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Welcome to Gateway Church's podcast.
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Wherever you're tuning in from, we hope you're
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encouraged by today's message.
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How many of you would like
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more peace in your life? How
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many of you really,
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pretty seriously, need
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more peace in your life? Well,
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I always pray about what I'm gonna teach, and I felt
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like God wanted me to teach on the
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dangers of strife. And
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so I put my message together, got
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it all on the computer and put it together, and then
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I happened to turn some, I was doing something
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on YouTube. I wasn't even looking
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for a message by me or
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a message here, but
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it pops up. Seems
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like about a year ago, when I was
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here, I taught on strife. And
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I thought, oh, I guess I didn't hear from God. I
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guess I better get a different message. Then
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I felt like God said, nope,
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they need to hear it again, amen?
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Because we don't always get it the first time we hear it,
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do we? Amen? You
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know, peace is
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something that Jesus said that he left us,
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he bequeathed it to us.
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In John 14, 27, it says, my
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peace I leave with you. Not
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as the world gives do I give unto
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you, but my own special
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peace I now
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give unto you. And so the kind
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of peace he's talking about is the peace
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that can operate in the midst
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of chaos and turmoil
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in our personal lives, in
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our professional lives, or
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in the world like we're experiencing today. I
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think most of us would say that in our lifetime,
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we have never seen a time when there has been
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this much wide. widespread
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chaos in the world
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and among individuals. But
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in the Amplified Bible as that scripture continues,
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Jesus said, so stop allowing
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yourselves
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to be upset and disturbed
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and don't allow yourselves to be
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fearful and intimidated. So
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he's telling us his
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part, what he did. I've
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left you my peace.
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Now you stop allowing
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yourselves to
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get upset. So
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we have to let that sink in a minute.
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Oh, I've been praying for peace, but
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what have you been doing when
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the opportunity comes to get upset
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or to stay
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calm? You say, well, I
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can't help it that I get upset. Well,
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you know, we use that I can't help it excuse
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a lot. And I did a lot
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in my life too.
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But I had an experience one time that taught
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me a good lesson.
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I would get upset, get
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mad at Dave, yell at the kids, whatever
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we do, we get upset. You know, when we get upset,
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we usually take it out on the people that we love the most
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because we know that they can't get away from us. They
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have to put up with us.
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And so
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I was having one of my little tantrums and I was
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yelling at the kids and not being
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abusive, but just angry.
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And all of a sudden I kind of
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had like a epiphany
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from God. And
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he said, now, if your pastor rang the doorbell
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right now. let
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me ask you a question how far would you some
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down
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well
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i can tell you but the time i got to the front door
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of it is a pastor praise
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god it's
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so good to see you come
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in all the kids are playing in
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their rooms are just fine the
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other kids are just fun
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and honestly that really did teach
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me a lesson
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and i hope you can use that example
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in your own life because what it really showed
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me i knew for sure
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if ham or anybody else that
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i wanted to impress
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you know the only way we get free from
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anything has to be truthful with ourselves
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about why were behaving the way were
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behaving
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in john a that says if you continue my word
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you'll know the truth and the truth
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will make you free but
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it's not the trophies about somebody else that will set
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me free
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it's the truth about me and
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you know the holy spirit descent into our
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lives to teach
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us all truth
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that's one of his main jobs as to teach us
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troops and
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so the holy spirit was given me an opportunity
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to learn something big
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which was
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i could control myself when
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i really wanted to
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your all kind of look at me like well
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that's nice for you but i can't summit
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of you know that you can control yourself
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when you really
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want
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Are you sure? Maybe I don't know. Maybe you don't want to. I
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don't know. Come
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on, help me a little bit.
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I woke up at 2.30 this morning, went and
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prayed and a couple
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hours and then went back to bed and slept for an hour and then
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I got up again and flew here from St.
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Louis and had lunch with some friends.
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So I've had a pretty long busy day so I need
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you to be nice.
