0:05

Hey, I think this is

0:08

wrong. Therefore, screw them. Downvote.

0:11

Cancel them. We never question our

0:13

own beliefs. And this is how we create

0:15

echo chambers. And this is how we

0:17

stay stuck. My

0:25

ex consumed a ton of Dr. K

0:28

content and got a false sense of

0:30

wellness. Just a heads up, my

0:32

ex-boyfriend had a huge mental health slide and

0:34

became less and less well. I

0:37

was really worried about him, but he felt he

0:39

was past needing therapy and above getting an intake

0:41

or any help of any kind. Yet

0:43

he consumed a lot of Dr. K content. He

0:46

even recommended that I watch Dr. K because

0:48

my anxiety was getting worse. Actually

0:50

I got therapy and it turns out that my

0:52

anxiety was almost entirely to do with my ex,

0:54

our relationship, and my growing codependency on trying to

0:57

fix him. Well done. Unfortunately,

0:59

I think it gave him a false sense of

1:01

being on top of his mental health. However,

1:03

it continued to get worse. Eventually

1:06

I uncovered a very serious drug addiction

1:08

issue, not to mention other addictions over

1:10

time such as gaming, work, shopping, consuming

1:12

content, etc. One of the biggest things is

1:16

he obsessively watched the content but never

1:18

took any of the advice or put

1:20

it into practice. For example, binge

1:22

watching the content on sleep hygiene late at

1:24

night and continuing terrible sleep habits after that.

