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Well , hey , there all you beautiful

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people , and welcome to the most

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the most exhilarating ride of self-discovery . Get ready for a life-shifting

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journey as we dive deep into the topics of self-love , self-worth

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, some other selfies , as well

0:32

as unlocking the transformative

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power of setting healthy boundaries

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so you can embrace your

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true potential and take

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charge of your life . This

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is not your typical self-help podcast

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, oh no , we are

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taking it up a notch and then some

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. No sugarcoating , no

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fluff , just real talk

0:55

and real results . We're

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diving headfirst into those topics

0:59

that some may shy away from

1:02

, but not here . Together

1:04

, we'll uncover the wisdom in embracing

1:07

the tough stuff . I'm

1:09

bringing my high energy and

1:11

no-nonsense approach to the mic

1:13

and we're ready to break through

1:15

those barriers holding you back . Get

1:18

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1:20

and learn simple yet

1:22

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1:25

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1:27

you . So buckle

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1:31

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1:34

. Embrace your uniqueness

1:36

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1:38

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1:40

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1:42

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1:50

even a little dancing . Together , we'll

1:53

crush those self-doubts , level

1:55

up our self-love game and

1:57

celebrate every step of

1:59

this incredible journey . Are

2:01

you ready to ignite the power

2:03

from within ? Well then

2:06

, let's do this . I'm Denise

2:08

Marsh , your enthusiastic guide

2:10

on this rollercoaster of growth , and

2:12

I cannot wait to see you

2:14

thrive . Get ready

2:16

for an adventure that will leave you feeling

2:19

empowered , inspired

2:21

and equipped to take on the

2:23

world . This is getting

2:25

raw with denise , where we redefine

2:28

authenticity and have a blast

2:30

doing it . Just keeping it

2:32

raw , raw , raw

2:35

. Just keeping it raw , raw , raw

2:38

. Hello

2:59

, and happy , sweet day to you

3:01

. Thank you for joining me for

3:03

another episode of Getting

3:05

Raw with Denise and if this is

3:07

your first time listening to my

3:09

podcast , welcome and

3:11

thank you . I am

3:14

so pumped to get into this

3:16

episode . Let's talk

3:18

about what else is possible

3:20

. You

3:23

know , all of us humans

3:26

play the what if game quite

3:28

often . Sometimes we

3:30

ask ourselves what

3:33

if things go right ? What if

3:35

things go wrong ? We ask , what

3:37

if this turns out even

3:40

better than I expected , or it

3:42

turns out worse than I expected ? What

3:45

if this ? What if that ? When

3:48

we're putting it out there , we're talking about the

3:50

possibilities , whether it's a good

3:52

possibility or not . So good possibility

3:54

. But if you

3:57

are going to play the what if game

3:59

anyway . Then

4:01

you get to ask yourself what else

4:03

is possible for me , what

4:06

is possible for my life ? And

4:09

that is a fun

4:11

and powerful question , because

4:13

what is possible for you ? And

4:16

if it's kind of a challenge for you

4:18

to even think about it in a good

4:21

way or an uplifting way or forward

4:24

movement way , think about

