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Hand Me My Purse is a production of iHeart

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Podcasts. So as I

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was perusing zora' neil Hearson's

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Internet shout

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out to Zora Neil Hearson, I

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found this and it is

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from Young poi Blow, who

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I quote all the time. First of all,

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Happy New Year, shout out to a

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new year. All

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right, let's do that. I

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quote young Poeblow all the time. And

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I'm going to read what I saw three

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things to leave behind in twenty

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twenty three,

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saying yes when you really want to say no. I

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would think that would be a given. But leave

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that behind because that's people pleasing

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and that fucking blows. Building

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with people that don't treat you well.

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What does he mean, MEMI thing

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meaning creating, curating,

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making and not necessarily making

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tangible things, but building

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it as in sharing, with sharing

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your energy, with connecting,

1:19

you know, not necessarily building

1:22

in the Bob the builder sense, but in

1:24

the energetic sense. Okay,

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building with people that don't treat you well, that's

1:30

dumb. Okay, that's

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stupid. It's twenty twenty

1:35

four, guys, we off

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that. Okay,

1:40

let it go, let them go.

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They ain't acting right. It's

1:46

time to say bye bye. Okay.

1:50

Next, and lastly, doubting

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your ability to accomplish big

1:56

goals, Listen,

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twenty twenty four is the year to

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dream big and run

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at top speed. You know that GIF

2:08

some of you, some of my family and friends

2:10

of course listen. Shout out to my family and my friends

2:12

that support me by

2:16

listening to the show, because there are many ways to support

2:19

people. But in

2:22

text messaging, I'm a big gift

2:24

GIF user and

2:27

utilizer. I can have a full

2:29

fledged conversation with somebody and never

2:31

type any words and only use gifts

2:33

and they will fundamentally understand everything

2:36

that I was trying to express to them. But

2:39

doubting your ability to accomplish big

2:41

goals that some of these were for me,

2:45

particularly that one. Check

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this out in twenty twenty four.

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We are running, like I said, at top

2:52

speed until we run out of breath.

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What song is that from gen X? She

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was running top speed till he was out our breath,

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knocking old man down and swore he killed

3:05

him. Sorry, Then he made his way

3:07

to in abandoned building. Slick Rick anyway,

3:12

shut up to slick Rick.

3:13

What in the world is that?

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Oops? My handslip rowing, But

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we're gonna go in the direction of our dreams. And

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the reason I mentioned gifts bringing it

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back that ADHD is

3:27

in full, full, full

3:30

fledge mode today. There's

3:32

a gift of the movie Forrest

3:34

Gump when Tom Hanks is running. I

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think this is when Forrest was discovered

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for playing football.

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That's how we're running toward our

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dreams in twenty twenty four. If

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you are not running in that way,

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then just walk. But

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I'm gonna tell you me, I'm gonna

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run because I

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want to live

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out my dreams. And time

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is not waiting for anybody. And

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while you're walking, someone else is running.

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And not that they're going to get there faster than you. They

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might, but what's for you is for

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you. I fundamentally believe that nobody

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can take what's for me because it's mine already.

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But we also

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don't know how long it is going

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to be ours. So go

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full speed in the direction of everything

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that you're dreaming of again,

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Friends and can welcome

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to twenty twenty four. I

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can't see that. Okay, what's

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up? Friends and Ken It's

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me and me, Resident Auntie Supreme, here,

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hand me my purse. Intoday, I

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am sipping on some fresh

5:14

press juice the beginning of the year.

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You probably won't even get to hear

5:20

this actually tomorrow. If you do,

5:23

then it just goes to show that my producers

5:26

are made of magic.

5:28

But if you

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don't, it's okay.

5:33

It is January the first, twenty twenty

5:36

four, and it's a new day.

5:39

Those are my nails clinking against this glass.

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I got some fresh press juice from

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the juice

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place that I like to go, and it's

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called Rehydrate and

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it has young, not old,

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but young young

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tie, coconut water, cucumb

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pineapple, and kale.

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Okay, so I'm getting hydrated.

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I'm getting some green vegetables in which

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are gonna detoxify my

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body. And

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that's what I'm doing today. I went to the gym today

6:15

this morning at six point thirty,

6:19

and I spent a few hours at the gym. I

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was in slow motion, taking

6:23

my time. I was not in a rush,

6:26

moving very slowly. This morning. I

6:28

got a really good workout in. I'm

6:31

gonna pay for it because my

6:33

legs already hurt, so I

6:35

know it's gonna be painful. But you know what, starting

6:38

the year out kicking the door down. The

6:41

good thing is that I've already been working

6:43

out and going to this gym since August,

6:46

so I don't have to start from scratch, but

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I am gonna

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shift the focus. So today that's

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what I'm drinking on. Let me tell you how it tastes

6:56

hold On. It's traditionally green.

6:58

Everything in it is green except for pine and

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young Thai coconut water. It

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has a pleasant taste to me. I

7:10

like a good nasty drink, though, but

7:13

it has a pleasant drink. It tastes like a green drink.

7:16

And what I really like is that they are only four

7:18

ingredients. So that's how you know

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it's healthy, because the less amount

7:23

of ingredients that things have depending

7:26

on what the ingredients are. Because somebody could

7:28

say, well, Hennessy must be real healthy

7:31

because the only ingredient is henescy or

7:33

kognac. I'm sure something else

7:35

is. I don't know how they make it, but either way,

7:41

I like that it only has four ingredients,

7:43

so that makes me happy. Anyway,

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I hope that you are making good choices

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on these first few days of the new year,

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and I'm curious to know what are you drinking

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on in January the first. By

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the time you hear this, it won't be on the first, But what

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did you drink on the first day of the year. What

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did you put in your body? I

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want to know about that. At

8:08

a protein shake earlier

8:10

today too, it's quite delightful. And

8:14

I don't usually like protein shakes, but the

8:16

place I go to get them from after my workouts,

8:18

they figured

8:21

out the recipe for what I

8:23

like. I love that. I love that for me,

8:26

you know. Anyway, Friends

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and Can, let's go

8:30

ahead getting started. I already told you that I'm slow

8:33

rolling. I'm not really

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tripping, you know. I feel good

8:38

in my body and I'm

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just ready to go ahead and get this porty started.

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So why don't we? Oh yeah,

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Friends and Can. Today's

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jam is hands

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down one of my favorite songs. And I

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also want to say that, and when

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I say my favorite in this sense, I

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mean it's one of the songs where when I

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hear the first few towards,

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I want to get up and move, and

9:10

now I get up and twerk and move. But it's a

9:13

groove, okay. And

9:16

I wanted to use this song as the jam

9:19

when I

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first launched on iHeart back

9:24

on June the thirteenth of

9:26

twenty twenty three, but I decided

9:28

to go with the rebirth of Slick and

9:31

I save this, I put it in the pocket.

9:35

And the reason I put it in the pocket was because

9:37

I said, I know there's going to be another time that's

9:40

going to make me feel like, you know what, it's

9:42

time to use it. And today is that day?

9:45

Today is that day?

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Really? Yes? Really? The

9:50

song is by a group, a

9:53

rap group actually, and

9:55

the name of the rap group is camp Low. Camp

9:59

Low is comprised of

10:02

two gentlemen, and

10:04

I'm going to tell you what their names are because I don't remember

10:06

them off the top

10:08

of my head. Wikipedia says

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that Camplow is an American hip hop duo

10:13

formed in nineteen ninety five, which hails

10:15

from the Bronx, New

10:18

York. The duo consists of rappers

10:20

Sonny Chiba and Geechee Suede.

10:23

The duo is perhaps best known for their

10:25

nineteen ninety seventy Luccini

10:29

aka this is It

10:31

and Friends and Ken That is a song that's

10:34

the song of to start

10:37

twenty twenty four off because

10:39

this is it? What Luccini

10:42

pouring from the sky, Let's get rich

10:45

what and then I don't know what

10:47

he says? Right there? The Geechee

10:51

Something men Shita Dime, Can't Quit

10:53

what pop the Corkers,

10:55

I don't know anyway, that's

10:58

the song. This song

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is about having a good time and getting

11:03

money. Were getting money.

11:07

It's twenty twenty four, friends in King.

11:10

Let's be about our business, Okay,

11:14

I said it a few minutes ago. We've running

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in the direction of our dreams

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and our desires. And maybe your dream

11:21

or your desire isn't to make more money, and that's

11:24

fine.

11:26

But whatever your dream and your desire is

11:28

for this year or

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in the future, running that direction.

11:35

This song is a bop. So

11:37

this song came

11:39

out on their debut album of Town

11:41

Saturday Night, and it

11:45

samples a song called

11:48

Adventures in the Land of Music. And

11:50

if you hear that song, you'll

11:52

be like, oh yes, this is

11:55

a complete a complete sample.

11:57

But it also samples drums from

11:59

the song All Night Long by the Mary j Mary

12:01

Jane Girls. Excuse me, the

12:05

song Adventures

12:08

in the Land of Music. I want to say it might be the

12:10

Silvers that wrote that Leon Silvers.

12:13

I think I mentioned it on a show before.

