping the relationship

12:44

a secret . That make you feel better . I mean like , but she didn't even mention

12:46

Subaru . No , but like we know that . That's why

12:48

she's worried about it . Oh , okay , I'm extrapolating

12:51

and drawing conclusions . She doesn't wanna come to

12:53

the fray to losing Subaru . They didn't say that , I just know

12:55

that to be true . Okay , jenny and Tim

12:57

are really strained because she's still obsessed

12:59

with Marina . She's confused . There's a lot of tension

13:02

. Tina is pregnant

13:04

and Beth's excited , even though things are going

13:06

shitty for Beth at work . Yes , she almost

13:08

gets fired . Yeah , shane feels

13:11

bad . Shane feels guilty and uncertain

13:13

, apparently . And what happens to

13:15

Alice ?

13:16

Alice decides that she no longer wants to be with women and

13:18

meet Lisa , the lesbian in a man's

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body . Also , Alice's mom

13:22

comes into town .

13:23

Yeah , and that was really bad . Alice's mom

13:25

, she's not okay .

13:26

Ew .

13:27

Is this where Alice also starts to realize she kinda likes Dana

13:29

, no , okay , no

13:31

, this is where Alice starts to like Lisa , the

13:33

male lesbian . Like , honestly , we could never

13:35

you could never do an episode like that today .

13:37

No , no , it seems very techie , but also

13:39

so . In this episode there's also Kit , not

13:41

a huge story , but she

13:43

gets a letter from her son so she hasn't heard from him

13:45

in five years where he just needs some medical info for school . But

13:49

but Dana's big thing in this episode was

13:51

that while she and Laura were together , dana

13:53

squirted .

13:54

Oh did she .

13:55

Yeah Right , so embarrassed . She didn't

13:57

know what it was and she felt super embarrassed . She was

13:59

so worried and like talking

14:01

to everyone and she was like , oh my God , did this thing happen ? And

14:03

then she was like , but I don't know what I did . And then

14:05

people are like , what did you queef ? Like what the hell's going

14:07

on ? And she like whispers into Alice's ear

14:10

and Alice is like , oh you , female ejaculated

14:12

, yeah , yeah . And then Dana was all like worried . She's

14:15

like , oh , but I didn't like , I just worried . And then

14:17

Dana was worried because she had and this is

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the gayest thing , this is the gayest

14:22

thing in this entire fucking episode . I'm

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so ready , I'm worried because Laura

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hasn't called me in 21

14:28

hours . And then Laura

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shows up with a rose . Aw , so

14:33

fucking gay Mm-hmm

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, out

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of everything , even more gay than

14:40

little miss Jenny going to the planet

14:42

with Tim . She and Tim go to the planet

14:44

together and then Jenny goes and sneaks off with Marina

14:46

into the bathroom and they bang in the toilet

14:49

stall . Well , tim's just out there . Well , tim's

14:51

out there at the table and then he's like , oh , I have to

14:53

go to the bathroom . So he goes into the bathroom as they're

14:55

banging in the toilet stall and then Jenny's

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like oh hi . And then like makes out

14:59

of the toilet stall and is like talking to Tim

15:01

. And then Tim was like , okay , I have to go pee now . And

15:03

like goes to the next one over . Thank goodness

15:05

, almost caught them like in

15:08

the act . This is also where Mrs

15:10

Peabody comes to the aid of Bet , because Bet was

15:12

gonna get fired . I like her , I

15:14

like Mrs Peabody . Yeah , she came in and

15:16

she was like I will absolutely let

15:18

you have provocation , but that

15:21

needs to be here . Yeah , only if you keep Bet

15:23

. Fuck . Yeah , go Bet . See

15:25

what else . That was it . That was it Shane's friend Lisa

15:27

, I've got Alice who who's friend

15:29

? Lisa Is Shane's friend . Oh , lisa is Shane's

15:32

friend .

15:32

Yeah , I thought Lisa was just hanging out

15:34

at the planet and they bumped into her .

