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Hey, girls. Welcome to the Empower her podcast

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where we are all about taking

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purpose driven action for building

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lives, we really freaking love.

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Hey. My name is Keisha, and I'm an entrepreneur

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obsessed with giving you actual

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tools to help take you from where you

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are now to where you wanna go

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in your life, career, and relationships.

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And this podcast is all about

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real top and having some fun as

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we share incredible story tips and

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tricks to help us get out of our own

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way and apologetically make

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some moves. So, girlfriend, let's

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do the damn thing. Girl,

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I am so

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excited here for today's episode

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because we're gonna talk about

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something that think is really gonna

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resonate. It's this idea

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that when fear or

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anger or stress or

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even loneliness that

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kinda comes up when you feel like you're misunderstood.

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Like, when that comes up for you,

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what do you actually do? And

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I wanna talk about how leaning into

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the hard rather than numbing

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it or avoiding it or

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bolting from it can actually really

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serve you. So I'm excited

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about this topic. But first, I gotta give you a little

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life update. because I'm actually recording

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this episode on our last day

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of our two week trip that my husband's seen

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and I took in Thailand. I'm coming

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at you from the Bangkok. hotel.

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And I just want you to know because I

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do think it was like we're girlfriends and you know we've

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been doing this podcast for four years. Maybe you've been

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listening in for hundreds of episodes or

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you're brand new here, but I'm now a

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tad girl. Like, I

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got my first tattoo. my husband

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and I got matching tattoos. It's got a

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really cool meaning behind it. It was both of us,

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you know, our first time ever getting a tattoo and

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we're like, let's do it on our last day of this trip.

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So head over to Instagram because obviously

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I can't, like, show you the tattoo here through the podcast.

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So head over to Instagram, check out the pictures that

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I just posted. but I'm just

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really really excited. And I mean, I

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highly recommend if you happen to be going

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on a honeymoon soon, like just do

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a marriage chat. Like, it's a cool thing. I feel like

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we should start a trend. Anyway, on that.

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Besides the point, I wanna be

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super real with you on this podcast and

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I do think of us like we're girlfriends chatting.

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So I wanna tell you that prior to

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this trip, Tina and

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I were crushing things

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work wise, but we were feeling

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like a little bit more disconnected than

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usual. So just for context, I

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had my first big live event and power

2:37

her live. I know hundreds of you were there

2:39

which was absolutely incredible. I

2:41

am getting asked to speak at a lot more events,

2:44

which is a really big focus for me for the remainder

2:46

of this year and going into twenty twenty three. Like, I

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just really wanna connect in person

2:50

with women. And Jackie and

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I, my best friend, if you don't know who works

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with me. We have been talking

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a ton about how to really focus on

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in person pop ups as well,

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like mini pop ups for

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twenty twenty three, and we're just getting a ton

3:05

of clarity around direction of the podcast

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that focus we already, you

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know, have dates for Empower her life twenty

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twenty three, which will be in Denver, Colorado.

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mark your calendars proactively right now. It's

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September twenty second through the twenty fourth.

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Tickets are not even on sale yet, but like market on

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your calendars, you know it's coming. because if

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you thought this year was next year is

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gonna be even better. I'm so excited. But

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beside the point, you know, things were going great,

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career wise for me, And then, Siena

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is now spearheading all of our real estate

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stuff. We just launched our first Airbnb

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called Peach House, we started to get some

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incredible bookings for it. And if you haven't heard

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about this property, Peethouse, we actually made an

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Instagram account. You can go to peechhouse

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dot Denver. You can see pictures of

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the house. But basically, we designed it

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for girls, trips, bachelor of rent parties.

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Actually, a booking that we just got yesterday

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is for people that are getting ready for

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a wedding, which is so exciting because I love

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the whole experiential part of Airbnb.

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Anyway, you can go check out the Instagram about that.

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And then our quadplex that we have,

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we are flipping from long term

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rentals into mid term

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rentals for traveling nurses, which is

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our Quadplex in Denver. So anyway,

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needless to say, career stuff is going super

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well. But before

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we left for this trip, it felt

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like there was a little bit of disconnect. and

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this is gonna sound weird, but I know some

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of you will really get this on a

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personal level. Both, Tina

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and I come from divorced families. So

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we didn't have marriages modeled

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to us, like, you know, from our parents. And

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sometimes when you're the one that's going first

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creating a marriage that you wish

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existed and you don't really have a

4:41

rulebook, you're just kind of trying to figure out

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your own math, it's super exciting because

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you get to create whatever you want and you don't have

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any examples that you're like, oh, I'm

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gonna do it differently than that because you didn't

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grow up with what you want. but sometimes it's

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also like you're literally charting a path

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in real time if you're doing something really

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different from what you were modeled and it can feel overwhelming.

