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Hello and welcome to this week's

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episode of Get

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Real with the English Sisters

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, where we'll be talking about , yeah

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, the 80-20% pool of

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life and , anyway , our take on it , our

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. So today we're going to be talking about the 80-20%

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, our interpretation of this , because

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we do know that this rule was by

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Vilfredo Pareto , an Italian economist

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, who kind of said , or he discovered , that 20% of the Italian

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population were actually doing most of the work

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, whereas

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the 80% . Hang on a minute , I'm just

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going to make sure it's not what you want to do . You get

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someone else to do the work for you , okay

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, he observed that 80% of

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income , sorry , yes , well

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, more or less the same thing In Italy . It was received

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by 20% of the Italian population

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. This assumption is that

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most of the results in any situation

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are determined by a small number

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of causes . Right

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, right , so that's a bit so

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a small number of causes . But

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in our particular case , I was

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thinking about how , really , I

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and you have always kind of lived

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by , okay , not being

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perfectionist , but getting things

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done kind of to 80%

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, and that's kind of good enough for us

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in order to live a decent

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life , a

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decent but kind of a non-stressed

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life . Well , at least at school

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I wasn't aiming for all

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A's , no , and neither were you . Well

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, I tried to . Did you really

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try that much ? I did want

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to . No , you wanted them , but you did not strive

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that hard , otherwise you probably would have got them . You

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were not . I did get quite a few , yeah , but you

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were not the kid that would study until

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midnight to get them and

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overthink things and overgo

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. You would say , okay , if I get it , I

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get it , and if I don't get it , I

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still want to go and watch Little House

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on the Prairie . Well , I mean , when you're

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little it's difficult because your

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character's not that formed , is it ? But

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when I can remember , when I was at university

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, I was always a B , exactly , I didn't go

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for the A's , come on , come on , you

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were going for the B and that was fine . You

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were just saying , look , I want to enjoy my life

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and if I pass , I

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pass . No , you wanted to pass . No , I wanted to

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pass . If a pass was definitely what that

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does enter 80%

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, doesn't it ? You had to pass

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. Yeah , I had to pass . And I didn't

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want to just get like a third , I wanted

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to get . You didn't want to fail no , but I didn't

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just want to get like average

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, no , wanted to be above A good , a

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good , yes , good , good enough

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, good enough . I'm

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thinking this kind of good enough philosophy in

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life may be very irritating

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, for like a perfectionist

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here , but

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maybe if you could apply it to some

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areas of your life , you'd sure

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feel less stress

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and less anxiety . Well

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, yeah , so

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I think , with everything we've always

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done , that we're just trying to be our best . But good

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enough is good enough , exactly , you'll

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go for . We aim for the best

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, but then we don't kill ourselves trying to get

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it Exactly or over-obsess

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about trying to get that . You

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know anything , whatever it is you're

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working on , like if I host

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a dinner with

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some friends , which is rare , which is rare

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because I can't really be bothered

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I don't know whether he's

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bothered , yeah

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, it's just not really my thing . It's not your cup of

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tea , is it ? No , like I

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will host it to

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the best of my abilities . But

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once the people are here

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and I look at their faces and everyone seems

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to be enjoying themselves and having fun , that's

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fine . If the table is not set

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to perfection , if the food

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isn't , oh my gosh , no

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, that's not exactly how I wanted

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it to look . The cake's got a bit

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of a hole in it or something has happened

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that you know . Like it didn't

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rise properly , or something . I'm not going

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to go nuts and

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ruin my evening with

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my friends because of that . You

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probably have a bit of a laugh if the cake didn't rise

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, wouldn't you ? Well , of course , but knowing

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what we're like and our group of friends , we just

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eat it anyway . But

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I know that can be very upsetting

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for some people , for example , yes , you know my son

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, he's a perfectionist , so the

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food has to be perfect

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, otherwise the dinner

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is not right , and you know

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his mood will change , and

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you know . So

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what advice would you give him or

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someone like you that may be feeling

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like this ? I'd

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say look around you . Look around

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at the table , like what I just said before . Are

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people enjoying themselves ? Are

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they having fun ? Is

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it just you , your internal

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perfectionism that's getting in the way

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of you even being able to savor

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that moment , let alone the food

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? Think about that . You know

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, is it you getting in the way of

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you ? And what your standards

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are supposed to be ? You know you

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. So do you think perfectionism

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is the problem

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? Then ? Is that what's taken away

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from the 80-20 ? I think trying

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to be 100% and trying to get 100%

