We've all been enjoying the fun of the popular hashtag, #redflag and although we're all sharing laughs about some of our past experiences, I thought about how some of us are still willingly accepting the red flags but then pointing fingers when all is over. Ladies, whether we want to admit it or not, we're just as responsible for the hurt we've experienced as the proclaimed culprit. A lot of the time...we're falling in love with the fantasy of being in a relationship rather than genuinely taking our time and asking all of the right questions that are aligned with what we desire.

It's time that we hold some of that blame without shaming men. 

Sometimes, we're our own heartbreakers.