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How
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many
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of you really? Now think about
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it. Think about what I said. Because
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as long as we keep using the excuse, I can't
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help it. We
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will stay in bondage. And
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I came to a point in my life
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maybe 20, 30 years ago where
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I thought, you know what? I am fed
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up with being upset all the time
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and I would see my husband. He would be just as
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calm. Now Dave has a different
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personality than me. He's a little more
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naturally laid back and calm and
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he didn't grow up the way I did.
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I grew up in a house that was just full of
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turmoil and strife and
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he didn't have it real easy growing up. His
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dad
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was an alcoholic, not a violent alcoholic,
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but he was an alcoholic and but
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his mother was really great, strong Christian
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woman, took them to church all the time. He
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was born again. He was filled with the spirit
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and he just would cast his care
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and
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not worry about anything. I worried
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about everything.
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He was calm, trusted God and I
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said I was trusting God but still worried
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and got upset all the time.
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You know we're really not trusting
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God if we're worrying at the same
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time. We may be trying to trust God.
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We all start out that way but when
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we really get around to trusting God then
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we don't worry and we don't get
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upset because even though we don't know what
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God's going to do, we believe
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in God.
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that he's going to do something, and even
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though we don't know when, we know
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he won't be late. He
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may not be early, but he won't be late.
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So I made my mind up that if
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he could have peace, I could have peace.
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And he was a great example
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to me, and I appreciate
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that about him.
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And I believe that God wants to use
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us, especially in the days that we're living in, to
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be a great example, not only
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to our family members, especially
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to our children,
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especially if they're still young and
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living under your roof and being trained by
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you.
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And it's not what we say to them that trains
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them, it's what they see us do
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that trains them. I'm
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going to say that again.
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It's not what we say to them that
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trains them.
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Oh, it does to a certain degree.
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It has some effect. But it's what they
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see us do
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that trains them.
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And so Dave's example to me
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was great,
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and I really appreciate
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that about him. And we
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are living in some very unique times.
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You might say they're the worst of times and the best
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of times. I think that we
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have opportunity today to
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be
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lights in a dark place,
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and you can preach a sermon everywhere
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you go just by actually
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acting like the Christian that you claim
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to be. And so can I. And
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one thing the world needs is peace, and the other
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thing they need is love.
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And if we can be peaceful
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in the midst of
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turmoil, and we can love
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people who are not easy to love,
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that's going to preach a louder sermon than any
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preacher could preach on a platform anywhere.
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Amen. We agree with that.
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What do you think would happen if everybody
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who claims to be a Christian acted like one? I
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Mean seriously, let's I mean what what
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do you think would happen? So
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I just want to put it out to you
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first Jesus
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has left us peace to be honest
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We don't even really have to pray for peace We
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don't have to pray for God to give us peace because
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he already has So I
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changed the way I pray when
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I feel myself getting upset or if I've
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Waited too long and already gotten upset. No,
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I need to calm down. I
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Pray God, please
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help me appropriate the peace
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that is in me Because
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you've given it to me as your gift
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Now I need to accept that
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and receive it
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and calm down
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and you know you can Talk
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to yourself.
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Do you know that you can talk yourself
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into a good mood if you want to?
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Are you to talk yourself into a bad mood a
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Couple of weeks. I got up one morning. I don't know
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why I don't even remember
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Why but for some reason I
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Just kind of started to Think
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a couple of negative things
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and
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maybe a couple of poor me things
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And then I just said no Not
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going there been there
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done that and I started purposely
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thanking God for everything that I could think
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of and Thinking
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about how blessed I was and you
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know it only took probably less than two
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minutes
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and a day That could have ended up in the ditch
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Was turned completely around and
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I had a great day You
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see a lot of times we we
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want to put all of this off on God, but
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we have a responsibility to He's
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good given us what we need,
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but we have to appropriate it and act
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on it.
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In Ephesians 3, 20, it
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says that God is able to
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do exceedingly, abundantly, above
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and beyond all that we could ever
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dare to hope, ask, or think.
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Then it ends with, according to the
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power
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that worketh in you.
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I don't think I ever really fully
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understood that because
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we'd all like for God to just do it all.
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But you see, He works through
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us.
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He doesn't do everything for us, but
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He does things through us.
