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You were now checked in to Stand Up
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New York Labs. Oh
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yeah, welcome to Guys
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We Fucked Guys,
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We Guys book.
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I'm Christina, I'm Coren're sorry
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about last night. Coming to you from
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Stand Up New York Labs Guys, Anti
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slut Shaming Podcast. I
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never stopped. Hey,
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everybody, Welcome to another episode of Guys,
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We Fucked Guys, We Fucked,
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the anti sluckt Shaming podcast, coming
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to you from Stand Up New York Labs in New
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York City. I'm Karin, I'm Christina.
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We are sorry about last night. Um
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today, I'm not. You're not sorry
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about last night. I am sorry about
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two nights ago. You're sorry about what was
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two nights ago? Oh well, the roast
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is the thing though, means Stephen hadn't had sex
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in like a couple of days. And I was just when
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I drink. First of all, when I drank, I'm just
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like you were drunk. Yeah, I was drunk
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and it was fun. But I came home and
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I just wanted to bang and
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he was up, which is it was like two am.
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He was up. I was so excited and I
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was like, wait, let me go to the bathroom. Take him my contact
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and then uh, you
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bar yeah, yeah,
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and then he was he heard me, I like flushed
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the toilet and put the shower on so he wouldn't you read.
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And I tried to gross out. No,
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but I just I feel gross, like if I know
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he heard me me vomiting and just me
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knowing about it. I don't care because it brush my teeth, take care
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of it, you know. But uh, and I usually don't
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vomit when I drink. That was like a thing I did when I
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was much younger. And he I get back in the bedroom
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and goes, oh barbs McGee a. I'm
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like, god, damn it. And then we just went
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to bed. Oh my god. Well this thing is usually after
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I puke, I don't feel well. I
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usually don't either, but I did that time. Yeah.
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Yeah, well usually we don't get
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drunk at the same time. And I saw, you know, and
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you were making all kinds of weird poses and I was like, oh,
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boys, someone had Oh well that was because it was a
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crazy person, uh that had
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clinged onto our group. Yeah no, no, no, I know she's
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very crazy. She
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was crazy, and of course Mike
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Ristine had sex with her all right, everyway
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everyone's a comedian. Um,
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so before we get into it, I
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do want to shamelessly self promote
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shows. One week from
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today, we will be at Comics at
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Foxwood's in Connecticut, hosting two
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nights, Filthy Friday and
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uh The Nasty Show Saturday.
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I was waiting for literation. I was like, that's definitely not the name
2:37
of the show. Um, it's gonna be Christina
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and myself hosting and they're at what time?
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Ten thirty? Dude, They're gonna be good.
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You guys, if you live near the Connecticut
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area or a surrounding state, you should come. It's gonna it's
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gonna be really fun and it's a really nice it's
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a nice fun venue. We're gonna
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be there sleeping over on Friday.
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Yeah, we got a hotel room. I'm so excited. I love
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what We're gonna have booze. We're gonna
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have bops, boobs, boobs,
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bore both bringing our boobs. Yeah.
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I was gonna leave mine in home, and I was like, you know what, it's
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Connecticut. I think we should
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bring the party. The thing is with a casino, Like we
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will be in Connecticut, but you could like a casino was
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just a bubble like it could be fucking anywhere.
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That's just true. You don't leave. Do you like gambling?
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Uh no, I hate me too. I don't have ten
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dollars to lose, one dollar to lose the thought
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of losing money gives me such
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anxiety. We have no money, guys.
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Yeah, Like it's like it's like, oh, I could stuff
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twenty dollars into a machine that will not give
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it back to me, or I could buy a hamburger. I
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put my pants on this morning, thank
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you, and there was a
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dollar in the back pocket. And the joy,
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the joy that I felt was
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and then I spent it on to bags
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of chips in the bedding machine. Wow. When
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I was so worried that. When I was younger, I
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used to take my allowance and I would hide
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it in increments twenty
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dollars. What I do with my we I hide
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it for myself around it and then I would
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have an indeck I would take on an index
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card. I would write like a key just in case
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I forgot where then it was. And then I taped
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it under my desk with the secret
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and then I would ultimately forget and
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then and then once I just found the key,
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and I was like, oh my god, I have all this money.
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Great, that's amazing. Yeah, I wish
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I still had that hit and unfortunately, so I do to
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my credit card. I do that to my credit card too. Oh yeah, I
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get drunk and I hide it. I
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saw you throw it in the attic one. I've
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just pitched it in my loft storage loft and took
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me the one took me a few years to find it. So that
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was good. I remember that was a fun day. But I found
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it and I treated everybody all
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right. Speaking of treats, last week, we spoke about
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a very in depth abortion. Yes,
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and there's a good The feedback
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was good. I was I was hoping that people would kind
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of recognize that it doesn't get
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talked about a lot. I don't didn't even know what
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happens when a woman chooses to do that
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and then what the process is, right, But
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it was good. I was glad that people people
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really appreciated it. Yeah, I was happy
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we got some good feedback. Um so uh.
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A gentleman named Carl wrote us on our
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Facebook page. He messaged us and he
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said, hey, funk our ladies. I love the show.
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The first episode I listened to with the crying in the
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intro, that was awesome. Yeah
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one of one of you all mentioned how
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people were listening with their dick in their hand. I tend to
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listen at work a lot, so that was only figuratively
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the case. I was hoping for titillation
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at first, which I feel like a lot of people do when they stumble
5:32
across our podcast, but I found
5:34
it's so completely otherwise. It's just so very good
5:36
and revealing to hear women talk openly about sex.
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The reason that is so important for me plays into
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why I wanted to write to you bitches right you bitches
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up and thank you. I love what your ex
5:45
sex worker guests had to say. She diffused
5:48
a great deal of stigma surrounding sex workers, which
5:50
was great, but she also explained why being a john
5:52
is no great sin or personal fault either. Men
5:55
have sexual needs that they sometimes cannot fulfill
5:57
in the normal way. Right. It resonates with me because
5:59
I offer from major anxiety. Dating is a nasty
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mess for me. Keep me three.
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I keep trying to, but things really
6:07
work out, even to date even
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with even out wait, shit
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work out, even to date number two. I can't
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read out loud like, I hope I never have to give a eulogy.
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It has been over two years since I had sex, no flacio,
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no penetration data. I'm lucky
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to live in an Internet age where porn is free and plentiful.
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Still, human craves something more, don't they. I
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used to feel shamed. You're furtive,
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furtive, furtive again. I can't
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read out loud. I hope I never have to read anybody's funeral.
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That's really gonna suck for me. All secretive
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about my sextra curricular activity,
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mostly adult theaters, video Booth, recently Stripper
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Booth, like I was some sort of degenerate.
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I'm just thankful to have a voice in my head provided by you ladies,
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reminding me that there's nothing wrong with what I am doing,
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that I have basic human needs and I'm allowed
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to fulfill that need. Then he goes on to say, you know,
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what advice do you give for people who are anxious like
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me, who kind of can't get
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you know, I don't have hard time going up to
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women. Have you heard of line? Oh
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yeah, whiskey, that's what I reckon. He didn't say,
7:03
if you drink or not, we're actually drinking a
7:05
lime arita. Yeah, bud
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Light is not our sponsor. But if anyone
7:09
from bud Light is listening bud
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Light over bud Light, no,
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no, no, bud Light Lime. Bud
7:17
Lights and bud Light Lime are two very
7:20
different things. I agree, bud
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Light Lime is one of the best beers young
7:25
and fresh. Bud Lights like, it's like soda
7:28
for adults. Bud Lights and
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guys, don't be drunking if you're
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not. I really honestly
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though, because you guys listen to me, and I'm sure a lot of you
7:37
things like oh this one loves you
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would think you've been drinking for a while, but you really
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haven't. I I didn't start drinking until
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I was twenty one, and not because like I'm like a fucking crazy
7:45
rule follower, just because there wasn't a need um
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things. Basically, things don't get that bad until
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you're twenty one. So I didn't drink because things got back
7:53
to save it. I drink in high school because there are
7:55
parties and I wanted to be a part of that ship and I want to make out
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with all the seniors. When I was a freshman, because I had a thing for older
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bowl Oh god, I just still do. Don't,
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man, I don't know. I just drinking. The drinking in high
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school. Just a lot of liquid vomit I've
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seen just purely quid into
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like CBS bags and shure. Yeah, yeah, that
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happens. No one happens when you're young. No one needs to see
8:14
that. Um, do you want to read one more? Yes?
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Uh? Let the middle one is good? Okay be
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dub rights. Hi ladies, I'm a twenty two about
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to be twenty three June tenth. Can I get a shout out
8:24
place you're I
8:27
feel like I have to say that, seeing as how most of
8:29
your listeners seem really young. I was
8:31
curious if either of you had a song I love this one
8:34
or a list of songs you like to you bump uglies
8:36
with yourself too. Personally, I like to masturbate
8:38
or even funck to you. What I Am by Edie
8:41
Brickell and my husband loves anything by Nickelback.
8:45
Still trying to figure out how we got married with
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that little factor. I'm a songwriter, and
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as such I enjoy all types of music. Don'ty
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suggestions on some different sounds to finger bin
8:53
two or what your personal preference is if you
8:56
have one p s. I love the podcast and my husband
8:58
and I listen every week and get into some pretty
9:00
heated discussions over certain topics. I
9:02
just found out I'll be seeing you in Connecticut. Super excited. Love,
9:05
Well, we'll see you there. See
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you in Connecticut. Please come up and say
9:10
introduce yourself as be done, because otherwise we're we
9:12
need to make this connection. Yeah, I
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don't bump. But first of all, bump uglies,
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I've never heard that phrase for masturbating. I
9:19
never master Yeah, yeah, and I never heard it using.
9:21
I've heard it, but never in terms of masturbating.
