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1:09

And we're back

1:10

With another episode of He said, she

1:12

said

1:12

We're back to the race track. How awesome

1:14

was that? Explain

1:16

it, Chris. What were we at?

1:17

Basically, so there's tracks

1:19

all place, but here in Scottsdale

1:21

area, racing is a big thing. And

1:24

there's Bradford Racing School where they'll

1:26

teach you, you know, their everyday

1:28

person like how to handle cars. And

1:30

if you wanna go to race school, learn how to actually,

1:32

you know, get the the acumen

1:34

of being a race car driver, you can do that too.

1:37

and they've got a few activities that we've

1:39

done as a mastermind. And there was so much

1:41

fun that we go back now. Like, just

1:43

Laurie and I and our friends, and we

1:45

do those those trainings, those activities, because

1:47

you don't get a chance to, like, throw

1:49

cars all around and, you know, go as fast as you

1:51

can around tracking that kind of thing in in the everyday

1:53

wild. Right?

1:54

Oh my goodness. It was so much fun. Okay. So there's

1:57

racing so you can go around the track in your individual

1:59

car where you're

1:59

driving. So I got to drive. Chris got to drive. All of

2:02

our friends got to drive their own car. but

2:04

then there's also rallies, which is my favorite

2:06

because you have to work as a team and

2:09

Like a relay race. What a relay race?

2:11

and there was five or six of us on

2:13

each team and you had to go through these

2:15

cones and, like, go as fast as you possibly

2:17

can and it took some skill because otherwise you

2:19

knock the cones over and then you get time

2:21

taken off. Yeah. It's a slalom relay. Right?

2:23

Anyhow, the whole thing is we're probably boring

2:25

you guys right now, but it is so fun because

2:28

you're given these eight hundred horsepower which

2:30

is insane.

2:31

And you get to just tear ass

2:34

as

2:34

fast as you want. You get to beat the

2:36

daylights out of them. And, like, the

2:38

harder you are in the car, the more proud the instructors

2:41

of you is the best thing ever.

2:41

Yeah. And I think that this ties in actually,

2:44

with the podcast today.

2:46

And it is Where are

2:48

you wasting the opportunities?

2:51

And thinking about I just wanna jump into

2:53

it with the perspective of what we just

2:55

did. you know, going around the racetrack,

2:57

it is really uncomfortable when you are

2:59

pushed going fast in something

3:01

that you're not sure of yet.

3:03

So when you get in the vehicle, your first

3:05

time around the track, they really push you

3:07

to go faster, but you're unsure of the vehicle and

3:09

you're unsure of your skill. You don't know how

3:11

fast to go. You don't know, you know, if

3:13

you can trust yourself yet, if you can trust the

3:15

car. And so there a

3:17

lot of missed opportunities by

3:20

not pushing yourself meaning that

3:22

when I was really uncomfortable, I was

3:24

like, oh, this is interesting. you

3:26

know, the more and more I went around the track, the

3:28

more I was

3:29

like, I'm not getting a ton

3:31

more comfortable. It's like you but

3:33

I was observing that I liked to be

3:35

safe. I wanted to play it safe.

3:37

I wanted to go slow. And I was

3:39

like, this is interesting. I'm skipping

3:41

the opportunity

3:41

to not only get better

3:44

at this,

3:44

but to find my own

3:46

edges. Like, I know I'm not gonna flip the

3:48

car. They already

3:49

told me I'm not. I know that I'm really safe.

3:51

They're not gonna let me do something unsafe.

3:54

and there's a lead person in front of me who

3:56

works with the track. I was like, wow,

3:58

I don't want to waste and

4:00

miss this opportunity because I know last

4:02

time we did it, I went home and I was like,

4:04

man, I didn't play full out. I feel disappointed

4:06

in myself. And this made

4:08

me really think about all of the different opportunities

4:11

that we miss every day. I have another example, but Chris,

4:13

I just wanna know.

4:13

I wanna ask you. Like -- Yeah. -- do you feel like you

4:16

played all out this time, or did you leave anything on the

4:18

track pun intended? No.

4:19

I feel like I played all out. I feel like

4:21

I was caught up with everyone. I feel like

4:23

they were maybe holding back for me this

4:25

time.