1:26

While I did watch some Dr. K and

1:28

found it useful taking notes etc., please be

1:30

mindful that this is not a substitute for

1:32

real professional help, journaling meds, therapy, etc. I

1:35

assume that this is probably obvious. Yeah, we

1:37

say that at the beginning of every stream

1:40

and every piece of content that we put out. And

1:43

don't think anyone has been misled. Thank God. However,

1:46

I saw the subreddit today and thought I'll leave

1:48

a message before parting. Thank you so much for

1:50

doing that. Let's talk about the problems of watching

1:52

Dr. K's content and the false sense

1:54

of well-being that it provides. So this is something

1:56

that we've got to understand, okay? So

1:58

this is a case of... of someone whose

2:01

partner was addicted to what sounds

2:03

like substances of some kind, had some

2:05

pretty bad addictions, and then consumed

2:08

mental health content on the

2:10

internet as an excuse to

2:13

not do work. As much as I love to

2:15

bash Dr. K's content, I don't think we can

2:17

really take the blame for this. And

2:19

here's the reason why. Hey y'all, I want to

2:21

take a second to talk about HG coaching. And

2:23

y'all may be wondering, oh my god, brah, like

2:26

I don't want to talk about coaching. I just

2:28

want to watch YouTube videos because there's a part

2:30

of your brain that recognizes that you need to

2:32

do better in life. But you don't actually want

2:34

to invest the time and energy. You just want

2:37

to sit there and watch another YouTube video, which

2:39

is exactly why I developed a coaching program. Because

2:42

I realized the problem that we have today

2:44

is not that we don't know what to

2:46

do. It's that we don't really understand how

2:48

we work and how to get ourselves to

2:50

actually do things. And the reason I

2:53

developed a coaching program is so that 12 weeks

2:55

from now, you can actually have made progress. We've

2:57

shown that people improve in their sense of life

2:59

purpose by about 58% and a 25 to 45%

3:04

reduction in depression and anxiety. The

3:06

reason we made a coaching program isn't

3:08

because you can't DIY it. It's because

3:10

if you want to have made significant

3:12

progress three months from now, you're gonna need

3:14

help doing it. So if you're interested, check out the

3:16

link in the description below. And if you're still

3:18

not ready yet, totally fine. That's why we

3:21

literally have 800 YouTube videos. So

3:23

there's something we've got to understand about

3:25

the consumption of mental health content, which

3:28

is actually spiraling out of control right

3:31

now on the internet, which we are a part

3:33

of, okay? And I'll tell you all what we're

3:35

doing to do with it. So the first thing

3:37

to understand is as someone struggles with their mental

3:39

health, they recognize that

3:41

their mental health is struggling. And then

3:43

what happens is our mind does something

3:46

really, really slippery, which is it recognizes,

3:48

okay, I need to do

3:50

something to fix this problem. But then

3:52

the problem is that there's a part

3:54

of our mind that looks at what

3:56

it takes to fix a problem and

3:59

decides that it doesn't want

4:01

to do that because fixing

4:03

problems is difficult. Fixing problems

4:05

requires sacrifice. Fixing problems

4:08

is sometimes painful and requires

4:10

things like accountability and the mind does

4:12

not like that. So sometimes what the

4:14

mind will do is it'll look

4:17

for something that is almost like

4:19

virtue signaling for improving our mental

4:21

health. It'll look for something that says

4:24

okay if I do this thing then

4:26

I'm checking the box of improving my

4:28

life and if I'm checking the box

4:31

then here's the key thing I can

4:33

continue with the degenerate behavior I do

4:35

not want to give up. I'm degenerate is

4:37

maybe a little bit unfair like if people

4:40

are struggling with an addiction that's the slipperiness

4:42

of the addiction mind. This is what I

4:44

learned as an addiction psychiatrist. Some people will

4:46

show up and we'll talk the talk and

4:48

now what's happened is we have

4:50

a plague of mental

4:52

health content on the internet of

4:54

which we're guilty and here we

4:56

are trying to help people with their mental

4:58

health but there's something really slippery that goes

5:01

on which is that watching our content is

5:03

not going to be sufficient to change your

5:05

life right and I hate to say it

5:07

but that's how it is. So this is what we

5:09

actually try to do with our content so I'm going

5:11

to explain this I don't know that we've ever explained

5:13

this but so here's the thing if someone

5:16

is not reluctant to engage in

5:18

in mental health support or improvement what

5:20

you basically have to do is meet them

5:22

where they're at which is precisely why we do

5:24

what we do right so we try to create content

5:27

that is engaging for people

5:29

where they're at so even if someone doesn't

5:31

actually want to do anything about their mental

5:33

health we're actually okay with that and

5:35

we're going to try to engage you in a

5:37

way that sort of brings you in right makes things

5:39

a little bit entertaining a little bit fun a

5:42

little bit humorous and hopefully by

5:44

the end of it over time you will start

5:46

to make some changes and this

5:48

is what we've seen in our community time and

5:50

time and time again it's not like people show

5:52

up on day one and then they watch

5:54

one video and they're like oh crap I'm

5:56

going to transform my life because I watch one

