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Hello, I'm Elise Myers. I am super
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excited to share with you my appearance on Mike
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Birbiglia's Working It Out podcast. You know
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Mike Birbiglia. He's an award-winning comedian,
1:31
actor, filmmaker, author. He's
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also the host of the podcast Working It Out, where
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he invites creatives like Bill Hader, Stephen
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Colbert, Quinta Brunson, Ira Glass,
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Drew Barrymore, and they discuss their creative process
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and work out material. It's like being a fly
1:45
on the wall for a creative writing session. I
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was on Working It Out last month, so I'm going to share that
1:49
episode with you right now. Mike and I talk
1:51
storytelling, and he makes a very strong
1:53
case for me to be telling stories live on
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a stage. I also give him some notes and ideas
1:58
on two stories that he's working on for his podcast. hour
2:00
of comedy. It was so fun and I think
2:02
that you're really gonna enjoy it.
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You talk about postpartum depression that
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you experienced and how, and
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you describe it,
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and I'm gonna do a terrible job
2:28
of explaining this, but you describe it through the
2:30
specificity of your hands and
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you're going through depression. And
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it was one of those things where I was like, you have
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this really specific approach
2:40
which is attacking a really
2:42
macro idea with
2:45
mundane smaller things. I was just
2:48
curious, like how do you arrive at that?
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Well, honestly, I think that it
2:51
comes from like, I can't interpret postpartum depression
2:54
for anybody else. I can't interpret most
2:57
common shared experiences through any
2:59
other lens of my own. And so to me,
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it's like if I try and personalize
3:03
something so big to so small, it's like this is
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how I experienced this thing. In
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one part of my brain, I'm like, well, then that's not relevant to
3:12
anybody else because that's just your experience. But in
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doing that and breaking into such a molecular
3:16
level of like my postpartum depression
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was experienced and started to, I kind of
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like found my way out of it by looking in my hands and going,
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these are the same hands you got married with. Like people
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hear that and though it feels so personal to me,
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they're like, no, I have felt that too. But
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because it's so specific, they feel like
3:32
you're reading their mind. And that is like an
3:34
instant connection point. It's not, I'm not
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trying to manipulate anybody. I'm not trying to like make
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this relatable. I just, I want
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to give people such specific information
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about my life and my feelings and the way I experience
3:45
something so that just on the off chance
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that they have also experienced that, I don't
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have to explain to you anything else about
3:51
postpartum depression. I know, or you
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know that I know that we have experienced the same
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thing. And I think that like, that's
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my goal is like, I want to talk to you.
3:59
about big things, big things, but make them feel
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like you're reading my diary in like a non-traumatic
4:05
way. Like not like so uncomfortable that you're like,
4:08
I shouldn't be reading this, but like so personal
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that you're like me too, same.
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And it's interesting because like you're talking
4:13
about like using the specific
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to convey a universal and
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like that's, you know, that's an idea
4:21
that people talk about in writing all the time but you do
4:23
it so effectively. And cause I found like when I was hearing
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you tell that story, I'm like, oh yeah, I totally
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know what she means. And yet I
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did not
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do that. I did not look at
4:33
my hands. I did not, blah, blah, blah. But for
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me, it's like kind of like my sleepwalking story where
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it's like, I jumped through second story window. Very few
4:40
people have done that. Right. But
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I do think. I hope not a lot. But
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hopefully you tell, I tell this during a way
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where people go, oh, I have a thing like
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that where I'm uncomfortable telling
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that about myself.
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Well, you, the way that you do, and I feel
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like we're similar in this is that you're not talking
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so much about the experience. You're talking about
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how you internalized it. And that is
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what makes it relatable as well. Cause it's like someone
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doesn't have to have had to jump out of a second story window,
5:07
but you can explain how it felt, what you
5:09
were thinking. And like that whole, that's a whole
5:11
journey that you can feel about messing up
5:14
someone else's name when like calling out their coffee order.
5:16
That doesn't have to be so extreme. Like someone
5:18
with anxiety can literally feel like messing up someone's
5:20
name is like jumping out of a second story window. And like,
5:23
those are the same
5:23
feelings. And so being able
5:26
to express that internal
5:28
dialogue that's happening with you in your life is like
5:30
the most crucial part, I think, of making any
5:33
situation relatable to somebody.
5:34
It's interesting, like they're, Jessica
5:36
Gross wrote this piece in the Times recently
5:39
about, she
5:42
was talking about Maggie Smith's book
5:44
that just came out and John Mulaney's
5:46
comedy special that just came out and how both
5:50
of them call
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out that
5:53
they're telling autobiographical stories, but
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this is the part I'm choosing to tell
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you. And.
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and they just hang
6:02
a lantern on it. And that was really interesting.
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And it's like, I was thinking about with
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your stuff, like, do you have
6:09
a code for yourself of like, I'm not gonna talk about
6:12
these things?
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I think that some of it is a feeling,
6:16
some of it's pre like decided. I
6:18
think that if it's not my story to tell,
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that's an immediate no. Like if it's
6:22
not, if I'm breaking the, like
6:24
crossing a line of like sharing information that it's
6:27
just not mine. Like that's not a story I tell, but then
6:29
there's stuff that is mine to tell, but
6:32
it directly affects people that I love. And
6:35
that's, if they're not the ones that have decided to be in
6:37
this position and in the spotlight, like they've
6:39
not asked for this life. Like, so that's not fair either.
6:42
So there's some of that. And then some
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of it's like, I just want some
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of my life to be private. And
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I want my family to feel like we're still a family
6:52
and it's not the three of us. And then the rest of the
6:54
world as well also in our home all the time. And
6:57
so a lot of it is like just between me
6:59
and my husband, like we share stories about us.
7:01
We don't really talk about our son very much or like,
7:05
yeah, we try and have these like very loose
7:07
boundaries that are probably gonna change and sometimes
7:10
grow and sometimes get much closer and
7:12
keep things more close to us. But I
7:15
know that there are things that we don't share, but it's kind
7:17
of just a figured out as we go, but
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some things you just have a gut feeling of like, this just isn't
7:21
my story to tell. Do you have a very
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clear cut
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answer? Mine's pretty clear. It's like, there's
7:27
people in my life who I talk about a lot, like
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my wife Jenny and our daughter
7:32
Una and
7:35
my brother Joe and my parents. But
7:39
yeah, I'm not,
7:42
I don't post photos of my daughter.
7:45
I feel like that's her life. And
7:48
I think increasingly I'm talking less about
7:50
her, like in the last show. She has
7:53
like five or six lines, whereas in the new
7:55
one when she was a baby, I
7:57
feel like
7:58
it could be any baby. the things
8:00
that occur. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what I mean? I'm
8:02
curious, like for you specifically, and I know it's your podcast,
8:05
so you can cut all this up, but like what is it like doing
8:07
all of this while still having a family? And like,
8:10
how do you balance that? Cause I'm trying to
8:12
find that right now. I
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don't think it's possible. Okay.
