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Today's topic is about social

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media influencers and

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the youth. This is a very important topic,

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Okay, as as a

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mother, as an as an artist,

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as a daughter, as a woman,

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as a human being, as everything

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you can imagine, I have my own

1:10

perspective and opinion on social media,

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and I have it from both aspects.

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I have it from.

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Being the one that influences others

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to do things and behave a certain way,

1:20

or you know, the fashion statement or the music

1:22

that they listen to, or their opinions

1:25

of relationships and all these other great

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things. And then I also have my

1:29

opinion from the other side,

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the other spectrum of being the one influenced

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by the things that I see. Today

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we're going to talk about a very

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serious topic and is very urgent topic. The

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truth of the matter, it is that throughout the years,

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you know, social media influencers

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to me to a certain extent, should be accountable

1:50

right for the youth behavior and

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the way that it harms the youth

1:55

and the generation to come.

1:57

But at the same time, there's another part of me that

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feels like social media shouldn't

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be your mother and your father. Social media

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shouldn't be the ones teaching you how to live your life,

2:06

how to behave in the.

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Things that you should and shouldn't do better.

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At the same time, we

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spend most of our time even as adults,

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you know, we're talking about kids.

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The adults we spend a.

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Lot of time, hours of our days

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stuck on social media.

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What do we expect our kids to do?

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Our kids probably spend probably

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even more time, especially now

2:27

with the whole TikTok and everything else. I'm not the biggest

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TikToker, which, by the way, you guys

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can follow me at a mad aln on TikTok.

2:33

I don't really TikTok.

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But besides TikTok, there's so many new social

2:38

media apps and just websites

2:40

and all types of stuff snapchats and Instagram

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and Facebook and you know Once upon

2:45

a time, Twitter, now x and you

2:48

know the Thriller, And there's

2:50

just so many things to keep up. That's how

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I know that I'm feeling old, because like

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I can't keep up with everything else is going on.

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But this topic, I've seen

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it.

2:59

I've seen parents talk about it, educators,

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experts concern about the negative

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effect that social media and influencers

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have on mental health, and you know, children

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and adolescents.

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I personally have mixed emotions.

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There's a part of me that feels like, you know, what if you're

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an adult and you're over here, you

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know, motivating, influencing,

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you know, teenage kids, or whatever

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the case may be, to do stupid

3:22

trends or you know, stick your hand in boiling

3:25

water and look and see what happens type of thing. Yes,

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you should be held accountable, but at the same

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time, there's a part

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of me that feels, as a parent, it is my duty

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to raise my children to.

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Know what to do and what not

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to do.

3:39

Don't stick your hand and know damn boiling

3:41

water, because you already know what's going to happen.

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Why are you listening to this person? I understand.

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The kids spend so much time on social mediu

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and all these other platforms, and they end up

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becoming friends and socializing with other you

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know, all these other people, and now they want to listen

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and follow to what everybody else is saying. Social media

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influencers are the people who have the large

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just numbers of followers on platforms like Instagram,

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YouTube, TikTok, snapchat, all these other things,

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and they promote products and services, lifestyle

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and their own opinions like I do myself. I

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get paid to promote a lot of products

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just because you see someone on social media that

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you follow rocking a Chanel

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bag, you know, a Hermez bag, driving

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a Ferrari living in a penhuse

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doesn't mean that you have to go broke trying

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to follow that lifestyle that may not be

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for you.

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That is life that they are living.

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It is unfair for this person to have to modify

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the way that they live, the things that they've worked for, the

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life that they have, so that these

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people that follow them don't feel

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a certain type of way about them, or

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that they don't feel, you know, insecure

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about their own lifestyle or their

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own way of living.

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Be happy with what you have too.

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I also think that that's important because we also

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we always want to blame those that are

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you know, influencing some

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of those that are influencing them to do you

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know, negative things. But at the same time, why

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aren't we talking about, well, those that do influence

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them to do good. Because there's a lot of

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people out of here on social media that are

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influencing people to do good with your life,

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to study, to you know, invest

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in real estate, bigcoins that to get

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an education, to go to church. There's

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so many there's platforms that teach

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you how to cook, there's so many platforms

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that teach you to do good and better for yourself.