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of everything in life is , it's

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overwhelming , extremely tiring

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. You may be able to get 100% of one

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area of your life and

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do something to 100% , but then

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the other areas of your life are just inevitably

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not going to be like that , because

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we're humans , we're not androids . Even

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androids , you know , we're flawed , aren't

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we ? We're imperfect . We have

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moments where our

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emotions may get in the way and things

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might not be , is what's

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the point of like , for example , in the dinner

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scenario , having everything

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to be so perfect the crystal

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, the silverware , everything

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is perfect . I mean , people enjoy that , don't they

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? That's beautiful , it can be beautiful , you're going

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to have beautiful flowers and have

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everything beautiful , but then if

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you're inside feeling

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overwhelmed , stressed out because

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of the effort that talk and

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it kind of ruins the

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point of it , you

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won't be able to really enjoy yourself . Will

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you wear it with you ? You won't

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, I won't , because that's

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the way . My rule is 80% is

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good enough for me . So if the food

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is good and 80%

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, the food is pretty good to be 80% good , yeah , well , that is bad

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the food . If it all goes bad , who cares If

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it's rotten ? We're just ordering

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a pizza or something . We still have

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fun and we can have a laugh about it

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. Okay , the food didn't come

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out , we rotten it . What

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have you done ? But yeah , if it got

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burned or something Got burned , absolutely

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yes . Or if it was off , you

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buy something and then you look in the fridge and it's

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off . I mean , for many people that would ruin

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their evening grip , give them massive yeah

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. I mean , luckily nowadays

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we can order we would . Even in

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our little country area

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here in Italy , they've

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got services where you can actually order food

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. The food is delicious when you order it . Yeah , so

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I've just run out . I run out and get some

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pizza or something , or just quickly

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make a plate of pasta . Yeah , I mean

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, just change something Improvised

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. Yeah , it's not that difficult

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, is it Not ? Really it's . I think

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it's not difficult . It's your mind isn't in the right

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place , it's the mindset . The mindset

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has to become , yes

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, that's it the mindset

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. In relationships as well . Things aren't always

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100% . In a relationship

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with two people that love each other , there's

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so many ups and downs . I mean

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, if you're in any kind of relationship parents

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, people that love you , in a romantic

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, whatever it is you'll realise this as

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well . Living by the 80%

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rule can really be helpful . Well

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, yeah , because you look for your perfect

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partner , don't you ? And then you're never going to find them

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? No , because you're not perfect yourself

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. So how do you expect someone

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else to be Exactly so

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? If 80% of the time , you're feeling

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good , close to that person

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, then that's pretty awesome . I would

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say that's amazing . That's a good

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benchmark . That's it for you as

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well . If you're worried

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about your relationship , because I was

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reading a lot about like toxic relationships and

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things recently . If

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you're worried about your relationship

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, you think , am I in the right relationship ? Yeah , you

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can think that 80%

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of the time it's good it's good , then

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that's good enough , that's brilliant If

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80% of the time it's good and only that 20% percent

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. But if you find that 80%

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of the time you're arguing or it's bad

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, then maybe it's time to make a change

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or change things up a bit . Definitely

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, if 80%

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of the time you're not enjoying yourself

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I mean literally maybe not even enjoying yourself you don't

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feel comfortable , you don't feel okay . Yes , you

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don't feel comfortable around that particular person Then maybe , yes

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, especially in a romantic relationship

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, or if that person's making life difficult

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for you because a lot of people will make

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life healthier , and you'll

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think what was wrong with me ? Yes , yeah , and

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it's not you , it's

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the other person that's making your life difficult . Because they've

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got their own issues . Yeah , that's right , that

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is great . They need their own therapy ? Yes , definitely

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. So

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you know , that is what it's . If

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80% of the time it's okay

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, everything is great really , basically , and

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I feel that that's how I've lived my life most of

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the time . What about

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with . There's a lot of ones . There's

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a lot of people Now

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that are worried about their appearance and

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how perfect they may look on video

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or on their phones

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when they're taking selfies . Do

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you think , if you're looking 80%

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of what you would expect , oh my gosh , that'd be

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brilliant . If you

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look at yourself and you think , oh , 80%

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, I like that 80% . Most people

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say , oh , I hate that . Most

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people really do not like how they look . So

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if you like yourself 80% , you'd

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be like , oh , it'd be incredible

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. Really , honestly , if you think you

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look at yourself and even this video

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later on , you think 80% , that's pretty good

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. Well , I think that's good enough , that's