12:17

I think I did mention it on a show before

12:19

when Misdemeanor was the jam

12:23

by the Foster Silvers because I was talking

12:25

about Leon Silver's and talking about how

12:27

they come from very musical family. Either

12:30

way, let me tell you a little bit about this

12:32

song, and then I'm going to play it for you. It's

12:36

also like an iconic

12:38

song in the black community

12:41

or in black culture, or at least in black

12:43

gen x culture. The

12:47

song was the peak position for

12:49

Billboard's Hot one hundred, and

12:52

this was in nineteen ninety seven, which is the year

12:54

that I graduated. So

12:57

that's also probably why this song has

12:59

a special part of special place in my heart,

13:01

because this was the time that like a

13:04

chapter of my life was coming

13:06

to a close, and a

13:09

lot of the songs that came out then really

13:11

are special to me

13:14

actually, And so

13:16

maybe in June, every jam will

13:19

be a song that reminds me of

13:21

like my senior year in high school. Maybe

13:23

not, I'm not gonna remember that anyway.

13:25

But on Billboards

13:28

Hot one hundred charts in nineteen

13:30

ninety seven, their

13:32

peak position was fifty. That's

13:35

major Major Billboards

13:38

Hot R and B hip Hop singles

13:40

and tracks. For nineteen ninety

13:42

seven, their peak position was twenty one.

13:46

Billboards Hot Dance Music

13:48

and MAXI single sales. Their

13:50

peak position was number

13:53

eight and Billboards

13:55

Hot Rap Singles. I Love how that

13:57

sounds Hot Rap Singles.

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Their peak position was number

14:02

five at the end of the year. For

14:05

ninety seven, they were number

14:08

eighty five for Billboard's R

14:10

and B and Hip Hop Singles and Tracks,

14:12

which is major. Okay,

14:14

it's not a top one hundred, it's just the

14:17

whole list that Billboard

14:19

comes out with. So they made it. They

14:21

were in the top one hundred, which is awesome,

14:24

and they ended up number

14:27

nineteen for Billboards Hot Rap

14:29

Singles. That's dope. Let's give

14:31

it up for Camplow.

14:41

So the reason that I love this song so much

14:43

and then I'm just gonna let you listen to it

14:47

is because it's so damn

14:50

funky. It's

14:53

like it's nineteen

14:55

ninety six or ninety seven, but

14:58

they fully channeled like

15:00

nineteen seventy six

15:03

or seventy seven. And when you watch

15:05

the video you'll understand what I'm saying.

15:08

When you hear the music and you hear the song like,

15:11

it's like it instantly takes you back,

15:13

and if you weren't born, you still get

15:15

it and you still feel it. It sounds

15:18

like something

15:20

from the seventies meets something from the nineties.

15:23

It's the groove is funky like,

15:26

it's just a good song. The way they flow

15:29

like you know flow meaning

15:31

how they rap like the cadence and they're

15:33

in there in their delivery. But

15:37

the song is just dope. And like I said, it's an iconic

15:39

song in our community. So I want

15:41

you to get into it and

15:44

I want you to listen to how they rap. I

15:47

love this song. Let's get into it.

15:49

Say send some of the dult

15:51

blow through my inflirtation from

15:53

Christian Centivens and seven show booming

15:55

with Brugas flash Vin Spy, that's fante

15:58

chick. Let's ski for what this verdes.

16:01

And with Bram.

16:03

He's a lot of cor with the tour chasting

16:06

diamond run his head in ice Ben.

16:08

Did you like it? Yes you did? I already

16:11

know you did. The good thing is

16:13

that, as per my usual

16:16

in the show notes, you will find a link

16:18

to watch the video and listen

16:20

to the full song. And

16:23

if I'm not mistaken, I think the lyrics are in

16:25

this video. And I also

16:27

I'm gonna link for you. There's

16:30

this Instagram

16:35

account. It's called

16:37

Milo the Cat. I'm sure I've mentioned Malo

16:39

the Cat on this show before because

16:41

I love what

16:44

Milo the Cat does. Miloe's not actually

16:46

a cat that I know of, but

16:49

what Milo does, and I'm calling

16:51

Milo's name might be Jack or Steven

16:55

for all I know. But what Milo

16:57

the Cat does is it takes cartoons

17:00

and muppets

17:02

or puppets shows and puts

17:04

them to R and B and hip hop music. And

17:08

it's done so effortlessly and

17:11

so perfectly that

17:13

you cannot be a

17:15

fan of R and B and hip hop music

17:18

and not fall in love with what

17:21

Milo is doing. So I put the

17:23

link for Milo's

17:25

version of Luccini, which I want to

17:27

say it might be Bert. I can't remember

17:29

in this moment because when I did the research

17:31

for it, it was a few days ago, and child

17:34

I got paramentopause

17:36

brain like nobody's business

17:38

that mixed up with undiagnosed ADHD

17:41

is a motherfucker. Do you understand

17:43

me? Yes? Indeed it is. Jesus,

17:46

Jesus, Jesus. So I

17:51

hope you like the song. It's

17:53

time for us to go ahead and get into our business.

17:57

But check out the song added

18:00

to a playlist. It's a great playlist song

18:03

to add to a road trip playlist for sure,

18:05

or a playlist for when you're getting ready to getting

18:08

dressed to go out. They kind

18:10

of remind me of

18:14

no, they don't know. They don't. I changed my mind.

18:17

They don't. Anyway, go

18:20

listen to it. You're welcome, Jalli,

18:40

friends and Ken. What Updough?

18:44

What is what updeh summer? You're saying?

18:46

Or why would I say it like that? That

18:49

is my homage to my friends and can listening

18:52

up in Detroit. I see you, I

18:54

know that you are there, and I appreciate

18:57

you, and I want you to know that.

19:00

So to you, I say what up?

19:02

Though it's a very popular phrase

19:04

in Detroit, all I'm saying is

19:06

what's up? So

19:09

this episode is going to be a little bit different

19:11

from my traditional episodes

19:13

in that of course I did

19:15

some preparation, but I kind

19:17

of want to just talk.

19:20

I want to just wing it. Of course,

19:22

it's still I still have an

19:24

agenda, but I

19:27

just kind of want to talk about a few things.

19:30

It's the new year, so happy new year. We

19:36

are excited about twenty twenty

19:38

four, right, guys. Yes,

19:43

I have a feeling that twenty four is going to be an

19:46

amazing year. I

19:48

feel that deep

19:50

in my bone. Marrow. I feel that I

19:52

know it and I believe it. And

19:54

so this episode is going to be

19:58

talking a little bit about talking little

20:00

bit excuse me, about the new year, just

20:04

ways that we can make sure that we tend to

20:07

ourselves and make

20:10

sure that we are constantly checking in with ourselves,

20:13

making sure that we are okay

20:17

and about a whole bunch of things. So let's

20:20

just go ahead and get into this and get this porty

20:22

story. So clearly,

20:24

I've been gone for about two weeks

20:26

or so, and the first thing I want to say is

20:28

that I missed y'all. Okay,

20:31

I miss y'all when I'm away. I'm like a dad

20:34

in the service the military,

20:36

and I've got to go for my weekends

20:39

or whatever. But I'm not cheating

20:41

on your mom, and I don't have any illegitimate

20:43

children in other countries. I

20:45

was just away because I needed to take some

20:48

time. I'm really

20:50

praying that you guys had a calm and wonderful

20:52

holiday season. For those that celebrated

20:55

and for those of you who did not, I

20:57

hope that you experienced calm

21:00

and wonder it. Had a

21:02

great two or so weeks since

21:05

the last time we were together again,

21:08

I want to say Happy New Year. I'm excited,

21:11

like I said about twenty

21:14

twenty four, and

21:16

the first thing I want to talk about is what

21:18

else gratitude.

21:25

So there are a few things that we need

21:27

to do in the new

21:29

year, and if

21:31

you don't want to do them, then by golly, don't

21:34

because I'm nobody's boss and I can't tell anybody

21:36

what to do. But I think

21:38

there are some things that we need to do in the new year

21:41

that hopefully we did last year, but we

21:43

need to be consistent and continue to do it.

21:45

And that is the first thing is

21:51

expressing gratitude. However that

21:53

looks for you. Okay,

21:57

we are so black

22:01

and even if your life is not

22:04

perfect or it's not where you think

22:07

it should be, and you know, everybody's

22:10

always talking about how oh

22:12

I'm not where I should be and life

22:14

isn't going the way I wanted to go. Like

22:16

all that shit is great, it's all finding good.

22:19

But the truth of the matter is that we're

22:21

exactly where God wants us to be. We're

22:24

exactly where we're supposed to be, and

22:26

everything is as it should be. And

22:31

surrendering to

22:33

that concept, which

22:36

is hard, and it's really hard for somebody. I have somebody

22:38

who's really close to me.