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You know what I mean? Well,

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that being said, you know, we're moving

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into this season and we've been

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having a lot of conversations around how

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after this trip to Thailand, I

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really wanna focus on my health and

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starting to prepare my body for

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us starting the whole, like,

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fertility journey. guess

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that's what I'd say. I don't even know the words yet.

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I need to file these

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books because you know, like preparing my body so

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we can start thinking about trying to make a

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baby in the spring, which is very

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exciting But, you know,

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as we're in that season of life,

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I really just wanted us

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to feel super solid in our

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marriage. which I will tell you,

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if you right now are in a season with your significant

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other or, you know, whatever you're

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married, and you haven't gone on a trip

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just so low. Like, maybe you don't have the

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luxury of taking two weeks off like we did and

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going to Thailand, although I highly recommend that

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and hug in some elephants. It's just so good for

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your soul. But, like, if you haven't done that with

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your significant other, like, making it a priority

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and just getting to have that alone time

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to slow down has been so

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incredible for us. and I

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just wanna, like, give you that little nudge if you're looking for

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it. But needless to say, we've

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been talking a lot about being

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in this season. and we've been

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married for seven months, but we've

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been together for fourteen years. And

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the last year and a half has actually

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been a really tough one in our relationship.

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a little bit more difficult than the other

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fourteen. And if you've been around

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for a while, you know, we've made lots of transitions

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in our life. and we've navigated

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a lot of change, but

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the last year and a half was a lot

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of change. Some of it really good

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change like epic

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growth business wise, seen the leading

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dentistry to start real estate us moving

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from Austin where we lived before to Denver,

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me and so many incredible friends right away

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after we got married. And then

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some hard stuff, like, seen a lost his

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dad and some other stuff going on with his family

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that I'm not gonna get into. But Needless

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to say, I'm sure you can connect with the fact that when

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there's a lot of change, even

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if a lot of it is really good, it still

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kinda rocks your equilibrium. like you

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don't really feel that stable and

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you've got to find that stability in a new

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way with different circumstances. So

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All that backstory leads me to

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what I wanted to talk to you about today, which

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is leaning into the hard

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rather than resisting it and

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how leaning into the heart can

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create growth and depth of connection

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to yourself. And in my case,

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you know, in my marriage, so

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much more than those seasons where everything

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feels like you're crushing it. Like when it

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feels hard, you just learn

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more. You know what I mean? Like, even

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seasons in your career, I'm sure you're gonna test this where,

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like, when you're just, like, crushing it, you're, like, oh,

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yeah, moving up the ladder or, like, whatever,

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you know, maybe you're a teacher and you're, like, I feel like

7:44

I've got my groove like you're excited

7:46

about it, but you don't learn as

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much as when it just feels like

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there's some resistance. So

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my question for you today is

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when fear or anger

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or stress or lonely

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that comes up from feeling like you're misunderstood.

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When that comes up for you, what

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do you do? Because

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for me, I used to

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like to bolt reframe,

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which can be really good, but can also be really bad if

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you don't let yourself experience any negative emotions.

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or I could get irrationally emotional.

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And, you know, my coping mechanism, all

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of those coping mechanisms really combine together

8:22

into this real dangerous artifact. that

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came from early childhood. And,

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you know, this desire to wanna

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leave a situation that I can't control by

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leaving it mentally, reframing it,

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or getting really, you know, irrationally emotional.

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So it's almost like I'm a different person or

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physically leaving, like, bolting out of the

8:40

situation. Or, you know,

8:42

doing those things I guess was really just

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so that I felt like I could protect

8:46

myself, especially after I

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was around someone in my family who struggled

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with addiction in. It just felt

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like that was what I needed to do when

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things felt unstable. I needed to

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leave so I could help myself feel safe. And

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while I don't do that as often now,

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I do sometimes notice

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that these childhood coping mechanisms

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have carried into my adult life, and I've gotta