9:23
Yeah, what did you think it meant like bump bumped
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into an ugly person? No, I thought it was like just
9:28
fucking something. I don't know. I mean,
9:30
I don't know, bumped
9:33
uglies. I
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don't masturbate to music. I masturbate to porn,
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and I masturbate to porns. I masturbated
9:40
to porn, so I don't. Yeah, if
9:43
I can, if i'm in, if I turn
9:45
the volume up, and that's what I listened to, I masturbate to
9:47
thoughts. Um see wait, I am
9:50
so intellectual. I always turn the volumes
9:52
down on porn. I fucking hate. I
9:54
hate this when the girls go
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like a freaking like dying dog. No,
10:00
there's no seal, it's I think I'm
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watching it ruins it. Oh,
10:04
it can ruin it for me so bad if they're so what's
10:07
going on is so hot? And then the noiser is like like
10:12
or you just hear the fucking ball sack against
10:14
the ass, I'm like,
10:16
that feels good. I don't need it. I don't need to hear that,
10:19
you know. I'm just that's not that's not like that.
10:21
That's not like a that's not like a hot sound
10:23
when I'm having yeah,
10:26
yeah, Like I
10:30
don't like, I don't like this this thing where they
10:32
I was actually I watched point in their day just
10:35
you know, did you Yeah, and to masturbate or
10:37
just to be like the kids or no, I can't watch
10:39
porn, just to watch porn to no
10:42
so I and and I hate
10:44
these ones where they try to make them seem like films.
10:46
I'm like, let's get to this. I know, I
10:49
know there's like a there's like a filter over
10:51
it, like a little glamour shop. I
10:53
found this European guy who just like basically
10:55
like stops like real people goes
10:57
around with his camera and stops like real chicks and
10:59
like offers money to do crazy
11:01
shit. Well yeah, but if it's
11:03
on a porn site, they're probably God,
11:07
I would hope it is, unless there's many crazy people running
11:09
around. I'm I'm taking a trip, really
11:11
tame life. Um yeah,
11:14
so that was fun and I'll always I always search
11:16
things like, you know, what do you look at when you goth
11:19
brunette teen? It looks like
11:21
you? Yeah, yeah,
11:24
big titted, curly haired girl. Yeah,
11:26
it's very narcissistic for me. I I don't
11:28
like I don't I don't like blondes,
11:31
I don't like tan lines. I don't like big
11:33
fake boobs. Big boobs are case as long as they're not fake.
11:36
Um um that's yeah.
11:39
Yeah, the boobs have to be like beautiful,
11:41
like very natural fake boobs freak
11:44
me out in naked fake boobs. Not
11:46
all of them, like some of them are really good. I'm sure I don't even know
11:48
they're fake. But yeah, I haven't
11:50
masturbated the thoughts in a while. Yeah, I'm
11:52
not even doesn't that mean is that bad? I don't know,
11:54
so I mean I think I don't know. I don't. Yeah, I don't also, don't
11:56
masturbate the music. But I think as
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far as sex I used to have. My nine
12:02
in Chails is my number good album.
12:05
The Downward Spiral is my number one recommendation.
12:07
After that, I would say I usually
12:09
call them jams, which is music by
12:12
black people but not like crazy rot like
12:14
like and not also I don't like, but
12:16
something like no like smooth, like something from
12:18
like the the nineties, like
12:21
nineties instrumental singing.
12:23
No black people. Oh oh
12:27
so so R and B, well,
12:29
I don't like. I don't tend to like R and B in general,
12:31
though okay, isn't R Kelly R and B. I don't
12:33
know that because I
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used to when I was younger and more emotional,
12:40
put on like Radiohead right
12:42
that even if I didn't like the person, that made me like the
12:44
person, because I was like, it's like I'm in an indie movie.
12:47
Oh yeah, let's just like take out of reality
12:49
real quick, or like you want a good cry,
12:51
like when Darren Darren who was two episodes
12:54
ago, we uh we would have sex in the
12:56
back of his band all the time to like code
12:58
play in Radiohead. It was so oceanal, and
13:00
I was like, I love you my
13:03
first payment. I used to have to be used to have sex to. Like
13:05
he was a big fan of the songwriter
13:07
Jim Steinman, who wrote who wrote
13:09
most of the songs for meat
13:12
Loaf. He wrote your Bonny Tiler.
13:16
Yeah that kind of like very dramatic.
13:18
Yeah, oh that's my dude. I still I
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still can't even listen to any of those songs without
13:23
getting emotional. Really, so when
13:25
I sing those in karaoke, you cry. I
13:27
mean I don't cry, and that's not going to cry
13:29
over. But yeah, I stopped listening.
13:31
I stopped having sex to music, which
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is weird because I date someone who's in the music industry for
13:36
so long. But maybe that's why he doesn't want us to music.
13:38
I don't don't don't put so
13:41
much thought into it anymore. Yeah, I don't either,
13:43
But I used. I used to like light the candle, put
13:45
the thing, put them. I like my other
13:47
people do that. I like when guys like candles
13:49
and set them and ship like that. But
13:51
I don't want to have to do it. Oh. I used
13:54
to look if the guy was coming over when I was single,
13:56
and I would have guys come over and when I cleaned my room
13:58
and like Oh, I did the candle. I
14:01
put the radio like, I put iPod speakers, like all the way
14:03
in the back of my apartments wouldn't look so obvious. So
14:06
it's like we could sleep together. Look it's
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all set up. Oh
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look at dad, there's a candle with some
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music. God, alright,
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I'm excited for our guests. Me too. Let's just give them
14:17
on because we're I mean, they're sitting literally right noice to
14:19
us. One of them has no fucking shoes on, like
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he's damn fucking hot
14:24
hot, like he's Jack Johnson
14:26
over here. He doesn't
14:29
even know that reference. He looked at me, like, what are we talking
14:31
about? Pocas on necklace?
14:33
Tommy, you got the arrans.
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Come on, alright, we got pierced
14:38
together. Um, so we have two guests on today.
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Uh, two of my closest friends in the
14:43
entire world. Uh. One, I think
14:45
I've I think I've mentioned Tommy before. I
14:47
think you have as my main gay and then
14:49
my other super good friend, Grant. I've
14:52
known them both for a long time. Probably would have
14:54
been dead, um somewhere in the
14:56
back of a gay club a long time ago without
14:58
Grant. Definitely Grant. Yeah, they
15:00
definitely grant Tommy. Tommy probably
15:02
would have just helped. Yeah, he would
15:04
have thought you were sleeping. Fun would he would have given you a blanket.
15:08
Fun fact about Tommy and I, we actually had
15:10
a failed reality TV show together, emphasis
15:14
on the failed. Um.
15:17
But yeah, and they have a lot of the
15:20
actually, besides being our friends, they actually have
15:22
a lot of uh. They have
15:24
unique backrilledge and they're both different.
15:26
But I'm gonna let them tell it personally
15:29
more just more, because I don't want to. So, guys,
15:32
crack open a line, Merita, what
15:37
I am? What you want? What
15:43
you what you want? I'm
15:46
not where humidity, I
15:49
know what I know, you know what I mean?
16:00
And we're bad right where
16:02
we have our guests, son, guys introduce yourselves
16:04
one at a time. So obviously Tommy has to go first.
16:08
We already know what about that says so
16:10
much about him, didn't say anything. Hey,
16:14
what's up my
16:20
manly boys, He's
16:23
like Diesel. Tommy starts
16:25
recording, It's like, goes down three octaves.
16:29
And that's true because I was on I was doing
16:31
sound on the set like for this school film
16:34
school, for this Vin Diesel movie, and
16:36
off off camera he'd be like, hey, guys,
16:39
and then it would be like fast and furious and he would be
16:41
like, yo, guys, are we gonna get this party
16:43
started? And I'd be like what just happened?
16:46
Well? I kind of paused for a moment because I don't know if
16:48
I should introduce myself as Tommy or Thomas.
16:51
Well wow, that was right debate.
16:53
Huh, yeah, it took a while. What do
16:55
you want to introduce yourself as? I don't know. I
16:57
mean that Tommy
17:00
Thomason goes for how long people have known you? I call you Tommy
17:02
because I've known you for eleven years
17:05
this August, and I call you Tommy
17:07
because she calls you. But
17:11
you introduce yourself in current
17:13
real life as Thomas. It's
17:16
kind of out of habit now, not because I necessarily
17:19
think about it, It's just I don't know. Or perhaps
17:21
you'd like to give your stripper name. What's
17:23
your stripper name? Well,
17:28
that's important to know. We
17:30
only have an hour, guys, come on, My
17:33
stripper name is Gavin so
17:37
Hot douche. But for you, you
17:39
can put any name on you. I think you're so attractive
17:42
called and I would be into it. Whileapsar
17:46
Bart third it's
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actually because one of my first crushes
17:52
as a kid was Gavin Rod, like
17:56
the hottest guy, and I tweeted him
17:58
that the other day, like, yeah, my stripper
18:00
name is named after you, and he
18:02
didn't know reply. That's such an epic
18:05
thing to here. I would be so excited someone said
18:07
that. I mean, does Kevin Rod trust
18:09
me? I'm sure there's a stripper out of their name. Well,
18:13
yeah, naturally, not after me. There's
18:15
no honor associated with it. Not
18:17
that being a stripper is not honorful, but it's
18:19
not after me. A straight club
18:21
or gay club, it's a gay club. Oh you probably
18:24
you're so rich, so hot. I
18:26
tell Colone all the time how hot I think you are. Is
18:28
that weird? I freak you out, like, I'm not
18:30
going to try and fund you because I know it would freak you
18:33
out if you thought he wasn't hot because
18:35
I am not attractive. Well, that's because he's weird.
18:38
Yes, you're the best friend. I don't think
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it's weird. I think it's odd that you look at
18:42
me and go I would never have sex
18:45
with you, because she vehemently does not. Some
18:47
of the guys that she's had sex with feel
18:50
really bad she likes. She likes
18:52
short fat guys like, oh, so that makes
18:54
me feel better about myself. But guys,
18:57
I said, I never I like fat and bearded.