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brilliant . I mean , even if it's just

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like 20% , you like

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yourself . And I think you also have to look at yourself

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as if someone else is looking

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like the eyes of your best friend or something

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. What best friend thing ? I'd look

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like Everybody

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who loves me . How do they think I

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look ? Because you're

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supposed to love yourself , because how you look

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is not really how you look . It's how

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you feel . Exactly , it's

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not how you look because you could be looking great

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and everyone's saying you're looking great , but

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you feel yucky inside . Yes

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, do you remember that lady we used to know

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. She was so beautiful

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. We used to at

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the gym we can say the ice queen

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. Everyone used to call her the ice queen

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. Do you know that ? I can't remember her name ? Oh

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my gosh , she was like the most beautiful girl

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. She was young and she was

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absolutely gorgeous based

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on any standard . I remember now . But

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there was inside . She

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was a bit like Snow White , isn't she

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Snow White ? When she was asleep

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, you mean , yes , yes

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, when she wasn't like alive

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. You know , obviously In

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those days we hadn't even

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studied psychology , but we didn't know

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about it . But later it came out

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that she wasn't happy in her marriage

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. Exactly , oh , in her marriage . You

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sound like some kind of ? Oh , this

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sounds like some kind of old 1940s

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recording . Later we discovered

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she was not happy in her marriage

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. It's true , it's true . That's why she may

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have appeared like that . That's why I always

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used to think that there's something wrong

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. She's so beautiful , I mean , but

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there was no shine . No , there

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was no shine because inside

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, yeah , she was sad , she was a poor

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girl . Yeah , she was sad , and some

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people thought she was mean and they just

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well , they just didn't like her , but

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her beauty was outstanding . Well

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, she was known for her beauty . She was known

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, but she got this , this horrible

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nickname of being the ice queen because she was

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like , I see it , like inside

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and so that , like what

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you were saying , no matter how beautiful you

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are on the outside , if the inside

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is not like , she was like the tip

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of the iceberg , that underneath

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there was all that side sadness

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that we didn't know about . Yeah , but you

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could . You could perceive the ice on

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the top , yeah , and underneath , yes

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, there was a lot of sadness . There

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must have been more . Have you seen her lately ? Now

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, because she's in a happy relationship ? No , I've never seen

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her again . I wonder what she looks like now . She'll

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be different , probably . Yeah

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, I'm sure she's different already

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. When you smile more , you

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, you , she , she basically

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wouldn't smile much , would she ? Let's

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face it , no , anyway

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, I didn't know her that well , but I could see her in

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the distance , in the , yeah , like

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a little bit frightened of her . I think this

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beautiful person , but so , yeah

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, so it doesn't really matter what you look

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like if you don't shine , if there's not

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that kind of glow that comes from the inside

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. So what about also with them , with

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, like physical exercise , you know

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the training and everything . Oh my gosh , the training . What

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about you know , if you just do 80% of

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it , brilliant , 80%

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would be more than I'd be more than happy to do

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. 80% , I think I'd do 20%

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and I'm like , oh okay , 20%

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is a good start . Yes , I

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did like 20% of walking the other day on the

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treadmill . I only walked for like 20 minutes

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and I thought , well , that's enough , you

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know , to start off , because

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I haven't done it for ages . So I just did that

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. Yeah , I was pretty happy

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with it . I mean it's good . I think what happens

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is that if you're satisfied with the

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effort that you make , it's

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going to be a big , there's going to be a big

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incremental difference in your life . Absolutely

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, if you're not satisfied with it , you're living in

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a state of dissatisfaction . So , even if you're

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satisfied with 80% of the effort

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you make , that's good . Well

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, for me on that day , it was 80%

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, because I thought that's what my maximum

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today is . This , I mean , I've just had eye surgery

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as well a month ago . So

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I thought , you know , just start taking . I'm

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trying to make excuses , but yes , I

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can't really over exercise . You're

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exercising . No , I mean , I wouldn't

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over exercise anyway because I'm not

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in that frame of mind at the moment , but

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I'm trying to get there and I'm going to start

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doing it more often . I think it's

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just the importance of exercise

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is for your mental health more than anything

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. Well , it's heart health

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as well . Definitely , don't

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come up with the mental health is enormous

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advantages , but it's also

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for your physical and your heart , you

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know , is just for exercise

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is brilliant , isn't it ? For all your organs . So

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, yes , I would say it's good for your mental health

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. And then the rest follows . Like

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, obviously , not over exact , not 100%

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exercise . No , that's not a good frame