9:08

be really careful that I don't keep repeating those

9:10

patterns because now I'm a thirty three year old

9:12

grown ass woman who wants to be a

9:14

mom's dude. So, like, I really want

9:16

to make sure that I'm showing up in the world in a

9:18

way that I'm really proud of myself for. So

9:20

I do a lot of work on myself and I'm not,

9:22

you know, like, know if you've listened to this podcast for a

9:24

long time, like, this is a come with me. Let's figure this

9:26

out together type of podcast. Like, I don't try and

9:28

have all the answers or tell you that I, like,

9:31

never freak out on my husband or I never,

9:33

like, say the wrong thing. Of course, I do. I'm

9:35

a human, not a robot. Right? I

9:37

guess I just wanna be the person that reminds you

9:39

in case you need the reminder, that you

9:41

might have coping mechanisms that

9:43

you're not really proud of that might

9:45

have actually once worked for

9:47

you or maybe they were what you

9:49

needed to do to survive or

9:51

protect yourself, but those coping

9:53

mechanisms probably aren't working for

9:55

you anymore. And if you start

9:57

to notice the patterns, that might be

9:59

continuing on in your life and how this

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affects you in different aspects of your life,

10:03

whether it is in your career

10:03

or your marriage or your health

10:06

schools or your friendships,

10:06

like, or your female friendships, like your

10:08

mental health, once you notice that

10:10

it's a pattern, then you

10:12

can actually change it. And

10:15

I really think it can serve you

10:17

if you're learning about yourself

10:19

and you also are doing

10:21

life with another person. whether you're

10:23

in a relationship, a long term relationship,

10:25

or, you know, you're married. Right? Like,

10:27

figuring this out about yourself and helping your

10:29

significant other figure this out about themselves. Like, that's

10:31

gonna make you so much closer. It's

10:33

not gonna feel comfortable. I'll tell you

10:35

that firsthand, but it's

10:37

really, really important. you

10:39

wanna feel that depth of connection that I know you're

10:42

craving, you know?

10:44

Here's the

10:46

thing. I know that you care about

10:48

your health. and you want energy.

10:50

And right now is probably a season of life where

10:52

you're running around like a crazy person. You got a lot

10:54

of things on your to do list. You're trying to balance

10:56

it all. Maybe you are juggling a business

10:58

or you're raising tiny humans or you're traveling to

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11:03

one thing that I think can make it easier

11:05

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green juice kind of girl because they all taste

11:50

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11:52

I care about my health and convenience and supporting my

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cortisol. Just kind of reset you in the morning.

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That's what I'm actually gonna start doing when we get back

12:17

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And I

13:53

also do wanna remind you friend

13:55

to friend that if life

13:57

feels shitty right now or

13:59

just

13:59

really hard for you, that doesn't

14:01

mean you're alone. a lot of

14:04

people are feeling the way that you're feeling. It just means that

14:06

you're human. That's part of the human experience,

14:08

but it won't feel like this for

14:10

forever. And truly my

14:12

intention with this episode is not to try and fix this

14:14

season for you, and try and

14:16

make you instantly feel happier.

14:18

because while some things like death

14:20

or, you know, an infertility

14:22

journey or just things that are just

14:24

so heavy and hard, they just freaking

14:26

suck. Like, I can't do anything to help

14:28

you change that. But I do

14:30

believe that sometimes, there are

14:32

hard seasons in your friendships or

14:35

your marriage or your career or

14:37

in your mental health, your physical health,

14:39

those seasons can teach you

14:41

something and result in awareness

14:43

and growth that other seasons

14:45

that aren't hard cannot

14:48

provide. And

14:50

well, I know for me this

14:52

default tendency that if I'm scared

14:54

or I don't feel stable, or if

14:56

my body doesn't perceive like

14:58

safety, I want to

15:00

bolt or get a rational

15:02

or reframe it. But

15:04

when I don't, like when those

15:06

feelings pop up and I choose to instead get

15:08

curious and lean into

15:10

the hard, and, you

15:12

know, ask myself better questions and

15:14

remind myself that I'm safe in my own

15:16

body and I'm safe in my marriage and in my

15:18

friendships and my career and all of this. Like, when I

15:20

remind myself of that, I can

15:22

calm down my internal nervous system and

15:24

I can learn a lot. just

15:27

like my husband's default tendency is

15:29

to avoid. Right? And just to

15:31

avoid confrontation or a hard

15:33

conversation, because that's how he coped

15:35

through his childhood. So I've got to be

15:37

aware of his own coping mechanisms

15:39

and how they manifest into his adulthood

15:41

too because, like, we are on a team. We're doing

15:43

life together. I mean, we just got matching tats.