22:40

I love him to pieces. Every

22:43

time I say that to him, it's like he gets angry

22:46

at me for saying And he even told me one time,

22:48

I really don't like when you say that, and

22:51

I explain to him, well, I'm sorry

22:53

that you don't like when I say that, But the

22:55

truth of the matter is that everything

22:57

is the wish as it should be, because

22:59

if it wasn't supposed to be that way, then

23:02

it would be another way. And

23:04

that is literally just

23:07

how it goes, like everything is

23:09

as it belongs. And I

23:13

am kind

23:15

of grateful that I finally surrender

23:17

to that concept because when

23:21

you do, there's a weight that is

23:24

lifted off you. And you know, I talk about it all

23:26

the time on this show, how I really

23:29

work hard to understand, believe

23:32

and trust in uncertainty,

23:37

right, because that removes my

23:40

desire to be in

23:42

control of everything. But

23:45

it's such a relief to

23:47

surrender. I want to let

23:50

me look this up. Hold on, okay.

23:54

I wanted to look up the

23:56

technical definition for surrender

24:00

okay, and what

24:04

I found. I found a few things, but the

24:06

one that I liked the

24:08

most. It is a

24:10

transitive verb. Okay,

24:14

and I like this one

24:16

too. It's an intransitive verb, but it

24:18

says to yield to the power,

24:21

control, or possession of

24:23

another upon compulsion or

24:25

demand, not really

24:27

compulsion or demand, to

24:30

give up completely, or agree to forego,

24:33

especially in favor of another, To

24:35

give oneself up into the power

24:37

of another, especially as a prisoner.

24:40

All these things are so negative, these connotations.

24:43

To give oneself over to something

24:45

such as an influence. I like that.

24:48

I also like to give oneself

24:51

up into the power of another. The

24:55

action of yielding one's person

24:58

or giving up the possession of some thing,

25:00

especially into the power of another.

25:02

Okay, so we've already we

25:05

get it right. The

25:08

another that we are yielding

25:11

our power to, or giving

25:13

oneself up into the power

25:15

of in my mind,

25:18

is God right.

25:21

And I'm not trying to be preachy at all.

25:23

It's not where I'm going today. Jesus,

25:26

Jesus, Jesus. But I will say this, what

25:32

do you call when these say God? Where these

25:34

say the universe? Whatever it is, whatever

25:36

and whoever and however whomever

25:40

you feel

25:42

like you answer to, who

25:44

holds you accountable spiritually,

25:47

whoever or whatever that is surrendering

25:51

yourself to That is

25:56

important because

26:01

it goes to show that you believe

26:03

in something, in the power of something

26:07

higher than you. In addition to

26:09

that, it shows that you

26:12

are going to trust whatever that

26:14

is and

26:17

have faith. That's the keyword,

26:20

have faith and believe that

26:22

whatever, whoever, whomever, however,

26:24

whenever, whatever that

26:27

is, it's

26:29

never going to steer you wrong. It's

26:33

not. I

26:35

say this all the time. When we're trying to control everything

26:38

and trying to make sure everything is

26:40

perfect, we get in our own damn

26:42

way, we slow

26:44

up our own progress

26:48

when if you would have just let go of the wheel,

26:50

you know the expression Jesus take the wheel, which

26:53

is hilarious, but it's kind of like

26:55

that. Faith is nothing

26:57

short of having a

27:00

blindfold on and

27:04

just believing that everything is going to work on right, believing

27:08

that whatever it is that you

27:11

want to hold you accountable and

27:14

that you believe covers

27:16

you and protects you, blesses you and keeps

27:18

you, it's going

27:20

to make sure that you're okay. And

27:24

we need to be grateful to whatever those

27:28

entities, beings, plants, whatever

27:30

it is for you, because that's not

27:32

my bag telling people

27:34

what they need to believe. But whatever

27:36

it is for you. Be

27:40

grateful, show some gratitude

27:42

to the thing for

27:46

keeping you another year in

27:49

your good health and your right mind. Because

27:53

you can still hear this, so

27:55

your hearing works, and

27:58

if it doesn't, you got a hearing aid. You're

28:03

not hungry.

28:07

You have people who care about you and love you.

28:13

You have a job and

28:15

if you don't, you

28:17

can find one if you want one.

28:21

You are loved. You

28:23

have the capacity to love yourself,

28:27

because people don't talk about that enough, the

28:29

capacity to love yourself. You know what

28:31

really gets on my nerves when

28:33

people are like, because I love myself.

28:36

Do you know the road one

28:39

has to trod

28:43

to get to a place of self love. It's not

28:45

something that you are born with,

28:47

or maybe we are born with it, but years

28:50

and encounters, experiences, interactions,

28:53

connections, toxic

28:56

toxic toxic interactions

28:59

over time deplete our self

29:01

love, our love for ourselves, and

29:05

you gotta work hard to build that back up. And

29:08

I feel like it's ever growing

29:12

or ever going, everlasting process.

29:16

I'm grateful that I

29:18

have the capacity, the emotional,

29:21

mental, spiritual, metaphysical

29:25

capacity to love

29:27

myself. Now, does that

29:29

mean that I don't have insecurities? Hell?

29:31

No, I'm not even gonna tell y'all about

29:34

the insecurities that I've been dealing with for

29:37

the past month or so. And it's like,

29:39

girl, what is wrong with you?

29:42

Stuff?

29:43

I'm not you know, I'm not perfect. None

29:45

of us are. And

29:48

anybody who says, oh, I don't have any insecurities,

29:50

You're a fucking liar and

29:52

you just want to walk around and lie. You

29:54

just want to walk around telling lies. Well, we

29:57

all have insecurities. That's normal.

30:01

But at the end of the day, even with my insecurities,

30:03

I still love myself. I'm

30:07

still a good person. I'm a good human.

30:10

I think that I am beautiful on

30:12

the inside, the outside, the upside,

30:15

the downside.

30:17

I am loved.

30:20

I love myself. So

30:23

I'm grateful for that first and foremost. So

30:26

I think it's important to make sure that, hopefully,

30:29

as much as I talk about gratitude, I hope

30:31

that we are actively

30:34

engaging in expressing gratitude.

30:37

The next thing I want to say is

30:39

that, oh,

30:42

and in the show notes, I always put

30:45

not always, but I tend to always put

30:47

a link for gratitude

30:50

rituals that we can perform

30:52

or engage in. And if

30:54

you just look in the show notes and the links. You'll

30:57

see it there. But anyway, one

31:00

thing I want to make sure that we are doing in twenty twenty

31:02

four is being intentional, because

31:05

if you are not intentional, then

31:08

you are leaving your

31:12

faith to the world. There's a difference between

31:15

surrender and being

31:19

intentional. Being

31:21

intentional is focusing on the things that you can

31:23

control. Okay,

31:27

Like, if you

31:31

have a deadline to meet at work, you

31:34

don't really want to surrender and

31:37

just has faith that everything's gonna work

31:39

out because it requires you to do

31:41

some work. Okay,

31:44

you gotta do some There needs to be some action

31:46

coming from you. If

31:49

you want to lose weight, you can't say,

31:51

well, I'm gonna just leave it to God and whatever happens

31:54

happens.

31:55

Yeah.

31:55

No, faith without works is dead.

31:58

It's not how that works. And

32:01

whether you believe in the Bible or not, you

32:03

know, the Bible isn't really my

32:05

GM. But

32:07

regardless of whether you believe in the Bible or

32:09

whatever, some of the stuff in the Bible

32:12

makes sense, like that, faith

32:15

without works is dead. Having faith

32:17

and trust in God and whatever it is that you

32:19

trust, but not being

32:23

open to and being willing to

32:26

show up for yourself

32:28

and do some work. Like that's stupid,

32:30

dude,

32:33

Like, realistically, that's dumb. It's

32:37

dumb. And if you

32:39

ask me, I think it's kind of disrespectful

32:42

to God or whoever

32:44

it is you worship or pray

32:47

to whatever. It's disrespectful because

32:50

here you do have the capability to do

32:52

a thing to assist,

32:56

and you just like, Nope, I ain't doing it. I'm gonna

32:58

just lay back and just see

33:00

what happens. Okay,

33:03

see what happens. See

33:05

what happens then, Because sometimes

33:07

I do believe God is like, with some respect on

33:09

my name, don't play

33:11

with me. Don't

33:14

play with me. If you want to lose weight,

33:16

you can't keep eating. It makes me think of that

33:18

show My six hundred Pound Life.

33:21

Let me tell you something. Last night, at about

33:23

after midnight, I knew

33:25

I wanted to get up this morning early and go

33:27

to the gym. I watched My six

33:29

hundred Pound Life, and

33:32

sometimes in those show that I watched last night was a great

33:34

show because the young lady she did

33:36

with the things that she needs to do to do.

33:39

Doctor now, who can be very mean,

33:41

sometimes he was supportive

33:43

and encouraged her, but

33:45

she did the work. Like everything like

33:49

she did the work. You

33:51

can't lose two hundred

33:53

and fifty pounds without doing some work. You

33:56

can get gashed bypassed the sleeve, the

33:58

dreave, the meve, the You can get

34:00

all the surgeries you want. You can get a BBL, you

34:03

can get LIGHTO, you can get a Tommy tuck, you

34:05

can get a face lift, you can

34:07

get all the things. But

34:10

there is some kind of work you're gonna have to do

34:14

even with having the surgery,

34:17

because if not, there's

34:20

gonna be consequences and repercussions period.

