“I love you” a love note to self by Alpha Mama

Lisa Nicholls is a beautiful speaker and has deeply inspired me through her powerful and motivation language.

Check her out on goal coast here.

“When I can figure out the purpose of that relationship now I can bring me 100% fully forth so that my next doesn’t pay for my ex. Because until you are complete and whole in some of those answers you’re trying to avoid them in the future, until you can be whole and complete with them. 

It’s purposeful. Any relationship you are no longer in is either purposeful or life-giving.

Figure out which one and figure out what it gave you:

• What life did it give you?
• What purpose did it fulfill?

And then move on into your breathtaking future. 

That someone’s gonna cross your path tomorrow, next week, next year, and they need the love that you have, but in order for them to get it, you need to have filled your cup up and you need to be in overflow because you can’t love them from your cup you’ve gotta always love them from your saucer.

Yes, because when you love them from your saucer you never ever run out. You never love on an empty tank, love never hurts. A lot of times when love is hurting it’s because you haven’t given you everything you need yet, and you’re trying to give other people what you still need. You’re trying to give them your oxygen, which is why you are sitting around gasping for air. 

Recognising that when you love from our overflow that’s the most responsible thing that you could do. And that the greatest love that you can ever give the world is the demonstration of what loving you looks like.

If she can give herself 1,000 second chances, Then I can give myself one more. And if he can give himself another chance, if he can get up after that financial fall, if he can get up after that divorce, if she can get up after that break up, if he can get back up after having to leave his children, if she can get back up after having that child, if she can define herself, then what can I do?

So your demonstration of how madly in love with you you are helps me to recognise how madly in love with me I get to be. And then when I love myself enough then all my extra just oozes over on to you. 

When you let your light shine like that, because you’ve fallen in love with you, all of a sudden you get in the corner and that light for a moment brightens up someone’s momentary darkness, and then you’ve been a blessing to someone else.

Humanity starts with somebody. Humanity is the sister at the grocery store. Humanity is the black man who is walking down the street and looks like he could use a “hello” and a smile. Humanity is the asian woman who is in the corner and could use some love. Humanity is the white man who’s in the corner who might not say “Hi” to me but if he sees love on his face then he knows I mean him no harm and I am his sister. 

Humanity is each one of us.

I want to love the journey and I want to feel the journey, and in order for my ‘yes’ to have value my ‘no’ needs to be said.

I want to exercise my ‘no’ and my ‘yes’. I want to dance until my knees hurt. I want to stay awake until i dose off in the middle of a sentence because the conversation is so good. I want to laugh until my belly aches. I want to sleep until the sun the sun wakes me up. I want to find out what does my song sound like? Even off key. I want my heart to skip a beat and I want my stomach to turn in knots because he just took my breath away by the way he looked at me.

I don’t want to miss a moment of this life called love but every time I look in the mirror at myself I want to say

 “God, I love walking with you. I love holding your hand. I love this journey, and I’m proud. I’m proud of the way you wear imperfection”. 

So I say that love starts with self-love.

Love Yourself.

– Lisa Nicholls