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He gives it to you,
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then He wants it to go through you to
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other people. So God gives
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us peace, and He wants us
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to receive it, be at peace with
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ourselves, and then let it go through us
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to other people.
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He gives us love. He wants us to receive
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that
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and even learn how to love ourselves in a
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balanced
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way, not a selfish, self-centered way.
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But
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you need to love the you that God
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has created, that you're
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becoming.
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Amen. You know, we're
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all in the process
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of becoming. It's
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like we have an image inside
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of us.
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We're being transformed into the image
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of Christ, so
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we're becoming what we already are. You
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have to understand the word for that to make any
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sense, but the Holy Spirit
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is helping us day after day
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after day
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be transformed into the image of
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Jesus Christ. We don't see Jesus
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ever getting all upset,
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hurrying and rushing around, telling His disciples,
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come on, hurry
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up. We've got to get over here.
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I was starting to get that way a little
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bit in the
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Backroom because I didn't know it was as late as it was
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and I asked somebody what time it was and they said it was
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four minutes to
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Four and
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we were still dabbling around with makeup and I was
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like Right away.
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I got but I'm getting ready to come out here and teach on
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peace
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And Dave's helping with my microphone
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and I said just just stick the wire
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in there just
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And then I had to say Joyce
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The world won't end
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If you're out there a couple of minutes later than you usually
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are I
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Always like I can't stand to
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be late when I'm the one that's gonna preach Amen
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and I mean I knew we were gonna have
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worship and I really had plenty of time but It
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wasn't going according to my plan. Hello.
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Is anybody home out there? It
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wasn't going according to my plan.
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So You
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know, there's no point in trying to do something
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about something you can't do anything
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about Sorry,
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I need a drink of water class all you want to
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Now this will really help you if you'll let it God
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is able to do exceedingly abundantly above
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and beyond all that we could ever dare
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to hope ask or think According
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to the power that worketh in you
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so God will do it in you
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and then let it go
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through you
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If you cooperate with him and if I cooperate
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with him I've
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been studying the word for 45
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years and it's taken me a long time
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To get to knowing some of the things that
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I know now
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and I'm so grateful for the word
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And I'm so grateful for some of these little
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lessons that God has taught me
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that really turn out to be big things
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in my everyday life.
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So what have we said so far? You can
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control yourself
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if you really want to.
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If you were having the biggest
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argument with your spouse you have ever
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had screaming and yelling
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at one another, and I rang your doorbell,
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how fast do you think you'd straighten up?
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Okay, not me. Okay, Pastor Robert. How
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about that? If
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that doesn't work, how about Jesus?
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Because you know what? He is there anyway.
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He lives in us,
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and there's nothing that we're hiding from Him.
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When we started our ministry, when
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I first started thinking about starting a
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ministry, back
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in 1977,
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I guess it was,
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the Lord spoke to my heart, and
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this is what He put in my heart. There's three things I want
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you to do, and if you do them I'll bless your ministry.
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Keep the strife out of your life,
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out of your home, and out of your ministry. I
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don't even
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know that I fully knew what strife was at the
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time, but I
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knew it was the opposite of peace.
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He said, do
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whatever you do with excellence.
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Don't be a mediocre.
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You know, an excellence doesn't mean perfection. It
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just means to do the very best
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that you can with what you have. I
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mean, you can have an old car, but you can keep it clean.
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Amen.
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And he said, be a person of integrity. always
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do what you say you're going to do.
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Amen. Now,
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those are three simple things. There
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are three
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life principles which every
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person and certainly every Christian
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should base their foundation on.
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Wear your shoes of peace like Ephesians 6 says,
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if you expect to defeat the devil,
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then you have to put on the armor of God that
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He's given us. I
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want to say again, I think sometimes
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we want to put it all on God.
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On the wall.
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Nothing happens without
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prayer.
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But you know what I find happens a lot of times when
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I pray?
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God doesn't do something for
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me. He
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shows me something to do.
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My husband was having a real hard
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time with feeling jittery
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and nervous. He called it a
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heavenly yips, whatever that is.