19:00
Don't know where they're shortcake. Well, let's not go overend
19:03
like to fix a rupper. Yeah, and
19:05
that it's grand guys, grand
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no, no, no, Grant. Grant and I are one of
19:11
our main bonds is that we both love fixed. We were
19:13
just talking about fixed rupper guys over brunch the
19:16
other day. God, I
19:18
love brunch brunch. So
19:21
Grant, tell us more about yourself. Oh
19:24
man, Well I,
19:27
um, I'm one of Quand's good friends.
19:29
I run a nonprofit organization.
19:33
Um, I'm not a
19:35
stripper, so I think Tommy and I'll
19:37
have a very different perspective, not
19:40
just a stripper. Well,
19:42
that's where he stopped. Thomas and I are very good
19:44
friends too, and that's why I love him so much, is because
19:46
he does have a lot more to offer than that. Um
19:50
No, I'm just saying I don't mean it. I
19:52
don't mean that in a negative sense. There's nothing wrong with being a
19:54
stripper, I think. Um, but I
19:56
think you're a very qualities
19:59
about one of them A PhDc
20:01
Yeah, he's a very knowledgeable
20:04
human beings. Well, you work for an organization that's
20:06
a sex that does sex research. I do. Oh
20:09
that's interesting, same guys. This is we're
20:11
sitting with the crems of the creme of the gig and Grant.
20:13
I wouldn't go that far. Grant,
20:16
what's the name of your non for profit organization? You work
20:18
for? Yoga within Reach. Yoga within Reach promote
20:20
health and wellness and underserved communities throughout New York
20:23
City with traumason sit of yoga, mindfulness
20:25
and meditation. Oh my god, Grant.
20:28
You guys, just like you know, Grant is the reason that
20:31
I have not died in a ditch many
20:34
times. And that is, like you don't you always
20:36
have one friend who like, just
20:39
make sure that he's Europe. That friend,
20:41
like their main the job
20:43
is making sure all the other friends don't die in ditches.
20:46
I'm a mama nurture caretaker everybody,
20:48
but everybody needs to have that friend that gets them into
20:51
the ditch as well. And that's that's
20:53
Tommy. Good good guy. We
20:55
were not talking about Tommy for two seconds and he
20:58
started into a little bit. He started
21:00
to sweat a little bit, and then what's
21:02
the organization that we could, and I have
21:04
walked with your the organization you volunteer
21:07
for in the Gay prid parade, that is Marriage
21:09
Quality USA. I'm a lead trainer and
21:11
I help run their phone banks usually on a weekly
21:13
basis. We don't have any octave ones at the moment,
21:16
but um, you both march
21:18
with us. Yeah, that's fine, Thomas. I hope you
21:20
can do it one year too. You know, Tommy, you'll
21:22
appreciate you have to leave him his kitchen. This is all
21:24
sell Tommy A give so much
21:26
of myself to the game. Listen, I'm gonna
21:28
sell Tommy on this right. God, body walking
21:31
in the Gay priparaidy walking in a parade
21:33
in general. You think it's like the parades
21:35
for you? You will love it? Oh
21:37
you have, you can get it? Why did oh do you not
21:39
like it? He only does it if he can do it and get
21:41
its hand. You can.
21:44
It was a gladiator outfit and
21:47
I got paid by Trojan. Oh my god,
21:50
did you really? Yeah? We we wrote around
21:52
on those um the like sandy
21:55
things with the wheels with yeah
21:59
like that were like dressed up to look like gladiator
22:02
in a nerdy mall. No,
22:05
I mean yeah, us,
22:10
and we had like shields and swords and through condoms
22:12
of people to people. Thanks
22:16
for giving back, Tommy. Okay, UM,
22:18
all right, so this is this is
22:20
something I just want to get to because I I know I'm going to forget.
22:23
We have some more serious things to talk about. But
22:25
premature ejaculation. Guys. One
22:28
of my good friends who listened to the podcast, she
22:30
was like, can you please discuss this? I
22:33
guess she's having some experience, um and she
22:35
needs help. And I think we've all experienced,
22:38
uh, premature ejaculation.
22:40
Uh men, have I have never
22:43
You've never had someone? I
22:46
have never done it myself. Have I
22:48
been with someone who has done it? Are you serious?
22:51
Or did you not know that they ejaculated?
22:53
Maybe they don't want to tell you and they just kept going because they're so hard.
22:56
Um No, because that's the
22:58
issue. That's the issue is it's how do you It's
23:01
how do you as the woman or or
23:04
man who is getting
23:07
who would be ejaculated into like,
23:10
how do you deal with someone coming too early?
23:12
And it's funny because I actually have I experienced
23:14
with this, um for any
23:17
and it's just like you know, especially for a girl. I I don't.
23:19
I can't imagine there's a girl on the planet who hasn't
23:21
experienced it unless ugly kidding
23:24
that Jeff kidding
23:26
everyone, don't, Preacher.
23:29
Ejaculation has nothing to do with your looks, has nothing
23:31
to do It has to do with I mean,
23:33
if you're really hot, you might well, I guess
23:35
maybe it doesn't. Wait, have you ever prematurely
23:37
jaculated? Grant? I have not. I've
23:39
only experienced with one guy. But but
23:42
have you never fucked anyone who
23:45
society would call attractive? I
23:49
felt like a U. I'm not sure
23:52
how to answer that. I would go maybe
23:54
for me, No, but no. It's like and
23:56
so it's funny because I'm such a such
23:58
an aggressive, critical person
24:01
in real life, but I feel like in the bedroom
24:03
actually like super nice. And I feel
24:05
like when people like, uh,
24:08
prematurely ejaculate into me, they must
24:10
be like this girl, she's gonna's gonna
24:12
go on Twitter, she's going to chat
24:14
me. And I'm not like that at all. I've never
24:17
That's just that's me. You're
24:19
not me. It doesn't even bother me. As long as
24:21
you just finger me afterwards, that's all I ask. Yeah,
24:24
finger me or go down on me. Afterwards, because that otherwise
24:26
there's gonna be an issue. I have been with guys who come
24:29
very quickly. It's not even like premature ejaculation
24:31
is more yeah, like they didn't even get it in. I find
24:33
it flattering and when they, honestly I do
24:35
too, But I don't know. I don't know. Grant is
24:38
like falling back. It doesn't have to do with that.
24:40
Or is it just like your body when you're a narcissist
24:43
as I am, it's that
24:45
is the first thing you would think of, thank you,
24:48
I've outdone myself again. That's
24:50
but the thing is like that's all. That's honestly
24:52
what I think. Yeah, I do too,
24:55
But when it's like a lot of guys, it's
24:57
like, well maybe it's I can't be that hot, Like
25:00
what do you What is what is defined
25:02
as premature ejaculation? Is it like for
25:05
play, like even like barely rubbing
25:07
or touching against each other, like like just like
25:09
grinding together like fully come.
25:11
It's not like a lot of pre come they fully
25:14
come. I mean, and you know, I think it's also
25:16
and I mean I think also the way my friend is talking
25:18
about it, I think she also means just like not being really
25:20
really not being able to let your last
25:22
long time being kind of like, as they say in ourban community,
25:25
is the one minute. Man. I
25:28
feel like there's a pretty easy fix to that. I don't know enough
25:30
about it, so I you know, I've never done
25:33
any research on or anything. Usually I have
25:35
a knowledge sponge and try to learn more about
25:38
it. But I feel like, why not just masturbated about five
25:40
times before you're gonna have a sexual But
25:42
what is time? It last longer
25:44
and longer well after after I come
25:47
like I don't stay hard, so like I
25:49
wouldn't jerk off so
25:52
how quickly after time? This
25:54
book? How often? So after
25:57
you come though, tim how often? How
25:59
long does it take until the flate? Because
26:02
some guys that they stay hard for a while, like they'll go to
26:04
the trash cancer the con way and it's still just like I
26:06
hate that because I'm like, we're done, We're are done.
26:09
I have called wrap. No, I'm like, let's keep
26:11
going, all right, good, You're I'm done. I'm
26:13
getting much done to you guys.
26:15
That's a guy. Yeah, I'm not, are you you're
26:18
I'm not like I know, like girls are supposed to have like eighty seven
26:20
orgasms when I have like what my real
26:22
orgasm is like, like, you know, powerful, good one?
26:25
I am not only am I done? Don't
26:27
touch me, don't talk. I
26:29
don't need a sucking story. Don't
26:32
know heavy cloth holding, petting.
26:35
Yeah, I'm like, there's a towel in the
26:37
closet. Off, I'm
26:40
going to go to sleep and
26:42
goodbye. Do
26:44
you get do you do you get exhausted after
26:46
you come? Oh? Yeah, I'm like right back,
26:49
Yeah, me too. I'm so tired. Sometimes
26:51
I don't. Sometimes I'm like I've gone
26:54
possibly a sandwich. Other than that, nothing
26:56
is getting done, like I have. Have you been with a guy
26:58
who's like, no, you can keep coming, keep coming,
27:00
come on, No, we're gonna make you come work, dude, I can't
27:03
people in the face. They're
27:05
so insick. Guys can be so insistent. The
27:08
thing is, sometimes they're right. I feel like with older men,
27:10
I try to trust them because I think,
27:12
in my experience, the older the young guys never
27:14
know what the funk they're doing. If you're under twenty five,
27:16
please just go away, um to
27:19
us, not to the other people. Yeah, well, I mean, you know, I wouldn't
27:22
be denning you. Just learn
27:24
and if it's a woman telling you something. Don't be like I'm
27:26
a man, I know everything, like she's telling you. I
27:28
don't tell a woman. Um.
27:30
But with the older guys like you, no, I always
27:32
am like I'm like, I'm like, you're bringing my clip up. You're
27:35
bringing my clip up. Oh my god. That was amazing.