4:25

Interesting. What do you mean? The instructors. I

4:27

think the instructor was like, oh, I don't I

4:30

literally think they most all women

4:32

there were saying they wanted to go slower.

4:34

And so I'm sure that I got lumped in

4:36

there, and I'm sure I, like, said it too,

4:38

maybe. I don't I don't remember. It's

4:40

interesting. So my example of this, like,

4:42

pushing my edges we've been big on fitness classes

4:44

lately. Yep. And we've been going to Orange Theory.

4:46

And and we just got Orange Theory while I look back

4:48

at Pictures. That's when I was most fit. Like, I

4:50

loved I looked when we were going

4:52

to Earn during the other time. And,

4:54

obviously, my goal is to get back to to

4:56

that look, that level of fitness. So I was

4:58

saying, let's go back to doing things that we weren't. And

5:00

for me, Orange Theory, adding that in a

5:02

few times a week gives me a chance

5:04

to really push my edge

5:07

because of the sprints, because of the

5:09

rolling, because of everything. I mean, I

5:11

am bent over ready

5:13

to puke like sweat

5:15

pouring and I just don't do that

5:17

on my own and I just don't do that Ironically,

5:20

I with a personal trainer, I go somewhere

5:22

in the middle. You know, if my own is

5:24

like a five and if orange

5:26

theory because of the atmosphere of the room and they're

5:28

tracking your calories burned and your

5:30

spot points and all this other stuff, if that's

5:32

a ten, then with a trainer, I might have

5:34

like an eight. You know what I mean? Mhmm. So it gives

5:36

me a chance to push my edge, like, Earn

5:38

I do max speed on the treadmill? Can

5:41

I do these rowing reps faster?

5:43

and I know this guy sounds dumb. But

5:45

when you go there with the mentality,

5:47

of I'm gonna beat my score last

5:50

time and I'm a big numbers guy. Right?

5:52

So I'm always trying to beat the

5:54

eight hundred calories that I burnt last time.

5:56

I'm trying to beat the flat

5:58

points that I got last time. I compete with

6:00

myself more than I compete

6:02

with anything else. And it

6:04

is that drive to beat what I did

6:06

last time that you know, makes me leave it

6:08

all on the table there where I'm

6:10

about to follow her dead.

6:19

I

6:19

know I'm preaching to the choir when I say this, like

6:21

I literally do not have to tell you this,

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So I was thinking about

8:25

this while I was there because

8:27

we

8:28

have one hour that we're working out

8:30

in

8:31

the day. Right? Like majority of the people

8:33

in that class that is the

8:35

only hour that we're probably gonna do

8:37

a workout or move our bodies.

8:39

Let's just think that that is what

8:40

everybody's doing.

8:42

And I would observe, so what happens

8:44

is you run at a base pace, then you do a push

8:46

pace, then you can do an all out. And

8:48

whether this is on the floor or a rower or

8:50

whether this was on the treadmill, I

8:52

would observe that a lot of people in

8:54

there, I would say seventy percent of the

8:56

people in there really, really

8:59

hold back -- Mhmm. -- on the pushes and

9:01

all outs. And I know

9:03

that they hold back because they'll do

9:05

a hard push and one all out,

9:07

and they'll do one of them, but they won't do all

9:09

of them. Right? So I know they're capable of it. And

9:11

I thought, where in life?

9:14

Are we missing the

9:16

opportunity to get better

9:19

because we're holding back. We're

9:21

like, I don't feel like today. I don't

9:23

You know what? I'm just gonna wait. I'm

9:25

just gonna do one. And not only did

9:27

I think of this, it made me actually not even think

9:29

physically about it, it made me think

9:31

about the holidays coming up. and

9:34

being with family and when we get

9:36

triggered through different things or when

9:38

we're really busy and people are asking

9:40

us if we wanna go to all these different

9:42

things that we don't wanna do, we're

9:44

missing the opportunity

9:45

to become the person that we want by

9:48

having the tough conversations. or by

9:50

observing that, yeah, maybe you

9:52

didn't love how that person reacted, but can

9:54

you let it go? Can you release it?

9:56

Or We're missing the opportunity to

9:58

get really good at saying no to the things we

9:59

don't wanna do in a loving way. And being

10:02

at peace with it, every

10:04

day, there is an upper tunity

10:06

to get better at something except

10:08

we're missing it because it's coming

10:10

in the form of discomfort, uncomfortable

10:13

conversations, or

10:15

things that we're saying yes to

10:17

when we really wanna be saying no to different things.