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But he's such a peaceful person that
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any kind of feeling of nervousness really bothers
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him. I was kind of used to it myself.
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But it really bothered him. And
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so he started praying about it.
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And so he started praying about it.
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And God just simply showed him
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that he was consuming
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way too much caffeine. He was going by
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a fast
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food restaurant and getting like a 32 ounce
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soda every day that
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had caffeine in it. And
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he drank coffee and he ate
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sweets pretty much every day. And
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so between the
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sugar and the caffeine, he
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had gotten to a point in life where
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his body was not handling that. You know,
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sometimes you can do
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something at a certain age
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and stage in your life that just doesn't matter.
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won't work for you anymore when you get a little
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bit older. Is
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anybody finding that out?
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You see, only a fool thinks they can always
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do what they've always done.
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I found out that I couldn't keep working
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like I did 30 years ago.
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I had to make changes.
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And we constantly in our life
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have to make changes and
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adjustments. And
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if we don't,
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we'll make ourselves sick and then ask God to heal
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us.
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And sometimes when we ask God to heal us and
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nothing changes, it's because we're
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not listening to what He tells
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us to do.
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I'm preaching better than you're acting.
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OK, now, I don't intend to do
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a health lesson tonight, but some of
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you, if you just got more sleep, you
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know what, all those words guilty laughs.
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How about drinking some water? I don't
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like water.
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I personally know two people that died with
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kidney disease
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because they never drank water.
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They drank
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other stuff all the time. Most
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of the other stuff has a lot of
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chemicals and caffeine in it, and
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water is the only thing that will really
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cleanse
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your kidneys and your body.
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So like I said, I'm not here to do a health
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teaching tonight. But you'd
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be amazed if you just start
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asking God, why am I having
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this problem?
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If you're really willing to hear what He has
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to say,
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show you, and you might not like what he shows
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you because you'd much rather it be
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anything other than something you need
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to change.
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I'm smiling bigger than you guys are. So
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what about strife? What is strife?
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Strife is bickering, arguing, heated
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disagreement, and an angry
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undercurrent. And
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I think the angry undercurrent
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is the most dangerous because
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that's when everybody kind
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of senses that something
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not good is going on behind
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the scenes, that
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everybody's still smiling at each other, saying,
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especially
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in church, praise the Lord.
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I remember the days when Dave and I would argue
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all the way to church.
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Come on. Don't
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you know if the devil can start anything it's going to be
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on Sunday morning or Saturday
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night or Friday night or whenever you go to church?
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I mean, I know some pastors that them and their wives
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drive separate cars to church because that's the
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only way they can get there in peace.
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And it's important when
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you get here that you get here in peace,
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and it's important that I get here in peace
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because we can sit and smile at each other
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and say, praise the Lord, but nothing
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sinks in if we're
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in a turmoil. I
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can remember being in the front row with my hands
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lifted up, singing, I surrender
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all, and thinking if he thinks
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I'm going to cook him anything to eat, today he's got another
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thing coming.
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For all I care he can starve.
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Praise
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the Lord, praise the Lord. Thank you Jesus. And
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I can remember when we'd argue all the way to church but
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boy when we saw that first parking lot
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attendant or greeter or oh
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David Joyce praise God how are y'all praise
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the Lord we're fine and that's
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not the way God wants us to be.
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That's that angry undercurrent and if you
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think that it doesn't get in churches
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you've got another thing coming
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because the devil hates us and
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the one thing he does not want us
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to have is unity and peace
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because as long as we're fighting the
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world
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is not going to pay one bit of attention
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to anything that we have to
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say. Now
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I actually have a
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real concern
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because there are so many people in
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the body of Christ
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that are mad at somebody.
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I just said our yearly women's conference
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we held at this past year in San Antonio, Texas
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and I guess maybe you were there anybody who
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was there? There were 16,500 women there and on Thursday night I
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asked
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how many of them I
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did a little exhortation on it first and
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I asked how many of you have
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somebody in your life that you
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need
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to forgive?