27:37
I didn't know I could do that. It's like it's like I feel like happy
27:39
surprised, yo, yeah, because
27:41
I'm like and I've learned
27:44
just when it's an older guy, just to trust them
27:46
and I'm like, we're gonna I'm like, I'm gonna power through
27:48
this burning clip part and
27:51
then and it's kind of like I don't
27:53
know, it's kind of like in the like yeah youah, just power through
27:55
it and then it's like a new reality
27:58
exactly. That was with me. That was
28:00
me with scorting, you think you have to pee and then you fight, you like
28:02
keep going and don't
28:05
I don't know what happened? Were you want to ask it? But
28:08
with gay with gay guys and sex, it's
28:10
like, okay, when you approach somebody, do you
28:12
know what they're top or bottom? And can people be both?
28:14
Can guys both? Yeah? You can? Okay?
28:17
Is that common to be both because I feel so I
28:19
hear so many gay guys go I'm a top, I'm
28:21
about it just labeling like specifically
28:24
isolated group. I feel, yeah, you know
28:26
what, it's actually funny that you say that, because there are almost
28:28
groups within the gay community that are like, I'm a top,
28:31
I'm a bottom, and then like people joke around if
28:33
you say that, like you're versatile. Um,
28:35
it's like a ven diagram. I mean, I don't know. I feel
28:38
like they're there's so much going on in these
28:40
bodies, like why not play around with all of it? Yeah?
28:43
Um, but it's it's funny because I feel
28:45
I feel like the guys that walk around, they were like, I'm a top,
28:47
I'm a top. I don't do that. I'm a top,
28:50
Like are just insecure with their sexuality
28:52
and are like insecure with the fact that they you
28:55
know, might like to have there, but tickled
28:57
a little bit doesn't say
28:59
it. Almost seems like like they do what anybody
29:01
says. Everybody likes to have their asset. You
29:04
know what, everybody that is true. I
29:06
don't care who you are. Do
29:08
you think any do does that blanket statement
29:11
cover straight men too? You think absolutely
29:13
for sure in my experience, yes, because
29:15
Okay, the sensation of having your
29:17
butt touched has nothing to do with being
29:20
gay or that's why
29:22
straight men are like, yeah,
29:24
exactly, that's it's the same type of
29:26
thing with gay guys as being like, oh, I'm a
29:28
top, Like it's like you're higher
29:31
up on the ladder if you're a
29:33
top, more masculine. Oh so
29:36
they think they're better then. And then there's the guys
29:38
that run around there like and
29:42
you look at them and you're like, okay, yeah, wings
29:46
and glitter the very
29:48
good imitation to me to some
29:51
people are like very bottom, Like
29:53
I've talked to people are very bottom because they don't like being
29:57
the top or they don't like the other role, right
29:59
or I think it's more. I think everyone has a preference.
30:02
Yeah, I mean, but I mean some people
30:04
like being dominant, some people like being submissive.
30:06
I think that, Um, I think a lot
30:08
of it has to do with energy, because there's
30:10
just certain people that you'll like date
30:13
or hook up with or whatever that you might do some
30:15
things with it you wouldn't do with another person. And
30:18
I think that that you know, that activity
30:20
falls into the same category. I think it's the same
30:22
like and not and not to go back to the
30:24
not to be the dead horse, but with
30:28
me and the choking, like I normally like to choke
30:30
people and be dominant guys. I have a point
30:32
here, but I think in
30:35
certain cases, if I meet someone who just
30:37
like I can't imagine anything but being dominated
30:39
by them, Like, I'm cool with them choking me. Yeah,
30:42
because it's different. Every coupling is different. I'm
30:44
down with the choking, like
30:47
both being and but
30:49
it depends with every have you ever had sex where
30:51
you're both just each
30:53
other? Like what happens
30:56
if you're both dominant? Like that's called gang
30:58
initiating, that's
31:00
called hazing. That reminds me of that poster
31:03
of like the duck with the frog in its mouth and the frog
31:05
is like choking the job and it doesn't never give
31:07
up or something only only did
31:11
no one else go to the Denis in Michigan? I was like, I
31:14
was like, what ghetto was the lastic book fair?
31:16
Were you going to the ones
31:18
where I could not afford the words walldo bugs
31:20
because those were hard in And
31:24
I was like, well, one day my parents will
31:26
win the lottery and I will get those A
31:28
large wears Waldo books Side No, Tommy
31:31
owns the entire ur else Fear
31:35
Straight, Question, Fear
31:37
Straights, and I as
31:39
an adult guys as an adult, he bought these
31:42
and I have them on display on my wall. Ya
31:44
bitter much right?
31:50
I actually live in a nice part
31:52
of Manhattan and have books on my
31:54
wall. Strip
31:59
and paste. That's the exception.
32:01
Okay, how much money do you make?
32:03
Can I ask? Number number one?
32:06
I've only been stripping for like
32:08
five months, and it sucks.
32:13
So I in the beginning, I did
32:15
like it in the beginning, and now I'm working over it. Um
32:20
you know I I
32:26
my parents would have love just
32:28
keeping money for that world time doing
32:31
this. No,
32:34
you know, in the in the beginning, it was something that so
32:36
I bar attended for like ten
32:39
years and shirt off, I
32:43
mean so I started, I started bart. I've
32:48
never I've never like seen someone asked
32:50
for like a martini and then looked like they
32:52
were going to get fucking ste takes
32:55
a while because you don't want to make
32:57
the goplicated drinks. I
33:00
didn't want to open people's
33:02
beers make them drink.
33:05
I was like, it's a one, it's a one mixed
33:07
maximum. People would come up
33:09
and be like I was a black Russian
33:12
and he'd be like, do you mean a vodka cram? Can
33:15
you let email me the direction? So
33:20
um? So yeah, I mean I started
33:22
bartending fully clothed, and then I was eventually
33:24
down to just my underwork because I, you know, moved to
33:26
different clubs and bars and whatnot. You
33:30
start making more money when you get you know, more comfortable
33:32
with taking your clothes off. So I actually
33:35
I went away to study abroad doll Argentina. I came
33:37
back my job, my bartending job wasn't around.
33:39
I was planning on going away the summer to bartend, but some
33:41
other ship happened, so I was like, Okay, what can I do for
33:43
a few months to make money? I was like, I know, I
33:45
can. I can strip. Um. So
33:48
I started doing it and it was actually really fun
33:50
in the beginning because it was like a new way of expressing
33:53
my sexuality and connecting to people
33:56
and like that sounds funny, but a lot of people
33:58
that come in like are not there for
34:01
sex. They're there because they want to fucking
34:03
talk. I've made so much money
34:05
off like sitting on people's laps
34:07
and being like, tell me about how you just
34:09
cheated on your boyfriend and broke his heart and how is that home?
34:11
Crying? But well, when I've got a
34:14
straight strip clubs it kind of see. I always
34:16
see the conversation like the guy just wants a woman
34:18
to talk to him kind of things. So
34:20
maybe it's more of a we're all sad
34:23
fox, which I think is why
34:25
people like this podcast and
34:27
why we're doing the podcast. No no,
34:29
no, I'm the one listening to them talk about
34:32
how they cheated on the right. No no no no no no. You're
34:34
need someone. You're making money off of them
34:37
feeling sad and alone. So congratulations, well thank
34:39
you. I mean, well, so I got
34:43
my undergrad in psychology and I'm getting my PhD
34:45
in psycho talking about the chess muscle, so like so
34:49
so like I'm good at I'm somewhat good at listening
34:51
to people, although I'm better at talking. I
34:55
enjoy that aspect more. Um friendship
34:58
is based on eleven years of never here what
35:00
the other person has, just chop over each
35:02
other, talking at each other. I
35:05
love that you don't even hear what the other person saying. You just like listening
35:07
to yourself the time. Tommy
35:09
will be like I told you ten minutes about
35:12
what just you know, this thing that happened. I was like, I didn't
35:14
even know this happened. I didn't know because I was telling you my story about
35:16
happening to me. How that goes pretty
35:18
much, So you didn't
35:20
You started out to like it? Well, yeah, I started
35:23
out liking it, and then now it's just
35:25
kind of sad as far as the money goes. Um,
35:28
it's you know, I actually have a fun time doing it at
35:31
certain points because I'm such a jackass
35:33
about it, Like I can't even take it serious
35:35
because it's just ridiculous. Like I'll
35:37
be giving somebody a lap dance and we'll be like, oh,
35:40
you're so hot, and I'll be like, yeah,
35:42
what do you think is the hottest about? It's
35:47
so and then I
35:51
started laughing because it's so ridiculous.
35:53
It is. But those guys, if you're if you're it's
35:55
funny because like even sex, when you think about when you're
35:58
not turned on, you think about it like from a far way,
36:00
it's silly, But then when you're in it, you're like, this
36:02
is so serious. Oh my god. Yeah, But at least usually
36:04
when you're having sex, you're both in it, that's
36:06
true. Yeah, And you know it's funny because
36:08
some people consider stripping to be sex
36:10
work, and I really don't. It
36:13
wasn't sex work. Well, you're helping arouse
36:15
people, and you're they're You're they're in an environment
36:18
where they feel comfortable being aroused. Me. I can't imagine
36:20
that I arouse anyone. Um. It
36:22
is like just in these scenarios.
36:25
It is just it's just silly. But
36:27
that's a fun thing about you though, because
36:29
you are super good looking, but you're very silly, which is like
36:31
a very that's always like my favorite combo
36:34
um, except for like in the Victoria's Secret Models.
36:37
Anytime they come on the late night talk shows
36:39
and then they're like trying to make jokes and stuff, I'm like, can you shut
36:42
the funk up and let me look at your tips? I
36:45
gets so annoyed when like Heidi Klum goes on and try
36:47
to make jokes, like like you are shut
36:50
up, dude, co'n funniest person.
36:53
She makes corny jokes, corny no to
36:55
turn off? Oh god do you have
36:57
do you ever get anybody saying nasty things? You know? The shop?