34:27

So I want us to be focused on being intentional

34:29

this year because I

34:31

think being intentional and even if you are

34:35

going to surrender, even if you are focusing on

34:37

surrender, be intentional about what you're asking

34:40

for. Be intentional about your prayers,

34:43

be intentional about your desires, about

34:45

your wants, about your energy, about who

34:47

you share it with, because

34:49

whoever it is your higher power,

34:51

they are watching tany

34:54

checking for you, seeing

34:56

how you move, seeing

35:01

if you know I believe that God

35:03

you know, really looks at like you

35:05

know. They asking me for this, but

35:09

they don't even really know what to do with what I gave

35:11

them already

35:15

they don't even take care of what I already gave them.

35:18

They don't even show gratitude, not even

35:20

to God, but just in general

35:23

for what I gave you. Be

35:26

intentional this year. If

35:29

you want to lose two hundred and fifty pounds,

35:32

you got to be intentional about your work. Be

35:35

intentional about what you eat, what you drink, how

35:38

you move, how much you move when you

35:40

move. If you

35:42

want to work on healing yourself, and

35:46

I mean healing in the mental,

35:49

emotional, social, spiritual

35:52

sense, got to be intentional

35:54

about the people you're around.

35:59

If you want to, you stop

36:01

doing a thing. If

36:04

you suffer from addiction, like

36:07

you can't hang out with your friends, and I'm

36:09

gonna call it what I call it. You

36:12

can't hang out with your friends that smoke weed all the time

36:15

if you know you're addicted to smoking weed, And

36:19

yes the fuck you can be addicted to smoking weed,

36:21

so let's just stop. Same way

36:23

you can be addicted to eating food, and

36:25

I watched it last night on

36:27

my six hundred pound life.

36:30

Same way you can be addicted to the feeling

36:33

you get from eating. You can be addicted

36:35

to smoking marijuana, So save

36:38

me with that. It's from the earth and it's good

36:40

for you. Like, all of that sounds

36:43

great, but you can become

36:45

an addict. You

36:48

can't hang around a whole bunch of people that smoke

36:50

weed if you're trying to stop. So

36:55

stop playing. For

36:59

me. It's a certain

37:01

amount of weight I want to lose. I don't give a fuck.

37:03

I'll say what it is on here. I want to lose about

37:05

eighty five pounds. I

37:08

got to be very intentional and very strategic

37:10

about what I do. One

37:14

of the things is not drinking as much because

37:17

realistically, I don't really eat that bad. I

37:19

have a hormonal condition that

37:23

you know, if you know anything about hormonal conditions

37:25

for women, like they will

37:27

keep you trapped in

37:30

a yo

37:33

yo weight joke because

37:35

it's a joke. It really is a joke. It's not funny,

37:38

but it's a joke. So

37:41

I have to be intentional, meaning

37:44

I had to do some research about my

37:47

specific condition. I

37:50

started finding women on social media

37:52

that had that condition that

37:54

way around what I weighed. I

37:56

mean, that's right, because I'm already saying it

37:59

in the past. Come on me,

38:01

me, I'm

38:05

watching what they're doing. I'm trying to see what they're doing.

38:07

Trying to see what they got going on. What are you

38:09

doing? How'd you get like that? I

38:12

got to do something different. I have to invest in myself.

38:18

I hate that you can hear people walking around. It

38:21

is what it is, So everything is

38:23

as it should be. One day,

38:26

maybe that won't be an issue AnyWho,

38:30

be intentional. If

38:32

you want a better relationship with people, with

38:34

somebody, be intentional. And

38:36

it's not about being the bigger person, because

38:39

being a bigger person sometimes is fucking exhausting.

38:43

It's tiring, and

38:46

after a while, I know, because you

38:49

know, I used to feel like I always had to be

38:51

the bigger person because you know, nobody's

38:54

going to say that I didn't try. It's

38:57

exhausting, especially if

38:59

you're the only one doing the work. But

39:03

if you want a better relationship with somebody, do

39:05

some work. If

39:07

they don't call you, okay, call them.

39:11

If you don't like how it feels that you always have to

39:13

call them. Tell them that. Tell

39:19

people how their actions make you feel,

39:22

because nobody has time to read anybody's mind,

39:24

especially in the world we live in.

39:27

There's crime everywhere. There's an

39:29

actual genocide

39:32

taking place right now, there's war.

39:37

There are people who don't have anywhere to live. There's

39:39

people in the world who don't have food.

39:42

We live in a world where the news, the

39:45

media shows

39:48

children getting blown up for

39:50

everybody to see.

39:54

People are trying to pay their bills, people

39:56

are trying to avoid depression, people

39:59

are trying to to cope. Everything

40:02

isn't about you. People

40:05

may have things going on. So

40:07

if it bothers you that somebody does something,

40:09

tell them. If not, then it's on you.

40:13

It's on you. Be

40:17

intentional about all of the things.

40:24

It's your responsibility because

40:27

the one thing that is your responsibility is your joy

40:29

and your happiness. And this

40:31

ship is all off the cuff. I'm

40:33

like jay Z out here, I ain't

40:36

writing nothing down. What

40:39

girl be quiet anyway.

40:42

So we're going to be intentional. We're going to express gratitude,

40:46

and we are going to take care of

40:48

ourselves. Something

40:52

that is awesome is that a very very

40:54

dear friend of mine, her name

40:56

is Alex. I

40:59

go to her for a lot of my external

41:02

self care and some internal self

41:04

care services

41:07

and practices. She is

41:09

in Vienna, Virginia,

41:12

which is close to Tyson's corner. I

41:14

go to her for facials. She has

41:16

all different types of types of facials. She can do

41:18

custom facials. There's

41:20

a video on my Instagram page where

41:24

she gave me a facial the first time I went

41:26

to her. And you

41:29

know, like in our community, well

41:32

not even in our community. People everybody

41:34

has undertones, like whether they

41:36

are yellow, orange,

41:41

red, blue, pink,

41:44

those are typically the ones that most

41:47

humans have. If you have a green

41:49

undertone, you might be

41:52

a reptile. But my

41:55

undertone is yellow, yellow,

41:57

orange, and and

42:01

you don't really see it

42:05

often just because of cell turnover,

42:07

and so I you know, sometimes I'm not intentional

42:10

about working really hard

42:13

to exfoliate my skin. And I saying I got a

42:15

bunch of flakes on my skin

42:18

because she would never don't even play with me

42:20

like that respect. But

42:22

after she gave me the first facial

42:24

that I had, and it was a chemical peel, my

42:27

skin was so like golden,

42:31

like it was almost creepy. It was like

42:34

do you have jaundice or what's happening? And

42:37

not in a gross way, but like you could really see

42:39

the undertones of my complexion. I

42:42

say that to say, and I'm

42:44

talking very slow today. I'm moving told

42:47

you this morning I went to the gym. I'm moving very slow

42:49

today and I like it. I enjoy

42:52

it. I'm enjoying how this

42:54

feels because tomorrow I go

42:56

back to work and it'll be back to moving

42:58

at the speed of light. Alex

43:02

is amazing. They

43:04

also do laser hair removal there. What

43:08

else does she do? She does energy healing

43:10

work. She

43:14

does acupuncture. I

43:16

had a traumatic experience with an acupuncture

43:19

as before. I wouldn't

43:21

say traumatic, but the needle hurt really

43:23

bad. It hurt my toe, and so I was

43:25

very apprehensive about allowing anybody

43:27

to do that to

43:29

me again, and

43:32

I ended up allowing

43:35

Alex to do it. I love acupuncture

43:37

now I get it in my face, my

43:40

arms, get it in my legs,

43:42

my back, my feet, my

43:45

ankles. I'm

43:48

cool with it. It's very

43:50

helpful energy

43:53

work. She's an herbalist.

43:57

She studied ancient Chinese medicine.

44:00

Like she's pretty, she's a genius.

44:03

She is Lebanese, she is

44:05

Muslim, and she is amazing, and

44:08

she is my friend and

44:10

I love her, and we are

44:13

going to collaborate for

44:18

the beginning of the year. And

44:21

I'm gonna put her website

44:23

in the show notes. It

44:26

is Alexandra Healingspa

44:28

dot com. A L e x A N

44:31

D R A H E

44:33

A l I n G s

44:35

p A dot com

44:38

And if you

44:42

book with her, send

44:45

Tyson's Corner. Basically, it's like around the corner

44:47

from Tyson's Corner the mall. If

44:49

you book with her, your

44:52

very first service will be fifteen

44:55

percent off. She's doing a

45:00

a promo code anyway for

45:02

the beginning of the year for ten percent

45:04

off or and new customers

45:07

get ten percent off. But it's like if

45:09

you use the code and

45:11

I'm not getting anything from this, you

45:13

know, I just I'm not going to

45:15

gate keep her skills.

45:18

And it's not I'm not getting anything from this. Her

45:20

business isn't suffering. It's not like, oh,

45:22

let me help my friend out because she ain't making no money.

45:25

No, she's doing

45:27

very well. But I

45:29

don't want to gatekeep. And I feel

45:32

like somebody is listening

45:34

and they need to go.