5:58

youtube video by this and die and then I'm

6:01

gonna transform my life. It's actually the people who

6:03

do do that end up not sticking with it,

6:05

right? And sometimes it's like this is even consistent

6:07

with things like mania where I've seen a lot

6:09

of people, you know clinically who are manic and

6:11

they like watch one video and they're like, oh

6:14

my god, this transforms my life So if you're

6:16

someone who is watching one video and you're like

6:18

this shit is transforming my life Unless it's the

6:20

gifted kids video that one is fair game or

6:22

maybe why yeah We've got a couple that I

6:24

think is fair to transform your life to be

6:26

honest We've heard that feedback like time and time

6:29

and time again So maybe maybe maybe

6:31

maybe like one or two percent of y'all you

6:33

can be transformed by one video We'll concede that

6:35

point but 99 to 98 percent

6:37

of people let's be honest one video is not gonna

6:40

change your life And so then the question is if

6:42

you're chain watching dr. K's content

6:44

We see this a lot where people will

6:46

binge watch it, right? The key thing to

6:48

understand is that Information does

6:51

not necessarily create behavioral change

6:53

There's a second component to this which

6:55

is the application of the stuff in your

6:57

life And that's also why when we make

6:59

content, we don't just say hey, here's what's

7:01

going on We try to say like, okay Here are one

7:03

or two things that you can do

7:05

to apply this principle to your life And

7:07

that's where the rubber meets meets the road,

7:10

right? And this is true of other parts

7:12

of like watching content as well Like you

7:14

can look at exercising content or if you're

7:16

like me, you can watch cooking

7:18

videos on YouTube But watching

7:20

cooking videos is not the same as working

7:22

out a cook and our content is no

7:24

different So what I would strongly encourage y'all

7:26

to do is pay attention to your

7:29

mind, right? And here's one really

7:31

simple task that you can do and be

7:33

honest with yourself What am I watching this

7:35

content for and there are a couple of

7:37

reasons that you can watch it? Well, number one is

7:39

I'm watching this content in order

7:42

to get ideas so that I can make

7:44

try to make some kind of substantial change

7:46

to my life. I'm watching this

7:48

in order to apply it Okay,

7:51

that's number one And if that's what you really

7:53

want to do what you should do is

7:55

try the thing in the video before you

7:57

watch the next video, right? Try it thing

8:00

that you can do to make our content more worthwhile

8:02

is manipulate the information. So now

8:05

we're going to teach you all some stuff about

8:07

how information changes someone's behavior.

8:09

Now this is the crazy thing. It

8:11

doesn't even require you to attempt to

8:14

do something. The key thing that has

8:16

been shown scientifically to result in like

8:18

understanding and behavioral change is the ability

8:20

to manipulate the information. So for example,

8:22

if we have when we're working in

8:24

the hospital, right, so I'm a psychiatrist.

8:27

So sometimes we'll have someone in the

8:29

hospital who wants to leave the hospital

8:31

against medical advice. So this may be

8:33

someone who came in with a heart

8:35

attack and they are addicted

8:38

to alcohol or opiates. And so what

8:40

happens is on day two of the

8:42

hospitalization, they had a small heart attack,

8:44

they're sitting in the ICU, they're starting to like want

8:47

their substances, they're starting to withdraw and they're like,

8:49

I want to leave. And people are like, you can't

8:51

leave, you just had a heart attack. And then

8:53

the patient is like, no, I

8:55

want to leave. And so then what happens is

8:58

the cardiologist calls the psychiatrist, right? And so then

9:00

I get a page and I show up at

9:02

like two in the morning because there's a patient

9:04

who's two days post-MI who wants to leave the

9:07

hospital. And now this is where we get into a really tricky

9:09

thing as doctors because on the one

9:11

hand, we're here to help

9:13

patients, but we also want to respect

9:15

their autonomy. And so what we do

9:18

is something called a capacity evaluation. And

9:20

a capacity evaluation involves checking a couple

9:22

of things to make sure that this person

9:24

is well within their mental frame to make

9:26

decisions to leave the hospital. And one of

9:28

the key aspects that we rely on, that

9:31

sort of demonstrates that this person really knows

9:34

what they're doing is their ability to manipulate

9:36

information. And so if y'all are watching our

9:38

videos and even if you don't say, you

9:40

say, Dr. K says, okay, like you should

9:42

meditate one, one every day for one week

9:44

and you're like, I can't do that. That's

9:47

totally fine. What you should do though,

9:49

is manipulate the information, play around with

9:51

it in your head. What this means

9:53

is challenge the information, right? So Dr.

9:55

K says this, and I think he's

9:57

wrong because of this. That's actually. good.

10:00

Tell me why I'm wrong, right? Do it in your head

10:02

or I guess post. Second thing

10:05

that you can do is try to think

10:07

about, okay, even if you think that this

10:09

is wrong, and this is really huge, if

10:11

you think a piece of information is wrong

10:13

and you're listening to someone else and your

10:15

mind is reflexively challenging it, if you really

10:18

want to learn and change, what you

10:20

should do is try to understand

10:22

how that information could be right.

