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One Eleven, Mom and Lucas welcome

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to the program! I

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I look I Lucas: how old are

0:48

you. Going. On

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foot And thirteen years ago, You

0:54

would debating there. You. Can

0:56

we fourteen? I'm an integrated can

0:58

go look for oh okay kind

1:01

of. Anxious to be the fourteen? Okay,

1:03

All. right? Yeah. Name, siblings, brothers,

1:06

sisters, I have

1:08

all bother. How

1:10

old is he? Is.

1:12

A Level three full. Pay.

1:16

How. Can I help you today? And.

1:20

I got. I.

1:23

Got suspended from school today because.

1:26

Because I got. Raping

1:29

and the doctor. Who.

1:31

Had all the vapor you equipment. Is.

1:34

It just standard in Malvern. On

1:37

your friends are in the he carries it with him all

1:39

the time. He.

1:42

Heard. The. Recording is rape

1:44

near so. He. Did.

1:48

That a lump sum. Right? Didn't understand what you just

1:50

said. Say it again, please. Can

1:53

you know? Hold onto it for and. You.

1:56

Could want to get caught. So.

2:00

He was okay with you getting caught. On.

2:05

A enough it said to me last

2:07

thing like a car wait me him

2:09

are no you couldn't. Trust himself to

2:11

not get caught. You realize your whole

2:13

face lying. That that's the

2:16

oldest thing. It's not minded, friends. If

2:18

it has taught me to hang on to it so

2:21

you are smoke, You were raping. And.

2:23

They caught years. Village

2:26

And and why were you raping?

2:28

Is it as. Fun! As

2:30

this is something to do with your friends or what.

2:34

We know because it. Helps

2:37

and forget it. What

2:41

is it you wish to forget? A

2:47

few months back in December. Or

2:51

grandfather. Died. To

2:54

raise me as much as my parents. To.

2:57

Is now more. Why? Was

3:00

he is living with you and your parent.

3:03

Here. But he wasn't. There is always arrest.

3:06

Became. Almost every day. Oh.

3:09

Neat. So.

3:11

You want to forget him? And

3:14

on again. But. I don't

3:17

know what are the nation is because.

3:19

Her. Oh

3:23

lord, you think he'd be happy about that? I

3:25

don't want my grandson. To.

3:28

Remember me because it upsets him. Oh.

3:35

You. Think your grandfather would. Like

3:39

that. Really?

3:41

Me: To not be remembered

3:43

because it hurts. Papers.

3:48

To. Tell me, do you think your Grandpa would be

3:50

happy with that idea? Ice

3:55

A know he will not be happy

3:58

with it. I don't know. Well

4:00

then. He. Put out so much

4:02

for you. He. Taught you

4:04

so much. He

4:06

practically ways you as much as your parents, that

4:09

would you said? raid. Yeah.

4:12

So. Did he raise you to be a man?

4:16

When. You're upset. Or

4:18

is supposed to wipe out your brain? Is something

4:20

upset he was? He brought you up to wipe

4:22

out your brain of something upset you? That correct?

4:26

Night off. Or how

4:29

did he in all this time I'm

4:31

sure stuff upset you. So.

4:33

How did your Grandpa tell you? You

4:35

should deal with stuff that's upsetting. What?

4:38

Did he teach? Me: Interested.

4:44

It. Would.

4:54

It would you put it in template A D

4:56

T to Lucas about being upset. He

5:00

drops that what he did. Make

5:02

a rate that even also

5:04

a bachelor. By.

5:07

The middle as good as it. Did.

5:12

He teach you to try to forget it. Make

5:14

believe it's not their pick. Believe it didn't happen.

5:17

He tell you to do that. He.

5:19

Told me to watch your get. Shorty,

5:26

I think about the baby. Now that you think

5:28

about what your Grandpa taught you, At.

5:37

A drink it pure be so to

5:39

sit on the in the all that

5:42

he would be very disappointed. In.

5:44

His feelings would be hurt. That

5:48

you wanna not remember him. Because

5:52

it's upsetting. And

5:55

would be devastating to him. Have

6:01

you ever heard the word bittersweet? Yeah.