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. Gentle exercise , you

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know , within your limits , without

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getting obsessive about it , because

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that also can lead to many problems when your

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perfection is . Look , if you're going to be exercising

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100% , that means you're like

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it's almost over exercising , which

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is over , and the overly

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doing anything is not good for you

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. You know want to be perfect . So

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do you think this 80%

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is like living life in moderation

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? Is that what we're getting around to ? Absolutely

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? What about food In moderating ? In

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the meantime , you eat good , healthy food and 20%

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of the time you can cheat and eat whatever you want

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. But why do we have

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to call it cheating ? Yeah , I don't

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know , I hate that actually . You're right . Yeah , we

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don't have to call it . That's what we've been called . We've been conditioned

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, we've been taught that , like eating

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sweets and candy and sugar

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and things that I think are cheating

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, like fried foods , and that

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would be yes , because if you

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know it's not really good for you

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, that's why you think , oh , okay

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, I'm putting food into my body . That's not

17:32

actually nourishing , but

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it is nourishing for me because you

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might actually need a bit of sugar in that

17:39

moment . Yeah , no sugar . Yeah

17:41

, for example , fried foods , for example

17:43

, well , fried foods , unless you've had the doctor

17:46

say you shouldn't eat them . Yeah

17:48

, maybe you have . Yeah

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, you

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know you can eat them . You can

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eat them , can't you ? Yes , you

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can eat them with moderation . Yes , 20%

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. So even if you apply that

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to your food intake for one

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day , so if 80%

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, like you're having good protein

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and you're eating things that you

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know are going to be good for your body

18:12

veggies and fruits and nuts

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and whatever you're going to be

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drinking good water then afterwards

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, if 20% of that day , you might

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have something that's

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not . I bought lentils today for

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lunch . There you go . That's part

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of our 80% . You bring

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them all the time , every time we do a podcast , we eat

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lentils , which I really like . Actually

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, they're part of really good , healthy

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, 80% . Well , I've discovered this lentil

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soup that I make . That's

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really easy to make because it's just a packet of

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lentils . You just throw them in , don't

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you ? I don't throw

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them in , no , but I mean you just throw

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it in with water and you would you put an onion

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and a carrot in there , put

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them in the cooker , in the pressure cooker , because

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I've got , but you can cook them in a pot , just

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add some water and then

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one or two onions

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, a carrot , a couple of carrots , a couple of celery

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stalks and that's it . It's

19:08

ready to go and some nice pepper

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. On chino , I added a bit of spicy pepper

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, spicy pepper like

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paprika yeah

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, I did taste this once last time . Yeah

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, and a bit of garlic as well , but garlic

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powder kind of thing , because it's easy , because

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it's easy , but

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you could just put garlic in there and then afterwards

19:29

I put it all in the blender because I don't . I

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mean , I don't mind them , but I prefer it when it's blended

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. Yeah , a lot of people don't like blended

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, but that's good , because if you didn't blend them , then you could

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also put some rice in there or something

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. Yeah , that's good . Yeah , you could have like lentils

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with the brown rice and that's like 80%

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, isn't it ? Yeah , I'm not bothered with the rice . I'm

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not bothered now either , because normally we have

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some other form of . But

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then I bought some mackerel as

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well to add to the dinner . God , I don't

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know , I'm not crazy about that , but I make

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you eat it , don't I ? Yeah , violetta does

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make me eat that because it's a fish , isn't it ? Because

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I always bring it , because she brings it , it's

