Sheila talks about purity culture, how the book "Love and Respect" is harming people, how women can have more orgasms, whether sex toys are a good idea, and uses the "c" word more than a few times (no not that one, the other one). If you want to learn more about how to have a healthy sex life in your marriage, make sure you don't miss this episode! 5:00 - How Sheila got her start as the "sex lady." 7:45 - "We had terrible sex when we first got married."    11:40 - How we see God impacts our view of sex (complete with in detail discussion of women's anatomy) 18:55 - the prosperity gospel roots of purity culture   21:17 - what purity culture does to a women's self-image   25:00 - how the church stifles women's orgasms   31:00 - Christians have double the rates of involuntary vaginal spasming   35:00 - Equating sex with obligation and duty   37:00 - a better definition of sex   40:00 - the penis is a multitool, but the clitoris isn't   42:25 - the popular Christian marriage books that harm women   46:00 - And, normalize marital rape   50:00 - Christian male entitlement   55:00 - what to do if your sex life SUCCCCKKKS    58:30 - Vibrators: good or bad?    1:00:10 - When the guy has the lower libido   1:03:40 - Why is God better than we think?    1:08:00 - Calling out the church and feeling spiritually homeless