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Hey, Danas and Beckys, I'm so
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glad some of you had a chance to catch
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my recent live virtual Don't
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Ask Tig show with two of
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the funniest comedians I know, my good
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friends Fortune Feimster and Mae Martin.
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We had such a good time answering questions
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and dispensing all kinds of advice
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that I wanted to make sure all of you got to
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share in the fun. So today's episode
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is an edited version of the live
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event. And I'm still on the road if
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you want to see me live and in person.
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I'll be in Colorado Springs
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September 25 Breckenridge
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September 28 and then I will be
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touring Europe in October.
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So go to my website to get all the
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city and
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ticket and show information.
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Then I will be back in the states
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in La Crosse, Wisconsin, October 28.
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And then Brooklyn, New York, November 4
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Kings Theatre taping my
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next stand up special. Live.
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Come check it out.
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Go to TIGNotaro.com to get all
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tickets and show information. Hope you
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enjoy the show.
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I was just in New York and
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I was lining up right when it opened
1:14
to go to the Natural History Museum and there
1:16
was a guy whose job it was to organize
1:18
the lines going in and this guy
1:20
loved his job. And he was this is
1:22
my impersonation of him. He was going shift
1:25
over shift over shift over shift over approach
1:27
approach approach like that. And he was just repeating
1:29
shift over shift over shift over approach. I
1:31
said to the security guard, I went, that
1:34
guy's that guy's crazy. And
1:36
he goes, oh, yeah, he went viral on TikTok.
1:38
So maybe he's now leaning into it. Like he's
1:41
like, I know what the people want. Yeah,
1:43
I'm going to give them what they
1:44
want. That's so funny.
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This
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is Don't Ask Tig, I'm Tig Notaro,
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and don't ask me how I
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got so handsome. I
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am joined this evening by two extraordinarily
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talented, I don't know where
2:22
this accent came from,
2:24
but let's go with it, talented
2:27
stand-up comedians, writers,
2:29
and artists. One
2:32
of my guest stars in the
2:35
hit Netflix show,
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Fubar, her
2:37
second Netflix special is titled
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Good Fortune, and just a few
2:42
of her many credits include The
2:44
Mindy Project, Chelsea Lately,
2:47
NBC's Keenan, and
2:50
Champions. Also joining
2:52
me is the star of their own
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award-winning Netflix series entitled
2:57
Feel Good. SAP is
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the title of their latest Netflix
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special, and you can also
3:04
see them on HBO's The Flight
3:07
Attendant. Fortune theme-ster
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and Mae Martin, welcome
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to Don't Ask Tig.
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What's up? Hi guys. Hello. Thank
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you for having us. What a pleasure.
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Yeah, what a pleasure.
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What a pleasure. What
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a pleasure. I'm saying their
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abbreviations. Yeah,
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I've never said pledge, but I'm
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going to... It feels good to say. It does
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feel good to say, and I'm going to
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drop it with Stephanie when
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she's... I was going to say when she's least
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expecting it, but I don't think... She's
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ever expecting it. I
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think she is at all. No.
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My favorite abbreviation that I
3:51
ever came up with was when
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you casually mentioned something, it's called a cash
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mensch. This is why Mae is so crude.
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crucial in our lives,
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Fortune. That's right. And for those
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in the audience that may not have heard
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yet, May, Fortune, and I co-host a
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new podcast, and it's called
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Handsome for obvious reasons.
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I mean, I won't know. Well,
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you know, and I was out with my aunt and
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uncle the other night, and I was, was it
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them or was it my therapist?
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Who cares?
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But I was talking about the
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name Handsome, and I was
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saying it feels very fluid
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in that men are
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handsome. You can say, oh,
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that's a handsome woman. You can say
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that handsome horses
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may always remembering the
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handsome horses out there. There's handsome
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suits. There's handsome architecture.
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I mean, come on. So it's also
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a vibe. You can feel handsome. That's
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right. I can't believe I haven't said this
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yet, but I think that the word handsome
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comes from when they would measure horses,
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they'd say, how many hands is it? And
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why are you laughing? It's true. We've
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learned, Fortune, May loves
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a factor. Yeah. May
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often tells sex, we cannot verify
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if these facts are accurate. And
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we refuse to verify. We're not going
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to look them up. Why would we? We're
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too handsome to spend time. Verifying
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May Martin facts. That's not our
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job. Yeah, you go. You Google
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it. Yeah, you Google it. That's what should
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be at my tagline after every
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five seconds. You Google it. If
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and when you get a car, May, you
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can get a bumper sticker that says you Google
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it and then put May Martin at
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the bottom. Okay. Now I'm
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going to open up this question to both
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of you. We're going to dive in here now. May
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and Fortune. Is there any advice
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that you need right now? now
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that we can brainstorm about together.
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Oh, one
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of my questions is about, I
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had this crystal given to me, and I don't
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get really attached to crystals, but as soon as I
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held this one, I was like,
6:12
whoa, there's something about it, and I can't
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find the crystal. So
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I'm wondering if an appropriate solution, because I really
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feel untethered without it. I have a photograph
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of it. Should I get a tattoo of
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the crystal? What
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do you guys think about that? Well, that was a real
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job. Where would
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the tattoo go? Would it go on your
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nose or? I
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was thinking. No, no, don't do a
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face tattoo. No. Poor
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Chin Sting out of this. Tig, do not do this to
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Mae. Listen, this show
6:44
is called Don't Ask Tig. I know.
