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to help you unlock the best in those
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around you. If
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you've invested in someone you manage, it's natural
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to feel hurt when that person tells you
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they're leaving, especially if they're a
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strong contributor. The classic
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management advice is don't take it personally,
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be professional. But it's important
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to acknowledge your feelings and work through them, for
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yourself and with your team. Today
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we bring you a conversation about how
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to cope with the shock, sadness, and
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stress of losing a star employee, with
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the help of two HBR editorial
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leaders, Maureen Hoek and Nicole Smith,
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and Women at Work listeners themselves
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who share their experiences losing team
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members. You'll also
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learn how to manage your emotions in the
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moment, and then how to revisit your feelings
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later to process them. This
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episode originally aired on Women at Work in October 2021
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in the midst of what was
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known as the Great Resignation. You'll
1:30
hear it mentioned in the episode, but the
1:33
conversation has implications for leading through difficult staffing
1:35
transitions that are relevant at any time. I
1:38
think you'll enjoy it. Here it is. I
1:48
am feeling for my friends who
1:50
manage teams right now because this
1:53
phenomenon of the Great Resignation
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is hitting them really hard.
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What are you hearing from them? I hear
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a lot of stories about dreading
2:03
the, can I talk to you
2:05
for a moment or getting the
2:07
invite from a beloved
2:09
direct report, but it's unclear
2:12
why exactly they're setting up a
2:14
meeting and the
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sleepless nights of how do I make sure
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I don't lose anyone else on my team.
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I have to tell you nothing strikes
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fear in my heart like the email,
2:25
the subject line of which is, got
2:27
a sec. I mean, that,
2:31
it never takes a sec. I always want to say,
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I just want to say no. Yes, no, I don't. You
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know, all managers have gone through
2:40
this and we know how
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we're supposed to respond and
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it's genuine. You want what's best for
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anyone on your team. You want them to be
2:52
happy. You
2:54
know that no employment situation
2:56
is forever, but even
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though you know all of that intellectually,
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it still hurts. It still
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strikes home. I didn't
3:06
realize how personally managers take it, which
3:08
is so sad for
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all bypass managers who I've been like,
3:13
bye. You're
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listening to Women at Work from Harvard Business
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Review. I'm Amy Gallo. I'm Amy
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Bernstein. And I'm Emily Caulfield. Every
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time I see a manager calm and collected after
3:28
somebody on their team quits, I
3:30
wonder what are they actually thinking and
3:32
feeling? Well, we're about to find
3:34
out. You're going to
3:36
hear from several managers, me included,
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about how we deal when someone
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leaves our team. We're
3:43
starting with two women who opened up
3:45
to me about their experiences of losing
3:47
multiple employees. The
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first woman works in city government in the U.S.
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Typically she manages a team of seven or
3:56
eight, but in 2020, two team members left
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within a couple months. of each other. She'd
4:01
actually been expecting the resignations. Both had been
4:03
with the city for a long time and
4:05
had let her know many months
4:07
prior that they were searching for new jobs.
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But it was the next three that were not
4:12
expected. Those happened in quick succession
4:15
within a month. You know,
4:17
those conversations were hard to swallow. It's
4:19
just an emotional roller coaster because, you
4:21
know, at first it was part
4:23
of the job. People will leave, you know, this
4:25
is part of being a manager. But
4:28
then it started being like, okay,
4:30
this is exhausting. And I've
4:34
just learned to be
4:36
quiet and listen, take
4:39
it all in, ask what
4:42
their next opportunity is and
4:45
let myself breathe in that space
4:48
and not react in front of them. Because
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I definitely react, but
4:53
it's not good to do that in front of
4:55
them. And I usually
4:57
touch base with my boss and say,
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hey, this person's leaving. Here are the
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facts. And this is what I want
5:03
to do moving forward. Or do you have another idea?
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Kind of game plan it out. The
5:07
resignation that hurt the most was the
5:10
employee who left for a lower pain,
5:12
but also lower stress job. Our
5:14
workload and our capacity has just been
5:16
overwhelming. And so it
5:19
was really a cry for help
5:21
that she can't sustain in this
5:23
position any longer. And that really
5:25
got to me emotionally, just
5:28
because, you know, we have these
5:30
monthly one on ones. And so
5:33
to not recognize the signs
5:35
that she was struggling or
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suffering even, and that,
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you know, I thought we
5:41
were decent friends and still
5:43
not recognizing that. Yeah. Did
5:46
it make you wonder what other people on your
5:48
team were feeling like that you weren't maybe seeing?