20:04

got the omega 3's , doesn't it ? Yes , it does

20:06

. Actually , it's very good for eyesight and heart

20:09

health . So I know all of this . But

20:11

then afterwards , this morning I had pancakes

20:13

for breakfast which I made with oats , and

20:16

those are my go to . I make them every

20:18

day , yeah , or nearly every day

20:20

, yeah . Well , not always with oats

20:22

. Sometimes I put camomile flour , but today I put oats

20:24

, greek yoghurt , a little bit of olive

20:26

oil , and they just rolled oats that

20:29

you like blend . No , oat flour , ah

20:31

, oat flour , yeah , but you can put them in

20:33

. I just buy those rolled oats

20:35

. No , I bought oat flour . It's easier . Yeah

20:37

, and it's a . I've never even found that

20:39

it's bio flour ? Yeah , you just find

20:41

it in English . What's it called in English ? Bi

20:44

, bi , biological

20:46

, isn't it bio ? No , I think

20:48

. Or anywhere , hasn't

20:50

got the pesticides in it . Organic , organic

20:53

, yeah , organic , it hasn't got the pesticides

20:55

in it . Well , that's what they say . But anyway

20:58

, any Any oats flour , 80% is fine , and

21:01

I've got there . But then the 20% on top of that

21:03

, I put lovely honey on it to have . But

21:05

honey is considered sugar

21:07

, a super food . No , it's not just

21:10

sugar . Sometimes I do put lemon

21:12

curd on it or something else which is

21:14

a pure sugar . Lemon curd

21:16

, yes , yeah . So

21:18

I had that for breakfast with a coffee Before

21:22

coming here . That was a good break

21:24

, yeah . And then on the way here I got to stop

21:26

by the police . What

21:30

is it ? Have

21:32

you had a good breakfast ? I also

21:35

got warned by this friendly

21:37

car , because in Italy they warn you . They flash your

21:39

lights . So the police are coming that's

21:41

cute . From the opposite direction , they

21:43

flash the lights . I slowed down a bit , even

21:45

though I wasn't speeding back . I just thought I'd better slow down a

21:47

bit more and drive really slowly . And

21:50

so slow

21:52

down to exactly , you know , under

21:55

, under , under , because

21:57

here you always go five over anyway . Then

22:00

they stopped me and they asked me for my

22:02

you know my yeah

22:09

. Did that make you nervous ? It does to me . I

22:11

don't like it when they stop me , I must say

22:13

but I've got everything organized . Yeah

22:15

, yeah , it helps if you've got it . I

22:17

think it goes back to the olden days and

22:20

a long time ago , when they used to stop me and I

22:22

didn't have , I used to have a special thing

22:24

Saying that I was British

22:26

, I didn't have the proper Italian license

22:28

, so that used to cause a

22:30

bit more anxiety . I'd ask a few questions

22:32

yeah , and things like that . Yeah , anyway

22:35

, I don't know what that's got to do with anything

22:37

. Well , I don't know . We were talking

22:39

about 80% food , you

22:41

know . So I mean eating like 80%

22:43

. So you've had a really good breakfast and

22:45

that was a healthy . No

22:47

, no , very healthy . Yeah , come on , it

22:50

wasn't just a cake or something like

22:52

. I mean , I consider that to be like the 20%

22:54

, because it's nice and sweet . Yeah

22:57

, all right , but I'm some cinnamon on as

22:59

well . They say that's really

23:01

healthy . Come on , it's not . It's not

23:03

just a croissant . I'll eat some chocolate

23:05

later . Yes , that's a 20%

23:08

, isn't it ? So you're like , have

23:10

a couple of all those chocolate with nuts

23:12

in . That's my favorite . Yeah , you

23:15

know , it's . Generally is 80% healthy

23:17

. You know I love chocolate . Don't

23:19

get me started . That would definitely

23:21

be my 20% . Like if you gave

23:23

me chocolate , I did . But I just

23:25

have , I do . I don't just binge

23:27

on any chocolate . I want nice , good

23:30

quality chocolate , you know . But Really

23:32

, any chocolate will be fine . Here is

23:34

confessions . But

23:37

not too much though . Yeah , I know I

23:40

keep it within the 20% limit . So

23:43

, yeah , that's a that can apply to anything

23:46

. Also , I think about your , the

23:48

way your house is , your apartment

23:50

or your house or wherever you are

23:52

, where you're living . I think if you know 80%

23:54

, keep it tidy . You don't have to be 100%

23:56

tidy . 80% is really really good , 80%

23:59

is brilliant . But sometimes I go

24:01

around and I see a mess , like this morning

24:03

I left the house and I could see I

24:06

said goodbye to Otto , who's on

24:08

the stairs , and I Little bits of

24:10

fluff around and you just dust

24:12

. And I just left it . Yeah , because

24:14

it's fine , because I was gonna vacuum , but

24:16

then I thought I just did later . Yeah

24:19

, who cares ? Yeah , you're still day after

24:21

day . So what mom said is going

24:23

to be there when you get back , isn't it ? She

24:27

said that the dust will always form

24:29

. But yes , the famous English lady

24:31

told her she wasn't really famous

24:33