45:37

And I feel like somebody is listening and

45:40

they need to do

45:43

something good for themselves. So

45:46

if you go on the website and you book when

45:49

you pay, you can pay at the beginning

45:52

and not at the beginning. You can

45:54

pay on the website for your service, and

45:57

if you enter the promo code, hand

45:59

me my purse. It's real simple,

46:02

Like it can't get no simpler than that coming

46:04

from me, hand me my purse, you'll

46:07

get fifteen percent off of your first service.

46:10

Or if you don't pay online when you go

46:12

to get your service, if you mention

46:16

hand me my purse, or say hey, Alex,

46:19

I found out about you. Because she's gonna ask you,

46:21

you have to do this whole survey or you know,

46:23

have to fill out all these papers and you have to tell

46:25

where you find out where you found out about

46:27

her. If you mention, hand

46:29

me my purse, write it on the paper, and then

46:31

also tell her, you will get fifteen

46:34

percent off of your first service. Do

46:36

yourself a favor, because

46:39

I do gatekeep some stuff. I'm not even gonna

46:41

lie. I'm notorious

46:43

about gatekeeping fragrances.

46:47

I may tell you what it is, but I won't tell

46:49

you everything that I'm wearing because I don't want everybody

46:51

smelling like me. And I know whatever,

46:55

everybody's not gonna smell the same. I don't care. I'm

46:57

still not gonna tell you. I'll

46:59

tell some people anyway. I

47:01

think that you should do something kind

47:04

for yourself, and you

47:06

should go see her and tell her

47:08

that Mimi Walker sent you

47:11

and mention handing my purse for fifteen percent

47:14

off of your first service and

47:16

you can thank me later. You

47:20

are very welcome because

47:23

I go. I try to go once

47:25

a month to

47:28

see her, but it

47:30

doesn't always work that way, but I go at

47:33

least every other month, and

47:35

it's worth it. But when

47:37

I go, like I'm going, and I get like the

47:39

whole shebang bang, like,

47:44

take care of me, please,

47:47

So check her out.

47:49

Alexandrahalingspa dot com

47:52

and Vienna, Virginia right around

47:54

the corner from Tyson's corner. Mention

47:56

handing my purse either

47:58

in the promo cold

48:01

box if you are paying for your service

48:03

online, or mention

48:06

hanving my purse in person

48:08

in the office, and you will receive fifteen

48:11

percent off of your first service. Be

48:13

intentional for twenty twenty four.

48:17

Intentional about your healing, Intentional

48:19

about the things

48:21

you do to care for yourself. Intentional

48:23

about taking

48:26

care of you. Because I say this

48:28

all the time, why would somebody else

48:31

be good to you if you're not good to yourself?

48:34

And as somebody who wasn't always good to myself,

48:36

particularly in relationships

48:40

or in dealings with men

48:43

like, no wonder they were not good

48:45

to me because I was out here not

48:47

being good to me. So

48:49

be good to you. Do something

48:52

beautiful for yourself, because

48:54

I can promise you when people see you

48:56

treating yourself well, they

48:59

know what's that. Don't mean they ain't gonna try you.

49:03

But when you treat yourself well, like

49:06

when people try to come at you with low

49:09

standards, like

49:11

they may not know because maybe you're not going to

49:13

be a dick, but like you're looking at them like what

49:15

the fuck are you doing? B Like what do you do?

49:17

What do you mean? Like

49:20

you're this is what you're offering me? Come

49:23

on, get out of here. It's not

49:26

gonna work long term. I can tell you that, trust

49:28

me, Been there, done that, right

49:32

AnyWho. Next, I want to talk about

49:34

something that my cousin and my aunt and I do

49:37

every year. We've been doing it for about seven years

49:40

and I know a lot of people do this. Every

49:42

year. We pick a word, our

49:47

word of the year, right, and

49:49

so in the past my word

49:52

has been abundance, alignment,

49:55

freedom.

49:59

I can't remember all of them, those are the ones I

50:01

remember, and we used to pick the same

50:03

word together. But you know

50:06

that is not sustainable because

50:08

different people grow and heal at different

50:10

rates, so different people, you

50:13

know, people need different things at different times.

50:15

So I was talking

50:17

to my cousin the other day and we were talking about

50:20

what our word is going to be, right, and

50:22

so she was

50:25

talking about how she wants her word to be time,

50:28

and so I said something to her. I

50:31

said, you know, I don't know about that. That kind

50:33

of creeps me out because one

50:36

thing I noticed is that whenever I pick a word,

50:40

there's always a shadow side

50:42

to the word. And

50:44

like everything on the

50:47

planet,

50:50

wherever there is light, there's going to be a shadow.

50:52

Right, So when

50:56

you think about peace,

50:59

let's say you're word is peace, there's

51:02

gonna be there has to be lessons in

51:04

order for you to get that. You

51:07

have to have lessons or you have to

51:09

go through things to

51:12

get to the other side.

51:15

Right, doesn't have to be major

51:18

things that you know, take you down and

51:21

you know, eradicate

51:24

all of your joy, but there has

51:26

to be a lesson for you to get to the light. There's

51:30

light in their shadow. So she was

51:32

talking about time and I was like, I don't know, Time's

51:35

kind of tricky, that's kind of scary, Like you run

51:37

out of time. And really, if I think about

51:39

it, like I was just being that

51:43

was just me moving in fear, and

51:48

that's not helpful nor

51:50

is it supportive. So I

51:53

was moving in fear by saying that. And you

51:55

know, she was very adamant about picking

51:58

time, and we thought about some other words

52:00

that she could have used. We ran down a

52:03

list of words. I got to Google and

52:06

looking things up on the Google and

52:08

trying to see if I can help her find another word. Needless

52:12

to say, that was the word

52:14

she decided to stick with. Two days

52:16

later, we talked about it and she was like, I'm gonna stick

52:18

with time. I mentioned

52:20

to her that I was

52:23

thinking about my word being disciplined, and then

52:25

she did exactly what I did. She was like,

52:27

ooh, discipline, that could be that might

52:29

be rough, and I was like,

52:31

yeah, you're right. I don't

52:33

know. I'm gonna look for another word because

52:38

me and discipline, and

52:40

I think there was a period in my life where there

52:44

was such rigid, strict discipline

52:47

UH placed on me

52:50

that like now it's like I don't

52:53

I don't want no parts of it. I don't want I

52:55

don't like nobody telling me what to do. I don't like

52:57

nobody telling me how to move. Why

52:59

I probably wouldn't have done well in the military.

53:03

That's why I was very apprehensive about

53:05

getting a personal trainer, because I don't

53:07

want anybody yelling in my face telling

53:09

me that I'm not doing a good job,

53:12

or even that I am doing a good job. If you're screaming

53:14

at me, that's not how my personality

53:16

is set up. So

53:19

I was like, yeah, no, I ain't done that because I don't

53:21

like discipline. I like to do whatever I want to do, when

53:23

I want to do it. I like

53:26

to be in

53:28

control of my life. Once

53:31

again, speaking from a space of ego

53:34

and in a space of fear. If I could be really honest,

53:36

I was speaking from fear. I

53:39

don't know if it was fear of failure or fear of success.

53:42

Probably fear of succeeding when

53:45

I think about discipline.

53:47

But needless

53:50

to say, I

53:54

went to sleep that day. I think that was Saturday.

53:57

I woke up on Sunday morning, opened

54:00

up. I believe it was Sunday. If it wasn't Sunday,

54:03

it was Saturday. You know, when you're a

54:05

winter break, all the days run together. You don't know what

54:07

day it is what time, it is who

54:09

you are either way. I woke up

54:12

the day after my cousin and I talked about

54:15

these words. I

54:17

opened Instagram and I the

54:21

very first thing that

54:23

I see that was posted by my

54:27

boo Yaba

54:29

Blade shout out to Yaba,

54:34

and she had reposted this woman

54:37

who was talking about what

54:40

do you think? She was talking about

54:45

discipline? And when I tell

54:48

you that this woman verbally

54:51

attacked me at my core, I

54:54

was upset. I

54:57

thought she was mean, rude,

54:59

a palling, and unkind

55:02

and I felt like she knew me and

55:05

she was personally attacking me individually.

55:10

Okay, I'm going to put

55:12

a link to this woman's post

55:14

in the show notes because

55:17

maybe you need to be verbally attacked too. But

55:20

basically, she said, the

55:24

reason why you don't get the

55:26

things that you want when you

55:28

want them is because

55:31

you lack discipline. She said, it's not because

55:37

she said all these things. She said,

55:39

you know you can go, and it reminded me of

55:41

an Erica Baidu song, the

55:45

one that where she goes got good buck

55:47

and God all in it, try the little

55:49

yoga for her many but it

55:52

won't let go. But anyway, she

55:55

said, you can do all of the things

55:57

you can get

55:59

with your girlfriends or your friends and get

56:01

a cardboard, get some construction

56:04

paper or whatever, she said, and get some magazines,

56:06

coup pictures out and make a vision board. She said,

56:08

you can try to manifest it. All

56:11

these things she said, and all these things she said. The reason

56:13

that I felt she was personally attacking me was

56:15

because these are all things that I do, or I've

56:17

done in the past, in

56:21

a hopes and

56:24

a hope hopes. I like

56:26

to put s's on things, things in

56:29

the hope with

56:32

the hope, yes there is womp

56:35

with the hope of

56:38

attaining the

56:40

things that I want or

56:45

you know, receiving the desires

56:47

of my heart. And sometimes

56:50

it would happen. But the truth of the

56:52

matter is that I

56:55

lack discipline period.

