Self Efficacy-Can & Can’t
Optimizing self-efficacy.
What the heck is that?
The belief is that an individual can get the desired outcomes.
The concept originated in Stoics.

Components of Self-efficacy 

1. Building on small successes
2. Seeing others succeed
3. Getting encouragement 

The Serenity Prayer: an offshoot of the Stoics 

• Control what you can
• Let go of what you can’t 
• Learning the difference 

Control what you can, your activities, what you do each day, and your career. You can't control the government, the economy, or other people; you can only control yourself, which can be hard enough.

Mindset and what you believe or have been told what to believe are important.

Dr. Decison suggests that even if we can't change something now, it may be good to hope that we can change it later.

Hope; adopt the philosophy of “Not Yet,” a belief that you will get there.

Drawing from past successes, we can garner confidence and belief that we can achieve something new.

Leo saw a handkerchief in the store once containing a quote by Marilyn Monroe. When she was faced with making a decision, it said, “What the hell? “ This was supposedly her attitude when faced with a challenge or something new.
Even when something is out of our control, we still have power. We can still make choices and decisions. We always have the power to decide which way to go.

 When a situation occurs, most people run off the principle of “Stimulus Respond.”

Barry Kaufman of the Option Institute suggests we consider “Simulus--Belief—Respond.” In other words, stop and ask yourself what you believe and think about that before responding.

Use ABC Method
Activity-what happen
Belief-examine the belief
Consequence-the belief controls the consequences
Always sticking with your values
No matter the situation, there's always a choice, a decision, and no one can take that away from you. You may not always like the possibilities or the potential outcomes, but it's still your choice, your decision.

The author of the Dilbert comic strip, Scott Adams, had tons of jobs and said, “I learned something from each job.”
We often can’t control a situation but can control how we react.
When we can no longer change the situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

Tips

1. Start small
2. Get support
3. Remember “Not Yet”
4. Never miss two days in a row if you are starting something new; then you are at least at 50%

 
 When we can no longer change the situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

 Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

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