8:17
That's a really honest answer. It's a bad news story,
8:19
I believe. Thank you. No,
8:22
I think, I mean, one thing I'm lucky
8:24
about is that my wife, Jenny,
8:26
is a poet
8:28
and she reads
8:30
my stuff and I read her stuff and
8:32
we interact on, you
8:34
know, and so if there's stuff that she
8:36
doesn't like, and I
8:38
didn't say that, I said more like this
8:40
and blah, blah, blah, we talk it out. And a lot
8:42
of times over the years, with the new
8:45
one, she was a writer, accredited writer
8:47
on the show. And it's like,
8:50
I feel like we get through it, but it's also, it doesn't
8:52
mean it's not challenging. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
8:54
It's definitely like, you know, because
8:57
in marriage, you have two people who
9:00
are witnessing almost identical events
9:03
and remembering them two very different ways.
9:05
Yeah, 100%, yeah. So
9:08
like.
9:09
Oh my gosh, yes. So
9:11
like, I have a joke, usually
9:13
I do this in the material section, but I'll just say a joke that
9:16
I have that's new at my show, which is like,
9:19
many years ago, we were in Chicago,
9:21
Jenny and I are on an elevator,
9:24
a hotel elevator coming down and we had stayed in the hotel
9:26
before. And I said to her, I go, it
9:29
just occurred to me, oh,
9:30
we stayed in this hotel before and
9:33
you loved the cafe in
9:35
the lobby. And then her
9:37
response was, she goes, who did?
9:40
And I was like, oh no, because who
9:42
did? She's like, who else did you
9:44
stay here with? Right,
9:46
you got that very quickly. Sometimes
9:48
the audiences don't get it as quickly. So the subtext
9:50
of it is, A, you know, that wasn't
9:52
me. B, that must've been
9:54
someone else you were seeing.
9:56
C, I'm not happy about this. And
9:59
you get to the level. The lobby door's open.
10:05
And she goes, I love this cafe. And
10:10
I was like, I almost died in the elevator.
10:15
And you just casually
10:16
remember that I'm right. So
10:20
anyway,
10:20
so now Jenny and I, we have a
10:23
safe word in our marriage and it's who did. That's
10:25
a so many layers because I could
10:27
see someone interpreting that as like, did I love
10:30
it or did you love it? Or like,
10:33
did I love it or did someone else that you stayed here
10:35
with love it? Because that's how
10:37
I would have interpreted the who did first. But
10:39
then the second time, no, he thought it was someone
10:41
else. I don't even know.
10:44
Literally over the years, we've
10:46
had a lot of who did's. I mean, that's
10:49
the thing about, I mean, this
10:51
speaks to storytelling in a general sense too. It's
10:54
like, we're all remembering
10:56
things in different ways. The
10:59
way we perceive everything. I'm
11:02
very visual. And
11:04
Jen has an extraordinary sense
11:06
of hearing and smell. And my sense
11:08
of smell is junk. Great.
11:11
Love that for you. So
11:16
like she'll be like, I smell mildew
11:18
and I'm like, I smell nothing. I
11:20
haven't smelled anything for years. Yeah.
11:22
Yeah. First of all, I am the smell 100 percent.
11:25
Yeah. Jonas is the auditory. I am the smell.
11:27
I am the long term memory.
11:29
Jonas is the short term memory. Like I
11:32
cannot remember what happened yesterday, but I could literally word
11:34
for word, detail for detail, tell you the
11:36
time that I like sucked on a penny to get out of school
11:38
and ended up accidentally faking an appendicitis.
11:42
She
11:42
slept on a penny? Sucked
11:44
on a penny. Sucked on a penny.
11:45
I heard a rumor that if you sucked on a
11:47
penny, it would make your mouth really hot. And you remember
11:49
like the temperature, like thermometers that
11:51
had the blue dots that you like. Sure. Yeah. And so
11:54
it like was off the charts and she's like, oh
11:56
my gosh. So then did a digital one. And then she was like, you
11:58
need to go to the hospital right now.
11:59
like 110 degrees, like so
12:02
hot from this penny. Have you heard that? Do you
12:04
hear this story? No, no, I
12:06
heard it. Okay. Well, so then, yeah, so
12:08
then I'm like faking it and I'm really
12:10
trying to sell it because my first two friends went in before
12:12
me and they couldn't sell it. And so I was like, well, it's
12:14
up to me now. You know what I mean? I really want to go
12:16
home. So now I'm like, I'm very unwell.
12:18
And she's like,
12:19
you need to go to the doctor. And I'm like, that's not what,
12:21
I just wanted to go home. I don't want to go to the doctor. That
12:23
like ruins the whole point. So then I
12:26
am going to the doctor and the doc. And I'm like, now I'm
12:28
like, I have a side ache, like my lower, my side.
12:31
And my doctor's like, you need to take her across
12:33
the street to like the pediatrician hospital,
12:36
or child's hospital right now.
12:37
And how old are you at this point? I'm in second
12:39
grade. Oh, wow. And then
12:42
now I'm trying, like from the doctors to the hospital
12:44
trying to tell them like,
12:46
I was lying. But now they think I'm telling
12:48
them, I'm like lying about lying because they think
12:50
I just don't want to go to the hospital. Right. And
12:52
they were like, you definitely have an appendicitis. You're in denial. And
12:55
I was like, I do not. I just wanted a day off.
12:57
Like, please do not like take me to the hospital. I
12:59
was admitted for three days. Because
13:02
they could not believe that I was lying because
13:04
they just thought I was afraid.
13:05
At that point you had told them. Everyone. I
13:08
had told everybody. I tried to fake
13:10
you out. And they were like, well, now we
13:12
have to check. Because with a kid,
13:14
they're very cautious about like parent
13:17
and child dynamic and like, and you're
13:19
safe at home, like all of that. So all of that was happening.
13:21
And I'm just, I just
13:23
felt so bad. I'm trying to tell my mom, I lied.
13:26
So she's trying to tell them that I lied. And
13:28
then that makes it look worse. Because if a parent's like,
13:30
kids are lying, then that's like,
13:32
makes it even. It was a whole
13:34
situation. And finally I got out. Yeah.
13:37
And I shared a room with a girl. Why do they feel like they have to
13:39
lie? Yes. Why does she need to lie to get out
13:41
of school? Like all of it. And I
13:44
shared a room with a girl that was actually
13:46
like had an appendicitis. And it was like, I'm about to burst.
13:48
Like get me out of here. Like my appendix doesn't want to be in my
13:50
body anymore. And I'm just sitting there
13:52
like, can I order another thing of mashed potatoes?
13:54
Cause those were so good. Oh my God. Like,
13:57
yeah. So I got my day off.
13:58
You were in it for three days. Three days. Oh
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my gosh. I don't remember why I started that story.
14:03
Oh, the sucked on a penny. Memory. Oh,
14:06
memory, yeah, so there you go, see? No short term
14:08
memory, but I have a very good
14:09
one. See? See? See?
14:12
See? Why were we
14:14
talking about that?
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Memory,
14:19
see? See? Very strong.
14:21
That was great. Very strong and seen.
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That's why you know you this week though. I was
16:53
like, I was a senior episode, we
16:55
talk about how you don't perform on stage. Yeah. And
16:57
I think your wonderful storyteller and I feel like you could
16:59
really connect with people if you
17:02
were in a room with them in a way that
17:04
what you do on socials
17:07
is deep, but I think that in a room
17:09
could be deep in a different way. And you,
17:11
on your podcast,
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which I love, you said I'm
17:16
just terrified of being
17:18
in front of people.
