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Hello and welcome back . Welcome back to Distant Friends with Dorothy

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. I am Dorothy . No , I am Karen , actual

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Karen . On the Tiki Taki , you're Doris , what ?

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would that make ?

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me . I feel like the straw man . You

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would not be , toto . Oh , the straw man ? Yeah

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, maybe . Well , let's see

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who is it . There's

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a scarecrow , there's

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the cowardly lion , and there's the munchkins

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and there's the flying monkeys . Oh yeah

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, I mean like so

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, my child , I'm reading him the

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Wizard of Oz stories . They are seriously messed up

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.

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Just saying Like not what you remember

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.

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Well , like I never read them , I just watched the movie

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. Expected , not expected , I mean .

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I didn't read them either . Are they that bad ?

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There's just there's a lot . There's just a lot , lot there , and

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like it just feels like something maybe a teenager

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should read and maybe not an eight-year-old

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boy . So we've switched over to Harry Potter , but

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we're I also can't finish Harry Potter . Like we're

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on book four and I'm like we can't read past

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book four . I don't even know if we should finish book four

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before it has some stuff at the end . It does

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. I'm like , oh my gosh , um , is he gonna

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be like able to handle this ? I

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don't know , because , like I also know what I was into

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when I was his age , but also , apparently that

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wasn't a good thing , so not great

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. And I have to be all bright eyed

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and bushy tailed for work tomorrow . Well , doesn't

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? that sound like the most fun thing ever , oh my

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gosh , oh my gosh , because , like , I

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am covering multiple offices tomorrow

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I think I might be covering two , possibly three

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, maybe more , who knows . I just say , say yes

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when people ask if someone can cover , if I'm in the

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office , like , oh yeah , for sure I can cover , I need

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to stop saying that because it doesn't seem

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like a big deal until people actually reach out to me and ask

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for , like , consultation , and I'm like , oh

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right , I need to actually do work

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and make decisions , big decisions , not

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little decisions . These are big decisions , yeah , yeah

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, so that's fun . Anyways , that's what's happening for me

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tomorrow . What's happening for you how ? How is your life going ? You

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had a fun week last week . You had a little visitor . You

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weren't able to come here . You whore , I didn't have a visitor

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, you did . You had Michael .

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Oh yeah . So yeah , michael came to visit for a couple

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days and that was pretty fun , because he's a good

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time every time and

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we made cheesecakes . But then our friend

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was sick , right ?

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How much have I told you about that ? Nothing , because I don't know anything

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about our friend being sick . Okay , so one of Lauren's

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friends .

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So in Vancouver we have two sets of wives

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. So we have like one set of wives that are the doctors

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, and then the other set of the wives

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are kind of like more like our drag friends

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. They're really involved in the drag scene . Anyway , one

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of our drag friends a couple of wives

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her appendix exploded , yeah

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, but she like has a heart condition

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and she has like ulcerative colitis

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and her liver is kind of failing

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. So she's in a lot of pain all the time

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. So she didn't think it was that big a deal and her back

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hurt for four days but then she couldn't breathe

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. So they took her to the hospital and

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she , I think , was in the ER

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waiting to be seen for like nine hours with

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her appendix and they finally

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got her . They're like , oh , your appendix burst , um , but then

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all of her organs shut down . Well , yeah , because the infection

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went everywhere right well , yeah , like her liver wasn't that great

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. She had a bacterial infection of her heart that almost killed her

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when she was young . Her kidneys both shut

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down completely . She has a quite startling

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shade of yellow . When you go look at her like

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she looks like she's lizard eyes . All the whites are like yellow

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and like the doctor was like she needs multiple

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organ transplants immediately or like we

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don't know what's gonna happen . So that

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was pretty terrifying for her wife . So mostly we

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hung out with her wife and like helped her

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get some sleep and have some support and eat

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some food and like do some laundry and

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that type of stuff . Then we also spent a fair bit of time

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at the hospital , like watching drag race and playing cards

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and hanging out with her so she wouldn't be alone

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. Oh , that's really sweet . It's also like super stressful , though

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I don't know like she . By the time we got to see her she

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was out of the woods , basically like barely

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out of the woods but out of the woods . But

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like this is gonna affect the rest of her life and how she looks

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like um , yeah , jesus christ , it's

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insane . She's gonna be in there for a few more weeks . She had like six

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holes punched in her kidney yesterday because they were

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like well , your kidneys are getting better , but we don't know why

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. So we're gonna take six biopsies

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to help us figure out why . But then I guess like her

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kidney wouldn't stop bleeding internally . It's like

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it's it's a big old mess . Jeez

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. When people encounter stuff like that

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, it triggers all sorts like weird big picture

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stuff where you think about your life and you think about like

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, oh my gosh , is this what I want ? All that uh

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huh , so that I had like a tiny little existential

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crisis . Oh no , oh dear . And

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then this morning our doctor friends

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one of them calls me . It's like having a

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small crisis . And then my dad calls me and he's

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like are you coming to your niece's

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birthday party tonight at your sister's ? And

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I'm like I certainly , like I'm barely holding it

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together , but it's all fine , because my niece

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canceled the night before and then I canceled

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today , then my sister canceled on my

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dad . So then now we have to find another time

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for us to all get together . But that's what I was . I was supposed

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to drive all the way to where my sister

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lives today after cheese and crackers

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last night . So yeah , that's a lot and things

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are still pretty messed up and like I'm I don't know

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about you , but like do

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you really feel ? And then all of a sudden you're like oh yeah , I forgot . I have like a weird like well of self-loathing from childhood

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. It's just like in there all the time and normally it doesn't bug me too much , it doesn't affect my life , I like live perfectly fine without it . Then , like usually twice

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a year sometimes more if it's a bad year , sometimes less , it's like an

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amazing year I'll like suddenly be

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reminded that , like where other people have like this

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warm , fuzzy safety in the middle of their body

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, I have like a weird hole . That's like you're

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worthless and no one loves you .