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So I feel
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like Mae would do it, because, well, the problem
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is, number one, I get
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things that I like. I'm like, oh, I guess
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I gotta get a tattoo of it, just because I like the
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thing. And then number two, I get
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them to impress people. So the fact that you've
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suggested that is danger territory for
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me. That I'm like,
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to commit to that bit,
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would that be really fun, like to
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show up one day and be like, Tig,
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you said to me. Yes, that
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would be worth the joke. Now,
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I'm assuming you like me and Fortune.
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So what are the odds you'd get tattoos
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of our faces? On your
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back? On my face? I have a big face. I
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have a big face, though.
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Oh my God, your smiling
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face is on each of my cheeks. Or what
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did you not, Fortune's face tattooed
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on your face? Is that possible? Don't
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do that, here's though.
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And then where is yours? Yours
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is, I shave my head and I get it on the back
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of my head. You shave your head, you get the tattoo
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of the back of my head on the back of your
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head. Yes, yes, yes. Do
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you know what I just remembered? What?
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That people paid to listen to us.
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That's true. Should
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we entertain them more? Yes, okay.
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So moving, well, wait, Fortune,
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do you need advice on anything?
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Um, people on the road have been
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giving me t-shirts and I come home and Jax
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is like, if you're gonna put these
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t-shirts in your closet, you have to now start
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eliminating old t-shirts.
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How do you know when the, the, it's time to go,
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those old, old ones?
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I feel like for you, the
8:23
way you know is to check with Jax. Like,
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gods, no. Yeah, you put out all
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of your terrible, ugly t-shirts.
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You do a fashion show. Do
8:35
a little runway of each one and then Jax
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maybe gives a score. All
8:40
right, so, um, moving
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on. When either of you
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go to
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someone for advice, who, who is that? Do
8:50
you know Sabrina Jeliz, the comedian? She
8:52
just does life very well. I go
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to her a lot, for a lot of different
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things. And then, uh, not
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so much my parents. I just want my parents to think that
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I'm acing life. So yeah,
9:03
would never be like, oh, I'm kind of depressed. Because they'd
9:05
be like, oh God,
9:07
well, why? Well,
9:10
they did buy tickets to this show.
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Oh, great. Oh, excellent. What
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about you, Fortune? It's funny because my
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mom is a source of frustration
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at times. She's that person that I've had
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to learn to set boundaries with.
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But then she's also that person who
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I do like to call and get
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advice from. I'll definitely
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talk about things with her. And, you
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know, it is nice to have that. Um,
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queer stuff, I'm always running by Jax.
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We're very much a team. I thought you
9:45
said it first, queer
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stuff. And, but both like, you
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know, that queer queer and career. I
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made my queer advice from a wife.
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You're like, I need to, I need to get your shirt to
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wear. Well, I
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realize, you know, when you're married, I
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can't just make these.
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God, they're desperate for me. And
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then it really works. I
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mean, it takes some imagining, but
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it works. Yeah.
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I love that. That's nice. Yeah. I'm going to give
12:09
that a whirl. I always repeat this,
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but it's something that I read
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once. And I tweaked it a little
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bit to make sense to everyone.
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But I have always loved this so much. The
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greatest gift you can give anyone is
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a well-lived life of your own. And
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I love that because it frees everybody.
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Nobody worries about you.
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And everyone can just
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be at peace. There
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you go. At peace. Yeah, I love that a lot.
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So May and Fortune,
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I've asked you here for a very
12:46
specific reason. And that's to help
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me. It's an intervention. No, yeah. Oh,
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boy. The
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reason is I need help advising
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my listeners. Are you ready? Yeah,
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we love a listener. We love a listener.
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All right, first up is a quandary
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involving communication
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and kids. Viola writes,
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I am a part of a close-knit
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family. Once a month, my
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parents and I visit with my uncle,
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aunt, their
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12-year-old son, and 8-year-old
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daughter.
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I'm 25. As the youngest
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in my family, I didn't have any experience
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with children until my uncle moved
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to my town a couple of years ago.
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And generally, I always talk
13:35
to children like adults. I
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can tell my aunt doesn't like this. I
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don't curse when I talk to them. However,
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I talk to my cousin like
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she is in my age range. I
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know she loves this because she always
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runs to me when we visit and
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tells me I'm her favorite. A
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few weeks ago, my aunt took
13:56
me aside and asked me to talk to
13:58
my little cousin like this. she was
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eight. I was a bit taken aback
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as I thought everyone could
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see we had a great relationship. I
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just said, sure.
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What should I do? That's
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interesting. That is interesting.
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I have a lot of questions. I'm
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just trying to picture like how she talks
14:18
to the eight year old is she like, if you started
14:20
your
14:21
401k.
14:23
Yeah. Let's role play
14:25
it. Like all what are your plans to move
14:27
out? Yeah. Like,
14:29
okay, I'll be the eight year old fortune.
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You'd be the, you'd be Viola.
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What am I doing? Just taking
14:36
a podcast.
14:38
You're the,
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you're the big now. Okay.
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I'm the aunt that tells you, wait, and
14:45
I'm who you know, the
14:47
role play was a weird idea. This isn't
14:49
working. So who am
14:54
I? Yeah. I
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feel like I talk to my
14:58
kids, like they're adults, but I certainly
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dip into those moments. I call them my
15:04
little cubs, but in general, I'm like, Hey
15:06
guys, get your backpacks
15:08
or don't forget your water bottles
15:11
or you know what I mean? I don't know if
15:13
this aunt is wanting like, where's
15:16
your backpack? I
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don't know. That's what's hard to picture. Yeah.
