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Triumph 111. Hailey,

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welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura.

0:46

Thank you for taking my call. You're

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welcome. I also have my husband

0:52

on the line. Hi, Dr. Laura. Hi,

0:55

and what's your first name? My

0:57

name is Austin. Austin.

0:59

I just didn't want to call you husband. Okay.

1:03

What can I help you? How long have you guys

1:05

been married? What

1:09

are we going to do? Three years. Three

1:12

years. Do you have any kids? If so, how many? How old?

1:18

Yes, we have almost three year olds

1:20

and sorry, babe. I'm three

1:22

months old. Oh,

1:25

wow. How come there's no yelling,

1:27

crying? One

1:30

is pushing a basket around the house and the

1:33

other one is sleeping currently. So I got a

1:35

good time. What

1:38

can I help you with? Yeah,

1:40

we are kind of just wondering how

1:42

to go forward with my husband's

1:45

parents. So my in-laws. We've

1:48

always kind of had issues with them. I

1:50

don't want to tell you everything, but the

1:52

most... Yeah, you're going to need to tell

1:54

me everything. I need to know the issues

1:56

that you've always had. Just list the issues.

2:00

Okay. Um,

2:03

I mean, she's

2:06

never liked me. I, when we got engaged, she

2:08

thought, told me I was taking her son away.

2:11

They said that we would never make it. We would end

2:13

up living back in their house. We

2:15

got an apartment and then when we tried to move to

2:17

a different state, they told us that we wouldn't make that.

2:19

There's always been issues and I

2:21

should have been smart enough to see that, but I

2:23

didn't. The latest issue was

2:25

his mother went to my grandma's house

2:28

while we are out of state. She

2:30

talked to my grandma about a parent mental

2:32

issue that I have apparently heard

2:35

from my grandma that I'm bipolar, then

2:37

texted my best friend behind my back,

2:40

asked my best friend if I was bipolar

2:43

and asked her what was going on. That

2:45

was the straw for me. I've already been through

2:48

a lot with his parents and

2:50

my kids are number one. I don't know why she

2:52

wants to find out I'm bipolar. I don't know. I'm

2:54

not. I told her I don't know why she's trying to

2:56

claim that. So for me, I told the

2:59

husband I will no longer be around her. If

3:01

she wants to see my kids, that

3:03

will be in a public setting. No,

3:05

no, no, no, you

3:08

cannot let her around your kids. You will try

3:10

to destroy the relationship you have with them. That

3:12

would be a really foolish thing. That's what I've

3:14

been trying to tell my husband that he wants

3:17

his parents around and that's my issue.

3:20

Okay. Austin, Haley

3:22

say anything that was not correct? Nope.

3:25

That is all absolutely correct. And

3:28

why do you allow your mother to attempt

3:31

to destroy her in your marriage? Why do you permit

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Thanks and happy sleeping. No,

6:29

I know I need to protect her and cut that

6:31

off, but it's just hard with it being my

6:34

family, but I have my new

6:36

family now. Once you get married,

6:39

your mother is not your priority

6:41

anymore. Your woman is and your kids. You

6:45

are correct. So

6:47

you weren't ready for marriage? Is that what

6:49

you're trying to tell me? No,

6:52

I was, but I don't

6:54

know. There's that fine line that's

6:56

still holding them here. No fine

6:59

line. There is absolutely no fine

7:01

line. No fine line. None. Zero.

7:05

You're either a man or you're not. And

7:09

this is one of those moments you prove it. And

7:11

I don't think a man is a woman with a penis. I

7:13

think you're an entirely different creature. And

7:16

primarily you're built physically and

7:18

mentally to protect. Your

7:23

mother is dangerous and destructive. And

7:29

the kids should have no contact with her. And

7:33

the kids should have no contact with her

7:35

because she will try to destroy the relation.

7:37

She's trying to destroy your wife's relationships with

7:40

her family, with her friends. After

7:42

that, you should have stormed into the house and told

7:44

your mom and dad, you guys are screwed.

7:47

No contact. No holidays.

7:49

No nothing. No contact.

7:51

You're trying to destroy my family.

7:54

I won't have it. That's what you

7:56

should have done in my never to be humble opinion.

7:59

And you can still do it. it. No. But

8:01

kids, no contact. I'm

8:04

sorry, I couldn't hear that. I

8:08

agree with you and he did go to do

8:10

that and then his parents continued to say that I

8:12

did have mental issues and this and that and then

8:14

he pretty much cower down and allowed them to say

8:17

that and that's where my issue is. I feel like

8:19

I'm not being protected and he wants his parents to...