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But we only want to attack those that

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are doing stupid things on social media.

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I think that as adults, as parents,

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and I know that is very hard because at one point

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I'm going to have to deal with that as

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well.

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I have two girls now.

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Eventually, maybe from here to when there are adults,

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Instagram and all these other platforms that we use

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now may not even exist.

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Maybe, you know, everything will be virtual. Who

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knows what the world will look like.

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But I think to a certain

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extent, it's unfair to, you

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know, judge these people

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for what they do. And I understand

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the influence that they have in the culture, the

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influence that they have, but I also think

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that it is important.

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For us to know who we are. We gotta

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do some self work too. I don't think we

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can just blame.

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I've heard since that was growing up, the same thing they

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used to say back in the days.

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We've heard, you know, hip hop songs.

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We've seen movies, We've seen so many things

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that have so much violence.

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I can hear a song talking about bang bang bang.

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Okay, I'll just say, okay, it's

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just a song to me. It doesn't mean I have to take

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it into real life. So I think

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that the work really comes from home.

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The work really comes from your household, from

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your foundation at home

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is where the work needs to be done. You

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can listen when you go outside, you can listen

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to all those things, but if you're raised properly,

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if you've been taught well, if you want

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better for yourself, Because sometimes I feel

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like we can't just blame our parents. Our parents

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may teach us right, but we're the hard headed

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ones that want to go in a different route.

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Well, life is going to teach you, you know what

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I mean.

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I also don't feel that in many occasions, we

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see a lot of people talking.

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About, well, the parents need to do this,

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and the parents.

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Maybe the parents are doing those things, but

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unfortunately, to a certain extent, parents

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don't get to be with the children twenty four hours,

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you know, all twenty four hours in the day.

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They spend a lot of time in school.

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We don't know who our children are socializing

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when they're in school, what they're listening

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to, what they're doing in that space. So

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I feel that is unfair to also just

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blame one thousand percent, you know, the parents

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for the children's behavior. There's

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just so much that goes into

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this because we also have to understand that these

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platforms are made for adults, and

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yes, certain children have access

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to it after a certain age.

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But who should be held accountable?

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Should it be the platforms that are creating

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this, Like should Instagram,

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you know, Facebook and all these other platforms

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be held accountable. All

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they're doing is just giving you a platform to

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showcase whatever it is that you want, if you

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follow the trend that's on you. It

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is a very sensitive space because I've

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been judged so much. I've

7:56

been judged for the way that I dance that

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I affect the youth. I've been judged

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for the way that I behave on reality TV

8:04

because it affects the youth. It affects the way

8:07

that, you know, other women view

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their life or the way that they are being

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portrayed, you know, as a

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stereotype.

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I've been accused of blackface.

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I've been accused of you know,

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I've been accused of so many things. I've been

8:22

I've been somewhat based off

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social media. The social media court

8:26

right held accountable for certain

8:29

things that I'm like, I'm

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living my life and there's no guidebook

8:33

on how to live your life.

8:34

I've made many mistakes in my life and I'm still

8:36

learning.

8:37

I'm still growing. This is part of life.

8:39

Like no one teaches you how to live. You go through

8:41

the process, You go through the journey on your own.

8:51

We see women like Kim Kardashian and things

8:53

like this that they promote. For example, now the

8:55

broadwood nipples. You know, now all the women

8:58

want to have hard nipples, and now was

9:00

a trending thing. Now this is becoming like

9:02

the new trend, the new style. When

9:04

they decided to do you know, fillers

9:06

and the more, you know, like

9:09

juicy lips. Now everyone decided

9:11

to do that. I understand because the amount

9:13

of millions of followers that they have

9:15

and the money that they have that

9:18

they are able to influence a culture,

9:21

a whole generation based off what they're

9:23

saying. But then again

9:25

here comes us, when do we take accountability

9:28

for the things that we decide to do with ourselves.

9:31

I've seen a lot of surgeons talk about, oh, well,

9:33

I have a lot of you know, women coming in here

9:35

trying to have the chin of this person,

9:37

the nose of that person, the mouth of this person.