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Oh , my goodness , I mean like I hate

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to like call back to what we talked

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about before , but it sounds like you have a high ACEs score , my

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darling .

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I know Sounds like

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I have trauma . It's funny

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we talked about ACEs score because the friend who I counsel

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one of the doctors he was talking about how she

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just found out her ACEs score . Oh and

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so basically she had

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an Asian , a Chinese mom and

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a dad with some mental health stuff

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who wasn't present . But she was like I was so

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successful , like I was in summer school all the time and

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I learned how to play the violin and all my physical

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needs were taken care of , so like I had a really good childhood

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and

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then she's learning now and she can't support

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others emotionally . I'm like

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, oh man , it seems she's

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like maybe my childhood wasn't really really great

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.

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Yeah honey , I'm just happy that she's

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going to the bathroom in the litter box now . The win

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for me . I mean , where was she going before ? She would

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go right next to the litter box and then I would have to clean it up every

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day . I was mopping the floor every

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day . It was driving me up the wall . And

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so I like she refuses to go in the automatic litter box now , unless I like put

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her in there myself and then I give her

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like those squeezy treats that you can get for cats . So I

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put her in there and I give her a squeezy treat and she eats

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the entire squeezy treat while she's in there , and

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then I do that like three times , three days

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in a row and then she'll use the automatic litter box

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as a litter box , but other than

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that , she just wants to go right next to it . So I actually bought

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like a crappy little like dollar store litter

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box and she uses that one right next to it , and then I just

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scoop it and put it in the automatic one and run a cycle

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. Wait , you didn't talk last week . I

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know that's terrible . We

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rarely miss a week , you know that right ? Yeah , it's

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pretty crazy . I blame nothing

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, michael .

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I mean considering it's spring break , but I have like had

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50% of my Wednesdays available

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Did .

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I do this .

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I'm supposed to be at a birthday party .

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You're supposed to be at a birthday party right now ? Well , because she canceled

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it oh okay , yay , well

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, we are on the L word , episode six . Lawfully , not

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a lot actually happens . Season one , season one , episode six they

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open with a historical scene from 1979

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. There's gay men in a public bathroom and like they're doing what this

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ends .

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Oh , it's jim q losing it lawfully well , but then why can't

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I find ? It , I don't know . Oh , elward , season one , episode

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six , this is when tim finds out what's going on . Oh

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yeah , that is okay , so something . Yeah , but that's jenny , I don't

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like jenny . A huge moment happened , I

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know , but it's jenny and I don't like her . Okay , but she's supposed to be

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our access point so they have the

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, the guys , the gay guys .

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And then the one guy , like they go and they do gay stuff

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in a bathroom and then the other guy is

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a cop and he revealed to be gay in 1979

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.

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That was the historical moment oh yeah , that announces

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something to her father . What does she announce ?

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she's having a kid . Yeah , she announces that . Uh , that

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tina is pregnant . Um , yeah , tim

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was going for a swim meet and then he forgot his lucky stopwatch

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and then he had to go home .

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Oh , you want to go right now .

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On Marina . Oh , are you okay ?

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Yes , but Lauren's just vacuuming

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the office really quickly , oh okay .

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Can Lauren come here and vacuum my house ? Yeah , but she only

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vacuums carpet , yeah

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. And then Marina just walks out . And then Tim

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walks out , jenny follows him , causes a scene

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and she's like it was the first

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and

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she's like what happened between us was a terrible

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mistake . It will never happen again . I will never see

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you again . And then Tim was like , looked at Marina . He's like

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, tell me when it started . And she was like it didn't . You saw everything

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beginning in the end . It's like she's covering for jenny too

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, because she's um poor jenny and she's so

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tortured . She's such a , she's such a serious

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writer . Speaking of writing , uh , alice's

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mom writes her name on the chart oh yeah , who else's

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mom hung up with ?

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she made out with shane oh yeah

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, that's a cute moment actually , yeah

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and it like becomes like a thing .

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Like further on , like even in , like generation q , it still

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becomes a thing . It's adorable , uh

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, but it's got , you're not . Bet , tina's got morning sickness

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, that's dad is in town , and then bet is mad at tina

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because tina told her dad that you know

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, or told kit that the dad is in town , and

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kit's like , oh , he never told me . Um

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, oh . But we also had the problem with dana

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, where dana was invited to a subaru event

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and she was like getting

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ready and whatever , and , and her agent

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was like you need to bring harrison . And then then Laura like

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shows up at her house ready to go .

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Yeah , and she didn't tell Laura that , like she

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wasn't going to be her date . Yeah , I'd be pissed too

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if I was Laura . Oh God , yeah .