56:59

And when she said the things that she said, I

57:01

like my body got tight because

57:04

I was like, how the fuck does this woman

57:06

know me? It

57:09

was crazy, needless

57:11

to say. I

57:14

commented on the post and

57:17

Yaba had tagged her I think, and

57:19

so I went to her page. I

57:21

followed her. I reposted it. She's

57:24

actually the woman that has that dog named

57:27

Parnell and she chases

57:29

him around the neighborhood. I guess he gets out all the

57:31

time and that's

57:34

who she is. I

57:37

followed her all that, and then I texted Yaba

57:40

and said some things to her, just

57:43

ingratitude, saying thank you for posting that because

57:46

it may have single handedly changed my

57:49

life. We'll see, we'll

57:51

see what happens in a year from

57:53

today on January the first, twenty

57:56

twenty five, while we'll see

57:59

how I feel. But I knew

58:01

in that moment that Okay, I got my

58:03

word. I know what my word is. It is

58:06

discipline, and wop

58:08

there it is. So I

58:11

implore you, friends and kN if

58:13

you don't already do this, to think about a word where

58:18

you can use the

58:20

meaning of the word at

58:22

its root to help make

58:25

your life more fulfilling. To

58:27

hold yourself accountable, because really that's what it's

58:29

about. It's not just about getting what you want.

58:31

It's about holding yourself accountable as well. Holding

58:34

yourself accountable and

58:37

the goal of all of these things that I'm discussing,

58:39

all the things that I said, the goal is

58:41

to be the best version of yourself

58:43

that you can be. So

58:46

the things that you want to come this

58:49

year for you, the things that you want to receive

58:51

that you want to feel in your life. You

58:54

want to see, you want to touch, you want to experience,

58:57

you know, having gratitude for what you already

58:59

have, having gratitude

59:02

for who you already are, who

59:04

you already have, How you show

59:06

up, how the people

59:08

around you show up, Just being grateful in

59:11

a very authentic and genuine way. Being

59:14

intentional with

59:16

your words, your movement, how

59:21

you treat people, how you treat yourself.

59:26

Those are things that are very important. And

59:29

then set some paramedy, some

59:31

parameter years. Wow, what

59:35

is going on?

59:37

What in the world is that?

59:39

Set some parameters for yourself, some boundaries

59:42

for yourself, because we're quick to talk about other

59:44

people violating our boundaries, but set some boundaries

59:47

for yourself. What's your word for the year.

59:52

I won't know what it is. And guess what I'm a post

59:54

because guess what I'm goin to start posting

59:56

on social media again? The kid is

59:58

back. You

1:00:00

know. I was just dealing with some things. You know, I

1:00:03

lost my grandmother last year, and that

1:00:06

took the life out of me, slowly

1:00:09

but surely, and I didn't even see it coming,

1:00:13

but it took something out of me. And so I

1:00:15

am regenerating, resetting, and

1:00:19

in the process of transforming. And so

1:00:23

I have to be the best version of Megan that

1:00:25

I can be, not just for me, but for my

1:00:27

grandma too. She

1:00:30

don't want me out here not

1:00:32

being awesome. What that

1:00:36

ain't who she raised me to be. So

1:00:39

I'm caring to get back on track.

1:00:42

So I will be posting the social media a

1:00:46

lot more again, slowly but surely, I'm

1:00:48

gonna roll it on out. But I'm

1:00:52

gonna ask what's your word for

1:00:54

twenty twenty four? And

1:00:58

I'm thinking that by the fourteenth of the month.

1:01:00

I'm gonna say the fifteenth, by Martin Luther King's

1:01:02

birthday, everybody should have their

1:01:05

word by then? Think

1:01:07

about it? What's lacking

1:01:09

in your life that can help you be the

1:01:12

best version of yourself? That

1:01:16

is what you ask yourself. What's

1:01:19

lacking in your life that can help you get closer

1:01:22

to attaining pure,

1:01:24

unadulterated joy. What

1:01:30

do you lack? Is it

1:01:32

discipline? Is it joy?

1:01:35

Is it accountability? Is

1:01:40

it rest? Is

1:01:43

it happiness? Is

1:01:45

it honesty? Is

1:01:50

it a lack of I mean, is

1:01:53

it your ego being inflated?

1:01:57

And so if you can't think of what you need or where

1:01:59

the lack is. Think about where there's excess

1:02:03

and where that excess is getting in the way. Let's

1:02:06

say you have an inflated ego and

1:02:09

some of y'all are walking around with real

1:02:11

serious egos, and I'm not sure why because

1:02:14

I look at your life or I just look at

1:02:16

you and I'm like, what's happening? Why

1:02:19

are you this way? Figure

1:02:24

out what your word is, and

1:02:26

then be intentional about

1:02:30

incorporating the meaning of that

1:02:32

word into your life. Take

1:02:36

care of yourself. It's

1:02:40

a new year, and it's

1:02:42

no better time than ever to

1:02:45

decide that you're going to reinvent yourself. For

1:02:47

a couple of reasons, capitalism,

1:02:50

That's what I was trying to say. For a capital of reasons,

1:02:54

capitalism is alive

1:02:57

and kicking the beginning of the

1:02:59

year, whether you are following

1:03:02

the Gregorian calendar or not, January

1:03:07

one is a great time to

1:03:10

focus on reinvention, transformation,

1:03:13

change, shifting movement,

1:03:18

because everything in everybody

1:03:20

right now is focused on that. I

1:03:23

start thinking about this shit on my birthday.

1:03:28

I start thinking about it. I start talking

1:03:30

about it, speaking it out loud, coming

1:03:33

up with mantras, affirmations, I write

1:03:35

them down I

1:03:38

start on my birthday.

1:03:42

I start so

1:03:44

that by the time the new year is here in January first

1:03:46

is here, I'm already I'm already

1:03:48

moving. I was intentional

1:03:50

about joining a gym when I did, because I didn't

1:03:52

want to wait until January. Although you get

1:03:55

amazing deals, oh

1:03:57

my god, in

1:03:59

January for joining a gym. But that's why

1:04:01

I say, there's no time like now then

1:04:04

to focus on reinvention or shifting

1:04:07

or changing or transforming

1:04:10

or doing something different. Because

1:04:12

the world is

1:04:14

doing that, and there are all kinds

1:04:16

of things available and

1:04:19

at discounted prices sometimes for

1:04:22

you to get into that. So

1:04:24

make it work for you. It's

1:04:27

a great time for reinvention transformation,

1:04:30

and it doesn't have to be major evolution.

1:04:33

Evolution and transformation does

1:04:35

not always have to be major movement

1:04:39

in that moment. Think

1:04:42

about it, like the

1:04:45

caterpillar the larva to the caterpillar

1:04:47

to the butterfly. That takes time.

1:04:52

Evolution takes time, but the

1:04:54

process can be started, you can

1:04:56

work on it, the journey can begin.

1:05:01

Because, as I always say, ultimately it's

1:05:03

your fucking responsibility. I

1:05:08

want to lose eighty five pounds, It's nobody's

1:05:10

responsibility. But mine to

1:05:13

do that. Nobody's

1:05:19

people want to build their relationships

1:05:21

with their children. It's nobody's responsibility,

1:05:23

but yours. People

1:05:29

want to be better with their money and budget better.

1:05:31

Nobody's responsible for your money, but you get

1:05:35

your life. Every step

1:05:37

that you take in the direction of your

1:05:43

changing who you are for the better or

1:05:45

transforming or

1:05:48

your own personal journey toward

1:05:50

evolution, it

1:05:53

just brings you closer. It brings

1:05:56

us closer to the version

1:05:58

of ourselves that we long to become.

1:06:02

Nobody should want to stay stagnant

1:06:05

or be the same forever. If

1:06:07

you do, you got the game fucked up. If

1:06:11

you're like, hmm, I'm find the way I am, I don't need

1:06:13

to change, you probably really

1:06:15

need to change because that that

1:06:19

is a very fixed mindset, and

1:06:23

everybody has a room to grow. Nobody

1:06:26

is perfect. Nobody's

1:06:29

even close to perfect. Contrary

1:06:32

to popular belief, get

1:06:34

over yourself, and

1:06:37

a lot of y'all are walking around with

1:06:40

that in mind, you know, thinking that like

1:06:43

some of you won't say it, but like I can feel

1:06:45

it on you, I can smell it on

1:06:47

you. There's

1:06:51

nothing wrong with saying things like you know, I'm

1:06:53

a bad motherfucker I'm a bad bitch, I'm

1:06:55

that girl, I'm that dude, I'm

1:06:59

a maize. You probably are all of those

1:07:01

things. But

1:07:04

there's somewhere in your life where

1:07:07

there's lack, and

1:07:11

wherever that lack is, there's room for growth.