37:00
Absolutely? Oh yeah, people
37:03
get fucking pissed. At you, they'll
37:05
like, they'll just start to tell you what they don't like about
37:07
you. They'll just walk
37:10
up and be like. I had
37:12
one guy walk around me the
37:14
other day like I was live stock and
37:16
then pointed out an apparent like ZiT that I
37:19
had on my back, which I believe it
37:21
was not a white head, it was like a red mark
37:23
um. And he was like, oh, you have a zip on your back.
37:25
You're disgusting. I
37:28
was like, are you are you kidding me? What did he
37:31
look like? Umma
37:33
Simpson, I mean, I know
37:36
fat chicks. I mean I just want to say, almost
37:38
post kicked that cane out of his hand when
37:40
he walked away. There
37:44
we go, all right? Um So before
37:47
we were also talking about you guys, like how everyone
37:49
makes their ass like and I wanted to ask you, I
37:51
don't know, I think maybe have
37:54
you ever have you ever had a sexual experience
37:56
with a street with a street man who
37:58
like was like either curious
38:01
or well,
38:05
because I've heard of this, are
38:08
by curious or by or curious or
38:10
they want to label it as curious because they don't want to say they're by.
38:12
I don't know what I've heard that with guys who claim they
38:14
were straight, but that's a pretty dubious
38:17
claim. I feel like they were probably
38:19
gay. Right, can guys be by if
38:21
everyone gets down on by guys
38:23
or I hear i've heard people like you, Well, everyone
38:25
assumes if a guys by gay dramatically,
38:28
but I feel like that of course people can be bisexual.
38:30
Yeah. I've never been with am
38:33
so, but I would be open to the possibility,
38:36
right, I mean, and I went too, And a lot of times that's
38:38
the something that comes up, and I like, they're
38:40
like, wouldn't you care if your boyfriend was sucking
38:43
dicks? I don't know, I really I suck
38:45
dicks. Yeah, So I get
38:47
it. I get it. I get the pretty hypocritically.
38:50
The guy that I'm dating now, he doesn't
38:53
really identify either way, but has
38:56
like dated long term with women for
38:58
long amounts of time. Um, if I
39:00
were going to label him, I would lael him as bisexual.
39:02
But he doesn't label himself because he just thinks it's silly.
39:05
Well it is silly, um, And I'm
39:07
actually starting to fall down that road too, as far
39:09
as you're just thinking that's kind of funny. I feel like when you put a
39:11
term on yourself, like oh I'm gay, I'm by I'm
39:13
straight. That you're like throwing that term out
39:15
for everyone else and not yourself, Like, who the
39:17
funk cares? I identify
39:21
as gay? But I've had sex with women. Did
39:23
you enjoy it? Yeah? Absolutely, and recently
39:25
it's not it's not their bodies
39:27
I'm disgusted by. It's their personalities usually
39:31
twins. How long did you have that one prepped?
39:34
A couple of days. I'm gonna
39:36
act like I didn't jot it down into my iPhone at the
39:38
gym, but totally I'm
39:42
yeah. No. Recently, when I was in Argentina,
39:45
I was sleeping with um, someone that I was on the
39:47
trip with the entire time, and I was
39:49
a woman. Yeah, it was a girl. You know when
39:51
in Rome or urgent How
39:55
do you even have the time in the day if you're bisexual?
39:57
I feel like i'd be having sex all Well,
39:59
that's what I and across. That's what I was going to say, is that,
40:01
like, I'm I'm in a relationship with someone who
40:04
I feel like identifies that way, but I'm
40:06
never like just with the
40:08
type of person that he is, Like I
40:10
don't worry about it and I don't question
40:13
it. And I don't like, I don't wonder
40:16
if like, oh, he's going to see some random chick on the street.
40:19
Yeah, yeah, that bullshit. But it's
40:21
all bullshit. Oh it's such a bullshit. And
40:23
we've and we've we've talked about it.
40:26
It's plenty of times. And if he was
40:28
in a situation or felt like he wanted to have sex with
40:30
a girl, we would just have a threesome. And
40:32
I'm actually totally cool with that. I don't I
40:34
would not have a threesome with a guy, but
40:37
I would with a girl. Why is that? Because
40:40
I have a beautiful cock and he does not need
40:42
a different one. Good
40:44
answers. If
40:47
I ever break, if Steven
40:49
and I ever go awry, I'm coming to you and
40:51
your boyfriends. I
40:54
mean, I don't know if it just if it was another guy,
40:56
it just seems like it would be it would
40:58
be I would feel I would definitely feel I
41:01
don't feel like it's a less
41:03
a lot. Would I feel like that would be aggressive?
41:07
Yeah, but so, but yeah, I could see it happening. Though
41:09
one guy gets sucked while I stuck an other guy's
41:11
dick. But it's just like that's like, I mean, I would think like that.
41:14
I just think of like steaks like just I don't
41:16
know, like that was just like just like a very masculine like
41:19
so much. Just
41:23
everyone's eat hair and raw meat. I
41:25
don't know, everyone turns into yeah,
41:28
or it's three of those guys with the glitter and
41:30
wings are like I thought you were a top, now you were supposed
41:32
to be a top. Let's
41:36
just watch Bride'smaids. I
41:38
have toys for those situations. Grant,
41:41
would you like to talk about the double sided dildo? Yes?
41:43
Please? I mean there's not much to tell me
41:46
about. It's a double sided. Wait
41:49
is it like recomen for a dreamship? Like you just back
41:52
up on double
41:54
I went to the hospital for a single sided black
41:57
thirteen inches on each side or total total?
42:00
Okay, So it's flexible, so
42:02
it's like a yard stick. One
42:05
is in the kitchen, the other ones in the bathroom. We can you
42:10
insert it and you like two cans and strings.
42:12
That is that's how you bump ugly good
42:16
bringing it back? Yeah, I think. And
42:19
I was like, so butts
42:22
are beautiful because smash smashing
42:24
your butt against someone else's butt turn you on.
42:26
You're getting fucked. Yeah, I mean that's
42:29
why it's wait, are
42:31
you wait? Are you on all fours? Are you on your back? When
42:33
you're doing this? You can do it
42:35
either way because it's flexible, so you can be like
42:38
on top of each other and it will bend into like a U shape.
42:41
Oh that's fun. Yeah. Is
42:44
there like a stand for it? Like? How
42:46
do you not sucking cup to the lael
42:49
like to display it like
42:52
an iPhone? Is there? Ah?
42:54
But you gotta you gotta remember you clean
42:57
it if you're going to display it. Yeah,
42:59
my mantle right next to the shotgun. Okay,
43:03
can we talk about gun control for me? Podcast?
43:06
Run podcast? Not on this podcast. I
43:09
don't use them unless it's it's
43:11
like some kind of a weird right fantasy? Is that just
43:13
make but not loaded? Yeah, and
43:16
then it'd be one of those fake ones that we needed for film school.
43:18
It was bright yellow anal
43:21
sex. You guys have it? Are
43:25
you on the bottoms? Are you both? You're
43:27
both? It depends on who
43:29
I'm dating. I can't, okay, So I like
43:31
when it works out for me, it goes
43:34
really well. But when it's painful for me,
43:36
I know a lot of women are like painful, but
43:38
I found it to be very enjoyable,
43:41
but lately I can't, lately meaning
43:43
ever since a big steph because here's a big tick. Um, I
43:46
can't. I don't know what to do
43:48
because it hurts, but I don't want it to. I wanted to get
43:50
it to the point where it doesn't hurt so I can enjoy
43:52
it. Because I actually can enjoy it. I'm not. It's
43:55
not like, yeah, I've do try it. It's not yeah,
43:57
And I'm not trying to enjoy it for him. And even if, like
44:00
I really have had anal sex that
44:02
it's very enjoyable, yeah,
44:05
ba move yeah, Like
44:08
what do you more? I mean, I guess fingering?
44:11
You know what? Popper best
44:13
friends with you? Wait what? I didn't
44:16
even I never fucking use them until
44:18
I was in fucking Real for New Year's and that
44:20
was at fucking in Real. Everybody
44:22
passes around poppers at like bars
44:24
and stuff. It's the most I've never used
44:26
them for, like a weird humble brand. I thought
44:28
it was like those things you throw down to make a gunshot sound
44:30
a little. No, it's like I
44:33
love snail polish remover and you
44:35
buy it at sex stores and you fucking sniff it when
44:37
you're gonna have anal sex that like loosens
44:39
your ass up. What it's
44:42
basically suffer
44:45
It's basically huffers, but you're trying not to
44:47
end up in the hospital like anymore what wait
44:50
wait, wait, wait, don't talk about
44:52
her because anyway than
44:55
that. Wait, so they're
44:57
not gonna get your poppers
45:01
listeners if you want to do those, but
45:04
they're they're totally
45:06
legal. You can buy them anywhere. It's basically
45:09
like you're fucking sniffing
45:11
like nail polished. No,
45:13
it makes your entire your body loosen up.
45:16
Like it makes your body loosen up. It makes you feel like you get
45:18
fucking high for a minute. It's sucking
45:20
weird, so relaxes your muscles. I've
45:23
never used it for sex, but that's what I think
45:25
it's supposed to do. I've only done it in settings where
45:27
it's like sitting around having beers and doing
45:30
poppers, which is the weirdest freaking
45:32
thing ever, Like, who does it's pretty weird? You do?
45:36
I mean sometimes we also spend Friday nights listening
45:38
to Alnis Morrisett and crying. So maybe don't
45:40
do everything that Tommy and I do. You know, I would
45:43
just like to put on the record that I do not recommend taking
45:45
any advice from as
45:49
someone that as someone that actually, please
45:52
do not take this. I got
45:54
fingering and poppers anything
45:56
else. Well, you have a dildo, right, I
45:59
do, but it's big. Well, actually got a butt plug. I
46:02
haven't used it yet. You can actually buy
46:04
butt plugs in different sizes and work your way up. Oh,
46:08
an be Anal beads.