15:36

Oh , no , no , no , no . Lisa is Shane's old friend

15:38

, and then Shane and Lisa are talking and

15:40

then that's when there's the exposition of , you

15:42

know , lisa is a lesbian in a man's body

15:44

. And then Alice is like , ooh

15:46

, I'm interested in Lisa , and

15:49

Alice's mom is in town , blah , blah , blah . I know that

15:51

she like charged $5,000 to the hotel

15:53

and Alice has to pay it off . And then she was like , hey

15:55

, drive me to the I don't know movie thing

15:57

. And then she's like , yeah , for sure , mom , I'll drive

15:59

you to the movie thing . And she drives you to the movie thing . And then

16:02

she gets to the movie thing and then she looks out the rear view

16:04

mirror and mom is like sneaking across the road

16:06

and so she follows mom into some like derelict

16:08

building Jesus Christ , and mom

16:11

is reading for a part in a movie that's

16:13

like a questionable movie . I don't know like

16:15

what it is , but it's like someone who's been a director for two

16:17

years .

16:18

So how far she's fallen . She just want her daughter to know Like

16:20

a lot goes into it , like what is ? How many points and

16:22

how many different criteria are there for like an A score ?

16:24

Oh , we don't even get into A scores .

16:26

And so , like , if a kid's A score is super high

16:28

, it wasn't any one thing that did it . It's like a combination

16:30

of like 50 horrible things simultaneously

16:32

.

16:33

Yeah Well , it's really interesting because

16:35

if you look at a child protection workers , their A

16:37

scores are 10 out of 10 . But like

16:39

they , at least have four . All child protection workers have four

16:41

.

16:41

Right and all therapists have mental illness

16:43

and all teachers made HD . It's a thing .

16:46

It is really is the first time I did my own

16:48

A score . I was like holy shit

16:50

, oh really , that's a problem ?

16:51

Yeah , that's not mine . I know I'm really privileged

16:54

.

16:55

Yeah , totally , I mean you are . But hey

16:57

, here let's do your A score . Oh God

16:59

, let's close that A score . Take

17:01

the A's quiz , hmm , where

17:03

is like an interactive one ? Okay , so

17:06

, while you were growing up , during the first 18 years

17:08

of your life , or 19 , or whatever , did a parent

17:10

or other adult in the household often

17:12

, or very often , swear at you , insult

17:15

you , put you down or humiliate you All

17:17

the time , all the time . So there's , yeah , humiliation

17:19

for sure . Hold on , I'm gonna make

17:21

a little ticky mark , okay . So number

17:23

two , all right . Number two did a parent or

17:26

other adult in the household and this

17:28

is also other adults in the household , doesn't have to just be your parents

17:30

, it can also be another adult in the household . If you have

17:32

an adult sibling , whatever Did they push

17:34

, grab , slap or throw something at you

17:36

often , or very often , or ever hit you

17:38

so hard you had marks or were injured ?

17:41

No , okay . We crush each other's personalities , not our both

17:43

.

17:43

Did an adult or a person at least five years older

17:45

than you ever , oh , sexually abuse

17:48

you ? No , okay . Did

17:50

you often , or very often , feel your internal feelings no one in

17:52

your family loved you or thought you were important or special

17:54

, or that your family didn't look out

17:56

for each other , feel close to each other or

17:58

support each other ? The second one yeah . Did you

18:00

often , or very often , feel that , oh , this is

18:02

about having food in the house . Did you not have enough to

18:04

eat ? Were dirty clothes , had no one to protect you

18:06

, were or your parents were too drunk or high ?

18:09

My physical needs were met .

18:09

Yeah , number six were your parents ever separated

18:12

or divorced ? Was your mother or

18:14

stepmother so ? Was there ever any domestic

18:16

violence in your home that you witnessed or that you knew

18:18

about ? No , did you live with anyone who was

18:20

a problem drinker or alcoholic or use strict

18:23

street drugs ? At the time , street drugs included

18:25

marijuana .

18:26

Anyone in the home . I would have been too young

18:28

to know , but I know for a fact that he struggled

18:30

with some of those things , most of those things .

18:31

Like a half way . Was a household member

18:34

? Any member of the household depressed

18:36

or mentally ill ?