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Not cool . Shane just talking

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about Alice's mom saying she came on to me and she's hot

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for an old person oh , but this is also where we

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meet Clive which

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one's Clive so , who is a hot mess

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and he is a twink and he is being

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passed around by the hollywood socialite . Okay , yeah

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, and him and shane had a past together

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where they worked the streets together . You can't see my

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air quotes on the podcast , but I'm putting air quotes in

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there . Yeah , yeah , so we get

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introduced to clive . I forgot about clive . Honestly , I

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guess he's not really that important in my life

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, but like he was important in shane's life

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.

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Yeah , I forgot about him too . Oh , thanks , babes

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.

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And this is also where , like , shane points out to him

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like hey , these men don't act like because

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these men want to hang out with Shane because she's like

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the most androgynous out of everyone and

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she like tries to explain , like no , they want to hang out with me because

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they think that I'm a little boy and

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I'm not a little boy , so Shane's getting like mis

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I

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mean like yeah , it is what it is , but like

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she's not she's still pretty well

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. This is like intro to butchiness

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for the like 2000s , true

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before mask was a word , yeah , back when

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butch was the word , because they use the word butch in

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later seasons . It's still

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a word , for sure , but like people , really

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I find kind of lean towards mask a bit

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more . Yeah , oh , you know what else I have to do ? What

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I have to boil eggs because

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it's Easter and so we need to boil

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eggs so that this weekend we can dye eggs , so that

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we can put the eggs in our

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Easter basket , so that the Easter

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bunny knows which Easter basket belongs to who . That's pretty

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cute , though , like I remember

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growing up , becoming older and thinking traditions

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were stupid , and

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now , as an adult with a kid , I'm like , oh

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no , they weren't stupid , they were amazing .

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They're just not for single young people .

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Right , right . Also , we get to find out if these

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eggs are even , like , viable to be

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boiled for a question I'd normally have

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I mean like did you see the bridge ?

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oh that the bridge collapsed . Yeah , what

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the fuck .

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That was pretty fucking wild , hey so

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, like I saw it shortly

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after it happened , because I was just I'm chronically

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online and it came on my tiki-taki and I

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was like oh , whatever , this is just some people doing some

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like fake shit , whatever deep , fake AI , whatever

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, uh . And then it wasn't , it's real

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.

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The bridge collapsed yeah , and there's like

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six people in an unaccounted for yeah

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, which is really sad .

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Yeah , come on , come on , don't float , please don't

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float , please don't float oh

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why is it bad ? Because when eggs float , it means

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they've gone bad oh , I see and I have

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farm eggs . I always have to do the flip test . That

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one's bad , only one , so that's not too bad . And

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that's why I have two dozen , because

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then with two dozen , I will boil

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14 eggs . Two of them will probably break . Well

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, that one's good . And if none of

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them break , then I will just

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eat hard-boiled eggs tomorrow . All right , I've

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got 1 , 2 , 3 , 4 , 5 , 6 , 7 , 8 , 9

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, 10 , 11 , 12 , 13 , 14 . There's 14 in there

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. And then you add vinegar , because it makes it so

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they don't break . Apparently I don't fucking know . Something

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that my mother has done my entire life is

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add vinegar to the boiling eggs . So

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I do it too . I mean like I . Then , once

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that comes to a boil , then you turn it off and you wait

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for 13 minutes , and then you dump out the water and you pour

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in cold water with ice . 13 minutes seems like a long time

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. Well , yeah , but you've turned the heat off . It's perfect

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boiling . I like them with the middle part still running

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. Oh yeah , if I wasn't dying them , it

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could be an option , but they're going to sit on the counter

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for a couple days hole

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in the bottom and then blow all the egg out oh

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, no , no , no , then it's just hollow . I guess they break a lot easier like that , though . Yeah

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, no , no , no , no . Uh , also , my child has really gotten into playing

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video games . Which one ? Uh , playstation

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3 video games , oh fun , right

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. So like I found all my old video games and like

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I'm ordering video games off of the internet , and

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so he really likes playing little big

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planet too . Um , I have

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portal 2 . I think I need to get portal 1 , like

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I need to get like the orange box portal's amazing

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, right . Um , because portal 2

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, though , is kind of it's it's hard , it's really hard

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to figure out . Like I struggle with it

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. Oh , my god , do you know what I'm doing ? What talking about

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? How spring ?

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breaks almost over . I'm

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not looking forward to going back and having 30 at a time

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there , although I am officially going to

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do my master's oh , look at you , go

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, I don't . What am I going to do , like when there's like a baby

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around ? Fuck that . I can do it while we're pregnant

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, but I can't do it Like when we have like a newborn

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.

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Yeah , no , 10 out of 10 . Do not recommend

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. I mean , like , completing school while

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pregnant . In school that were pregnant

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. But yeah , once that baby comes , like especially

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the first , what three months ? You don't sleep

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. You don't sleep for the first three months . I know you don't have to

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tell me I'm not excited , but

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they're cute . They're cute for the first little while and then they're

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assholes and then like they're irritating but you still love them . But then

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, like around six years old , they start becoming fun . Ages and stages , ages and stages

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I just I like , like six was when

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he was really starting to understand , like we really

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got into board games and he was able

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to kind of understand rules to board games and

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so I had a lot of fun . But it also depends on

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, like , what you like to do . Like if you

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enjoy going for hikes , then the first

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few months are amazing because you just put them in a little

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sling in front of you and pack them up the mountain

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with you . So that's , that's , that's good

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. It just depends on what you like .