46:10
I need show. I was actually telling my
46:13
roommate how I'm pretty a natural
46:15
as far as the sex toys good, but I'm a big fan
46:17
of the Anal beads. And every time you tell me
46:19
that, all I do is picture you like a fucking lawnmower
46:22
and somebody just grabbing like
46:30
oh like Mario,
46:33
And that is exactly how I have sex. Guys. I
46:36
mean, if anybody out there was wondering, anyone you
46:39
know I make a lawnmower, just imagine you're
46:41
doing the lawnmower alright,
46:44
um ikin. She's the type of lawnmower that breaks
46:46
down every now and you just gotta
46:48
kick alright.
46:51
Well, this will be Tommy's last podcast here,
46:55
so uh no, I want to I want to get
46:57
to make sure we have enough time to talk about this, to
46:59
be actually have something more serious to
47:01
talk about. I was having
47:04
brunch with Grant this past weekend and
47:07
Grant told me, uh, something
47:10
that was serious and not fun
47:12
to hear, and I'm sure not fun for him
47:15
to experience, but I think it's important
47:17
and we discussed it that Uh
47:20
he talked about it on the podcast because he could help
47:22
people listening or make people feel less confused
47:24
or less scared. Uh So if you
47:26
want to tell us a little bit about that, I
47:30
do, And yeah, we're gonna have to take a little I'll
47:32
be fine most likely, but um, it'll
47:34
be a little aproch, a little break from the levity
47:36
and humor for a minute. Um, I wish I
47:38
could kill the piano right now. I'm
47:43
about to cry already. I don't even know what we're gonna say. Well,
47:45
I was recently potentially exposed
47:48
to HIV, so we're
47:50
going to talk about the precautions
47:53
I took after learning this, and
47:56
um, I also brought a little bit of information and
47:59
some figures and statistics on HIV
48:01
and AIDS that I just want to share with everyone because
48:03
I think it's really important. If we're going to have this discussion
48:06
because I love it because Grant is very much like a part of our
48:08
crew in that like he'll like get wasted and like, you
48:10
know, bring home a tryanny. Sometimes I'm
48:12
sorry a transvestite. I'm sorry I have
48:14
offensive trans person. What
48:16
are we saying these days? Thomas? Trans sexual?
48:19
Okay, trans sexual? But
48:21
you are super prepared. But he was like, he was
48:23
like, I prepared information. I brought
48:26
my laptop. I'm like you, I
48:28
think this is awesome. So yeah, I just wanted
48:30
to discuss it in the proper context and in
48:33
the most informed way possible for the
48:35
benefit of everyone listening. It's
48:37
not too much information, it won't take too much time. You guys,
48:39
please feel free to interrupt in chime in. I think
48:41
you'll probably find a lot of these statistics pretty
48:44
interesting with like what magic Johnson jokes. No,
48:50
No, I love Grant because like because
48:52
like we're like eating it. And he was just like, well
48:54
see you soon, you know, like if I'm not dead, yeah,
48:58
that's my buddy. Yeah,
49:01
but if you have HIV, it's not a
49:03
death sentence. No, it's not exposed
49:06
HIV. Don't have each IV to be correct,
49:08
right, Well, I don't know yet. Most likely
49:10
I do not, because the transmission rate
49:12
is relatively low for a single event.
49:15
Um. But you know, I think
49:18
just to start off, I just want to start with the basics,
49:20
because I feel like your listenership
49:22
is probably a little more educated given
49:25
the audience that you're reaching and what you discussed every week
49:27
here. But all
49:33
right, but okay, so just to be on the safe side,
49:35
the basics. You know, HIV is
49:37
the human immuno deficiency virus UM.
49:40
It's a virus that causes AIDS, which is
49:42
acquired immuno deficiency syndrome. It's
49:45
a condition that results in the progressive failure
49:47
of the immune system and eventually can
49:49
lead to life threatening opportunists, opportunistic
49:52
infections and cancers. UM. I just want
49:54
to throw one one thing in there. UM.
49:56
I were actually work in HIV research
49:58
as well. I work at the Center for CHIV Educational
50:00
Studies and Training as a research assistant.
50:03
And a lot of people do not realize that there is a difference
50:05
between HIV and AIDS. It
50:07
is two different things. They are not interchangeable.
50:10
That's so amazing to me that people still don't know that, because I
50:12
think that's one of the first things that I learned.
50:14
I think that there there's a lot of stuff
50:17
that even me because I've been working at this organization
50:19
for almost two years now, and there's a ton
50:21
of stuff that I just don't like, did
50:24
not know, and the people do not tell
50:26
you. And it's like even in the even in
50:28
this time period of sex and and everything,
50:30
like the sex is not
50:33
awful. I even took it as a college
50:35
class and I was like, are you kidding me? They were
50:37
like describing herpes and ganarrha as gross.
50:40
I was like, well, in a class
50:42
in a college classroom made up of mainly
50:45
minorities that are most highly affected
50:48
by those differ I think
50:50
that's one of the most important things is that people
50:52
tend to be very alarmist and um,
50:55
you know, really you don't have to be afraid. You just need
50:57
to educate yourself and be informed
50:59
and take the necessary precautions. And if you're in
51:01
New York City, there are tons of everywhere
51:05
where, like you can go in and drop your pants
51:07
and spread your whole and like nobody's even gonna
51:09
blinks, like let's
51:12
look at like it's nothing to be embarrassed.
51:14
Assholes that day, like they don't your
51:17
asshole it's not It is nothing
51:19
to be embarrassed of. It is something that you need
51:21
to go and get looked at in any
51:23
aspect of your life, whether it's like HIV,
51:26
AIDS, S c d S, or like you're
51:28
coughing a ton or like whatever, you just go to
51:30
the doctor, like, go get yourself taken
51:33
care of. Well, this is the thing. This
51:35
is an anti section, I mean podcast, And I think the shame
51:37
is not only hurtful, it's dangerous
51:40
because we especially in America, we feel ashamed
51:42
of things, which causes us to not go get
51:44
help, not ask questions, and then you're
51:46
fucking sitting sitting on your cock
51:49
and it has sores on it, and then you're similar.
51:53
Yeah. Well, I mean, if we're gonna talk about this more
51:55
whenever, I sort of share the experience of what happened
51:58
to me. But you know, even I felt that, and
52:00
I feel like I'm more knowledgeable than most people on
52:02
the subject matter. Yeah, and you know,
52:04
I certainly I think people can be overwhelmed
52:06
with that. I think that they can think if they
52:09
engage in high risk behavior that they're deserving
52:11
of that and won't seek treatment because
52:13
they feel like they need to be punished. But
52:16
you know, people do think that they do. And
52:18
because yeah, because even you have said to me, you're like, you know, I you
52:20
know, you said, like, I you know, it was my fault. I made a bad
52:23
decision. I mean, like we we've
52:25
I think everyone would assume responsibility, but
52:27
don't get caught up in that. Everyone is allowed
52:30
some funk ups and it just so
52:33
happen. It happens that you had an
52:35
unfortunate repercussion because of yours,
52:37
but it's certainly it's not. You know, I
52:40
have constantly like talking the podcast, like I
52:42
got drunk and I did this, Like that's not great.
52:44
I'm not saying that was good, But that does not mean that
52:47
we are deserving of bad things
52:49
happening. Well, I mean exactly. I mean there's there's certain
52:51
behaviors that would increase your chances of catching
52:54
the flu or getting cancer, and you know,
52:56
no one would blame someone for engaging
52:59
any behavior like that. So I think, you know, the same
53:01
attitude should be taken with this UM.
53:03
But just to continue on UM. HIV
53:07
is a sexually transmitted infection. It occurs through
53:09
the transfer of blood, semen, vaginal fluid,
53:12
pre ejaculate and breast milk. Without
53:14
treatment, the average survival time after
53:16
infection is nine to eleven years. However,
53:19
you should note that with treatment
53:21
and modern anti retroviral therapies,
53:23
most HIV positive people now can
53:25
expect a completely normal life expectancy.
53:29
UM. You know, I think most people would be surprised
53:31
to realize that several other chronic conditions,
53:33
like type two diabetes, result in a dramatically
53:35
shorter life expectancy than HIV. UM.
53:39
All of that beings said, it's extremely important to understand that
53:41
for the vast majority of the HIV life cycle, those
53:43
infected with the virus will be asymptomatic,
53:45
meaning that they don't present with any symptoms.
53:48
So it's crucial to be tested regularly. If you engage
53:50
in high risk behaviors such as having unprotected
53:52
sex, especially unprotected anal
53:54
sex, it's the highest risk behavior, um,
53:57
whether you're gay or straight and you
54:00
know, lushtraight people have anal sex and it's
54:02
like because the terrors and
54:05
it's a membrane like but well,
54:07
and especially if you're the receptive
54:09
partner, if you're the bottom, that's the highest rist
54:11
activity um, you
54:14
know, and just with any disease, it's crucial. Early detection
54:16
and treatment are critical. But UM I also
54:18
brought along a few statistics just
54:21
so we can kind of place this in
54:23
context and get a sense of the scale of the epidemic.
54:25
I'm going to kind of start with global statistics and then
54:28
work down to local statistics here in New
54:30
York City at the table. UM.
54:42
So, currently thirty four million people
54:44
are living with HIV AIDS throughout the world. Approximately
54:48
two point five million people are infected
54:50
with HIV each year. What do
54:52
you say HIV AIDS. Do you mean
54:54
that they have AIDS throughout
54:56
the entire life cycle? That means they're
54:58
either HIV positive or have progressed
55:01
to the point of having UM.
55:04
You know, more than thirty million people have died from AIDS
55:07
since the epidemic began. UM.
55:09
In the United States, more than one
55:11
point one million people are living with HIV
55:14
AIDS. Half of those living with HIV
55:16
are not in regular care, and less than
55:19
of those living with HIV have an undetectable viral
55:22
load, which will discuss a little bit later, which is important.