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I love adult talk. Yeah. They're
15:24
like, so are you Polly or what? Sounds
15:27
to me like the kid has repeated
15:30
to the aunt something that the cousin said or, or
15:32
the aunt overheard something specific that
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seems like out of the age range, like inappropriate
15:37
in some way about mortality
15:39
or something or like
15:40
being negative or I
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don't know. So it's something specific at the
15:44
root of this because
15:45
otherwise they have a great relationship.
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Yeah. I guess if it's something where
15:50
you've, where you're, if you reflect
15:53
on what you're saying may and realize,
15:56
Oh, maybe I shouldn't talk about death.
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and burial
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plots with an old government
16:03
conspiracy. Yeah,
16:06
yeah, like I don't
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think she necessarily has to like talk to
16:10
the kid like a baby but maybe
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like adjust
16:13
what some of the subject matter
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is if it feels too adult
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and also it never hurts if
16:20
for some reason it's affected in their relationship and
16:22
things are weird to maybe ask
16:25
the mom for more clarification.
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Yeah, good point Fortune.
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Like what should I, how
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do you want me to, give me an example. Yeah, yeah,
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you know what I mean? Is it the content or
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the voice? Yeah, like get more feedback.
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Yeah, don't ask Fortune. Okay, well
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Viola, we're talking to you
16:44
like you're an adult here because
16:46
you are best of luck and yeah,
16:49
if you're talking about weird heavy stuff
16:51
maybe shift that.
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Fortune, this
19:37
next question comes from a resident
19:40
of your home state.
19:42
Whoa. Hey, Tigg. Hey, Fortune. Hey,
19:44
May. My name is Maggie. I love
19:46
you guys. Maggie could really use some advice. So I moved to
19:48
North Carolina about seven years ago from
19:51
California, and I love it
19:53
here, but
19:54
I can't understand the Carolina
19:56
accent to save my life. How
19:59
dare you? We're like I like like
20:01
I don't hear them the first time and maybe I'll get
20:03
it But if I don't then I just
20:06
get super awkward like I'll
20:08
start laughing in the middle of the conversation
20:11
It's not good for anybody. Oh You
20:14
guys have any advice on just
20:16
I don't know how to not offend people
20:18
if you don't understand them I
20:20
just I love the South and I want to embrace my identity
20:23
and I kind of feel like this is getting in the way Of that a little
20:25
bit cool. Thanks guys
20:28
Okay, well to be honest, I couldn't
20:30
understand a word Maggie said No,
20:33
you know, I actually felt like Maggie
20:36
had a slight Southern accent.
20:38
Yeah a little bit Rubs
20:41
off on people. Yeah, I've
20:43
lived in LA for 20 years and I still
20:45
have this North Carolina accent Nothing
20:48
has rubbed off at you. It's weird
20:50
to say this because mine is so
20:52
thick but it has gotten way
20:55
better over the years I See
20:58
like old videos of me in high school
21:00
and it's like wow Let's
21:02
hear what it kind of sound. Yeah. Okay.
21:04
Well first what we preface is by saying I did the
21:06
morning announcement That's cool.
21:09
Let's just pretend it's that that's your
21:11
first big break in Entertainment. Yeah, that
21:13
was yeah so
21:15
I would be like
21:17
Hi, everybody There's
21:20
a chest meeting No
21:25
That to the chest club they're
21:27
gonna be meeting it. Mr. Smith
21:30
class at 330 And
21:32
did you have a bow in your hair and
21:34
were you wearing a dress? What
21:36
was the old fortune? I'm
21:39
sorry. I'm talking so fast. Everybody
21:41
has a great day. This is We're
21:44
just signing off here doing the morning. Now.
21:47
Yeah, take care now.
21:50
Okay. I
21:53
Love it With
21:55
it. So I love that. Is it Maggie?
21:57
I love that. She is just
21:59
like
21:59
laughing in the middle of the conference, she laughs
22:02
in their faces. I think she should
22:04
find maybe like a TV show set
22:06
there
22:06
or a fortune sold home videos or something
22:09
and watch them with subtitles. And there's a
22:11
blooper reel from high school. Yeah.
22:13
She's kind of practice up on her own at home
22:16
just watching. Here's the hard part. People
22:19
in North Carolina don't
22:20
enunciate. No, I know. I
22:22
can tell. Yeah. We noticed we
22:24
co-hosted podcasts with someone.
22:27
What do you believe is going to
22:28
be that I feel like everything is supposed to be
22:30
ready.
22:32
Here's what Maggie should be saying
22:34
to people. If she does not understand it, she just be
22:36
like, can you, I'm sorry. Can you repeat that?
22:38
All right. Maggie, if
22:41
you can understand fortune, you can understand
22:43
at least one person with
22:45
a Carolina accent. I hope this
22:48
advice helps you, Maggie. All right.
22:50
We're, uh, we're moving on to the next question
22:52
and this is about dating. All
22:56
right.
22:56
Hi, Tig. I'm a 35 year old woman
22:59
and I've only ever dated men for
23:01
many, many years. Now I have found myself attracted
23:03
to women. When I start dating
23:05
a woman, at what point do I disclose
23:07
that I've never dated a woman before? I
23:10
feel intimidated that no 30 something
23:12
lesbian wants to be with someone who has zero
23:15
experience dating women.