9:39

Boobs.

9:39

But they try to, you know, like do a

9:41

puzzle of all these different celebrities to become

9:44

this I also see the other point

9:46

of like, well, these

9:48

celebrities are influencing, you know,

9:50

society. They are the ones putting

9:53

the quote unquote standards of beauty and making

9:55

women, you know, and men feel insecure about

9:57

their looks and who they are as a person.

10:00

You know.

10:01

It is so hard because, like I said before, I

10:03

can see both sides.

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I don't know how.

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To pick a side because to a certain extent,

10:09

I work on the other side where I influence.

10:12

I work on the other side, where you

10:14

know, I have to take accountability and say that

10:16

the things that I do post, the things that I do

10:19

do at a certain tools a

10:21

certain extent.

10:22

Yes, I get it. It does influence a

10:24

lot of my followers.

10:25

For example, when I first did I song,

10:27

which is like my first hit song, Dominican Republic,

10:30

I back then I felt super comfortable and I still

10:32

do rocking my afro and

10:34

my afro was questioned in so many ways, why

10:36

is your hair like that? Well, because I'm black, why

10:39

is your hair? Why does your hair stand up? Because

10:41

it just naturally does, just because

10:43

society has accustomed

10:45

us to seeing, you know, black women with straight

10:48

hair, It doesn't mean that that naturally is our nature.

10:50

So when I did it, I had to fight consistently

10:53

to represent and talk about my hair and why

10:55

I was like then it was like, okay, well

10:57

then now I'm just gonna wear an afro wig because

10:59

it was just doing a lot of damage to my hair

11:02

from one show to the other. You know, I

11:04

didn't have enough time to treat my hair to make sure

11:06

it looked perfectly.

11:07

So I rocked the wig

11:09

afro.

11:10

But even before rocking the wig, afro,

11:13

me standing with the representation

11:15

of what I wanted to see, of who I wanted to be, of

11:17

who I was. Me staying true

11:19

to myself at that moment inspired

11:22

other women, a lot of other women, and

11:24

a lot of children, a lot of girls and boys

11:27

to just rock their afro. That became

11:29

a statement, But then it also became a statement

11:31

I had to fight because then now throughout the years,

11:34

I rocked you know, wigs, and I've done all

11:36

these other things, and I understood

11:38

obviously, it took me a long time to understand. You know what,

11:41

my hair doesn't identify me, is just

11:43

part of who I am. My hair doesn't

11:46

specify who I am as a person. It's

11:48

just part of who I am. And just because I

11:50

have, you know, braids on and then rock different

11:52

wigs. Now, it doesn't mean I'm less black. It

11:54

doesn't mean I'm less Afro Latina. It doesn't mean I

11:57

stand my beliefs have changed. It just means

11:59

that I put on a wig. You

12:01

know, I am trying different looks.

12:03

It just means that I am an artist and I should be able

12:05

to be flexible with my looks.

12:07

And I'm okay with that. But I didn't

12:10

realize in.

12:10

The moment how a lot of

12:12

my followers felt with these

12:15

changes, because I influenced

12:17

them to a certain extent. I always like to say

12:19

that because I don't want to never feel responsible

12:21

one hundred percent for people's behavior the way that they

12:23

feel, because that's, you know, that's.

12:25

The way that you feel. I

12:31

never realized how how impactful.

12:34

It was when I decided to start changing

12:36

looks for me because I needed to do was good,

12:38

what was best for me. But a

12:40

lot of people felt attached to that feeling.

12:43

So when I started changing, they felt very upset.

12:45

They started judging me, how could you

12:47

do this? You have betrayed us?

12:50

You da da da da. I'm like, I still don't purm

12:52

my hair.

12:52

The AfOR was still there after, you

12:55

know, fifteen years of the same

12:57

look, I just wanted to change and try something

12:59

differ, and I feel it

13:02

was the worst feeling ever. And that's just one example

13:04

of many. You know, I've changed

13:07

looks throughout the years, different styles

13:09

of clothes, of wardrobe, just

13:11

I've changed, I've evolved them.

13:13

I've been exploring myself the person.