25:56
Will you stand up and I was shocked 90
25:59
10% of the 16,000 stood
26:02
up and if you were there you thought
26:05
now
26:08
What are we going to do I Mean
26:12
we're living in very dangerous times What
26:17
are we gonna do if
26:19
we don't make a decision that we're gonna
26:21
stop it
26:24
Jesus said I've left you my peace now you
26:27
stop allowing yourselves to get upset
26:29
and disturbed Stop allowing yourselves
26:31
to be fearful and intimidated I
26:34
want to be the kind of person that before you
26:36
get finished offending me. I've already decided
26:38
to forgive you
26:45
And the only way that can happen is yes through
26:47
prayer
26:49
But also through
26:50
special study You
26:53
need to be familiar with every scripture in the
26:55
Bible
26:57
That talks about anger anger
26:59
does not promote the righteousness that God
27:01
desires need to be familiar with
27:03
mark 11
27:06
That says faith can move mountains you
27:08
can say to that mountain move and it'll have to move
27:11
And whatever you pray for
27:14
Believe that you receive it and you will
27:16
get it. It doesn't say when but it says
27:18
you'll get it and
27:21
There's a waiting time and that's the testing
27:23
time And
27:26
then it says and if you have
27:28
anything against anyone
27:31
Anything against
27:32
anyone forgive them
27:35
leave it let it go drop it Because
27:41
if you don't forgive neither what your
27:43
heavenly father forgive you
27:46
not that I
27:48
Mean if we're really gonna believe the Bible then
27:51
we can't just pull out the I'll bless you and
27:53
prosper
27:54
you ones
28:01
We have to get, we
28:04
can't just keep only wanting
28:06
to hear
28:07
God loves you, He forgives
28:09
you, you're
28:11
precious, you're created with
28:14
His hand, He's got an awesome
28:16
future plan for you, all of that's true
28:18
and we need to hear all that. But we also
28:20
need to hear some of these other things
28:26
because
28:29
the Bible says, 1
28:37
Corinthians 1, 9 through 11, God
28:41
is faithful, reliable,
28:44
trustworthy, and therefore
28:47
ever true to His promise and He
28:49
can be depended on. Boy,
28:51
how many of you are glad about that?
28:54
He's faithful, you can depend on
28:56
Him, He's always going to
28:59
keep His word. Verse 10,
29:02
but,
29:06
I urge and entreat you brethren
29:08
by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ that
29:11
all of you be in perfect harmony and full
29:13
agreement in what you say and that there be no dissension
29:15
or factions or divisions among you but
29:17
that you be perfectly united in your common
29:20
understanding and in your opinion and
29:21
in your judgments. So
29:24
He's saying God is faithful
29:29
but I've heard, if you go ahead and read it, from
29:33
Chloe that
29:34
there's bickering and arguing and
29:37
strife and dissension among you.
29:40
So He says God is faithful but
29:43
you need to get along.
29:47
In Psalm 133 it says that
29:52
how pleasant it is for
29:54
the unity.
29:59
I love peace.
30:02
I love those first couple hours in the morning
30:04
when nobody's up. I
30:07
can get along with everybody when nobody's there.
30:14
How many of you find that
30:17
you can just be so godly when nobody's
30:18
home?
30:21
Play your Christian music,
30:25
watch Joyce Meyer on TV,
30:31
read Pastor Robert's latest book,
30:35
but boy when the people come in, that's
30:39
when the trouble starts. Now
30:43
I obviously don't have time in the amount
30:45
of time I
30:46
have in one service to
30:49
do this the full justice that it deserves,
30:53
but I'm trying to pick some of the key
30:56
and
30:56
most important scriptures that God
30:58
has used in my life to teach
31:00
me, I want to try to impress
31:02
on you how important
31:05
this is to your life and
31:08
to the plan of God for
31:10
the world that we
31:11
live in. Now I've been thinking
31:13
a lot
31:13
about our young
31:16
people, about our kids, our teenagers,
31:19
and how many of you would
31:23
agree that
31:25
a lot of children
31:27
today are
31:29
extremely confused?
31:41
I mean, people
31:46
doing things today that I'm
31:47
just like,
31:52
how can you even dream that up?