1:07:14

Find it and grow.

1:07:20

That's all I got. Happy

1:07:22

New Year. Sorry I was

1:07:24

talking so slow, but I swear

1:07:26

I'm in slow motion today. I feel like I'm floating.

1:07:29

Let me tell you something. A good workout,

1:07:33

all of those endorphins and serotonins

1:07:35

and melatonins and what's

1:07:38

the one dopamans coursing

1:07:40

through your body, I feel like I'm

1:07:42

floating on a cloud. I

1:07:45

feel amazing. I

1:07:48

was probably in the gym for like two and a half hours.

1:07:51

I worked out, No, not two and a half, maybe two

1:07:53

hours. I literally worked out for an

1:07:55

hour and fifteen

1:07:59

minutes. It's closer hour and a half

1:08:03

because I took my time and

1:08:05

I pushed myself. Am I going to regret

1:08:07

it later a little bit because my body,

1:08:10

the lower half of my body, feels a little bit like overcooked

1:08:13

oodles and noodles. But that's fine. I'll

1:08:16

get over it. Let's

1:08:19

work. Let's do this work, y'all. It's twenty

1:08:21

twenty four. It's no time

1:08:24

like today because

1:08:26

tomorrow we don't know about tomorrow. We

1:08:29

don't We can look forward

1:08:31

to it, but there's no guarantee that it's

1:08:33

going to be there. So let's

1:08:36

do our best to,

1:08:38

like I said, March, run

1:08:42

in the direction of

1:08:45

our dreams. And getting

1:08:48

a good stride in that direction

1:08:50

of running toward our dreams starts

1:08:52

with taking some steps in

1:08:56

the direction of our own personal evolution,

1:09:02

our own journey towards transforming

1:09:04

to become whoever it is that you

1:09:07

really long to be. I

1:09:12

love, y'all. Let's get this work.

1:09:15

It's twenty twenty four. Let

1:09:19

me say one more thing. You know what I'm mad about. As

1:09:22

a little girl, I couldn't wait for it to be in the

1:09:24

two thousands because I was like, Ooh, it's

1:09:26

gonna be like the Jetsons. Where's

1:09:29

my Jetson's life? Okay, where

1:09:33

is it? False hopes

1:09:35

saying a barbaria that's what you were

1:09:37

selling, false

1:09:40

hopes. I boss friends

1:09:58

again for today's straight facts

1:10:01

question, I'm just gonna

1:10:03

go ahead and get into it. It

1:10:07

says, Hey, I would say

1:10:09

my name, but I'm worried this situation could mess up

1:10:11

my friendship. My close homegirl and

1:10:13

I have been friends for twenty five years. Our

1:10:16

friendship developed in high school and we've been

1:10:18

like sisters ever since. We have experienced

1:10:20

in wild times together in life, including

1:10:23

our dating lives. We have never kept

1:10:25

secrets from each other until now.

1:10:28

Here's where the problem lies. I went out

1:10:30

to a bar to celebrate,

1:10:33

and while I was there, I ran into my homegirl's

1:10:35

first love. He remembered me from

1:10:37

high school and

1:10:40

came up to me, spoke and asked me

1:10:42

if I remembered him. I responded, of

1:10:44

course I remember you. You were the love of my Homegirl's

1:10:47

life, her first love, her first heartbreak,

1:10:49

her high school sweetheart. He chuckled

1:10:51

and responded that he saw my homegirl living her

1:10:53

life with her husband and kids. He stated

1:10:56

that he was proud of the woman she had grown to be.

1:10:58

I agreed, and he walked off. I

1:11:01

went up to the bar to gain my third drink, and I

1:11:03

was confronted by old dude again.

1:11:06

He asked me if I wanted a shot. I

1:11:09

obliged. One shot turned

1:11:11

into two shots, and two shots turned

1:11:14

into three. We laughed for about

1:11:16

an hour. We eventually hit the dance

1:11:18

floor and grind it all over. Chill,

1:11:23

this is getting wild. We

1:11:26

eventually hit the dance floor and grinded all over

1:11:28

each other. As the club closed,

1:11:30

he extended me an

1:11:33

invitation to his house. I declined.

1:11:36

He then placed his number in my hand and

1:11:38

kissed me. This is

1:11:40

out of control. This is out

1:11:42

of control. I've

1:11:47

been fantasizing about it ever since. I

1:11:49

constantly look at his number when I go into

1:11:51

my neglige a drawer. Oh child, she

1:11:54

don't put it in a pretty panty drawer. Chill.

1:12:00

My homegirl is happily married and does not even

1:12:03

mention her high school sweet sweetheart.

1:12:05

Excuse me. I know my story is long,

1:12:07

but my questions are, would I be

1:12:09

wrong if I called him? Should

1:12:12

I tell my homegirl about our encounter? Would

1:12:15

you give your friend permission to date one of your

1:12:17

exes? Does the girl code

1:12:19

get old? And

1:12:22

friends? And ken? That was from Marie in

1:12:25

New York, Marie,

1:12:28

Marie, Marie, Well,

1:12:32

let me just answer the questions. I'm not even

1:12:34

going to get into all of these

1:12:36

things, but I'm going to answer

1:12:39

your questions. Your first question was would

1:12:41

I be wrong if I called him? No,

1:12:47

I don't think you would be wrong if you called him.

1:12:49

I think that it is based on what is

1:12:51

your intention, Like, what are you calling him

1:12:53

for? Do

1:12:56

you want to hang out with him and go to the bar, Because

1:13:00

if you just want somebody to hang out with I'm

1:13:02

not one of those people who does not believe

1:13:04

that men and women can be friends

1:13:07

and it be platonic. I have

1:13:09

platonic guy friends, like I'm

1:13:11

in no way, shape or form interested in having sex

1:13:14

with them or being freaky with them,

1:13:17

and they have no interest

1:13:20

in that with me. We're

1:13:22

just friends and we've known each other for a long time. So if

1:13:24

you're just looking for somebody to hang out with, then

1:13:27

I think it works. However,

1:13:32

if you're trying to get freaky,

1:13:36

if you try and see what's up, I

1:13:39

don't know if you should call them. So

1:13:43

it all is contingent upon your intentions.

1:13:46

The next question will drive us

1:13:48

to the answers that we need. Should

1:13:50

I tell my homegirl about our encounter?

1:13:54

Well, once again, it depends on your

1:13:56

intentions. I'm

1:13:58

gonna say this much. If

1:14:01

that was her sweetheart, her

1:14:04

first her high school crush, her

1:14:07

first heartbreak, I do

1:14:09

believe whether she's married, happily

1:14:12

married with children, or not, that

1:14:16

you owe it to her to be honest

1:14:19

and upfront with her about

1:14:22

your interaction with him. I

1:14:26

do also believe that it depends on who

1:14:29

she is, because if she's

1:14:31

gonna automatically think that you're out to get her, or

1:14:33

that you know you're trying to see

1:14:36

her ex boyfriend or whatever, and maybe

1:14:38

you are, because I can't really gauge

1:14:40

if you are or not. I think one thing you

1:14:42

are is curious. I do know that. Okay,

1:14:46

you are curious. You want

1:14:48

to know what's up, You want to

1:14:50

know what you sniffing around. But

1:14:55

I would say to see why cover

1:14:58

your ass and

1:15:01

to preserve your relationship with your

1:15:03

friend, you should

1:15:05

talk to her about it, because

1:15:07

ultimately it boils down to this, if

1:15:10

it were your high school sweetheart and your

1:15:12

first heartbreak and your crush

1:15:14

in the you know, because I noticed like to

1:15:17

be young and dumb and full of love.

1:15:21

Okay, I

1:15:24

have no intention, desire, want,

1:15:28

like dream at all

1:15:31

to ever ever

1:15:35

be with my college boyfriend again. And

1:15:37

I loved him a long time. Do you

1:15:39

hear me? You couldn't tell me we weren't

1:15:41

gonna get married and have babies, no

1:15:44

desire to be with him, let

1:15:47

one of my let me find out one of my friends

1:15:51

like was mess with him. I mean he's married

1:15:53

now, thank god, But if

1:15:55

he wasn't, that

1:15:58

would be a problem because that is to me, that's

1:16:01

like you done, you done, look at you done,

1:16:03

went and did. Now I'm

1:16:06

gonna have a big problem because

1:16:10

he was very special to me and our relationship

1:16:12

was very special. To tell the truth,

1:16:14

I would feel weird if one of my friends

1:16:17

slept with somebody that I slept with. It's

1:16:21

a little it is a little weird, and

1:16:25

I mean sometimes it's you know, it can be situational,

1:16:28

depending like if you didn't care about

1:16:30

him and I don't care about

1:16:32

him, and you know, somebody trying

1:16:35

to get a coin, because people

1:16:37

do that, g off do your

1:16:39

thing. Everybody has different

1:16:41

intentions, right, But

1:16:45

because of who he was to her, like

1:16:48

we don't even care about who she was to him, because

1:16:52

he doesn't even matter. Actually he's

1:16:54

not important. But because of who he

1:16:57

was to your friend, you, God,

1:17:00

I have some respect for her not

1:17:04

to violate that boundary. And

1:17:09

you got to show some loyalty. You

1:17:15

have to. I mean, you ain't got to do nothing.