23:17
Thanks so much, Tig. You're welcome.
23:19
I
23:19
don't see that as a problem. Listen,
23:23
I that's my bread and butter bread
23:25
and butter. I think actually
23:28
there's a, there's a huge market
23:30
out there of people that are very,
23:32
would really enjoy, I think, being with,
23:34
with someone to show you the ropes.
23:37
I don't think it has to be
23:38
like a, like you're having to come out to
23:41
these women, like a big disclosure
23:43
that has a lot of weight to it. I think it'll come up in conversation.
23:47
Things are so fluid to be talking about your, your
23:50
old, it'll only be weird if you're making
23:52
it as if it's
23:53
so different to any dating experience
23:55
that you've had in the past. I think that's
23:57
true. I feel like if, if you are,
24:00
aren't withholding and you just keep it natural
24:03
and flowing in a fluid
24:05
way. I don't know. I
24:07
just, I always feel like I don't
24:10
care who you dated before me.
24:12
I don't care who you're with after me.
24:14
If I feel like I can
24:16
tell that
24:17
you like me, then... Yeah.
24:20
The only alarm bell there is like, oh, are you comfortable
24:22
enough with yourself? Are you going to be freaking
24:25
out about this new experience? So the
24:27
one thing I would say is maybe process
24:30
some of it with your friends, not with the queer
24:32
person that you're dating because it
24:34
can sometimes be hard. Like you
24:37
don't have to process it all with the person that you're dating.
24:40
But you can still stay in conversation
24:42
with them of like... Oh, totally.
24:44
Yeah. Or like, this is new. Yeah. Yeah.
24:47
This is new. I feel
24:49
like more women are kind of
24:52
getting to the point in their life, even
24:54
later in life be like, Hey, why don't I give
24:57
this a shot? I think it's not a
24:59
problem. Yeah. Especially later in life. Yeah.
25:01
I feel like we've all dated
25:03
someone. We have all
25:05
dated someone. But
25:07
it didn't freak me out, I guess is my point. Yeah.
25:10
We'll all date you basically is what we're
25:12
saying. But I guess
25:15
specifically when to disclose
25:17
is like, just whenever it comes
25:20
up. And if it doesn't come up on the first date,
25:22
then that's not like you're being sketchy
25:24
by keeping a secret.
25:25
And if they're not into it, deuces,
25:28
looses.
25:30
I don't think you need to like text it in advance
25:32
or anything. I think just
25:33
face to face when it comes up.
25:36
Maybe get one of those planes
25:38
that writes the message to the guy.
25:41
Yes. Or a witch that can sell it
25:43
to Serenda Dorothy. Remember
25:45
that? Yes. A witch as well. Yeah.
25:48
If they were concerned about you
25:50
never having been with a woman, they should be concerned
25:53
that you've hired a witch to deliver a message.
25:56
Welcome to lady town. Come
25:59
this way. Yeah, right
26:01
here right there there. Yeah,
26:04
okay. Thanks for entrusting
26:06
me May and fortune
26:08
with your love life now get out
26:10
there and start
26:13
gay dating your face off day date
26:16
your face off Okay
26:20
fortune of May it's now time for us to
26:22
answer a question Sent in
26:25
this evening by one of our audience
26:28
members whoa Wonder if it's gonna be May's
26:30
parents. Oh my god Okay,
26:36
Ellen writes, how
26:38
do you know when the time is
26:40
right to move in with
26:42
your partner?
26:44
Well, can I just share how
26:47
Stephanie and I moved in together? Please
26:50
do I love that my parents are asking you this
26:54
So I
26:57
used to have a loft in
26:59
downtown Los Angeles and
27:05
Six months in to our relationship Stephanie
27:09
came over one night and she said
27:11
oh my gosh, I am
27:14
so Sick
27:16
of looking for parking downtown
27:19
And she said in all seriousness
27:23
Should we just move in together? Wow,
27:26
she couldn't find parking and Yeah,
27:30
six months in yeah, and
27:32
I and she had never been with a woman but
27:36
I said yeah, why
27:38
not and honestly, I Feel
27:42
like if it wasn't Stephanie if
27:44
it was anybody else, I
27:46
would truly be like, oh my gosh This
27:48
girl is a psychopath. What a nut.
27:51
Yeah, but we were Luckily
27:54
on the same page like
27:56
out of the gate and I truly I didn't even flinch
27:58
and I remember
28:00
Chilling friends of mine. I was like Stephanie
28:02
is moving in because she
28:05
can't find stick of finding
28:07
parking Downtown
28:10
and so yeah, that's how I knew
28:12
it was time to move in. What about you fortune?
28:14
How did you and Jack snow?