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Yeah , I don't know what I'm like . Well , I'm serious

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and I don't like wasting thousands of

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dollars and nothing happening , which is what I'm currently

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doing . Oh , is there still nothing happening ? Yeah

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, our last attempt just failed yesterday

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. Oh , no , yeah , not ideal

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. What can you do ? Just keep trying

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. Yeah , feel better that you know I'll try to occur , rather

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than me have to take out my eggs , although now , with

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ivf possibly being rolled out

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next year for one family , like one time for family

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. Um , I probably wait until that goes through

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to get it for free .

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Yeah , that's right , it is one one round

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right .

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Yeah , but I produce so many fucking

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eggs almost like an eggy lady , so should

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be fine . So what does that mean ?

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like you get one round of IVF , but like the expensive

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part is harvesting the eggs .

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expensive , um , but like it about

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$14,000 to get the eggs harvested and then

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like up to an additional $10,000 to $15,000

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if you're doing like fertilization

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and then keeping it stored and then genetic

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testing and then implantation and then all the

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hormones and all the procedures , right . So

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$25,000 to $30,000 for like a full

15:05

thing . Did you successfully get

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diagnosed with ADHD by a doctor ?

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Yes , uh , what do you mean ? How

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? I went in and I said , hey , I think I have ADHD

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. And then what ? And then she was like , okay , fill

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out this questionnaire . And it was that like generic , like

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really short questionnaire , um . And so I took

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it home and I filled it out and I thought it was funny because the

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first question was , uh , you talk excessively

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? And it was already marked off . Yes , that is funny . It is

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funny . And so when I went back and

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I sat down to talk with her about it and then she was

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like she's laughing . She's like first question is funny

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. And I was like , yeah , the first question is funny . I'm like

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did you , did you just want me to know that ? You think

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I talk a lot ? And she was like what are you talking about ? And I was like , because

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the first question is did you talk excessively

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or something , something akin to that , like I don't know

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what the actual wording was before

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you gave it to me and she looked and she laughed . She said that's question two

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. Question one is do you miss small details ? And you didn't answer it . That's funny . So like

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, apparently after that you don't need to do any like

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further testing . And then we went through different medications

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and whether or not my symptoms

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got better or worse . Surprise , surprise , they got better

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. And then she was like , yeah , sounds

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like you have ADHD , which was really actually handy

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because we went through this when

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my kid was like baby , baby and

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there is a significant

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genetic component to adhd

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. Yeah , and his dad was diagnosed

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as a child with adhd , never

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got medication or anything for it , but he was diagnosed

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and so , with both parents having

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it , um , when I went to her and I was like you

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know what ? I think the kid has it too and these

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are the ways that's affecting him , like at school

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, at home , in his social life , because

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at five years old he had a social life , but

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he did and it was affecting it . And

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she was like , yeah , let's try out the same , like she , and

16:40

she said the same thing . She's

16:45

like , yeah , there is a genetic component and we will try something else and

16:47

we've adjusted and we've tried different meds and he

16:50

takes um off-brand Vyvanse and

16:52

it works for him . Off-brand Vyvanse made me go nuts

16:55

. In what way ? I got really , really mad and angry

16:57

and I cried all the time , oh dear , yeah . But also

16:59

like maybe that was just the stage of my life and maybe I should try

17:01

it again because it works so well for him and

17:03

like my medication doesn't actually work

17:05

that well for me anymore . No , no , I feel

17:07

like it's not as effective and that now

17:09

I just get snippy when I'm on it . I mean , I can

17:11

focus , but I get snippy and I don't like

17:13

getting the sneak . Why do you get snippy ? I don't know , I just

17:15

get like like I snap at people . Is

17:17

this boiling , yet do you think that counts as boiling ? Oh

17:20

, one broke , oh , but if that's it , that's fine . Only

17:22

one breaks .

17:22

I talked to my doctor about it and he just said that everybody

17:24

thinks they have it . It's widely , wildly

17:27

over diagnosed and that I don't have it . And that

17:29

was like the end of that conversation . What a dick

17:31

.

17:31

I'm sorry , the fact that you said that he's a him skewed

17:34

my perception , because women and men

17:36

present with ADHD much differently , and

17:39

adults also present much differently than kids

17:41

.

17:41

Well , and also like some children were heavily

17:43

punished for like acting according to

17:45

their instincts and so you

17:47

just get really good at ignoring how

17:49

you feel . Yeah , I guess

17:51

every time I hang out with my friends , that's all they talk about

17:53

. I don't know if that's what . Like everybody's friendship circles

17:56

are like Like what if that's every millennial's

17:58

conversation where everybody self-diagnoses

18:00

? If that's what people do on a Saturday night when you're in your 30s

18:03

and then we all talk to each other that we do .

18:05

I think that people who have

18:07

the same thing going on in their brain

18:09

kind of find each other together . Yeah

18:15

, because you know what ? It's a whole hell of a lot easier to talk to somebody who has ADHD

18:17

, because you can like completely ping pong in your conversation with

18:19

them and it's okay , here we go . Okay

18:22

, turn that off . Set a timer 13 minutes . Are

18:24

you going to set the timer ? Still working , still working . Oh

18:26

, there we go .

18:27

Some places require you bring in your elementary school

18:29

report cards .