17:19
And then I was like,
17:22
so then I'm doing a bunch of shows
17:24
and working out new material. And I was like, you know, you could
17:26
just, if you wanted to, you could just pop in, be
17:29
an unbuilt guest, you know, no one
17:31
would know you. It would just be like, my
17:33
friend Elise is here, she can tell story for seven
17:35
minutes and whatever. And then you could, then
17:37
you wouldn't be afraid of it anymore. And then you were like,
17:39
that's definitely how it works too. Yeah.
17:44
You've definitely out
17:47
here. Burned. That's
17:50
on me, that's not on you. I love that you're so confident
17:52
in yourself that you're like, and then it's done, you're cured.
17:55
And then that's it. Weirdly, I
17:57
believe that to be true. And I stand
17:59
by it. I believe that you believe that, 100%
18:03
A burned man standing
18:05
before you. You're not working. I double
18:08
down. I double
18:09
down on it. But that is why you're doing what you're doing,
18:12
is because you have such confidence.
18:14
And I know I can't, I'm not, I don't think I can't
18:16
do it. I know I can do it. Of course you can do it. And
18:18
like, it's the,
18:20
it's, you wanna know what it is? Honestly,
18:22
it's the fear that like, I
18:24
can't blame it on anyone else but me. I
18:26
get that. With online, I don't
18:29
have to have any immediate reaction from
18:31
anybody. I tell a story that I find
18:33
funny. And if you don't like it,
18:36
then you're just not gonna see the video and that's fine.
18:38
Cause I don't have to see your reaction. I don't have
18:40
to go in the comments. I can blame it on the algorithm
18:42
if it doesn't do well. Like there are so
18:45
many things that, that can
18:47
play into a video not getting seen.
18:49
And so if I am standing in
18:51
front of an audience and I say something
18:54
and it is silent,
18:56
I think I would just start crying.
18:59
Like genuinely I am
19:01
so,
19:02
I fake so much confidence that
19:05
that would be a moment. I could feel that a confidence
19:07
would genuinely crumble. Now
19:10
will that stop me from doing it? No, because
19:12
like I do not want there to be anything in my life that
19:14
I was like too afraid to do. So I just didn't do it.
19:17
So I want to get to that point. But
19:19
now it's the point where it's like the skill
19:22
of writing a set that is concise
19:24
and like performable in front of people and not edit
19:27
it. Like that is what I don't have. And
19:29
so I wouldn't even know where to start. If
19:31
you're to be like here's seven minutes.
19:32
Well then I'll tell you where to start. Yes. So
19:35
take the story you just told,
19:37
but fake and sick
19:38
and you just memorize it. You already know
19:40
it. Yeah. You go on stage
19:43
in an environment like being a guest
19:45
that I don't want my shows where like people aren't expecting
19:48
to see you and they go, okay, what's this? You
19:51
do three minutes. You tell that story. I'm
19:53
just going to tell you one story tonight and it
19:55
might not be funny. And then you tell the story and you
19:57
walk off stage and you go, ah. There's
20:00
a couple laughs. There's a laugh. Here's
20:02
a laugh. Here's a laugh. Here's a laugh here How come this
20:04
didn't get a laugh and then you start to take it apart
20:07
and just go like like, okay
20:10
If I supplemented a joke here or I dropped in
20:12
a joke that I tell usually in another story Here
20:15
or add color here and I think like
20:17
because
20:17
because here's my question to you is like it's
20:20
like what like in your mind
20:22
what's the worst thing that can happen like if I if I Had
20:25
three on stage in a black box theater with a hundred people
20:28
in the audience Like what like and is
20:30
like hey just do walk up and tell a story
20:32
for three or four minutes Just like we're doing now, but there's
20:34
a hundred people. Yeah, worst thing that happened. I
20:37
Think honestly the worst thing that could
20:39
happen is like Well,
20:43
I'm terrified of fainting in front of a bunch But
20:49
second like
20:50
I don't know how you do it with like if
20:52
someone has one impression of you That's the only time
20:54
they're ever gonna might see you on
20:56
and a performance and they're gonna walk away And
20:59
that is the thing they're gonna remember about you And
21:01
that's hard to change when somebody has formed
21:03
an opinion of like she's not good at this Yeah
21:05
like it's really hard to come back from that
21:08
versus like Someone being really good at something
21:10
once and then being terrible at it the next time being like oh, but she's
21:12
actually good I saw her last time. She's really good.
21:15
So I don't I that's just a confidence
21:17
thing to like like not caring Like
21:20
I'm gonna I'm gonna do a double step
21:23
Process for you getting on stage because
21:25
I'm taking I'm taking apart all of them
21:27
I'm thinking wait all the very well did
21:29
they say this I mean this is like an old thing in sales It's
21:31
like it's like if someone doesn't want to buy
21:34
something go through all yeah, I'll
21:36
take all their objections be like, okay What
21:38
about this? What about this? How you know and
21:40
with yours is like, okay. Well people
21:43
will be like, oh, she's not good at this
21:45
Well, then we do
21:47
a thing where I do
21:49
a show somewhere. You're not billed No
21:51
one knows you there. I got mean build people.
21:53
It's not featuring Elise Myers.
21:55
I thought you mean like invoice like Like
21:58
I'm gonna bill her for that. I'm just like I
22:00
didn't realize that's how that worked. That feels backwards. So
22:02
I charge you $40,000 to walk on stage with me, because
22:07
honestly it's gonna pay off in the long term.
22:09
It's an investment in your future. Like
22:12
you're on my stage, this is great for
22:14
you. It's my weird pyramid
22:17
scheme in my middle age. And you
22:19
go and you get 10 comedians and
22:21
you can take a cut of that 40 grand.
22:24
And at the end of the day, you'll be a millionaire.
22:26
You have a real conspiratorial
22:29
mind, Elise Myers. I'm
22:31
just afraid of everything. Yeah, exactly. You're
22:35
really throwing punches where there's no
22:37
foe.
22:38
I've seen so many documentaries about
22:40
MLMs. It's amazing. No, so
22:42
here's the plan. Here's the plan.
22:43
So we're in mass and you're unbuilt. In
22:46
other words, it doesn't say Elise Myers anywhere on the
22:48
thing. It's just a Mike Purbiglia show. In
22:51
the middle of the show you go, oh,
22:53
my friend is here tonight. She's one of my favorite
22:55
storytellers. I'm gonna bring her on stage. Please
22:57
welcome my buddy, Elise Myers. And
23:00
you come on stage,
23:01
we have two microphones.
23:03
I go, will you tell the story about this?
23:06
You tell the story, we're both on stage. And
23:08
then you're like, oh, okay. And then it's like
23:10
the two person thing. And then you go, well,
23:12
what would it be like if it was one person, just me
23:15
the next time? It's like a stair
23:17
step. I really like that. I
23:20
really like that. I think honestly,
23:23
anything is possible. I
23:26
really genuinely feel like the fears
23:28
that you're asking me about and I'm telling you about aren't things that are gonna keep
23:30
me from doing it from this point forward. It's just like,
23:33
this is the irrational thing that's happening in my brain
23:35
that gets in the way as I try and write. And
23:37
so the longer that I've been in this career too and
23:40
the more people I've met and the bigger the crowds
23:42
that I've spoken to just about, even
23:44
yesterday, the event, things
23:45
like that. Oh, so you've done that, which is the
23:47
same thing basically. Yeah, I'm not,
23:49
but the pressure to make people laugh.