13:15

But at the same time, people

13:17

get so caught up in these influencers,

13:19

in these celebrities and these people that they look

13:22

up to, that I think that they forget

13:24

that they're also just human, and they're

13:26

also learning, and they're also exploring,

13:29

and their life is not perfect. No matter how

13:31

photoshop you see their life on social

13:33

medium, that's not truly what

13:35

it is. And I'm telling you because I stand on

13:38

the other side of it. I've seen it, I'm living

13:40

it, I'm around them.

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What you see is not always what it is.

13:45

You know. I'm a fan of Beyonce, for example,

13:47

and I'm sure that Beyonce has her bad days.

13:50

I'm sure she has her days where she's uncomfortable,

13:52

where she's tired, where she's over it, where

13:54

she still has to be a wife, where she still has

13:56

to be a mother, because she's still a regular

13:58

person. Even though we idle these people,

14:01

it doesn't mean that she may have not been you know, maybe

14:03

she was cramping, maybe her head hurt. But she

14:05

still gets up on stage, she smiles, she gives

14:07

you the best of her. But we can't

14:09

forget that there's still human beings.

14:12

We can't forget that there's still regular

14:15

people that we have

14:17

idolized. That we the people

14:19

have given them this platform. We

14:22

the people have given them this power.

14:24

When we say that these influencers have all these

14:27

millions of followers and now they influence

14:29

society, They influence you know,

14:31

the next generation to come, They influence their

14:33

children. We the people have

14:36

given them those followers. You

14:38

follow them, you'll

14:40

give them that power.

14:43

We see a lot of people doing a lot of stupid things

14:45

on social media. You'll follow

14:47

them.

14:48

You sit there and you watch them,

14:50

You give them views and likes,

14:53

You add on to their power. So

14:56

to you know, when we see these people and

14:58

we're over here judging them, you're

15:01

talking about them. You talk about

15:03

them, you criticize them, You follow them,

15:05

you give them views, you share, you like,

15:08

like, we've created

15:10

this monster of social media. We've

15:12

created. These monsters of influencers

15:15

we've created. We give them our

15:17

money, we make them

15:20

rich, we sacrifice

15:23

our life, our time to

15:26

give them this platform,

15:28

but then we are upset when they

15:31

influence our children. I

15:33

think it's important for us to also take accountability.

15:36

Like I said before, you know, life

15:38

existed before social media, and I know that

15:40

you can't take it away. But I also feel

15:42

that when we're talking about children and teenagers

15:44

and stuff like that, till they're eighteen

15:47

years old and they're in your households,

15:49

you have that power. You have that control

15:52

the best that you can. The best

15:54

that you can means once you walk up into

15:56

this house, that phone drops right there

15:58

at the door. Period, Like you

16:00

make the rules and regulations, when

16:03

you step out in case of an emergency, you

16:05

have your phone. So that means that you get

16:07

to have your phone when you're out of here, when

16:10

you're out of this house, you have a phone.

16:12

So if in that time that you're in a home, you

16:15

watch some stupid stuff and you fall for

16:17

it, that's that right which,

16:19

to be honest, you should be in school learning something.

16:22

And as a parent, I also think it's important to

16:24

be you're in school after school

16:26

you have soccer, you have basketball,

16:28

you have biolin, you have you have so many

16:31

things that by the time you get home.

16:32

I need you to be exhausted.

16:34

You need to be too tired that you don't

16:36

feel like doing twenty tiktoks

16:38

before you go to bed. That's my opinion,

16:41

right as a parent, now

16:43

that is my opinion.

16:44

You may have a different method.

16:46

You may be so exhausted that you just

16:48

don't care, or you may be like, you know what, I can't

16:50

avoid social media. My kid needs to have it,

16:52

or you know what, I want my kid. Whatever it is, it works

16:55

for you. As a parent, judgment free zone, that's

16:57

what you do. But then again, you also need

16:59

to make yourself responsible for the

17:01

things that your child does.

17:03

I plan on having my house regulations.

17:06

You have a phone when you get out in case of an emergency,

17:08

when you walk in here phone, drop

17:10

the phone in the lock whiles, I'll give it to you in

17:12

the morning.

