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What can I help you with? Dr.

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Laura, I have made a complete

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am calling. Oh, stop, stop, stop,

1:00

stop, stop, stop, stop. Start

1:03

all over again and don't exaggerate. Dr.

1:06

Laura, I have made

1:09

big mistakes. I knew

1:11

better. And now my

1:13

daughter is an alcoholic or I

1:15

should say she consumes alcohol throughout the

1:17

day and she has for more than

1:19

a decade. How

1:23

do you think you're responsible for that? Isn't

1:25

that a personal choice on her

1:27

part? How are you responsible? It

1:30

is, but I believe

1:32

that me being a single parent

1:34

of three children, different fathers, really

1:37

played a big part. I did not

1:40

realize the damage I was doing to

1:42

my family thinking I could do it

1:44

all. How

1:48

did you find three guys? I

1:51

went in the military. It was

1:54

pretty easy. I just

1:57

made foolish mistakes. I

1:59

came from a violent, bloody

2:02

childhood and most

2:05

of my sisters became teen mothers.

2:08

I didn't because I

2:10

stayed with academics but just as soon as

2:12

I left the farm it happened

2:15

to me too. So

2:18

let me just curious so when you had intercourse

2:21

you knew that you might get pregnant? Yes.

2:26

And you were okay with that? I

2:29

didn't care. I really

2:32

didn't care. This is 30 40 years ago. That's

2:40

depression. I

2:42

was. I was depressed for over

2:44

30 years living in

2:47

severe pain from a

2:49

military injury and it was

2:51

after I started having surgeries to get out of

2:53

pain, miraculously the depression went

2:55

away with it and

2:58

I have been able to start a new

3:00

life, a new career, I have

3:02

joy but that

3:05

what I've done to my children

3:07

still weighs on me. And

3:10

are all three children alcoholics?

3:14

Just one and I wait

3:17

a minute, wait a minute. Whoa! Why

3:20

aren't they all alcoholics? Good

3:26

question. Why her? No, no,

3:30

no. I didn't say why her. I just said

3:32

why aren't they all alcoholics if you caused this?

3:36

Why aren't they all alcoholics? Maybe

3:40

they were smarter. So

3:43

we have two smart kids and one? Yeah. Academically

3:47

yes but well I

3:51

stayed in the bottle that those

3:53

10-20 years after Desert Storm when

3:55

I was living in so much pain I lived in

3:57

the bottle and that's how my kids would be. Yeah,

4:01

but still two of them didn't

4:04

go on the bottle. Did they go onto drugs?

4:07

No, not at all. The other one was

4:09

to... Then

4:11

what did they do instead? The

4:15

middle one went on. She graduated high school

4:17

at 15, super genius, and she's going on

4:19

to academia, and she's doing wonderful. The

4:22

youngest one. And

4:25

she struggled a little bit because she's more the

4:28

artsy side, and she's out

4:30

doing her thing and she's doing well as

4:33

well. And

4:35

does the drunk daughter get along with her

4:37

siblings? No, there's no

4:39

communication. So

4:43

you've never heard that in perfectly

4:45

good families, I

4:47

can hear three kids with

4:50

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7:09

You listen to the show, right? So you've heard that. I

7:12

do. I've been listening to you for the past two

7:14

months now that I'm in the car commuting.

7:17

Now I grant you. I'm the last one

7:20

to say all

7:22

this crap didn't traumatize them. It's

7:26

just that two out of the three

7:28

are more resilient. So

7:32

they must have also learned

7:34

resilience from you. How

7:37

did they do that? What

7:40

resilience did they see from you? I

7:50

never thought of it that way. As

7:58

A single mom, I ran my household. Like a

8:00

navy ship. Like a submarine. Everything

8:03

was. Just. An

8:05

order own time. I were

8:08

cheating academics. All.

8:12

The time? irritating. Young

8:14

descended on that page of the He

8:16

has understood that all the time you're

8:19

in pain. Yes, and I was. still.

8:21

So are you. Taking. Care

8:23

of Business. That

8:26

is true. That was known

8:28

him that he were ever gets his shoes and

8:30

that's where they learned. How

8:34

to import that on my oldest one? You.

8:36

Can. People.

8:40

Have enough kids. some of them. Turn.

8:43

Out okay for them. Don't. When.

8:53

You've heard about kids living on the street who

8:55

made their way through college. Yes,

8:57

I have. To. Remarkable.

9:01

The. Tenacity of the human spirit, In.

9:04

The it's a little more complicated than you

9:06

were a total f up. You.

9:11

Did not abandon them. Now.

9:15

You raised them. They.

9:19

Had a committed mother. So.

9:21

Can you not exaggerate anymore? It's

9:24

annoying. Yes

9:26

ma'am. My mother told us

9:28

to every generation should be a little

9:30

better than the one before. Well.

9:33

Up needy and average doe or

9:36

yet generation of. Fifty. Million

9:38

people doesn't necessarily work. In.

9:40

A group of three. That

9:43

is true. I.

9:52

Mean, I don't know what my life

9:54

and of I'm doing well. My kids

9:57

are scattered so they're not even nearby,

9:59

but it's that. One. One.

10:06

She. Has her options. She has

10:08

her choices. And.

10:17

Take credit for it all. Sorry. Team.

10:24

Where you can't take credit for the

10:26

genius in. Hardworking, You

10:28

can take real credit for that either. can

10:30

you have you didn't come on you say

10:32

to my kids are perfection on toast and

10:34

that's because I am superlative. Know you called

10:36

and said I'm a total shit this one

10:39

out Israel. Is a drunk. T.

10:48

Do. You get me, woman. Or

10:50

do Dr Laura I do and I

10:52

tell any other woman who started of

10:54

think be promiscuous or whatever. ah if

10:57

more thing Alegria use may excuse me

10:59

I don't need you to left her

11:01

my audience. I just laid on late

11:03

late on you something that you needed

11:05

to understand it I said do you

11:07

get me You said yes and then

11:09

you win in another direction. I

11:12

make yourself miserable again. Yeah,

11:14

I get it. Is

11:16

you're not responsible for the to one

11:19

that turned out great? And how can

11:21

you be responsible for the one who

11:23

didn't explain that to me? I'm

11:26

not. The math works both ways. Were.

11:32

You in a submarines you were in

11:34

the name is marines. Ah,

11:38

As a nice uniforms you have to admit.

11:41

This is the Us. Semper.

11:47

Fi. Simpler Dr.

11:49

Laura think you are welcome.

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