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What's up Dyking? It's Caroline here

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again to intro another

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episode of Love's a pitch,

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which is my new podcast. That

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I have over on another

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feed. So you're still seeing to the Dyking out

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feed here. For a bit,

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I'm gonna be just teasing

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these Love's of Pitch episodes, the

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one that is about

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to play a preview of It's

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with somebody who have talked about a bunch

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on the Dyking out podcast in the past

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year. It's one of my favorite Burlese dancers

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in New York City. Ruby Quinn

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and it was so fun

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to sit down and have a conversation with

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her about what

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it's like to date as a

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Burlesk dancer and what's

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the difference between her on

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stage and off stage personas

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and personality. It's a

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really fun discussion and we've had

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some great guests so far. I've recorded

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a bunch more episodes that I have in the

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bag. You know, mix

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of comedians and

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writers and performers, but we're

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soon gonna get to are

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should I call them normies? I don't normal

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people. People who aren't performers

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who have submitted to

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be on the podcast. That's right. You can do

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that too. There is a link in

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the show notes. If you go over well,

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go to the show notes here. And there's

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a link to Love's a pitch.

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Go find that feed, go to the episodes

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there, and then you will find the links

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for

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everything you need to know about the show. You'll

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be able to apply to be a guest where

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you can talk to me about

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you know, what you're looking for, what

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you hope to find, what

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are some issues you've had in the

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past, what's stopping you, from

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finding what you want and that

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really just bragging about yourself, letting

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all the listeners know why

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you're a catch, and I'll help give you

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that extra boost that you need.

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And, you know, Paskets are already telling

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me people are sliding into their DMs.

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I'm just to advance the gay

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agenda here and I need you

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to help me do that. I need you to listen

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to this podcast or tell people who you think

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might like to listen to this podcast. You don't

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have to be single to listen to it.

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You can listen on behalf

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of other people you know, you can listen

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just to learn and be kind

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of a a voyeur as to,

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you know, what's going on in the queer dating

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world right now. I'm getting

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guests of all different sexualities,

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different places on the gender spectrum.

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It's been very interesting. I

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I'm really proud of it, and

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I hope I hope

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please give it a listen. With

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that, now we're gonna get into a preview

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of an episode that I put out

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with ruby Quinn. I think you're

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gonna like it. Check it out. You're

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listening to Love's a pitch featuring

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yet another babe from the queer community

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who's going to tell you why they're a catch

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and then let me grill them about

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all things love and Dyking, and

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hopefully, I don't trigger any

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past trauma. I'm your host, Carolyn

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Berge, I hope you've all

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been enjoying the podcast so far because I'm

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having a lot of fun with these conversations. Please

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tell your friends about it, post about it on

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lax, Go to Love's a

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pitch on Instagram and flirt in the comments.

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Join the Patreon so we can all overthink

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our love lives together. And please

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rate and review it on Apple Podcasts to

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combat any one star reviews from

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homophobes and haters. Before

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we get to our guests today, a

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related thing this past

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Sunday, I went to simple Sundays

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at the historic stonewall

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in in the West village in New York.

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And sinful Sundays is a

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show, an event. It's every other week, and

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it's put on by honey Burlesk, and

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that's relevant because our

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guest today is a honey Burlesk

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dancer. I had so

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much fun. I mean, I've been

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to these before and they always

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are a great time. I always describe

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it to people as like chill,

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queer strip club vibes. It's

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on Sunday. It starts at four everybody's

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hanging out and then the dancers come out

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and everybody is just having

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such a good time and nobody's being

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a creep hopefully. Usually, it's

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a great crowd for that. So I recommend

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if you're in New York, check it out, follow

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Honey Burlesk, and go

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support their events. They hire

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all queer dancers. It's

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so much fun. Alright.

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With that being said, I'm so excited

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for this interview. I can't wait for you to

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meet this guest so let's just get right into it.

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I am here with the fabulous

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Ruby Quinn. Ruby, how are you?

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I'm so good. I'm so good. I'm so

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excited to be on this podcast with

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you. This is exciting. Yes. You

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know, I always thought we would Dyking out together. But

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this is, like, just as

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good. Right?

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Oh, yeah. I mean, I get I get time with

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you so I'm happy. Yeah. Some of our

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listeners who were all listeners of

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Dyking out, you might remember me mentioning

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Ruby as part of Honey

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Barlesque, which is a

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queer Brolesk group

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in New York City and they do stuff in LA

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too and perform at

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a lot of events

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in queer spaces, and queer

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parties, and all that sort of stuff. So

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that's how we met.

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Was I think

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I think on Halloween, you were while you

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were dancing at a hot rabbit event, and then

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the next day I went to Stonewall, And

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then that's where we actually

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met. And I was like, who is

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this person? I

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must know. That was a great day. I remember

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because it was so busy there too and

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it was my I think, was

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that my first time performing at Stonewall?

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think it was, like, one of the first times I'd ever

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form there too. So it's like super exciting

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and I just remember seeing you with your pink

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hair and

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being like, oh my god. Love's out

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there. Like, Yeah.

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Not two years ago. No. Like

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a year and some change. Yeah.

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Yeah. It feels like a lot longer. But

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anyway, Let's just get into it. First,

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before you get into your pitch, how do you identify?

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I am a queer,

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she, they, Brooklyn baby.

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I am polyamorous. I

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am also pansexual. No

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gender is safe from

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me. Yeah. That's who I am.

