🎙👄 Today’s podcast is a conversation I think everyone should be having. I’d like to note that while it may seem relevant to recent events- this podcast was recorded weeks ago before the death of George Floyd.  

If you believe, “My parents’ life is and always has been perfect, and I want the exact same life for my children and myself,” this podcast is probably not for you. You have some growing to do first. 

Many of us are asking ourselves: How can things get better? How can I be better?

And I’d like to propose a peaceful, yet painful option: looking inward at the flaws and dysfunctional in your beliefs and behavioral patterns. Yikes. Did I just call you flawed? Rude, but yes. Friendly reminder: you’re not perfect. You have work to do. You really could be BETTER. 

One exercise that I think all communities- especially the #BlackCommunity- could benefit from is identifying generational cycles and then strategizing how to break dysfunctional behaviors and mindsets. (*Now, when I say “especially the Black community could benefit,” I am not saying only the Black community should participate; This is a joint effort, fam). 

DO THE WORK now to make for a better world tomorrow. You have to seek, recognize, and admit to your past in order to make a better future… This transcends racism btw. This means addressing your FAMILY’S history of codependency, abuse, violence, poverty, obesity, incarceration, sexual abuse, premature death, eating disorders, alcohol abuse, Rx drug abuse, marijuana abuse, a dissatisfactory sex/love life, divorce, infidelity, pornography addiction, mental health concerns, attachment issues, and yes, racism. Whew. 

Thank you so much @itstheracq for being open and vulnerable and sharing intimate details of topics that aren’t easy to address. I still have a lot of work to do myself #serioustrustissues  

🙏🏾 Prayers that we all continue to identify and BREAK these chains 🔗

PS- I’ve said it before, I will say it again: all y’all need to go to therapy. 

You can find Racquel on IG: @itstheracq 

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