If you caught episode 70, then you know we weren’t sure if we’d be able to make the last five episodes of the year happen because we’ve been through a lot lately, and we wanted a break. Well, we decided to find a way to work smarter instead of giving up.

We’ve been blessed to be guests on a number of other podcasts this year, and we’re sharing a few of those episodes and reflections. Up first, is our convo with Natasha and Damian Carrillo of Black and Brown Make Green Podcast. We had an honest money convo, and we can’t wait to share it with you!

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

The story of how we met [6:43]

• Dating and ghosting… And dating and ghosting 

• Dating pre and post social media and dating apps 

Our history with money [14:48]

• Scott’s history with money 

• How our histories with money affected our marriage 

• Discussing gender roles in money

Learning to partner as a couple and not roommates [17:44] 

• Discussing relationships we saw growing up

• Learning what each other desired 

• Seeking help from a financial advisor

Working past differing opinions [20:45]

• Navigating childhood and racial traumas 

• The scarcity mindset

• Who is the breadwinner/tackling “traditional gender roles”

• Honoring your husband as head of the household

Being self aware [24:44] 

• Where is this reaction coming from?

• Marriage counseling/therapy

• Addressing past triggers in marriage

• Boundaries and communication 

The three things you need to better communicate [31:03]

• Understand

• Express

• Affirm 

The biggest lessons we learned [33:58] 

• Do not be afraid to seek help, even BEFORE things get hard. 

• Be self aware of your past so that it doesn’t hinder your future. 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

Listen to C.R.E.A.M., song by Wu-Tang Clan
Listen to Get Money, song by Junior M.A.F.I.A

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