4:26

what has been possible for you already

4:28

in your life . You

4:31

have not made it this far just

4:34

by luck , just

4:37

by coasting , just

4:40

by existing . You've

4:42

taken some action to get to where you are . You

4:45

have imagined yourself doing things that you are

4:47

actually doing . You

4:50

have dreamed of having things that you actually

4:52

have . You

4:54

have desire to feel certain ways that

4:56

you have actually felt . So

4:59

if all of those things are true for you , then

5:02

what else is possible ? So

5:05

recently I was leading a

5:07

virtual accountability

5:09

group and we were talking

5:11

about being in the season of transition , and

5:14

now we can argue that every

5:16

season that we're in is a season of transition

5:19

, but not really . Sometimes

5:22

we go through seasons of reaping the benefits

5:25

and rewards of what we have

5:27

planted for ourselves . Sometimes

5:30

we are enjoying what we have

5:32

put out there for ourselves

5:34

or what someone has put out there for us . Sometimes

5:38

we are in a season of transition , change

5:41

, shifting . Those

5:47

seasons are not always the easiest . Sometimes they

5:49

can be darn right , challenging , and

5:57

it seemed as if every single person on that virtual session was in a

5:59

season of transition . And I

6:01

too am in a season of transition , and I too am in a season of

6:03

transition , and I

6:06

have come to find that when

6:08

I'm in a season of transition , it

6:11

is helping me to gear up for what's

6:13

coming next . Now

6:16

, typically

6:18

, all right . When I'm

6:20

in the season of transition , it feels

6:23

pretty rocky at times . Sometimes

6:26

it can feel a little cloudy , where I'm just

6:28

not quite sure what's happening . And

6:30

back in the day , some years ago

6:33

, this would have sent me spiraling

6:36

. I mean , it would

6:38

have sent me into a state of sheer panic

6:40

. And now

6:43

, when it happens , I don't panic

6:45

, I don't spiral . I

6:48

do have to sit with it . Sometimes I

6:50

need to sit with what I'm feeling and just see

6:53

where these feelings and thoughts are coming from , so

6:55

that way I can gain

6:57

a little bit more clarity on what is happening

7:00

right now for me . Sometimes

7:02

we're so eager to ask ourselves what's

7:05

next when we need to ask

7:07

the question of what's now for me

7:09

, what's happening right now for me , what

7:11

am I experiencing right now ? And

7:14

when we do that , it

7:17

does give us a sense of comfort

7:19

, even in the darkest hours

7:21

. Being in the present , acknowledging

7:25

what's happening right now for you can

7:27

give you a sense of comfort , and

7:31

when we are able to feel comforted

7:33

, we can now think up

7:35

the possibilities of what's going to help

7:37

us to move forward . It

7:40

can be a bit difficult

7:43

to sometimes think about

7:45

moving forward in the best way

7:47

when we're not in the best headspace

7:50

. Our

7:52

mind , body and spirit have

7:55

to be on the same accord or we are out

7:58

of whack . When

8:00

you're feeling off , check in with

8:02

yourself and see what's not lining up

8:04

. Is it my head ? Is it my spirit

8:06

? Is it my body ? What's not feeling

8:09

right ? Check

8:11

in with yourself , see

8:13

what's really going on with you . Are

8:17

you stressed about work ? Are

8:19

you having some challenges and issues at home ? Is

8:23

there a relationship or few that are struggling

8:25

right now ? What's

8:29

happening Now

8:32

? Something else that we did dive into

8:34

during that accountability group session

8:37

was being

8:39

able to detach from

8:41

what you are experiencing , so

8:43

that way , you're able to look at

8:45

what is actually happening in

8:48

a new way when we

8:50

are in the middle of something

8:52

, like we are smack dead

8:54

in the middle of some crapola

8:57

or some really crazy

9:00

things or some really harsh stuff

9:02

. Sometimes that's all

9:04

you can see , and

9:07

it doesn't feel good . The

9:09

possibilities don't feel that great

9:11

, and so what

9:14

can help is to try

9:16

and figure out how to