23:52
You did an event yesterday where you were
23:54
kind of on a panel. Someone
23:56
asking just me questions. But the
23:58
pressure to be funny, that is...
23:59
is the part that is like
24:01
the scary part for me. Because
24:04
I feel very comfortable talking. It's
24:06
like, it's just, I don't know. It's like this weird,
24:09
it's like when I get asked to like act
24:11
in something, I'm aware that you know I'm acting
24:14
and so I feel like I'm lying and you're like, she's lying.
24:16
She's acting, this isn't her. So
24:19
the weird understanding of like, I'm at a comedy
24:21
show and this person's gonna make me laugh is that
24:23
is, what's interesting, because that pressure isn't
24:26
in a TikTok, because nobody
24:28
knows the point of a video when it
24:30
starts. Whatever
24:31
happens in the video happens. And it's like,
24:34
so at a comedy show, the expectation
24:36
is like, you need to be funny, you need to make me laugh.
24:39
And then that's where I feel like if I don't meet
24:41
that, I've totally failed. But it's just,
24:43
that just comes from an experience. And so I
24:46
think that learning how to structure a story and
24:49
honestly, I was gonna ask you like, so if I were to tell a
24:51
story on a stage,
24:53
because it's like the punchline situation,
24:55
like. The punchline
24:57
situation. I mean like the actual jail part. That should be the name
24:59
of your comedy. This whole punchline situation,
25:02
look, listen. And if
25:04
I always fail, just like go to like Jerry's time, be like,
25:06
you like
25:07
jazz, like just go straight there. It's like
25:09
the comedy equivalent of like, and then I found $5 kind of
25:11
a thing. But anyways. I don't follow that. Oh.
25:16
Like, have you ever been telling
25:18
a horror, maybe it's not a well-known thing, maybe it's my
25:20
brothers and me. You know, like when you were telling a
25:22
story and someone's like, this is not
25:24
an interesting story. And then you're like, and then I found $5.
25:28
Oh,
25:28
that's very funny. I like
25:30
that a lot. And then someone's
25:32
like, oh my God, no way. And so it
25:34
makes everything else you just said completely irrelevant.
25:37
Did you make that up? I don't know. I thought
25:39
everyone did that.
25:39
You thought that that was like a street joke. Like it's
25:42
common demand. Well, yeah,
25:44
but then you and my brothers like burn each other. Cause if you're
25:46
telling a really like boring story, you're
25:48
like, did you find $5 after that? Oh
25:50
my God, that's so funny. My
25:52
joke about that is that Net Universe is that I
25:54
go, like once a week, my
25:56
dad will call me and he'll be like
25:59
the crazy. the craziest thing happened. I'm like, what?
26:02
He'll be like, I was at the hardware store and
26:05
I was talking to someone and they had heard of you.
26:08
And I was like, that's not the craziest thing. That's
26:10
not a story even. That's not the crazy,
26:13
that is a fact. That's not even a story. Yeah, that's just
26:15
the thing that happened. That is a fact about your day. Yeah. I
26:17
find that very often
26:20
people will come up to me and they'll be
26:22
like, I have a crazy story. And then
26:25
they tell it and you go, you're kind of waiting for
26:27
the story to start. But actually last night I
26:29
was doing this benefit show where
26:32
a guy actually told me when that was pretty good. Like
26:34
when he first met his wife,
26:37
I think it was his mother-in-law was
26:40
making chicken and they ran out of chicken. And
26:42
then she offered, she
26:45
was like, she was offering everybody more chicken and someone
26:47
said yes and there wasn't chicken. So she literally did
26:50
the thing where she covered bones
26:52
with skin and put it on someone's plate.
26:54
And then the person was just
26:56
like, but this is not
27:00
chicken. And it was like one of the
27:02
rare moments where I was like, this is a pretty good
27:04
story. Was this a party
27:06
or just like was it a night? Yeah, it was
27:08
like him, I think it was him meeting his wife many years
27:10
ago and it was like, is the in-laws? Did
27:13
people watch it happen? I think
27:15
so. I think it was like pretty outward
27:17
facing at the party. Like it was a thing
27:19
that happened. I know and
27:21
I was like, that's an- I have so many questions. No,
27:23
but I don't have the answers. It's not my story.
27:26
But I did that, I said to him, I go, usually
27:29
people tell me stories and they're not that great.
27:31
And that actually is kind of a great tidbit.
27:33
I would love for someone to tell me
27:35
that story for 10 minutes with every detail
27:37
that I possibly get. All
27:39
right, but back to you performing. So like, okay, then
27:42
this is the key pivot. This
27:44
is where it becomes actualized.
27:48
Yeah. What's the upside of
27:51
you telling a story on stage? Oh,
27:53
I conquer one of my greatest fears and it's a huge
27:55
success and I keep doing
27:58
it. Three. I'm wildly
28:00
successful as a standup comedian. Okay. I
28:04
have a lot of fun doing it. That's five,
28:06
I'll give you six. You
28:08
make people happy. Oh, yeah.
28:11
I think you would. We
28:14
can do it. You'd make people happy. Thank
28:16
you, I receive that. People would be so happy. Thank you. I
28:20
just think there's nothing that compares to
28:22
the live experience. Although I have to say, like,
28:25
what is the thing that when you're making these videos
28:28
that's most gratifying?
28:30
So I've talked about it a little bit. I have three like
28:33
values that I, it sounds so serious, but
28:35
like, I have three values that I cycle
28:37
every single piece of content through is, or filter
28:40
through is to make people feel like known,
28:42
loved, and like they belong. Aww. And
28:45
which is like so sappy. It's like, that's not funny. Not sappy. But
28:48
with all of that,
28:49
when I tell stories that people can relate
28:51
to, that's like the known. It's like, that's why it's funny
28:53
is like, that's me in that story. Or like, when
28:56
I encourage people, I want them to feel loved if they don't have
28:58
that in their life and like, like they belong. I
29:00
want to build that community in my content, which
29:02
is why I'm always in my comments and why I
29:04
don't tell jokes that put other people down.
29:07
And like, that's just because that's my style of comedy. Yeah.
29:10
And so those three things are my goal. And so while that
29:12
might not sound funny, comedy
29:14
can happen through those and still bring a lot of value
29:16
to people's lives. So at the end of the day, the laugh
29:18
is great, but that's not
29:19
the end goal. It's to make people know and loved
29:21
or like they belong.
29:22
Yeah. This
29:28
is called the slow round.
29:30
What's a song that makes you cry?
29:33
Oh gosh. I'm,
29:38
this answer is gonna be very unexpected.
29:42
I'm not like a religious person, but
29:44
during Christmas time, when I hear, at Mary,
29:46
did you know, it really gets me.
29:49
I don't know it. Can you sing the
29:51
melody? Mary, did you know when your
29:53
baby boy, duh duh duh, gives
29:56
side to a blind man. It's like, it's
29:58
a song talking to Mary about her.
29:59
like did you know your son was gonna
30:02
be Jesus? I think this must
30:04
be like a local Omaha thing. It's really
30:06
not, Clay Aiken's saying it. Oh
30:08
really? Yeah. I
30:11
know. Did Eric get rid of it? Yeah.
