The conversations that matter are rarely comfortable. Perhaps that’s why talking honestly about race in America gets hard and rouses fragility, not just in White people, but in Black people too. Hence, the cycle of shame and guilt continues. Deb Besinger and I didn’t want that. While, we knew that a conversation between a Black woman and a White woman would be very uncomfortable, we made a covenant to speak honestly but to uphold one another’s dignity throughout. For, at the end of the day, uncomfortable conversations aren’t Black and White. They are soul to soul.

ABOUT DEB BESINGER

Deborah Besinger is a freelance writer and recognized dating expert whose advice has been featured in The Washington Post, The Huffington Post and others. She is a now-single mom to Andrew, Gaige, Bliss and True, and lives in Raleigh, North Carolina.

Deborah has written for Scary Mommy, The Good Men Project, HuffPost Divorce and more, as well as, been a guest on The Steve Harvey Show about parenting black teens on a special town hall on Race and Police. She is the author of her newly published memoir, Bound and Gagged by Christianity and the Sins that Set Me Free, which is about leaving fundamental Christianity and finding the religion of love.

By day, Deborah is a certified Life, Love and Dating Coach and owner of Kiss of Perspective and hosts weekly discussions about dating and relating and desires to help people grab more love out of life.

Deborah is a collector of riveting conversations, lover of connected relationships, social justice seeker, intuitive question asker, coffee enthusiast and armchair sociologist.

MENTIONS

The Racism I Experienced As a White Mom Who Adopted Black Kids (Huffpost Article)
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/experiencing-racism-as-a-white-mom-who-adopted-black_b_5782449ce4b0f06648f517de

Brené Brown talks about Dehumanization
https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-words-actions-dehumanization-and-accountability/

The Lincoln Project
https://www.youtube.com/c/thelincolnproject

OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT WITH DEB

Website(s): DeborahBesinger.com
www.kissofperspective.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Kissofperspective

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deb-besinger-2815a53b/

CREDITS

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