10:24

So try to take the other person's point of

10:26

view and question your own beliefs, right? So this

10:29

is something that the internet doesn't do. The

10:31

internet is like, hey, I think this

10:33

is wrong. Therefore, screw them,

10:35

downvote, cancel them. We never

10:37

question our own beliefs. And

10:40

this is how we create echo chambers. And

10:42

this is how we stay stuck. So if

10:44

you are someone who consumes some kind of

10:46

content, this is really common, by the way,

10:48

right? So we see this a lot with

10:51

like people who are consuming content that they

10:53

disagree with. And this is like, this is gonna

10:55

be political, where I'm gonna watch videos of

10:57

people who I politically disagree with, and I'm

10:59

gonna just poop on them in my head and

11:01

I'm gonna feel better about myself. Or

11:03

we see it with things like gender dynamics,

11:06

where I'm gonna consume stuff that has

11:08

a view on gender and relationships that

11:10

I completely disagree with, and I'm

11:12

gonna consume that content. And then people are

11:15

really confused. They're like, I don't understand

11:17

why the algorithm is serving me this

11:19

toxic content. It's because the algorithm understands

11:21

that you actually really enjoy engaging with it,

11:23

right? And then you watch this crap and

11:25

you're like, these people are wrong, ha, ha, ha,

11:28

ha, ha, all these people are idiots. They're

11:30

all dumbasses. So this is what our mind

11:32

reflexively does. So if you want

11:34

to really learn something, I know it sounds

11:36

insane, but try to understand the other

11:39

person's perspective, okay? This is the second way you

11:41

manipulate information. One is to challenge it. And the

11:43

second is to try to support it, try to

11:45

figure out what is this person

11:47

thinking? And in what circumstances could this be

11:49

true? Because here's the crazy thing is if

11:51

you understand that side of things, you will

11:54

understand so much more and you may grow

11:56

Yourself as a human being. Okay? So That what you

11:58

really need to do is. Information: The

12:00

third thing that you can do is

12:02

engage with the information either through conversation,

12:04

Like you can post like we see this a lot

12:06

where you will have like com. Video base

12:09

discussions on our sub. Rather talk to people

12:11

underscored or talk to people about you know

12:13

what they think about. This particular think these

12:15

are always to manipulate information and for those

12:17

of you all that kind of lazy, right?

12:19

You're like s and will do anything I

12:22

do. Anything. Like meditate on want

12:24

to wake up on want to do yoga and

12:26

journal. At least think about and

12:28

that's one step forward in terms of

12:30

like applying the content to your life

12:33

and this is something that I think

12:35

we under value. In. Our Society

12:37

today. So right now we get

12:39

bombarded with. So much information.

12:42

And. So many opinions.

12:45

That. We stop thinking for ourselves

12:47

and people are kind of like

12:49

wondering like why on earth to

12:51

people listen to celebrities and their

12:53

opinions on like geopolitics or the

12:55

economy. Like. What is a celebrity

12:57

know about this particular thing in? Why

12:59

do we do that? We do that

13:01

because we as human beings and in

13:03

this society today we have surrendered our

13:05

capacity for critical thinking. And this is

13:07

where there's so much information. But why.

13:09

Is that the whole world becoming a happy

13:12

and successful right? It's all the side hustle

13:14

people out there. the finance bros, And

13:16

maybe finance ladies who knows who are like you should

13:18

side hustle you should do this and Crypto. And

13:21

like, why isn't everyone. A millionaire?

13:23

Like what happened? Like houses. And

13:25

there's so much good information. It's because we

13:27

don't think about it. We stopped doing the thinking

13:29

for ourselves and so this is a key thing

13:31

to understand. About consuming our content. First.

13:33

Of all you gotta. Be careful that

13:35

there is not a part of

13:38

your mind that is using our

13:40

content as a substitute for progress.

13:42

You'll understand that. What this means

13:44

is that you think? Okay, if

13:46

I watched ten Doctor of K

13:48

videos, my life will get better,

13:50

right? And so then you're like passively watching

13:52

Doc. Okay, Videos because like if you watch enough doctor

13:55

gave it has your life will get better right? There's

13:57

some data. So we're doing an internal Saudi and we

13:59

hope to. A formal I that and stuff

14:01

like that. So we have some initial data that

14:03

watching our content can improve mental health by about

14:05

like. Eight to Eleven percent. Literally.

14:08

Like. It may actually help just as a

14:10

frame of reference. You know, some studies show

14:12

that medication improve things may maybe about

14:15

thirty to fifty percent. right? So

14:17

some studies say fifty or sixty percent. Chances

14:19

are that the further data really shows that

14:21

that numbers way smaller than we thought and

14:23

is probably closer to thirty percent. So hey,

14:25

like all take watching you tube or twitch

14:27

or whatever. For. A tent like

14:29

you know be a third of the the value of a Ssr.