18:30

Uh-huh , but like yeah , because it has to be present from

18:32

the time that you're a kid , but like also you can . I don't

18:34

know . My doctor knows my family though . Like

18:36

, which might be helpful .

18:38

Did you suffer in elementary school ?

18:39

Uh-huh Did you Uh-huh , what was that ? Like , um

18:42

, I got bored . If

18:46

I got , if like was learning something , I would get a hundred

18:48

percent . But then as soon as it was a repeat , I

18:50

got like I fucked it up . Oh , anything

18:52

that took prolonged attention , if it wasn't super

18:54

interesting , I failed it . Yeah , book report

18:57

sucked unless it was a good book yeah , maybe

18:59

it's , then maybe it's a no for me

19:01

.

19:01

Then you a lot of money to get diagnosed

19:03

. Is it well if you pay for it yourself

19:05

, like if your doctor won't do it for you , you have to pay for it yourself

19:07

. It's like a1,000 and takes like a year

19:09

.

19:10

Oh my God , that's so ridiculous I am I

19:12

don't know , maybe I'm just lucky . Like I know that there is

19:14

like not a resurgence , but

19:17

there is . Like there are a lot of people who are getting diagnosed lately because

19:20

the information is available and

19:22

like this is kind of the first time that people have had

19:24

this information available . So of course they're

19:26

like , oh , everybody just wants the medication . But

19:29

like , like , even the last time that I went to go see my doc

19:31

before I got my vitamin B12 deficiency diagnosed

19:34

, which was not , I don't know check

19:36

, but they checked it I have done but

19:38

before that , when I told her like hey

19:44

, I stopped taking my meds because , like I have heart palpitations and I'm not doing well and blah , blah

19:46

, blah , and she was like , well , what do you do with your meds ? I but like they're just kind of in my cupboard

19:48

. And she was like , oh , okay , as long as you're not

19:50

selling them . And I was like who the hell would sell these

19:52

? Like these are not fun . There is no fun time

19:55

when I'm taking them , but if you don't have ADHD

19:57

, they're fun to take . In what way I

19:59

don't know . Apparently , it makes people feel high . I wouldn't

20:01

know , because I have ADHD .

20:03

I mean I've taken Lauren's before

20:05

. I didn't feel high . So then

20:07

it sounds like you have ADHD

20:09

If you take it a lot , done A lot , or

20:11

like a normal amount , no , like kind of like an excessive

20:14

amount , like I did schoolwork

20:16

for six hours straight , but also , I needed

20:18

to do it . It was due the next day and

20:24

I had only one day to do it and I had supposed to have been doing it for several months . Oh , did you

20:26

get it all done in six hours ? Oh , I don't know , I don't know if that , but no

20:28

, I don't . I never struggled in elementary school

20:31

. In fact , I was pulled out of

20:33

class to go sit with the other annoying kids because we were

20:35

okay , but those are also ADHD kids you're

20:37

annoying because you got everything done and then I'm .

20:39

Then you're annoying everyone that's ADHD

20:41

, but I , but I never .

20:42

but I then ? I , I liked everything

20:44

, though Like I didn't fail anything .

20:46

No , you don't fail anything . I didn't . I mean like I only failed

20:48

when I wasn't interested , but like you don't fail

20:50

, you can finish everything . That's that's that's

20:52

what my kid does when he's not medicated . He finishes

20:54

everything , he does it right , and then he pisses everybody off

20:56

because yeah , but that's because

20:59

.

20:59

I'm just faster than the other kids .

21:01

No that's because you have ADHD .

21:02

Well , I don't know . I don't know because originally I thought

21:04

it was autism , but then I was looking at things

21:06

that they both have in common . When I look at stuff that's just

21:08

autism , I don't have those . When I look at stuff

21:10

that's like things that both ADHD and autism

21:13

like the overlap , I have a lot of them and

21:15

I'm still not 100% sure that it's Component

21:18

you have it in your family . Well

21:21

, do I , though ? Because nobody's been diagnosed

21:23

Really , yeah , not officially . Oh , because

21:25

it costs $1,000 and takes a year . I don't

21:27

know how you got your doctor to do it .

21:29

I don't know , because she knows me , she's known me , my entire

21:32

life .

21:40

Yeah , when I went overseas , my family doctor like

21:42

so that I was's a new guy actually terrible

21:44

. Oh well , yeah

21:46

, you always handed in your homework , karen , I did

21:48

. You passed all your classes .

21:50

I did okay , so I never failed , but

21:52

like I didn't get good marks when I wasn't interested

21:54

, that's true .

21:55

I remember I got detention once , just the one , and it was because

21:57

I didn't hand in a single piece of homework

21:59

all year . But I got A's

22:01

on all the tests and then I would end up with like a solid

22:03

B for my final grade and that was

22:06

, I think , miss Martin . I think it was Miss Martin that

22:08

pissed her off so bad she gave me detention , which

22:10

was just more sitting in a chair , but downstairs this time

22:12

, right in the drafting room .

22:14

Yeah , but that's just my work

22:17

. I've got nothing to do , I

22:19

. But detention was at lunch . It wasn't after school , which

22:21

was weird .

22:21

Well , cause kids have buses and stuff , cause it's a rural

22:24

place . You can't cut kids off from their only way

22:26

to get home . True , but then I didn't have to tell my parents

22:28

that I ever got detention . Same . My

22:31

mom never knew .