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Definitely. COVID, you know, has
5:54
created this hybrid or remote work
5:56
for us. And
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I'm a pretty good. Read on. People
6:01
are usually know. What's up and that
6:03
kind of social awareness as disappeared
6:05
with coven. We've been doing a
6:07
lot more in person work now
6:10
and so it's definitely bring it
6:12
back to better place by. yeah,
6:14
definitely. I think there's a lot
6:17
of start questioning what are the
6:19
role of things. Especially
6:21
because by that time. That.
6:24
Those three laughed. We had hired
6:26
new people and so they're coming
6:28
in a month to three months
6:30
into an organization saying. What
6:33
am I going with of Israel? Is
6:35
there something wrong with the. Romans
6:38
that maybe it is. I don't know
6:40
sister. She's in it for
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the long haul, but that doesn't mean
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she wants the working conditions to stay
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the way they are. And fortunately others
6:50
resignation see said lead senior management to
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offer more support and making the workload
6:54
more sustainable. They paused some projects and
6:57
change the budget midyear to add a
6:59
few new positions. For me, emotionally,
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I've I broke down for that
7:03
because I recognized that they recognize
7:05
how much we were struggling. She's.
7:08
Also making changes to the things
7:10
that seeking control. If
7:12
weeks only expect people to say two
7:14
years then we need to be more
7:17
efficient with our own boarding. I need
7:19
to spend way more time with people
7:21
so I can understand their weaknesses or
7:23
what they do or don't understand for
7:26
me to feel. Better.
7:28
About. Did. I do
7:30
enough. When someone does eventually leave his
7:32
out that will still happen by it.
7:34
Did I put enough time and to
7:37
on board this person? Did I spent
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enough time. To. Truly understand what
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makes them tick to make sure that
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they're getting all the resources that they
7:46
need to feel successful. The drug. Their.
7:51
Said ceiling when someone quit because
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there's just. The. Work
7:56
is too much and. And the pressures?
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Too much. When you. realize, yeah,
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it's been too much for all
8:02
of us. And if
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this person can quit, why
8:07
do I have to put up with this myself? I'm
8:09
also totally stressed out. And once
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all your staff quits, then you're extra overworked.
8:15
Managers are going to be the most burnt out
8:17
people of us all after
8:19
this great resignation. I think
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that's exactly right, Emily. And that's actually what
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we heard from the second person I spoke
8:27
to was just how overwhelming the
8:29
workload was when she lost so
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many members of her team. It
8:35
started around about March of
8:37
this year, which
8:39
in the UK, that's when we've been in
8:41
a few months of quite heavy lockdown. And
8:43
you could see that people were really coming to
8:45
the end of their tethers. And
8:48
how many people just give us context? How many people
8:50
do you manage and how many people quit? I
8:52
have a direct team of six people of
8:55
which at one point four had left
8:57
the business. That was a really considerable
8:59
impact on my life. Yeah.
9:01
Were you expecting the four who
9:04
quit to do so? Nope,
9:06
definitely not. Yeah. What
9:09
was your initial reaction? So
9:12
it was a mix. There was some
9:15
disappointment, disappointment that they were going. A
9:18
bit of disappointment that I hadn't
9:20
created an environment that was great
9:23
for them to stay. But also,
9:25
if I'm honest, a little panic of like,
9:27
what am I going to do
9:29
now? We have clients.
9:31
I work in a service firm. We
9:35
have to provide what we said we will for
9:37
clients. And that essentially meant
9:39
me picking up a lot of
9:41
things directly. Quite a lot of early
9:43
mornings, late evenings, weekend
9:45
working. Giving up
9:48
time, digging in and just
9:50
doing things. Yeah. It
9:52
sounds exhausting. Yes. Take
9:55
us back to Perhaps the
9:57
most painful of the departures. How did
9:59
you? You react when they told you
10:01
they were leaving and what were you
10:03
feeling inside at that moment? I
10:07
would actually say it was the first.
10:09
It almost felt like a bit of
10:11
a cascade following. that. that it was
10:13
that first one that I think really
10:15
triggered things. So. I
10:17
am a believer that when you are surrounded
10:19
by your team a loss of the time,
10:21
you get a sense of when people aren't
10:23
happy, You get a sense of when they
10:25
may be off doing an interview and when
10:27
everyone is virtual. You just do Not
10:30
get that. Yeah, So
10:32
when they have the conversation with
10:34
me which was obviously over that
10:36
video call. It
10:38
was a shock. I wasn't
10:40
expecting it from this person.