9:18

detach yourself from what you're experiencing

9:21

, step back and

9:23

look at it from a different angle . When

9:26

we're too close to something , we can't

9:28

really see it for what it is . You

9:31

can call that having your blinders on , you

9:33

can call it being in denial , you can

9:35

call it whatever you want , but

9:38

the fact is , when you're in the middle

9:40

of something and

9:42

it seems like it's just swirling around you , you

9:45

can't see the picture for what it

9:47

truly is . You are

9:49

only experiencing what's happening

9:51

to you . So

9:54

detach from it , step

9:56

back and look at it for what

9:59

it truly is . I'll

10:03

give an example Now

10:05

. Some of you may know that in

10:07

2022 , I was in a car

10:09

accident , and that

10:12

car accident could have gone a

10:14

completely different way . Someone

10:17

did hit me . They ran into me while

10:19

I was in my Jeep and

10:21

from that accident I suffered from

10:23

severe nerve damage in my brain , severe

10:26

nerve damage in my spine . I had a lot

10:28

of issues happening and

10:35

I was not able to do anything

10:37

that I normally

10:40

would do . I could not even

10:42

think , speak or

10:45

move the way

10:47

that I was used to . And

10:50

I will tell you right now . It was a scary

10:53

time for me , and

10:56

it was scary because

10:58

the doctors were telling me

11:00

that , hey , you

11:02

may never get back to your

11:05

version of normal . You

11:07

may actually become paralyzed

11:10

on your right side , you may lose

11:12

all cognitive function , you

11:15

may develop early onset dementia

11:17

, your short-term memory loss

11:19

may become permanent , and

11:21

on and on and on the list of things

11:23

that they described to me and

11:26

my husband of what could possibly happen

11:28

. It was hitting home . Now

11:31

, listen , I

11:33

did say this was not

11:35

going to be my story . I said it , I

11:37

claimed it and , even though

11:39

I was feeling like , no , no , this will not

11:41

be how my story ends , this

11:44

will not be how my life turns out , it

11:46

was still scary because

11:48

I have a team of professional people

11:50

Telling me that , after looking

11:52

at my scans and the x-rays and this and

11:54

that , that this is what my life was

11:56

turning into , and

11:59

because I could not fully

12:02

function the way that I

12:04

was used to , there was a part

12:06

of me that believed what they were saying , but

12:10

I did not want to fully believe it . Now

12:12

, day by day , I'm

12:15

faced with these challenges and I'm

12:17

not going to spend a lot of time with describing

12:20

all the things that I had to do and

12:22

adjust to and what

12:25

I experienced . But what I will say is that

12:27

there were times that

12:29

I was so stuck in

12:32

what was happening , what I was experiencing

12:34

, that it felt cloudy for me

12:36

, and

12:39

there were times when

12:41

I just didn't know what was next

12:43

. And , truth of the matter , none

12:45

of us really know what's next . But when you are faced

12:48

in a very unfamiliar

12:50

situation , it can feel

12:52

confusing , frustrating . It

12:55

can feel a lot of different things . But

12:58

I got to the point where I said listen

13:00

, if I'm going to look

13:03

at this situation in a different way not

13:05

from the way the doctors told me to look at this

13:07

, not from the way even my body

13:09

is telling me what's going on , but if

13:11

I want to truly

13:13

see this for what

13:15

it is , I have to detach from

13:17

it . I have to detach from the pain

13:20

, I have to detach from the

13:22

frustration . I

13:24

have to detach from the pain . I have to detach from the frustration , I have to detach from the

13:26

fear so I can look at what's really happening

13:28

in a new way . And

13:32

I did that . I

13:34

was able to do that . I was able to detach

13:36

from what I was experiencing

13:38

. I was experiencing and it

13:41

was then that I was able

13:43

to find

13:45

a different way to heal . It

13:52

was then that I really recognized that the treatment plan that they had me on was not