18:37

Every single one of them .

18:38

Uh-huh , and did anybody

18:40

in your house ever go to prison ? No , okay , so

18:42

you have 4.5 . Yeah , like I say

18:45

, pretty low . Your A score is 4 , that's high . What

18:47

? That's the answer ? 4 and more is

18:49

high . What's low 1 .

18:52

I don't believe you . 4 is such a small number

18:54

. Google A score of 4 . Just

18:56

do it . Google A score of 4 . Oh

18:58

my god , that's not great . The

19:00

220% more likely to

19:02

attempt suicide . 460%

19:05

more likely to have recent depression . 400%

19:08

more likely to consider themselves an alcoholic

19:10

I know , I'm an alcoholic .

19:12

Also cancer , diabetes , being

19:15

overweight and something else

19:17

that are all correlated with the highest score .

19:18

Well , we're not weirdos . Currently , 17.3%

19:22

of people have a score of 4 . So

19:24

that's 1 in 5 . Is

19:27

it 1 in 5 ? I think so . It's like 2

19:30

in 10 would be 20% .

19:32

So it's less than 1 in 5 .

19:34

It's like a front hair shy of

19:36

1 in 5, . Ok , I can't believe

19:38

you've never done your .

19:38

A score .

19:39

No , I never thought about it Just because I didn't

19:41

really think at the time you

19:43

should have something that would really just trauma in there . I

19:45

never thought at the time because most of the people I know who are fucked up

19:48

now that's why At

19:50

the time people kept telling me how lucky I went .

19:53

You weren't . I love you . I love you

19:55

. You weren't .

19:56

I mean we know we're friends because

19:58

we relate to one another in some ways

20:00

.

20:00

Yeah , so do you know what the biggest

20:02

like ? So having a high A-SY

20:05

score can actually reduce your life expectancy by

20:07

20 years . Yeah , and high is 4

20:09

. So even A-SY score of 4 , your life expectancy

20:11

is reduced by 20 years . But

20:13

the way to overcome , mitigate

20:16

blah , blah , blah blah is by having

20:18

a healthy like

20:20

, basically having healthy people in your adult life

20:22

.

20:22

Yeah , like Victor who makes me a citron

20:25

. Yes , if I think of all the questions , her A-score

20:27

is like 1 . And like not even 1

20:29

, because , although her parents are divorced , we

20:31

all live in the same house and they hang out together

20:33

and they take care of each other , so like when you're

20:35

being hard on yourself for

20:38

anything .

20:38

Just take into account the fact that you do have a high A-SY score

20:40

.

20:41

There's degrees too , though , Like there are , Like

20:43

I would say , my sister and I . She encountered

20:45

way more trauma , but on paper our scores would be

20:47

similar .

20:48

But you've still had to like overcome all

20:50

of the obstacles of somebody with a high

20:52

A-SY score . You're considered to have a high A-SY score

20:54

. Like there's shit that's gone into the like research

20:56

and stuff . And yeah , like

20:59

when I did family finders , like

21:01

having a successful family finders

21:03

process where there was someone who was able to be connected

21:05

to this and live a life long would reduce the

21:07

impact of their A-SY score . Like it

21:09

would be significant to the point that they

21:11

were like hey , this is how we reduce the

21:14

fact , the 20-year life expectancy

21:16

, whatever , like if you just find someone

21:18

who's going to be around .

21:19

But shouldn't also like are you cis

21:22

or trans beyond there ? And shouldn't

21:24

also like are you neurodivergent

21:26

beyond there ? Those are also correlated with substance

21:29

abuse , earlier deaths , higher levels of stress

21:31

, health problems , et cetera .

21:32

They are , but also they are in relation to

21:35

your connection with your family of origin .

21:36

Oh yeah , that's true . If you're family supportive , you don't talk

21:38

. Okay , yeah , You're so crazy .

