Failure is an event, not a person- Zig Ziglar

4 ideas for growing from failure:

1.  Acknowledge and accept that it happened. Don't sweep it under the rug, especially to those impacted.
2. Did you knowingly ignore your values or your instincts?
3. What habits, skillsets, or critical decisions were absent from your process?
4. What did you learn? About you, about your strengths and weaknesses, about your abilities or your values?

Painful failures can be easy to dwell on. There were times in my life where I would grieve and journal about failure or loss for months at a time, thinking I would never be able to be free of the guilt or the grief. Personal failures hit very very hard, so once you accept responsibility and go through the process pulling out any valuable nuggets that can be had... move your focus towards forgiving yourself. That comes once you've taken responsibility but you must get on your own side in life, so don't spend any time beating yourself up for your weakest moments. Give yourself the love you deserve, which is unconditional!