28:17
well, we were long distance for a year
28:19
and Jack's was a teacher
28:21
at the time and Chicago
28:24
in Chicago. I was in LA and we were Traveling
28:28
so much not only because I was on
28:30
tour we were flying back
28:32
and forth to see each other We both
28:35
at the end of that year were just Spent
28:38
like we were so tired and
28:41
we were like we literally can't do
28:43
this for another
28:45
year and so
28:47
We kind of were like
28:49
we're either moving in
28:50
together or breaking up. Yeah
28:54
Wow and did it feel
28:56
right just right away? Yeah Where you
28:58
thought oh man this sounds so
29:00
fun because that's how I felt when I thought
29:02
of the fun I was having with Stephanie when I thought
29:05
of like, oh my gosh We're
29:07
gonna wake up every day and go to
29:09
bed. Please. Oh, yeah, it was just
29:11
like that's incredible Yeah,
29:14
she had to sacrifice
29:16
the moving of just My
29:19
career and having to be here But we
29:21
I remember we drove across country
29:24
and we were both like so nervous, but we
29:26
weren't
29:26
communicating to each other That
29:30
we don't want to the other were you both
29:32
going?
29:34
Yeah Feels
29:37
right then as soon as we rolled
29:39
into LA I remember
29:40
we went to sleep both still like what
29:42
are we doing? What are we doing?
29:43
And then woke up
29:45
like say like
29:47
we're good. This
29:48
is good Oh, no, and it we
29:51
immediately were like
29:52
live together very well,
29:54
and that is so key is Living
29:58
together. Well, I know it sounds Obvious,
30:00
but you know, you can be madly
30:03
in love with somebody but do you live
30:05
well together? Oh, yeah, you
30:07
definitely have to experience that before you
30:09
make any big commitment. Yeah Yeah,
30:12
because I would say Stephanie and
30:14
I live together at Flawlessly
30:18
really? Oh my gosh. Yeah,
30:20
we live together
30:21
really well too other than
30:23
my wife's like a crazy
30:25
cleaner Germ person
30:27
and I spread sturms everywhere
30:29
He would love for
30:30
me to be on the level she's
30:32
at with that and did you have to
30:35
step up to the Jack's? Banders.
30:38
Yeah. Yeah, I mean I'm better But
30:41
I mean she's just that person that is
30:44
always clean and she's like you know, some things
30:46
and I'm just like Should we
30:49
order Thai food?
30:51
And what has she relaxed at all?
30:53
Yeah I
30:54
mean, she's always gonna clean a lot
30:56
more than me that she's always gonna be the case Sometimes
30:58
she will say and she's
31:01
been gay her obviously her
31:03
whole life, but she came out at 15 And
31:07
she's like sometimes I just need a husband
31:09
and I'm like
31:14
Just
31:17
to do something I
31:20
know Stephanie and I always talk about
31:22
like when we're you know carrying
31:25
some heavy thing We're like we
31:27
need to get a husband Ridiculous
31:30
I've gone on the road
31:31
with some taking some elk comics
31:34
every now and then to open for me and they're like
31:36
Taking our bags and hand these things
31:43
You know else Stephanie and I talk about
31:46
is we joke we're not really looking
31:48
for a throuple But
31:50
Stephanie was saying, you know what we're not
31:53
good at and Well,
31:55
first of all many things but what
31:57
are those like tables scapes, you
31:59
know people like
32:02
arrangements for the table or
32:05
when you're wrapping a present or putting
32:08
a present in a bag with little paper
32:10
that comes out. Whenever we
32:13
do those kind of things, we're like,
32:15
how is it that both of us are terrible
32:18
and we don't have the touch for any of
32:20
these things? And so we're always joking
32:23
when we're hanging out with different friends. We're like,
32:26
she would be a perfect addition to our throuple.
32:28
She can do that. I'm
32:31
a lovely gift basket.
32:33
I'm really good at that type of thing.
32:36
So I feel like I'd be a good addition, but
32:38
very quickly you'd be like, oh, we just have another
32:40
seven year old boy to look
32:43
after. I'd be like always
32:45
needing hugs and crying. I'm a
32:48
little confused about
32:51
it. And I look like Finn.
32:53
Yeah, that's true. And
32:56
also if we brought you into our throuple,
32:59
I think one day we'd
33:00
both be like, this
33:02
is kind of weird. May is in our throuple.
33:06
May is in our marriage. This is... You think
33:08
it would just hit you like three years into it.
33:10
You'd be like, wait, why do you do
33:12
that? Well, Stephanie and I, we would want
33:14
it to be like, okay,
33:17
we need our throuple person to wrap
33:20
our presents, but then you stay home
33:22
and we're going to go to the party
33:24
and deliver the presents. Oh,
33:27
that is not a good deal for May.
33:29
We just are using you
33:31
for tables,
33:32
Dave.
33:33
Here's the thing, Fortune, it's not a good
33:35
deal for me, but it's kind of turning me
33:39
on. It's got a BDSM
33:41
quality of like, I'm just a houseboy. Yes.
33:44
Oh my God. I'm just
33:46
like, oh yes, of course.
33:49
I would not dare go to this party, but I hope
33:51
they enjoy the gifts I wrapped. Yeah.
33:54
Wow. And you would need to
33:56
go buy it. Actually, Stephanie could buy
33:58
it, but you just need to wrap it. And then what are
34:00
you doing in this scenario? Stephanie's buying it.