22:32

What are you doing now Sweeping Cause

22:34

I have oh , three minutes and

22:36

54 seconds .

22:39

For the eggs weeks . Guess I'm gonna go see in april .

22:41

What are you gonna go see in april ? Are you gonna go see ?

22:43

jesus christ superstar and kamloops on april 12th . No

22:45

, but I am gonna go see bianca del rio in colonna

22:47

and , uh , the 10th . I don't know who that is

22:49

. Oh , my god , you would like bianca del rio . She's my favorite drag

22:51

queen , arguably like the successful

22:53

to come out of the rue franchise . More important

22:56

than being a drag queen , though she's an insult comic

22:58

. Oh so it's gonna be a good time it

23:00

is .

23:00

I don't know if I would like to go to that .

23:01

I don't like being insulted well , just look down to script . Well

23:06

, I did just get my hair re-blended so I might have to wear

23:08

a hat . I'm a woman over

23:10

35 .

23:10

No one cares if I'm there oh

23:13

my goodness , the floors were disgusting . I'm

23:16

not even gonna lie like they're bad . Do you

23:18

want to know something ?

23:19

funny , what ? Okay , so in

23:21

my teaching program , um , when

23:23

we like had like our graduation the final day

23:25

, I won an award . What ? Yeah , I won

23:27

an award . Um , and I had to go up in the front

23:29

they had like a plaque or like a , a thingy

23:32

, a paper with my name on it and stuff to give me , and everyone

23:34

clapped and it was like this big award I won . Yay , I won

23:36

. Um , I don't remember what it was called or

23:38

what it was for or where it went . So

23:42

then like , apparently this is so fucking ridiculous

23:44

. So I'm going through my stuff , looking for my

23:46

notes to help a friend of mine try and

23:48

transition into working in the school department , like

23:50

school district , um , and I'm going through and I find

23:53

something and I'm like , oh yeah , and there's my degree . And I'm like

23:55

, but this kind of doesn't look like a degree . I

23:57

thought it was a degree . I put it in like a frame and I framed

23:59

it like it's in a frame from dollarama , like a picture

24:01

frame , um , and I this whole time I must

24:04

have looked at it like a thousand times I thought it was my degree

24:06

. Uh , it's not , it's the award that

24:08

I couldn't remember . And then I've been like trying to remember for

24:10

years . Yeah , look well , you can't

24:12

like , but come on , look anyway I'm coming , I'm coming , I'm coming , I'm

24:14

coming .

24:15

Yeah , ubc , wait what really

24:17

like ?

24:18

it's a real award yeah , oh , for my

24:20

valued contributions to the teacher education

24:22

program . And it wasn't like a

24:24

five people one-edger for second , third

24:26

place , it was just me . Holy crap , that's

24:28

amazing . And that was the same practicum

24:30

that my practicum teacher wanted to fail me on different

24:32

aspects , the one that got you blacklisted

24:35

, the one that no longer is allowed to have student teachers

24:37

. Oh shit , and

24:39

like maybe it was a pity award because I'd been

24:42

through it . But I don't know . I had

24:44

that in my fucking document

24:46

for nine years and

24:48

I never read it . I just realized like it can't

24:50

be my degree , because degrees usually have fancy

24:52

lettering , you know like scripty handwriting

24:54

stuff , and they usually have like a little , a little golden

24:57

circle , a stampy seal thing on them that

24:59

looks like golden tinfoil and it

25:01

was like well , that's weird , this looks like someone made it on Microsoft

25:03

Word , because they did , but it's still a real award

25:05

. Yeah , I'm so glad I found it Because now I can

25:07

put it on my resume . This whole time I've been applying

25:10

for jobs and wanting to put it on my resume but I can't remember

25:12

what it was called or what I won it for , or like Aw

25:18

, precious , yeah , the month I have to apply for my master's . Oh

25:20

, we took our cats to the vet . One of them , the thyroid

25:23

condition , is getting worse and the other one is going to cost

25:25

1800 to clean her teeth . Oh , dear

25:27

lord , I mean the cat's teeth even matter that

25:29

much uh , I don't know , my

25:31

sister got her cat's teeth .

25:33

My sister got all her cat's teeth taken out . But then how

25:35

does the cat eat ? Uh , it just eats soft food . That

25:38

seems very cool , I

25:41

mean , like cats are supposed to only eat

25:43

soft food anyway .

25:44

Ours mostly just eat tuna

25:47

and stuff . Right

25:49

, she's got expensive teeth , but she's also got heart murmur

25:51

, so we kind of

25:53

have to keep them , because you can get heart disease

25:55

through your gums .

25:56

Yeah , you can . I know a guy who

25:58

got that . Actually , yeah , he

26:01

never brushed his teeth and then he had pericarditis

26:05

and it was because he never brushed his teeth . I

26:07

know , crazy , what a crazy

26:09

girl . And I see it was , um

26:12

, your nephew's birthday too

26:14

. Do you want to know how old they are ? No , no

26:16

, nope , don't even do it . I mean

26:18

, like you want to guess how old they are

26:21

. Oh , five , five

26:23

children . You are allowed to be five

26:25

, according to Marika Dodge , mm-hmm . Do

26:29

you want to go outside ? Do you want to go outside ? Meow .