21:41

I know things sometimes and then I'm

21:43

like , hey , look at me . I

21:47

don't know how it relates to the L-word , but like

21:49

whatever . Also , hey , I've noticed that the L-word has been

21:51

popping up on my TikTok . And then I was like , why

21:53

is the L-word popping up on my TikTok ? Are they like listening

21:55

into my podcasty Shit ? Like what the fuck

21:57

? And then I realized like I've kind of been like

21:59

googling the L-word moment so

22:01

that I had like ideas of the synopsis , yeah . And

22:04

then I was like , oh , hey , and I messaged you but

22:06

like to just like outwardly admit it

22:08

, like I go through the , then

22:11

I take out the information that can't be on

22:13

the internet and we will talk

22:15

for almost two hours and then I have to

22:17

take out 90% of it and we have 30

22:20

minutes left . I know Absurd

22:22

, we just it , just shows that we talk about

22:24

a lot of personal stuff that just can't be

22:26

on the internet . Well , we're friends . Yeah

22:28

, exactly , I posted . Hey , I posted an episode

22:30

this morning . Let's see if anybody listened to it while we're on this

22:32

, let's see , let's see , let's see , because I

22:35

have the app on my phone . There are two

22:37

downloads today . Let's see the stamp for it

22:39

Two downloads . There have been two downloads

22:41

of our last episode , which went live

22:44

this morning , because I set it to

22:46

go live at like 7 o'clock in the morning . Now

22:48

, on the day that we record the next

22:50

episode and tell me about yourself

22:52

, tell me about yourself . Yeah , eight

22:54

downloads in the last 30 days . Look at us , go Fuck

22:57

. Yeah , no , go away , mr . Okay

22:59

, what's the most recent

23:01

? Tell me some more downloads , stuff

23:03

. I kind of have

23:05

to do for this one , which is 14

23:07

hours sold , and there were two downloads

23:09

and they were in

23:12

Canada and I don't know we're pretty entertaining

23:14

I think we're entertaining . Yeah , actually I think we're entertaining . I

23:16

am entertained , I have to be . I

23:21

have to listen back to this every time

23:23

that we do one , because I have to edit

23:26

the fuck out of it so I can put it on the internet

23:28

.

23:28

Sometimes that's how it be .

23:30

I've gone pretty good at it . I can set it to hold on

23:32

. I can set it to two times

23:34

the speed to listen to it .

23:35

But do you find it nicer to listen to everything

23:37

that fast when

23:40

I'm on TikTok , when you're on TikTok , you ? Just

23:42

come on the side , for , like almost every video , they

23:45

just need to get to the point sooner . I don't need all the backstory

23:47

. Get on with it .

23:48

I mean , like I'll be completely honest If they

23:50

go . This is something that happened

23:52

most recently and it's about this person and this person

23:54

, by the way , I'm so , and so , from blah

23:57

, blah , blah , I fucking scroll as soon as they say

23:59

that .

23:59

I scroll but sometimes they hook me and they get invested and

24:01

I have to listen to it on like super speed .

24:03

Oh , I don't even care , I scroll . If it's

24:05

that important , I'll see it on some other news feed somewhere .

24:07

Well , it's only if I've already gotten hooked and invested

24:09

.

24:09

Oh yeah , I don't get hooked If

24:11

they do it right , if they're like hey , okay

24:14

. So like , the big thing right now is Jacqueline

24:17

and her daughter , ren . Have you seen ?

24:19

that Actually . Yeah , I think I saw something oh right

24:21

.

24:21

So like Jacqueline and her daughter Ren . So

24:23

Jacqueline has been posting videos of her daughter Ren

24:25

and , like , basically

24:27

, not good people have been saving the videos

24:29

, yeah , yeah . And

24:32

that she must be aware of it . She must be . There's

24:34

no way that you couldn't be . It's because those

24:36

videos .

24:36

The engagement is so much higher .

24:38

Yeah , so I will see

24:40

the video . I don't know where I was going

24:42

with that . The moral of that story is I

24:44

don't post a lot about my kid on the internet

24:46

. Yeah , fucking scary . The

24:48

shit that people will put into their little light

24:50

folders are atrocious . You

24:53

don't even know what works .

24:55

I don't know , but you have a proper glass and everything . Oh

24:57

, check this out .