55:25
Approximately one in five people
55:27
infected with HIV do not know they
55:29
have it. That's roughly two thousand
55:32
people in the United states. Yeah,
55:37
everybody grinder. Um,
55:39
the entire population spreading
55:41
if they don't know they have it. Repercussions
55:43
of that is it spreads and it spreads and it spreads. Um. There
55:46
are roughly fifty new HI infection
55:48
HIV infections every year. Men
55:50
who have sex with men account for a little over
55:52
sevent of those infections,
55:55
So the gay community is disproportionately affected.
55:58
The remaining is comprised
56:00
of heterosexuals and intervened to drug users,
56:03
which is not a negligible amount. So you know, anyone
56:06
who thinks that this is a gay problem, um,
56:09
I would read a book. Yeah, I would reconfront
56:12
those or pray serious,
56:14
you know, the Lord will help. Do you look
56:18
at me again, kidding me? Do
56:21
you have statistics? They're in the highest um
56:23
highest growing like age brackets
56:26
and stuff like that. It's actually the younger age practice
56:28
it's gay, man, It is the youngest age
56:30
like it's nine, I think, um, I
56:32
thought it was like eighteen. Somewhere within
56:35
their in your twenties is the highest
56:37
growing rate of HIV infection.
56:40
And I think a lot of that, again has to do with sex
56:42
ed but with the medicine
56:45
and people. I mean there
56:47
I think there's that it can't happen to me thought. I also
56:49
think that there's just the thought process of oh, it's
56:51
not that big of a deal. Yeah, well we think
56:54
I think we I think we think. You know, in the in the in the
56:56
as and nineties, big AIDS was
56:59
in our face, was everywhere. It was. It was in
57:01
the nineties. I think it was at the time when we were like all talking
57:03
about a fucking you know rap TLC's
57:06
you know, talking about it, singing about it. But I think
57:08
now it's kind of like, let we don't talk about
57:10
it as much, like it's not something that's
57:13
happening. It was a death sentence at first, but now
57:15
for medical advancement and healthcare technology,
57:18
you know, it's exactly so like you talked
57:20
about alarmist, like America's America loves
57:22
whatever is the tragedy, and
57:24
you know, so it's not because maybe you
57:27
can be you can be living with AIDS now instead
57:29
of you have AIDS bye bye.
57:31
You wrote rant that was cool. So if if
57:33
you're if a partner, if you're with somebody,
57:35
I've heard of couples and I listen to a Dance
57:37
Savage podcast a lot. He talks about this. People
57:40
who are paused, who are positive with HIV, you can
57:42
still be in a relationship and take certain
57:44
steps with a person who is not infected.
57:47
It doesn't mean they're for fun. You should stay
57:49
away from them. There did you just educate yourself and take
57:51
those steps. Tommy and I can both talk about
57:53
more about that if you want a little bit later on about Sarah discording
57:55
couples and everyone's HIV
57:58
and a zero disc goordon couples
58:00
a couple or one is positive and one is negative or
58:03
magnetic couples. I like that term. I
58:06
think that's cute, positive and negatives. But
58:10
I was like, more than ones cost like pushing
58:13
the other one away because you have eight that
58:17
we're saying, don't do that. Okay,
58:20
So, just to finish up, more than six hundred
58:22
thousand people have died from age related causes
58:24
since the started the epidemic here in the United States. In
58:27
New York State, approximately hundred and
58:30
nine thousand people are living with HIV AIDS.
58:32
In New York City alone, the figure is one
58:34
hundred thousands, so we're about that
58:37
um. The same one in five ratio applies
58:39
that people who are infected with HIV, but don't realize
58:42
it, and that would amount to twenty thousand people
58:44
in New York City. Um,
58:46
there are roughly four thousand new HIV
58:49
infections every year in New York State, and
58:51
today roughly one hundred thousand New Yorkers
58:53
have died from age related causes. So,
58:56
guys, every time you go to a bar, you are playing
58:58
roulette with your vagina. Everyone
59:00
to know always protection, protection, protection
59:03
condoms, birth control doesn't, doesn't
59:06
adventage rights break. I
59:08
think this is modest communication to communication,
59:10
and I think it's very interesting and hoping that they're
59:13
being honest. But he was an interesting and I think this
59:15
is grant can it can talk about
59:17
communication because I think communication and your experience
59:19
was really the key. Yeah. I mean that was definitely
59:21
my biggest mistake. And alcohol abuse. Yeah,
59:27
what what we're your specific circumciances.
59:29
Um. So this this occurred
59:32
three weeks ago. I was actually out with
59:34
Thomas and we had
59:37
not Tommy, Yeah,
59:39
we're getting serious. Now we're getting serious. Was
59:41
out with Gavin and Gavin was like, yeah,
59:44
bro, I'm gonna go home. Thomas
59:47
is here. Um, so
59:50
you know, we had dinner with a lovely night and
59:53
we went to Dallas Bbq's
59:57
like the beginning of how how
1:00:00
long hasn't been since he went on? Like a
1:00:02
nice day that like we we go out to dinner
1:00:04
and have like Dallas BBQ with a bunch of people, and
1:00:06
you're think it was a lovely dinner thing
1:00:09
too long because I just got out of an
1:00:11
almost two year relationship and I haven't been
1:00:13
seeing anyone. So I'm sorry
1:00:16
you want that was
1:00:18
BBQ? Was always fun though, if you if you live in
1:00:20
the New York City area, Okay,
1:00:23
that was weird. More sponsors,
1:00:25
but I would after the podcast,
1:00:29
um, you know. So after that, we went out to a
1:00:31
bar and then I ended up meeting up with some friends
1:00:34
at The Eagle later on, which I was just completely
1:00:36
smashed by that point. That is a gay
1:00:39
place. Yeah, The Eagle is the leather
1:00:41
gay bar here in New York City. I
1:00:44
think you invited me to go, and I was like, I'm
1:00:46
gonna pass. Have.
1:00:49
My favorite thing about the Eagle is the burgers
1:00:52
they make outside. The they make food. I
1:00:54
don't even know they no,
1:00:57
no, no, they don't. They have a little vendor outside.
1:00:59
There was a little no woman who crumbles potato
1:01:01
chips on top of your It's
1:01:04
the best burger I've ever had. And I believe if
1:01:06
you go on the right night, there are people that hang
1:01:08
out under where the bar is and we'll lick
1:01:10
your boots while you ordered drinks. Oh
1:01:12
yeah, I mean they'll do more than that if you have
1:01:15
a lot of questions for those people. Was
1:01:22
the Eagle? Uh so yeah, I mean, long
1:01:24
story short. Um, I ended up going home with
1:01:26
a guy, which you know I didn't. You know,
1:01:29
the end of the night kind of becomes very fuzzy for me.
1:01:31
So the next day I woke up next to this dude
1:01:34
and I was naked,
1:01:37
and one thing led to another and we just started
1:01:39
fooling around and you know, next
1:01:42
thing, I know what, the guy's riding my cock. How
1:01:46
I've never seen said,
1:01:50
Oh tell me more. Um.
1:01:53
So, you know I didn't ejaculate,
1:01:56
like you know, I stopped it before I progressed to that point.
1:01:58
I just kind of finished myself off. Um,
1:02:00
Christina, ejaculate means calm. But
1:02:03
do you think I don't know that she's
1:02:06
not mentally challenged. Thanks,
1:02:11
We're gonna get ladder about that. Sarah
1:02:15
Palin is riding in on hour. Um.
1:02:19
So you know, anyway, after the fact, he
1:02:21
kind of, um, you know, after we
1:02:24
had finished, he just made kind of a strange
1:02:26
remark to me, and he was like, oh, I thought you were wearing
1:02:28
a condom, which kind of set off alarm
1:02:30
bells in my head because I'm like, dude, I woke up naked
1:02:33
next to you, Like, where the funk am I pulling a condom
1:02:35
from? Um? Yeah?
1:02:37
So, I mean, you know, which, he was a very nice guy, like,
1:02:39
I don't think he intended for this to happen in anyway.
1:02:43
Um well, I mean, truthfully, I mean it's just as
1:02:46
much mine. You pretty much have to be like attempted
1:02:48
murder for me to not give you the benefit of the doubts.
1:02:51
But um,
1:02:54
but you know, I think he you know, I don't think
1:02:56
it was intention for that to happen. And you
1:02:59
know, I felt for it was just a momentary
1:03:01
lapse in judgment, like I hadn't had sex in
1:03:03
a long time. I was, yeah, you're in are
1:03:05
in that that that post monous
1:03:09
relationship? So you had topped yes,
1:03:11
So which also drastically reduces my
1:03:14
chances of drastically,
1:03:17
I mean it does, but well I actually have information
1:03:19
on that too, as far as like per sexual event
1:03:22
um with the likelihood of viral transmission
1:03:24
is you know, depending on what type of behavior engaging
1:03:27
in. And because you didn't ejaculate, that also
1:03:30
lessons your risk, right, But I'm
1:03:34
surprised, but not but not substantially
1:03:37
like I wouldn't. I wouldn't count
1:03:39
why because could like
1:03:41
open around
1:03:44
his anus and especially if not
1:03:46
not, but it would have to go, it would have to go in
1:03:49
Not as much as if you're in the insertive partner, but if you're
1:03:51
the receptive partner, there's definitely a large difference
1:03:54
if you don't ejaculate into no,
1:03:56
no, no, that's what I'm talking about as the insertive
1:03:58
as the angle insertive person, it does make a difference. Not
1:04:00
as much, it can not
1:04:04
a little bit. Yeah, it's not not it's a negligible
1:04:06
difference. Um, you know, so
1:04:10
basically after this happened, you know, I had a discussion with
1:04:12
this guy and you know, right after
1:04:14
I you know, whenever, if you're ever exposed
1:04:17
to HIV, whether it's through a
1:04:19
condom break or whether it's a mistake
1:04:22
or you know, even if it's on the job, if it's
1:04:25
occupational exposure and it's a needle
1:04:27
print, your boss is like you need to fund
1:04:29
me. UM.
1:04:33
I mean you should
1:04:35
treat it as a medical emergency. UM.
