We’ve all been taught that it’s a good thing to give someone the benefit of the doubt? It essentially means to assume good intent, right? But when it comes to self-doubt, that changes the game. Let’s unpack who benefits when we dim our light and play small.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

We tend to assume good intent [3:44]

• When we always assume that the other person means well, we get harder on ourselves 

• Women are taught to act/react in a certain way 

• There are four main-reasons why we self-sabotage 

• The struggle to be empathetic

Self-doubt is dangerous [12:12]

• Self-doubt doesn’t lift you up, neither does your other relationships 

• The “worker bee” mentality and imposter syndrome 

• Trusting that you always make the right decision and that you can figure out what to do next 

• Honoring your leadership 

Giving the benefit of the doubt [26:40]

• When you minimize yourself, you give up your power 

• Allowing yourself to be heard and seen 

• How you really gain self-awareness 

Navigating the haze [30:25] 

• Choosing what you know is holding you back 

• The need for immediate gratification 

• Learning how to trust and forgive yourself 

• Unlearning the idea that you are a burden 

Lessons around self-trust [41:24]

• Seeing yourself for who you really are is needed for your healing

• Your failures are part of your story 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

Listen to Take Up Space Sis by Toni Jones

Listen to So Ugly I’m Beautiful by Toni Jones

Listen to I See Me Mantras by Toni Jones 

Listen to RUN by Killer Mike

Listen to King’s Disease by Nas

Listen to Mr. Morale & the Big Steppers by Kendrick Lamar

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks 

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