Dr Jerry Mofokeng wa Makhetha, the iconic and award-winning South African actor, grew up knowing his real father, but without knowing that he was actually his father. In this conversation, he explains his complex relationship with masculinity and fatherhood, the deep, meaningful contribution of his wife and lifelong partner, and the lessons he would like young South African men to learn from his story. As a wise elder, we could all benefit from his new memoir, I Am A Man.