We took a solid week off and we’re not sorry. Also, for some reason I (Leanne) recorded this episode in a squeaky, possessed chair, for that I am sorry.

The things we cannot even

Jennie- Stranger Things on Netflix

Leanne- How much I love when my kids are can asleep so I realize their level of awesomeness.

10 Things We’ve Learned in 10 years of marriage

1. You’re not always going to get along- you’re not actually one flesh, gross. So when needed, walk away. Just for a little bit until you can see the other person’s point.

2. Make your home a safe place to be yourselves- except once a week where you have a festivus style airing of grievances, no feats of strength.

3. Don’t let your kids ruin your sex life- sometimes we lock our door in the morning… to get to funkytown without making it feel like chore time.

4. Believe the best in each other- Don’t assume every statement is loaded with snarky undertones.

5. Communicate clearly- No passive aggressive games, but you can still tie your husband’s socks to the steering wheel, so it’s cool.

6. Laugh & Have Fun- And definitely throw papaya at each other’s heads.

7. Offer to help your partner before they ask- Take care of each other before it gets code red crazy.

8. Don’t be afraid to go to counseling- You will pick up some valuable skills and helpful tips for working through anger and other issues.

9. Be a team- Know what the other one is up to and play to your strengths and differences

10. Try New Things Together- Adventure brings you together!

Recommendations From This Episode

Bittersweet By Shauna Niequist
The Zim Zum of Marriage By Rob and Kristen Bell

The Gift Exercise (free therapy bonus!) 
G- Guilt
I- Inferiority / Inadequacy
F- Fear
T- Trauma or Pain

Digging Deeper Exercise:

1. What is the Behavior that my spouse does that triggers my anger?
2. Identify the root of the anger using GIFT.
3. When have I ever felt this feeling before? (perhaps at a specific time as a child)
4. What do I do when I feel this feeling? What is my behavior?

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