30:13
Oh okay, okay. Oh it's a big song. It's a huge
30:15
song. Oh it's a big song, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
30:17
But it's feel, because now especially being a mom, I don't,
30:19
that song, I'm just like, my son's gonna be
30:21
great about it. Like it's a very, it's
30:23
a big. Your son's gonna be Jesus. No, no,
30:26
but it's a very powerful image
30:28
of like talking to a mom about like, did you
30:30
have any clue like what your son
30:32
would do
30:33
one day? Oh, that's sweet. It's a little
30:35
bit like Dear Theodosia's like that. Where
30:37
it's like emotional. It is. In
30:39
this kind of letter to my child.
30:40
Yeah, now whether you believe the stories
30:44
that are being sung about, the
30:46
theme is like
30:48
this man did these great things and you're
30:50
singing to the mom of this man of like, did you have
30:53
any clue he would do, and that's a
30:54
very powerful image. That song always makes me cry.
30:57
Yeah, that's a good one. What about you?
30:59
I can't make you love me,
31:01
Bonnie, right? Okay.
31:03
What's a specific place that
31:06
isn't your home where you feel like home? Man.
31:13
That isn't my home that I feel like home. This
31:18
isn't like a place, but it's like a place within any place
31:20
is on the floor, behind
31:22
like a chair or couch where I'm like hiding.
31:25
I love that. I feel so
31:27
dark. No, no, I don't think it's dark.
31:29
I really like being in small spaces that feel
31:31
like my own that I'm like, I'm good.
31:34
No one's gonna come like bother me here. You're
31:36
like a cat. Yeah, I'm
31:38
a cat. My cats do that. Yeah, I'm a cat.
31:41
You can't, you have cats? No, I
31:43
am a cat. You are a cat, yeah. But like,
31:45
yeah, my cats go places and we're
31:48
like, I guess the cats ran away.
31:50
I think she died down there, I don't really know. But
31:54
we can't find them. Yeah. I guess
31:56
they got out. Yeah, that was like always
31:58
my signal to my roommates.
31:59
that I would work on the floor, I'd
32:02
have my laptop on the ground and we had a
32:04
table, we have chairs, I could have gone anywhere, but
32:06
we had a couch that was kind of back
32:08
to facing the sliding door to
32:10
our balcony and I would lay on the floor and do
32:13
all of my homework there and it was kind of like this unspoken
32:15
thing of if I'm here, kind of just
32:17
life is a little bit too much and I just wanna be here
32:19
and do my work and I'll come out and everything
32:22
will be good and we don't have to talk about it. So
32:24
that's a very good hard read set for
32:26
me. I love that. Thanks. I have a
32:28
good connection to like
32:29
my parents' childhood carpet.
32:32
Like when I was a kid, their bedroom carpet
32:34
in the summer
32:35
when, because they had the only air conditioning unit
32:37
in the house and so when it got super
32:40
hot in Massachusetts in the summer and
32:42
it got really hot, I would
32:44
go in and sleep on the floor and I remember the smell
32:46
of the carpet. Would the carpet get cold if you,
32:48
if like no one walked in, I love that. It's nice.
32:52
Oh. And very, yeah, very nostalgic for
32:54
me. You talk about
32:56
this one of your stories. Maybe you don't wanna do
32:58
it. Do
32:59
you remember the toughest crush from your childhood?
33:04
Yeah, I do. I do. It
33:07
was a boy I really, really liked and we dated
33:10
and he was like my best friend and we actually dated
33:13
twice the first time he
33:15
asked me out as a prank and like, Yes,
33:17
I said. And then we like dated but like we didn't talk for her
33:19
the whole week we dated and then like I got broken up with
33:21
by like a casual conversation. Like
33:23
we're not dating still, right? Right, of course.
33:26
The second time we
33:28
dated for like a year and we were like best friends
33:30
and we just never, we were never meant to date,
33:33
we were always meant to be best friends but we didn't know that
33:35
because you think if you like someone
33:37
and they're the opposite gender and you're in high school, then
33:39
the natural next step is like then we should
33:42
date but like never like just stay friends.
33:44
And we dated and then one day we
33:46
were like,
33:47
we should just go back to being best friends and
33:50
we just did and nothing changed. Like we
33:52
were just like very, very good friends
33:54
and we still communicate today and it's like
33:56
really, really sweet.
33:57
What's your take away from the experience?
34:00
I think that like not everything
34:03
that you, not everything that's good needs to be elevated
34:05
to be more than that. Like sometimes it's okay
34:08
that like something that's like good, just
34:10
leaving it good, it doesn't have to be like great. Like yeah,
34:13
because great could ruin good and like just
34:15
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This is a section of the show called From
37:04
the Notebook. Oh, yes. And
37:07
it's, I'll start with this one. One
37:10
morning I'm at a cafe and I
37:12
dropped, Una was three at the time, at
37:14
the like musical camp or ballet
37:16
or
37:17
some kind of group activity where you can leave your child for
37:19
three hours. It could have been like
37:21
a bin that said toddlers and
37:23
I would be like, dropped her in and been like, enjoy
37:26
bin class. And
37:28
so I'm with the other like bin
37:31
class parents at the
37:33
cafe and I'm exhausted
37:36
holding a coffee.
37:37
And I look up to sort of take in the
37:40
nature of the day.
37:41
And from about 30 feet in the air,
37:43
a bird shits in my eye,
37:45
like directly into my eye.
37:48
And first of all, great aim, bird.
37:52
Way to go, bird. You really nailed
37:55
it. Second of all, if this hasn't
37:57
happened to you, all you need to know is that anything
37:59
dropped from 30 feet in the air and your eye
38:01
hurts physically a lot. Yes. But
38:04
when the cumbersome liquid pellet
38:06
is fecal matter, it hurts spiritually.
38:10
The whole emotional. And I shouted,
38:13
I go, ah. Or
38:16
as my daughter, Una, uses
38:19
when describing her favorite dinosaur, the Hooting
38:21
Hydrosaur, I squawked. I squawked.
38:24
I'm gonna need to hear an example of that. It's like, ah.
38:27
Okay, okay. So the moment
38:29
I squawked, my friend
38:31
Rob, who is with me, knows I'm a comedian,
38:33
looks over to me,
38:35
and he goes, well, it's
38:36
good material. Yeah. And
38:39
I was like, Rob, there's
38:41
still bird shit in my eye. This
38:44
is something you say after I've cleaned it up.
38:47
It's comedy tragedy plus time. And
38:49
I still have the bird shit in my eye. There's no time
38:51
yet. Yeah, we're gonna need it. Yeah, we're
38:53
at zero seconds past.
38:56
And I jocked back into the
38:58
coffee shop. I asked for a glass of water, flushed my
39:00
eye with water. On
39:02
the plus side,
39:03
the bird shit really woke me up.
39:06
Which
39:08
was the point of the cafe in the first place,
39:10
right? And then. Oh my God, that's
39:13
so disgusting. The coffee was nice, but the 70
39:15
mile an hour bird shit delivery
39:17
really closed the deal. It really did happen.
39:20
I feel like they could market that as a bird shit
39:22
latte. You drink two shots of espresso,
39:24
a bird shit's in your eye, 40 bucks. A
39:27
charté. Exactly, in Northern
39:29
California, they'd call it a bird
39:31
shit cleanse. People
39:34
would say, have you done the bird shit cleanse? Fun, a
39:36
little expensive, but they do have to pay
39:38
the pigeon wrangler. My
39:41
bird shit experience drove home a larger
39:43
point in my life, which is that comedy is tragedy
39:45
plus time or very least pain plus
39:47
a year. So as I arrive
39:50
at middle age, I've started to zero in on
39:52
my purpose. And I think it's to share stories
39:55
that weren't funny at the time,
39:57
but I'd like to think are funny now. And
39:59
of course, I'm just.