6:06

You know what it means. No.

6:10

Good. These moments in

6:12

life or bittersweet. The sweet part is

6:14

you had this fabulous man in your

6:16

life. And he was integral in

6:19

helping you become a man. The

6:22

better part. Is that he

6:24

physically is gone physically. That's.

6:27

The bittersweet. You.

6:29

Wouldn't be sad if you didn't have a wonderful

6:31

man your grandpa in your life. Bittersweet.

6:36

Sets life. And

6:39

for you to cut off. thinking.

6:41

About him. Because. Right now

6:43

it hurts. Is. Not

6:45

how he brought. you have to be a

6:47

man. He. Wants

6:49

you to remember. He

6:53

wants you to. Embrace.

6:55

The hurt. Because

6:58

it's bittersweet part of the love you have for

7:00

him. So.

7:09

I'm not giving you crap about. Raping.

7:11

At all. Not. Giving you crap about

7:13

that in law. Or even telling you what

7:16

I think about it. Doesn't matter, What?

7:18

I am thinking about as the relationship between

7:20

you and your grandpa on how. The

7:24

marine down. So.

7:34

The next time you see a lot of pain

7:36

I'd like you to justice or to sit there

7:38

and think okay what a grandpa are already do

7:40

when he was upset or I was upset what

7:42

are we Go for a bike ride? Did we

7:45

talk about it? We listen to music that we

7:47

read. What? Did we do? Whatever

7:49

I learned from that man, Oh

7:52

my grandfather, those yeah I'm in

7:54

person. I can wait for the

7:57

last year. Good. Then you

7:59

talk to him. The. Matter

8:01

of fact. Mom

8:03

would you do me a bid? saber? Yet.

8:06

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8:08

yes. I That was stupidly. I'm sorry. Ah

8:11

Cash! Oh, we're at the top of the our

8:13

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8:16

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8:18

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I'm coming back with Lucas. Look as thank

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you for waiting. On

10:20

sorry are you somewhere. There.

10:22

You are on. Ah, your mom's

10:24

not with us anymore and I don't

10:27

know. If. You thought about. Why?

10:29

I asked her to let me just chat with

10:31

you and are not to listen in. Of.

10:36

Because. You said something. Really?

10:38

Cute. You. Said you

10:40

were able to talk to your grandfather more

10:42

than. Anybody else. I

10:48

did food. That is true time.

10:50

I've been able to communicate know

10:52

Felix with really want. And

10:57

what makes it difficult to.

11:00

Do. The same feelings with mom or dad?

11:04

That's. Why I didn't want her here when you entered. I'm

11:10

scared to she's a so

11:12

much on her back. And

11:15

one more round Sony Baker

11:17

worried every day. That.

11:21

I shall I says he knew that. Another

11:24

burden on impact. You.

11:27

Talking about your mother Or your grandmother? My

11:30

mother. What?

11:33

Are the burdens your mother has. Cs

11:37

take care of her grandmother because she's

11:39

not able to say care for some.

11:43

Isn't. That. My

11:46

grandfather wasn't just my grandfather

11:48

was her father to. Yes,

11:52

And see how far we the same amount

11:54

of the same. Find that.

11:57

He and him head. And

12:00

I'll say date mean heard their know what

12:02

to do. Hope.

12:07

I can talk to anyone. Months

12:11

the to consumers. Won't

12:13

let me tell you something about mothers since

12:15

you are not one. You have never been

12:17

one and you never will be one. Ah,

12:19

I can help you out here. When.

12:22

Mothers are burdened. And.

12:25

Their children won't come to them for

12:27

help. The. Mothers are

12:30

devastated. It's

12:36

kind of being a mother. Seen

12:41

need to know that you need her.

12:46

And frankly, right now. Need

12:48

you to. But.

12:51

It's real important for mothers and other kids need

12:53

them even when the kids are for eighty two.

12:56

Seriously. Though.

13:01

Since you share someone in common.

13:05

Or Dad, your Grandpa the perfect

13:07

people to. Talk to each other. If

13:10

you both know what you're talking about and

13:12

what it means is you both. Had

13:15

this wonderful person. Is.