10:43
Ah, this is somebody that I was
10:45
very invested in. Very invested in their
10:47
future of where they come from, where
10:50
I thought we could go to and
10:52
I didn't expect sense and you'd have
10:54
to maintain that say so fights. Okay,
10:56
well. That's. Really sad
10:58
and can we do anything to keep
11:00
pew and my gosh this is disappointing
11:02
and internally your to side. with
11:05
of when did this happen and when we you
11:07
doing this and so did I not pick this
11:09
up and and why didn't I. Know about this
11:12
and why didn't you talk to me and I'm.
11:15
In retrospect, why not ask a few of
11:17
those questions in a slightly less than person's
11:19
way? But yeah, that was a big contrast.
11:22
Between them. So
11:24
I felt I had to behave and then. How
11:26
I felt I had to then go and talk
11:28
to other people in the business about this versus
11:30
what I actually thought which the sight. This
11:33
is. Your stressful and I think this is
11:35
going to trigger some other things happening. Off the
11:38
back of their Senza and that's where we were.
11:42
Described the contrast a little bit more
11:44
because. You're saying you were expected
11:46
to behave in one way: And
11:49
you access salt Completely different. Say,
11:51
tell us a little bit more
11:53
about that contrast. i
11:56
think there's a manager you you really have
11:58
to show that you our supporters of people
12:00
decisions. Even when that decision is, I'm not
12:02
going to work here anymore. And that's
12:05
what I was trying to convey like, okay, I
12:07
understand this. But
12:09
to be fair, I didn't understand it. I
12:12
didn't actually understand quite why they had quit and
12:14
why we couldn't give them what they were actually looking
12:16
for. And I think it was a really very, very
12:19
different feeling internally versus externally.
12:22
And then because you're not in an office and you
12:24
can't just go and grab a couple of people and
12:26
talk about it, it then almost sort of compounded
12:28
as in, you know, why did this happen
12:30
and what could we have done? And that's
12:33
pretty tough as well. Yeah. If
12:36
you weren't behaving the
12:38
way you thought you were supposed to, what would
12:40
you have said in that moment? I
12:43
think I would have just been more like, you're
12:46
really a star employee within the
12:49
team. You know, I really rate
12:51
what you're doing. I really
12:53
think you have a massive opportunity to move
12:55
forward. There's this and this and this. And
13:00
can we just have a conversation over a
13:02
glass of wine or something then just tell
13:04
me more about why you were doing this
13:06
just as a person, not as your
13:08
manager? Yeah, what would have been the harm
13:11
of doing that? In
13:14
hindsight, none. It would have actually
13:16
been great. I think that's a
13:18
great learning, which is that, you
13:21
know, you would have done that in an office
13:23
environment, you would have been like, come on, right,
13:25
we're going to go out at least for a
13:27
coffee now have this chat. And you cannot do
13:29
that. And I do
13:31
think that's been another downside of being
13:34
just on calls for the last
13:36
18 months is that you cannot
13:38
as easily break through some of
13:40
these barriers and emotions. Yeah,
13:42
I mean, it almost sounds like you're saying
13:44
that having to
13:47
have these conversations virtually means
13:49
you end up being less human. I think
13:52
you can be yes. And I think that
13:54
is partly it's partly
13:58
that work has become a little bit more robotic
14:00
in some ways and like it is very much now
14:03
like half an hour here and half an hour there
14:05
and this call and then this call and
14:07
to then recall or just remember that this
14:09
is your team. This is people that you
14:12
work with and to really bring out that
14:14
human side not just like get through the
14:16
next thing and get through the next thing.
14:19
Right. All right. The two survivors on your
14:21
team. Yes. And
14:23
I'm sorry to use that word but I think it's out. I
14:25
know it's great. How did they
14:27
feel? How did you manage their emotion about everything
14:29
that was happening? Yeah.
14:32
So spending more
14:34
time actually trying to be
14:36
a bit more human, trying to talk about things
14:38
other than great. This meeting is tomorrow. Have you
14:41
done the deck? And the
14:43
other thing I did was actually start to admit
14:45
that I was feeling very stressed and that I
14:47
was feeling that I'd really had to take on
14:49
a lot and do the jobs of three to
14:51
four people and that I actually just couldn't do
14:54
that anymore. So I actually
14:56
slowly started to delegate more things and actually
14:58
get people involved in more things and have
15:00
them realize how much was going on and
15:02
how many things were actually behind the scenes
15:04
that they didn't know about. And
15:08
that's been very helpful all around.
