Our guest today was voted "Best Comedian" in San Francisco several times for her standup and solo shows. But Alicia Dattner is more than just funny, she also works with groups and individuals on storytelling, self-expression, and creativity in business. We first met on stage years ago as she was improvising some 60-second life stories from members of the audience, and jumped in to serve as the impromptu backup band. Conversations with Alicia are usually fun and rarely predictable. I was pleasantly surprised to end up talking with her about the feminine side of change, here on Doable Change.

Takeaway #1: Feeling stuck? Look for the fear, there are probably a few layers of it that are sticking together and clogging things up for you. One antidote is to simply notice and accept fear, without a need to change it. Often this can dislodge and de-power resistances, helping things just fall away. Takeaway #2: Embrace the feminine side of change. This is not a substitute for basic goals and planning, but it is critical component of flow. Nourish your emotional responses, give them room, let them move. This exploration may not lead directly to the goal as originally stated but it will lead to something. Likely something even more worthwhile. Takeaway #3: Getting upset is a great clue. It's a sign that you really care about something. This is not something to placate or to fix, instead it is something to celebrate and to explore further. Try following that care, and seeing where it leads you.