17:13

That's just what it is. You can use a computer.

17:15

In the computer, you can somewhat let's just say, right,

17:18

iPad computer.

17:19

You put restrictions. You can

17:21

use this. This is what it is.

17:23

You remember back in the days when your mom used

17:25

to look at you or your dad. You know what

17:27

I'm saying the wire,

17:30

whatever it was, you knew you

17:32

need to follow house rules, rules and regulations.

17:34

There's no more rules and regulations. You

17:37

know, a lot of people just do whatever they want

17:40

right now. I'm just talking about when it comes to social

17:44

media influencers and the youth, right.

17:46

I'm talking about the control that as parents

17:49

you have.

17:49

Over your children and the things that they can watch

17:51

and can do once they step out of your

17:53

household.

17:54

I understand that there's a limit of things that you can do,

17:56

but.

17:56

In your household, as a parent, communication

17:59

should be key. Whatever it is that you

18:01

need to be doing, then you go ahead and you do that for

18:03

the protection and the safety of your kid. We're

18:05

supposed to be here together as a unit,

18:07

as a house, as a family. There's a difference

18:10

bit you respect and fearing your

18:12

parents. I need you to respect me. It's

18:14

not about being scared. I need you to

18:17

be able to be open with me and tell me Mommy

18:19

or Bobby Meda, this is happening

18:21

to me.

18:22

I'm scared. They're bullying

18:24

me. I don't know what to do. What should I do?

18:26

There should be a space of yes, I am your parent,

18:28

but I also can be I

18:30

can be I'm not I can be your

18:33

friend. What is happening if

18:35

your kids are so scared to talk

18:37

to you, but they feel more comfortable to talk to social

18:39

media, that's a problem.

18:48

If we're exalted from doing three four jobs,

18:50

come home.

18:51

Now you're exalusted and you.

18:52

Don't feel like you have the time to communicate with

18:54

your kid or you know what, you got

18:56

it, here's your iPad. I don't want to do it if that's

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how you feel, which I respect and I understand

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because each his own judgment free zone. Let

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me know how life was for you growing up.

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I want to know all these things, hobbies,

19:08

exercise, socializing with friends

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and family, all those things have been

19:12

modified. Your children

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spend your When I say your children, I mean

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it could be the children of this of this generation

19:19

of society. They spend more time on iPads

19:21

video games than they do spending time with

19:23

their family.

19:25

You remember those at the house.

19:26

Sometimes your mom would just put on music and you guys

19:28

would dance. You would sit down on Saturdays

19:31

to watch Don Francisco.

19:33

Weg up in the morning to watch the Pierreto America

19:35

or whatever it may have been a lot of that.

19:38

The cultural aspect has been you

19:40

know, gone, It

19:42

is vanished. We can

19:44

still save it. We can still save

19:47

it, but the savings starts with us.

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We need to make those things happen. For example,

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sometimes I'm at home and I realize I've

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been stuck on my phone so long, answering

19:56

messages, talking about work, my real estate,

19:58

you know, filming this, that all type of stuff.

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My girls may be at the crib and it's

20:03

been an hour and I've been stuck on my phone, and I

20:05

realized it, and I'm like, oh, no, I

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dropped the phone.

20:08

Turn it off. I don't care who's calling me.

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This is my family time, this is

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my my mother time, this is

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my me time.

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And it's not just because of.

20:17

My girls, because I spend you know, twenty four hours

20:19

with my girls, but it could even be my mother. You

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know, my mother and my father are elderly

20:23

people at this point in life. You know, they're already

20:26

past your sixties. This is just the way

20:28

that life is. And I

20:30

realize sometimes I'm spending more time,

20:34

you know, on my phone than really

20:36

enjoying their presence, enjoying their company,

20:38

because at one point, unfortunately

20:41

The truth of the matter is they no longer

20:43

will be here, and my

20:45

phone will still be here, but they

20:47

won't Where do my priorities

20:49

stand at? You know, those

20:51

things are important. You need to realize

20:54

what exactly is your priority.