10:19

That's interesting. So one of the things I've

10:21

noticed since we've gone back and really

10:23

started working out extra

10:25

extra hard. Right? The the orange is there anything and all

10:27

that stuff. Everything else seems easier.

10:29

Now my other workouts, I've picked up the pace of

10:31

those things. I pushed myself more of those. because they

10:33

seem so much easier now. Doesn't

10:35

matter where you're pushing your edge. Doesn't matter

10:37

where you're taking advantage of, not missing that opportunity

10:39

to push your edge. it makes everything else

10:41

you do, then feel Easier. And I

10:43

watch people struggle through life thinking things

10:45

are hard that really aren't hard. And I'm

10:47

sorry, but too many people go

10:49

through life thinking that what they think is a

10:51

challenge is actually not a challenge at all. It's just

10:53

that they haven't pushed any edges. They

10:55

haven't really explored the opportunity

10:57

to to expand themselves, and so

10:59

the average feels tough

11:02

instead of the tough feeling average. This

11:04

is interesting. I was recently

11:07

traveling and running on a treadmill.

11:09

And it was early in the morning before a session

11:11

that I needed to be at. And I

11:13

was like saying in my head, I myself

11:16

saying this mantra, this is so

11:18

hard. And you guys, I was probably running at, like,

11:20

five point six. And for

11:22

some of you that's fast, for some of you

11:24

that's really, really slow. And I'm

11:26

tall, like, I could probably run

11:28

faster. And I was literally saying, like, this is

11:30

so hard. And I said to myself,

11:32

if you wanna make this easier,

11:34

do something harder. Yeah. So

11:36

I cranked it up to give myself some

11:38

perspective. And I said, okay. So for two minutes, I'm gonna

11:40

run at seven. and guess how much

11:42

easier 5II was looking

11:44

forward -- Well, like, a walk in a parking lot. -- I was

11:46

looking forward to five point six. And I was,

11:48

like, interesting. and I did it that fast.

11:50

And I was like, okay, we're gonna run at

11:52

seven again for a minute in three

11:54

minutes. And it was so crazy that

11:56

I went from The five point six

11:58

being the hardest thing that

11:59

morning to I can't wait to

12:02

get back to five point six and

12:03

it feels like a walk in the park

12:05

compared to making myself run seven.

12:07

Well, I think the best message then

12:09

out of this is if you think whatever is

12:12

hard right now, your finances are hard, your

12:14

career is hard, your business is hard, your relationship

12:16

is hard, whatever. I think you need to go out and

12:18

find a place to explore some some

12:20

much chopper edges. Challenges. Because then

12:22

the stuff you think is hard now,

12:24

is actually gonna feel a lot easier because

12:26

your perspective changes and your baseline

12:29

changes. I'm so much happier

12:31

right now, Chris. Like, looking back at

12:33

when I had really kind of, like, backed down

12:35

on a lot of things.held back. Right? Because

12:37

I'm if I'm being honest, I think

12:40

business has been so much

12:42

mental power for me lately that

12:44

what ended up happening is I was like, well,

12:46

I'm gonna go easier in these other

12:48

physical areas in my life and some other

12:50

areas where I'm just kinda like, I

12:52

took my foot off the gas and don't

12:54

get me wrong. We can't have our foot on the gas

12:56

on

12:56

everything. But for me,

12:58

I also need to be challenged

13:00

somewhere else besides just business.

13:02

And the more that I have challenged

13:05

myself physically during this I've noticed

13:07

I

13:07

have become so much

13:10

more mentally capable.

13:12

Oh my god. Like, if I can

13:14

just be present for my workout and be like,

13:16

this is helping me so much. How can I

13:18

actually enjoy this

13:20

process and challenge myself? and try

13:22

not to hold back too much and, like, try

13:24

to push myself a little more. The more

13:26

I notice, I'm showing up way more

13:29

powerfully even in my meetings. Like,

13:31

I just feel better about myself.

13:33

I'm proud of myself.

13:34

Oh, guys. Take this prompt. Take this

13:36

opportunity to go explore your

13:38

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13:40

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13:42

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13:44

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13:46

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13:48

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13:50

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