15:45

You know, like, we're in this for forever. And

15:48

and truly, you know, what I've

15:50

noticed when I don't bolt

15:52

and I force myself to sit in

15:54

the discomfort and trust that I

15:56

can't handle this, handle the

15:58

negative emotions or whatever thoughts are coming

15:59

up from a tough conversation even.

16:02

I always feel better,

16:04

not in the moment, but

16:06

after. So I just wanna

16:08

encourage you to lean into your version

16:10

of hard because we first have to

16:12

acknowledge that these coping mechanisms

16:14

are coming up for us because

16:16

it feels easier who

16:18

actually wants to lean into

16:20

hard. Like, our primal brains

16:22

are trying to keep us safe in our familiar

16:25

thought patterns and our familiar coping

16:27

mechanisms. They're not trying to have us jump

16:29

into leaning into something hard.

16:31

Like, it's not like, hey, girl, like, this feels like

16:33

this is gonna suck. So let's just

16:35

stay here instead of defaulting

16:37

to that coping mechanism that's in your back

16:39

pocket that used to work for you for years.

16:41

like, being irrational or

16:44

reframing it to avoid the lesson

16:46

or, you know, bolting, those

16:48

are all my versions of an easy

16:50

button to press. But

16:52

I know I want a great

16:54

life. I want great

16:56

relationships. I want

16:58

depth and connection. Like on

17:00

a really real level.

17:02

I wanna be a human that I'm proud of, and I

17:04

know YouTube too. So if I

17:07

choose to not sit with negative emotions,

17:09

or feel all the feels and

17:11

ask the important questions in hard

17:14

seasons of my life or my career or my

17:16

marriage, I won't grow to the person that

17:18

I wanna I won't learn the lessons that I need to learn, I won't

17:20

become a more compassionate human

17:22

being, and I won't get to hopefully serve you with

17:24

what I'm learning. And truly, I

17:26

also know I'm not

17:28

gonna set the type of example that I wanna

17:30

set for our future kids. If they

17:32

constantly see me reframing things,

17:34

telling them they have to be positive all the

17:36

time, because sometimes life is hard. And that's okay.

17:38

You know what I mean?

17:41

And, you know, whenever I'm

17:43

committed to something, I'll just tell you this

17:45

is is random thing that I do, but

17:47

I have to make it bigger than than

17:49

me. Just like, then it's the

17:51

problem that I'm facing feels like it's only a

17:53

solution for me. It's hard for me

17:55

to feel like I wanna raise the

17:57

necessity to lean into the hard.

17:59

So if you feel as if you're navigating a

18:01

hard season right now, making

18:03

it bigger than you

18:05

is such a powerful way to show up

18:07

for it. So, like, I often make

18:09

my problems and me navigating through

18:12

these problems about you too, like this podcast

18:14

community. This is why I lean so much into you. I'm

18:16

so open with you. If you've never listened to this podcast before,

18:18

you're like, damn, this girl is saying a lot

18:20

of stuff. that I would not say that I'd always

18:22

say to my diary. That's because I think of us like

18:24

we're friends. So I wanna make it bigger

18:26

than me. I wanna make it about you too. I wanna

18:28

make these lessons that I'm learning know,

18:30

helpful, hopefully for you. And I want you to feel like you've got

18:32

a girlfriend that's like, hey, I'm just keeping it real with you.

18:34

I'm not trying to pretend like my issues

18:37

altogether. Right? But

18:39

really, what I wanted to share with

18:41

you is on this trip.

18:43

I first started reading think

18:45

like a monk by Jay Shetty because it just felt like it was the right

18:47

thing. You know, like, we're in Thailand. I should read this

18:49

book. But then I just started to crave a

18:51

really juicy page Turner, like a

18:54

good story by the pool,

18:56

you know? So I read love

18:58

warrior by Glenendoyle. And

19:00

if you're not familiar with

19:02

Glenend, she is an Absolutely incredible

19:04

author. She's also the author of the book

19:06

untamed, which is super popular. You've

19:08

probably heard about that book. I've actually read

19:10

it before. but this version of

19:12

this book Love Warrior is the

19:14

first book and then untamed came

19:16

afterwards. So now I gotta read untamed again because,

19:18

you know, just the whole sequence of all that.

19:20

Anyways, I couldn't recommend this book more, but I

19:22

actually blocked off a page that I

19:24

wanted to read to you. k?