15:11
Were there other people at work, your
15:13
boss, the remaining people on your team
15:16
who you've talked to over the past?
15:18
It sounds like almost six months
15:20
now about how you felt about
15:23
these employees quitting, being so understaffed.
15:26
Yes. And to be clear,
15:28
my boss has been absolutely
15:30
fantastic. I just got
15:32
slightly stuck in that piece around
15:37
sometimes it takes more time to hand things over
15:39
than it does to just do it yourself.
15:41
And I got very stuck in the just
15:44
do it myself. If I just do it myself, I
15:46
can do it quickly. I can get it done. But
15:48
I actually had a huge amount of support from
15:51
my boss. And she very much was like,
15:53
look, what can I take on or, you
15:55
know, phone me if you just need to
15:57
chat. And I didn't really take her up
15:59
on that. And I would going forward, I
16:01
would actually just have more conversations that
16:03
were just I
16:06
need to download this or hey, I
16:08
have five competing priorities. Can you just
16:11
let me talk them through and help me prioritize
16:13
them, for example. So just taking
16:15
away some of this feeling
16:17
that I have to make every decision. That's
16:20
what I would do differently, not feel that
16:22
I have to make every single decision. Right,
16:25
right. I imagine you
16:27
were counting the days until you have a full
16:30
team again. Yes. So
16:33
over the next couple of weeks, help
16:35
is coming. I have people joining the team, which
16:38
is really fantastic. I'm very excited.
16:41
We have a lot of things in place to make
16:43
them feel welcome and supported. I
16:45
just feel so much lighter. I
16:47
just, yeah, I
16:50
just feel like it's
16:52
going to be a really nice end to the year. I'm
16:57
really happy to hear that things are going a lot
16:59
better for her now and that
17:01
things are looking up with her new
17:03
employees. Yeah, it does sound like
17:06
relief is on the way for her. Both
17:08
my conversations with these women, I still
17:10
had a lot of questions coming out
17:13
of them like how do you handle
17:15
the guilt you feel when good employees
17:17
leave? Like how can you anticipate if
17:21
and when people might leave and how
17:23
to handle your bosses reaction? I mean,
17:25
it sounded like the second woman in
17:27
London I spoke to had a supportive
17:29
boss, but what if you're afraid
17:32
your boss is going to be mad or going
17:34
to blame you? And
17:36
you know, I'm not a manager. Neither
17:38
am I. But Amy, you are. So
17:41
Emily and I are going to step aside and let
17:43
you talk with two other managers at HBR, Maureen
17:46
Hoke and Nicole Smith. The
17:48
three of you collectively have a lot
17:50
of experience managing people. And
17:52
I'd imagine you all have some experience with
17:55
people leaving. Yes, yes, we
17:57
do. Maureen's
17:59
the editor. of hbr.org and
18:01
Nicole who goes by
18:03
Nikki is HBR's editorial
18:06
audience director. Thanks
18:08
to you both for being here. Glad to be here. I'm
18:11
so glad you invited me to this conversation. Nikki,
18:13
let me start with you. You know, we
18:16
all listen to the manager who
18:19
is based in London. What
18:21
stuck out to you from that? I
18:24
think her interview was
18:26
honest and transparent in her
18:28
shop and not
18:31
knowing completely what to
18:33
say and then having to gather
18:35
herself. And so many of
18:37
us are like that. We try
18:39
to compose ourselves but the truth is
18:42
that we're human. We're managers but we're
18:44
human. And so we feel it when
18:46
other people that we built bonds with
18:48
and souls ties to and spend day
18:50
in and day out leave us and
18:52
the only human reaction is to be
18:55
shocked, is to self-reflect, maybe even some
18:57
self-doubt. And that self-reflection for me at
18:59
least often involves asking myself how much
19:01
of this was about me and how
19:03
much of it really wasn't. How many times
19:05
have we heard that phrase that people don't
19:07
quit jobs, they quit bosses. So that we've
19:10
almost been socialized to think about this and
19:12
to believe this and whether it's true or
19:14
not, it's almost like a go-to. What
19:17
did I do to encourage for you to feel
19:19
like you don't want to be here anymore? And
19:21
the truth of the matter is there's a myriad
19:23
of reasons that people could choose to
19:25
move on from their current job, from
19:27
their current organization. At the end
19:30
of the day, you always wonder was
19:32
I a part of that decision? Yeah,
19:34
I agree. It's really hard to separate
19:36
out the personal from the
19:38
professional even if you know and I've
19:41
done this myself. I've tried to step back and think about
19:43
when I've left jobs in the past, it
19:45
was because I was making my own decision. I wanted
19:47
to do something different. I wanted to do something new.