34:02
I'm wrapping it. You're overseeing this. I
34:05
do this to you Thanks, buddy. Thanks
34:07
little buddy. Thanks terrible
34:09
trouble Whatever happened
34:11
to May Martin's career. I thought like they
34:14
just disappeared May lives
34:16
with Jake and Stephanie. He's a houseboy Wow,
34:20
well good luck to y'all. Thank you. Thanks
34:22
for I don't even know if we've answered
34:25
anybody's question I don't think we helped
34:28
anyone Ellen that
34:30
is our advice if you can sift through
34:32
whatever it is that we did we actually
34:34
give advice on that Yeah, we talked about
34:36
when to move in. Oh, yeah, we
34:39
just shared our stories and now we're like
34:41
good luck So everyone us got
34:44
speed it was our chance to just
34:46
gush about That
34:48
was the takeaway. Thanks for asking
34:51
and thanks to everyone who shared a
34:53
question with us May and
34:55
fortune before we say good night I
34:58
have one final
35:01
task for us. We're
35:03
going to
35:10
Name that thing
35:13
is a segment where we help
35:15
people figure out what to call
35:18
their stuff Okay. Yeah,
35:20
we've named a lot of things
35:23
on this show from a fuzzy
35:25
tomato to a gang
35:28
of kayakers Only
35:31
catch is that whatever
35:33
name we come up with for
35:35
this thing
35:37
The legally binding Wow
35:39
listener must Use
35:42
it. Okay. Do you it's
35:45
stressing you out
35:46
fortune. You're up fruit. Mm-hmm
35:49
All
35:49
right. So do you think you can help with this
35:52
my girl? Yeah, okay So
35:54
today's request comes
35:57
from a listener named
35:59
Kit. Kit. Hey,
36:02
Tag Fortune and May. Hey, my name is Kit
36:04
and these are my pickleball pals.
36:06
We are a group of queer friends
36:08
that I brought together to play pickleball and
36:11
we are collecting up more local queers
36:13
and I think we should give ourselves a name. My
36:15
father calls pickleball to go pickleball. There
36:18
could be something there. I've also thought
36:20
of the big bills and the Kelly Picklers, but that
36:22
doesn't feel right. Please help. Thanks.
36:24
I like the Kelly Picklers, though. I know. Like
36:27
they were throwing out great puns
36:29
and stuff. Anything we come up with is going
36:31
to be... Are you familiar with Kelly
36:34
Pickler? No. I was
36:36
going to say. Who is that? Kelly
36:39
Pickler is a country singer. I think this started
36:41
in American Idol. But
36:43
you were probably in the UK when
36:46
that was happening. I think
36:47
I missed that. Yeah.
36:50
But I still liked it and I knew it was a pun.
36:51
I could, you know, I could say it. Yeah, you're
36:53
no fool. I'm no fool. I got, you know,
36:55
my pun
36:56
meter was tingling.
36:57
I like to kind of break it down
37:00
and think about the clues that
37:02
we've been given. Queer.
37:03
Queer.
37:05
That's right. Pickleball.
37:07
Pickleball? Dickle pickles.
37:09
Yeah, queer. Did you say
37:11
it, Fortune?
37:12
Dickle pickles. I don't
37:14
know.
37:15
Isn't that what they said? Oh, they did?
37:17
They said the big bill pickles
37:20
or something like that. I
37:22
just heard Kelly Pickler, Picklers. Well,
37:25
you've played pickleball, Tig. I
37:28
have. I played tennis in college.
37:30
I feel like it translates. Oh
37:32
my gosh, Fortune. Did you wear a tennis dress?
37:34
I had to wear a tennis skirt, yes, until
37:38
junior year of tennis. They finally let me
37:40
start wearing shorts. How come?
37:42
Thanks, Billie Jean King. I have pictures.
37:44
I have some good legs. Okay. I
37:47
don't doubt it. You got some good pegs. Oh,
37:49
my gosh. I love it. You got some good
37:51
pegs. My
37:52
legs are my best feature.
37:54
You got like, are
37:56
they real strong? I have like
37:58
crazy strong hair.
37:59
Like
38:00
I'm built just like my dad. We have
38:03
a big belly
38:04
Big chubby cheeks and then
38:06
like the most muscular Defined
38:09
calves you'll ever see. Oh my
38:11
gosh, so you got some handsome legs I
38:14
guess I'm handsome. Hey, how are your legs and
38:16
have you worn a tennis skirt? I have
38:18
not weren't worn a tennis skirt or really
38:21
played tennis My legs are not
38:23
my best feature But I
38:25
said nanny nonverbal autistic
38:27
kids under five and this one
38:29
kid he had never spoken. We hadn't heard his
38:31
voice He was like four and we're doing like
38:33
play therapy trying to get him to learn
38:36
speech And
38:37
one day he puts his hand
38:39
up my skinny jeans and he touches my
38:41
calf And he goes in
38:44
this strange accent. He goes spiky
38:46
chickens spiky chicken Mike
38:49
I hadn't shaved he called my cast
38:52
spiky chickens because I've skinny little pale
38:55
prickly legs Picky
38:58
chickens. Well, that could be the name of the team.
39:00
That's making chicken. I don't mind
39:02
that tickle ball tickle ball
39:06
But that was just a new game. You hit
39:08
the ball and tickle your partner. They Well,
39:11
the spiky chickens is
39:12
a good option Mm-hmm
39:15
the tickle pickers
39:17
The tickle pickers What's
39:22
in your tiny little water bottle I'm
39:36
feeling somewhere between Spicy
39:39
chips, you know we could do we
39:41
could throw this to our
39:44
audience Oh, yeah have
39:46
them will take a poll between The
39:50
what is your what was yours fortune? Diggle pickers
39:54
pickled pickers and Spiky
39:57
chickens.
39:58
Oh, I just opened the comments here
40:00
and someone said the spiky picklers,
40:01
that's a combo. Pretty good.