31:59
I'm a school iron.
31:59
heard about,
32:02
it happens to be in the district I live in, sad
32:05
to say,
32:07
there are some children who identify
32:09
as furries.
32:14
And so the school provided them with a litter
32:16
box
32:16
to go to the bathroom.
32:20
Now,
32:26
they'll put furry tails on and
32:29
sit up on the window ledge in the classroom
32:31
like a cat.
32:34
And you know what?
32:36
That's sad for them.
32:39
That the world has gotten so confusing
32:45
that people don't know who they are anymore.
32:48
But let's look at the scripture.
32:52
And I've taught on this
32:53
scripture, I don't know how many times, but I've
32:55
never seen it like I did a couple of weeks ago, James 3
33:01
16. For where there is jealousy, envy,
33:03
and contention,
33:05
which is strife, rivalry
33:08
and selfish ambition, there
33:10
will also be confusion,
33:16
unrest,
33:17
disharmony, rebellion,
33:20
and all sorts of evil and vile
33:22
practices.
33:26
So certainly
33:29
not making any accusations, just throwing
33:31
it out there
33:32
for anybody who might need it.
33:35
Wonder how many of those kids that are so confused
33:38
live in a house where mom and dad are arguing
33:40
and fighting all
33:41
the time.
33:48
And I'm not saying we have to be perfect for our kids.
33:52
They have to learn how to deal with stuff. I'm
33:54
not saying if you have one argument in front of your
33:56
kids that
33:58
it's going on, throw them into confusion. But
34:01
if 90% of 16,000
34:07
Christians
34:11
were willing to stand up and say,
34:14
yes, I'm angry at somebody and
34:16
I've not forgiven them,
34:18
and the sad thing is, is
34:21
I can do that
34:21
pretty much anywhere I go
34:23
and get the same result.
34:26
And I'm just saying that we have a problem
34:31
and we need to address it
34:33
and we need to start dealing with it. And
34:36
that means I need to deal with it in my home,
34:38
you need to deal with it in your home.
34:48
You know,
34:50
even in the church today,
34:53
we don't deal with stuff the way that we should,
34:55
not
34:57
like Paul did.
35:00
Titus 3, 9 through 11.
35:05
But avoid stupid and foolish controversies
35:07
and genealogies and dissensions and
35:10
wrangling, which is strife,
35:12
about the law for they are unprofitable
35:15
and futile.
35:15
Now, these are New Testament Christians
35:17
that had at one time lived under
35:19
the law
35:22
and so they spent a lot
35:24
of time arguing about
35:27
the difference between law and grace.
35:30
I think we still kind of have that argument today
35:32
sometimes.
35:35
So you said,
35:37
stop arguing
35:38
about stupid stuff
35:41
that doesn't make any sense.
35:44
Verse 10, as for the man, and
35:48
this is a man in the church who is
35:50
factuous, a heretical sectarian,
35:53
and a cause of division, after
35:56
admonishing him a first and a second
35:58
time.
35:59
You give him two warnings,
36:02
reject him from
36:04
your fellowship, and have nothing more to do
36:06
with him. Now,
36:09
you know what we would say today?
36:12
Well, that's not being loving.
36:19
There was another man that Paul talked about
36:21
who had committed incest
36:24
and he was not repentant.
36:26
If a person's repentant and willing to change,
36:29
then I believe God wants us to go to the
36:31
mat with him and work with him forever.
36:35
But if they're not repentant and they're
36:37
not gonna change and we let them just
36:39
sit in our midst,
36:46
maybe I got the wrong crowd for this, I don't know.
36:59
You know what Paul said about that man? He
37:01
said,
37:02
put him out of the church, turn him over to the devil.
37:08
But that's not all he said, he said, so
37:10
that perhaps
37:11
his soul might be saved
37:15
and he won't end up in hell.
37:19
So if I understand Paul
37:22
correctly, the
37:24
church was such a holy and
37:26
an awesome and a powerful
37:28
place
37:30
that when people were in the church
37:33
and functioning as a body,
37:34
there was actually a protective covering
37:37
over them. And
37:41
so he said, we
37:44
can't just let a lot of sin
37:47
get in the church,
37:50
know it's there and nobody
37:52
deal with it.
