In a world that often demands our constant attention and care for others, it's easy to overlook the most crucial relationship of all—the one we have with ourselves.

We’re back with a new look and new name, but the healing vibes are still the same! Join our first convo as Healing Myself to discover why it's so important to heal your relationship with yourself first.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

Why is it so important to save/heal yourself first? [3:21]

• Don’t let your trauma become who you are

• Healing yourself first gives you the opportunity to have healthy relationships with others 

• You show up differently when you’re healed

• Being intentional with the way you talk to yourself and to others 

The value of saving yourself—the hard parts [7:06]

• How people show up could be a reflection of the demons they’re fighting 

• Being careful with you who you emulate 

• The importance of communicating what you need 

• Realizing that you are enough is they key to a healthy relationship with yourself and others

• The moment you stopped trusting yourself

• What happened that made you second guess yourself?

The value of saving yourself—the healing [15:13] 

• Having the mindset to move towards the life you aspire 

• Setting a vision and relentlessly working make it happen 

• It’s hard when the villains seem to be winning 

• The tedious journey towards that realization that you are valuable and worthy

• By not communicating what you need in a relationship, you are doing yourself a great disservice 

What makes healing harder than you thought [23:17] 

• Setting boundaries and seeing it through (it’s  hard!) 

• Choosing yourself could feel uncomfortable 

• You DON’T need to hold yourself to impossible standards 

Biggest lessons around healing yourself [31:10]

• Choosing yourself needs an every day practice 

• Your relationship with yourself is the most important one 

• Healing yourself is a continual process 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

The Love Haze: Episode 55, "SOS...Saving OurSelves"

Listen to On & On, song by Erykah Badu 

Listen to I’m Doin’ Me, song by Fantasia

Listen to They Just Don’t Know, song by Gyft

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