40:03
A handsome pickles. It's
40:06
dickle, dickle picklers. Dickle,
40:09
dickle pickers. Dickle pickle
40:11
pickers. Dickle pickers. Dickle
40:14
pickle pickle, dickle picklers. What did
40:16
I say? Dickle? Dickle pickle?
40:18
No, what is it? Dickle
40:21
picklers. Dickle pickers? Dickle pickers
40:23
or picklers? I'm
40:27
sure somebody that produces this
40:29
show heard what you said and then
40:31
Mae is spiky
40:34
chicken. Chickens. Dickle pickers was
40:36
mine. Dickle pickers.
40:38
Dickle
40:38
pickers. Okay. Are we able to put queer
40:43
spears in the... we're missing out on
40:45
some queer spears. But again, it's spicy chicken.
40:48
I do like it. Dickle
40:49
pickers. Dickle
40:50
pickers? Dickle
40:53
pickers, I think. Dickle
40:55
pickers. Dickle picklers.
41:01
Okay, okay.
41:03
Let's do this. Let's add queer spears
41:06
in
41:06
and dickle pickler.
41:09
Dickle, dickle, dickle picklers.
41:12
But it was, it was dickle pickers,
41:14
not picklers. Dickle pick... Dickle
41:19
pick... Dickle picklers.
41:21
Okay, this is chaos. Pickle. Okay,
41:23
so we're gonna, we're gonna, we're gonna vote for
41:25
queer spears. Dickle
41:28
pickers. Dickle pickers. Dickle
41:30
pickers.
41:30
No. Dickle picklers.
41:32
No. Dickle pickers. Are you sure?
41:34
I don't know. It was... And... It
41:36
was picklers.
41:38
And spiky chickens. Spiky
41:40
chickens. Someone in the chat wrote
41:43
pickle me Elmo.
41:44
It's pretty good.
41:45
Like, pickle me Elmo. Mm-hmm.
41:48
Thanks for the explanation, Mae. Some
41:53
people are saying dick, dickle pickers. Dickle
41:55
pickers. I don't know. You guys,
41:58
this is a circus now.
41:59
If Diggle Picklers wins,
42:02
they can also choose Diggle
42:05
Queer Spears won. Woah!
42:09
Wow. None
42:11
of us thought of that, right?
42:13
That was none of us. It was someone in
42:15
the
42:15
audience who came up with
42:17
that.
42:18
Alright, it's Queer Spears. Yeah,
42:21
Kit, your Pickleball team
42:23
will now and forever
42:26
be known as the Queer
42:28
Spears. Boom.
42:30
Legally binding. And they're saying a way to go with it.
42:33
It is. Lynn did it.
42:35
Lynn came up with that. Who did it? Lynn.
42:38
Are you saying Lynn or Lynn? Lynn. Lynn.
42:41
Oh, Lynn. God, I feel like I'm dealing with Maggie right now.
42:43
Lynn. L-Y-N-L-N. So,
42:45
Lynn? Lynn? Lynn. Aww.
42:49
L-Y-N-M-A-G-E? Quit
42:52
laughing at me. I'm trying to have a conversation
42:54
with you. Well, it
42:56
is legally binding, Kit. I hope
42:58
that you and your teammates
43:01
enjoy your new name,
43:03
the
43:04
Queer Spears. Oh,
43:06
man. Fortune and May,
43:09
this has been an absolute
43:11
pleasure. Pleasure. Pleasure.
43:15
Pleasure. Pleasure. Pleasure.
43:18
Pleasure. Pleasure. Pleasure.
43:21
Pleasure. Pleasure. Pleasure.
43:24
I wish we had theoteurs. Yeah. I
43:26
think that was a good choice.
43:26
I mean,
43:27
it would have been insane if
43:30
it was the Dickle Pickers or Spiky
43:32
Chicken. I have to say, I would
43:34
personally go with
43:37
Spiky Chicken. Thank you. This
43:40
is why I'm in your marriage. Dickle Pickers. Dickle
43:42
Pickers, I think, was
43:44
what it was.
43:45
Now, I... Fortune, you sound drunk at this
43:47
point. Dickle Pickers. But
43:51
I would prefer, personally,
43:53
I would call my team the
43:56
Spiky Chickens just because
43:58
there's a...
43:59
story there and it makes
44:02
no sense and that's that's
44:04
what I lean towards a
44:06
little more is all the
44:09
poses of the perky jerky that's pretty good
44:11
too oh boy do we
44:13
vote again no
44:15
no voting has closed we're
44:18
not gonna do a recount now
44:20
is there anything
44:22
that either of you would like to
44:25
promote yes I
44:27
am doing improv at the Elysian which is tiny
44:29
a tiny little beautiful theater
44:32
with Stephanie Allen takes wife and Alana
44:35
Johnson on the 16th and 17th Atlanta
44:38
is so funny so Stephanie
44:40
but I mean that goes without saying but yeah anyone
44:42
that doesn't know Alana Alana
44:46
banana funny she's so she's
44:48
one of the most ridiculous humans wandering yes
44:50
plant
44:51
and then I'm at Largo
44:54
on October 12th and 22nd
44:57
yeah
44:57
nice yeah amazing yeah
45:00
well I'm on a stand-up tour it's a whole different
45:02
hour if you saw my last special this
45:05
weekend I'm in San Antonio Texas
45:07
and New Orleans and
45:10
then in a couple weeks I'm in Portland Oregon
45:12
Spokane Washington Boise
45:14
Sioux Falls South Dakota
45:17
never been there before Oakland
45:20
California
45:20
that will be my San Francisco stop
45:22
will be Oakland
45:24
Evansville Indiana Dayton Ohio
45:26
Charleston West Virginia Grand
45:28
Rapids World of the local this place is Kansas
45:30
City yeah my website
45:33
has all that information fortunepeams.com
45:36
and I just added a
45:37
bunch of new dates that are on there as well
45:40
nice man the road goes on
45:42
forever yeah that brings me to
45:45
my tour dates which
45:47
is September 15th Torrington
45:49
Connecticut September 16th Rochester
45:52
New York September 17th Wilmington
45:55
Delaware and then I'm doing a European
45:58
tour in October so go to
46:00
my website, TigNotaro.com
46:02
for all ticket and show information, which
46:04
you can also do for all these other shows. And
46:07
then October 28th, I'll be back
46:09
in the States in La Crosse, Wisconsin.