14:31

I like, I'll take that right of this is this data

14:33

hasn't. Been third party a tractor We haven't for

14:36

or done a formal study. Or anything like that.

14:38

Yes, we seen a signal that is now like.

14:40

Okay, we should really study this. do something that's a

14:42

little bit more controlled, really analyze the data and see

14:44

how much it helps people but is also what we

14:46

see kind of like on on. You know when people

14:48

in our to me to say hey you've helped me

14:50

a lot Rights I went to the international last week.

14:52

those one in like literally hundreds of people were like

14:54

hey your content is changed my life When people walk

14:56

up to me they say that I'm like okay like

14:58

maybe we're doing something right. But the key thing here.

15:01

Is that? you've gotta be careful,

15:03

because sometimes your mind will delude

15:05

you into thinking that you're making.

15:07

Progress by doing something that is very very

15:09

hands off. that's not hard to be careful

15:11

about that binge watching our content like if

15:13

you want to go for it, right? I'm

15:15

not going to say no, but also. Recognize

15:17

that there's a majority people in our community.

15:19

Who will say hey? it helped a lot more when

15:21

I slowed it down. so watch out for that. Second

15:24

thing is, if you want to make it worthwhile, just

15:26

do the stuff that we tell you to do. easy.

15:28

That's why we tell you to do it right. Give

15:30

it a shot. Nothing to do it one hundred percent.

15:33

Give it a shot. The whole point is for you

15:35

to learn about yourself. Because. I know it

15:37

sounds crazy. As brilliant as I am,

15:39

a stranger on the internet is not going

15:41

to be able to. Give you the

15:43

perfect advice the whole point. Of

15:46

this channel is to teach people how to

15:48

understand themselves. It's to teach you how to

15:50

understand yourself. So we're going to do is

15:52

we're going to be like a heads. Up.

15:54

Armies are a headstart, right? we're going to give you. Were going

15:56

to lay things out so that you don't have to. Figure. Everything

15:58

out but you should or. test it and

16:00

apply the concept yourself. And the last thing is, even

16:03

if you're not willing to do anything, that's okay. Try

16:05

to manipulate the information. Challenge

16:07

the information. Try to understand, well, for the

16:10

parts that you disagree with, why is your

16:12

perspective different from this person's perspective? That's

16:14

really healthy. And the fourth thing,

16:16

which we're totally for, is if you look

16:18

at addiction psychiatry, change doesn't happen overnight. And

16:20

so this is the fourth thing that we

16:22

really focus on, and I do this quite

16:24

intentionally, is I recognize that not everyone is

16:26

willing to make a change today

16:29

when they watch a piece of our content. They're

16:31

not willing, right? So y'all in the audience, you

16:33

may not be willing to change. That's actually

16:36

okay. But as long

16:38

as you stay around, over time, what

16:40

we tend to see is that people are more

16:42

and more willing to change. So I wouldn't say

16:44

binge watch everything and then disappear for a month.

16:46

What I'd say is like watch a couple of

16:48

videos a week, and then like over time, like

16:50

your desire to change will increase. And that's actually

16:52

what we see too, which is that I

16:55

don't think that, you know, I don't think

16:57

that people find drastic change in a short

16:59

amount of time. I think what happens is

17:01

people who are members of our community, their

17:03

mental health will improve over the course of

17:05

months to years. And so that can work.

17:07

And it's okay if you're not ready to

17:09

change today. We're going to try to send

17:11

you something entertaining. But I think the unfortunate

17:13

truth is that a lot of people will

17:15

use our content as a

17:18

substitute for making progress in their life.

17:20

They'll start to think like, okay, if I watch enough

17:22

YouTube videos, I will be better. And that's just like

17:25

saying, look, you can watch enough YouTube videos about working

17:27

out, ain't going to make you swell. And I hate

17:29

to say it, mental stuff is a

17:31

little bit different, right? Because hopefully you can shape your thoughts

17:33

and that's a part of being mentally swell. But

17:36

at some point you got to do something. And so be careful about

17:38

that for yourselves and other people.