Emily Hamblin shares her own struggles throughout her life.  She discovered she has ADHD when her own child was diagnosed which says explains a lot about her growing up years.  She shares with us some of the struggles her son has had in school and at home with behaviors, paying attention and emotional regulation.  

Before she realized her son was neurodivergent, she took his behaviors personally.  She felt he was disrespecting her and was misbehaving to rebel or spite her.  Finally when he was diagnosed and she researched his condition, she realized he couldn't help many of his behaviors and needed help and support, not yelling and punishment.   Her son is "twice exceptional" which is children who are gifted and have exceptional abilities academically but also have some challenges such as autism, ADHD, Tourette syndrome etc.

Emily shares 3 things she learned in helping her with a goal to yell at her children less.  She says she has decreased her yelling by 90%

1.  Gaining a better understanding of her child, why they struggle.  Looking at the root cause of the challenging behaviors and realizing they are a symptom of a deeper need or lack of skill.

2.  Identifying why she would snap and yell.  Knowing her own triggers.  Maybe she was exhausted or hungry, or worried or frustrated.  Maybe her child's behavior brought up something from her own childhood.

3. Figuring out other ways to meet her needs and her Childs.

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