13:54

working for me . It was then that I decided to advocate for

13:56

myself and choose a different

13:58

path of healing . It

14:01

was then that the true recovery

14:03

started for me , and

14:07

clearly it worked , because here

14:09

I am talking to

14:13

a mic in your ear

14:15

right now , there's

14:18

no dementia . I am not paralyzed

14:21

. I do still have a little

14:24

nerve , challenges here

14:26

and there , but I

14:28

claim that I have made a full recovery

14:30

. But

14:33

I could have easily just

14:35

succumbed to what they told me

14:37

and just said , okay , well , the doctor said this

14:40

is what it is , so this is what it is . But

14:42

no , I

14:45

didn't want to choose that route and

14:48

I did not . But

14:50

again , sometimes we have to

14:52

step away from it and

14:56

we get to say to ourselves

14:58

what else is

15:00

possible . I

15:02

know what they told me is possible , but

15:05

what else do I feel is possible . Is

15:07

it possible that they could be wrong ? Is

15:11

it possible that I will regain full

15:13

function of my body ? Is

15:15

it possible that I will actually be able to run

15:17

again and walk for more than

15:19

a few minutes ? It

15:23

was possible , it

15:25

is possible . So

15:29

my question to you

15:31

, my

15:39

wonderful human , to

15:43

you who took the time to push , play and listen to this episode what

15:47

else is possible for you in

15:50

this lifetime ? What

15:52

else is possible for you in

15:55

your relationships ? What

15:57

else is possible for you in your relationships ? What

16:00

else is possible for you with your health ? What else is possible

16:02

for you when it comes to your career ? That

16:06

dream that you've been sitting on , is

16:10

it possible that it can become your reality ? The

16:20

fun part is that we do get to ask these questions and we get to dream

16:22

up all of the different possibilities . Now

16:27

here's

16:30

the dealio . If you

16:32

are listening to this and you are thinking to

16:34

yourself , denise , yeah

16:37

, this sounds good and kudos

16:39

to you for healing , but you don't know what

16:41

I'm going through and

16:43

right now , nothing good seems possible

16:46

for me . Actually , everything feels really hard

16:48

for me . Then this is where

16:50

I say to you , I'm

16:53

going to ask you this what

16:56

part are you playing in

16:58

this experience that you're having , when

17:01

we are telling ourselves that life

17:03

feels really hard and life

17:06

isn't going the way we want it to , there

17:08

are times that it really is because of

17:10

things out of our control . However

17:13

, there are also parts

17:15

of it that are within our control . So

17:17

what part are you playing in this ? And

17:21

please understand that this is not me

17:24

blaming you or shaming you or saying

17:27

, oh , your problems are because you messed

17:29

up along the way . No

17:31

, that's not what I'm saying to you . What I

17:33

am saying to you is that

17:35

you have the opportunity to

17:38

see what part you are playing

17:40

in how your life is going or

17:43

not going in the route you want it to take

17:45

. Using

17:49

that same example of

17:51

the accident I was in and the recovery

17:54

I had to go through , I

17:56

could have just sat there and said this is awful , this

17:59

is horrible . I'm so angry

18:01

at the person for hitting me . I'm

18:03

so angry that they were so busy

18:05

texting and not realizing

18:08

that they were about to run into me . I

18:11

could have done that . I could have blamed the

18:13

person who hit me . I could have blamed

18:15

the medical professionals . I could have done

18:17

a whole lot of blaming , but for what I

18:22

also had a part to play in my

18:24

recovery . I didn't have a part

18:26

to play in the accident , but I had

18:28

a part to play in my recovery . I

18:32

had choices to make . So

18:35

again , when I say that it

18:37

could have went a completely different way , it surely

18:40

could have if I would not

18:42

have done things in a different way

18:44

. So

18:46

we have to ask ourselves what

18:48

role am I playing in

18:52

the way that I view the success of my life

18:54

? And success

18:57

that means something different

18:59

to everyone . And

19:02

even asking that question , you know what is possible

19:04

when it comes to thinking about having

19:06

a successful life . Is

19:09

a successful life to you having

19:11

love , joy

19:13

, peace of mind ? Is

19:16

a successful life ? Having money

19:19

to pay for your expenses and

19:21

be able to eat

19:23

out at nice restaurants and take a vacation

19:26

and save money , is

19:29

success . Having a healthy life

19:31

, a healthy family , is

19:34

success ? Being surrounded by friends

19:36

and having an active social life ? What

19:39

does success mean to you ? This

19:43

question , what else is possible ? My