13:21

Don't be scared to talk to your mom please. Well

13:24

okay, be scared. but do it anyway. He.

13:29

Needs you to need her. And

13:31

she needs you. To.

13:34

Help her with her missing him to. Something

13:40

you share. It

13:42

is actually. Beautiful.

13:47

Is sad way. I

13:57

understand now why you are they paying you Thought it.

14:00

No other place to go but there is.

14:06

No, I'd like to ask your permission

14:08

for something and if you say no

14:10

is no Okay. It's.

14:13

Okay, Okay, I'd like to

14:16

your mother to come back. And

14:19

I'd like you to line up enough. To.

14:21

Tell her the following: Ah

14:24

I baked. Cause

14:27

I'm in terrible pain about Grandpa because he

14:29

was the person I could talk to is

14:31

openly as everything. I didn't

14:33

want to come to you because I thought you were burdened. And.

14:37

I want to be able to talk to you and I want

14:39

you be able to talk to me about it. That's.

14:41

It. You.

14:44

Are. You willing to do that? You can say no. I

14:48

am willing to do it. Okay,

14:52

Can. You get your mom back. I'm

14:54

here. I. Failed I

14:57

don't alert. I. View

15:00

on the side just doing push push ups or

15:02

something. Use the time Well. I

15:04

was talking to my husband. Let it soak

15:07

it. Up. I

15:09

adore your boy! He got a great

15:11

boy there. Are other library

15:13

look at set Lucas has something

15:16

he. Would. Like to say. If.

15:23

I have a small. I know

15:25

I did it. It's

15:27

I did it to that that there is no other

15:29

place to go. Okay,

15:33

Thank. You for telling me. Now

15:35

What? past? two games? mom? Mom Mom.

15:39

High up he's not finished. Woman:

15:41

biggest. Okay, I

15:47

got a little fishy Romance. That

15:50

oswald was like overflow to. A

15:55

larger shoes are like a lotta lotta A divorce.

16:00

I felt that if I did, It

16:03

would be a burden. And

16:05

yeah, Well.

16:09

As learned thanks to doctor was.

16:12

That. It

16:15

would hurt shoot and more. As

16:18

I didn't open up and are. You.

16:20

Trying. Enough

16:28

there's nothing else. On

16:31

a choice. She's right. Here

16:33

for your mind. I'm

16:36

grieving to. I'm

16:38

grieving and my waist get. Over

16:42

here for you and her family. And

16:45

we're here for each other. Good and bad. You.

16:50

Know that Grandpa spoke about people? He.

16:53

Was Rps. And

16:57

what hurts me more is watching you got their debts.

17:01

And watching you have him. And

17:04

he know talking about it and not even want

17:06

to help you. I can't help it. You

17:08

don't. Talk. About it. And

17:12

love even with all my heart target much

17:14

of his heart. He.

17:16

Had to stay in it. Because.

17:22

We love you. Have to do is

17:24

write. A

17:28

letter you. Think.

17:33

Your doctor or. I

17:36

have a request of human. Yes

17:39

ma'am Which might surprise you if you listen

17:42

to this program at all. You think I've

17:44

lost what's left of my mind. That

17:47

listen to every day. I

17:50

don't want you to bother with. Punishment.

17:53

For the vapor in the bathroom. Thank

17:57

you! That was my thirties. Look.

18:00

I do understand why I'm saying that. I.

18:04

Don't know how to learn. That

18:06

off. Because.

18:09

Punishing. You for something you knew

18:11

was wrong and you did it anyway.

18:14

Is. One thing. But.

18:16

Turning to raping that day because your pain was

18:18

just so extraordinary you didn't know what to do

18:21

with it. And. We missed the point

18:23

in the punishment only. Absolutely.

18:30

But if you do it again, I'll snap your head up.

18:35

And feature. Set

18:37

up behind good? that's.

18:39

Your women telling you that lucas

18:41

us and don't underestimate of and

18:43

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18:46

Hogs. Only around for a. And.

18:48

Increase your model car. Lucas.

18:51

It's a don't feed you regularly you come to

18:53

my house okay. I've

18:55

heard of. It I would be them better than

18:57

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