8:21

You're not. And they don't... They're

8:24

not. They're not. They don't complain about...

8:26

Stop. They didn't even want

8:28

to... Haley! Stop. Geez.

8:32

I realize you have a lot of attention to get

8:34

rid of but either Austin's going to man

8:36

up or he's not and if he's not going to man

8:38

up, pick up your kids and go home to your mother.

8:42

That was my question because that's where

8:44

I'm at and she's not doing it. I've been over this

8:46

and over this with him and I'm not... Okay. I

8:49

don't want my kids to know that. You

8:55

may not be bipolar but you must

8:57

have a hearing problem. She

9:01

says sarcastically. When

9:03

you hear me pounding, it's time to be quiet.

9:08

Austin is on the phone with you. I just

9:10

told him what the requirement to be a man

9:12

is. He's either going to rise to the occasion

9:14

or you're going home to your mother. And

9:19

Austin, do you have any questions you want to ask? Quiet,

9:22

Haley! Austin,

9:25

do you have any question to ask Haley as to

9:28

what extent she expects you to

9:30

take care of this? You

9:32

have any question to ask her? No,

9:39

I don't think so because I think she's already expressed

9:42

what she needs. And

9:46

I expressed what I believe you're obligated

9:48

to do as a man and as

9:52

a husband and a father. Correct.

9:57

You've got to stop being your

9:59

mama's... Little boy. That's

10:03

over. Your mother

10:05

is willing. Haley, if you don't

10:07

be quiet, I'm going

10:09

to leave. I just want to ask a question.

10:11

Sorry. Okay. All right. Talking

10:14

to Austin now. Do

10:17

you have any question to ask me? Yeah,

10:24

I know we've already done the, you know,

10:26

no contact and that didn't work. I

10:29

guess. Of course. Wait, how can no contact

10:32

work if she's not talking

10:35

to you guys? No.

10:40

What are you talking about? How can no contact not

10:42

work? She can't say

10:44

anything. It's not in your wife if your wife is

10:46

not in the room with her. No,

10:50

I know. And we did no contact with my

10:52

parents and, you know, it just did not.

10:55

They did not accept

10:57

the no contact even after we said,

10:59

here's when we'll reach out and try

11:01

to work from there. And

11:04

throughout that whole time was

11:06

just constant text one

11:08

after the other through that whole time. Okay.

11:10

You know, they didn't need a response to.

11:13

Okay. Stop for a moment.

11:15

Stop. Okay. You

11:18

block them and you have no interaction.

11:21

When you say you're going to cease contact, you

11:23

do it. You

11:25

cease it. You block

11:27

it. You stop it.

11:30

You've got a wife with two little kids.

11:36

Do you want her to be a good mother and do you

11:38

want her to feel sexy about you? Just answer yes or

11:40

no. Yes.

11:43

Well, you're not going to get either if you don't

11:46

take care of this constantly. So

11:48

no contact means no

11:51

contact. Zero. No

11:54

holidays, no birthdays. Zero.

11:57

Until your mother acknowledges

11:59

The Evil. Oh, she's done and does something

12:01

to repair it. Like talk to all

12:04

these people to whom she. Suggested.

12:06

Your life is net. He

12:10

she's trying to destroy your wife. The.

12:12

Mother of your children, And

12:15

a human being. Who. Was innocent.

12:20

So. Unless she's willing to take responsibility for

12:22

everything she's done in make an effort to

12:24

repair it, there's nothing you can do we

12:26

can't say. Will have a dinner and it'll

12:28

be nice. Your

12:33

I may I get that. What?

12:38

I think that's what we needed a year. Okay,

12:41

you take care of your woman. I gotta

12:43

tell you, When. A man seals

12:45

the sense that he is the protector

12:48

of his family. It. Really makes

12:50

him feel. Strong.

12:52

Powerful and wonderful. And

12:54

meaningful and one. When. A

12:56

man realizes he caters to his

12:58

wretched mother. He does not see

13:00

all those wonderful feelings of being

13:02

strong. And. A man and powerful

13:04

And like. So. You have to

13:06

pick which you want to be a strong,

13:09

powerful man in your life where your mommy's

13:11

a little. Cowering. Baby

13:13

boy. You. Have to picket. And.

13:16

This is your turning point. They'll

13:20

do. And

13:23

I bet you can more than rise to this occasion.

13:26

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