38:11
I'm 80 and I've just decided I'm going
38:13
for it.
38:22
I am not going to stand before
38:23
God and
38:26
have him say, why didn't you address
38:28
the things that really needed to be addressed?
38:36
You know why we don't? Because we don't want to make anybody
38:39
mad. We
38:41
don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. We don't want
38:43
anybody to leave the church.
38:51
But everything the Apostle Paul did, he
38:54
did it for
38:54
the good of the people. He
38:56
didn't do it to hurt people and he was
38:58
walking in love when he did some of those things.
39:02
Because love is not always, you're so sweet.
39:09
And if you really read the things that Paul
39:12
said, he told Timothy, he said, your
39:15
job as a preacher is to
39:18
urge, warn,
39:21
correct, rebuke, and
39:24
encourage. He didn't say
39:26
just encourage.
39:29
He said,
39:29
you warn them. So I'll just tell
39:31
you if,
39:34
maybe I'll talk to myself. Joyce,
39:38
if you don't deal with the strife in your life
39:40
and get rid of it, it's
39:43
going to affect you
39:47
and the people around you in a very
39:49
adverse
39:49
way.
39:51
Amen?
39:53
And if you need that, you can have it.
40:01
I'm only doing this because
40:05
I really care about God's people.
40:08
And I don't want to play church games anymore.
40:13
I really want people's lives
40:15
to be changed by the word.
40:18
And I don't want us to just be Christians in church.
40:20
I want us to be Christians at home.
40:24
I want us to be Christians at work. I
40:28
want us to be Christians in the grocery store.
40:31
In traffic. Yeah,
40:36
in traffic.
40:41
That's one of the few times when I see
40:43
my husband get a little bit un-called.
40:46
He
40:48
must be a woman driver and I want to...
40:57
Oh, and I've seen him get a little feisty on the golf
40:59
course too.
41:02
Not so much now, but man, when he was younger,
41:04
whoo!
41:07
Sometimes those clubs went flying.
41:14
He's calmed down so much now though.
41:23
When the golf course was still working on traffic. No
41:30
he's good. I just got to have fun. Okay.
41:35
The only way
41:36
that we're going to keep strife away is
41:38
to confront it and deal with it.
41:42
And I'll tell you what it takes. The
41:45
Bible says in Proverbs that the only
41:47
way you can have contention
41:49
is by pride.
41:52
You can't have it any other way.
41:55
So the only way
41:59
that you're going to have...
41:59
in your home is
42:02
if you also have humility.
42:05
Whoo!
42:13
And just to bring that to a practical level,
42:16
here's kind of how it works.
42:20
You have to be willing not to be right
42:22
in an argument.
42:31
Oh, you better be glad I've only got six minutes left.
42:38
You have to be willing
42:41
to say I was wrong. It
42:45
was my fault.
42:47
I'm sorry.
42:50
You have to be willing to not argue at
42:52
all.
42:54
It takes two people to argue, you know. Nobody can
42:56
argue by themselves. You
43:01
have to learn to listen
43:04
in
43:05
a conversation when
43:07
it starts to get heated up enough that
43:09
you can tell
43:11
somebody's going to blow a fuse if you don't
43:13
change the conversation, and if nothing
43:16
else, get out of the room.
43:26
If you want to have peace, you have to be
43:28
willing to keep your opinions to yourself sometimes.
43:34
Do you know that just because you don't agree with
43:36
somebody does not mean that you have to tell
43:38
them you don't agree with them? Do
43:43
you think of that?
43:45
Well, I don't agree with that.
43:49
Well, the devil's trying to start
43:51
a fire, and you've just thrown some fuel on it. Knowing
44:03
how to keep your opinion to yourself, my
44:05
son, my
44:06
older son, our older son,
44:09
they've always said, I say they're my kids, they're actually
44:11
our kids.
44:15
Our older son, David, he
44:19
had a pretty feisty temper. He's 58
44:24
now. So you start
44:27
calming down a lot the older you get because
44:31
you're just like, it ain't worth it. Nope,
44:36
not going there.