19:25

So, she

19:27

says, oh my god, what

19:29

if the transporting is keeping me

19:32

from transformation? if my

19:34

anger, my fear, my loneliness

19:36

were never mistakes,

19:38

but invitations. What

19:40

if in skipping the pain, I was missing

19:42

the lessons? Instead of

19:44

running away from my pain, was I

19:46

supposed to run toward it?

19:49

Perhaps, pain was not a hot

19:51

potato after all, but a traveling

19:54

professor. Maybe instead of

19:56

slamming the door on pain,

19:58

I need to throw open the door wide and say

20:00

come in, sit

20:02

down

20:02

with me, and don't leave

20:05

until you've taught me I

20:07

need to know. I

20:09

never

20:09

let myself trust love because

20:11

I never let myself trust pain.

20:13

What if pain like

20:16

love is just a

20:18

place brave people

20:20

visit? if both require

20:23

presence and being still? If

20:24

this is true, then

20:27

maybe instead of resisting pain,

20:29

I need to resist the easy buttons.

20:31

Maybe my reliance on numbing

20:33

is keeping me from the two things I was

20:35

born for. Learning and

20:38

loving. I could go on

20:40

hitting easy buttons until I die and

20:42

feel no pain, but the cost

20:44

of that decision could be that

20:46

I'll never learn

20:48

love or

20:49

truly be

20:50

alive. Oh,

20:53

drop of my. Right? That's okay.

20:55

Again, love warrior. That was page 201

20:58

oil. So good. But,

21:00

truly, it's like,

21:02

our our culture is teaching

21:04

us that if things are

21:07

something's wrong with us. And

21:09

I wanted to share that particular,

21:11

like, passage with you because it's so true

21:13

when you really think about it. We live in this world.

21:16

where society, and then in turn,

21:18

we we ourselves are trying

21:20

to press easy buttons. Society is

21:22

trying to sell us easy quick

21:25

fixes to all of our problems. And then tell

21:27

us that if we feel sad or

21:29

if life feels hard or we

21:32

feel alone, that something's wrong with

21:34

us. So instead they can sell us, take this

21:36

pill, buy this product, then you'll feel better.

21:38

You're you're gonna escape the

21:40

hard, but sometimes the hard teaches

21:42

us something. that we can't learn

21:44

by constantly pressing easy buttons.

21:46

Right?

21:46

So I guess

21:48

I just really want you to know.

21:50

that if you're in a hard season, you're not

21:52

alone, nothing's wrong with you,

21:54

but you might be looking square

21:56

in the eyes of an opportunity

21:59

to grow and

21:59

connect on a deeper level than you could have

22:02

ever imagined and

22:04

really teach yourself something that you

22:06

could never learn if you weren't

22:08

exactly

22:08

where you need to be. right

22:10

now. Like, I actually do think that there's gonna

22:12

be a future version of you that's gonna look back on

22:14

this season right now that feels hard

22:17

and notice that you chose to lean into it

22:19

instead of running away from it which would

22:21

have been easier. I'm asking

22:23

you friend to friend to pick the

22:25

harder result now.

22:27

To get a better result later,

22:29

the harder choice now, to

22:31

get a better result later.

22:33

And

22:36

to close this out, I I mean, it

22:38

just feels right. I gotta leave you with a glove and quote.

22:40

Okay? This is from the same book. You're not

22:42

supposed to be all the time. life hurts

22:44

and it's hard. Not because you're

22:46

doing it wrong, but because it

22:48

hurts for everybody. Don't

22:50

avoid the pain. You need it. It's

22:52

meant for you. be still with it, let it

22:55

come, let it go, and

22:57

let it leave you with the fuel,

22:59

your you'll burn to get your

23:01

work done on this

23:04

earth. I love you. I'm

23:06

rooting for you always. We're literally in this

23:08

together. I'm just sitting here over, you know, telling you

23:10

all most stuff. Okay? please

23:12

let me know if this episode was helpful for you.

23:14

Feel free to tag me on Instagram at the time

23:16

that this episode is released. I'm gonna be on a

23:18

huge flight, twenty hours. So if you're

23:20

listening to this in real time, I'd love to hear what's going on in

23:22

your world, and I'll talk to you

23:25

soon.

23:27

Thank you so

23:28

much for listening in. If you

23:30

love this episode, it would mean so much

23:32

to

23:32

me if you shared it with a girlfriend. Like, send

23:35

it to her right now. or post it on social media

23:37

and tag me so I can personally

23:38

thank you for helping me get the message out.

23:40

I am so freaking grateful

23:43

to be on this journey with you girl.

23:45

until next time.

23:46

I'll talk to you soon.