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This week, in light of the US elections and Kamala Harris being the first female of Indian descent to be elected as Vice President of the USA we are staying on the theme of Barbara Stanny’s book ‘Secrets of six-figure women‘ and looking at secret 2 – letting go in order to step into what we are becoming.

So why do we want to let go? and what are we letting go of?

Stanny notes in her book: “I have never met an under-earner who isn’t blocking herself with misguided thinking or erroneous notions. Letting go of our mental molds is the crucial challenge for each of us on the path to higher earnings. Even if the ledge we cling to is an external situation, there is always an internal authority governing our decisions – a belief or attitude – that is putting us down. Holding us back or keeping us hanging.”

Letting go often leaves us feeling volatile, vulnerable and fragile.

Rather than embracing change, we find all sorts of excuses for why we should hang on to ledges as crutches. 

“Given the choice between changing and proving there is no need to do so, almost everybody will get busy on the proof. Perhaps that is why many of us need to have our fingers pried loose before we will let go” – John Galbraith

Many of us will have to be pushed before we are ready to fly no matter how bad things get.

How do we overcome our resistance to letting go?

LISTEN to our INTUITIVE YEARNINGS, rather than our pre-conceived notions of what’s practical or reasonable.

BEING overly realistic or inordinately logical can be as much of a liability as LOW SELF ESTEEM.

NEXT ask yourself the question:

If I wasn’t concerned with everyone else’s opinion, what would I want to do?

Be really clear on your INTENTIONS, keep your intention at the forefront of your mind at all times and cultivate INTENSE DETERMINATION.

Identify what you don’t need anymore. She suggests asking these questions :

Be brutally honest and highly sensitive to your first intuitive response:

• What do I need in my life for me to feel deeply satisfied?
• What do i know in my heart is keeping me from feeling fully satisfied and successful? \
• What situations, relationships, beliefs, attitudes, thoughts, feelings and choices have i made that are no longer serving me?
• If i had a year to live where would i be? Who would i be with? What would i be doing?

Recognising that fear and anxiety have a purpose. They prepare our body for performance and stimulate us to find new ways of solving problems.

and then finally:

You have to believe you can do it, visualise it, affirm it, and then LET IT GO.

You have to be unattached, release it to the universe, you have to believe in it and literally let it go.