We know how complicated relationships can be. On top of the interpersonal connection, we're also contending with triggers, boundaries, expectation setting for how you need to be loved. And how does that all play out with family? ESPECIALLY when it's the family you're trying to build?

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR 

What does family mean to us? [0:13]

• A place where people feel they belong.

• Family is about people who are there for you.

• Intersection of values

• People that are part of your family that might not necessarily blood, but they've been there for you all the time

The importance of bloodline [5:24] 

• Feeling a sense of responsibility to carry on the family bloodline

• Pressure and stress associated with the potential end of the family name

• Belief that family is about belonging and a place where one feels accepted and valued

Redefining what family means [16:43]

• The challenge of defining family when building one's own family.

• Juxtaposition between personal values and desires for family and one's upbringing.

• Desire for a bloodline while also wanting to create an open and inclusive family.

• Exploration of different approaches to building a family, including adoption, donor options, and fostering.

• The unfamiliarity and uncertainty of considering alternative family-building options.

• Feeling unsure and questioning societal expectations and assumptions about family.

The complicated nature of family [32:45] 

• Impact of racial trauma on the black community's concept of family

• Disruption of black families through historical and systemic factors

• Importance of chosen family and expanding the definition of family

• Desire to break generational cycles and create a healthy family environment

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