19:50
I certainly didn't think of it like I'm
19:52
leaving because of my boss in those situations.
19:55
But when you're on the other side of that
19:57
table and if there's somebody who you've really invested
19:59
in and you feel strongly about
20:01
and you've done what you can
20:03
to make that job great
20:05
for them, it's really hard to just
20:07
be like, okay, well, this is just
20:10
a business decision and there's no personal
20:12
connection here that matters.
20:15
And I think as I've progressed in my own
20:17
career, I've had to realize, I've had
20:19
to remind myself that this is a
20:21
job and it's not always
20:24
about you. It's not always personal. I
20:27
heard a phrase a couple of years ago that
20:29
really stuck with me in that you
20:31
can't put a changed person back
20:33
into an unchanged environment. So if
20:35
I'm responsible for changing that person,
20:37
for developing that person, for growing
20:40
that person, I also have to
20:42
be mature enough and broad thinking
20:44
enough to recognize that person
20:46
is now changed. And so that
20:48
means that environment may not suit that changed
20:50
person anymore. And that kind of
20:52
soothes me when I think about the person
20:54
coming and saying, I'm moving forward, I'm moving on.
20:58
So there was an idea that came up
21:00
both in the story from
21:02
the person who leads in the
21:04
private sector in London and
21:06
the woman who is based here in the
21:08
US and is in a government role,
21:12
which is that it was very hard for them
21:14
to pick up signals, particularly
21:17
now since we're not all together, we
21:19
don't see each other, we can't observe
21:21
each other. How did
21:23
that hit your ears, Maureen? I
21:26
mean, it's something I've been reflecting on
21:28
a lot lately, that the
21:30
ability to really listen to what someone's
21:32
telling you, it is hard in the
21:34
best of times. And it's like even
21:37
more, I think, just complicated in our
21:40
hybrid world, because it's just harder to
21:42
get a read on people sometimes when
21:44
you're talking through a screen. I
21:47
think that is still something that requires
21:49
time and patience and like an attention on
21:51
your part as a manager. So I
21:54
have tried to prioritize that, especially, I think
21:56
I always have, but especially through the time
21:58
that we've been working at home. and
22:00
I have quite a few direct reports, and so
22:03
it's something that takes up a lot of my
22:05
time. But no, I really felt
22:07
like the ability to communicate and stay connected
22:09
was gonna be critical to my ability to
22:11
manage people. So, Maureen, you
22:13
said part of it is listening. How
22:16
do you become a good listener? How do you
22:18
know that you're doing that well? Yeah,
22:21
I think to be a better listener requires asking
22:23
good questions. I think that's part of being a
22:25
good leader, is not always trying to
22:28
come in with the answer or the solution to
22:30
everything, but asking people good
22:32
questions. And not
22:35
trick questions, or questions that get them to be like,
22:37
so have you been on any interviews lately?
22:40
It's not that, but it's more of trying to
22:42
really probe not just how
22:44
they're doing with their work, because they could be doing a
22:46
great job with their work, but it's more like, how are
22:48
they feeling about where they are in their career? What
22:51
do they want to do? How
22:53
are they thinking about the next three to five
22:55
years? Are you taking the time to ask them
22:57
those questions, or are you just focused on just
23:00
the work you're trying to get through that day? So,
23:04
one of the things that eventually occurs
23:06
to you if someone on your team
23:08
tells you that they're leaving is you
23:10
gotta tell your boss. And
23:13
for me, there's always a moment where I wonder, is
23:17
this gonna somehow bruise
23:19
my reputation? Have you
23:21
ever thought about that? Nikki, do you think about that?
23:24
Well, I have selfishly
23:26
thought about that. The
23:28
succinct answer is yes. Anyone
23:31
who I work for knows
23:33
my employees equally as well as me,
23:36
and I'm usually giving updates
23:38
to my manager, so by
23:41
that time, I'm hoping that I feel
23:43
comfortable to say, this person
23:45
quit, this person said this is why
23:47
they're quitting, and maybe
23:49
even beforehand, when I've talked to my
23:52
manager, we've walked through that, maybe we've
23:54
detected that, maybe we've tried to do
23:56
something ahead of time to
23:58
prevent that, so you. Usually, I don't
24:01
think it's a surprise by that point because
24:03
my manager and I have had that conversation.