. She was famous for my mom because she kept on repeating

24:36

her her quote . Really , she was

24:38

just a kind . She became really

24:40

famous for us , for our family . She

24:42

was like , oh , my mom would live by that rule

24:44

. What was it she would say ? She said the dust will

24:47

always be there , but you won't . Yeah

24:49

, it was something quite poignant . No

24:51

, it was like live your life , live

24:53

your life , because tomorrow the

24:56

dust will fall again and tomorrow you'll have

24:58

to dust again . Whereas if you don't bother

25:00

dusting one day and you dust every week , yes

25:02

, it dusts . Basically , it was dust

25:04

once a week . My mom took

25:06

that take on it and she would say I'm not dusting

25:09

every day , the dust always

25:11

comes back . Yeah , but I

25:13

thought it was like , quite , you know , significant

25:15

. Well , it was significant because we tend to dust

25:17

, don't we ? Yeah , in the

25:19

end , yeah , we do actually . Yeah

25:21

, so we don't need to dust all our lives because

25:24

we'll be dust one day . Yeah , so you

25:26

better enjoy your life . Now , that was definitely

25:28

the meaning

25:36

. I

25:39

don't really want to end on this rather somber

25:41

note , but yes , but it's a somber

25:44

note , but it's like live . Don't be a perfectionist

25:47

, because if you , I mean you can't be

25:49

, if you're really enjoying your life and you're living

25:51

like that hey , some of the geniuses are

25:53

doing well on it . No

25:56

, but definitely in one area . In one area

25:58

. If you want to excel , yes , and

26:00

you can excel , but then don't

26:02

get over preoccupied . If your house

26:04

is a mess , yeah , and you can't . If

26:06

you're not the perfect mum or dad or

26:10

the perfect host and you know

26:12

things . But you're excelling in one pattern . If you

26:14

were one pattern , if the way you look isn't

26:16

like what you would really want to look like

26:18

, you know Also , that

26:20

is another thing . Yeah , you can't always

26:23

keep up with everything . You can't

26:25

keep up with everything , and everything

26:27

you see as well and you're getting fed

26:29

to is not real . So nowadays

26:32

we have to . I think we have to be . In today's

26:34

age , we have to be even more careful . Yes

26:36

, because we're not just looking at our next door neighbor

26:38

. We're looking at celebrities and influencers

26:41

and normal people that are being brushed

26:43

up yeah , I just have got their filters

26:45

on and people that are . Just they're reflecting

26:48

a life that isn't real and maybe if you

26:50

know them . You realize how

26:52

sad their lives are . Maybe they're not . Hopefully

26:55

, for them they're not . They have really fulfilling

26:57

and happy lives , but that doesn't make

26:59

us feel as if we should feel

27:01

any less than they are . We're all guilty

27:03

of it , even ourselves . What we put

27:05

up on social media is not a

27:08

real reflection of our everyday

27:10

life . Well , no , you might see some

27:12

other moments when we're not , you know

27:15

, always with our makeup

27:17

on and always looking glam

27:19

and always happy and being the English sisters

27:21

. There's so much of our lives that you

27:23

don't see and . But

27:26

that's what it's like , and they're imperfect

27:28

and they're messy , and there's illnesses

27:32

and stuff going on , and

27:35

that that's just life , isn't it ? It's what

27:37

you love , because it's true

27:39

, isn't it ? The stress is everywhere

27:41

. You get up in the morning , you put your makeup

27:43

on , you get washed and dressed

27:45

and you make the best of

27:48

your day . You live trying to save your day

27:50

and I think

27:52

if you can keep your mind calm

27:54

, taking

27:57

a deep breath , and do your little

27:59

things , you'll be okay . You'll

28:02

be definitely okay , and that's how we live our

28:04

lives anyway . So Let us know if you're

28:06

going to do this , or if you already do this

28:08

, or if you're on the other side , if

28:11

you're a perfectionist , or if you're on

28:14

the other side of that scale which you , where you've never

28:16

really , you know , tried to do

28:18

anything , you've never strived to do anything , and

28:20

you feel as if maybe your life would be a bit better

28:23

if you did 80 percent more

28:26

in your favor . Yes , yeah

28:28

, because you could also be on that scale

28:30

. Yeah , you could also just be trying 20

28:32

percent and yeah , so maybe

28:35

think , hmm , if I , yeah

28:38

, I could , I'm going to go for

28:40

it . Yeah , get that energy

28:42

and go for it . Get energy and get

28:44

going . Ready , steady

28:47

, go . So come and see us on

28:49

Instagram , at Get Real

28:51

with English Sisters , on YouTube

28:53

, but at the English Sisters

28:55

and Twitter , wherever well , it's not

28:57

called Twitter anymore . X Really

28:59

, oh , yeah , on X . See

29:02

you there , see you there . Bye , bye

29:04

. Lots of love and smiles from the

29:06

English Sisters .