We have successfully fetishised busyness over business. Society is focused on sacrifice instead of outcomes. Altruism and success have become binaries of each other. It’s the perception of progress that we’re addicted to, not actual progress. I

Setting North Star Goals

Aug 17th, 2019 23m 58s

A north-star goal: A single well-defined goal that you can look up at, and see if you’re heading in the right direction. All other goals are milestones taking you closer to this final goal. It comes from the North Star, Polaris, in the sky that

Waiting to be a hero

Jul 13th, 2019 31m 47s

We are plagued by Protagonism. Protagonism: The belief that we are the ‘main character’ of the story, that important things will happen in front of us and all other people are side characters or NPCs. I’ve lived my whole life from my own perspe

Why knowing something isn’t enough

Jul 7th, 2019 33m 48s

What does it mean to believe something? How is it different to knowing something? “What do I believe in?” A question I dance with regularly. What do you believe in? Is it the things that bubble up in our mind when we ask ourselves that question

The pain of fear, and the fear of pain

Jun 29th, 2019 29m 25s

What is fear, really? What is pain, really? What is their relationship? Listen to the pain, it connects you to reality. Pain is a signal from the body that something is wrong. It helps you preemptively avoid mortal risks. If we didn’t have pai

Letting perfect get in the way of good

Jun 22nd, 2019 14m 55s

You must pass through the valley of good to become great, but striving for perfection stops you from becoming good. You become frozen in fear of failure.The post Letting perfect get in the way of good appeared first on Diversify Your Self Este

Learning to say “yes”

Jun 17th, 2019 17m 32s

Say “yes”. Say “yes” to others. More than anything, say “yes” to yourself. Give yourself permission to try. When you are offered something by someone, what is your gut reaction? Is it to accept the offer or is it to deny it? In an attempt to b

Why do we turn on those we care about?

May 27th, 2019 13m 33s

What causes us to drift from those we care about? How about turning on them? Where does that aggression come from? How do we get there? It all starts at the beginning: meeting them for the first time. Remember that while they are a physical f

Don’t take the last dime off the table

May 7th, 2019 16m 42s

I like to win. How about you? It’s only natural, we’re programmed to like it. It’s in our DNA to want to ‘win’ things. We need to focus on how to build strong relationships. It makes us feel good, bolsters our immediate view of ourselves. Fak

STRONG IDEAS, weakly held

Apr 17th, 2019 17m 22s

When it comes to ideas, there are good ones and there are bad ones. That is not to say that the person who has conceived the idea is good or bad, painted with same brush. This generalisation is intellectually lazy. It saves the person the emoti

Finding your calling

Apr 17th, 2019 10m 40s

We spend a lot of our lives finding our calling. We’re on a journey, thinking our calling is waiting out there to discover. Finding your calling is a matter of looking inwards. “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life!” Is an

Stop eating your friends’ problems

Apr 15th, 2019

Learning it the hard way. If the thing is worth learning it will always be hard. The feeling of the friction of change will make the more important things harder to accept. If you are a highly agreeable person you will often find yourself being

People in glass houses should throw stones

Apr 9th, 2019 6m 40s

Framework collapses. An unbalanced self-esteem‘s worst nightmare. We can call accept that learning from your mistakes is the best way to grow. We receive so much stimulus from our environments. There is no way we can process it all in real-time

Get Brave

Mar 16th, 2019 6m 38s

Exposure doesn’t make the trigger less scary. It makes you braver.While your self-esteem is unbalanced, fears can get out of control.The post Get Brave appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

Stop looking up to people and they’ll stop looking down at you.

Dec 30th, 2018 5m 42s

J: “Alright you booked a meeting with X, you a little nervous?” K: “You kidding, my stomach has been flipping over all day, how do I even say hello?? They’re gonna think I’m such a pleb… I’m going in at such a disadvantage. I’ll never be able t

Diversify your self esteem

Dec 28th, 2018 8m 19s

It is common knowledge that when investing you should not put all your eggs in one basket, so why do we so often do that with our sense of self esteem?The post Diversify your self esteem appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

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