46:12
And then write this down, November
46:16
4th, there's two shows,
46:18
Brooklyn, New York at King's Theater. I'm
46:20
taping my next standup
46:23
special. So come on
46:25
out. Maybe there will be
46:27
a surprise guest. I
46:30
hope to see everybody out there on the
46:32
road. And I mean everyone. We
46:35
got to promote our big thing. Oh,
46:37
yeah. Which is our podcast. If
46:40
you like listening to this nonsense,
46:42
then our podcast. Then
46:47
buckle up for way more
46:50
nonsense. Way more. Yeah.
46:52
I can't even tell you how much nonsense.
46:57
If you do not like nonsense, do
46:59
not listen. But
47:02
I do suggest you check it
47:04
out. Go to the
47:06
Handsome Podcast, subscribe,
47:09
check out the nonsense.
47:12
It's so fun. It's so fun. So
47:14
ridiculous. Tell your pals. So
47:16
yeah, check out. Go
47:20
right now. Actually, right now. Go
47:22
subscribe to Handsome. That's
47:25
all it is. Handsome. Subscribe,
47:27
listen.
47:28
And come see
47:30
us on tour. Thank you for having
47:32
us though, Taylor. Thank you so much for
47:34
taking the time.
47:35
You're both so ridiculously busy.
47:37
I really appreciate it. And so does everybody
47:40
on
47:40
the show. Thanks to all the producers
47:42
and everyone at APM. Thanks
47:46
to everyone watching for taking the
47:48
time all around the world,
47:50
all around the country. And I can't
47:52
forget you, Dana's
47:55
and Becky's.
47:57
Good night.
48:00
You
48:03
and me, we're so much closer than love.
48:09
Oh, we're
48:12
so much closer than sea.
48:16
I wish that I could give you
48:19
heaven. I wish
48:21
that I could make you believe. I
48:25
wish that I could make you
48:29
believe. That's
48:33
what your heart is
48:36
for. That's what
48:39
your heart is for. That's
48:42
what your heart is
48:44
for. This is the
48:46
only way.
48:48
Don't Ask Tig is hosted by
48:50
me, Tig Notaro. It's produced
48:52
by
48:52
Thomas Ouellette and Shana Deloria. Our
48:55
executive producer and editor is Beth
48:57
Perlman. Engineering and sound mixing
49:00
by Alex Simpson. Digital
49:02
production by James Napoli. Talent
49:05
booking by Maryann Ways. Production
49:07
support from Maria Wurtele
49:09
and Lou Barron. Our theme music
49:12
is Friend and Tig by Edie Burkell
49:14
and Kyle Creschem. And Listen
49:16
to Your Heart by Edie Burkell. Special
49:19
thanks to Hunter Seidman. APM
49:21
Studios executives in charge
49:23
are
49:24
Chandra Cavati, Alex Schaffert,
49:27
and Joanne Griffith. Concept developed
49:29
by Tracy Mumford. Our executive
49:31
consultant is Dean Capello and
49:33
Gobsmack Studios. You can
49:36
always ask for advice at DontAskTig.org.
49:39
Just write in with your problem or send
49:41
us a voice memo. Remember to follow
49:43
us on social media at DontAskTig. DontAskTig
49:47
is a production of American Public
49:49
Media. And as always, thanks
49:51
Dana and
49:51
I'll tell Becky.
50:32
Hey, Danas and Beckys, Tig Notaro
50:34
here. If you're a parent of young kids
50:37
like I am, you know how hard it can be
50:39
to find shows for them to watch that's
50:42
fun for them, but also
50:44
has a secret bit of education
50:47
on the side. So I want to let you know about
50:49
three virtual field trips from
50:51
the fantastic hosts of the APM
50:54
Kids podcast, Brains On,
50:56
Forever Ago, and Smash
50:59
Boom Vest. There will be
51:01
limited showings on YouTube Live
51:03
starting September 21st, where you and your
51:06
kids will get to see Molly Bloom,
51:08
Mark Sanchez, Sandin Totten,
51:11
and Joy Dolo in their first
51:13
ever movie-like productions of three
51:16
hilarious adventures. Plus,
51:18
there will be puzzles, games, and
51:20
a live Q&A after the show. For
51:23
tickets and details, go to brainson.org
51:26
slash field trips. This is one
51:28
kids'
51:28
show you'll want to watch with
51:31
them.
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