24:58

Okay , are you ?

24:58

going to go . I can't hear yet I can't hear

25:00

it .

25:00

The fuck is that noise ? Oh , hold on . Okay

25:02

, let's try that again there . Try some

25:04

water . Oh , I heard it . Wait there

25:07

.

25:07

No , I had it last night . Ryder

25:09

was so impressed . I just want to make jokes like

25:11

inappropriate jokes . There

25:15

we go . I believe you and I'm very impressed . They're

25:19

actually these lately friends . But we didn't talk about

25:21

Jenny . Jenny , and yeah , we did . She went to the

25:23

. I always want to call it the bronze from Buffy . She

25:25

went to the planet and then hooked up

25:27

. What more did Jenny do ? I don't remember .

25:29

My goodness .

25:30

Well , remind me then .

25:33

Jenny . Tim

25:35

walks in and they're being sneaky . Tim was

25:37

worried about Jenny sleeping . Oh , tim

25:39

was worried about Jenny sleeping with her professor

25:42

from when she was in school . Yeah , because she had

25:44

given him a blow job when she was a student

25:46

. Yeah , when she was a student . So I'll let you be . And

25:48

then Jenny met the professor for supper

25:51

, alone Alone , and worried

25:53

about Jenny sleeping with the professor . And then Jenny

25:55

came home and she seduces Tim in a very

25:57

so you saying that it was

26:00

like a male , yeah , like it makes sense

26:02

, like how the sex scene played out , because

26:04

it was a very homo , heterosexual

26:07

, it was a very heterosexual sex scene

26:09

. Jenny seduces Tim , then Jenny meets

26:12

the professor for lunch . Jenny goes oh

26:14

wait , no wait , no . Jenny meets the professor for supper

26:16

. Tim then talks

26:18

to the professor and then he goes to the planet and that's

26:21

where oh oh , there were two

26:23

banging scenes for Jenny and Marina . So

26:25

there was the first one where Jenny and Marina bang

26:27

in the bathroom , right , yeah . And then Tim

26:30

talks to the professor and goes to the planet

26:32

. Okay , so when they bang in the bathroom , that's because

26:34

Jenny and Tim are there . Then Jenny goes

26:36

there on all on her own and Tim

26:38

goes to talk to the professor and then he goes to the planet

26:41

and then Jenny was already at the planet

26:43

and she went to go . Jenny goes to bang Marina

26:45

. I hope I can

26:48

answer that . It's cute , you're thinking about

26:50

that . I always am thinking about that , going

26:52

to bang Marina in the office

26:54

. And then Alice is like , hey , tim

26:56

, what you doing here ? And then she runs back to the office

26:58

and is like , oh , hey , you guys should stop banging

27:00

because Tim's outside , and that was

27:02

kind of it . And then Jenny is

27:05

a very , very important writer

27:07

. She's very serious . She's a very serious writer

27:09

and I then wrote off .

27:12

You're like fully taking notes while you watch this . Huh , oh

27:14

, do you want to see ?

27:15

Yeah , Look at that Lies lies , lies , and then

27:17

there's the little intro part , and then I

27:19

try to write down everything that happens for Jenny throughout

27:22

the episode . Then I try to write down everything

27:24

that happens for Dana throughout the episode

27:26

.

27:26

Nice Well , Dana , but cute .

27:28

Then everything that happens for Bet and Tina Multiple

27:31

pages of notes , oh , there are multiple pages

27:33

of notes , everything there . And then Alice , everything

27:35

that happens for her right there . What color

27:37

pen is ?

27:37

that Blue , because I know what color blue is . But

27:40

what kind of ?

27:41

notebook are you on ? I am

27:43

writing an A . I don't know , it's black

27:45

, no , brandy .

27:45

From the dollar store .

27:46

Okay , from the dollar store , and I'm using a highlighter

27:48

. You're a monster . Then

27:51

kit , all the shit for kit . Two whole bullet

27:53

points here . Shane Shane

27:55

has one point for the entire episode . She has

27:57

one little bullet point . That was it . That's the

27:59

entire thing , there's nothing more . Then that's your ASUS

28:02

score , right there . That's a four and a half more .

