The ladies debate whether how you lose your virginity affects your attitude towards sex and your future sexual encounters. Society makes us believe the first time we have sex is a monumental moment adding to the pressure, nerves, and fear that already surround the experience, but is the concept of virginity outdated? What changes physically, emotionally, and mentally after you have sex for the first time? Do religions and cultures unfairly link women’s identities or value to their sexual activity? Does it matter how old you are when you become sexually active and do your views on intimacy, casual sex, and celibacy change with age? In this episode, Monah, Nushy Rose, and Sophie Hannah delve deep into what shapes individual perspectives on sex, the reason men are congratulated for losing their virginity while women are shamed, and why the female orgasm and women’s pleasure is rarely prioritised in the bedroom.

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/01/study-how-we-lose-our-virginity-shapes-our-entire-sexual-life/272596/

(Article – Study: How we lose our virginity shapes our entire sexual life – Lindsay Abrams for The Atlantic)

https://www.her.ie/life/these-are-the-side-effects-of-losing-your-virginity-later-in-life-309078

(Article – The age at which you lose your virginity can have a huge impact on your sexual enjoyment – Cassie Delaney for Her)

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/01/130128104732.htm

(Article – 'First time' may predict lifelong sexual satisfaction – University of Tennessee at Knoxville via Science Daily)

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2016/apr/18/genes-influence-the-age-at-which-you-lose-your-virginity-first-sex-dna

(Article – Genes influence the age at which you lose your virginity, study shows – Ian Sample for The Guardian)

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/10/sexual-partners-and-marital-happiness/573493/

(Article – Fewer sex partners means a happier marriage – Olga Khazan for The Atlantic)

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2019/01/221739/losing-your-virginity-stories

(Article – Women Are Losing Their Virginity Before They're Ready. We Recall Our First Times – Natalie Gil for Refinery 29)

https://helloclue.com/articles/culture/let's-lose-virginity-once-and-for-all

(Article – Let’s lose “virginity”, once and for all – Jennifer Neal for Hello Clue)

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/full-frontal-psychology/virginity-and-promiscuity-evidence-for-the-very-first-time.html

(Article – Virginity and promiscuity: Evidence for the very first time – Association for Psychological Science)

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/what-happens-when-you-lose-your-virginity

(Article – 27 Things You Should Know Before You “Lose” Your Virginity – Annamarya Scaccia with medical review by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST for Healthline)

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2020/10/10132156/losing-virginity-not-important-young-people

(Article – Losing It: Does Virginity Even Matter Anymore? – Lydia Wang for Refinery 29)

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-46794269

(Article – What is the right age to lose your virginity? – Michelle Roberts for BBC News)

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/jan/28/the-power-of-celibacy-giving-up-sex-was-a-massive-relief

(Article – The power of celibacy: “Giving up sex was a massive relief” – Lizzie Cernik for The Guardian)

https://www.thecut.com/2018/02/7-women-on-choosing-to-be-celibate.html

(Article – 7 People on Choosing to Be Celibate – Tessa Miller for The Cut)

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