39:59
I'm mocking myself to be clear, in
40:06
my stories, because in my stories, for
40:08
the most part, I'm the joke later, which
40:11
is harkens back to a line from another special. No
40:13
hate to the bird. I love the
40:15
bird. I just go really deep. Exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah,
40:17
the target of the joke is the bird somehow. Like,
40:21
let me get this, like, I want you to get this straight. I
40:23
am not against birds. Like, so driving
40:25
that home of like, no one literally
40:27
thought you were anti-birds until you are
40:30
trying to convince
40:30
me you're not. No, exactly, exactly.
40:33
And also Rob is maybe the villain, although Rob
40:35
is really just saying something that's true.
40:38
Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's like, oh, that'll be something. That'll,
40:40
yeah. And it is.
40:41
The, I
40:43
think that comedy is, you
40:46
know, tragedy plus time, and you're like, at least
40:48
pain plus a year.
40:49
Yeah. That is
40:52
like, that's a really
40:54
good point of the story where
40:56
you, it goes from funny to
40:58
like heartfelt, is like that's
41:00
a good little like, turn the corner there at that
41:02
moment. Thanks, yeah, it's funny. Like, I,
41:05
obviously your podcast is funny because it's true.
41:08
Yeah, I'm guessing. And like, you and I like
41:11
playing the similar sandbox
41:13
or playing the same sandbox of telling
41:15
stories. And it's like,
41:16
I always tell people,
41:19
you know, write
41:21
down what you're saddest about or angriest
41:24
about in a journal. Sometimes for yourself,
41:26
like it's helpful to just contextualize your
41:28
life as a story. And when you can
41:30
see your life as a story, you can zoom out and encourage
41:32
the main character to make better decisions.
41:34
Yeah, well, I mean, honestly, I
41:36
attribute a lot of my memory of like
41:39
back in the day, because I have done so much journaling.
41:42
I remember reading back what I wrote and that act
41:44
of like writing, reading, and like internalizing
41:47
helps you understand what you're experiencing, and then it also
41:50
helps you remember it. And so it's really
41:52
interesting, like if you are a creative in
41:54
any way, whether it is writing or it's art or
41:56
anything, I always suggest writing things down because
41:58
it allows you to do it.
41:59
you to add another layer of emotion where it's like you
42:02
experience things through somebody else in
42:04
yourself. Like you see it the way another person
42:06
would see it in your life. That
42:08
things are funny just sometimes because they're
42:10
true is like a really, really beautiful
42:13
thing because I think too as things are going
42:15
really horribly in your life, like I
42:18
have learned to laugh about them because I know
42:20
they will be funny later because I've made
42:22
them funny now from 10 years ago. And
42:24
so honestly, it
42:27
might be labeled as like a trauma response of just like
42:29
laughing when something horrible happens. You know, that
42:31
might not be healthy. But if you can
42:33
do it in a healthy way, I think it's like a very good way to
42:35
separate yourself from like horrible things that are happening
42:37
at the moment.
42:38
No, I think that's absolutely true. Yeah. Do
42:40
you have any stories you're working out or do you want me to just continue
42:43
and tell you one more story? Tell me one more story. Okay, great.
42:46
Usually I just do jokes, but since you're storytelling,
42:48
I'll tell you stories. I love it. All right. A
42:51
few years ago, Jenny and I rented a house in the country
42:54
for the holidays and it was very special
42:58
until we turned on the heat. And
43:01
then there just wasn't heat. Oh no,
43:03
oh no. And it's Thanksgiving. I called the
43:05
oil company and they said they could come
43:08
that night between 6.30 and 9.30 PM
43:11
with 10 gallons of oil to prime the heating system,
43:14
make sure it's ready for one of those like super
43:16
tankers of oil that drive around. And
43:18
before this incident, I didn't even know what
43:20
those things did. I just
43:24
saw them driving around. I thought maybe
43:27
those guys are just
43:29
driving around and they're
43:32
listening. Maybe they really like driving. Yeah, they just like driving.
43:34
They're listening to AM talk radio. They're making
43:36
jokes on the CB radio. Maybe they're
43:38
just perpetually driving in circles using
43:41
the oil in the tank.
43:42
That's just a reserve gas tank.
43:44
Exactly. So the window
43:46
was 6.30 to 9.30 and I wait in the doorway and
43:50
because it's one of those things where I'm like,
43:52
I'm not going to miss the window. No. And I'm
43:55
like a goaltender. I'm like blocking the
43:57
front steps. For three hours. For three
43:59
hours.
44:01
and no one showed up.
44:02
I called the company, the company's called Petro. And
44:06
I said, hey, it's 930, no one showed
44:08
up. And
44:10
they said, our guy said,
44:12
he showed up, no one answered the door, he left a
44:14
little card on your door. I go,
44:16
I'm on the door, no card. I've
44:19
been here the whole time. And I didn't shout,
44:23
but I was angry. He could sense
44:25
this.
44:26
And then he replied, happy
44:28
Thanksgiving, which
44:31
felt passive aggressive. Did
44:34
he hang up? No, he just said happy Thanksgiving. And
44:36
it was a good tactical move in hindsight.
44:39
It forced me to say happy Thanksgiving
44:41
to you too.
44:42
Like angry, like happy
44:45
Thanksgiving to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, happy
44:47
Thanksgiving. I said, happy Thanksgiving
44:50
to you too. Even though he was
44:52
completely fucking me over in real time lying
44:55
to me like the pilgrims. So
44:59
the Petro guy says,
45:00
the technician will come over to your house, that
45:03
he's after the house he's currently at.
45:06
Get a phone call at 1030, it's the technician.
45:10
And he says, I'm a half hour away. I say,
45:12
I'll stay up all night. So the man from Petro
45:14
shows up at 11, 15 PM. He gets out
45:16
of the van, he says, I am Petro. And I'm looking
45:18
at his truck
45:19
and says, Petro.
45:21
And I'm exhausted, like I'm like out of
45:23
it.
45:24
And I think there's no way his name is Petro.
45:26
And he works for a company named Petro. I can't
45:28
possibly call him Petro.
45:31
Cause he might be like, why would you call me
45:33
the name of my company?
45:35
And I'd be so embarrassed. So I go,
45:37
come on in man.
45:39
And it got me self-conscious about my use of the word
45:41
man. I was like, Pedro's
45:44
gotta be 10 years older than me. I'm using the casual
45:46
man all of a sudden. So
45:48
then I modified, I go, right this
45:51
way, sir.
45:52
And then I thought, what am I? I'm some kind of weird blue-blooded rich
45:54
guy who calls everyone sir. So
45:57
Pedro and I work on this for a little bit.
45:59
which means he works on it. I bring him tea. Yeah.
46:02
At 1 a.m. Pedro says, I don't know what
46:05
to tell you, Mike. I cannot fix this thing.
46:07
I said, okay, sir.
46:08
He tried to call his company, but his phone was doing
46:10
an update.
46:11
So I said, I'll call them.