28:06

How's your free time looking ? Until next week .

28:08

Are you coming to Casper ? No .

28:09

Sorry , I should have worded differently

28:12

. I have a recommendation for you

28:14

to watch , but it's over two and

28:16

a half hours long . What is it ? It's

28:18

.

28:18

Contra Points . I watched it , I've worked

28:21

on it . I'm like a third of the way through

28:23

her . The new one when

28:25

she talks about Twilight .

28:26

Yeah , yeah , because I'd actually love to talk about

28:28

it , because we're talking about how , like Jenny and Tim

28:30

were fucking in a very straight way , so

28:32

fucking straight .

28:33

And then he is like where did you go ? And she's like I'm right

28:35

here , but like she's not , she's thinking about Marina .

28:37

Yeah yeah , I know this is a long video

28:39

, but it was really interesting and it sparked

28:41

a lot of conversations between me and Lauren

28:44

, because she's only been in queer relationships

28:46

, whereas you and I have been in some

28:48

straight-appearing relationships .

28:54

I've turned it on while I fell asleep . I've turned it

28:56

on while I fell asleep .

28:57

If you wanted to finish watching it , I would watch

28:59

it again and take notes . I guess you just put YouTube on

29:01

in the background with headphones while you do stuff around your house

29:03

. Let me know , I love , I

29:06

love . Contrapoints as well , and such a cool topic , and

29:08

she expresses things in ways that I feel

29:10

that didn't put into words before .

29:12

Okay , there we go . Homework , I hit homework Yay .

29:16

And if you're anything like my students , you won't do it

29:18

and you'll Google it last minute . No

29:20

, which is definitely not what I did about episode

29:22

four .

29:24

What's the next episode ? Five , no shit Sherlock

29:26

.

29:27

I don't know . That

29:30

was a great answer .

29:32

The L word ? I don't know , just the L word

29:34

. No , just fucking tell me about the L word . Where are we

29:36

at ? So we're on

29:38

season one . Fuck

29:40

off this Tenty motherfucking

29:42

bullshit . Okay , does it have episode Pilot

29:45

? Longing lies , lies , lies . So the next one

29:47

is lawfully . Oh

29:50

, my goodness , the next episode is going to

29:52

be .

29:52

Yeah .

29:54

But I don't want to say it because I don't want to ruin

29:56

it for the people that aren't listening .

29:58

That's a pretty Like . I'm sure they would .

30:00

It'll be fun , though , also , my girlfriend

30:03

is going to be coming here in

30:05

like two and a half weeks .

30:06

Oh , really , for which days ?

30:08

Where's my phone ? Here's my phone Okay , she is coming

30:10

here . Calendar Calendar Come

30:13

on , linda . My

30:15

, there it is . She's coming

30:17

on the 28th , okay , and then coming

30:19

for Easter , and so we're going to have Easter together .

30:21

You can do a big Easter egg hunt .

30:24

Okay . So here's the thing . Thing is , I

30:26

have found on the Amazon they have

30:28

like packs of pre-filled Easter

30:30

Easter eggs , easter sleep . Amazon has pre-filled

30:33

packs of Easter egg for like $40

30:35

and it's 150 eggs .

30:36

That sounds awesome .