20:58

I don't know as as much as I blame social

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media for the way that they have influenced

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our children, the next generation, even

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ourselves, because today's topic is not

21:08

really as for adults per se.

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Right. I remember growing up, my mother

21:12

Medenia had that.

21:13

I was so over her because I

21:15

was like, yo, I don't have no like freedom

21:18

and you know, like my freedom,

21:20

which I didn't realize it back then, my

21:23

freedom was dancing.

21:24

She's like, after school you have.

21:26

Dance classes, and then on Tuesdays you have

21:28

acting classes. And then on was like, hey,

21:30

yeah, you have modern classes, and then you have

21:34

you get to learn how to you know, eat a table. You

21:36

have to learn you have this, and you have that, and then you

21:38

also have you know what, you've never tried an instrument? What

21:40

instrument do you want to try? Okay, well, then now you're going to try

21:42

the piano. You like the piano, you can try the guitar. She

21:45

had me so busy. I

21:47

didn't realize that the girls

21:49

that were like fifteen my age knew

21:52

so much more than I did. Like

21:54

there were a lot of things I didn't even know

21:57

what to do, or I didn't even

21:59

know about sex,

22:01

for example, or a lot of other things because

22:03

I thought it was regular. I just feel like everybody

22:05

had a busy schedule like me, Like when

22:08

you go home, you must be caught up too, because

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I know that when I go home, I have

22:12

a thousand other classes, and in these classes,

22:15

there's a thousand other kids, So everybody must

22:17

have the same schedule. So then later on I

22:19

realized, wait, no, that's just me. What

22:22

do you do when you go home? Oh you're just home?

22:24

Oh okay, so you don't have nothing else to do? No,

22:28

oh okay me.

22:30

I had Spanish classes, I had diction

22:33

classes I had and that was another thing my mom

22:35

made sure. And I'm just speaking from my personal

22:37

experience. I just know that my mom

22:39

was like, what do you want to do when you grow up? I

22:41

always knew exactly what I wanted to do, but a lot

22:43

of kids don't know what they want to do. So if they don't

22:45

know what they want to do, then as parents, you have to

22:48

give them the space to do those things. And

22:50

that means how about maybe you were maybe

22:52

you had all the ability of being the best

22:55

soccer or tennis or whatever, or

22:57

the best painter, but because no

22:59

one ever gave, they expose you to

23:01

those things, You've never explored that side

23:03

of you. Keep your kids

23:06

busy. Boundaries are important,

23:08

communication is important.

23:10

You are the parent you choose.

23:13

Stop blaming social media for the way that

23:15

your children are being raised, because

23:17

if they're stuck on TikTok all.

23:19

Day, who pays for that cell

23:21

phone bill? Who pays for that internet?

23:23

You do? You'll take control,

23:26

you take charge.

23:27

You create the schedule, you create

23:29

the discipline, you'll create the family

23:31

time.

23:32

All I'm saying is find that

23:34

balance, find that space.

23:36

It's important for us to take responsibility

23:38

and accountability for the way that we

23:41

raise our kids. For their self esteem,

23:43

their self image, for.

23:44

All those things.

23:45

And yes, we know that the

23:48

world influences, but no

23:50

one influences more your life than your parents.

23:53

No one has more influence in your life than

23:55

the things that they see in their household when they

23:57

come home. I don't know

23:59

if I'm wrong, I don't know if I'm right. I'm still

24:02

learning. I'm still trying to figure it out. But

24:04

whatever it is, let me know. Give me your opinion, Okay,

24:07

give me your opinion on the YouTube, on

24:10

the review, wherever it may be.

24:12

Trust me, I will be right there to check it out.

24:14

Anyways, With that being said, today's topic

24:16

was about social media influencers and

24:18

youth. And I hope that you guys learned something

24:21

today or that you connected with me in any

24:23

shapeway or form, because I know that I'm

24:25

passionate about this topic, because I am on bold

24:27

spectrums of this conversation, and

24:30

I always want to be a positive influencer society,

24:32

into the world and to women, and I

24:35

want my daughter to be proud of me. So

24:37

if I'm doing it wrong, let me know. If I'm doing

24:39

it right, let me know too.

24:41

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