26:32

He's so ferocious , he's a panther

26:34

. I definitely said that to Grey Cat today in honor

26:36

of you .

26:37

Are you ferocious ? Are you a panther ? Are you Apex

26:39

Predator ? Are you a saber-toothed tiger

26:41

? Yes , you are . Look at you . Oh , my

26:43

goodness , I am quivering with fear

26:46

.

26:47

Are you ?

26:48

okay , you know we

26:50

have our conversation that we have every time that I

26:52

talk to him . It is the same conversation

26:54

, and

26:57

I have to let him know that he is a very ferocious

26:59

animal and that I'm afraid of him . And so when

27:01

I see him I am quivering with fear because he's

27:03

so ferocious . And then I get Callie

27:05

. You know what she did this morning ? Oh my God , because

27:08

when you have a cat , oftentimes

27:10

you will also have cat toys , including

27:12

those little fucking mice , right , those little mice

27:15

that are like catnip mice . This morning she

27:17

was hungry because she's on a diet , because she's

27:19

so fat . She brought

27:21

me her mouse mouse . I don't know

27:23

if she was trying to trade for food , but

27:26

she was annoying me and I was like , oh wait

27:28

, because it's 4 30 in the morning . And then I like reached

27:30

my hand over and I grabbed this like furry thing and

27:32

I was like , oh , what the fuck ? Uh , and it was one

27:35

of her catnip mice that she put it by my head , oh

27:37

, and I mean , like I'll come home and she'll have

27:39

like found a few mice , like toy mice

27:42

, and she puts , she puts them on my bed , yeah , and like

27:44

I don't know if she's putting them on there for me because

27:46

she thinks I can't hunt or she's just

27:48

weird . But this time she definitely , like

27:51

, brought it to me , put it next to my face and

27:53

I think she was trying to barter for some food . Totally

27:57

trying to barter for food , weren't you ? Weren't you ?

28:04

Little Calypso , you're so pretty . I'm just doing disgusting math right now . What Are you ready

28:06

for ? The worst math in the entire world . Yes , I love math . Don't tell anybody

28:08

. Actually , I don't know how to do this math . Hold on , I'm not good at math . Okay

28:13

, according to my calculations , so like

28:15

every month I just looked at my paychecks and stuff Every

28:17

month I make $8,960

28:20

gross , $960 gross , and every month I keep

28:22

$4,556

28:25

net and

28:27

according to my phone , that's 50%

28:29

. Yeah , it is so the tax amount

28:31

in Canada . What do people pay in Canada

28:33

? I thought it was 13 or like 16 .

28:36

But the problem is it's not tax , it's not all

28:38

tax . You're paying into your benefits

28:40

, you're paying into your union . You're paying into all this other

28:42

shit , yeah , paying into your benefits , you're paying into

28:44

your union , you're paying into all this other shit , yeah . So , like , one of my previous