24:05
I will say if someone needs to be
24:07
on alert and he or she
24:09
knows that by that point and just keeping
24:12
that openness has helped make that conversation a
24:14
lot easier. It's also opened the door for my
24:16
manager to talk to my employee and see if
24:19
they can have them open up in a way
24:21
maybe they don't want to open up to me
24:23
because I am the direct manager. So it's usually
24:25
a little bit more collaborative by the time I've
24:27
gotten to tell my manager
24:29
this person's quitting. How
24:31
about in situations when you didn't
24:33
see it coming where you
24:36
were blindsided and now you're going to have
24:38
to blindside your manager, your boss? Yeah,
24:40
I've had to do that. I
24:43
remember there was one time I had to
24:45
call my boss and I think he was
24:47
technically on vacation. I remember he was driving
24:49
somewhere and I said, I'm sorry
24:52
if I have to tell you some bad news.
24:54
I almost wondered if I should tell him
24:56
to pull off the side of the road but I didn't need to
24:58
do that. But I
25:01
was so fortunate. I've been so
25:03
fortunate in these situations I've been through where
25:05
my manager has been totally like, we knew
25:07
this person was a risk. We knew that
25:09
this is something that might happen and
25:11
like immediately pivots to, okay, what
25:14
do we do from here? I've been on the
25:16
receiving end of that phone call, not your phone
25:18
call. But I
25:21
have to say that my first
25:23
response, my first instinct was to
25:26
take care of the person who was calling me because
25:29
I knew how painful a call that
25:31
was. And then how do we take
25:33
care of the team? Because one thing I worry
25:35
about a lot when someone leaves
25:38
is the fabric of the
25:40
team left behind. How do
25:43
you guys think about that? Yeah,
25:45
I think you need to manage and
25:47
ideally with the person who's decided to
25:49
exit how they want to communicate to
25:51
people on the team and hopefully if
25:53
they're telling you they haven't
25:55
already told also their 10 closest friends, you
25:57
know what I mean? Like hopefully you're one of the first people.
26:00
The want her to get the news so
26:02
the you can understand There are there people
26:04
they want to tell themselves and then. I.
26:06
Think what the team? You want
26:08
to be a leader in that moment anyone ever want.
26:11
To feel confident like yes this is a change
26:13
but like we're going to see a true i'm
26:15
in the driver's seat. We're going to get through this.
26:17
but on the other hand, you don't want to act
26:19
like this is no big deal. suffered like ten
26:21
of just saying like hair know this is. Hard.
26:24
But. You know, let's think about where
26:27
we go from here I think especially when the
26:29
news is fresh. I think like once people have
26:31
some time to digest the news and then years
26:33
and ten of like move forward when that news
26:35
as fresh as when the hardest. Line
26:37
to walk As a manager. And
26:40
under key, how to handle that?
26:42
honestly? Burst. Of I think people
26:44
had told the tin closest friends about the look.
26:46
When. You're
26:49
probably right as think that. If
26:52
you are open and honest
26:54
in conversation, know and not
26:56
overly. Corporate. Quite frankly,
26:58
not overly structured in expressing how
27:00
you feel that think people get
27:02
it, that people decide to move
27:04
on is not necessarily a reflection.
27:06
I'm just. The culture with the boss who's
27:08
have. To think that night. One. Thing
27:11
I've always believed him for his
27:13
really recognizing someone's contributions and acknowledging
27:15
that in front of your team
27:17
is so important, even if you're.
27:19
Feeling very blindsided
27:21
upset discouraged. If
27:24
you show that to use the team and
27:26
you don't recognize and think that person for
27:28
all the ways that they made. A difference
27:30
that's gonna hit your team wrong He like
27:32
at that point you need to put a
27:34
little bit of whatever your personal feelings are
27:37
aside and just recognize that person for. All. They've
27:39
done and and celebrate them a little bit as much.
27:41
As you can so you want the
27:43
person. Leaving to feel good. About
27:46
their time here. And
27:48
to feel proud and to feel appreciated?
27:50
Ah, and you want everyone else on
27:53
the team to know that. People.
27:55
Are are valued. No
27:57
matter what, Nicky
27:59
More. And you how much for
28:01
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28:03
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