1:17:17

Be very clear, you've grown. You can

1:17:19

do whatever you want to do. But you

1:17:22

asked me a question, and I just feel like you got

1:17:25

to have some respect for her. Would

1:17:28

you give your friend permission to date one of your exes? Hell

1:17:30

no, not one

1:17:32

of my exes, as in somebody that I cared

1:17:34

for and I loved and like he

1:17:36

was my man, my man, my man. Absolutely

1:17:39

not. If it was

1:17:41

just some bozo that you know,

1:17:44

our paths crossed in the night once

1:17:48

or twice, I might if

1:17:51

I don't care about him. Probably

1:17:54

not, though, because I just think it's a little bit weird. But

1:17:58

it really just depends. It

1:18:02

really depends depends on who he is

1:18:04

and how I felt about him. Does

1:18:08

the girl code get old? Fuck no, it don't.

1:18:13

Friendship, don't get old. You

1:18:16

asking the wrong one, Loyalty, don't get

1:18:18

old to me, Cross

1:18:20

me and see what happened,

1:18:25

And it don't take a whole lot of times. I

1:18:27

might give you more than one time. The first time I'm gonna look

1:18:29

at you, I'm gonna follow it away, and I'm never gonna

1:18:32

forget second time.

1:18:36

I might not cut you then either, because

1:18:38

I might be like, Oh, I

1:18:41

told you I'm gonna reform people pleaser. Oh

1:18:45

maybe she did it because of this. Maybe he did it

1:18:47

because of this, maybe this happened. Maybe

1:18:49

that the

1:18:53

third time and

1:18:55

the third time you don't even actually have to do it.

1:18:57

The third time, I could just feel like you did it because

1:19:00

I'm already on watch after the second time hardcore.

1:19:04

Actually I'm gonna watch the first after the first time,

1:19:07

but after the first time that it's just filed away

1:19:11

that third time you out of here. Be regardless

1:19:15

of whether it is, it could be how you talk to me. It

1:19:18

could be how you respond. It

1:19:21

could be you know how free

1:19:24

you are with being disrespectful to me when

1:19:26

I'm not disrespectful to you. It could be you

1:19:29

acting like a fucking brat. I

1:19:31

hate women that act braddy like that throw

1:19:34

ten per tantrums like

1:19:36

what are you doing at

1:19:39

your big age that you can't

1:19:41

communicate effectively or

1:19:44

that you think everything is supposed to go your way. You're

1:19:47

not that special. And

1:19:51

I've had a few girlfriends

1:19:53

like that, and you know,

1:19:55

it made me think, like is it me? Am I attracting

1:19:58

that I was a people pleaser? So maybe

1:20:00

either way, girl

1:20:02

called don't get old, don't

1:20:05

do to her what you wouldn't want somebody to do to

1:20:07

you. That's like the Golden

1:20:10

rule or whatever it is. It's

1:20:12

common sense, and even

1:20:14

if you would be okay with it, assume she's

1:20:17

not. Until you find

1:20:19

out whether she is or not, talk

1:20:21

to her. All these questions

1:20:23

end up in the same space. Communicate

1:20:26

like an effective like an adult. Have

1:20:30

an effective and efficient communication on

1:20:33

exchange. Ask her. I

1:20:35

mean, I'm glad you asked me because I love

1:20:38

answering you guys's questions. But I'm gonna

1:20:40

send you right back to her. Go ask her how

1:20:42

she feels about it. Ask her these

1:20:44

same questions you ask me and see where her response

1:20:46

is. That's going to tell you everything you need to know.

1:20:49

And I'm telling you because you smell a little fishy.

1:20:52

It smells a little you're a little curious. I

1:20:55

don't recommend you hang out with him anymore

1:20:58

until you talk to your friends, because

1:21:02

we already know what his intentions are. He's

1:21:05

trying to book, He's

1:21:09

trying to boop yall. It's obvious.

1:21:13

So be smart,

1:21:17

play the game right and talk to your

1:21:19

friend of twenty five years. Get

1:21:24

it together. He's

1:21:26

got some souls searching friends

1:21:31

and ken for this. We got to do better. Segment

1:21:33

the first one of twenty twenty four. I

1:21:36

have two quotes for you from two beautiful,

1:21:39

intelligent, wise

1:21:41

black women who make

1:21:45

moves, and

1:21:47

not just money moves or political

1:21:52

moves, but they do make political

1:21:54

moves, but they're smart. And

1:21:57

the first one is from the only h

1:22:00

first lady that I really acknowledge,

1:22:02

and that is Michelle Obama, and she says, for me,

1:22:06

becoming isn't about

1:22:09

arriving somewhere or achieving a certain

1:22:11

aim. I see it instead as a

1:22:13

forward motion, a means of evolving,

1:22:17

a way to reach continuously toward

1:22:19

a better self. The journey doesn't end.

1:22:23

In light of the conversation that we had today,

1:22:25

I thought that this was a perfect quote, becoming,

1:22:30

whatever that means to you. If

1:22:33

we're talking about becoming the best version

1:22:35

of ourselves, it's

1:22:37

not about a destination. It's

1:22:40

a journey that never ends. It doesn't.

1:22:44

The next quote is from Stacy Abrams.

1:22:47

Shout out to Stacy Abrams. Resilient,

1:22:52

brilliant, beautiful, intelligent,

1:22:55

waymaker, brave, courageous,

1:23:01

strong, but

1:23:04

also gentle and kind and

1:23:07

loving. And you can tell those things.

1:23:09

Stacy Abrams said, Invention,

1:23:12

discovery, and empires

1:23:16

are built of chances taken

1:23:19

with high degrees of

1:23:22

failure. Don't

1:23:24

be afraid to fail, can't

1:23:28

be don't

1:23:31

be afraid to take chances, because

1:23:34

the people that are the most successful. Did

1:23:37

you hear she said empires? And

1:23:40

I don't think she means like empire

1:23:43

like that TV show with Cookie and uh,

1:23:46

what was Terrence Howard's character

1:23:49

name Lucius with Lucious

1:23:51

and Cookie? But even that, even

1:23:57

an empire like that, it

1:24:01

is not going to be built if you are not brave, if

1:24:04

you're not willing to take a chance, take a risk,

1:24:08

bet on you, bet on yourself. If

1:24:11

you can't bet on you, then ain't nobody

1:24:13

else gonna bet on you. You

1:24:15

don't believe you can do something, why would anybody else

1:24:17

believe you can do it? So

1:24:20

those are our quotes to start the year. This

1:24:24

is going to be a dope ash year. I can just

1:24:26

feel it. Twenty

1:24:29

twenty four is going down in

1:24:32

a very righteous, amazing

1:24:38

transformation away. I'm excited

1:24:40

about it, are

1:24:42

you friends

1:24:46

thinking? The first thing that I want to do is say Happy

1:24:49

New Year. Then I want to go right

1:24:52

to thanking God, who is supreme? Supreme?

1:24:59

You know, growing up Pentecostal Church, they were people

1:25:01

will get up to speaking, they would say First, I

1:25:03

want to give honor to God, who's the head of my life.

1:25:07

That's it. God is supreme in

1:25:09

my life, and y'all

1:25:11

know how I go. I recognize and appreciate the

1:25:13

grace, mercy, love,

1:25:18

peace, joy, abundance. I

1:25:22

could go on and on that God

1:25:24

extends to me opportunities,

1:25:27

chances, chances

1:25:31

to get up and do it again, that

1:25:34

God extends to me every single day

1:25:37

of this black ass life that I live. I

1:25:39

want to say thank you to all of you out

1:25:41

there who can hear the sound of my voice. Y'all

1:25:46

are my people. I want to say thank

1:25:48

you to all of you that

1:25:51

have been listening to

1:25:53

hand me my purse since the first day that

1:25:56

you ever heard my voice on

1:25:59

the internet airwaves. Internets

1:26:02

probably don't have airwaves, but so what since

1:26:06

Mars the first of twenty twenty. I appreciate

1:26:08

you for rolling with me

1:26:12

and still being here. I truly

1:26:15

appreciate you for still being here. And just

1:26:17

in case you just started listening today or

1:26:20

last year or whenever, I'm

1:26:23

grateful for that as well. Either

1:26:25

way, I'm grateful that you are here now. That's

1:26:27

all that matters right

1:26:29

now is what matters. I'm thankful

1:26:31

for my family. I'm thankful for my friends, my

1:26:34

friends and ken, all of my supporters, and of course

1:26:37

what is of course, and

1:26:40

of course most importantly

1:26:42

every single one of you guys

1:26:46

that show up. I

1:26:50

love y'all so much and it's

1:26:52

a privilege to

1:26:55

share my time and my energy with you every

1:26:58

week, especially if you keep

1:27:00

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1:27:02

me away most of the time that some of y'all keep

1:27:04

coming back and keep listening, and

1:27:07

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1:27:09

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