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Good

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horizons. I'm Brian, and this

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is grateful brands. Welcome

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back. We're on day four of our

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week talking ritual. On Monday,

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we had a quick conversation about the danger

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of sale tradition. Asserting that unless

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we're coming to the table with intention, we're

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wasting our time. Tuesday,

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we talked how to use ritual in order to

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build new habits. Yesterday, we

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discussed the use of ritual in facilitating

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new memories. Today, we're

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talking ritual and friendship. This

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is in ways an extension of yesterday's

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conversation. We're just getting a little bit

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more specific about how rich rule can serve

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us in strengthening bonds, specifically

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with friends. After all,

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shared experiences are powerful Risings.

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And when we're moving through life side by

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side, those memories become something

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that unite us. It's something to look

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back on when times are tough. When

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we need to laugh, when we want to reflect

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on joy or adventure or

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life being lived. We

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definitely talked a lot about our

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adventures here on for grains. Since

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the day I met Jackie, literally

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at Ultra Music Festival in Miami, we've

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been seeking out these kinds of opportunities

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for fun. And when we find one,

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we make a point of going again and again.

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For example, we've been to Coachella six times

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together. We've been Burning Man six times together

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and you better believe we're gonna keep going

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back. And I can say without

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question that those experiences, especially

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initially, or why we became such

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close friends so fast. We're talking

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long weekends together, sometimes a full

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week. And when you commit to something like

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that, you're really testing the viability

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of the bond. It's kind of like moving

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in with someone you're dating, is this gonna work?

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Do we enjoy the same Are

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you boring? Beyond those annual

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events, we have our everyday haunts

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too, the places we like to hang out, the spots

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that we go to unwind. And it's not necessarily

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set in stone. We don't have a specific date

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carved out that we know will be there.

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But when location itself becomes a

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bit of a ritual, It takes decision

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making out of that conversation. It makes it

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easier. Honestly, we really stumbled

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on a lot of this naturally, but it's worked.

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We pretty early on that we

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were having fun and so we kept having fun

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in those same ways. And slowly but

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surely it just became an understanding that

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we were doing these things together and so

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long as they were happening, we were gonna be

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there. In hindsight, we're lucky

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that things unfolded as they did. We

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made a point of creating those opportunities

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together and they some of our

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most cherished, shared memories. That

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being said, if you haven't found yourself

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in a situation where ritual is naturally

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falling into place, Maybe it's

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time to consider making it happen.

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If there's someone in our lives we'd like

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to get closer to, someone we

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think might be underutilized when

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it comes to adventure. Maybe

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it's someone you know really

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well, but just don't find enough time

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to be with. Rich will

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might be the answer. If we'd

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like to start a weekly or monthly

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ritual like a coffee, a breakfast, a

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lunch, a dinner, a night out,

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start with just one. We can find a

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place we both enjoy, and

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then we can set the intention to do it more

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often. We can map out what

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works for both of us and make it happen.

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And then we show up for one another

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in the way that we promised. And if

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it's a big or undertaking, a destination

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or more expensive, whatever the hurdle,

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we can sort out how we make it happen

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in advance. Maybe there's a less

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expensive option. Maybe there's something

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a little bit closer to home. And

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by the way, over the course of this endeavor,

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we might suddenly realize this friend

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isn't quite as engaged as we are.

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Maybe we noticed they're not willing to put in

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the same amount of energy. Maybe

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they're just not great to adventure with. That's

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all fine. There are plenty of people

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out there who will rise to the Asian.

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This might be the perfect opportunity for

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us to broaden our horizons, so to

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speak. This kind of intentional ritual

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can go for a group activities too. Back

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when my husband and I were living in a tiny

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little apartment in West Hollywood, we

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started at an annual east a brunch.

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We made sangria and French toast both

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very inexpensive by the way, and

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we invited twenty friends. Everyone

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had a blast and everyone came back

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the next year and it went on each of the ten

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years that we lived in that apartment and it

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became memories not only for us

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but for the people who came. People

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looked forward over to it. People made

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plans to be there before we'd

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even announced that we were gonna be doing it again.

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It honestly became a significant

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part of our year. And the cool

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part is we could pick up that Easter

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brunch again tomorrow, invite all the

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same people, even the ones that we haven't spoken

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to in years, and they would all show up.

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It's a little bit difficult to explain, but those

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kinds of rituals can become what

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binds us. It nourishes our

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connections and become something we think

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fondly on for the rest of our lives.

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And the best part about it is we can

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literally just point at a date on

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the calendar. Make up an

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event, a dinner, a lunch, a destination,

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whatever we want, and then do it

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every year or every month, twice a

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month, or every week, I have

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family friends who go on a women's house

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booking trip every year. They've been doing

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it for twenty years. Camping

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is a fun one. You can even try

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out a new location every year. The

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options are truly endless. Make

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up a fake holiday. And ask people to

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gather. Get creative and

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set it in stone. Thanks

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so much for joining us on Great Four Games.

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You can find us on Instagram at goodrisings

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or you can find me at e

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McMuffman. We'll be back again

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tomorrow for the final day of our week

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on ritual. Until then, remember,

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a better tomorrow starts with

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today. Risings

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