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I'm calling this short piece I'm
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recording, Smell the Roses, or things
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usually take longer than
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they should take. As
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I'm speaking right now, my wife and
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I are renovating an apartment we
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expected to move in two months
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ago, and we
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packed much of our stuff to be ready
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for that. Now
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if we're lucky, we could move
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in two months from now. Whoops.
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Hey, does any of the
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following sound familiar? Oh,
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of course the book is going to be done by
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the summer. We'll have
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our department restructured by
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next quarter. We should
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have our vice president of marketing by
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October. We're launching
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our new Apex product by year end. It
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seems late and over budget
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seems to be the norm for the
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big projects we've all heard about and
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probably been involved in. But
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how many of our smaller and
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personal endeavors just
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seem to drag on with the finish
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line continually shifting into
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the future? But
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it's tricky and sometimes even dangerous
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to have our happiness or satisfaction
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too tightly tied to the success
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of these future outcomes we've
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committed to, to
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the timelines we expect. You
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know, when involved in an operational
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system for our company where we
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don't want to do too much predicting and
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controlling because life is going to change and
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we need to course correct rapidly. You
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know, the universe seems
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to be definitely merciful in
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that it's been arranged so that we
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really aren't allowed to see everything
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in all their gory
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details. We're going to have to endure
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to complete anything of any consequence
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in our life and work. Come
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on, if you had really known
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ahead of time what was going to
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be involved in how many things you've
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thrown yourself into over the years, how
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many of you would have just said, no
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way. If
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you hadn't really been love blind, would
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you have really entered into that relationship?
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Would you have partnered with that person or
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those people or that
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company? If you
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had been truly, duly diligent and
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assessed all of the potential risks, if
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you had known for real what was really going to
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be involved in redoing
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your kitchen, would
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you have even started? And
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imagine if you had known what
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life was going to throw at you. Would
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you have even decided
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to be born had you had the choice?
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But then what would you have
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missed? The
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experiences, the learnings,
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the growth, the
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maturity, the ability to
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express all the interesting
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and creative and serendipitous
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things that showed
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up along the way. There
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are the gory details and yet what
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about the glory details? I
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walk a fine line between
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identifying with the result of what
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I'd like to achieve and just enjoying
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the process of getting there. As
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I've gotten older, out of necessity it seems,
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I've had to learn to relax a lot about
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the end result and its
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timing and build in
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more appreciation and fulfillment and just
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moving forward toward it. That's
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not to say that imagined
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results and outcomes
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and expected completion dates are
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unnecessary. Quite the contrary, they
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somehow are a natural extension of our
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creative energy that wants to
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express and manifest
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ourselves into this world and
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getting its cooperation in the process of that,
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especially if there are other people involved. But
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I found it to be tricky business
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to stay identified with
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the bigger me that's just engaged in
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the process of living and doing and
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the other me that gets wrapped
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around some future
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event or success that might
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make me feel somehow unworthy
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unless it is achieved and
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I complained then about
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the unfairness of the universe if
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it doesn't show up in my
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timing or to my liking. In
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coaching project or departmental teams
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over the years, I've
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often challenged them to clarify the
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values or principles that
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they want to pay attention to in doing
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the work together. Typical
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answers would be, hmm, yeah
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we want high quality, good
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customer service, timeliness,
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keeping agreements, alignment
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with corporate mission, etc.
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What seldom shows up in their
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own thinking are
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things like have fun and
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ensure that we're all using the
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project to develop ourselves personally and
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professionally. Most
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people and teams actually do
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consider these or would
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consider these kinds of standards important. I've
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worked with a few companies that actually
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had fun as one of
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its primary corporate values.
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Though they are seldom acknowledged or
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policed, wait a minute,
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we're not having fun. What do we need
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to do to do more that's
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more fun? And these parameters
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are the ones that can make a
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project more meaningful all
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along the way. Even
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if it's canceled, and many are, morale
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has not been totally hinged on
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some precarious future completion. I'll
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bet that your fondest memories
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will include as many vignettes
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about the process of getting
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somewhere as being
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at the destination. Anyway,
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I've had to remind myself lately with
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so many seriously important
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projects that are taking a
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lot longer than I'd hoped
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to get done. It's just
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a way cool journey, dude. So
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we don't move into our apartment until
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two months from now. So
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what? Getting ready itself is kind of fun.
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Or as the late creative
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Italian filmmaker Federico Fellini
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said, There is
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no end. There is no beginning.
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There is only the infinite passion of
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life. you
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