46:14
I said, hi, this is Mike Birbiglia. I'm here
46:16
with, and I could see in Pedro's eyes that he
46:18
really thought I should know his name by now.
46:20
I said, the man from your company.
46:22
Oh. I'm
46:25
gonna put him on speaker so he can identify himself
46:27
and explain the rest. So
46:29
I put him on speaker and
46:31
he says, hi, this is Pedro. Got
46:33
it. Got it. In an evening full
46:35
of failures, at least I know his name is Pedro.
46:38
From that point on, I use the name Pedro a lot.
46:42
And I committed to memory by a mnemonic
46:45
device, which is Pedro works for Pedro.
46:48
So Pedro tells me this is way
46:50
over his head and that he's gonna send a technician
46:52
in the morning first thing to fix it. Then he tells
46:54
me to call Pedro in the morning
46:56
and explain that I
46:59
have a baby and that this is dangerous.
47:01
He knows I do not have a baby.
47:03
He knows my daughter's like five years old. And
47:05
then we've talked about our kids.
47:07
He knows we, I don't have a baby. He
47:09
knows my daughter's five. We've talked about our kids at this
47:11
point. We've spent a lot of time together in Pedro. But
47:16
apparently
47:17
if you want heat, you really have to raise the stakes.
47:21
You have to say you have a baby. And
47:25
so in the morning I wake up, I
47:27
call, I go,
47:28
you gotta understand we got a baby. This
47:31
baby might die. He's
47:33
like, oh no. And
47:36
you're all going to hell. Happy
47:39
Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving, exactly,
47:41
yeah, yeah. And so at 1 p.m.,
47:46
this guy Charlie comes over
47:48
and Charlie goes, I'm gonna get you heat.
47:51
And there's something about Charlie's confidence
47:53
that makes me feel like he's gonna get us heat. Also
47:56
made me want to have sex with Charlie, even though I'm
47:58
a heterosexual man.
47:59
I was happily married. I just thought, Charlie's
48:02
looking good. You're saving the day? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
48:04
You're saving my hypothetical baby. Yeah. This
48:07
is the line I wrote, I like cut it out, but
48:09
I wrote it for today.
48:11
I wrote, Charlie brought the heat, which
48:13
made me want to give him the heat. Maybe
48:16
it's too much, maybe it's too much. Char...
48:19
Yeah. Ha ha ha ha.
48:21
Ha ha ha ha. It might be too much.
48:24
It's something in that universe, because I've done
48:26
this on stage a couple of times, and made
48:28
me want to have sex with Charlie is actually
48:30
the biggest line in it right now. Yeah. Because
48:33
I think there's something relatable about when someone,
48:36
anyone, is wildly competent,
48:39
and you've been dealing with complete and total incompetence.
48:41
Like, you're just like, oh, I'm attracted to this person. I
48:44
think we'll be physically intimate. Yes, I think it's
48:46
time that we're physically intimate. An
48:48
hour later, Charlie fixes the heat, and I have
48:50
a $100 bill in my wallet
48:51
and nothing else. I never use cash, I ran
48:53
a $100 bill.
48:55
Charlie fixes the heat, I hand him a $100 bill. But
48:58
he goes, no, no, it's not a tipping thing.
49:00
You never know. And then I
49:02
take his hand, and I
49:05
put a $100 bill in his hand, and I go,
49:07
happy Thanksgiving. Ha ha ha ha. So
49:11
anyway, that's a news story. I've been doing that for
49:14
six weeks or something.
49:15
The baby situation is getting worse and worse. To
49:17
me is the funniest line. That
49:19
is the line. That's interesting. That is like, this
49:23
makes no sense. It makes no sense. It
49:26
conveys the entire idea of the whole
49:29
story, is the baby situation's getting worse
49:31
and worse. There's so much in that sentence.
49:34
So what I was gonna say too was, when
49:37
the part after you learned his name,
49:39
I wanted you to say his name so many more times
49:41
when you're talking about him. Oh yes, yes, Pedro,
49:44
come right in. I wanna talk to you about something. Yeah, but like
49:46
when you're talking. I wanna hear something else, Pedro. But again, when you're
49:48
talking to the audience about Pedro, and
49:50
then Pedro told me to say I had a baby,
49:54
because Pedro and I have been
49:55
talking to him. Oh, that's nice. From that
49:57
point on, Pedro gets said 100 times. A million
49:59
times. I love that. That's super strong. Yeah,
50:02
anyways, that's what I thought. You know, and maybe, and
50:04
just as we're talking about it out loud of like having
50:06
the, made me wanna have sex with Charlie. I mean,
50:09
it made me wanna have sex with Charlie, which goes to
50:11
the source of,
50:13
of I think the reason I'm fixing the heat in the
50:15
first place is I want my wife to want
50:17
to have sex with me the way that I wanna have sex
50:19
with Charlie.
50:19
I wanna be Charlie. I wanna be
50:21
Charlie. I want to be Charlie. I wanna be Charlie. That
50:24
makes sense. Maybe that's what the story's about. You
50:26
wanna fix it. You wanna fix it. I
50:28
mean, like there's a dual purpose happening
50:30
in this story and in real life, certainly.
50:32
It's like, I'm always trying to impress my wife. I'm always
50:34
trying to be like awesome.
50:37
And then, and then with
50:39
my daughter, I'm just trying, I mean, the whole thing of
50:41
being a parent is about making sure they stay alive and
50:44
warm. Yeah. So you're just like, I gotta get
50:46
them heat.
50:46
Well, I think it, honestly, that story
50:49
to cap it might be funny if
50:51
you start with the idea of like,
50:54
cause you're on vacation, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. This
50:56
is a crossing a line, Tommy, but like. No, please,
50:59
there is no crossing a line. Like
51:01
vacation sex, right? Okay, great. So
51:04
you're like, I want this to be a nice, fun experience, but you
51:06
don't have warmth. You are trying to get this
51:08
fixed. Charlie finally leaves or whatever you
51:10
go. And then after this whole, his name is
51:12
Charlie, right? Yeah. This whole situation
51:14
is like, now I wanna have sex with Charlie because like
51:17
he's fixed this problem for me and he leaves and then you're like,
51:19
the door closes and you're like, where were we? Like
51:21
kind of like resuming. Oh, that's interesting. This is like,
51:24
this is a way too long of a setup for a very
51:26
simple premise of like things that just happen in normal
51:28
life. Also that could not be funny in any
51:30
way. And then
51:31
you found $5. That's interesting. I think
51:33
that it's worth an experiment actually
51:36
to do something in the universe of talking about
51:39
my relationship with my wife and I'm always
51:41
trying to impress her. Yeah, yeah, yeah. One time
51:43
we were on vacation, blah, blah, blah. And there was no heat.
51:45
And I was like, I'm gonna save the day.
51:46
Yeah, more like that. You know what I mean? Like you wanna
51:49
fix the situation. And then like they leave and you're just like,
51:51
I did it. I told you I would do it. And then we had
51:54
sex and I pretended it was Charlie.
52:00
I don't think we're telling different stories.
52:01
No, no, no. It's yes-handing
52:04
and wherever it goes, it goes. No,
52:07
I think that's, I love that. I think, yeah,
52:09
there's a lot. Well, then a lot of the stuff I'm talking
52:11
about on stage lately in the working
52:13
it out shows has been about marriage
52:16
and domesticity. And I'm trying to figure out, and
52:18
I wonder if you deal with this with your videos,
52:20
because I think you have probably a really young audience actually,
52:22
is like you probably have a lot of fans
52:25
who aren't
52:26
married, maybe are in a
52:28
relationship and relate to what you're doing. It's like,
52:31
why do you think they relate to you talking
52:33
about being married?