44:37
He said one time, he said, you
44:40
know what, I finally figured out being right
44:42
is highly overrated.
44:47
And you know, really when you think about it, what
44:49
do you get other than that little smug
44:51
feeling for just a few minutes?
44:57
But what comes after that? The same devil
44:59
who tempted you to argue to be right will
45:02
now make you feel guilty because
45:03
you argued to be right.
45:09
And you'll feel good about it for maybe 30 minutes
45:12
until you calm down
45:14
and then you'll get this, which
45:18
was there all the time, but because you were so
45:21
emotional,
45:25
you couldn't hear the Holy Spirit.
45:29
You know, when you're in the middle of a conversation that's getting
45:31
ready to go in the wrong direction,
45:33
at least I've
45:35
gotten to the point where I can hear the Holy Spirit say,
45:37
how
45:44
many of you agree that you cannot have peace if you
45:46
don't have humility?
45:53
What is so hard about saying,
45:55
I
45:57
think I'm right, but I may be wrong.
46:00
I mean, could you just open your mind
46:03
to the possibility
46:05
that you might be wrong?
46:09
I mean, Dave and I used to argue over some
46:11
of the stupidest stuff, and
46:14
it was mostly me. I'll
46:17
admit that. Things like
46:18
we'd be going somewhere and
46:21
maybe there were two ways to get there, and
46:26
he'd go to the entrance subdivision and turn right, and I'd
46:28
say, where are you going that way far?
46:32
You need to go to the left. That's the shortest route. No,
46:35
it's not. This way is the shortest.
46:38
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
46:44
no. And there's so many more
46:45
important things to be doing than
46:48
that.
46:50
I was doing that one night, and the Lord said to me, just let
46:52
the man go whichever way he wants to go.
46:58
Just
46:59
who cares if it takes two minutes longer?
47:03
What difference does it make? I
47:06
had a call in my life, and here I am arguing
47:09
over which way to get to the hardware store.
47:13
We'd argue over who an actor
47:15
was on TV and then stay up to one o'clock
47:17
in the morning,
47:17
watch the movie waiting for the credits to come
47:20
on so we could prove he was right.
47:25
I don't do that stuff anymore. Now I go to
47:27
sleep usually
47:30
before the movie's over.
47:36
You know, just to make sure you understand
47:40
what I meant when I said we don't deal with
47:42
things the way we should in the church, I am not
47:44
in any way suggesting that we should ever
47:46
be mean to anybody.
47:49
I'm not ever suggesting that we should
47:51
not accept people
47:54
that are different than we are.
47:58
But the house of God is a place where we can be.
47:59
place to bring people to repentance.
48:04
And if they won't do that,
48:10
I always say this. I can
48:24
hang out with somebody until as
48:26
long as I am
48:28
affecting them and they're not infecting
48:30
me.
48:34
Amen?
48:37
Well,
48:40
I think we better end this with a prayer. Close
48:44
your eyes for just a minute.
48:47
Lift your hand up if you need
48:48
to forgive somebody and you're willing to do
48:50
it tonight. Go
48:52
on. Nobody's looking but me.
48:57
Father, I pray for each person
49:00
that has heard something from you tonight and
49:05
they're willing to
49:06
take action
49:09
in this area.
49:11
And I pray that you will
49:13
give them the grace they need to follow
49:15
through and
49:16
to let go
49:18
of the things that they need to let go of.
49:21
We ask it in the name of Jesus.
49:25
Amen. Okay,
49:28
let me say one thing.
49:33
Just because you pray to forgive somebody doesn't
49:35
mean you're going to feel any different about them the next time you see
49:37
them. Forgiveness
49:39
is not how you feel about somebody, it's how
49:41
you treat them. Every
49:44
person that you're angry at, you pray
49:47
for them every day. It's very
49:49
hard to stay mad at somebody that you're praying for
49:51
on a regular basis. Amen. Thank
49:54
you. I hope you got something out of this. Thanks
49:57
for joining us today. If you'd like to connect
49:59
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