1:04:38
You know, luckily in New York there are a lot of resources to go
1:04:40
to. But you can go to the emergency room and be treated. You
1:04:42
can go to an urgent care facility and be treated. UM.
1:04:45
I went to Klan Lord, which is
1:04:47
a UM community health center
1:04:49
here in New York. He
1:04:53
told me, yes, you know. After yeah,
1:04:55
we started talking, he told me, UM.
1:04:58
Luckily too, he was also on antiretroviral
1:05:02
therapy, which drastically reduces
1:05:04
my chances of UM. Was
1:05:07
he undetectable? See that? I don't
1:05:09
know. I can't really depend on that. You know, I don't
1:05:11
know the guy. This is the only time I've
1:05:14
been had any sort of interaction with him. Can
1:05:16
you tell everybody what undetectable
1:05:19
means? Undetectable
1:05:21
whenever you are It's basically
1:05:24
the amount of virus
1:05:26
that is in your blood.
1:05:29
UM. You know, they do
1:05:31
PCR testing, which will can
1:05:34
you know, it's very sensitive. It can determine it
1:05:36
can isolate the RNA strand
1:05:38
of the HIV virus down to like
1:05:41
twenty parts per millent
1:05:43
leader of blood. So if you fall below that
1:05:46
threshold I believe, which is twenty parts permillent
1:05:48
leader. UM, you are
1:05:50
considered undetectable, so which
1:05:53
you know, they've done studies now where four
1:05:56
people who are undetectable over the course
1:05:58
of two years having unprotected sects with
1:06:00
their partner, UM, there has been no
1:06:02
transmission of the virus. So but
1:06:05
I mean it's you know, that does not mean
1:06:07
go out and want
1:06:09
it's not UM. So
1:06:12
you know, you still to take the necessary
1:06:14
precautions. If you, you
1:06:16
know, are in a relationship with someone who is positive,
1:06:19
definitely speak to your health care for power. Yeah,
1:06:22
knowledge is power, knowledge is power, education
1:06:25
whatever whatever, UM. So
1:06:28
basically, you know what happened with me is I
1:06:30
went to Calan Lord, Calan Lord. Sorry,
1:06:32
and they were, um, you know, they were really
1:06:34
great. It was very comfortable environment. I didn't feel
1:06:37
judged in any way. And that's
1:06:39
the key thing. I think a lot of times we we feel
1:06:41
like we're gonna go Number one, who
1:06:43
the funk cares with these people? The most important thing is
1:06:45
that you get the help in the care that yeah, you need
1:06:48
for your body. But number two, I think a lot of
1:06:50
times yet these are these are professionals
1:06:52
the same way as whatever occupation you
1:06:54
do, how you're used to seeing or hearing twenty
1:06:57
stories like that. It's just it's just it's you know,
1:06:59
it's not big deal to them. It's textbook
1:07:01
today. It's text about thing they were trained, but in
1:07:03
a positive way, and they want to help
1:07:05
you. I mean, you know, that's why they're there, That's why they're
1:07:09
like that. This is not big money making. I
1:07:11
can't imagine, like it's maybe in small towns and you
1:07:13
go to like a local doctor in some like small
1:07:16
time then look at you sideways and goes
1:07:18
out as a whole.
1:07:22
I remember when I was in I think I was like
1:07:24
a sophomore in high school and I went to get in
1:07:26
a s c D test and this was the middle of Michigan,
1:07:28
and they treated me like I
1:07:31
was in saying like what were
1:07:33
you doing that you need an
1:07:36
STD test? And I was like, I
1:07:38
have blue cross, blue shield. Can
1:07:40
you just stuff that Q tip up my urethra?
1:07:43
There's anything going on, because that's what they were doing at the time.
1:07:46
It wasn't just the like you pan a cupnet before terribly
1:07:49
just like showing up your thing. I had.
1:07:52
I had asked for an STD test from my going
1:07:54
to college and the first time I got an
1:07:56
STD test. They still have the publics
1:07:58
in New York sometimes the
1:08:02
like pipe cleaner. Yeah, you asked
1:08:04
for an STD test if no one's offered you one, fucking
1:08:07
asked for one, if you've had unprotected sex with
1:08:09
We're getting low on time, Yeah,
1:08:12
I want to make sure that you have the last
1:08:15
words of what you wanted. Um, well,
1:08:17
how much time do we have left? Like two minutes? Oh
1:08:20
my god, I have so much more to talk about. But
1:08:22
basically, long story short. You know, as
1:08:24
a matter of precaution, I went on UM
1:08:28
PEP or PEP, which is anti
1:08:30
retrobiole therapy UM in
1:08:33
the event that you experienced exposure
1:08:35
to HIV. It's a combination of two drugs.
1:08:37
Now, the most commonly prescribed are true
1:08:40
Vada and I Centrists, which I have
1:08:42
been on for the past three weeks. Um.
1:08:45
You know, at first I did, you know.
1:08:47
I will say there were
1:08:50
some pretty challenging side effects with me. At
1:08:52
first, I didn't have a very sensitive stomach, so I was experiencing
1:08:54
a lot of nausea and I was, you know, very concerned
1:08:56
that I was going to throw up a dose UM.
1:08:59
And it's very partant that you're very regulated and you
1:09:01
know, take every dose on time as prescribed
1:09:04
UM in order for it to be effective.
1:09:07
So UM, you know, but luckily I
1:09:10
have you know, friends who've gone through this experience.
1:09:12
A great friend of mine, you know, recommended that eat ice
1:09:14
cream and that really sort of help with that. I'm
1:09:16
still yeah,
1:09:19
it's like, UM, it's still experiencing
1:09:22
a lot of fatigue and drowsiness,
1:09:24
which is one of the side effects. UM.
1:09:27
But well
1:09:29
I had my initial you know, they initially
1:09:32
they'll do UM. Just to briefly
1:09:34
talk about HIV testing, they do a rapid
1:09:36
test because they have to know that you're negative
1:09:39
before you can go on antiretrobiotherapy
1:09:42
UM. And with rapid testing, it's
1:09:44
important for everyone to know that UM.
1:09:46
You know, that's anybody testing. So typically
1:09:49
you do not develop anybody it's to an infection
1:09:51
UM until after three months
1:09:54
of exposure to HIV. So the vast
1:09:56
majority of testing is UM anybody
1:09:59
testing. So whenever you receive that negative result,
1:10:01
it's not negative from that day, it's negative from
1:10:03
three months ago, ninety days prior. UM.
1:10:07
Yeah, and then they do blood work and do a
1:10:10
viral load test, which is typically a PCR test,
1:10:12
and um, you
1:10:14
know that those results usually take I think one to two weeks.
1:10:17
So they do a baseline test, I go through my twenty
1:10:19
eight days of medication, and then they do another test
1:10:21
at the end of that, and then I'll have my final results
1:10:24
as to whether I'm you know my status.
1:10:26
Yeah, what's the viral load test? Is
1:10:28
that? Um, it's it's blood work. I
1:10:31
mean, it's just an HIV test. It's actually viral load
1:10:33
means like how much. Yeah, it's measuring the actual
1:10:35
viral load in your blood. And I
1:10:38
think it's uh parts permillent
1:10:40
leader, I want to say, right, And I think this is very
1:10:43
uh not only it's important.
1:10:45
I think it's interesting. I think it's something that not enough
1:10:47
people know about. People need to be at So we're
1:10:49
we'll keep you updated if you know mine,
1:10:51
Grant will keep the listeners updated and just
1:10:54
kind of like through the process and we'll pass on some
1:10:56
more information. Will post information on our Twitter certainly
1:11:00
if you have your own question, not that we're
1:11:02
AIDS experts or HIV experts, but if
1:11:05
you need to find information
1:11:07
or if you want to just send you any of this information,
1:11:09
we'd be more than happy to. Sorry, about last night show
1:11:11
at gmail dot com. Um, yeah and yeah,
1:11:14
sorry, Well have you guys on again because this was super informative.
1:11:17
Do you have any clue? I just
1:11:19
want to say one thing since it is UM
1:11:22
Pride month and Pride coming up here in New York,
1:11:24
and I think it's super important,
1:11:27
um, you know, for anyone who may be listening
1:11:30
that is in the closet or struggling
1:11:32
with your sexual orientation or gender identity.
1:11:35
You know, if there is one thing I kind of hope
1:11:37
you take away from this podcast and listening
1:11:40
tonight, I just want you to know that you are loved
1:11:42
and there's an entire community
1:11:44
of people out there straight allies
1:11:47
included like Current and Christina who
1:11:50
will support you and guide you and
1:11:53
care about you. And I just hope
1:11:55
you find the courage to be proud of yourself and
1:11:58
love who you are and come out so
1:12:00
you can be the person that you're
1:12:02
meant to be. And I think that's something that we we
1:12:04
stand for on the podcast as well, not only about
1:12:07
being gay, but about anything that you think is weird or
1:12:09
different or that you are ashamed of that is part
1:12:11
of who you are, UM, not like if you're a murderer.
1:12:13
But anything other than that, anything
1:12:15
like that, any sexual preference
1:12:18
or U turn on or anything
1:12:20
about that, that's a celebrated humans.
1:12:22
And that's why we're here. We're talking about you open issues,
1:12:24
and thank you so much, guys. Thank you Tommy,
1:12:27
thank you Grant for sharing like really interesting
1:12:30
and important and real
1:12:33
issues like these are. These are not things that off
1:12:35
the street. These are like my real friends and
1:12:39
this is just what we're going through. Uh. And also
1:12:41
I want you guys to tweet Tommy at Larry
1:12:43
the Llama eight four. I
1:12:46
just have one comment before we end as
1:12:48
a stripper, I one time threw up on someone
1:12:50
projectile, so
1:12:53
maybe we can hear that I Part two. Thank
1:12:57
you so much for listening to guys. We fund the Anti
1:12:59
Slutch Shimming podcast and hopefully we'll see
1:13:01
you at Call Mix and a Fox. Yes see you
1:13:03
next week. I love you, goodbye. I love you
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