Women's empowerment, business and life coach Allie White shares beautiful perspective on life's challenges.  Here are a few of her thoughts:

So much is piled on us that we attach our goodness too to measure internal worth.  That’s not how it works. 

When life gives us challenges it can be easy to take that worth and purpose that is finished the second we are born.  You’ll never find you’re more important and as much worth any stage of the game.

If our parenting isn’t going perfectly we attach some not true things to us

If our purpose is just to be us, those things that pile on us, our purpose is to take those off.  We don’t associate our identity with our accomplishments or our  parenting

As parents one of our trickiest pieces is projection, projecting our insecurities onto our children and other peoples judgements of us

When we are in struggle its easy to focus on the gaps

Why are you the perfect parent for them?  Why are they the perfect child for you?

I love you enough to learn your language. Let’s guide each other. I’m not here to fix you We don’t play all the roles for our kids

I'm Not attached to being the hero in your story, I’m attached to my child being the hero in their own story.

"I just chipped away at what wasn't David."  Michelangelo

You have things within you that are perfect for those kids you are leading because you have the opportunity to see underneath all that marble and see those things that aren’t them, that life piles onto them.  You’re not all that other stuff piled on

When life says to you, there is literally nothing you can do to control this. Nothing negligent occurred, it’s just what happened.  

Sometimes when we overlook its because we are too dang tired or are in trauma and are in fight or flight and we are truly doing the best we can do.

Where does the choice fall.  Base it on your value systems.

Do I want to have post traumatic stress or growth.  

Every piece of pain we go through can become an ally.  Can become a piece of our story, compassion, personal acceptance, understanding of what others go through.

I don’t know one single person who sustains healthy growth because they were beaten there.

STaying in stress frequency, is rooted in guilt and shame.  I need to protect and prevent and fix everything.

Threats coming at our kids daily, getting wounded daily.

How I want to orient myself is not fighting darkness I want to orient myself by facing and seeking light.  You will see two different worlds.

If we are seeing, we live in a time where we have more threats, darkness, issues.

There is the opposite, there is more light, strength and love in the world than there has ever been.  That’s where I want to approach it.

As heavy as things are, never have there been more resources. 

We have more strong, resilient, more savvy, more capable young people. They are perfectly equipped for their lives, they are powerhouse beings.

How do we focus on that strength?

Focus our home on that light, on that goodness. Orient our homes to solutions, not problems.

I want my home to be the safest space for my children to fail.

What a gift to give our kids a safe space to fail.

You are in the best time to parent that kiddo and there’s never been more resources or a tribe to find support.

YOU'RE CRUSHING IT PARENTS!!

You are built for what you have been called to build.  These kids are yours. You are not in accidental surroundings. If you picked epic, you’re built for it.

Come home to yourself. 

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