19:46

goodness ? I just

19:52

want to scream

19:54

this and

19:56

I know that I say it on so many of my

19:58

episodes that we have

20:01

this precious gift of life . And guess

20:03

what ? I'm going to continue to say it and

20:05

if you're tired of hearing me say it , then you

20:08

probably don't want to listen to any more of my episodes

20:10

, because I'm pretty sure I'm

20:12

going to say this again that

20:15

we have this one known

20:17

life right here , that we're

20:19

living right now and

20:23

we get to choose how we live it

20:25

. You

20:33

know , I'm actually getting quite emotional right now

20:35

. I'm

20:37

thinking about the

20:42

people that I personally know

20:45

, who have passed away , who

20:48

did not get to live a full life . I'm

20:50

thinking of the people that I personally know

20:52

who I feel

20:55

may have died too soon , but they

20:57

lived as best as they could . I'm

21:00

thinking about the people who

21:02

are living right now but

21:05

are just existing

21:08

, so afraid of

21:10

taking a step , so afraid

21:12

of living life

21:14

on their own terms , not

21:17

just on what people are telling them

21:19

they have to do . I'm

21:21

thinking about the people who are so afraid

21:24

to live their lives because they're afraid

21:26

of being judged . I'm

21:28

thinking about the people who are afraid to

21:30

ask their question of what

21:33

else is possible . I'm thinking about that

21:35

person . I'm thinking about those people , I'm

21:37

thinking about those lives who

21:41

are afraid to live

21:43

. I'm

21:47

thinking about you , I'm

21:51

thinking about me , I'm

21:53

thinking about us . I'm

22:01

thinking about us . I'm

22:04

so grateful that I am not the person that I was before . I'm so grateful

22:06

that I believe in faith

22:08

. I believe in taking chances

22:11

. I believe

22:13

in dreaming . I'm

22:15

so grateful that

22:17

I am surrounded by people

22:19

who love me . I'm

22:24

so grateful

22:27

that I get to love people . I'm

22:29

so grateful

22:33

Because , at one point , I

22:36

was scared , I was sad . I was scared

22:38

, I was sad , I was anxious , I

22:40

was depressed , I

22:43

was hopeless

22:45

. I

22:50

remember those days . I'm

22:59

thinking about that version of

23:01

me that's still a part of me that I have been able to

23:03

look at with grace , compassion , love . I'm

23:13

grateful that right now , right here , in this lifetime

23:16

, I get to use my platform to encourage other people to go out and live . This

23:20

episode is not meant to scare you into thinking your life

23:22

is almost over . This episode is meant to encourage you to remember that

23:24

your life is not over and

23:28

you get to make a choice right

23:30

now about

23:33

what is happening in your life

23:35

right now , what direction you want to take right now . I'm not talking

23:37

about the logistics in your life right now . What direction you want to take right

23:39

now . I'm not talking about the

23:41

logistics of your life . I'm not talking

23:43

about the things out of your control . I'm talking

23:45

about you . What

23:47

do you want ? What

23:50

are you going to do about it ? It's

23:53

time out for being afraid of being judged

23:55

. It's time out for shaming yourself and blaming everyone else . It's time out for being afraid of being

23:57

judged . It's time out for shaming yourself and blaming everyone

24:00

else . It's time out

24:02

for just sitting by and letting

24:04

life pass you by , because time is

24:06

going to do its thing . Are you ? What

24:11

else is possible for you ? What

24:13

else is possible for your life ? What

24:17

else is possible for

24:21

your life ? What else is possible ? You

24:23

can get hung up on the things that don't matter . You

24:25

can get hung up on the things that's happening in

24:28

the world that , again , can feel really

24:30

scary . You

24:32

can get hung up on all of that and thinking that there's

24:34

just doom and gloom

24:36

. You can get hung up on that . All you want , but you're not doing

24:39

yourself any justice

24:41

by doing that . You

24:43

have a gift , and that

24:45

gift is this life . You

24:48

get to ask yourself what's going to bring me joy

24:50

? How much more love do I want

24:53

? How much more love do

24:55

I want to give ? How much fun

24:57

do I want to have ? What

25:02

else is possible ? Because

25:06

there is a whole ocean-filled

25:09

amount of possibilities

25:12

for you . Don't

25:15

let another day go by without the

25:17

question being asked what

25:20

else is possible ? Oh

25:33

, thank you for being

25:36

part of this exhilarating journey through

25:38

getting raw with Denise . Your

25:41

commitment to self-discovery and growth

25:43

is truly inspiring . If

25:46

you have found value in this discussion

25:48

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