52:35
You'd be shocked. The
52:37
widest demographic I have is women
52:40
that are like 35 to 45 married in relationships. And
52:44
so I find it harder actually to
52:48
create content that people relate to when I am talking
52:50
about like younger things, which
52:52
is really, like everyone can relate to a funny story from
52:54
your childhood. So you don't have to be that age to relate to that. A
52:57
lot of the stuff, I don't talk about being a mom-in-law,
52:59
but when I do, it is like
53:02
all the comments of like, oh my God, me too. And people
53:04
are looking for that. And so to me,
53:06
it's like that's where I see the most un...
53:09
I don't expect
53:11
that kind of relatability because I
53:13
just forget that people connect to me that are not my age.
53:16
It's really interesting.
53:23
So the final thing we do is called working it out for a cause.
53:26
And it's any organization that you think does a good
53:28
job and we contribute to them and then we link to them in the
53:30
show notes.
53:30
Yes, National Birth Equality Collaborative.
53:34
So the United States is like the only
53:36
industrialized country that
53:39
the maternal mortality
53:41
rate is like increasing all
53:43
of the time. We have like not figured it out. And
53:46
especially for like marginalized communities,
53:48
like black pregnant people, like I do not get the
53:50
care that they need. And it's just wild
53:53
to me. And once I became pregnant, I just realized
53:55
how scary it is that you just rely on the
53:57
people around you. And like, you just have to trust people that
53:59
you don't know.
53:59
and you're nothing about and your life is just like
54:02
in someone else's hands. So this
54:04
organization just basically like really focuses on
54:06
care for people in like just
54:08
marginalized communities that they get the care
54:10
that they need when they're pregnant, after birth,
54:13
like the babies, like before birth and after
54:15
like all of it, it's just a complete situation.
54:17
Well, I'm gonna contribute to them. We're gonna link to them,
54:19
show notes, encourage people to contribute
54:21
as well. Elise, this
54:23
is such a joy. And then our next
54:26
goal is we gotta get you on stage telling
54:28
stories to a group of strangers because
54:31
it's going to bring joy to the world.
54:32
We're gonna do it. Yeah. I'm
54:35
gonna shake on that. We're gonna shake. I promise. I promise.
54:38
♪ Working
54:38
it out, cause it's not
54:40
done. ♪ ♪ We're
54:43
working it out, cause there's no
54:45
one. ♪ That's gonna do it for another episode
54:47
of Working It Out. I loved
54:51
that chat with Elise Meyers. I
54:53
hope that's the first of many. You
54:55
should check out her podcast. It's called Funny
54:57
Cause It's True.
54:59
It is a very original podcast. I
55:01
really couldn't recommend it more highly. You
55:04
can follow her on Instagram and TikTok at at
55:06
Elise Meyers, E-L-Y-S-E-M-Y-E-R-S.
55:11
You can watch the full video of this interview
55:13
on our YouTube page at
55:15
Mike Berbiglia soon.
55:18
Hopefully either now
55:20
or tomorrow or the next day, but very, very, very,
55:23
very soon. We just posted our first
55:25
episode on YouTube for our hundredth
55:28
episode. We had Ira Glass and
55:30
people wrote all these nice comments to
55:33
the point where people commented on
55:36
how it was the nicest comment section they'd
55:38
ever been on on YouTube, which made
55:40
me so happy. The
55:43
Elise video should be up there in a couple
55:45
of days. Check that out. Subscribe,
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I'm doing, there's a few more tickets for
56:02
my shows in Levittown, Long Island, and
56:05
as well as Sag Harbor, which
56:08
is in the Hamptons, and it's gorgeous
56:11
little town. It's the Bay Street Theater. I'm
56:13
doing two shows at this Bay Street
56:15
Theater, which I did last summer.
56:17
I did The Old Man in the Pool last summer. This summer,
56:19
all new material, completely new show, just
56:21
working out new material, more
56:24
new cities coming soon where I'm working
56:26
on new material. And of course, I'll be in London
56:28
and Scotland in the summer of the fall.
56:30
Our producers of Working It Out are
56:32
myself, along with Peter Salomon and Joseph
56:34
Birbiglia, associate producer Mabel
56:37
Lewis, consulting producer Seth Barish,
56:39
assistant producers Gary Simons and Lucy
56:41
Jones, sound mix by Shub Seren,
56:44
supervising engineer Kate Bolinski. I'd
56:46
like to thank the great Monique Carboni
56:48
who has taken awesome photos
56:51
for us in these new episodes and
56:53
the new studio that
56:55
was built by our friend Eddie Lewis. You
56:57
can check out her work on Instagram. We always
57:00
tag her
57:00
in the photos of hers that we post. Special
57:02
thanks to Graham Willoughby. Also,
57:05
you can follow him on Instagram as well, who helped us
57:08
with a lot of the cinematography in
57:11
the Ira Glass episode. Really, a
57:13
lot of people have commented on how cool it looks, and
57:16
that is all Graham Willoughby. Special
57:18
thanks to Marisa Hurwitz and Josh Upfall,
57:20
as well as David Raphael and Nina Quick, Mike
57:22
Insiglieri, as Mike Berkowitz. Special thanks to
57:24
Jack Antonoff and Bleachers
57:27
for their music. Special thanks
57:29
to my wife, the poet, J. Hope Stein, little
57:31
astronaut, is in bookstores now.
57:34
Special thanks, as always, to my daughter, Una, who built
57:36
the original radio fort made of pillows. And
57:39
thanks, most of all, to you who are listening. If
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And I wanna make peace with you. And
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Make that video tag your enemies
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58:27
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today
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come out. Do you have a timeout? No,
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I think mine is like I just school
58:45
lunches. Yeah, I don't know how many different ways
58:47
to remix peanut butter and jelly
58:50
and salami and Bagels
58:52
with cream cheese. I feel like I feel like every day I'm
58:54
trying to figure out a new way to to turn those ingredients
58:57
into different things that my kids will eat I don't know
58:59
how school I feel like I don't know how I don't
59:01
know how to And
59:04
also there's something existentially Sold
59:07
killing because I hated my school lunch
59:10
My mom would pack my lunches and I hated them and
59:12
I
59:12
know they hate the ones I make for them And
59:15
but I'm like trying to make it so much more exciting.
59:17
I'm like, I never had fresh fruit I never
59:19
had a snack in addition to the sad
59:21
sandwich. I had one sad sandwich and
59:23
a thing of hot milk and that's That
59:27
they come back and they'd haven't eaten half of the food
59:29
It's full and it's we come back and it's like oh It's
59:32
like all they ate was like the little cookie
59:34
you put in there. Yes after you eat you Oh,
59:36
that's all it's the worst. Well, thank you
59:38
so much. Wow for being here Everyone go
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watch his new documentary
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a thousand percent me growing up mixed on
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max. Is that what they want us to do now? I
59:49
just want to say when my doc was green that
59:51
it was still HBO max. So I think you know,
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I'm gonna say HBO max then Thank
59:56
you so much. Now. Thanks for having me. Thanks
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