30:37

It is awesome because I . So here's

30:39

the thing . But them they're filled with toys and

30:42

, like . I live in an area where there's animals

30:44

and so every year the Easter

30:46

Bunny has gone out and hidden the eggs

30:49

at like five in the fucking morning

30:51

, because there's usually like candy or something

30:53

in them . And then the animals in the area like

30:55

if the Easter Bunny hid them the night before , the animals

30:57

would find them and tear them apart . But

31:00

if there's no candy in them

31:02

, then the Easter Bunny can write , the Easter Bunny

31:04

can hide them the night before , and then the Easter

31:06

Bunny can get a good night's sleep , which I'm sure the Easter

31:08

Bunny needs . The Easter Bunny really needs that

31:10

and it'll be a lot of fun and

31:13

so that's really exciting and

31:15

so the two children that will be

31:17

here will be finding on the Easter egg . It's going to be so

31:19

much fun and if a couple of the Easter eggs

31:21

don't get found there's no candy in them , matter

31:24

. Yeah , but yeah , she's coming , they

31:26

are coming . They're coming the Thursday

31:28

before Easter and they're gonna experience

31:31

Easter with my family . Are you going to math

31:33

? We'll see . Like she had , like

31:35

she was , like they were here around Christmas

31:37

time , but there wasn't really a big family like , although

31:39

it was Christmas time , it was after Christmas time , so it wasn't really

31:41

like a big family event . So this time is

31:43

a big family event in the sense that at Easter and

31:45

we're all gonna be at my parents house for supper

31:47

blah , blah , blah , and also because of

31:50

my parents house for supper , my mom also asked if it

31:52

could be my birthday at the same time

31:54

because , like logistics , so

31:56

that's gonna happen and so she'll

31:58

be here with all my family around and like she's already

32:00

met everybody , I think , except maybe my other

32:02

sister , but like she's met almost everybody else

32:04

. So I don't know , we'll see what happens . It's gonna be great

32:06

either way . It's gonna be great . I'm excited that she's gonna

32:08

like be able to be a part of that and see

32:11

kind of what happens . But yeah , I don't know . I don't know what the

32:13

moral of that story is I don't know .

32:15

You gotta go to bed though .

32:16

You do . You're sick , I need to go to bed . I need to

32:18

go fill up my water bottle . Can't believe I have

32:20

to go to work tomorrow . I'm sorry that

32:22

you have to go to work tomorrow .

32:23

I'll just wear a mask all day because , like I got

32:25

it from a co-worker this cold and so

32:27

I know I'm contagious . And if I give somebody

32:30

I work with fucking this cold and then it

32:32

ruins their spring break plans , I will feel like

32:34

such an asshole .

32:36

Oh yeah , but they also gave it to you

32:38

.

32:38

Yeah , I don't know the one time that I

32:40

get invited out to go for drinks after work

32:42

, because I'm not very good at knowing

32:44

when people want to be my friend , unless they're really obvious

32:46

about it . So I actually got

32:48

a direct invitation that I couldn't like negative

32:51

self-talk my way out of . I was actually invited

32:53

. Aww , you're so good , I'm

32:55

making friends . No , I'm really not . I

32:58

just assume that people don't want to hang out with me

33:00

and if they do , it's because they pity me or because they

33:02

want making plans in front of me , and so they're obligated . Right

33:05

, and I know that's not true because I have friends . Some of them

33:07

I've had for quite a few years . Who would that

33:09

be ? Nobody , no idea . So

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, yeah , so I wasn't gonna say no , and then I immediately

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get sick from that . Aw , she said she's sick from

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dating and I've only taken one day . So we'll

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see . We'll see . I might be spending the first little

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bit of spring break just recovering , but there's also

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a staff meeting tomorrow , so I can't skip

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a staff meeting . Like it's extra important that I go tomorrow

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, for sure . How often do you have a staff meeting

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? Once a month , okay , never mind , and like

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it'll be the one that's the lead up to like how the

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spring break procedure is going to work , report card's

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coming out soon , how it's going to be coming

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back All this stuff , I don't know . The spring agenda

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.

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Very important information that you should probably actually

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know .

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Yeah , last time I went to the staff meeting I

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won a prize . It was a chocolate bar , which

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I don't but I gave to Lauren and she really liked it . Aw

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, but Meds , she's on . She's permanently

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PMSing all the time . That doesn't sound pleasant

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at all , poor thing , and she's paying for the privilege

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. Speaking of , I better go check in see how she's doing

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. You have a wonderful night you

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too . Drink water , get a good

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sleep , look forever . Good

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night , have a good sleep , you too

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. Bye .

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Have a wonderful sleep and I'll see you in a week , yeah you will

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yeah , you will yeah , I will yeah , we will yeah

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, we will . All right , I'll talk to you later . Love you , bye

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, bye .