28:46

partners made ten dollars an hour

28:48

less than me , yeah , and their take-home was the

28:50

same as mine because they didn't have to pay in

28:52

as much as we do . But , that

28:54

being said , I also acknowledge that , um

28:57

, I do have a pretty sweet gig . I've

28:59

got pretty good benefits . My , I

29:01

have insane job security

29:04

. Yeah , like , like when , when the government

29:06

or when , when can when , when the when

29:08

, when Canada goes through pardon me , if Canada

29:10

goes through a recession , that's when our work increases

29:13

. So we're recession proof . Nobody

29:16

actually like jobs . Don't get cut

29:18

. Like you would never walk in one day and

29:21

find that you know you're getting handed a pink slip

29:23

. Yeah , you would if you were doing Um

29:29

, so I mean , like I also have like

29:31

a decent amount of vacation . Um , I

29:33

have basically unlimited not unlimited

29:35

, but like I have a really decent amount of sick

29:37

days . It equates to about six months straight

29:40

. You could be sick for six months straight and be paid

29:42

for sick days . I mean you only get paid at like 70 or 75%

29:44

, but still , um , I get family

29:46

illness days . I get two in a row family illness

29:49

days . So those are special because they're your

29:51

family . So you get paid at a hundred percent . But on

29:53

the third day if you call in for a family illness

29:55

, it's unpaid , but usually on the

29:57

third day if you've been home with a sick family member , then

29:59

you're sick . So you go on sick

30:01

for yourself . Yeah

30:04

, like it's as much as I'm like , oh , they take

30:06

all the money away , but at the same time , like , I

30:08

got good perks . The perks are worth it . Yeah

30:10

, it's , it's , it's just it is , it's a decent

30:12

job . But I did , oh

30:14

, my god . Oh , I saw this guy

30:17

, saw this guy on the tiki-taki . I was gonna

30:19

send it to you and then I didn't . Uh , I

30:21

don't know if I saved it . I didn't , I didn't save

30:23

it , uh . So this guy is like

30:25

very much anti , anti-government

30:28

, anti , all that shit , like he's , he's . He's

30:30

what is that red pill ? Is that Red pill ? That red pill ? Yeah

30:33

, okay , so he's that . I mean this is a decent cleanup

30:35

, I think , um , he's that . And then

30:37

he like posts on the internet and he's got

30:39

this little video and he was like , hey , everybody

30:41

who's struggling ? You know who's not struggling right now ? Canadian

30:44

government workers . They're doing fine

30:46

and blah , blah , blah . And he's like talking about how like

30:48

everybody is struggling but the government workers are fine

30:50

, and he's real angry about it . And at the end

30:53

he's like so just go and apply for canadian government

30:55

jobs . And he's like real angry and I'm just

30:57

like , can you , can you please , please ? We need workers

30:59

. We are so understaffed . I

31:03

would really like it , if you could , if people would apply

31:05

for some government positions because we have no

31:07

workers . And like he thinks he's doing something and

31:09

uh , like really he's doing the opposite , because I really

31:11

, really , really , really , really like if people would just randomly

31:14

fucking apply for some jobs because I need some workers . Yeah

31:16

, yeah , it's it's , oh , it's sad

31:18

how we don't have any . And then like people like complain

31:20

about how like services are taking too

31:22

long and this taking too long , blah , blah . Well

31:24

, yeah , it's taking too long . You know why ? Because there's no workers , there

31:27

is nobody to do the work . Yeah , nobody

31:29

can uh process your application there

31:31

, jimmy . Also , if you know anybody who wants to

31:33

be a social worker . No , no , I

31:36

can't wait to hide easter eggs for my workers . Like

31:38

I'm genuinely excited . This weekend I'm gonna hide easter

31:40

eggs in their little cubicles and they have to find them . I

31:42

mean , like there's no candy in them , it's just like little

31:44

lego pieces , but like it's still gonna be fun

31:46

, I think yeah , maybe

31:48

I'll do something just for me and michael here

31:50

this weekend .

31:51

He's going to come back on Saturday , like Thursday

31:53

, friday for like me , to

31:56

just sort of like chill , try and figure

31:58

out how to submit an

32:00

application . So , like for my master's , I need

32:02

to have my personal education number , which

32:04

I haven't looked at since 2006

32:07

. So I just started the process of getting that on

32:09

the government website , but it'll take like several

32:11

days .

32:12

You where you would have it , where , on

32:14

one of your old essays that you wrote . Who has those

32:16

old essay that I wrote ? and

32:18

at the very top when you do um apa

32:21

format or mla format , whatever you have not

32:23

mla really , oh

32:25

well , I guess only apa format , because

32:27

, oh yeah , we had to do apa format because it was social work

32:29

and it was in the top left hand corner . Well

32:31

then , that sucks , oh , oh . So here's

32:34

the thing that I have for my e-reader it's

32:36

a stand , yeah , and so I can like

32:38

have it in the bath and like have it

32:40

stand , oops , I can have it stand

32:42

over me and then I have this thing . I don't know where

32:44

it went . Oh , here it is . I have this thing and it changes

32:46

the , not the channel it doesn't change the channel

32:49

it changes the page . It flips pages for

32:51

me by a little button on the remote . That's

32:53

great , it really is . And then I can just

32:55

like lay in the tub and like be changing

32:57

pages , but like just like sitting , like with crisscross

32:59

applesauce with my arms , or like I can be in bed

33:02

, like laying in bed , and like have my e-reader

33:04

like just hovering above my face and

33:06

just be changing pages . And it's amazing

33:08

and I love it so much and I have honestly

33:11

found that when I do that

33:13

to fall asleep , as opposed to like watching

33:15

TikTok or YouTube or anything , I fall asleep

33:17

faster and I sleep better . Okay , makes sense

33:20

and , like now , I just really enjoy reading and I read

33:22

an entire book the other day . Oh which one

33:24

. It was called the Retreat and

33:26

it was about a social media influencer

33:28

who went on who , like , hosted

33:31

a retreat at some place and then like

33:33

nefarious things happened .

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I just finished Brandon Sanderson's

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Mistborn . It's a

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series of three and I'm really excited . Is

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it gay ? Actually ? No , I decided like

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the straight people are okay

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sometimes . There was this book series and

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then the guy died .

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Yeah , like what guy ? The guy that was writing it , who

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wrote Wheel of Time ? I don't know , robert Jordan

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.

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I feel what the fuck should I know ? I don't know

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people , I'm super duper famous . You're super

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duper famous . Thank you , yeah , robert Jordan . Okay , so

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there was this whole book series . No-transcript

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about them . Get them get like . This is amazing , this is amazing

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, it's so good , it's so good , it's so good , it's so good .

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Um , and it's pretty great female main

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character , so that counts I mean

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like the one that I read too , also not gay , the

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Retreat not gay , but had a

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female main character as well . Like the majority

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of the main , all of the main characters are female

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actually , so I mean like kudos to them

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, even though it was not gay . I kept helping , though

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, and I was like , oh , are those two

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people going to bang ? No , no , they're not . She's going to

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go for the man . Of course she's going to go for the man . She

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learned nothing from just flipping the laundry

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.

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But I'm going to let you go here . I need to eat

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and my head is starting to get really painful . I'm

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going to go take some . On that note , I love you a lot

34:58

. Keep me posted . Yes , don't forget to text me

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.

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I'm still doing like nothing .

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Even when you don't reply to my little videos that I send you . Well

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, I just thought you were fancy schmancy thing .

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But I was like trying to show you like , hey , I'm reading it , but also

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look at this fancy schmancy thing .

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Yeah next time , send words and like pictures

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. Have a good evening .

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You too . I hope your headache goes away and that

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everything works out and everything will be okay . Give the cats a pet

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for me , Of course yours as well . Okay , I

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love you .