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When you say Brooklyn baby, is

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that the same as, like, Taylor Swift saying

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she feels like people are sexy babies or Brooklyn

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babies and sexy babies. Same things or different

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things. Well, we hate t swiftie. I'm

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sorry. Okay. I I cannot

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I never been Dyking out of

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the gates being super controversial here.

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Nevermind. Yeah. I know that I'm like, listen.

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I feel like I feel like a lot of the girlies

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are like,

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no. She's gay. Like, we're wait we're

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waiting for her to come out. And I don't trust

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her. I just have never trusted her. I'm like,

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snake. Sorry. Fair.

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Alright. Well, Swifty's listening

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before before you stop this episode.

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Let's at least let Ruby -- Oh.

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-- pitch yourself. Right.

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Go for

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it. Why are you a catch? Okay.

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I am a catch. I know I'm a

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a lot to catch though. Like,

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you know, you like, you reel in the fish and you're like,

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this is gonna be great and then you get the fish on the boat

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and you're like, what did I

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just do? But I'm a good catch

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because, listen, I believe in

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Adventures. I'm like such a hopeless

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romantic at heart, but it takes me long

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time to, like, let someone in because I'm just

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like, because people are people. I don't

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trust them. I feel like

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I'm pretty open minded And

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I really try, like, you know, being Polly, like,

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you have to be communicative

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and you have to be open with you

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know, all of your partners else, it's just not

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gonna work and it's gonna harbor dishonesty.

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So I think I'm I'm pretty honest and I'm upfront

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with what I want. I'm a beloved dancer.

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I don't know. Like, that's sexy to watch your

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partner, you know, do some I feel

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like I'm not selling myself. I feel people are,

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like, in their head, they're, like, Yeah.

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And I really like the outdoors. I'm a

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country. I'm a country babe. You know?

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I wanna I wanna serenade

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you under the stars. I wanna do

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stupid cheesy stuff together. I

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don't know. Hopes for lantern. So

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as a Burlesque

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dancer, do you feel like

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that's a place where you

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end up meeting a lot of people

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that you end up dating or is that a place

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you want to avoid meeting people

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that you end up

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dating? I feel like when I started, I

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was like, yes, I'm so excited to meet

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people here. Like, this is the best way to meet

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people in my sexy element.

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But then I realized I was like, oh, no.

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Like, that's not a good idea because

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yeah. People are attracted

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to, like, your persona who,

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like, you know, is part of

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you, but isn't you all the time. Right.

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I realized just very quickly, I was like,

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oh, no. This is not. So I

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don't really like like if someone tries to

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ask me out while I'm dancing, I'm just like,

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Oh, boy. III

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can't. can't do it. I'm sorry. I just can't.

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So I do prefer I don't do the

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apps anymore, like, I

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really try to meet people in person just because,

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like, I don't trust apps.

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Like, I wanna make sure I meet you in

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a place that, like, I know that we already

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are both attracted to because

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we have similar similar wants interests.

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So I need some like, if I meet someone

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after the show, you know, when I'm staying

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around, we're talking, that's great. You

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know? But, yeah, definitely

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not Dyking to, like, have someone whisper

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in my

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ear, like, while I'm dancing, like, I'm gonna take

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you out dinner. I'm like, don't do that.

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Yeah. Just give me money now. Slide

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their number and tier. Yeah.

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Yeah. Or, like, the slide in oh my gosh.

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I literally someone that

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oh, god. They slid into my DMs,

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and they're like, I'm usually not

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attracted to performers. But

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I really just am so into you and I'm

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like, what the hell? Like, is that supposed

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make me feel good? And I see

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them at events all the time now and I'm just

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like, mhmm. When I was seeing this

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this one girl, she was, like, in her

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friend group. And I was just, like, I'm

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never gonna tell anyone

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You said to me, but I know. I know

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what you said to me anyways.

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That just reminds me of sometimes but,

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like, normally, I don't

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like female comedians, but you

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were really funny. I'm like, oh my god.

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You're like, wow. That literally you

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just outed yourself as a sexist.

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Yeah. As a misogynist. But

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I feel like that performer it It's

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like, oh, your type, usually

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not for me. Like -- Okay. --

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I love.

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Great. Yeah. You don't like talent?

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I do get it because, like,

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it is challenging. I feel like to date

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someone who takes her clothes

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off for a living, you know, Yeah.

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Yeah. It could be challenging because some people get

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really jealous. And it's

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like, it's my work. That's not

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me. And I just gel the jealousy,

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like, the number one thing I just

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cannot stand as

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jealousy. Like, I just I can't do

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it. I can't do it. And if

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yeah. That could never work. Do you feel

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like you encounter a

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lot of people who say they're not jealous

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or they try

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to, like, convince themselves that they're not jealous,

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but then, like, have constantly jealous

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behavior. Yes. Or, like,

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even they're, like, oh, it's totally fine,

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but then they see, like, they see like

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you dance on someone and then they're like,

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what about that? Or like, you know, sometimes sometimes,

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you know, if you're I work at like a sex

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club And, like, this one, it's my

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friends. So, like, I kissed her in the performance.

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Like, I also do a bunch of performances where, like,

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at the box, I'm in a number with all my

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friends and we're like making out on stage. And

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someone who I was seeing was like, well, I saw this

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video. You were making out with them. I was like,

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well, yeah. This don't

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know. It's my job. Like Yeah. Friend.

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I don't know. You don't you don't kiss your friends?

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Maybe

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don't. But I think

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I think friends should kiss each other more.

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I can get behind that. Yeah.

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A friendly kiss. Everyone loves that.

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As long as it's all consensual and not weird,